Pearl - Why Modern Women Mourn Men Like Tupac and Not Charlie Kirk

00:00:00.000 you taught me to shoot my first basket you made us fifth grade conference champions

00:00:21.120 i never cared about the fans i just love seeing you in the stands long talks on the ride home

00:00:29.280 i miss them when we're on the phone

00:00:34.560 cause not all girls get a dad like you and i'm so lucky that i have you

00:00:44.480 oh there's no way i could ever thank you for all of the things you helped me to do

00:00:53.760 you. I'm so happy blood's thicker than water cause dammit I'm so proud to be your daughter.

00:01:06.540 I used to hate green eyes, I wanted blue. But now I love them cause I look like you.

00:01:16.920 You say I ain't pretty, but I don't care

00:01:19.600 cause when I smile, I see your face, mm-mm-mm-mm-mm-mm

00:01:27.040 Cause not all girls get a dad like you

00:01:32.680 And I'm so lucky that I have you

00:01:37.160 Oh, there's no way I could ever thank you

00:01:42.880 for all of the things you helped me to do.

00:01:48.380 I'm so happy blood's thicker than water,

00:01:53.300 cause dammit, I'm so proud to be your daughter.

00:01:58.720 When I grow up, I want to be like you.

00:02:03.960 Maybe if I'm half as good as you,

00:02:09.080 You're the one I've always looked up to.

00:02:14.080 When I grow up, I want to be like you.

00:02:19.100 I never cared about the money or fame.

00:02:24.500 I'm just proud that I have your last name

00:02:27.700 because not all girls get a dad like you.

00:02:34.360 And I'm so lucky that I have you.

00:02:38.800 Oh, there's no way I could ever thank you

00:02:44.480 for all of the things you helped me to do.

00:02:49.900 I'm so happy blood's thicker than water.

00:02:54.880 Cause dammit, I'm so proud to be your daughter.

00:03:04.360 all right what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily thank you for tuning in

00:03:17.380 um as you guys know i'm in my taylor swift era so you're gonna be forced you're forced

00:03:23.340 yep to listen to all of the songs i have written over the years but but out of the kindness of my

00:03:31.400 heart. I'm also going to freestyle. So if you put a word in the chat on the fly, I am

00:03:40.540 going to write you a song because I am that good. I really am that good. Not a piano, but

00:03:49.420 I can't, I can do the lyrics stuff. You want me to write a song about herpes? Really? Really?

00:03:59.340 we oh my god oh my it's the gift that keeps on giving god's repayment for sinning it's the gift

00:04:15.040 that keeps on winning oh shoot it's the gift that keeps on giving god's punishment for sinning

00:04:25.320 oh it's gonna keep on winning i can't remember that chord i'm sorry guys i'm gonna have to do

00:04:33.220 it on the other chord pattern hold on it's this and then that's what it is it's the gift that

00:04:39.660 keeps on giving it's the gift that keeps on giving god's punishment for sinning

00:04:51.340 Unfortunately it's winning

00:04:55.340 It's the gift that keeps on giving

00:04:59.340 And

00:05:03.340 A couple times a month it's gonna be itchy

00:05:07.340 A couple times a month you're gonna get

00:05:11.340 Bitchy It's the gift that keeps on giving

00:05:15.340 It's I think that hell is winning

00:05:19.340 Swinning, herpes, I don't know, why would you do that to me?

00:05:26.000 All right, give me another one that's a little bit, can we, I promise you guys, when my piano

00:05:35.220 skills match up to how fast I can think of lyrics, it's over.

00:05:40.660 You guys won't even know what to do with me.

00:05:43.820 You won't even know, like, you won't.

00:05:47.600 Although it can be a bitch, you'll get the familiar itch.

00:06:03.240 Oh, blue hair.

00:06:17.600 I got to stop when this girl made me stop and stare.

00:06:26.520 She was real pretty, but she had blue hair.

00:06:31.260 I'm thinking, girl, why would you do that to yourself?

00:06:38.580 You could have been fat or had bad acne.

00:06:43.140 You could have had all of these.

00:06:47.600 I don't know that this one's not really coming. Okay. We'll do, we'll, we'll get better as we go

00:06:54.280 on, but I, the herpes, that was crazy. Sing about your savior. I kind of did a song on that once.

00:07:02.440 Oh, God, will you help a sinner like me?

00:07:19.600 Sometimes it's hard for me to believe

00:07:24.600 But I have hope, I know that he bleeds

00:07:32.760 For a poor cinder like me

00:07:40.240 Off the dome, look it.

00:07:44.620 They can't, thank you.

00:07:46.820 Alright, so I'm going to go into today's episode.

00:07:49.520 thank you guys for watching my taylor swift era so we're going to cover a few things on the show

00:08:00.940 tonight before we get into the main topic thank you guys for tuning in if you can hit the like

00:08:05.860 button and go to the audacity network.com that's the audacity network.com we're also in the app

00:08:11.620 store um the reason being is i can have more free speech the more signups we get on the app store

00:08:20.920 so it would be helpful the more people that sign up on your end you do get um access to all my old

00:08:28.540 content and um do you know what i'm thinking about releasing i don't know if i want to do it

00:08:36.020 but I was looking at I I have recordings of all of the meetings I had with YouTube

00:08:42.340 when I got demonetized and I was re-listening to them the other day and I was getting so pissed

00:08:48.380 because I was just I was on the call with these women right and these women are just gas like I

00:08:53.840 remember saying ladies ladies if I can prove this generalization with a fact can I say it

00:09:03.900 And they're like, no, that's hate speech.

00:09:05.960 And I'm like, yeah, let me just kill myself.

00:09:08.680 And oh my gosh, I was getting so mad.

00:09:11.580 I'm thinking about it, but I don't know.

00:09:14.260 I don't want to get, I'm thinking about it.

00:09:18.560 Okay, so the first topic we're going to go into is men are walking away from standing up for women.

00:09:25.580 So our entire life, you know, men are sold this virtue, that there is virtue in standing up for women.

00:09:32.340 Like, if a woman's getting beat up on the train, you got, you know, here's, you know, if a woman's getting beat up on the train, that you got to be the guy to save the day.

00:09:43.240 If a woman's getting beat up by her boyfriend, that you got to get in the middle and save the day.

00:09:47.800 And I think this is sold and it kind of takes advantage of men's innate protector instinct.

00:09:53.340 You know, men, just on a deep biological level, they hate seeing women fail.

00:09:58.880 I mean, why do you think they gave us all of these rights?

00:10:01.340 because they hate seeing us upset, and women know that.

00:10:05.100 Women know, we have a tendency to know just how much men want to solve our problems for us.

00:10:12.360 They hate seeing us struggle.

00:10:16.440 So I would say this, in a way, propaganda is the wrong message to send to men.

00:10:23.540 And the reason I would say that is not because it's not a heroic thing to do.

00:10:27.600 It's always heroic to, you know, stand up for somebody that's weaker than you.

00:10:31.640 But in this society, I would argue that in a way women are stronger than men in terms of what power we have.

00:10:38.620 And the challenge is, you know, women said, we want to be our own person.

00:10:42.440 I want to vote away from you.

00:10:43.820 I want to make my own money.

00:10:44.800 And the men said, fine.

00:10:47.040 And now women are getting, you know, attacked on trains.

00:10:52.060 We're getting robbed.

00:10:53.680 There's even videos of women literally getting punched in the face for no reason.

00:10:57.600 and the women are saying men help us men protect us and there's a woman named Ada Luis Luis let me

00:11:08.520 get this okay hold on I gotta pull it up she's basically a right-wing e-girl and she's like the

00:11:16.380 Spanish girl who sells purity while dressing like a horse it's just your typical right-wing e-girl

00:11:22.140 you know the classic one and what happened was she is now tweeting that men need to protect women

00:11:30.940 from all of the migrants that women are voting to allow into europe and so what happens is women

00:11:37.700 keep voting for these policies and doing these things that make us completely unsafe you know

00:11:43.860 the men will say do you really want to go out at night and tell these bars where people are

00:11:47.980 drinking and the women are like yes we're dying to be whores and the men are like are you sure

00:11:53.060 you might get the herp derp you might you might get ghosted all this bad stuff and we say no we

00:11:58.600 want to do it and I do think on some level people do have the right to their health if you want to

00:12:06.060 live in hell on earth I I think that's your right as a person you know I had a a cousin and I'm

00:12:12.140 actually going to talk about him later this stream but I was really close with this cousin growing up

00:12:16.380 And he he lived with us for a while, but he he had an addiction problem and it was really tough, like watching him because he he just really could not.

00:12:27.500 And it's eventually what he passed away of was his addiction to to a certain drug, I'll say.

00:12:36.040 And but at some point, you know, we tried to help him and you have to kind of lay up your hands and say, you have the right to your own health.

00:12:45.400 and what happens is most women vote liberal it's not like i understand we have the right

00:12:50.460 wing e-girls but it's always right wing e-girl until until we're not right until we switch up

00:12:59.080 when our beauty starts to fade out or whatever um but regardless i don't think men are required

00:13:07.340 to protect us anymore because um we keep voting to be unsafe we keep making we don't care about

00:13:15.220 our safety. If women cared about our safety, we wouldn't be solo traveling. We wouldn't be

00:13:21.120 living alone. We wouldn't be moving to cities where there's more crime. You know, our actions

00:13:27.780 do not scream safety. And the other part of this that I was going to talk about is

00:13:33.360 men have even invented something for us to protect ourselves. We can carry. Concealed carry is,

00:13:42.360 I mean, I understand it depends on the state, but nothing's stopping you from moving to a state where that's allowed or a place where you can do it and protecting yourself.

00:13:51.240 So on some level, in my opinion, the answer to feminism is giving women the freedom they asked for.

00:13:56.340 Women ask to be equal, treat them equal.

00:13:58.600 And I don't really see it going back until the majority of men have this mindset.

00:14:05.260 Again, that's why they want to stop this kind of content.

00:14:10.840 it's because the more men get a hold of this information you know men are not like women

00:14:17.040 right or even liberal men they're not going to really riot they're not going to tear down the

00:14:22.020 streets um men's version of you know rioting or fighting back is just ignoring it walking away

00:14:30.260 and that's really what's happening um in this migrant situation women have begged and pleaded

00:14:36.840 for men uh to i gotta find this lady's name i thought i had it in the stock they have begged

00:14:44.700 for men to you know to let in the immigrants and the men said fine go ahead you have the voting

00:14:50.020 power um and now the women are complaining and i just i don't think it's i don't think it's fair

00:14:58.020 um when women are living the life of celebrities oftentimes at the expense of men

00:15:03.240 um i can't find i swore i had this in the doc but i forgot it it's all right but

00:15:14.240 my my whole oh here it is ha ha ha ha ha oh wait no that's her response that's her response

00:15:22.940 oh now she wants to come to america of course she does it's like it's like women vote left

00:15:31.400 in europe and then they're like oh you know you know how ironic it is for a woman saying she wants

00:15:36.980 to leave europe to come to america while fighting against immigration it's like women don't have any

00:15:43.680 idea okay so oh here it is here it is i think i speak in the name of all european women when i

00:15:52.240 say we no longer feel safe in our streets it's time to protect us yeah ada i mean but here's

00:15:58.720 the problem men can't protect women from ourselves you know they can't stop us from texting and

00:16:03.720 driving they can't stop us from being whores they can't stop like you know even with all the crime

00:16:08.860 that's that's happening men women are not you're not likely to be the victim of a violent crime

00:16:17.060 even statistically your odds of that happening are still more likely it won't happen that happened

00:16:23.220 but women it's like we find every way to make it more likely it'll happen we get on tinder we're

00:16:29.240 alone with men i mean you know the men when they see something crazy on the news they're like all

00:16:35.300 right i'm not taking public transport i'm gonna i'm gonna stay out i'm gonna stay in um and here

00:16:42.320 rachel has a reply to this she says um you cannot demand equality and demand the privilege of

00:16:48.160 protection you have to pick one i pick protection since equality is just an illusion which still

00:16:53.140 requires men using force to uphold my notion of women's rights. Yeah. And okay. Then you go to

00:17:00.260 the women and say, hand over abortion. And the women are like, no. And we're like, hand over

00:17:07.440 abortion. You want our, the men come in and they say, you want our protection. You are no longer

00:17:13.140 100% in control of who's born. Can women ever give up control of anything ever? I mean, guys, I,

00:17:22.220 You know, I'd like to say I think I'm more self-aware than a lot of women,

00:17:26.800 and even I struggle with it.

00:17:27.940 It's like in our nature.

00:17:28.960 We're not supposed to have this much power.

00:17:30.900 It's not meant.

00:17:32.160 This was not supposed to be given to us, but we begged for it.

00:17:35.780 We asked.

00:17:36.380 We nagged men.

00:17:38.080 And do you know what I think the worst part is?

00:17:40.180 It's not like men, I think, are scared of women at mass.

00:17:43.520 I mean, to some extent they are.

00:17:45.220 I just think they want the nagging to stop.

00:17:47.840 They just want, that's the power of men just give women what they want to make them go away, and it creates monsters.

00:17:57.240 Okay, so the other thing I wanted to talk about, let's see.

00:18:04.560 Oh, I wanted to give an update on my thoughts on women's sports.

00:18:07.920 So we have, apparently, Jarupa Valley High School girls volleyball team is still struggling to find opponents after Patriot High became the eighth school to refuse a matchup because of the trans player.

00:18:23.000 Okay, so I actually think that we should have more men in women's sports.

00:18:29.220 I think we should actually have more trans people, not less.

00:18:32.260 And the reason being is not because I think it's fair.

00:18:35.320 I think it's extremely unfair.

00:18:36.540 but again I have a personal story with this when I was in England I played volleyball overseas

00:18:41.540 sports was a huge part of my life um still to this day I'm just an athlete at heart I love

00:18:47.580 playing sports and I played volleyball basketball and there was a tournament I did where there was

00:18:53.060 trans people in the tournament and I went around and I'm like hey uh can we not

00:18:59.860 can we not do you know what i mean and the majority of women at that tournament

00:19:06.480 do you know what they said they were telling me to shut up they said stop making a scene

00:19:12.280 they were in our locker rooms i saw them

00:19:16.120 and uh that's i mean these are the terrorists we're dealing with i'm not talking about the

00:19:23.240 trans people i'm talking about female athletes that at this point you know i did make some good

00:19:31.340 friends in sports and it's not i know it's not 100 because there were women that had a problem

00:19:36.460 with it but hey you got and this is kind of what i think the solution is is you guys fought to have

00:19:44.760 the trans people in the sports compete have fun ladies and the men just gotta say good luck yep

00:19:52.500 good luck you voted for this same thing with the immigration i mean if you see some guy pick

00:19:57.780 pocket it pickpocketing a woman i mean odds are he'll hit on her later and she'll be in love it's

00:20:03.860 like and then you'll be the bad guy for calling it out do you know what i mean it's like those

00:20:08.900 guys that get in between a girl getting beat up by her boyfriend and he's thinking oh i'm gonna

00:20:14.740 step in and save her and then he gets killed and the woman goes and sleeps with her boyfriend to

00:20:20.420 again. It's like, what was that for? And I think that's really the equivalent of what's going on

00:20:25.200 in society today. I just, okay, my last point is, all right, so there is this couple, I can't even

00:20:36.920 believe I'm covering this, but I think it's an important lesson for the women, the women watching

00:20:42.700 to understand so there was a couple um that was dating and it was sam frank i'm a neon and this

00:20:50.520 this was a streamer and this of model and now in today's society the of model is probably like an

00:20:57.000 eight um she was really young at the time when they started dating plus america's fat in normal

00:21:03.980 society she's probably an eight she's making a ton of money off of only fans she meets this

00:21:07.960 streamer neon they start dating right and neon's like this awkward dorky streamer okay and in all

00:21:16.540 intents and purposes i think the perception of the relationship is that she could do better in a way

00:21:20.920 it's kind of rich the society we're in we're only fans where hookers can essentially do better than

00:21:27.020 it doesn't make sense but i i think maybe that was kind of the public perception because she

00:21:33.720 who's much better looking. And as a woman, I just want you to know, if you date a man

00:21:38.700 and he could date you, that means he could date somebody hotter than you. If he has the skills

00:21:45.660 to get you, he will get somebody younger and hotter. It's not if, it's when. And this is

00:21:51.520 something as a woman you have to make peace with because you will go crazy if you don't.

00:21:56.540 You will. I mean, this is, it's not if he'll do better, it is when he will do better because we

00:22:03.260 just age every day we get less valuable and we get uglier and that's life um where the men um they

00:22:09.980 just get better looking as long as they don't have some like crash out so now you know he's single

00:22:17.180 again and look at this is the woman is the screen showing yeah okay so now he's having this cougar

00:22:28.780 you could see he's getting female attention now like this young woman is coming up to him

00:22:33.260 and clout is definitely a drug so that while this is a unique situation right

00:22:40.580 because of the clout this does happen in normal life and you can kind of see it

00:22:47.220 play out now you got these pretty girls giving him more attention and now his

00:22:53.180 ex gets to watch it on stream he also has a new girlfriend and now this is his

00:23:00.140 ex-girlfriend sam frank but yeah guys i'm she's trying to now make him jealous because she gets

00:23:07.120 to go to all these events which is crazy by the way it's crazy that hold on but it's crazy that

00:23:16.860 a hooker is getting invited to ufc events to stream like that's crazy so um next week we are

00:23:28.640 going to be um going to vegas okay let me find the one of her crashing out but she goes on stream and

00:23:37.040 she crashes out because um i mean she looks like this and he basically got a carbon copy clone of

00:23:44.940 her with a slightly better body and um who is younger she was 18 and she was crashing out on

00:23:55.460 stream and like all upset even though she dumped him that's really what we do uh we never appreciate

00:24:00.540 uh the guy until let's see until they can do better all right sam frank neon new girlfriend

00:24:11.160 let's pull this up for the two women that are watching my show yes

00:24:17.380 hold on no you didn't try this yet though hold on wait

00:24:22.620 so this one and then you eat the leaf too the leaves

00:24:25.560 she dumped him by the way

00:24:34.340 yeah so this this girl was more wholesome i mean she's still got her boobs out obviously but

00:24:44.160 she's a more wholesome demeanor uh sam probably has a slightly better face card but i put her

00:24:50.740 body is better and this is just life ladies I mean I remember you know I don't think I have a

00:25:01.060 single axe that didn't do better after me it's just part of life like this is they will because

00:25:08.000 if they can date you you you have officially set the standard for them so if you're the hottest

00:25:14.580 girl he's ever been with then the girls that are on your level will now deem him as part of the

00:25:20.260 club so now he can he can actually select from the women at your level it's life and now she's

00:25:29.580 finding out this sad part of life it will you know as a woman you probably will have a crash out

00:25:34.880 especially when you're young this is not a fun experience most women will go through this

00:25:41.680 yep it's not when your ex will do better if your ex will do better it's when the only exception is

00:25:49.720 Some women make their exes' lives such hell that they don't do better

00:25:54.820 because they're just, you know, but, yeah, in general, in general.

00:26:01.640 Oh, I do? Okay.

00:26:03.280 Okay, let me go on.

00:26:08.120 Thanks for tuning in.

00:26:09.240 We'll get to the topic.

00:26:10.900 We will, we will.

00:26:12.080 Give me a second.

00:26:13.740 All right, so.

00:26:14.760 the attorney oh andrew we got law of self-defense in college i dated a girl for three months was

00:26:24.940 asked to introduce her at a party and realized i hadn't actually bothered to memorize her name

00:26:31.220 for all of human history women have not been generally allowed to make

00:26:38.460 wait sorry I can't read for all of human history women have not generally been allowed to make

00:26:45.240 societally important decisions except for the shit show of the last hundred years

00:26:49.420 isn't it crazy how for all of history this has not happened but it just so happens that we were

00:26:56.680 born in this lifetime isn't that kind of crazy like you could have born born in any other era

00:27:02.200 we never would have seen any of this but because we were born today we probably will only see this

00:27:12.140 isn't that kind of crazy to think about uh what is the best uh way to send you a show topics uh

00:27:18.220 request um i would say twitter actually pearly things with the z

00:27:22.920 um okay so thank you guys let me actually put the chat on the right refresh this

00:27:33.680 i appreciate you guys

00:27:40.140 oh roulette wheel thank you thank you for watching

00:27:48.040 okay so today um i guess i'm gonna do the uncomfortable topic again because nobody

00:27:59.020 else is doing it of criticizing a widow i mean god i mean somebody's got to do it i guess it's

00:28:06.360 gonna be me um yeah okay so there is a sentiment that people um want to talk about this topic but

00:28:16.120 they are afraid to on the right so I have decided for all intents and purposes I will be the

00:28:22.060 messenger and we're going to talk about Charlie Kirk's widow Erica Kirk her response to Charlie

00:28:33.060 Kirk getting assassinated now I think there's a general sentiment that her reaction and her way

00:28:40.280 of going about things has been, I'm going to pull it up on this, this thing, has been

00:28:45.800 quite odd, to say the least.

00:28:49.000 It's been very strange.

00:28:52.560 Let me pull up.

00:28:54.420 And this recently got worse.

00:28:56.100 So we covered last week, so Charlie Kirk gets assassinated.

00:29:00.840 And after he gets assassinated, Erica Kirk is named the CEO of Turning Point.

00:29:06.800 She's doing public appearances the day after.

00:29:10.280 she does a memorial where she really barely talks about him as a person.

00:29:18.620 She starts, actually, I have a list here.

00:29:22.780 Okay, so let me go, let me start over because I butchered that a little bit.

00:29:30.300 Okay, there is a sentiment that people want to talk about but are afraid to on the right.

00:29:35.800 I have decided for all intents and purposes I will be the messenger.

00:29:39.800 Now, today we're talking about what is an appropriate way to mourn.

00:29:44.160 Now, the right seems to be having a conversation on Twitter

00:29:47.160 that I really would like to bring to the center stage.

00:29:50.340 I think a lot of people are feeling this.

00:29:52.860 Is there a tactful way to grieve?

00:29:55.900 Now, I want you guys, I want to clarify when I'm talking about this,

00:29:59.280 I am not saying that she is not sad.

00:30:03.600 This does not mean she's not upset privately.

00:30:06.540 No one can really know the level of sadness that she's going through.

00:30:12.480 But there's just something odd I've just been seeing with her behavior,

00:30:16.760 and I just have to.

00:30:19.840 I'm the woman that just has to say it.

00:30:22.120 Do you know what I mean?

00:30:23.320 So, and I would just say the way she's going about this,

00:30:28.160 it just does not appear to be tactful.

00:30:30.520 it kind of see you know and kind of the way people have been milking Charlie Kirk's death

00:30:37.000 has been oh I am so sad give me money you can't criticize the way I grieve like it's kind of been

00:30:44.200 that sign up for my oh I'm so sad sign up for my email list please donate you cannot criticize

00:30:53.180 the way I grieve. Now, I wanted to look into a couple famous widows and compare and contrast

00:31:02.400 their reactions and the way they went about things versus Erica's reactions and my observations

00:31:10.500 about it. So, Erica just does not appear sad when she's going on these podcasts, when she's

00:31:18.700 talking in front of everybody her behavior is not that of a sad person now i'm not saying that

00:31:27.060 she's not sad privately i understand there is this idea that everybody grieves differently

00:31:32.480 and all i can on this show all i could speak from is my experience i understand other people

00:31:39.160 have experiences different experiences but i just find that when it comes to grief

00:31:47.560 usually it's pretty visceral reaction that people can't really control especially women

00:31:54.400 men have more of a tendency to put on like a hard face you know for the public and private but

00:32:02.020 women have a much more difficult time controlling their emotions just in my experience and I just

00:32:10.800 did not see that visceral reaction from her she had no tears she actually wiped tears that were

00:32:16.900 not there. Every time I see her, she's in super heavy makeup. She's doing a lot of public

00:32:22.420 appearances. She took over her husband's position. Her and the company are making money off of it

00:32:29.660 and sending email alerts from the widow asking people to donate. Like literal emails asking for

00:32:37.960 money. It just seems like they're really milking this and it just kind of puts a poor taste in my

00:32:44.460 mouth she's immediately in the public eye um and she just did a podcast and smiled the entire time

00:32:51.660 when she did the eulogy it had little to do with him it had more to do about the stuff he did for

00:32:57.860 her how good of a wife she was how good of a marriage they had how charlie's success came

00:33:03.580 from her being a wife and she even lectured men on how to be better men and she forgave the killer

00:33:09.320 like two days later now this just does not to me seem to be the behavior of a grieving widow

00:33:20.240 if I'm being 100% honest and I think anybody that notices this gets immediate pushback

00:33:30.040 and I don't think the people that are noticing this have malice in their heart I know I don't

00:33:34.420 have any malice in my heart. And I would actually prefer the men around her to guide her about the

00:33:45.920 way to act appropriately in this situation. Maybe she just does what she wants. But it just kind of

00:33:52.640 seems like one of those situations where nobody in her circle tells her no. Because there's just

00:33:58.120 no way that grieving in the public eye is a good idea. It's just not. You're either not going to

00:34:05.440 look sad enough and make people, oh, just the way this is going is going to open her to scrutiny

00:34:12.440 in a way I don't think would be best for her kids and her. I don't think she had anything to do with

00:34:20.800 the murder. I know some people are kind of going down that rabbit hole, but to me, that seems

00:34:28.100 a little far-fetched um but again i think i think people are looking at this and thinking her

00:34:35.540 behavior is a little bit odd now i want to talk about the pushback that pretty much anybody who

00:34:40.540 said this on twitter has gotten so we got someone said a grieving widow just watched her husband get

00:34:46.340 shot to death in front of her and their two children two weeks ago and this is her on a recent podcast

00:34:52.540 now I think we just have to be honest here and say this is this is strange

00:34:58.780 now everybody's kind of arguing on twitter they say after my dad died my mom my sister

00:35:05.900 and I sat on the hospital room sharing stories of my dad he was lying there in bed and we were

00:35:11.940 sitting next to him eating Reese's cups talking about a beef eater gin his favorite treat and

00:35:18.300 laughing loudly enough that the nurse came in and asked us to be quiet.

00:35:23.000 I loved him more than I can begin to explain,

00:35:25.680 and I still have moments when his absence hits me like a Mack truck.

00:35:29.480 Laughter is the only thing that saves us from soul-crushing emptiness of loss.

00:35:33.560 You are a vile human who sold their soul for clout and clicks.

00:35:39.560 Now, I understand the sentiment.

00:35:42.120 Again, people do grieve differently.

00:35:44.780 However, just in my experience, I think that grief is an emotion that takes over your body.

00:35:52.040 And at times somebody dies, and I think people maybe were not as sad as they originally thought they would be.

00:35:59.320 I think I've seen that happen where there's a death in the family.

00:36:03.020 But personally, when I had that cousin that died, I was very close with him growing up.

00:36:08.420 and you know when he passed away

00:36:13.380 I had a visceral reaction in my body

00:36:17.300 and it wasn't something I could just

00:36:19.940 and yeah you might laugh

00:36:22.980 at times maybe about stories about him

00:36:28.720 but this just isn't really the same thing

00:36:32.280 you know

00:36:32.840 donate me money

00:36:35.860 and i think it makes a lot of people feel uneasy uh but anybody who say says it now is you know

00:36:46.520 being criticized we have another one and i i think women are coming in and criticize and

00:36:54.840 defending each other because the sisterhood is just so strong um a seasoned pastor taught my

00:37:01.140 husband something early on in the ministry we were heading to the hospital with three kids in

00:37:05.340 our youth group whose father was almost brain dead because a tractor had rolled onto him crushing

00:37:12.600 his chest. He told us to take the kids out for ice cream, not to sit staring at their father on

00:37:18.020 a ventilator. He said grieving means taking breaks. You cannot endlessly turn tragic events

00:37:24.700 in your mind. You cannot cry nonstop. In fact, it's harmful. Failing to give your mind and your

00:37:29.660 body a break from the shock does not allow you to move through the stages of grief.

00:37:35.340 and healing i don't need to learn this lesson twice over the last 30 years we have met with

00:37:41.020 parents children and spouses and we have had we have been handed terrible diagnosis where

00:37:47.340 children were delivered stillborn whose father died in a multi-car freeway pileup whose mother

00:37:53.740 was strangled by met a man renting her upstairs studio when we met them they were we meet them

00:38:00.300 them where they are. We mourn when they mourn. We sit in heavy silence and sometimes we take them

00:38:05.260 out to go putt-putting. We encourage them to, okay, laughing doesn't diminish a tragedy. It

00:38:10.920 helps you process it more fully. Now again, I don't think this is just laughing. And I think,

00:38:19.620 you know, the right is missing how the cameras will always make people doubt your sincerity.

00:38:30.300 it's kind of the same i would say it's the same sentiment that i had with nala ray you know

00:38:37.880 nala ray was an ex-only fans woman i'm not saying these two situations are the same they're

00:38:43.080 obviously very different but the comparison will still stand um nala ray was a of model who got

00:38:51.360 baptized and decided to stop doing only fans even though she was still doing it at the time of

00:38:57.160 getting baptized and for months after she still had to count when you bring out a phone when i say

00:39:04.120 i believe in jesus christ my savior

00:39:07.900 that's one thing privately or i say it to my friends whatever but then when i go

00:39:14.740 i believe in jesus christ my say do you know what i mean it just kind of wait

00:39:19.360 when you have like an intimate moment and then you're you're going like this

00:39:25.620 people think it's kind of odd um i think kirk's wife needs to do more interviews to tell

00:39:32.160 women it's okay to be a housewife and a mother instead of being an only fans model

00:39:36.620 well you have to understand most women are not going to look at erica kirk um

00:39:42.980 erica kirk is an example of a woman who won uh remember she got married at 29 meaning that she

00:39:51.640 spent her whole youth in a big city part doing god knows what went to the university of arizona

00:39:57.560 um she's not what's gonna happen and i'll show you is by putting her in the spotlight

00:40:04.760 more you do not spend a decade in scottsdale in new york city and not have a little bit of dirt

00:40:12.040 it's gonna come out and it's already starting to

00:40:18.020 um and that's not a good situation for her to be in there's a lot of people that hate her husband

00:40:25.240 um all right trauma and grief manifest in many ways often we block it out after i watch

00:40:33.460 a loved one take a point blank 45 to their school people harassed me over how calloused

00:40:40.460 i was for partying in the aftermath i was trying to block out a trauma i couldn't handle by getting

00:40:47.500 drunk leave her alone she's trying to hold on however she can and again this is the women i

00:40:53.340 mean the men kind of see this and they think something's not right and what happens is the

00:40:58.300 women um we just always we always defend behavior that is just not great if i'm being honest it's

00:41:08.780 just not i would say it's it's distasteful it's kind of and i know i know what people are going

00:41:17.200 to say they're going to say charlie would have wanted this i i don't know if he would have

00:41:23.180 i i don't all right there are these are people that have never grieved if you do it in

00:41:30.440 isolated if you do it in isolated and silent it takes over everything the best way to survive

00:41:37.040 is to live, laugh, and take breaks,

00:41:38.920 even when it's horrible.

00:41:43.680 And I don't necessarily disagree with the sentiment,

00:41:46.780 but again, there's a difference

00:41:47.940 between living, laughing, and taking breaks,

00:41:50.660 and living, laughing, and taking breaks.

00:41:52.760 You know what I mean?

00:41:53.400 It's just a different,

00:41:55.760 it's just a different,

00:41:57.080 donate to my cause, live, laugh, take breaks.

00:41:59.440 okay then we're just gonna get more women gaslighting and that's kind of the female

00:42:11.620 strategy whenever a woman does something to make women look bad women will gaslight and say that

00:42:19.460 it's not real like when when we first out found out when the internet came and women started

00:42:23.780 admitted to like gang bangs on camera and doing it on camera the response was to gaslight and say

00:42:31.520 that not all women are like that and this is kind of the same thing it's it you know you know not

00:42:39.300 all women are whores I mean that was you know here we're going to say well grieving everyone

00:42:44.240 grieves differently and again I think there's a respectful way to grieve and a disrespectful way

00:42:51.500 to grieve and i would say this is on this has gone way past disrespectful going way past

00:43:01.180 uh we got zeke here everyone grieves and mourns in their own way no one except erica knows about

00:43:09.340 her alone grieving moment so my great granddad died our family celebrated his life we mourned

00:43:15.820 but we also told stories about him looked at pictures went down memory lane and we were happy

00:43:21.180 he was with great grandma erica vowed to continue charlie's mission that's called strength and

00:43:26.140 perseverance i know that's a foreign concept to the left seeing how you all function on

00:43:31.100 hate and intolerance but on the side it's what you do i'm proud of erica as we are millions no

00:43:37.580 hugs i don't need i don't hug pathetic people and that's what it is they say you're a bad person if

00:43:43.100 you find anything odd about this i have noticed that whenever a woman does something distasteful

00:43:50.540 we are quick to blame a man, that it must be her handlers.

00:43:55.280 But it seems to me she is doing exactly what she wants to be doing.

00:43:59.300 It's the same way when women bang somebody,

00:44:02.560 it's always that we got used and it was the man's fault.

00:44:06.240 It's the same thing when women were just tricked.

00:44:10.580 I mean, that's the biggest one conservative simps will say.

00:44:13.460 Women were tricked by feminism.

00:44:16.020 How convenient.

00:44:17.020 how convenient that you were tricked into throwing it back on these hot guys like imagine if the men

00:44:26.640 cheated on the women and they said oh I got tricked by these big tits do you know what I

00:44:33.240 mean we would be like uh but for some reason for some reason when it comes to women we just are

00:44:43.340 always, we're always tricked, right? I would say the way that she has been mourning has

00:44:55.240 been off-putting to a lot of people. There is a lack of sincerity to it. Now, I am going

00:45:00.440 to compare the way that women mourned Tupac's death and the way that Erica is mourning Charlie.

00:45:08.600 I'm also going to compare JFK.

00:45:10.940 So we're going to start with JFK.

00:45:13.460 Jackie actually kept on her blood-stained clothes,

00:45:17.780 and she said she wanted the killers to see what they did.

00:45:25.080 So when JFK died, they went to the Oval Office,

00:45:29.300 and they swore in the new president, the vice president at the time.

00:45:33.880 She kept on the clothes of him bleeding on her,

00:45:36.500 so they saw what they did.

00:45:38.600 And there was no smiles.

00:45:42.460 There was just a sincerity in, you could tell in her grief and respect in her grief.

00:45:50.940 You know, she didn't come out and say, oh, I forgive him two days later.

00:45:57.580 I'd say it's much harder, you know, if someone took somebody really close to me,

00:46:05.000 it would take me more than two days to forgive them.

00:46:08.000 personally. So it's just a bit odd, you know, this reaction is just a bit strange.

00:46:26.340 One seems tasteful and one does not. One seems respectful, one seems disrespectful,

00:46:33.900 but nobody wants to say it if it was my brother who died to be honest i would be pissed

00:46:41.740 i really would be if it was i just kind of think because charlie kurt he kind of reminds me of my

00:46:49.520 brother a little bit and i'm very close with this brother and i if somebody like if i i think if my

00:46:58.100 brother died even if it was a cause he believed it and they're just milking his death light i just

00:47:03.500 I think it would make me sick to my stomach.

00:47:06.200 I really wonder how the immediate family feels about this.

00:47:10.260 I don't know.

00:47:13.320 So I would have some recommendations of what I would have said to do.

00:47:19.160 Now this is just my opinion.

00:47:22.400 You can take it or leave it.

00:47:26.760 I would say I would have recommended she leaves the public eye

00:47:30.480 for a minimum of one to two weeks

00:47:32.900 and up to three to six months at least.

00:47:35.740 And the reason being, you know,

00:47:37.080 I was looking up how long they ask YouTubers

00:47:40.360 to stay out of the public eye after a scandal.

00:47:43.700 And that's a scandal, right?

00:47:45.400 That's not a death.

00:47:47.820 They say to leave the public eye

00:47:50.120 for a minimum two weeks up to six months.

00:47:54.260 But the problem is women are so phone addicted now

00:47:57.600 and so clout and attention addicted.

00:48:00.160 We do not know how to have almost normal human interactions.

00:48:05.540 We are so addicted to our phones that, I mean, we're using death for clout at this point.

00:48:14.680 It's bad.

00:48:19.980 Yeah, I know what they're saying.

00:48:21.240 Christians, they see it differently than you.

00:48:26.500 I think a lot of Christians see it like this.

00:48:29.480 i really do i i think there's a lot of christians that find it disrespectful to do a funeral in a

00:48:36.440 stadium um in that it wasn't even actually the stadium to be honest i think it was more just

00:48:45.560 the manner they did it in like the fireworks going off there's just a lack of like

00:48:51.120 i'll show you guys jfk's funeral and you'll see all right now

00:48:56.920 we listened to erica kirk's reaction last show um you know maybe we'll pull up i'm gonna pull this

00:49:07.540 up Erica Kirk. Here we go. So, all right, this. More work than we even could ever. So

00:49:33.340 blessed to have more work than we even could ever dream of i mean it's it's beautiful and turning

00:49:40.780 point action full steam ahead so powerful so blessed to have okay so yeah next we're gonna

00:49:56.220 it now we watched if you go like two or three streams ago we reacted to erica's whole speech

00:50:04.380 and i again i said what i noticed was that she kind of used it barely talked about charlie

00:50:13.340 but i'll hear these women talk about tupac and i'll think how does the the rapper

00:50:22.660 criminal that died

00:50:27.100 at a shootout

00:50:28.200 get more respect

00:50:31.600 a more respectful

00:50:33.980 I guess

00:50:36.940 more respectful dialogue

00:50:38.360 around his death and remembrance

00:50:40.900 than the Christian conservative

00:50:43.040 family guy

00:50:44.080 it's like as women we can't be mad

00:50:46.620 when these guys start treating us like shit

00:50:48.580 because we reward terrible

00:50:50.760 behaviors we really do

00:50:52.320 A lot of people, you know, talk about my relationship with Pac and trying to figure

00:50:59.860 that out, you know, and that was a huge loss in my life.

00:51:04.380 That looks like a sad woman.

00:51:07.180 That, I mean, she's tearing up.

00:51:12.200 Absolutely.

00:51:13.340 Yeah.

00:51:13.840 And this is like 20 years later.

00:51:15.640 I mean, that's, again, when women marry or, I guess, lose men that we perceive to be alpha,

00:51:24.040 it just tends to be a completely different reaction.

00:51:27.980 Because he was one of those people that I expected to be here.

00:51:31.580 And my upset is more anger.

00:51:35.240 You know what I'm saying?

00:51:36.580 Because I feel that he left me.

00:51:39.880 And I know that's not true.

00:51:41.560 And it's a very selfish way to think about it.

00:51:43.900 but I really did believe that he was gonna be here

00:51:48.900 for the long run.

00:51:49.820 Right.

00:51:55.720 She is crazy to be fair, but here we got another one.

00:52:04.540 I remember you telling me a while back

00:52:06.460 that you had a Tupac story that you always wanted to share

00:52:09.180 and you had two interactions with him, right?

00:52:11.080 Tell me about that.

00:52:13.900 I met, I was in Tupac's company twice.

00:52:23.980 Do you see the, like, genuine choking up these women?

00:52:30.680 These women weren't even with him.

00:52:33.080 They had no kids with him.

00:52:34.680 But they're all getting choked up talking about him.

00:52:37.420 and I mean we we were in the same places but not running in the same circles so I mean I'd be at

00:52:48.680 the same events be at the same place but we I mean we we took a flight together once um and it was

00:52:57.020 weird because I was in first class and he was in coach and when I when I sat down and I saw him I

00:53:04.100 I was like, ooh, I'm going to talk to Pac all the way to Atlanta.

00:53:09.720 And when he kept walking, I was like, who the fuck put Pac in economy?

00:53:15.180 I could have talked to him.

00:53:17.140 Now, I hear what you guys are saying.

00:53:19.560 This stuff's performative, okay, probably to some extent.

00:53:23.660 But these interviews feel more genuine than the speech Erica Kurt gave.

00:53:30.100 All I'm showing is the compare and contrast.

00:53:32.580 there seems to be more emotion there

00:53:36.000 fly first class all the time I wouldn't be that pretentious

00:53:41.440 but this one particular time and I thought I had looked up got first class

00:53:46.060 and Tupac

00:53:47.140 so the two interactions that I had with him

00:53:53.680 he was

00:53:57.700 completely different on both interactions

00:54:01.120 and the extreme like the first time I met him I didn't know what was happening to me

00:54:10.500 I was so charmed I was in trance I was in spelled I was um and if he had had a wife

00:54:26.060 and we was in the right moment, I'd have been like,

00:54:29.620 well, we grown, I hope your wife feels like me

00:54:33.840 and it's not a deal breaker.

00:54:35.980 I'm not having sex with married men intentionally.

00:54:41.800 She's like wishing she banged him 50 years later.

00:54:44.820 I want you guys to see this because when women are very in love with men,

00:54:53.700 I mean, this is kind of how they got another one.

00:54:58.740 Poetic justice.

00:55:00.840 Some insight on what it was like, you know, working with Tupac on Poetic Justice.

00:55:07.040 Pac was crazy and I adored him.

00:55:10.220 He was one way, I think the way people saw him and not to say.

00:55:14.580 So again, the stories focus on who he was as a person,

00:55:20.000 not what he did, but who he was.

00:55:23.700 that that wasn't him but he was also had another side to him where he was fun and silly

00:55:31.100 I think he's really special or he was very special incredibly talented

00:55:40.520 and he's just so much talent and so brilliant here

00:55:44.160 do you see all of the attention in that story was on him not me him

00:55:54.360 and when you compare and contrast i mean it's just there we go i just don't get any emotion from this

00:56:04.160 my husband charlie

00:56:07.780 He wanted to save young men, just like the one who took his life.

00:56:19.120 That young man, that young man, on the cross our Savior said,

00:56:44.720 father forgive them for they not know what they do

00:56:54.480 that man

00:56:58.020 that young man

00:57:01.620 I forgive him

00:57:06.460 like if I'm being honest here I just don't

00:57:12.400 there's no tears

00:57:14.800 I mean, I'm looking.

00:57:22.020 And the whole eulogy.

00:57:23.560 I didn't hear anything about Charlie.

00:57:25.940 I forgive him.

00:57:27.220 We had a great marriage.

00:57:28.440 Who was he?

00:57:30.320 Who did the cameras not see?

00:57:32.760 You know, not what did he do for you?

00:57:44.240 i hate being an asshole maybe i kind of like it i do this job but

00:57:56.860 but but you know i'm just being honest when i think this is kind of weird

00:58:03.640 so again the people that don't understand the criticism of this they don't really understand

00:58:10.040 female nature which is that women want attention we don't always love the men we marry um and

00:58:15.440 oftentimes it's very transactional and and you know female nature envies men so her going into

00:58:24.620 a male role indicates that maybe she was jealous of him on some level um and we really seize every

00:58:32.300 opportunity to take power and use it to get as much attention as possible so what would be the

00:58:42.940 best practice oh wait hold on everybody is cashing in on this tragedy women are going to

00:58:52.020 use it to signal virtue do not criticize her you don't know what grieving is it's going to be their

00:58:56.820 go-tos um now the best practices i would recommend really what jackie kennedy did now we're gonna

00:59:03.260 watch her her funeral this just seemed a lot more respectful we watched jfk's assassination

00:59:13.260 what do you think my odds of getting copyrighted on this music are

00:59:19.080 low all right at last in washington a nobler drama takes command

00:59:27.640 led by the slim dark figure of jacqueline kennedy

00:59:31.240 there now begin those measured steps by which the nation bears its fallen presidents

00:59:36.960 into history you see this is i would have i would have recommended a non-attention-seeking attire

00:59:45.020 you know i mean i don't even remember what erica was wearing because her makeup was so heavy

00:59:49.760 you know it was like caked on that's all i saw this is not attention seeking at all it's like

00:59:56.080 a black if anything there's a veil over her face

00:59:58.880 pearl but she had she had writers writing her speech uh okay but that was still her choice to

01:00:14.760 do it, right? I mean, at some point, it can't be the writer's fault. I mean, if she chose

01:00:22.880 to go with writers, she still read it.

01:00:44.760 Do you see the difference?

01:01:09.860 This is just such a different sentiment.

01:01:14.760 on Pennsylvania Avenue the drums go by 100 beats a minute behind them the caisson goes to the

01:01:40.920 capital where John Kennedy received power three years ago wait for

01:01:55.600 traditional military honors to be accorded the dead president before he

01:01:59.960 is taken into the rotunda to lie in state.

01:02:29.960 Thank you.

01:02:59.960 so I would just say overall I think the audio I don't know it's an old video yeah I mean what

01:03:26.060 Regardless, I mean, you guys get the idea.

01:03:32.340 This is a completely different sentiment here.

01:03:34.280 You know, again, that's different than like streaming the body, which is what Erica did.

01:03:58.960 It's just.

01:04:04.280 few will forget Jacqueline Kennedy this day transfigured by sorrow she stands erect before

01:04:17.720 the world's gaze and makes of her public ordeal an enduring testament of proud devotion

01:04:26.420 now through all the chill hours until the rotunda doors must close tomorrow the unnamed mourners

01:04:32.960 It's come, for there has been a death in the family.

01:04:40.960 Yeah, just thank you for joining the membership.

01:04:45.740 So in the aftermath, Jackie Kennedy's initial morning was marked by stoic public composure

01:04:52.340 contrasted with private devastation.

01:04:55.480 After JFK's assassination in Dallas, Jackie remained in her blood-stained pink Chanel

01:05:01.080 suit, refusing to change, saying, let them see what they have done. She accompanied his body

01:05:05.880 on Air Force One, standing beside Lyndon B. Johnson during his swearing-in in a public act

01:05:10.480 of duty amid personal trauma. From November 22nd to 25th, she meticulously planned JFK's funeral,

01:05:18.440 drawing an inspection from Abraham Lincoln's 1865 funeral to ensure a dignified historic farewell.

01:05:25.140 She chose the Cason Eternal Flame at the Arlington National Cemetery and other elements channeling grief into legacy building.

01:05:36.760 She walked in the funeral procession on November 25th, holding her children's hands, projecting strength despite private anguish, private grief.

01:05:53.160 in private, Jackie was shattered. Manchester notes she suffered nightmares replaying the

01:05:59.100 assassination and struggling with suicidal thoughts, confiding to friends like Theodore

01:06:03.500 White that she felt bitter about losing JFK. She chain-smoked and drank heavy in those days,

01:06:09.020 leaning on family for support. Jackie's mourning evolved into a balance of public restraint and

01:06:15.720 private struggle. She had limited public appearances. She made a few public appearances,

01:06:21.540 such as honoring Secret Service agent Clint Hill in late 1963

01:06:26.940 and a Democratic National Committee event in August of 1964.

01:06:32.500 These were emotionally taxing, and she withdrew after media leaks

01:06:36.100 about her Warren Commission testimony, citing emotional strain.

01:06:40.800 Her focus was protecting her children, Caroline and John Jr., from publicity.

01:06:46.520 Private struggles.

01:06:47.940 Jackie's grief was profound.

01:06:49.380 She told historian William Manchester she felt robbed of her life with JFK

01:06:54.060 and struggled with faith, questioning God, why God allowed the tragedy.

01:06:59.640 She sought solace in private conversations with priests, friends,

01:07:03.100 revealing depression and guilt over not saving JFK.

01:07:06.000 She moved to Georgetown in December of 1963,

01:07:09.700 seeking normalcy but was hounded by the media.

01:07:12.780 Legacy Preservation.

01:07:14.100 Jackie shaped JFK's legacy by granting a 1963 interview to Theodore White

01:07:19.340 coining the Camelot myth to romanticize his presidency.

01:07:23.180 This was a mourning act, ensuring JFK's memory endured as heroic, not tragic.

01:07:28.840 She also participated in a sealed oral history reflecting on her life together.

01:07:34.640 Over the years, Jackie's mourning became more private

01:07:37.420 with occasional public nods to JFK's memory.

01:07:41.320 She did remarry, but it was a private.

01:07:45.480 it. After marrying Aristotle Onassis, oh, this was actually, she did marry her sister's ex. That

01:07:53.640 was very spicy. She did. Women are women. Do you know what I mean? She withdrew, Jackie largely

01:08:01.100 withdrew from public life, focusing on her children and privacy. Her 1971 private White

01:08:07.380 House visit for JFK's portrait unveiling was a rare acknowledgement of her past. She avoided

01:08:13.500 discussions of JFK declining interviews about their White House years.

01:08:18.180 So, I mean, it says, until her

01:08:21.520 death in 1994, Jackie maintained a private mourning style

01:08:25.420 focusing on her children's well-being.

01:08:29.680 Her companion noted she carried JFK's memory

01:08:33.420 privately, avoiding public displays of grief. Because again,

01:08:37.480 Jackie's point was she did not want to make it about her.

01:08:41.540 And she cared about the kids.

01:08:44.180 Now, I'm not saying that maybe Erica has different intentions,

01:08:48.160 but her actions are just very strange to me.

01:08:52.180 Now, we're next going to talk about why this happens.

01:08:55.760 This is not to ascribe morality to it,

01:08:58.020 but explain why one widow seems sad and another seems fine.

01:09:04.220 An alpha widow is a woman who's been imprinted by a high-value man.

01:09:07.920 Think a guy with dominance, charisma, emotional unpredictability, and raw sexual pull.

01:09:13.500 The guy, the alpha in her past, that's a benchmark that lingers like a ghost in her psyche.

01:09:19.620 He's the one that got away, whether that be through a breakup, death, or just a fading memory.

01:09:24.800 Her husband, the guy she ended up with, often doesn't measure up to that peak experience.

01:09:30.400 So when he dies, her emotions are a mixed bag, not just with grief, but a weird cocktail of relief, detachment, or even indifference.

01:09:38.440 even if the marriage was a slow bleed losing a husband means losing stability financial social

01:09:45.800 or just the rhythm of daily life it seems she seems to be mourning the role he played not

01:09:52.020 necessarily the man he the man himself if he was the provider type steady reliable but lacking

01:09:57.880 that spark she might cry for the security the shared history or the kids say sake society got

01:10:04.220 her on a leash to perform the grieving widow act and she might lean into it consciously or not plus

01:10:09.760 there's guilt she knows she's supposed to be devastated so she might fake it to save face

01:10:16.080 or dodge judgment so this is about widows in general but i think it could potentially apply

01:10:22.620 to this if her husband wasn't that guy the one who lit her up like the alpha did she's been living

01:10:28.140 with a quiet resentment maybe for years women's instinct to speak to seek the best possible mate

01:10:34.460 her heart still tethered to the memory of a man who owned the room who made her feel alive in a

01:10:40.200 way her husband never could when the husband died it's not just good riddance though it can be if

01:10:48.020 the marriage was toxic it's more like nothing emotional flatline she's not sad because she's

01:10:53.220 already checked out emotionally a long time ago, chasing the shadow of that alpha. His death might

01:10:58.520 even feel like a freedom, a chance to pursue that spark again, even if she's not consciously

01:11:03.440 plotting it. Women's hypergamous wiring makes them compare men to their highest value experience.

01:11:09.280 An alpha widow's husband was likely a compromise, maybe a great provider or a good guy, but not the

01:11:16.240 guy who made her pulse race. Over time, that gap festers. She might have stayed for the duty,

01:11:21.400 the kids, or the social optic, but her emotional investment was low. Death just cuts the last

01:11:26.680 thread. There are women who mourn publicly, but privately feel unshackled, even if they're ashamed

01:11:33.620 to admit it. It's not cold-blooded, it's human nature clashing with modern expectations. An

01:11:38.900 alpha widow isn't just a one-dimensional ice queen. She might go between sadness and relief,

01:11:45.640 leaf, torn by the guilt of not feeling enough. If the alpha who shared her is dead, she might

01:11:52.760 project that unresolved longing onto her husband's memory, complicating her grief. Or if the alpha is

01:11:58.760 still out there, she might fantasize about reconnecting, making her husband's death kind

01:12:03.040 of a strange opportunity. Women don't owe anybody eternal devotion, especially if the marriage was

01:12:10.020 a pragmatic deal, not a passionate one. Men need to understand this to avoid becoming the beta

01:12:16.440 husband who gets outshined. Maintain your frame, your confidence, your edge, and your ability to

01:12:20.480 keep her on her toes. If you're dealing with an alpha widow, don't try to out-alpha her past.

01:12:25.080 It's a losing game. Instead, build your own value, physical, emotional, social, and let her see you

01:12:31.040 as the new benchmark. So I just thought that was an interesting article that kind of talks about

01:12:38.720 why the widows mourn in different ways um but you know i i really want to put my my final two cents

01:12:50.360 on everything is just i think there are respectful ways to do things and the way that turning point

01:12:56.400 has handled this has just put a really sore taste in my mouth if i'm being honest um

01:13:04.060 and yeah i think that's all i got for you guys tonight i think that's all i got

01:13:13.840 oh and the other issue is again because a woman you really got got to assume

01:13:20.300 she erica is gonna have some dirt that's gonna start to come out um i think she was in the

01:13:28.640 center of a music video um you know she was on a public dating show and not that i necessarily

01:13:38.380 think she was you know the ceo of hoeing there's many women i'm sure that did worse damage um

01:13:45.100 but the issue with her going into the spotlight is it's really going to bring out a lot of stuff so

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Pearl - September 28, 2025

Why Modern Women Mourn Men Like Tupac and Not Charlie Kirk ｜ Pearl Daily

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