Pearl - Why Men Are More Likely To Remarry Than Women (Call-In Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to another episode of

00:00:14.720 pearl daily here on the audacity network today we are going to be talking about why do

00:00:22.000 met why are men more likely to remarry than women but before we get into today's episode

00:00:27.840 I want to talk about a little pre-story that's going on on Twitter.

00:00:32.640 Now, normally I try to stick to one topic, but this was too good to not cover.

00:00:37.220 Now, as you guys know, women have a tendency to die on the hill of being naked. 1.00

00:00:42.400 Now, this isn't just liberal women, it's also conservative women. 1.00

00:00:46.960 They love getting naked, and they also love shaming you for calling them a whore. 0.99

00:00:51.740 So there's a tweet yesterday that was going viral from Danielle Franz. 0.98

00:00:55.980 And she had this trad lady, well trad LARP, you guys know how I feel about this, but you know it's a LARP, it's a LARP, versus our favorite crazy lady character on this show, the red-headed libertarian who likes to thirst trap with a Jesus cross in the background. 1.00

00:01:18.300 now what women that are thirst trapping but they want to pretend they're not thirst trapping have 1.00

00:01:26.380 a tendency to do is they have a tendency to do a couple things they shame the male sex drive so 0.93

00:01:32.220 she'll put on some high heels put on a tiny dress and then say you guys are disgusting for even 0.99

00:01:38.280 thinking about sex so she said pornification of conservatism is so icky the crime isn't wanting 0.99

00:01:46.500 make art of course the crime is making art that's so on the nose it becomes vulgar and desperate 0.95

00:01:52.420 this desperation for sex appeal results is cheap cartoonish product void of meeting both of these

00:02:00.340 images communicate trad values with beautiful women but only one of them is giving fetish 0.69

00:02:05.460 content spoiler it's the one being sold under the conservative dad's brand now as you guys know

00:02:13.540 personally i have seen too much i'm not really going to be offended by a woman in a short dress

00:02:22.340 i'm not going to pretend to be a puritan out here if i saw that on the street i really wouldn't look 0.99

00:02:29.060 twice however what i don't like is women doing something and pretending they don't know what 1.00

00:02:35.620 they're doing it drives me crazy if you're gonna thirst trap then thirst trap but don't thirst trap

00:02:46.260 one in front of a jesus cross leave jesus out of this okay if you're gonna thirst trap 0.99

00:02:53.220 there's instagram for a reason okay you can just put your boobs out put your legs out 0.64

00:02:58.180 but go on instagram why do you have to bring god into this it's so but they want the attention and 0.68

00:03:04.580 and the being a good person points from God,

00:03:08.560 but without the looking bad part of thirst strapping.

00:03:13.020 And when I saw this, I just knew,

00:03:15.420 now I'm fairly certain,

00:03:17.440 and I got a lot of heat for this take, 1.00

00:03:19.680 this woman has to be mentally ill. 1.00

00:03:21.580 I see no other way about it, 1.00

00:03:23.940 because the way she reacts

00:03:25.360 is just not how a sane person would react.

00:03:28.380 I talk about women, patterns, trends.

00:03:31.020 there are very few that react as insane as she does but guys before we get to that

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00:04:38.640 my name is pearl and i'll see you there so you know back to this crazy lady when 1.00

00:04:45.980 i did reply and i said and i was very excited for this yesterday i said i can't wait to watch

00:04:56.160 the red-headed libertarian have a mental breakdown over there

00:04:59.820 now danielle says i posted one time didn't name her didn't tag her didn't even even called her

00:05:08.200 a beautiful woman and that's my next problem here but we're going to get to this she quote tweeted

00:05:14.860 replied and posted several times to her audience of nearly a million shared photos from my personal

00:05:19.980 instagram that accused me of putting a target on her back despite the fact that her own followers 0.99

00:05:25.420 spent the day harassing me now again danielle i'm sorry i got no sympathy for you either 0.98

00:05:31.260 if you poke the bear on a crazy woman expect crazy results okay you know this woman's crazy 1.00

00:05:36.380 and so do i but i don't care she can keep going you know um and i the reason i like bringing

00:05:43.420 her up is because she's just such a perfect example of what happens with these trad influencers now 1.00

00:05:49.740 guys look most of my life i've known i'm a normal looking woman and most people think

00:05:56.300 of that as an insult i don't really see it that way i think most men most women are average and 0.83

00:06:01.740 if you don't think you're average i expect you to have above average results i expect you to have

00:06:07.580 done some high-end modeling maybe you're a ufc ring girl you know one time i went to

00:06:14.140 my whole team got invited to it was like the weekend their concert and they allowed us all

00:06:20.300 to go backstage and when i was backstage i saw i'm like questioning now if it's bad bad form to say

00:06:30.140 what concert it was in the future i'm gonna i'm gonna use it's too late it's live uh you know in

00:06:34.860 the future i might just say a level celebrities but anyways it was backstage before the show

00:06:39.980 and um i'm like dumb i might shoot myself in the foot in the future but it's okay so anyways

00:06:49.260 there were women there that are were literally paid to be hot now these are women that they do 1.00

00:06:56.540 some of them didn't even have instagram like no instagram following if you saw her this is 0.84

00:07:01.100 a blue-pilled guy would meet a woman like this at a coffee shop and think wow she's got no 1.00

00:07:07.400 Instagram following green flag she's got like nothing on there no these women know the game 1.00

00:07:12.940 they are predators they are apex predators they will until in their 20s get invited to all the

00:07:20.160 high-level parties and no you got to leave zero digital footprint so I can marry a doctor at 35

00:07:25.960 they know they know this game so but because they're so beautiful high level men will find

00:07:33.720 them you know there's people that work for these high level men that their job i have a friend

00:07:38.920 and her job was she was friends with like a billionaire who had a private jet and her job

00:07:45.600 was to fill that private jet with hot women and she knew where to find them she knew what age they 1.00

00:07:51.480 had to be under she knew how attractive they had to be and it doesn't even they're so good looking

00:07:57.960 guys they live in such a different world they don't even have to sleep with the guys now don't

00:08:03.860 get me wrong these women get offers but you know i talked to a private investigator and he said that 1.00

00:08:09.540 mids have a tendency to they can't get as much resources for free with their beauty they got 1.00

00:08:17.160 to put out more you know what i mean so he said that meds do prostitution more than beautiful 1.00

00:08:23.740 women kind of makes sense if you can like sell a nude and get 100k why you know why i mean why 1.00

00:08:31.360 wouldn't you i mean i know you guys are thinking morals but on this show we deal in reality what

00:08:37.260 people are probably going to do we don't deal in how i wish the world's gonna be but when i met

00:08:44.060 these women i had a chance to see the high level of beauty that men in the country men in the

00:08:51.060 suburbs are completely they don't even see it and the way it works is there are a-level cities now

00:08:58.560 a-level cities are where where rich men are or there is an industry where the women can monetize 1.00

00:09:05.540 their beauty like modeling, modeling, I don't know, acting, some sort of media, right, or

00:09:19.000 modeling.

00:09:20.000 Now, I know you're thinking conservative commentators, we're going to wait, we're going to get there.

00:09:24.480 Now, I know what an eight plus looks like, ballpark.

00:09:33.260 And the problem we have is in conservative media, there's a little bit of a bubble.

00:09:37.420 Now remember, Christian conservative men tend to be the countrymen.

00:09:42.420 And the hottest women, even if they're from the country, generally have a tendency to 1.00

00:09:46.260 go to the city, the most poppin' part of town.

00:09:50.760 It's like if you go downtown Miami, there are so many attractive women, you go 30 minutes 1.00

00:09:55.500 out, it's single mothers and fat women. 1.00

00:09:57.860 And usually these women go to the cities, make bad decisions, get a little uglier and 1.00

00:10:02.020 make it out to the country. The country guys often don't even know the level of beauty or

00:10:07.140 they've rarely seen the level of beauty that's in the city. Because in all honesty, guys, I mean,

00:10:13.380 sure, there might be one pretty girl at a small high school, but usually they go to an A-level 1.00

00:10:19.380 city pretty quick. But what happens in these conservative spaces is the women have a tendency 1.00

00:10:24.900 to think they're hotter than they are. Now, I've done casting. So when I used to recruit for the

00:10:31.620 shows i would literally think that woman could go on my thumbnail she's gonna get me an increase of 1.00

00:10:37.940 a two percent click rate i would see another woman and think she's got a great body we need to do a 1.00

00:10:43.060 full like you start to think a little bit more practically and the way i divide women is mids 1.00

00:10:48.820 which is like four to six that's a mid um like a four i'd put as a cute face but chubby that's a

00:10:58.740 four five is like normal not fat just normal looking six is cute seven i don't like giving

00:11:09.140 i'm kind of like kevin samuels right i mean i took this um i'd like to give credit where it's

00:11:13.380 due i took this rating from kevin samuels but it's a great way to like divide people

00:11:18.260 the eight pluses live a life that mids could not dream 1.00

00:11:21.940 this is it she could not dream so what happened she wants to do a thirst trap but it's a little

00:11:32.200 bit sad because she's a mid right she's a mid she's trying to get above mid results but the 1.00

00:11:37.360 conservative simps and conservative commentators tend to be women that couldn't make it in 1.00

00:11:43.640 hollywood or whatever big city they went to they can't get the attention there they go to

00:11:47.980 conservative because, again, it's more country guys. Country guys tend to have lower standards

00:11:53.880 of beauty because they don't see the top talent. Now, I said I can't wait to watch the redheaded 1.00

00:12:01.140 libertarian have a meltdown over this. So funny. Now, the first thing she does is, you know, I say 0.95

00:12:11.840 please, please, please tell the trad wives to stop thirst trapping on acts and watch their kids. 1.00

00:12:17.500 Now, there's a certain level of tweeting.

00:12:20.740 Now, disclaimer, I know everyone runs me through the coals for this.

00:12:23.940 I know, I know, I don't have kids.

00:12:25.120 I don't.

00:12:27.140 But I expect, you know, kids take a lot of time.

00:12:32.940 So if I see a woman that's constantly tweeting and has the time to respond, 1.00

00:12:36.880 like, how many times have I talked about Candace Owens on the show?

00:12:40.640 That woman probably-ish watches her kids-ish. 1.00

00:12:43.860 i mean her level of production is a little too high to be i know what it takes to do media right 0.98

00:12:53.040 i could i could ballpark how much time you're spending away if you have the time to do a whole

00:12:59.060 rant after i say something i get it i say something i don't mind having fun poked at

00:13:06.060 Pearl, whatever. I don't care. I know you're not an involved parent, right? You know, so I did

00:13:17.140 tweet this. Now, maybe this wasn't, maybe this was a little too honest. I said, I think she's

00:13:22.700 mentally ill. And the next thing she did was call me a pedophile again. Now, I want to, 0.99

00:13:29.980 I want to reiterate, and I want to be honest with you guys. I got to go through some of my

00:13:34.560 former controversies even though i don't i don't like bringing attention to them you know but i'm

00:13:40.320 human you know there was a time where these women were tweeting at me their selfies right 1.00

00:13:46.080 so i had a tweet 25 year old women are hotter than 35 year old women and um

00:13:56.240 i thought it would be funny i was in england at the time i googled the age of consent in england

00:14:01.360 or like your wherever the hell i was at the time when i was 16. so i tweet that 16 year old women 1.00

00:14:07.360 are hotter than 26. now i'm not i'm not even attracted to women i'm straight it was a straight 0.86

00:14:14.640 troll right and anyone that's watched my show anyone knows they know i'm just trolling it was

00:14:19.520 because the women were sending me the selfies and i want it i want them to enrage right but what 1.00

00:14:25.600 women have a tendency to do is they have a tendency to take anything even a joke a troll 1.00

00:14:31.920 something you're you could say pearl that was a bad joke fine fine it could be a bad joke we can

00:14:37.440 agree but you know there's no police report there's no evidence of me going after these underage

00:14:45.120 girls that they're they seem to be trying to pin on me right and that's when i realized when women 1.00

00:14:50.720 women don't like someone, what they want to do is call him a creep or a pedophile. 1.00

00:14:57.020 And the way that women react to me is exactly how they will react to the men in their lives 0.56

00:15:02.440 that they are done with. 0.90

00:15:04.600 So now what was interesting is then, so the tendencies that crazy women tend to do, there's 1.00

00:15:15.620 a couple like copes they do. 0.86

00:15:18.400 One, you're obsessed.

00:15:20.320 Ma'am, I'm obsessed with the ring girl from the Jake Paul fight, okay?

00:15:27.000 Like, I'm jealous of her.

00:15:29.720 If you got, like, I think they get off on thinking people are obsessed or stalking them

00:15:35.040 because that's their first line of attack.

00:15:37.940 And this is what these women do. 1.00

00:15:39.620 They say, I want to be worshipped and get easy internet money.

00:15:43.920 But if anybody criticizes me, they're obsessed.

00:15:46.380 and again this is an example of women going into a man's world and saying treat me like a woman 0.92

00:15:52.940 bitch now she also thinks that my shows are about her you haven't even made a thumbnail yet one 1.00

00:16:03.140 because you're not good looking enough we'll start there if i'm going to use a conservative 0.99

00:16:07.360 commentator one you need to be more famous than you are and you need to be better looking

00:16:11.900 neither you you could get a little segment though like catfish of the year

00:16:16.540 but you know i've talked about lily phillips like 10 times too

00:16:25.820 you guys keep me employed thank you and then she also thinks you know men know when they come on 0.99

00:16:34.380 the internet have you guys ever done a call of duty or i don't know my brother would play these

00:16:39.740 games right and when my brother would play these games i would hear him say racist things homophobic

00:16:47.660 not him but like his friend like they attack each other right

00:16:51.100 because they know this is the internet you don't get kid gloves on the internet

00:16:56.700 so i don't know maybe next time i'll do a full end

00:17:03.500 maybe i'll do a and the other thing i get annoyed with is she keeps replying to me she blocked me

00:17:08.940 right which is totally fine i don't mind getting blocked that's totally great but you can't reply

00:17:14.780 to me and then i can't this is my my my plea to elon elon if people that blocked me reply

00:17:21.500 to my tweets i should be able to reply back anyways um but i wanted to show that she does falsely

00:17:32.300 accuse you as a way to attack you and then i'm yeah i think that's that's all i got on that today

00:17:43.020 but you know i'll i'll follow up with that later now i'm going to read the website guys remember

00:17:48.620 we are demonetized so every membership sign up counts which i do want to do a couple thank yous

00:17:56.940 in the chat for the people that signed up in the last 24 hours i'm not going to read last names

00:18:01.500 because i i want to keep people's privacy but thank you to van oh shoot oh wait i did the wrong

00:18:08.060 thing thank you to van thank you to charlene thank you to doug you did a yearly membership

00:18:20.460 thank you so much george thank you i really couldn't do it without you guys you know women

00:18:26.860 like her what what she's gonna do when she does this is reputation destruction so what they do 1.00

00:18:32.860 is they lie about me you know they'll take things out of content like the pedophile thing zero

00:18:39.740 evidence no police report just one tweet a year ago pearls a pedo and they think it's perfectly

00:18:48.540 okay what they also do is they flag your account because i reveal their crazy behavior they try to

00:18:55.980 make my life hell they really this is like the third time i've been called a pedo for no reason

00:19:01.660 they just throw that they they know how didn't bad that insult is and how that can ruin someone's

00:19:07.980 career so they throw it at anyone they can jesse thank you so much yearly membership uh brian thank

00:19:16.620 you so much yearly membership tom thank you so much yearly membership appreciate you rob thank

00:19:23.980 you again i get i literally i couldn't do it without you guys and you know one day i'll tell

00:19:29.100 you guys the story of how these crazy ladies got me demonetized sort of i'll go an in-depth

00:19:37.180 demonetization story um hey pearl when are we gonna see the new uncensored content on your site

00:19:45.980 which one are you looking for pearl that takes money to get a show like that produce the other

00:19:51.500 creators sometimes the random guests often charge an appearance fees it looks casual and organic but

00:19:57.580 it all costs yeah i i used to pay recruiters to get the women but they would get a bonus if they 1.00

00:20:02.620 were better look at look i don't and i said i don't care if you pay the girls to come you know 0.99

00:20:07.900 do what you want this is the fee you get them um pearl this is why she's trying to promote website

00:20:13.980 membership so much she could also use some direct advertisement like her testosterone supplement

00:20:18.460 advertisers you can help by sharing the show promoting the audacity network then gift

00:20:23.420 memberships available you can buy gifts i don't know much about women's attire how i can tell 1.00

00:20:28.060 that your shirt is off as hell what's wrong with my shirt what the 0.81

00:20:35.420 all right all right you win you win i'll even read the ones roasting me

00:20:42.860 okay oh i see what you mean it's up you know sometimes it happens sorry guys okay

00:20:52.860 so today we're going to be talking about

00:20:57.340 divorce now on my channel i say that it's not in a man's best interest to get married as you guys

00:21:09.080 know i went into the red pill thinking that marriage was a good deal for men i didn't really

00:21:14.040 understand why men you know i would hear like marriage is a bad deal i would hear

00:21:19.720 i would hear all these things and the red pill is kind of interesting because before you see it

00:21:28.440 you you kind of some of the stuff sounds far off or weird but then you get older and you live a

00:21:33.320 a little more and you realize the red pill's right it is 100 correct and most of the people

00:21:39.800 that criticize the red pill actually are representations of why you know like destiny

00:21:44.680 right now he said the red pill was wrong and then his wife left him for a streamer

00:21:51.880 who was like very skinny like he wasn't even good looking now the divorce rate in the united

00:21:56.920 states is standing at just over 50 this means you have a coin flip chance of staying married

00:22:03.400 if the coin lands on heads you stay married and you're probably going to end up staying with a

00:22:08.120 woman that bosses you around and refuses to sleep with you your chance of your wife gaining 20 1.00

00:22:13.800 pounds or more in the first five years of marriage or 80 and remember that's only five years it goes

00:22:19.160 up as they get older if the coin lands on tails you're getting divorced because you will end up

00:22:24.440 in divorce court your kids get taken away you pay child support and in some cases you'll pay alimony

00:22:30.040 you'll have to start all over now let's paint the picture we have robert he's a plumber he

00:22:34.440 graduated high school chose to go into the trades and started his career as an apprentice plumber

00:22:39.240 worked his way up to a journeyman and meets a woman right around the age of 25.

00:22:43.560 he marries a girl at 27 and has two kids with her the marriage slowly deteriorates over the course

00:22:49.240 of seven to eight years his wife gained weight he doesn't get sex there's no food on the table 0.60

00:22:53.960 for him to eat and he's forced to do things he doesn't want to do on the weekends to make some

00:22:57.720 woman happy that doesn't even love him anymore so 35 comes around and robert comes home from

00:23:04.200 a long day of work to get divorce papers shoved in his face the wife decides to leave and take 1.00

00:23:09.480 the kids there's nothing he can do about paternity court divorce court rips robert's life apart and

00:23:15.560 he has to get alimony and child support but despite all this robert wants to get married

00:23:20.120 again. 35% of men will remarry after getting divorced. That's right. After getting screwed

00:23:25.680 in a divorce court and paternity court by their wife, who decided to leave to go find herself or

00:23:31.860 sleep with Gavin, the bartender, Tyrone, the personal trainer, one out of three men will

00:23:37.180 choose to get married again. Now let's look at the stats when it comes to second marriage.

00:23:44.120 Women initiate two thirds of divorce and first and second marriages. 90% is the risk of getting 0.95

00:23:50.100 divorced in a second marriage compared if it had been the first marriage for that couple two out 0.97

00:23:56.100 of three marriages will make it two out of three marriages will make it to their 10th anniversary

00:24:02.020 but only one out of three marriages will make it to their 25th anniversary after a first marriage

00:24:07.140 it generally takes someone four years to get married a second time women who grew up in a

00:24:11.780 two-parent family are less likely to divorce a second time 33 percent than women who came from

00:24:17.620 a blended or single family 49% 15% is the percentage of second marriages that will end

00:24:25.540 after just 36 months one in four marriages will end after five one in four second marriages

00:24:32.400 will end after five years if a sibling goes through a second marriage and divorce then

00:24:37.240 the person is 22% more likely to get divorced themselves for a second marriage the average

00:24:42.740 age for a woman is 37, for men in a second marriage it's 39.3 years old.

00:24:51.380 About 6% of American couples divorce, marry, and then remarry each other.

00:24:56.580 Half of all Americans' kids will see their parents divorce and half of those kids will

00:25:01.420 see their parents get a second divorce.

00:25:05.820 Now let's look at the reasons that men get married again.

00:25:12.740 In this blog post, we will explore the various reasons why men opt for second marriages.

00:25:22.520 While second marriages are stigmatized in society, it is important to understand the

00:25:27.980 different perspectives and circumstances that lead men to make this choice.

00:25:35.060 One of the reasons why some men choose to get married for a second time is financial

00:25:39.060 stability.

00:25:40.060 Many men believe that marrying a wealthy woman can improve their financial status and provide

00:25:44.240 them a comfortable lifestyle.

00:25:46.060 They see second marriage as an opportunity to elevate their social status and gain access

00:25:51.120 to a higher circle.

00:25:52.760 On the other hand, some men are financially stable but still opt for second marriages.

00:25:57.640 For them, it is often a matter of personal preference or habit.

00:26:03.540 These men may have a desire to experience the thrill of a new relationship or simply

00:26:07.620 enjoy the companionship of multiple partners. Emotional connection and romance. Another reason

00:26:14.940 why men pursue second marriages is the need for emotional connection and romance. Some men feel

00:26:21.320 that their first marriages lack the passion and excitement that they desire and they believe that

00:26:26.300 a second marriage can fulfill their emotional needs. These men can find themselves attracted

00:26:31.520 to women who are more expressive and romantic. They appreciate the affection and attention they

00:26:36.280 receive from their second wives, which they may not have experienced from a previous partner.

00:26:41.880 For many men, second marriages come later in life when they have achieved personal growth

00:26:46.620 and success. These men have focused on their careers or other priorities during their first

00:26:51.360 marriage and now seek a partner who can match their level of achievement. As these men become

00:26:55.720 more successful, they often attract women who are equally accomplished. They appreciate the

00:27:01.760 intellectual stimulation and shared goals that come from being in a relationship with someone

00:27:07.540 who's on their level. This has to be written by a woman. I see no other. Okay, but I'll go with it. 0.98

00:27:15.640 In some cases, men opt for a second marriage due to unfulfilled expectations or compatibility

00:27:22.080 issues in their first marriage. They may believe that their first wife does not meet their emotional

00:27:26.580 and physical needs, and they believe finding a new partner will provide them with the satisfaction

00:27:30.960 action they seek. The conclusion is that while second marriages are often met with judgment and

00:27:36.980 skepticism, it is important to recognize each individual's circumstances and motivations are

00:27:42.040 unique. The reasons behind why men provide, or the reasons behind men choosing to pursue second

00:27:50.060 marriages vary widely from financial stability to personal growth to emotional fulfillment.

00:27:55.740 it. Now, this woman is talking about first and second marriage problems. 0.78

00:28:09.700 Has everybody seen that clip of the divorce lawyer talking about second marriage divorces

00:28:14.240 and how he's actually observed moms getting sick of doing everything and divorcing? He just kind

00:28:20.000 of skirts the second marriage question. Typically, first and second marriages have different 0.82

00:28:24.340 requirements to them. First marriages usually happen a little bit younger. They're to establish

00:28:29.360 a family home and a family, usually often to have children, which increases the overall

00:28:35.440 responsibilities, the load, all of that kind of stuff. Second marriages, however, a lot of the

00:28:41.440 child kind of rearing is mostly done, if not all the way done. Second marriages, a lot of times,

00:28:47.420 the children are already out of the home. And in here, the second marriages that come in to see me 0.98

00:28:52.960 very often they're started out with the explicit goal or desire, I guess, of having a partner for

00:29:00.920 one another. They want someone to travel with, go out with, and yeah, have a lot of really hot

00:29:06.580 time with. The first marriages I see, yeah, we'll spend time on the couch debating who's doing what

00:29:12.980 in the household, but the second marriages I see, we don't do that. We spend time trying to figure

00:29:19.080 out why we aren't enjoying each other as much as we want to. Okay so the first marriage was for

00:29:29.080 children and the second marriage is for fun. Okay a woman talks about the pros and cons of second 1.00

00:29:38.140 marriage marriage is hard but you know it's even harder just the odds are stacked against you

00:29:51.280 there's the negative stereotypes the non-traditional family structure and holidays the scars it leaves

00:29:58.640 behind and the emotional triggers a lot of times the second spouse is guilty until proven innocent

00:30:06.180 where the first spouse didn't really have that problem. 0.98

00:30:09.820 They were the ones who whittled away the trust,

00:30:12.720 hence the divorce.

00:30:14.220 But there are some distinct advantages.

00:30:17.080 It's a chance to start over, to start fresh.

00:30:20.380 It's finding love again.

00:30:21.820 You're more aware of the pitfalls.

00:30:24.380 You're more willing to work harder on your marriage

00:30:27.520 and avoid complacency.

00:30:30.040 You're really determined to do it right this time.

00:30:32.720 And you usually have more in common.

00:30:35.000 You share a lot more of the same goals in the bigger picture.

00:30:38.300 You value your time together more.

00:30:40.720 Generally, you learn to compromise better, and you're more self-aware.

00:30:44.820 Studies show you have more and better sex.

00:30:48.300 You can't deny your past hurts or your triggers.

00:30:52.380 The key is to learn to work on them together to improve in your marriage as a team.

00:30:58.560 What you really don't want to do, and this can be hard,

00:31:00.840 is you don't want to show up less than you did the first time you shouldn't trust less

00:31:07.260 you shouldn't give less you try not to repeat the same habits the communication is fucking key 0.91

00:31:14.380 you have to be determined 0.79

00:31:16.560 has talking to women more made them argue with you less 0.66

00:31:23.420 or does it just give them more things to pick apart

00:31:28.580 guys women that say that communication is key men okay men that say communication is key

00:31:36.760 there are men that listen to women and what they say and women that say that communication is key

00:31:43.440 either a have no emotional control and need to tell the guy every single emotion or b

00:31:50.360 they like to fight hermen to communicate so that you can work past all that stuff 0.99

00:31:58.420 And then your bond is even stronger.

00:32:02.380 And it's scary, but you have to be vulnerable.

00:32:05.540 You have to have realistic expectations.

00:32:08.320 You got to catch yourself and check yourself when you might be treating somebody differently

00:32:13.260 because of something that has nothing to do with them.

00:32:16.880 And that's not easy.

00:32:18.600 But acknowledging it, that's the first step.

00:32:21.820 Dealing with it, that's the next step.

00:32:24.380 But it's this kind of growth that really makes that second marriage so special and so much more fulfilling.

00:32:32.380 The Gottman Institute talks a lot about this stuff, about trust and intimate relationships.

00:32:39.220 And one of their famous quotes from their research and interviewing people, writing books, blogs, you name it.

00:32:46.480 Life gets better for those who have the courage to trust.

00:32:49.360 women talking about second marriage like it's a joke 1.00

00:32:57.120 listen i'm second marriage material go have your starter marriage learn all the lessons and then

00:33:07.580 come and see me and we will live like sexy responsible adults who split bills communicate

00:33:11.840 and leave each other alone most of the time fellas who's gonna do it i know it's one of you

00:33:18.320 who's gonna who's gonna do it

00:33:21.880 put a one in the chat if you do it just be honest guys they say barf cap i would

00:33:32.400 you're telling me there's 600 people in here right now

00:33:37.480 imagine if i had a room full of 600 mostly men watching and you expect me to believe that none

00:33:46.580 of you are going to do it i'd hit thank you for being honest david that's all i fernando fernando

00:33:59.220 says no not even on a slow tuesday get out of here don't believe you okay dm on the website says

00:34:11.060 theaudacitynetwork.com we've been demonetized feel free um yearly and monthly memberships 80

00:34:18.020 bucks a year 81 one yearly membership sponsors the show if we get one yearly membership show

00:34:24.980 um i love your commentary i'd love to see you debate again you know dm i was i was traumatized

00:34:31.300 a little bit i know women we use traumatized for everything but i am a modern woman so i you know

00:34:36.100 it is what it is but when i when i've argued with enough crazy people

00:34:45.140 the lengths they're willing to go is just incredible to me

00:34:52.500 so well you know you might there might be some coming soon i'm not i'm not opposed

00:35:01.140 um elliott says do what pearl

00:35:06.100 hell yeah i'm saying somebody would do her i don't know who but it's one of you

00:35:10.580 pearl are you calling out stamps i call out yeah they said they said um fernando's capping in the

00:35:18.120 chat i know fernando i know he is he is capping he is i i don't need the cap you know what we

00:35:29.620 should do we should do a cap of the year on this channel like whoever a woman is that everyone 1.00

00:35:37.820 says they wouldn't but everyone knows they would now here's another one is a woman who has remarried 0.96

00:35:45.680 and husband adopted her two kids says has a big wedding so if you follow me for a bit you know

00:35:57.060 that i am married again this is my second marriage and um i came into our marriage with two kids my

00:36:05.280 husband came in with three so we have five together um he actually has adopted my kids so

00:36:10.620 i have two kids and three step kids and he has five kids so anyhow i want to say this

00:36:17.180 shout out to ronald rodolfo for the tent to for the monthly membership on the website thank you

00:36:28.300 so much he says i don't understand how women want communication but then tone police double talk

00:36:34.860 change word definitions etc women just we like to fight 1.00

00:36:40.300 that's it they want they say communicate so we can fight and then be entertained for the day

00:36:49.560 guys if we get seven more memberships this show and there is an app we are on the app store so

00:36:58.060 you can download it um and i have some ideas maybe i'll go with where i'd like to see the app go

00:37:05.400 i gotta get the memberships to a certain point but i really have some really good ideas of what

00:37:11.160 i want to put on there maybe maybe i'll i'll throw them at you later whatever your situation is

00:37:16.880 if you want to have a big blitz of a wedding and party do it um this might not be your if you want

00:37:28.600 Have a see if a girl likes you, if she says she wants to get married, courthouse. 1.00

00:37:35.260 Let's go to the courthouse.

00:37:37.380 If she hesitates and argues with you, hate to break it to you.

00:37:41.940 The wedding is attention central for women. 0.90

00:37:45.660 Remember, we get off on attention.

00:37:47.560 So if women want a big wedding, usually they want the wedding, the attention of the wedding. 1.00

00:37:54.980 They don't really want the man.

00:37:56.820 The best men really have is to take away more of the things that they get and see if they

00:38:02.220 stick around.

00:38:04.100 First wedding, your first marriage, but it's your first marriage to each other.

00:38:08.940 So why shouldn't you celebrate?

00:38:10.720 Why do we often think like, oh, well, it's your second marriage or your third, whatever

00:38:16.640 it is that you shouldn't have, that you should only have the big celebration for your, if

00:38:22.140 it's your first marriage.

00:38:23.700 when we do that we immediately downgrade that subsequent marriage and we should be lifting up

00:38:29.460 and celebrating every marriage so whether you want to elope just get married just the two of you or

00:38:37.300 have a big extravaganza do it because every marriage is one to be celebrated start off your

00:38:46.060 marriage knowing that this is huge it's big it's important and it's definitely a lot less important

00:38:52.700 than your first marriage my opinion is second marriages are less important than your first

00:38:59.860 look at first marriage you at least sort of have a clean track record where we can say

00:39:04.380 they might promise and mean it second marriage

00:39:08.860 i mean at that point you already broke your first promise

00:39:14.240 why am i supposed to believe your second promise like what does your word mean

00:39:19.840 um spoiler alert true christians don't remarry so there's no biblical justification for doing so

00:39:28.420 oh okay what else do we got next um

00:39:33.440 woman saying her second marriage is a great thing 0.99

00:39:44.880 meh meh marriage isn't as special the second time around

00:39:49.840 wrong oh let me tell you why that is absolutely not true for me i was married from 2014 to the

00:39:57.720 end of 2016 divorced over the course of the look your your second marriage by definition

00:40:06.820 cannot be as special the second time around it literally cannot like what i'm gonna put the what

00:40:15.140 is the definition i know what it means but sometimes i can't say definition of special

00:40:24.580 different than usual

00:40:30.180 better greater other otherwise different than usual unusual so if marriage is something you're doing

00:40:39.220 over and over again and divorcing that's kind of usual

00:40:46.520 so in my opinion the only thing men can get in 2024 is genuine desire from women and the red 0.53

00:40:57.920 pill talks about this because so i have a friend and he's a total player and his experience is he

00:41:06.200 he's the type that as women approach him but to his surprise he took a couple women's virginities

00:41:12.600 and he said he couldn't believe how little it meant to them they did not care they were ready to 0.99

00:41:17.160 go off into the world and be a whore and i thought about it and i thought okay so if now women and 1.00

00:41:23.800 that kind of matches with what the stats say and you know what i've seen in life because if women 1.00

00:41:30.280 really thought their virginity was something special and marriage was special they wouldn't

00:41:34.360 leave right they would treat it as if they're special the only thing i really see that men can

00:41:40.920 get is genuine desire from a woman so you know those women that completely destroy their families 1.00

00:41:48.920 for like one guy that's what you want to get i mean that's pretty special if you're the guy now

00:41:56.360 i know you're thinking now i'm not saying take her seriously clearly a woman that does that's 0.99

00:42:01.480 mentally ill but that's the most unique thing you're gonna get a woman that destroyed her 0.99

00:42:08.280 family to be with like imagine you hook up with a girl a woman maybe you knew she was married you

00:42:13.320 don't care you find out she left her whole family to be with you that's pretty unique 1.00

00:42:18.360 that's honestly more special than most marriages these days that dynamic now anyways don't clip

00:42:26.200 that and put that on twitter i'm gonna be very annoyed i'm gonna be annoyed because i'm still

00:42:33.080 flushing out that idea and i like to i like to do them a little bit more the ideas okay let me

00:42:39.880 continue this uh why can't i hear it is the sound on

00:42:53.080 to my soulmate in 2016 divorced over the course of the end of 2016 2017 and i got remarried to

00:43:03.820 my soulmate in 2022 let me tell you why it was so much more special the second time around

00:43:10.500 the first time around i was young i had gut feelings telling me that it was the wrong thing

00:43:16.520 and i didn't listen to them because i listened to all the people around me telling me that it was

00:43:20.140 wedding jitters it was normal blah blah blah the second time around I was as confident as I've

00:43:26.900 ever been in my entire life not only that but I had the knowledge of all of the things that I did

00:43:32.320 in my first wedding that I knew that I either did or did not want to do again my first wedding day

00:43:37.620 went by so fast my opinion second marriage is courthouse only there's no point

00:43:46.160 her other video says healing is never done

00:43:50.480 lord help the man that signed up for that and so on my second wedding day I was able to be fully

00:43:57.380 present all day I took the time to stop throughout the day recognize what was going on around me and

00:44:03.860 attempt to slow down time in doing this I have way more long-term memories of my wedding day

00:44:09.040 the second time around than I did the first time around I also learned that all of the things I

00:44:13.720 regretted from my first wedding were the things that I did to appease other people so the second

00:44:18.780 time around I didn't do that and he and I eloped on the beach with 30 people our closest 30 people

00:44:24.880 I did everything the way that we wanted to for us the way we wanted to or she wanted to what's your

00:44:32.760 guess what is your guess also guys you know if you want feel free website the audacity network.com

00:44:42.320 i'm on monday i'm gonna make it easier for you guys to search your favorite old show guests so

00:44:48.420 like cheska was a well-known one if there's any that you want to search just because they're

00:44:52.780 really funny i'm gonna put tags for each of the like denalva all the denalva videos feel free to

00:44:58.640 put them in the comments and i'm gonna put tags next monday or on monday i didn't do anything for

00:45:04.060 looks or appearances i did everything to honor our relationship and our love story you want to

00:45:11.180 another reason why it was more special everyone around us knew it was right our speeches were

00:45:15.980 better because they were genuine and when people were speaking from the heart saying how happy they

00:45:20.780 were they meant it versus the first time around when my entire family didn't actually agree with

00:45:26.140 the marriage and they gave speeches because they needed to not because they wanted to

00:45:30.220 not only that but i cannot tell you how different it is to walk down an aisle towards your soulmate

00:45:36.060 than it is to walk down the aisle towards someone who isn't right for you.

00:45:40.360 Of course, during my first marriage, I didn't know that.

00:45:42.640 I didn't know I was walking down the aisle to the wrong person,

00:45:44.820 and I loved my first wedding.

00:45:46.740 But then there's hindsight.

00:45:48.280 And then I learned.

00:45:49.140 And then I met my soulmate and felt how different it is.

00:45:53.100 Walking down the aisle to him, this world's different.

00:45:56.560 And so, so special.

00:45:59.600 More special.

00:46:01.280 And more me.

00:46:03.780 More him.

00:46:04.880 More us.

00:46:06.060 more sentimental more joyous more carefree more at ease literally it was just more

00:46:15.500 so maybe if you've married multiple times it wasn't as special for you 0.98

00:46:19.660 but it sure as fuck was for me 0.98

00:46:21.940 ah okay soulmate equals simp that's true actually 0.98

00:46:36.060 yeah anxiety comes from alphas simps offer security um who would in the chat come on

00:46:48.500 be honest divorce lawyer talking new partner not her nah who would chat be honest

00:46:57.920 via i want you to be honest

00:47:01.580 one night thank you nuff said for at least being honest

00:47:08.040 trogg says nope fernando again

00:47:14.840 again in the chat saying never right carla what is it are is it the hispanics that are like 0.90

00:47:25.420 that are the cap pulling that are like the kings of cap

00:47:28.900 because for Fernando and Carlos are the ones saying no never Ben sounds like a white name

00:47:39.420 Ben saying hit and quit maybe that's honest but you know I know the stats guys I know I know the

00:47:46.800 numbers so men tend to over exaggerate how much they get laid women tend to under exaggerate so 1.00

00:47:53.600 If I'm looking at stats that says, I think it's 40% of men have either had no sex in

00:48:01.840 the last like six months or something like that, you're telling me if this fell into

00:48:06.420 your lap and you thought no one would know, you would.

00:48:15.100 Please, please don't believe you.

00:48:21.100 Guy Fawkes is true. 0.83

00:48:22.840 jc says nah whatever guys whatever i'm going back to the audacity chat they cap less on the website

00:48:28.760 they're a little more honest they're a little more honest okay joel says well there's a guy

00:48:34.520 well while she is talking there's a guy in the background playing a video game

00:48:38.600 just happy he's not being bothered i think that's why women get so many tiktok accounts 1.00

00:48:45.800 because the men just want their wives to leave them alone and so what they do is they're like

00:48:54.420 go play yeah you want you'll leave me alone for four hours a day and do tiktok

00:49:01.440 and they're like fine and they're not really on social media so they're not really looking right

00:49:06.520 and so they're thinking things are good and their wife is telling all of the family's most

00:49:12.180 intimate secrets on tiktok oh too funny there are no soulmates in christianity crazy kyle says this

00:49:22.180 whole thing sounded so genuine until the ending when she said at least we had fun and she took 0.97

00:49:27.700 it as a game i'm married so screw that crazy lady not my wife but all the girls you've shown 1.00

00:49:33.700 dm it's a numbers game if a man is willing to ask he will get laid that's true 0.98

00:49:39.140 okay attorney warns stepmoms about putting their name on the deed in case their new husbands pass

00:49:47.880 away rod says pearl stop spilling the game men want to be left alone but not be lonely

00:49:59.800 no why do you think i'm here i spilled the game on both genders 0.99

00:50:06.400 you know you know i i talked to to get really good insights from what i talk about

00:50:12.580 i talk to date like guys that coach men on this stuff and really you're not going to get a better

00:50:18.360 insight into what's going on there's there's people you can talk to that will give you more

00:50:23.640 information than ever one is people that live in the front of apartment complexes the women can 1.00

00:50:30.000 the women can lie but your doorman will not they see everything that's one 1.00

00:50:37.160 number so you know my old door lady she would tell me she would tell me like um 1.00

00:50:44.600 oh that woman saw this many guys that week or that like anyways that's one another one to get 1.00

00:50:53.320 really good information is men that coach men in dating because they they they deal with men that

00:51:01.260 are married having problems men that are young and just don't know like I talked to one coach

00:51:06.700 he gets guys laid within three weeks from virgin like virgins that's what he does like that's

00:51:12.200 literally his job and he said the men that listen it's like a month done he said the men that don't

00:51:20.860 less than a year depends how stubborn the guy is now they like and I ask very specific questions

00:51:29.200 so I'll ask like okay a guy that's getting laid how many are in its harem on average a guy that's

00:51:35.360 just a relationship guy I I ask very specific questions to figure out the frequency of things

00:51:42.840 and like who they're like anyways I I'm I'm all I'm saying is yes I'm going to keep spilling the

00:51:49.540 tea i'm sorry you bought my membership i won't listen to that um okay pearl do a poll who's

00:51:56.840 married lol the singles are mad a kardashian viewer thano says husband bedtime is my favorite

00:52:04.880 time of day wife it's because of the cuddles husband no it's the only time you go to sleep

00:52:09.920 and stop nagging me nagging me fazelle as a divorced individual i want to have kids without

00:52:15.500 getting married again. I'd be happy to paying child support as long as it's 5K. I just don't

00:52:20.740 want to end up like Ross Geller. Okay, let's keep going. This has just got to be said because I can't

00:52:27.340 take it anymore. Imagine being your second marriage and you've been married for 30 years

00:52:34.300 and y'all have had a loving relationship and you have children from another marriage and he has

00:52:41.300 children from another marriage. And for God's sake, what happens next is just traumatic. Your

00:52:48.380 husband passed away. But the house that you are living in is in his name. And your name was never

00:52:56.860 put on a deed. And the children make you leave the house as soon as that funeral is over. This is

00:53:03.360 real life stuff. This really, really happens. Change the deed. It is very important that in

00:53:10.740 your lifetime if you're in a second marriage and y'all have been together for a long time

00:53:14.780 you change the deed joint tenant with writer survivorship with both names on it and that way

00:53:20.780 if something were to happen to him the house automatically goes to you if something happens

00:53:24.660 to you it automatically goes to him because i always tell people the worst comes out of individuals

00:53:30.740 at weddings and deaths change those deeds

00:53:35.220 women talking about second wife advantage so this woman I liked her video she talks about 1.00

00:53:48.860 men actually learn from relationships and they get better every time

00:53:55.260 women we get worse every time unfortunately as someone who has dated men that come from

00:54:03.180 divorce. Despite the stigma attached to people having failed marriages, I can honestly testify

00:54:09.760 to the fact that there are advantages to being a second wife. In the few cases that I can recall,

00:54:16.080 there was one in particular where the man was the one to initiate his divorce. And as I've

00:54:21.220 mentioned on my channel before, 69% of divorces are initiated by women. So I was really intrigued

00:54:27.160 to see what made him want to walk away from his marriage. The marriage that he described to me

00:54:32.720 was one where his partner was not very supportive, she wasn't very friendly, she was very unkind to

00:54:38.460 him, and she really was not affectionate, and they did not have sex as much as he felt they

00:54:45.700 needed to in order to foster that intimacy. There were a host of other issues, but based on what

00:54:51.380 he told me, I really did understand why he felt compelled to walk away and why he felt like it

00:54:57.540 was unsalvageable. In the other instance I can think of, it was the opposite. This couple had

00:55:03.120 been together for a really long time, and she felt like she didn't have her own identity in

00:55:08.340 their marriage. Everything kind of revolved around the kids, and he was very emotionally

00:55:14.320 and physically unavailable and didn't really make a lot of time for her and to foster their own form

00:55:20.620 of intimacy mentally and physically. And again, it's the same kind of feeling as the first one

00:55:28.440 where you can understand why someone would feel the need to walk away from something after enduring

00:55:34.720 years and years of that. In both cases, though, I did find both men to be incredibly self-aware,

00:55:43.400 incredibly reflective about how they contributed to the demise of their marriage and things that

00:55:50.200 they wish that their partner did differently.

00:55:53.280 Ultimately, I felt like these men had a perspective that you can really only have if you've gone

00:55:59.320 through a really monumental breakup or, in their cases, a divorce.

00:56:04.440 I think the biggest advantage of being a second wife or of dating someone who comes from a 1.00

00:56:10.240 failed marriage is the perspective that they have, is their ability to look back at something

00:56:16.860 and say, okay, well, here's what we did wrong for a lot of people, not just men and not just

00:56:22.560 divorcees, but women and people at any stage of their life. There are certain lessons that are

00:56:28.100 learned with time and with retrospect. And there are a lot of things that as we go through, we

00:56:33.300 don't really know what is happening until we've had time to kind of stop and assess everything.

00:56:41.040 For me personally, I don't, I don't want to be with a man who is learning lessons that I feel

00:56:49.260 should be very obvious. Like not being physically or emotionally unavailable for me just sounds like

00:56:57.380 absolute hell. And so if this person really did not understand how important that is until his

00:57:06.240 wife ended his marriage and that is now a lesson that he has one that I will 0.99

00:57:11.280 benefit directly from yeah sign me up I mean it makes a lot of sense if you

00:57:17.520 think about it right like think about the first couple people that you that

00:57:20.580 you dated when you first got into the dating scene you don't really have the

00:57:25.960 best idea of what you're looking for what you want or of who you are and I

00:57:32.640 think it's the same thing in marriage. Despite it being such a massive commitment, there are so

00:57:39.540 many people that have given me anecdotal stories about the circumstances under which they married

00:57:47.040 while we were together for a couple years, while I was pregnant, while my parents were pushing me

00:57:53.560 to pop the question. It's not uncommon for people to marry because they feel like they have to,

00:58:00.360 which leads me to my next point if a man is dating you intentionally despite

00:58:06.800 coming from a failed marriage especially if he is expressing interest in marrying

00:58:12.360 again know that he is going to devote so much more of himself to that second

00:58:18.540 marriage than he did the first time around why because he's experienced the

00:58:24.120 heartbreak of a divorce men and women experience heartbreak totally different

00:58:28.680 yeah totally but they still experience heartbreak in both of the relationships that i cited even the

00:58:37.400 man that initiated the divorce had his own heartbreak and having to walk away from his

00:58:43.720 marriage so the chances of him going into something else all willy-nilly um and and

00:58:51.160 and wanting to experience that all over again

00:58:54.820 are slim to none.

00:58:56.780 So all of this is to say, if you are dating

00:58:59.360 and you come across men that have a failed marriage

00:59:03.600 or they're coming from a divorce,

00:59:05.380 don't be so quick to write them off.

00:59:07.640 Sit down with them, get to know them

00:59:10.000 and try and find out what happened in that relationship

00:59:13.760 that caused it to fail.

00:59:15.660 And if you find that this man is reflective

00:59:19.240 analytical and open and honest and more importantly determined to be different

00:59:25.720 in in the relationship that you are building with him then he was in his

00:59:29.800 marriage you might want to just hold on tight because he wasn't his marriage

00:59:37.360 wasn't his marriage you might want to just hold on tight because he's looking

00:59:44.620 for a happy ending too right now she's just teaching women how to manipulate their second 1.00

00:59:53.320 marriage all right guys what pearl if women had to pay for weddings and marriages like men they 1.00

01:00:00.760 would not think about second marriages as so cool and trendy well I want to know what you guys think

01:00:08.100 so you could put the link the column link in the chat i want to hear do you think men should get

01:00:15.380 remarried after they divorce if you had a friend going through a terrible divorce and said to you

01:00:20.900 they wanted to get remarried would you say do it what do you guys think um oh we got another

01:00:30.260 subscriber. Welcome to the audacity gang. Welcome. Thank you so much. Let me Rob, appreciate you.

01:00:56.260 Okay, we have the zoom link.

01:01:00.260 going in the chat we'll pin it

01:01:05.460 so if you had a friend that went through a terrible terrible divorce would you tell him to remarry

01:01:15.780 while we're waiting for people to call in i'm going to give you guys a second i'm going to

01:01:19.220 go through our rules for calling in one i do ask personal questions if you come on the show um

01:01:25.780 If you don't want to talk about your personal stories, I mean, then don't call in.

01:01:34.340 Like, it's just a no.

01:01:35.520 Like, don't call into the show where we talk about what's going on in society based on

01:01:43.140 people's stories.

01:01:44.840 And then anyways, you can opt out of the camera.

01:01:48.500 So we'll bring you up first.

01:01:49.840 And you can say, don't want to be on camera, but I need to see that you're a person.

01:01:55.080 And so my producer knows that we're not going to bring you guys up right away, but make

01:02:00.920 sure that's the first thing you say if you don't want to be on camera.

01:02:04.680 Okay.

01:02:06.360 Please bring a statement or story.

01:02:12.800 So the question of today is, would you recommend a friend remarry?

01:02:18.240 Tell me why.

01:02:19.180 um what what is the personal stories or what's the reason you think that

01:02:26.480 and get to the point don't make it a monologue um sometimes I you know sometimes people do bring

01:02:33.560 in pretty cool stories so um I'll let them go a little longer but at times I will have to cut

01:02:40.220 you off it's not to be rude I just got to run the show don't over talk me stay on topic

01:02:47.600 and that's pretty much it that's what we got today um

01:02:53.980 now i want to talk about a couple ideas i have for the audacity network while we're while we're

01:03:02.700 waiting while we're waiting um give me a thumbs up when somebody's on the line but a couple ideas

01:03:10.460 i have so on the website i was thinking about so as you guys know the red pill started in the

01:03:17.820 blogs and forums so there are people that have been in the red pill for like 10 20 years

01:03:22.940 and it was men coming together to solve their problems the great thing about rp content is

01:03:29.900 it does have solutions for men there have been men that created solutions to potentially fix

01:03:36.460 your marriage um if your wife never liked you in the first place it won't help but if maybe it was

01:03:42.620 just um frame that you lost they made it you know donovan made a course on how to um what women say 1.00

01:03:52.780 versus what they mean it's legit like there's courses that i found that are really are legit

01:03:58.860 and i was thinking about getting some sort of group membership if i put them all on the website

01:04:03.900 if you guys are interested the ones I would co-sign and I know from people that have worked

01:04:10.720 with these guys that are good where you guys could pay I don't know a lot of these courses are like

01:04:17.240 a couple hundred bucks each but maybe you could pay like 200 bucks and get access to like 10

01:04:22.300 courses um there's courses on how to like make six figures as a power lineman um there's really

01:04:29.880 a lot of good information and the thing is most of these guys yes they're in it I mean obviously

01:04:36.820 they want to make money but they initially got into this to fix their problems and you know

01:04:41.600 like one has a fashion course that's really good anyways if you guys like that idea it's something

01:04:48.260 I was thinking of including another thing is we do do channel management so I like to take people

01:04:55.260 that are already successful but they don't really you know like let's say you're a doctor do you

01:05:01.520 have time to be worried about learning equipment you like i just think there aren't enough smart

01:05:10.600 people on the internet like i think i want to raise the overall iq of people online and so what

01:05:16.240 i do is i come in and um we take we have a couple clients where we take over their thumbnails titles

01:05:23.720 all they do is upload their video into a drive and then you know we do the rest posting titles

01:05:33.160 thumbnails I was thinking of doing an audacity academy where we can teach you guys how to do

01:05:38.420 all the stuff if you want if you don't you know we can do it for you just an idea I had you could

01:05:45.180 take it or leave it so we're gonna get back to the topic you know I was just waiting for people

01:05:49.740 to come in but we have a caller we have brad hello brad how are you hi pearl i'm good how are you

01:05:58.860 good where are you calling out of boise ido are you good to be on camera yeah if you don't mind

01:06:06.220 me driving it's just kind of posted up that's fine just don't crash no i definitely won't

01:06:13.260 okay um so what do you think of the topic would you recommend a man that's been through a terrible

01:06:18.460 divorce Mary again? I wouldn't recommend it because I feel as though it's kind of a green 1.00

01:06:28.780 flag for the women because they know that he's been manipulated once before. So it just kind of

01:06:35.320 gives them that green flag to do it again. You know what I'm saying? Yeah. And have you seen

01:06:42.240 any men that you were friends with or like knew marry twice yes actually a co-worker i'm working

01:06:49.880 with at the moment uh we actually had a conversation about it today it was pretty interesting

01:06:54.480 what what's the job like what's the field uh electricians okay and why is he marrying again

01:07:03.880 uh so he actually did already marry again uh so what it was is he had first marriage

01:07:13.660 uh 14 years married two kids and you know nasty divorce didn't even see it coming 0.98

01:07:21.280 uh so he got with this new girl uh got her pregnant and that was kind of the reason that 0.93

01:07:29.220 they decided to get married again and uh what he's telling me is basically the conversation

01:07:35.780 today was is she's taking a trip to disneyland with a female friend of hers they're like 44 0.87

01:07:41.800 years old uh she's taking a trip to disneyland not taking his kids not taking her kids just

01:07:49.540 kind of like a girl's trip and uh of course at his expense and uh he's just kind of he's

01:07:57.180 just kind of going off about how he feels as though he's just getting uh what do you call it

01:08:02.260 drained wallet wise and uh i was like why why did you even if the first one was so bad why'd you get

01:08:10.560 married a second time and he kind of like what you were talking about before he felt obligated

01:08:14.740 because he they were gonna have a kid so i'm not sure where that expectation came from or why that

01:08:20.960 preyed so heavily on him but um just saying from personal uh witness it it seems to just be worse

01:08:29.560 the second time around yeah women really use men's morality against them like you guys would 1.00

01:08:37.720 i would i would also say simps do too like simps uh just really i don't know they just throw each

01:08:46.760 other throw i don't know they just they throw they just expect men to just throw themselves on the

01:08:54.920 on the pyre you know yeah they totally do well thank you so much brad for calling in of course

01:09:02.280 no big fan i appreciate it bro thank you so much thank you have a good you too

01:09:07.560 pregnant no that's the that's okay guys that's the way again a lot of people think i'm hating

01:09:16.440 on religion when i say that christians are christian men are the targets

01:09:25.880 but they literally are and i know this because i've talked to only fans models about this they

01:09:33.880 They market to Christian men.

01:09:35.640 That is what they do.

01:09:37.780 Married Christian, because again, they use men's sense of morality against them. 0.99

01:09:44.660 As he said, the simps do too. 0.77

01:09:46.240 What they'll do is they'll say, you're a bad person if you have sex or have a kid outside 0.60

01:09:52.120 of marriage.

01:09:53.640 Even if the state is putting a gun to your head, you still have to do it. 0.99

01:09:58.660 You're immoral. 0.82

01:10:01.600 if the women like being baby mothers it's still your fault anyways sorry guys headphone is there 0.92

01:10:07.920 anyone else on or no no okay yeah she is gonna ride space mountain that'll be awesome pearl me

01:10:18.020 and my friend are trying to make a podcast called father's day it's just to support fathers and yes

01:10:23.180 sometimes we're gonna talk about ex-girlfriends now look guys I do for the outsourcing of the

01:10:30.700 clips and like that and the YouTube outsourcing.

01:10:36.880 I do have a smaller package, but in general, this is for people that want to go all in.

01:10:45.540 I don't have the capacity to take on like 10 clients. I just don't have it.

01:10:50.560 I really can max out at like five, four, five. I'm just being honest. This isn't even a sales

01:10:56.020 gimmick so yes you can message me about the outsourcing but i'm telling you if you don't

01:11:02.660 have a decent budget just don't waste your time in the most respectful way i just we only have

01:11:07.380 the capacity for maybe four or five okay um how can you support this idea jesus said that remarriage

01:11:17.940 is adultery except if you're a widow i think buddhist men are not the target i don't know 1.00

01:11:22.500 enough buddhist men to look at generalities from it uh welcome to the show sean are you okay to be 0.96

01:11:28.500 on camera yes ma'am welcome to the show um what is your thought on the topic should men that have

01:11:36.260 gone through a bad divorce remarry negative negative all day every day i mean uh it's just

01:11:48.420 a complicated thing yeah and marriage kind of is a little bit outdated and so net net i mean you

01:11:54.900 were on point just like usual nothing new there right when it comes down to just diving deep

01:12:00.180 into the details and figuring out like hey what's going on what's the causes of these things

01:12:05.060 but you know people are hopeless romantics and so they just continue to move in the same

01:12:10.180 destructive manner without actually sitting back and just saying hey should i get married again or

01:12:16.340 not and so i think it's a global thing also it's not like you know as we had a conversation last

01:12:22.020 time i was on about just even in asia how things were going so it's not christian buddhist i know

01:12:27.620 you just said that recently it's really about people got options and people are like look

01:12:33.540 i want to do whatever i want to do when i want to do it and that's it oh my gosh i didn't even

01:12:39.300 recognize you with the hat on and the glasses this time i didn't realize you're you're the

01:12:43.700 you're the one that was dating in japan and like asias right yeah yeah yeah yeah yeah um

01:12:51.300 so have you seen anyone go through a second marriage and how did it turn out for them

01:12:57.300 of course right but we already know the statistics right it turns out worse right

01:13:02.180 like i mean of course they say they learn things and it will change but it doesn't matter you're

01:13:07.060 not dating or marrying the same person you're marrying a completely different person and then

01:13:12.180 And, of course, they have a completely different timetable about their development and how they see the world.

01:13:18.240 And so, again, you'll marry somebody else and be like, yeah, you know, the first one, I wasn't developed enough.

01:13:24.100 And then you go into the second one and the other person cannot be developed enough.

01:13:28.660 Or maybe they just decide to change their mind.

01:13:31.300 You know, I don't think people would want to get married that much if it was like, you can't get divorced.

01:13:35.440 You have to stay.

01:13:37.100 Guys would, but not the girls.

01:13:39.200 They'd be like, oh, heck no.

01:13:42.180 well guys would be like that's what we want we've been praying for that

01:13:46.940 yeah good luck well I don't understand why people don't just live together the second time

01:13:53.200 you can you can live together you can have a kid you do why would you take an extra layer

01:13:58.600 of insecurity like like an extra way the state can f you when you can have the same exact outcome

01:14:06.100 you can even do a ceremony I have like I have friends that are common law married

01:14:10.480 and they did a ceremony like everyone knows they're together but they're just the state doesn't

01:14:16.720 it ain't good enough you know they want the ring and then i guess it's just you know culture

01:14:23.100 culture impacts them a little bit too much but yeah and it's funny it was working longer when

01:14:28.540 they were just a couple than it was when they got married right like when they got married it got

01:14:33.720 worse when they were a couple we were together eight years and then it's like dang and then y'all

01:14:38.340 got married for three and y'all were divorced and so it's just kind of funny but i just think it

01:14:43.760 changes the power dynamics so at the end of the day the guys like to think they're in charge like

01:14:49.380 i'm in charge of my household and it's like really bro i will call the cops and they will let you

01:14:53.360 know real quick we all know what it is like you know it's so funny man it's the most craziest

01:14:58.440 thing the only power you men have is not getting married i swear to beans like it's the only power 0.50

01:15:04.500 you have or other women like other women that's really but if you get married you can't do it 0.99

01:15:11.240 underneath that you get what i'm saying yeah like if you're even if you are in some countries they

01:15:16.440 give you rules like everybody got to get a house everybody got to get a car it's like crazy it's

01:15:21.600 like oh my gosh so yeah no it's ridiculous but that's what they do every power that men have

01:15:28.620 the christians will come in and say they're immoral for using so like if a guy dates around 0.58

01:15:34.740 like that gives him power because then he has options like if he's sleeping with multiple 0.97

01:15:39.400 women if one woman takes away his supply of sex she's nothing so he can just move on to the next 1.00

01:15:45.000 and it's the same thing with marriage like that gives my men saying no i'm not going to marry you

01:15:49.740 that gives them power and then the christians say you're a bad person for doing it

01:15:54.040 yeah exactly especially you go ham on that and it's so funny too because i forgot what the guy 0.53

01:16:01.680 name was he was like man you're actually really cool if you're a virgin like you're the best out

01:16:06.880 you're the strongest male i was like look you can think that in your head but other people don't 0.66

01:16:11.840 have to like hit me like people just won't acknowledge it and just cast you as a weirdo

01:16:17.320 or incel and you're like well i have the moral ground and yeah you will never have a partner

01:16:21.940 and a mate but at the end of the day because even the girls who are christian don't prefer that

01:16:27.620 so it's just it's funny and as you said they use the moral argument and they act like they stand

01:16:33.780 on morality with that position but definitely you're leading people astray with that type of 0.99

01:16:38.820 advice like yeah that's a sucker waiting to get licked and the christian the other thing too is 0.99

01:16:45.460 i've met women that i believe are virgins and it's like i mean some of them are just waiting to get 1.00

01:16:50.900 get it over with and then they can go be whores like you know what i mean like because guys will 1.00

01:16:57.820 think they're like immune if they find like a virgin homeschooled girl and i'm like i've 0.97

01:17:02.900 literally met those that are on only fans like that that's what they said and as we said last

01:17:09.480 time you know people swear down it's like oh man it's got to be you know feminism it's like nah bro 0.83

01:17:15.800 moms was telling them like you know your daddy never made me you know what so go out there and

01:17:21.560 live your life and so it's just really bad and i'm telling you i'm overseas sometimes i'll be dating

01:17:27.380 you know i'm with my girl and we're walking down the street and some older thai ladies looking like 1.00

01:17:32.060 man i wish we had that back in my days like the girl would tell me she even said that she's like

01:17:38.800 man you're lucky to live in these times and these are like old thai women you get like past their 1.00

01:17:44.600 primes but they're just like man i didn't live in a time with gi soldiers and americanos coming 0.66

01:17:50.600 through like you know i was born in the wrong era you get so no that's the other thing like

01:17:58.360 that would be the most common thing i'd hear from women from more traditional countries 1.00

01:18:02.920 is that their moms told them to go be essentially i mean they didn't use those words but then like

01:18:09.800 yeah yeah you might as well you know subtle and i'm like that's why like with the crit like when

01:18:17.640 the guys think they're in control like oh my gosh i was talking to this this christian guy the other

01:18:23.400 day and he's like if you just lead them to god like your daughter won't end up on only fans and

01:18:27.640 i'm like i'm sorry you have two daughters but you have no control none if that woman gets in the 0.65

01:18:34.840 wrong friend group at school gets in the wrong content or even the mother your trad mom gets in

01:18:40.760 her ear the wrong way done cooked you can't stop it your mom yeah yeah but you gotta worry about

01:18:48.440 your wife telling her these things like forget everybody else because she's gonna be an accomplice 0.92

01:18:53.880 right she's gonna be the one who's like your dad's the tough one you know me girl i got you

01:18:59.480 like it's gonna be that type of stuff going on in the background and here you are bible thumping

01:19:04.360 hitting the gym thinking that that's going to stop it and it's not so it's hard man i tell most guys

01:19:11.260 i talk to the humanized women but they just don't want to do it they want to you know see them as 1.00

01:19:16.200 sweet spice everything nice and i say they're just humans just like you man i think that the final

01:19:20.860 stage of red pill is when guys realize they have no control and they're like yeah that that

01:19:26.560 stay shout out to my homie cga is that what he says like yeah i love after pill because he just

01:19:34.640 like shows you like there's life after this guys but i talk to guys and guys talk to me and it's

01:19:40.240 like doomsday pearl if they don't get what they thought it was supposed to be they're like bro

01:19:44.960 what's the point of life i'm like man there's dirt bikes four wheelers gun ranges like what do you

01:19:51.120 mean what's the purpose of life but they don't want to continue and there's women turning 22 1.00

01:19:57.500 every day like you know talk about it right and they're like no not me never like come on stop

01:20:06.300 the lies you know you guys subscribe to of anyways like come on man just just put it out on the

01:20:12.980 street let's be honest i know so yeah you're on point pearl you always do great work did you

01:20:18.800 actually win the game too the last time we talked after that the volleyball game oh um

01:20:26.800 i don't know i play every week the last game i played we lost okay so but i i think that

01:20:32.320 that week i probably won i've been on a losing streak lately oh no at least you winning on

01:20:38.480 youtube and go sign up for that just make sure pearl keeps winning okay thank you sean

01:20:45.040 no one got control over nothing look and neither do the women to some extent right like 1.00

01:20:59.520 i mean how many women 1.00

01:21:05.200 okay women have way more control than men so i'm not gonna i'm not gonna make it a 1.00

01:21:08.560 false equivalency it's not the same but there are women that were good wives to a man who changed

01:21:16.800 his mind and said you know what i wasted your youth don't really want to be married i mean

01:21:21.840 usually it's their own fault they stuck around long enough but you know like sometimes you can't

01:21:27.520 control everything um we got next on the line we got slim jim are you cool to be on camera slim jim

01:21:35.680 um i'd prefer not but if you'd like i'm okay with that that's okay we can we can keep you

01:21:41.200 off that's no problem i appreciate that thank you so what do you think of the topic should men remarry

01:21:50.480 well i would say to each their own me personally i've been married twice divorced twice

01:21:56.240 uh the first one was quite difficult the second one was much less difficult um

01:22:02.320 um so interesting uh i i don't necessarily want to say for against what what women and men should

01:22:12.560 do i think ultimately you should find who you can have a good working relationship yeah i'm 47 and

01:22:19.940 i would say uh peace is a major part of life you know you should be able to have peace and

01:22:26.360 happiness and forgiveness when when there is transgressions in any relationship you should

01:22:32.580 learn how to forgive small transgressions obviously easier to forgive larger transgressions much more

01:22:39.040 difficult but as you go on in life you realize that I mean those are things you're going to have

01:22:43.700 regardless things that can't be taken from you in divorce you know men can lose most everything

01:22:48.880 and I've been in positions where I've essentially lost nearly everything I'm

01:22:54.400 retired active duty military with more than two decades military service honorable discharge

01:23:01.340 and uh retired under honorable conditions as well and uh you know i mean doesn't really matter how

01:23:10.500 long you're here on this planet uh you know i'm 47 if i live seven more decades that's 117

01:23:15.780 pretty small amount of time when you figure to sandwich between two two eternities the

01:23:20.020 eternity exists before you get here and the eternity after you're gone and so invariably

01:23:24.340 everybody's got difficulties in life whether it's men or women uh both can have it difficult you

01:23:30.880 know it's it's on the individual but um in the end uh you're not going to be taking much with

01:23:37.520 you anyhow so it's pretty important to forgive and and love and i would say those are very important

01:23:43.800 uh being in the military for over two decades being involved in a lot of war and the whole

01:23:49.320 plan could do with a lot more love and forgiveness i would say uh i don't really have all the answers

01:23:54.440 for everything i am just a man you know i'm 47 i just retired last year 46. so i want peace i want

01:24:00.760 peace so first off i wanted to say thank you for your service thank you and um second question what

01:24:08.520 what made you get married the second time and why was it different why was it less contentious

01:24:14.520 so what made me get married the second time is i truly felt uh i could have i i had a very peaceful

01:24:25.040 relationship and i had um it just it just worked well and i didn't expect to get married uh i wasn't

01:24:33.380 going to and then it just kind of happened um she was open to the idea of getting married and i was

01:24:39.860 like i at just some point i was like hey would you like to get married i was still active duty

01:24:43.620 military at the time. And we were married for, I want to say, about seven years. And I didn't

01:24:50.940 expect it to end. It just ended. And when a relationship is essentially over, I think it's

01:24:58.040 best to know that, hey, when one person has called it quits, you can't try to make it work because

01:25:02.960 it won't. If one person has decided they're done, you just have to accept that and move on.

01:25:08.680 And so that's essentially what I did my best to do. I hope I answered that question or your

01:25:12.620 questions i just meant i'm assuming she didn't like i'm assuming the first wife went for more

01:25:17.220 of your assets the second wife didn't yeah the first one has been uh it's been quite difficult

01:25:23.620 as a matter of fact um it's been quite difficult are you still on child support or like alimony

01:25:31.740 from the first one so yeah actually um it's very um it's very interesting so yeah i'm on

01:25:39.420 on child support and uh um just recently um i've just uh it's just been very difficult just to

01:25:49.820 maintain contact with my children uh i love my children profoundly i've told them many times

01:25:55.180 actually that i love them more than anybody else on the planet and just having a having

01:25:59.260 daily communication with them has been very difficult and uh from the year from i want to say

01:26:07.100 what september uh september 2022 to august 2023 was a very trying time for me just to be able

01:26:16.060 to maintain daily contact because i was essentially informed like hey there's going to be two or three

01:26:21.260 days a week that you're not going to be able to talk to your kids because you know i talked to

01:26:25.420 them and they're just going to be too busy just scheduling me out of their lives and i essentially

01:26:30.300 tried to reason with it and said well i've been talking to them daily for years surely there's at

01:26:34.220 at least one minute in a day where i can talk to our children and uh it was just respond you know

01:26:40.840 with uh i just got another communication back via you know uh email saying like no that's not

01:26:46.620 going to happen and thank you for understanding it was just just like no communication about it's

01:26:51.360 just like no deal with it but i pressed on hard to try and maintain my daily contact like my

01:26:56.500 children and uh uh well long story short uh 28 august 2023 um um she didn't come to pick up the

01:27:07.300 children uh last summer and instead used uh i would say uh tactics to make uh a state believe

01:27:17.300 that i would have withheld the children from her and so while i was active duty i was actually

01:27:21.780 arrested and incarcerated for a small period of time before being released and having to drive

01:27:29.880 hundreds of miles, over a thousand miles round trip every week to another state

01:27:35.220 to show that I was going to be there. It's just, it's laughable. Like one of the statements that

01:27:42.500 was given by the office of the district attorney, the district attorney saying like, well, you know,

01:27:48.700 let's believe that he'll secure a weapon and seek vengeance it's like i've never owned a firearm my

01:27:53.440 whole life i still don't and now it's going on two years that this uh court has been going on

01:27:59.800 and i haven't been the trial yet it's been rescheduled once i had to get a different

01:28:03.540 attorney because the person was just like well if they believe that you know if they believe

01:28:07.240 i was like well what am i paying you for if it's just like if it just matters what the woman

01:28:11.380 believes what's the point of being uh doing here so i just don't understand so the thing is i

01:28:16.560 I couldn't pay child support for, I want to say what was like, it was like July, September,

01:28:23.800 October, November, December, January, February, I think it was seven months I couldn't pay.

01:28:28.840 And so I was being taken to court at family court as well in this other state.

01:28:35.060 And so now I'm being taken to criminal court and family court at the same time.

01:28:37.860 And I asked the judge, I was like, judge and family court, I was like, judge, I talked

01:28:41.080 to my attorney, you know, how do I pay child support?

01:28:43.420 you know i was paying to the mother but she was she refused to mail so i couldn't pay child support

01:28:48.060 how i had been doing prior to that i don't know what happened but the bank account was delinked

01:28:52.540 so i couldn't do that she wouldn't link it up it was on her end there was nothing i could do i had

01:28:56.940 to record the conversation at willis fargo just to have it documented center the center of the

01:29:02.700 child support via check the overnight mail wouldn't accept it so then i you know i said i'm sending

01:29:08.060 it again and so send it again of course i was incarcerated in august of uh last of 2023

01:29:18.140 and so uh i asked the judge i'm like so you know i asked my attorney how do i pay child support

01:29:23.100 and they're like well contact the uh uh child support service there so i did for the state

01:29:27.740 and they're like uh we can't uh we couldn't we can't do it for you sir because uh we don't have

01:29:31.900 you in our records here like what if i just come there and give you money like sir you you we

01:29:35.900 we couldn't even take your money if you came and got it.

01:29:38.000 So as a judge, I'm like, well, how do I pay my child support?

01:29:39.740 Well, you don't have to send her the money.

01:29:41.260 We can draft up an order, any draft.

01:29:42.720 So I was like, so this will take effect in March.

01:29:44.540 I'm like, well, since it's gonna be a whole nother month,

01:29:46.500 why don't I just go ahead and pay that one too?

01:29:48.040 And then her attorney was like,

01:29:49.460 we're not gonna deny that.

01:29:50.420 So I paid like eight months of child support

01:29:52.380 or something like that right in one go

01:29:54.620 because I was blocked from doing it

01:29:56.480 because of the no contact order I have to my children

01:29:59.280 and the mother of my children.

01:30:01.200 So it's been very difficult.

01:30:03.820 How old are the kids?

01:30:05.900 oh my goodness um so when this happened uh i want to say my son was uh 10 years old my daughter was

01:30:15.500 12 and so my daughter is going to be 14 and uh you know i haven't talked to my children close

01:30:20.780 to two years and uh we're going on two years i just uh i i do my best to have forgiveness and

01:30:27.180 peace and many times when people ask if there's anything they can do i say pray for my children

01:30:32.700 and the mother of my children because i don't believe i'm going to see them again in this life

01:30:35.740 and i just have to accept that and uh it's been painful but i've i've done my best to endure i just

01:30:42.540 i would say it's it's very interesting i don't understand uh what's going on here because i mean

01:30:47.740 in the military there's no such thing as a plea deal you know you're bound by the uniform code

01:30:51.580 of military justice if you're guilty they're getting you and if and if there was any if there

01:30:56.540 was any evidence if the military believed that i was actually guilty there was no way that the

01:31:01.420 the military would have been okay with me getting out of an incarceration facility that would

01:31:04.660 incarcerate me themselves. And I wouldn't have had a colonel bail me out of the incarceration

01:31:09.580 facility in the state and finish out my last eight months where I could get my retirement.

01:31:15.120 You know, like I said, I was in the federal service in the military for 241 months. There

01:31:21.480 wasn't one of those months where I was ever punished for any crime. And there's a much

01:31:25.240 lower burden of proof for the military when it comes to punishment. So I just don't understand

01:31:29.880 And the state come out with, well, we don't want to take it that hard on you.

01:31:33.620 They want you to sign this plea deal.

01:31:34.880 I'm like, I don't admit to crimes I've never committed under any circumstance.

01:31:37.940 You know, I'm facing two criminal counts, two felony counts of custody beyond visitation with intent to withhold.

01:31:43.680 So they're saying like, oh, you know, take some plea guilty, take classes, and you'll be fine.

01:31:48.380 I'm like, no, that's never going to happen. 0.98

01:31:50.700 Because let's just say I was stupid enough to go ahead and admit that I would have done a crime had they given me an opportunity. 0.97

01:31:59.620 which of course you know they can't do that because that would have committed a crime so 0.96

01:32:05.380 like i said it was two counts of custody on visitation with attempt to withhold but

01:32:08.820 never withhold them from the mother as can be shown just a belief that i would withhold them

01:32:13.220 from the mother is enough to have me uh incarcerated or you know even executed in their presence 0.67

01:32:18.420 because there was like a half dozen officers that came to where i was at you know to come and get

01:32:22.660 me and i just remember saying like he's going for something i'm like well this might be it right

01:32:26.500 here here i'm going to get shot with a shot right here in front of my children uh because the mother 1.00

01:32:31.540 is uh or you know whatever is going on it's it's all just a ruse to maintain power control and 0.90

01:32:38.260 authority in which i have not and so okay so if i plead guilty uh to these crimes that i had not

01:32:43.700 and would not commit then i would just be tried uh by the federal government because due to my

01:32:49.220 service my lengthy service i will be subject to the uniform code of military justice for the rest

01:32:53.860 of my natural life so then they would just reactivate me and then i'll go to a federal

01:32:57.860 incarceration facility for the federal government for admitting to a crime that i never committed

01:33:02.980 and never would commit so it's just laughable so i'm like who's this benefiting are the benefits

01:33:08.020 in the state so powerful and amazing that they just uh they're better than anything i could ever

01:33:12.900 provide as a father because it clearly at that point i mean what's going to happen next i suppose

01:33:16.980 my retirement pay will have to be retroactively cancelled uh because well you know the federal

01:33:22.500 government shouldn't be in the practice of providing retirements to known felons that

01:33:26.260 doesn't make any sense i wouldn't have been able to retire but here it's going on two years and

01:33:31.380 i'm just waiting to see what happens your ex-wife said that you were withholding the kids essentially 1.00

01:33:39.460 uh yes and then um right well that the charges that were filed filed by the district attorney

01:33:45.060 was two counts of felony uh custody beyond visitation within death withhold so she never

01:33:49.940 never came to pick up the children as she's due to as per court order. And the other laughable

01:33:55.680 thing I don't get is that what's been submitted for evidence was a court order that was thrown out

01:34:00.180 in 2016 from where I was taken to court without my knowledge. And it was in 2014 and it was thrown

01:34:09.620 out in 2016. Well, that's what was submitted to the district attorney. I'm like, how has the

01:34:14.060 district attorney not found, not done any research to find out that this is a fraudulent document?

01:34:19.120 i just don't understand it one two i just don't understand how is this in the best

01:34:24.520 instances of children either have so like i'm not afraid i'm not afraid of going to court

01:34:29.860 do you know terrence pops channel terrence pops yeah he might be someone worth reaching out to

01:34:37.460 he might be able to help you um he knows a lot about the military court stuff so i don't know

01:34:44.640 if you've seen his stuff but he has i don't know what you've done already at your at your stage

01:34:50.640 some guys have done everything but if there's someone that knows a solution i i'd recommend

01:34:55.800 googling terrence pop okay well at this point it's it's for it's it's not uh military stuff

01:35:04.060 it's just it's civilian courts but it just it's just uh it's a laughable situation is what i think

01:35:10.540 by my mind it's like i just don't understand because this how is this benefiting yeah the

01:35:15.580 children uh you know so it's like okay so so you at this point you you know i wouldn't i'm not going

01:35:23.180 to take a plea deal because again i don't admit to crimes that i had never would ever commit

01:35:26.700 so that's not going to happen so and there's like oh just take these classes and since i won't do

01:35:30.780 that so then what now i'm just uh now i'm an uneducatable beast as well it's just like

01:35:35.980 and then they have to get a beast a liar that can't be trusted and then that lost granted society

01:35:40.860 but also somehow miraculously i was a federal officer with a career spanning more than two

01:35:45.420 decades which makes sense if you don't think about it i just don't understand your second

01:35:51.100 marriage but she didn't like did you have kids in your second marriage or no

01:35:55.660 no no kids in the second marriage like i said that one ended much more peacefully

01:36:00.140 and she didn't go for any of your assets or anything it was just like done no it was it was

01:36:05.020 uh i would say quite quite amicable quite peaceful biometric i mean if it's uh if i had any inkling

01:36:14.060 that it would have been anything like the first marriage there it would have been a hands down no

01:36:17.740 like i just uh and at this point in my life it's just i i just rather have peace you know

01:36:23.500 um i i suppose for myself you know uh it's just not in the cards and if it was it would only be

01:36:30.620 for the fact they had children but uh the last time i even remember speaking with my children

01:36:35.900 i know i'd even talk to my children about it before like how would you feel if uh if i were to

01:36:42.060 at least have more children i think i did say to remarry and have children i asked them because

01:36:45.580 i'm like if i want to have more children my children are old enough i just want to talk to

01:36:48.540 them about it and at some point i just decide i'm like yeah you know i've decided that i don't really

01:36:53.500 want to have more children because i've had to fight so hard just to have you in my life

01:36:57.260 I don't want to have to have that uphill battle again.

01:37:00.180 It's like I've been fighting this uphill battle to have my children

01:37:03.160 and to have some type of communication with my children over the last decade.

01:37:08.600 And it's just been an uphill battle that I've ultimately lost.

01:37:11.460 And even my latest attorney is like, well, when do you think you'll talk to your children again?

01:37:14.360 I said, at this point, I suppose it'll be after they're emancipated, 0.67

01:37:18.060 and if necessary, out of the continent of the United States or not in the United States.

01:37:21.880 And at that point, what bearing does a court in a state that my children were taken to

01:37:26.940 without approval of the court and without my approval because i had shared legal custody at

01:37:30.300 the time you know if i take the children to another state and move them there without

01:37:34.060 petitioning the court and without the approval of the other parent well that's amber alert right i

01:37:39.180 mean i'm getting the cops on me and i'm done uh it wouldn't even be that someone would just

01:37:43.900 contact the military and be like hey this guy just abducted these children but because uh

01:37:51.740 i mean if it was me but it's the other way around and it's like

01:37:56.940 So nothing I say or do really seems to make any effect.

01:37:59.480 It's like I have no power, no authority, no control.

01:38:02.120 I just have to accept what's happening and just be okay with it.

01:38:05.300 And the way I even told myself before any of this went down, I just had a sneaking suspicion things were going to get bad this year.

01:38:11.760 And then I might not see my children again.

01:38:13.980 And if I do, it's going to be a long time.

01:38:16.120 And I just kind of told myself, well, you know, shoot, Nelson Mandela was sentenced to life in prison.

01:38:21.640 And he did, I think, 27 years.

01:38:23.780 He could send and receive one letter every six months and could have one visitor once a year for one hour.

01:38:28.440 And he made it. He was unbroken.

01:38:30.140 I was like, if I can have just a little bit of that, I think I'll be all right.

01:38:33.260 You said your oldest. Is your ex-wife noticeably crazy? 1.00

01:38:37.320 Like, is she or is it more sneaky stuff? 0.87

01:38:41.640 Well, she's got a master's degree in social therapy with a license to practice independently.

01:38:45.860 I'd say she's pretty well aware of what she's doing.

01:38:48.520 No, I just meant usually the kids kind of start to wake up around 14, 13, to the mom being nuts.

01:38:56.880 You know.

01:38:58.180 If they ever do.

01:38:59.340 Some never do.

01:39:00.120 It kind of depends how sneaky the mom is. 1.00

01:39:03.580 Yeah.

01:39:06.720 You know, whatever's going on, I believe they're well aware of what's going on.

01:39:11.280 And, you know, I really don't know what's going to happen.

01:39:14.700 I pray that everything's going to be okay.

01:39:16.400 and i believe in the end everything's going to be okay i really do truly miss my children so much

01:39:20.480 it's been quite difficult not talking to them especially like i said i have had daily contact

01:39:24.320 with them for years and now it's going on two years that i haven't contacted them and and i

01:39:29.600 shouldn't expect to contact them before they're emancipated because i'm dealing with a state that

01:39:34.480 flat out believes everything uh that she says and even in the military the viewpoint of the military

01:39:40.640 at the time victims are to be heard in their cases referred to trial well right there if you identify

01:39:45.680 as a victim right then and then you're expected to be heard in your case referred to the trial

01:39:49.760 and there's nothing the other person can do about it really yeah i i really would recommend

01:39:55.920 contacting terrence pop he's gonna he's gonna know if there's a way around it he would know the

01:40:02.880 answer but i do have to get on to the next caller jim no thank you uh terrence pot is a p terrence

01:40:08.400 like t-e-r-r-a-n-c-e um p-o-p-p it's like redonkulous is his channel um and he teaches 0.68

01:40:18.960 guys how to use the justice system like against the wives he says it's immoral but not illegal so

01:40:25.920 yeah well thank you very much girl for uh having me on greatly appreciate it love your channel

01:40:31.040 uh keep doing good things thank you google make sure you google him i'm gonna tell him you're

01:40:36.560 coming thank you i appreciate that thank you so much okay um i think the next person i saw someone

01:40:46.960 come in oh they left sorry redonkulous i'll i'm gonna text redonkulous now terrence there was a guy

01:41:00.720 on live today I sent your way look I mean I'm not a lawyer I'm a commentator I mean

01:41:17.700 I could tell you that you know my opinion but all I can do is give you this is what I try to do

01:41:28.020 I try to get the best resources where I've gotten positive feedback from the

01:41:33.960 people like the guys that have bought them okay let me there's no other

01:41:46.120 callers but I saw one for a second okay guys well good talk today it's these

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Pearl - January 30, 2025

Why Men Are More Likely To Remarry Than Women (Call-In Show) ｜ Pearl Daily

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