Pearl - Why Most Men Still Feel Like They're Not Enough @Mr.DatingCoach

00:00:00.000 so it's hard but what are the other like limiting beliefs that they have there's so so many so

00:00:06.540 probably i mean physical insecurities are huge right and um you have to come to terms with it

00:00:16.660 right when you're short okay guys who are short um guys who are bold right they're insecure about

00:00:23.380 it self-conscious so anything physically right that is is you can't fix those insecurities are

00:00:30.460 really tough to work with right um so that's one of them uh other self-leading beliefs are that

00:00:37.580 they're not good enough okay and usually high-performing men have this problem because

00:00:42.560 if you think about it high-performing men they're they work hard because they want to prove to the

00:00:47.240 world that there's someone and it kind of almost stems from a chip on their shoulder insecurity

00:00:51.360 right and so when you analyze those guys what you see is that they just don't feel like they're

00:00:57.140 enough it prompts them to work a lot and be really successful to feel like they're they're enough

00:01:01.560 like to some degree in their career and their business or whatever um but it doesn't translate

00:01:05.540 with women right and so they become like a target or to exactly exactly and so what ends up happening 1.00

00:01:12.520 with those guys is when they talk to women they don't feel enough and so they feel like they have

00:01:16.680 lead with the money or with the status and those self-leading beliefs are tougher because that

00:01:23.000 feeling of not being enough is what got them that success with business you know what i mean and so

00:01:27.640 for them in their mind is oh well that's how i got here right and they don't realize with women 1.00

00:01:32.200 it's like no you you have you're enough for her you're more than enough right you don't have to

00:01:36.280 lead with those things right um and from there you have other you know other things that happen

00:01:41.880 like approach anxiety lack of confidence with women stuff like that just because you don't feel

00:01:45.320 enough but that one's really uh really unique to the guys i work with um other self-learning

00:01:51.440 believes is if they're raised in a shitty family and they're like you're not shit right we have a

00:01:57.260 lot of those yeah and so they need a lot of reassurance right hey do you really think that's

00:02:02.000 gonna repel women exactly right because what happens when a guy needs reassurance what do 0.85

00:02:06.120 you think as a girl yeah exactly oh yeah right insecurity clingy yeah right oh so nasty and so

00:02:12.180 those guys that we see that's another big bucket that we see right but those guys have never had

00:02:16.300 any reassurance in their life right that their parents never said good job be proud of yourself

00:02:20.640 right you know they're always saying that's it and in the world it's not like the world is

00:02:25.400 overly nice yeah i mean when you're when you're a kid the world is nice to you but once you're an

00:02:30.520 adult like in your 20s or in your 30s no one's giving you that reassurance right so they never

00:02:35.260 had it to begin with and now they're seeking it um it doesn't help now they're looking for that

00:02:40.060 in women right in dating so those are kind of like the self-loving beliefs 1.00

00:02:44.260 that we see that are really tough to work with for sure

Pearl - June 09, 2025