Pearl - June 06, 2025


Why Marrying a Woman With No Income Is Financial Suicide w⧸ @thisisshah


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Length

2 minutes

Words per minute

210.63144

Word count

457

Sentence count

30


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In this episode, we talk about how much money is too much money to pay in alimony to a wife who is a stay-at-home parent and why it's a bad deal. We also talk about what to look for in a marriage contract and how to avoid getting screwed over.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 If you sign a marriage contract, you know, get the marriage license, not even a real contract anymore, now it's just the family codes.
00:00:06.940 Reading marriage contracts from the past are very interesting, but that's another thing.
00:00:11.580 If you take that deal, I mean, it's just, how can you even complain later when you get screwed over?
00:00:16.260 Yeah, so if you do take the deal, what's worse if you have a stay-at-home?
00:00:22.180 Stay-at-home where the worst.
00:00:23.100 Tell me if you're at the same income, what you're going to pay.
00:00:27.020 Yeah.
00:00:27.240 or versus if you have a standard,
00:00:29.640 like how much more money am I,
00:00:31.880 let's say I make 100K a year.
00:00:33.720 How much more money am I spending
00:00:35.560 if I marry a woman that also makes 100K
00:00:38.260 or she makes zero?
00:00:39.540 If she also makes 100K,
00:00:41.360 I think that would be the ideal situation
00:00:43.680 because it's a similar contribution.
00:00:46.080 You guys have probably put the same into the house,
00:00:48.260 but as far as alimony,
00:00:49.600 what will likely happen is that the court will,
00:00:52.960 you guys will just both agree that there's no alimony
00:00:55.460 and for the court to just waive jurisdiction.
00:00:57.640 That's what I saw in most of the judgments.
00:00:59.440 So most of the divorce and dissolution judgments I read,
00:01:03.600 when the incomes were like that,
00:01:05.080 more than likely, they had written that in there.
00:01:07.240 It was like standard language.
00:01:08.360 They had the same income.
00:01:09.320 About the same or around or, you know, it's just depending.
00:01:12.980 Sometimes, even if she was higher,
00:01:14.620 men were just more or less likely to take alimony,
00:01:16.780 even if they could have got it.
00:01:18.060 Yeah.
00:01:18.820 But typically, if it's about the same,
00:01:20.620 they'd say, okay, you keep your retirement.
00:01:22.560 I keep my retirement.
00:01:24.000 No alimony.
00:01:24.840 and there might be some small amount of child support if he's like, okay, you know what?
00:01:28.900 I actually can't keep them this amount of time. Or she's like, I can't. I'll pay a little bit of
00:01:33.240 that. And then the house would either get split or somebody would buy each other out. And they
00:01:39.240 were typically the most amiable divorces. And I've seen a lot of nightmare ones where it's just,
00:01:46.040 just sitting at my desk, I just cannot be the guy that gets the worst end of this. It does not
00:01:53.160 matter. It doesn't matter who cheated on who, whatever it is. You asked me earlier about
00:01:57.680 like worst cases. I, you know, I didn't work this one specifically, but my coworker in
00:02:03.120 the cubicle next to me, the case was so bad. He had to put, I heard him on the phone. He
00:02:06.500 had to put it down and stand up and come talk to me because he needed to talk to somebody.