Pearl - Why Most Modern Women REJECT the RED PILL： It Reveals Our TRUE NATURE! ｜ Pearl Daily

00:00:00.000 good afternoon good evening ladies and gentlemen welcome to the just pearly things youtube channel

00:00:19.980 and welcome to another episode of pearl daily i am your host pearl so today we have a couple

00:00:27.160 stories that we are going to going to go over but before we start we do have a couple of

00:00:32.980 announcements so the first thing is we have been experimenting with a 5 p.m show time and I do

00:00:41.900 think we're going to switch it back to 3 p.m next week so next week we're going to start the show at

00:00:46.960 3 p.m central instead of 5 that's two hours earlier so that's the first thing the second

00:00:54.180 thing is there is going to be no show on Friday this week and the third the third announcement is

00:01:02.140 that please go to the audacity website if you want to support my work that's the audacity

00:01:07.800 network.com we are currently demonetized and that helps us you know bring in guests

00:01:13.300 pay overhead that sort of thing so okay so the reason I created this show is because I found

00:01:24.240 intersexual dynamics interesting and one of my goals in this whole process was I wanted to better

00:01:32.000 understand men and many women don't really care what men think or how they move but for me it

00:01:41.900 was something that I felt like would help me in the long haul. And one thing that I learned about

00:01:47.980 men is they very much value privacy. Men do not want their whole family shared on social media.

00:01:56.440 They don't, the things that they value most, they tend to want to not share with the world.

00:02:03.080 That's why men don't tend to like, and this is coming from someone that works in media,

00:02:07.360 They don't tend to like women that are in media or with public facing presence, right?

00:02:13.880 And there has been a trend of people online sharing their most intimate moments, like

00:02:25.100 the most intimate moments from their family.

00:02:28.060 And as an observer, what does this signal to me generally?

00:02:33.540 Now, it's one thing when it's a family Christmas photo once a year.

00:02:37.840 You know, Tucker Carlson does that. 1.00

00:02:39.580 I've seen Candace Owens do that. 0.54

00:02:41.620 And it's another thing when you're sharing the most intimate parts of your family and

00:02:47.260 your children's lives to the entire world for everyone to see.

00:02:53.540 Now, there is an age when kids are older, right, when they're 16 or 18, and they have

00:03:01.900 social media anyways.

00:03:03.280 it sort of becomes their choice that's one thing but the thing is when there is a lot of

00:03:15.200 we all know there's crazy people on the internet there's pedophiles that's one way that people 0.83

00:03:22.000 groom children right and what I see is this growing trend of mothers that just do not care 0.57

00:03:28.480 And I find it personally appalling that we're putting underage children's intimate details of their life, faces, day-to-day activities on the internet for everyone to see.

00:03:46.100 So there's this account that always comes up on my timeline.

00:03:50.740 And I don't know, maybe you guys think it's different.

00:03:55.060 I find this very strange.

00:03:56.480 And the argument I get from conservatives is that, you know, it's very nice and sweet to, you know, moment and we want to show families, right?

00:04:11.000 And it's not that I disagree with that, but when you look into the ways that pedophiles find victims, a lot of them find victims through the mother oversharing on the Internet.

00:04:27.420 So this is the video I saw.

00:04:30.120 I found it strange.

00:04:41.000 Just listen to your body.

00:04:57.240 Just listen to your body.

00:05:03.560 There we go.

00:05:04.980 There's baby.

00:05:05.940 Oh.

00:05:11.000 so i just i don't i've seen this other trend like um this really isn't any different than

00:05:25.640 that one um blue faces baby mother live streaming her birth like i just why are we showing

00:05:34.200 the entire world the most intimate parts of a family and my prediction is that in a couple

00:05:43.300 years there's going to be a lawsuit over some of this stuff because at some point there's going to

00:05:48.700 be a mother that takes using the family and the children for clout too far and that is really

00:05:58.140 I promise you we are going to see a lawsuit in my lifetime about this so that's my first story

00:06:05.940 second story of the day there is a picture going viral on Twitter and it's a picture of the corn

00:06:14.140 star Riley Reid now I obviously I'm not familiar with this woman's work but apparently she's done

00:06:21.540 some madness on the internet um she's had a lot of experiences online um

00:06:28.520 I don't know but this is the picture that's going viral of her and I'm guessing she did like a group

00:06:36.660 scene with these guys I don't really know and many times I hear from men that especially in

00:06:46.980 the space that women will get too old, too used up, and nobody will want them. And as nice of a

00:06:55.380 revenge fantasy that is, what I see more often is that there is always a simp. The male sex drive is

00:07:04.620 very, very, very, very strong. And you would be surprised at the level of damage a woman can do 1.00

00:07:15.900 and still walk down the aisle and let's just be objective guys this is a good looking guy I don't 1.00

00:07:22.440 know what he makes so maybe he's broke I don't know but objectively this guy is above average

00:07:28.400 in looks and this woman still gets a happy ending I mean a lot of happy endings apparently but

00:07:36.680 but um she still gets a happy ending even though she did all of that so 0.72

00:07:45.300 now I know I hear the guys will say it'll never last that's true we had the private investigator 0.98

00:07:51.960 on yesterday and he said himself that women that have this level of experience they always cheat

00:07:57.560 the relationships always end but do you know what I see happens next I mean Kim Kardashian was

00:08:05.280 married three times not one not two but three times um in that regard you know um

00:08:19.260 I just see some some other man maybe a lesser man right maybe not what she could have got five

00:08:26.420 years ago ten years ago but it just seems to the cycle just continues there's always someone that

00:08:33.360 says fine I'll do it I don't say this in a happy way I don't say this like I don't say this as if I

00:08:42.400 am happy about it but there's always a man who's gonna do it like always okay so the last story

00:08:55.740 today is something that I was dying to talk about when I saw it on Twitter so there's a woman named

00:09:04.000 Hannah Cox and she is a right-wing political conservative commentator and what you see with

00:09:12.080 conservative commentators is you see them as they get into their 30s and they don't get the attention

00:09:21.140 they used to get the red pill is just let's start with what is the red pill the red pill is men

00:09:29.980 coming together online and talking about their collective experiences together these are men

00:09:35.460 from all over the world it's not a movement there's no leader it's just the study of human

00:09:41.300 behavior and unfortunately when they say things like we're hitting the wall a lot this stuff can

00:09:49.560 be difficult for women to hear. When we really don't like to be reminded that we're aging.

00:09:57.200 We really don't like to be reminded that marriage isn't a great deal for men. Most of us were not

00:10:03.400 raised to be wives. This stuff is not things that women can process easily. Even me, I have a hard 1.00

00:10:15.760 time with it sometimes and some of the stuff when I first heard it was difficult for me to process 1.00

00:10:22.780 but you see women when they're in their 20s they don't really care and you see I saw that on my 1.00

00:10:28.500 show they might think it's silly they might laugh but they don't really care but when they get into 1.00

00:10:33.420 their 30s they go in full-on attack mode and what I think we can learn from this is women are 0.77

00:10:41.020 constantly asking men to be honest and the way that women react to the red pill oftentimes is 0.92

00:10:46.580 how they react to the men in their life because this is information that they don't like or

00:10:52.520 information that as a whole makes women look bad although we do a great job of just making

00:10:58.200 ourselves look bad with the level of you know debauchery that we all just put on the internet

00:11:04.540 right thirst traps dating stories etc so we kind of do that on our own but 1.00

00:11:11.360 so what you get in this is women getting triggered and they go on like a full-on 0.57

00:11:22.440 take down the red pill and why I find this unfortunate is because a lot of this information

00:11:30.500 will save men's life lives and when you're essentially gaslighting men into saying that

00:11:37.600 their experiences aren't real um you know you're essentially not letting men get the information

00:11:46.260 that they need so okay she says the red pill is invading america's court system featuring divorce

00:11:53.740 attorney corbin payne i mean it's it's almost like talking to cult survivor because they're

00:12:01.340 using english words it's just has a completely different meaning than what any of the rest of us

00:12:07.540 understand hey guys i'm hannah cox with base politics and you're watching my weekly show

00:12:11.800 histrionics for every week we tackle women's issues from a centrist point of view and guys

00:12:16.540 i have seen your comments i have seen them saying that i need to talk to more men

00:12:22.060 that I need to talk to people who work in the field and so I have listened I'm more than happy

00:12:27.500 to and today I have a very special guest I am so pleased to introduce you guys to my friend

00:12:34.440 Corbin Payne he has such a great and I want to tell you the pattern that I tend to see

00:12:40.040 now a lot of these things may seem like attacks but from my perspective they're simply observations

00:12:47.720 Now, I try to give, I'm always just looking for patterns, and generally what you get is you get a triggered woman who goes and gets, she ignores the thousands of men giving their experiences and coming together and having the same experiences with women, marriage, divorce, and they find a blue-pilled simp to back up their point of view, right?

00:13:13.320 Great background on these subjects. I'm going to give you a quick bio. He is the proud son of a U.S. Air Force family, which allowed him to live in six states, plus the District of Columbia, before ultimately settling down in East Tennessee.

00:13:25.520 He is an avid reader, writer, and history buff, and he has toured most major Civil War battlefields east of the Mississippi and is now touring them by bicycle, which is really cool.

00:13:35.440 Corbin graduated from the University of Tennessee with a lawyer degree, Juris Doctor, in 2015.

00:13:41.780 After a brief stint in mergers and acquisitions, he turned to trial advocacy in 2016.

00:13:47.060 He initially focused on criminal defense before expanding his practice to include family law,

00:13:52.840 juvenile law, and civil litigation. He has his undergraduate from Liberty University,

00:13:57.640 and he got his legal degree at the University of Tennessee School of Law. So please help me

00:14:03.420 welcome Corbin guys this is one of the people I talk to behind the scenes all the time he is a

00:14:09.260 wealth of information he has so much on the ground experience in these conversations I'm constantly

00:14:16.100 interested in his perspective I cannot wait for you guys to get to know him and learn more about

00:14:21.860 his work as well but before I jump into the actual reason you're here today Corbin how's it going in

00:14:26.260 East Tennessee are you flooded well no we got hit pretty hard in Knoxville but we we did not get

00:14:31.680 flooded here uh for uh but i know they're saying get to the point that's another thing i do this

00:14:37.840 too so i'm not i mean i've built a career out off and not getting to the point right

00:14:44.240 that's how i can go on for an hour but you know guys they're really listening for information

00:14:52.000 we prefer the stories all the fluff men are like get get to it then niagara falls has in a given

00:14:59.920 hour. So we cannot believe one for government work. Okay. I'm definitely keeping an eye on both

00:15:06.420 Tennessee and North Carolina right now and sending lots of prayers. And I've got a few people I know

00:15:10.760 personally on the ground there if you want to send money and resources to help with those

00:15:14.420 information. But I think that's the best kind of information a lot of the time. You can look at

00:15:19.640 statistics, you can look at polls, you can look at studies, and they, I think, are a tool in forming

00:15:25.420 opinions but as we well know they can also be manipulated they can be skewed and they don't

00:15:30.140 always give a completely accurate picture of what's going on on the ground and also they

00:15:35.660 tend to remove a lot of the human aspect to this and i think um corbin you know you and i've talked

00:15:41.500 like i can't stand a lot of the narratives coming out of the red pill community but i also recognize

00:15:46.860 so remember red pill all it is is men's experiences so when she says i can't stand

00:15:55.420 the opinions of the red pill she's saying i can't stand men's opinions that's what she's saying

00:16:01.980 because again this isn't one person this isn't a movement it's not a group it's just forums online

00:16:10.060 that's how it started recognize that a very simple principle repeats which is that hurt people hurt

00:16:15.740 people and a lot of the people who are and remember this is what women do who hurts you 1.00

00:16:21.980 that's their that's just another way that they try to guilt you into not having the opinion that 1.00

00:16:28.460 you have or having the experience you've had getting sucked into these narratives and these

00:16:32.540 world views are hurting they're not doing very well and that you know as somebody who truly cares

00:16:37.500 about individuals and and human liberty like it's something that i think we have to concern ourselves

00:16:42.140 with and you've talked a lot about how you're actually seeing many of these perspectives

00:16:47.340 and worldviews like actually seeping into the legal system yes i really have and that's been

00:16:53.820 that's been the really wild thing that i've i've personally witnessed um i'm a i'm i'm in my mid

00:17:00.140 third so i want to i want to point out something as a group we are very spoiled as women we have

00:17:08.860 no idea how safe men have made the world. Again, as a media personality, this is the best job on

00:17:18.180 the planet. This is not harder than a construction worker. This is not harder than a trucker.

00:17:24.900 And essentially, a lot of the men that this happens to, they're normal men in normal jobs,

00:17:31.220 like blue-collar jobs that get divorced great or have a poor experience with a woman. Many men,

00:17:37.740 by the time they're 22, either they themselves or they have seen someone close to them get falsely

00:17:43.000 accused of rape. They've seen a dad or an uncle get completely wrecked in a divorce. Yeah, you

00:17:50.040 can't out gaslight this stuff, right? You can't just say this isn't happening. And so, you know,

00:17:56.260 her, she's in really an easy job. Really, as women, we have not all, not all, but we often have

00:18:05.480 the less needed jobs in society and um i mean that's just statistically true and we're gonna

00:18:16.220 have the audacity to go to men that have gone through something actually difficult and say

00:18:21.860 who hurts you i just can't get behind that 30s i'm single i'm a man uh so i'm kind of the target

00:18:30.300 audience for this in many ways um and then there have been there have been points in time where

00:18:35.180 some of it has been a little bit like has spoken to me a little bit i've never been convinced

00:18:41.180 uh but hannah i've literally in the last two or three years wait hassan piker said that

00:18:49.100 streaming is harder than brain surgery oh my gosh I I'm flabbergasted I'm flabbergasted every day

00:19:02.960 I'm so sorry I know it's get to the point I just complained about I'm sorry but I need to just say

00:19:07.660 this every day I am flabbergasted by how ungrateful the people in my profession are

00:19:16.080 guys I am so happy to be here this is the best job I thank you daily I like seriously guys I

00:19:22.960 couldn't do this without you guys are amazing and oh my gosh to have the audacity the audacity to say

00:19:32.140 that this is harder than any job when we are the most blessed luckiest people on the planet get

00:19:38.780 out of here get out of here you're gonna say you have it harder than a trucker that has to go drive

00:19:44.540 10 hours or someone on an oil rig really gosh that's so annoying i've had some of the most

00:19:53.100 just most bizarre court experiences you could imagine nothing nothing law school ever prepared

00:19:59.100 me for where i literally had men walk in and try to hand me intimate photographs of their partner 0.93

00:20:06.220 because you know woman takes a picture like that and she's morally unfit to be a wife or or to have 0.59

00:20:14.300 or to have children in her care um and in every instance that's happened

00:20:21.980 the man has been in those photos with uh so either they were trying to distinct that past

00:20:27.980 the court but in the last few months uh when we pointed this out so the guy didn't even try to

00:20:34.060 try to cover up that fact uh he literally looked the court in the eye and said judge there's there's

00:20:39.660 different standards for men versus women men are more sexual women are not so if a woman is doing

00:20:46.540 this like that's just that's just beyond the tale um the judge had a facial expression kind of like

00:20:54.700 yours right now hannah um this is an older guy and uh uh i mean he would he just i mean i i thought

00:21:01.900 the judge had been punched in the face so um we're seeing stuff like that all the time um and i've

00:21:08.700 even had several instances where husband is trying to argue that that is a wife or ex-wife

00:21:17.020 is morally unfit a little more because she engaged in pre-marital sex and i felt a poking okay

00:21:25.100 now not not on this i meant on the other one yeah because on the because it went off on the mic but

00:21:31.100 So guys, he's saying that a trend in divorce court, no. First, let's talk about the incentives here. What are their incentives? So remember, if you're a lawyer, who are your customers?

00:21:49.180 Now, have I met lawyers that I believed were honest? Of course. But do you think that lawyers

00:21:59.740 can be truly open about the realities of divorce court for men when they make a living

00:22:09.560 stealing money from men? That's their job. 1.00

00:22:12.680 now I'm not saying it's moral or immoral maybe I'm implying right but that's their job so let's

00:22:23.580 consider the source right that's one and two are men demanding virginity is there any stat out

00:22:31.040 there that says you know what in order to get married men across the board got together and

00:22:36.340 said yes we will not have sex with you guys until marriage and if you've had sex with anyone else

00:22:42.660 you're done we i can't do it no like that's it's the stats will tell you it's like 0.05 percent 0.97

00:22:52.200 of women or two percent and if they're attractive maybe one go find your needle in a haystack i

00:22:58.740 don't care but that's not that's not a normal regular thing nowadays in my shoulder and my

00:23:04.680 clients going with him um but that that doesn't seem to matter and i want to be clear

00:23:12.540 By and large, that is not the norm of what you see.

00:23:19.500 Part of why it's so shocking is because it doesn't happen as often.

00:23:25.660 But I've spoken with judges.

00:23:28.120 I've kind of mentioned some of these same stories.

00:23:30.860 Other lawyers have been like, I've seen something like that.

00:23:34.100 Judges are talking about this.

00:23:36.140 and there's a couple of judges

00:23:39.380 who are the least online people I've ever met

00:23:42.880 and they are talking about

00:23:45.660 I mean they're using terms like red pill and incel

00:23:48.700 because they're having to see some of the effects of this

00:23:52.240 so I think broadly

00:23:54.900 the way it's being addressed

00:23:57.600 in some of the things I'm seeing

00:24:00.320 written by other lawyers, by judges

00:24:02.180 it's just, you know, they talk about it

00:24:06.140 in terms of like narcissism or entitlement from men um but i and and frankly i didn't know a whole

00:24:14.860 lot about the red pill community until i started following you started following um i think her

00:24:20.540 name is ali cluff or uh maybe your honor of the name on twitter um and i went oh this is some of

00:24:27.340 what i've been seeing i'm just hearing this presented to a judge and this is most of this

00:24:32.940 has been okay so he's getting his information from women so again women dilute the red pill

00:24:41.100 they dilute it and presented just in complete sincerity um you're not you're not having guys

00:24:48.300 come in and you know nodding and winking they're they're they really believe this stuff and i mean

00:24:56.140 it's it's almost like talking to cult survivor because they're using english words it's just

00:25:02.540 it has a completely different meaning than what any of the rest of us understand that's such a

00:25:07.660 good description because i i definitely see like that kind of cult-like mentality that is seeping

00:25:12.380 in where the the reason has left the room the logic's not there even when presented with

00:25:17.740 evidence that counters their viewpoints on many things they cannot let it go they refuse to you

00:25:23.580 know absorb the information okay let's let's take let's say you're a truck driver in middle america

00:25:29.260 and you're 40 years old and you're unmarried and so far in your life the men that you have

00:25:35.740 grown up with the majority are now divorced and you saw your father get divorced and

00:25:44.860 you saw your friend get falsely accused will this random woman on the internet saying stats to you

00:25:53.020 change your opinion on this when you in your real life have seen many men affected by divorce now

00:26:00.620 younger men that don't have life experience have a tendency to maybe overlook some of this stuff

00:26:07.740 right but men that have been the average divorce is around the age of

00:26:13.260 i think it's 37 for women five years older i'd have to relook but 1.00

00:26:17.500 But generally speaking, women, generally speaking, it doesn't matter what stat she brings up if you

00:26:31.680 have seen the men in your life affected by this stuff firsthand. And again, this shows how women 0.95

00:26:38.860 react when men open up to us. There's no sympathy. Imagine telling a woman your divorce story

00:26:46.700 just to have her come back to you with well that's not true because of this stat

00:26:52.960 again the way women react to this tends to be how they react to the men in their life

00:26:59.600 they have lost the capacity to change their beliefs when provided with more evidence

00:27:04.360 and i think i think it's a great idea how sitters get somewhere to get i don't know my premium run

00:27:11.020 out or am i in a different account happening later it catches my interest you know you and i are both

00:27:16.080 big into history we know a lot about how these kinds of things tend to go and so it is it's a

00:27:21.380 huge red flag to me it's a huge warning sign that's one reason i started the show it's very

00:27:25.560 important to push back and push back early when you see these movements starting to gain steam

00:27:30.600 you know i was like you and i've said on the show before i have always had very healthy happy

00:27:35.280 relationships with men as a whole so i was kind of caught off guard by some of this when i saw it

00:27:40.280 really starting so oftentimes women we think we've had healthy happy relationships right

00:27:47.900 but what we're not aware of is many men suffer in silence because respect is love to men and

00:27:57.700 how many women consult their husbands or their boyfriends before making a decision that affects

00:28:04.160 both of them i would say it's abnormal and many men endure a ton in marriage and relationships 0.59

00:28:13.920 and they just don't say anything men don't really complain and they're much more content than women

00:28:21.920 so you know this is

00:28:27.600 anyways i'm just going to get traction online and interestingly enough it was when i started dating

00:28:32.960 logan my now husband who you know of course but um you know he had gone through a divorce a few

00:28:36.960 years before we met and his algorithm on instagram was feeding him like pearl and a lot of the red

00:28:43.520 pill con this is what made me react to you today ma'am this is why i'm here you said my name now

00:28:52.960 i'm here because obviously they had pegged him they're like hey you're a single guy who got

00:28:57.120 divorced like your prime audience for this right and thankfully he's not but um he was he initially

00:29:02.400 started showing it to me and that was how i first started hearing a lot of these narratives and you

00:29:06.800 know i knew enough about the data to say hold on like some of these things aren't adding up you

00:29:10.880 know just on their face when you start digging in i think a lot of it falls apart quickly so i want

00:29:15.760 to get into a lot of that with you i mean when i both come from a christian worldview i know that's

00:29:20.960 something very important to you like i hate divorce i think you hate divorce um but at the end of the

00:29:25.760 today, I feel like I try to segment out my religious personal and even romantic views

00:29:33.020 when it comes to this topic, because when you're talking about marriage, in terms of

00:29:38.360 the court system, you're talking about a government contract. And I think for, you know, purposes

00:29:44.820 of keeping the law passion free, you have to be able to really look at this through the lens of

00:29:51.040 how an attorney or a judge or the legal system is approachable and can you touch a little bit more

00:29:56.320 on that because i think we often forget ultimately that like yes you have your emotions and your

00:30:00.960 feelings around the subject but then there's also this like very dry mentality and and approach that

00:30:07.760 you have to think about it when it comes to the government and the court system yeah and that's

00:30:12.560 a good dispassionate or passionless is a great way to describe it because when i have walked

00:30:18.400 clients through a divorce and we're standing in front of the judge the judge is asking some just

00:30:23.760 really basic questions like who gets the house who gets the bank accounts etc and just signs

00:30:28.880 a document and it is the probably the biggest letdown ever especially compared to how a

00:30:34.800 marriage starts with a wedding but a in terms of the law a marriage is is is is basically like a

00:30:43.920 partnership um and i don't want to be like super unromantic or too passionless here because um

00:30:51.280 there are religious definitions there are personal held personally held beliefs there's

00:30:56.000 there's romance there's there's all that uh and that's all true but when it comes to the law the

00:31:01.600 law looks at this as a contract as a partnership so they can't really deal too much with the

00:31:12.080 personal relationship side of things so you're very rarely going to get in there and have a judge

00:31:18.640 shake their finger at somebody for bad behavior for instance um to it to an extent um but they're

00:31:27.040 going to be looking at things like how often do do kids go with mom versus kids go with dad okay

00:31:36.080 Okay. Now, on paper, you would think, and this is what a lot of people from a more traditionalist

00:31:45.200 worldview, this is how they see it. Oh, because what he's going to say is that how it's set up

00:31:52.160 is the person that spends the most time with the children gets to stay with the kids. There's a

00:31:58.900 couple issues that you have with this. The first issue is that women can issue temporary restraining 0.99

00:32:05.160 orders very easily so what happens is women issue these restraining orders and during COVID

00:32:13.600 especially it would take sometimes a year to actually get into court because there was such 1.00

00:32:18.660 a backup one there's an increase in divorces and there was a backup in the court system

00:32:23.320 so what would happen is they would say well who spent the most time with the child and the woman

00:32:28.720 would say me and it would be pretty much set based on the custody arrangement will be based

00:32:35.740 off of that but how is that fair when she kidnapped the child to start and this was I 0.99

00:32:45.300 heard the same I would hear the same story in states like California in states like 0.96

00:32:51.540 Texas in Britain it would be all over the U.S. they would have this same story where the woman

00:32:58.500 got a restraining order, kicked the guy out of the house that he was paying for,

00:33:05.160 and then by the time he gets to court, now he doesn't get access to his children. So that's one.

00:33:15.700 The second issue is why are men punished for being traditional? So what if a man wants to

00:33:23.020 be the provider in his home and he wants his wife to stay home isn't that ideal for the children

00:33:29.980 and now you're in a situation where you're actually financially punishing men for providing

00:33:36.460 for their wives and you know i've covered you know i covered a case of a pastor who had seven

00:33:46.540 children and his wife did the exact same thing. He was the pastor at a church. She called him

00:33:53.200 abusive and the thing is they switch the definition of abuse and they increase it so they include

00:33:59.540 things like financial abuse, emotional abuse. So if you tell your wife no you can't buy that

00:34:04.260 in some instances in court they use that against you. Now that's the issue with what he's talking

00:34:13.780 about is that because of this law which is the best interest of the child and what that tends

00:34:22.740 to default to we don't know it but because we're in a gynocentric society everybody assumes that

00:34:29.300 the best interest of the child is with the mother now there's actually no data that supports that 0.56

00:34:36.340 infanticide which is when a child dies within the first year of life if a child is killed in

00:34:43.060 in the first year. Police don't even profile for men because it is so likely that it is going to

00:34:51.000 be a woman. Women are the ones that tend to throw their children in dumpsters. They're the one who 1.00

00:34:56.880 abort their kids. One out of three has an abortion. But even past infants, women are the more likely 1.00

00:35:03.820 one to abuse children. Now, what conservatives, because again, they don't like putting out 1.00

00:35:10.740 information that makes women look bad they hate doing this so what they do is they'll use deceptive

00:35:18.600 stats and what they'll include for the father is stepfathers in the abuse stats so when they show

00:35:26.240 you a stat that says it's 50 50 they usually include the stepdad but if you take out the

00:35:30.520 stepdad it's unanimously women and if it's not the father the second most likely is the man that

00:35:38.180 the woman brought into the kid's life so who's responsible for that right and that's where I get

00:35:46.860 frustrated is a lot of these guys so men that have experienced with women sometimes men grow

00:35:52.500 up with sisters and they figure this out right because you get to see a different side of of

00:35:57.740 women we are just better at deceiving we're better liars right in general so men that grow up with

00:36:05.660 sisters or dated a lot they can kind of see through this stuff oftentimes if a guy hasn't

00:36:11.500 had those experiences he has a tendency to be fooled much more um and i've exclusively worked

00:36:21.020 in heterosexual marriages by the way so i'm that's the language i'm using um they're looking

00:36:26.380 at things like what's the total value of all the assets that are accrued by the couple during the

00:36:32.860 the marriage and how do we how do we equitably split that up there are other things that speak

00:36:39.380 into this it could be a prenuptial agreement it could be some of the assets came into the marriage

00:36:44.400 exclusively through one now prenups do alleviate some of the risk however a lot of prenups are

00:36:53.780 thrown out that is not unheard of and what I've heard from men is that at times it can protect

00:37:05.520 you if you don't have children but once you have children child support is always on the table

00:37:10.880 and 18 years is a long like you know because a lot of women get triggered by this stuff or they

00:37:18.120 get upset but you know they're imagine paying 500 every month for 18 years most couples are all it's

00:37:30.680 not uncommon for couples to break up in the first two years of the kid's life so nine months of

00:37:35.400 pregnancy and a year so at a year old so that's 17 imagine imagine looking into your future and

00:37:42.600 knowing that every time you get a promotion or you get more money that you are going to get dragged

00:37:49.220 to court and she is going to take it because you wanted to be a traditional husband and allow your

00:37:58.600 wife to stay home because we had the guy um we had we we had um a child support officer come on and

00:38:08.500 tell you that how child support is calculated it's simply a calculator so you know one way

00:38:21.040 that men can alleviate risk is to marry a woman with similar earning potential and now

00:38:29.140 who suffers now the children so this whole situation is a lose-lose and what they'll

00:38:34.400 do and it's like a catch-22 is they'll say well the law doesn't specifically say men

00:38:40.320 well okay do women date men that make less than them generally speaking no

00:38:47.920 who earns more in relationships men or women okay so since we know that

00:38:54.960 who does this law writ what this law written this way affect its men and the issue is social

00:39:01.840 security is tied to this stuff so states don't get social security programs if they don't

00:39:07.380 have a child support if they're not collecting child support in that state so this is implemented

00:39:12.400 at a federal level they can they can even take away men's gun licenses and fishing licenses

00:39:18.380 they can take the money directly from their bank account so yeah they said that doesn't 1.00

00:39:27.620 work dating a high-earning woman. Well, that's the point. There's no way for a man to have a 0.97

00:39:33.660 family and not have any risk. That's the problem.

00:39:38.540 Bows versus the other. The question of who gets the kids is always a complicated one,

00:39:46.320 but that's how the law looks. It is a partnership. It is generally held, and this is something that

00:39:55.700 can go in and argue against and convince the judge that doesn't apply here but generally it

00:40:00.500 is held that both partners are equally contributing to any marriage but any assets go to them about 50

00:40:08.500 50. um i know that most judges are going to i think everybody's going to want to try to put the kids

00:40:17.060 as close to equal with both parents as possible that's not always possible though um so that's

00:40:24.100 kind of a longish rambling answer but it's hard to just put this into just a simple easy definition

00:40:30.420 this is how ai optimizes my okay it's going to keep going one second there's so many things

00:40:38.580 that come up in this conversation but i guess the thing that i find so interesting is when you hear

00:40:43.300 a lot of these narratives happening and this is something i hear both men and women saying

00:40:46.900 actually so i don't want to say this is just red pill this is also fourth wave feminism that's

00:40:50.340 pushing this narrative too but so this is what they try to do what i'm describing is a valid

00:40:56.100 concern and what the the this is why i get so frustrated with traditional conservatives because

00:41:03.540 they gaslight you into eternity these are valid concerns it is completely valid for a guy to look

00:41:11.780 at this and say you know what 18 years is a long time i don't want to risk that

00:41:20.340 getting to be a wife and a mother is a privilege we are not entitled to that and what i don't like

00:41:27.860 is entitlement it drives me nuts so what i see is they try to say that this 0.98

00:41:34.900 is the same thing as feminism now feminism is a supremacy movement

00:41:41.780 it is women asking for all of the freedom without the responsibility of men

00:41:50.340 it is a hate group men saying you know what that's not a good deal that is not the same thing

00:41:58.340 and the fact that you think it's the same thing shows the lack of empathy you have for men and

00:42:05.700 their issues because men never complain they're never pandered to any election cycle and anytime

00:42:12.580 their issues are brought up you get privileged commentators telling them gaslighting them and

00:42:20.180 saying that their issues are not real and that's what i can't stand because there's so many men

00:42:25.460 out there going crazy because this system has driven them to insanity and i've seen it

00:42:35.140 you know there i've said this so many times i would have men in my office and they would be

00:42:39.940 pouring their hearts out telling me how badly they wanted to see their children and to be honest

00:42:45.540 guys all the men that have worked with men going through divorce over long periods of time there's

00:42:52.420 a good percentage of them that end up killing themselves in the process it it's sad and that's

00:42:58.980 why i don't think this is funny and this this is a serious issue and because it hurts women's

00:43:07.380 feelings they try to dilute what is true saying essentially you should not get married there's no

00:43:14.580 benefit for marriage the law is stacked against people it it does not seem that way for the most

00:43:20.980 part to me i mean and first and foremost i would say why don't more people get a prenup like to me

00:43:26.100 you know i love my husband i i have a romantic attachment to our marriage i have a religious

00:43:30.580 attachment to marriage but i also recognize when we got married like we are going into a business

00:43:34.340 relationship i own two companies like he is you know we're both in our mid-30s like we are going

00:43:39.540 to have a prenup i don't really believe in divorce but you you never know what's going to happen

00:43:43.700 ultimately you can't control another person and a lot of these fears that people really seem to

00:43:48.580 harp on about it's like you can just actually go ahead and mitigate some of that by having a actual

00:43:53.860 contract that you determine you know you wouldn't go into business with somebody again if it was

00:43:58.980 that simple wouldn't men have done it don't i men are getting prenups i'm it is a way to mitigate 0.96

00:44:08.580 some of the risk but to act like that is a guarantee is foolish that's foolish i would

00:44:16.740 think most of the time without having contracts and stipulations and and asset divisions and it

00:44:22.100 kind of blows my mind i mean from my perspective how few people seem to approach it that way has

00:44:26.820 that been your experience as well yes i think probably the number one reason people don't get

00:44:32.980 prenups is it just feels unromantic unsexy passionless whatever you're taking something

00:44:39.780 exciting and then you're having a legal discussion about the practical effects of what this

00:44:45.220 relationship is going to look like additionally a lot of people feel that a prenup is planning

00:44:52.260 for divorce. And you need to have this attitude of divorce will never happen. But I don't want to

00:45:01.980 get too rabbit-traily here, but with prenups, very often they also determine what happens

00:45:09.780 with assets upon the death of one spouse. Plenty of marriages get to the death parts them

00:45:17.640 point um and there are laws in place about who gets to inherit what so a lot of times you want

00:45:25.640 to set something like that actually you figure something like that out prior to the marriage

00:45:30.600 prior to doing wills together so so all that gets gets handled so i i am i'm a fan of prenups and i

00:45:39.480 i don't think it necessarily is plain failure right i think that people just have to you know

00:45:44.380 you have to kind of switch you have to switch between your mentalities it's like you can enjoy

00:45:47.820 the romantic part and lean into that have fun but also you need to do the basics to protect yourself

00:45:53.020 and it seems like that would really go a long way um but to get back to some of the actual red pill

00:45:58.460 narratives you know first and foremost i want to talk to you about the infamous statistic that over

00:46:04.860 80 percent of divorces are initiated by the women now obviously i have pushed back on that and i

00:46:10.540 think this is a something i'm passionate about people don't know how to read data they really

00:46:15.340 have not been taught how to interpret data or to really ascertain its full weight because you know

00:46:20.220 that's a statistic that when you hear it if you understand how to read data you obviously say

00:46:24.540 well just because they are filing the paperwork does not mean they are initiating the divorce

00:46:29.340 so anecdotally um you know as i would i mean technically they are i didn't say it's they're

00:46:36.620 responsible always but they are initiating what are you talking about lady also guys like the

00:46:44.940 video um a like is free so please like the video we are demonetized so sign up to the audacity

00:46:50.380 network.com if you want to support my work so i can spread out the actual accurate information

00:46:56.780 because half of these women are just here to confuse you so please we're demonetized so it 0.79

00:47:02.060 really helps expect there's a lot more to it than simply who files i think most divorces i would say

00:47:07.500 there's two people usually contributing right like it's very probably really that one person

00:47:12.140 who's gone rogue and is burning the whole thing down but you know talk to us about that like what

00:47:16.220 your experiences look like on the ground on that front yeah so if we're talking about the the

00:47:20.700 initial filers i would say it's not quite 50 50. i think probably i've seen more women uh file first

00:47:29.980 than men do but it's not it's not usually above 50 50. so the the maybe the national trend is 80

00:47:39.020 of women filed first i think it's 70 to 80. i don't know uh but what i've seen is is i don't

00:47:45.500 know maybe 60 40 55 45 something like that so if women and men are filing about equally would you

00:47:52.140 also you know it frustrates me he just said 60 40 is that equal or is that unequal

00:48:03.740 okay i'm just say that they are contributing so this is another what about so oftentimes

00:48:11.900 because it's literally a psychological term called the women are wonderful syndrome 0.78

00:48:16.860 whenever we put out information that makes our gender look bad and and women like the women

00:48:24.540 watching we don't want to be pandered to i don't i find this offensive i really do i i'm really sick

00:48:31.660 of men that are afraid of women freaking out and our emotions okay we have emotions it is what it

00:48:38.300 is, but I don't like it. I'm tired of it. And we all know that we are the ones that file for

00:48:50.260 divorce. And when men cite reasons for divorce, the top reasons tend to be things like infidelity,

00:48:58.240 abuse. And we all know that infidelity for men and for women is not the same. Women cheat to leave,

00:49:03.900 men cheat because they're horny you know they just I mean I'm not saying that never happens 0.79

00:49:09.960 but we we can speak in general right so yeah per google search 70 percent I know I know I know it's 0.65

00:49:19.560 not equal so you can say it's about equal but that's not accurate and this is the same woman 0.99

00:49:24.800 that's saying oh what about the stats I'm trying to swear less but bitch like I'm sorry I'm sorry 1.00

00:49:33.560 but i'm like lady you just said that you were the queen of snaps you just said it you just i thought 1.00

00:49:41.320 anyways i'm gonna i'm gonna calm down but like divorce like is it typically i mean 0.98

00:49:46.120 i will say this i do think women are more likely to leave a relationship that

00:49:55.480 this is like ultimate gaslighting

00:49:57.960 okay all right did you guys see this did you okay she started with they just don't know how to read

00:50:07.040 stats then he gave her a stat that said women file for divorce more than men

00:50:13.840 then she said it's a well it's about equal

00:50:17.980 and now she's back now she's back 0.99

00:50:25.860 to saying that women divorce more you're driving me nuts which which is it does not surprise me 0.62

00:50:35.640 and that's because i think women as a whole tend to have a higher emotional iq and are therefore 0.74

00:50:41.360 more tuned to problems in the relationship and are less uh capable i think of staying in that

00:50:47.320 kind of discomfort they're less willing to just be miserable for let me translate okay let me get 1.00

00:50:53.500 this straight let me just I just want to okay a hundred years ago ladies ladies and I just I want 0.84

00:51:00.580 to put it into perspective a hundred years ago we had to birth seven children right we had to be on

00:51:08.380 a farm I mean have you watched I want you guys to you know what I'm going to show you guys let's

00:51:15.180 let's look at what I'm going to look up a day in the life of the Amish and you tell me you tell me 1.00

00:51:21.740 if of the Amish if really we have it so bad now so we used to have to 1.00

00:51:30.920 wait and they look very happy this isn't we live 50 hours but let's just let's just look at okay 1.00

00:51:38.760 let me get into the I'm gonna skip through it but we would have to do a bunch of farm work

00:51:45.400 um watch all these kids churn butter okay this they're not really doing stuff I think they're

00:51:53.780 just talking this video um but which is fine they they you know they had their stuff that was I'm

00:52:04.320 trying to find it there's one that showed like the women's the way that women used to do laundry

00:52:08.980 and it just looked so hard I was like that would take forever that would literally take forever 0.99

00:52:15.200 I left the Amish and now we can live in air conditioned apartments right where we can 0.95

00:52:23.760 do we can work from home and do a desk job okay like this stuff I mean this looks pretty 0.96

00:52:31.440 hard I don't know I mean so they're they're getting their bees you know now again they

00:52:44.380 look very happy look at them but i'm all i'm saying is i think this stuff would be more difficult than

00:52:51.980 what we have to do today right am i crazy i don't know and yet we let me okay just we can live in an

00:53:02.220 apartment in a city be within walking distance of chipotle and starbucks and be fed in 10 minutes

00:53:11.420 or get an air fryer and have a full meal that takes you 20 minutes to make 0.97

00:53:15.900 and air conditioning and get a human resources job on our laptop while our husband's at work.

00:53:23.840 And we can't figure out how to be happy.

00:53:30.180 I get a little frustrated by this stuff.

00:53:33.920 Now, it's your life.

00:53:37.580 If you want to blow up your relationship, I don't care.

00:53:40.180 I'm going to keep on living.

00:53:41.420 it's totally fine do what you want but this is where I just start to view us a bit as brats

00:53:51.740 because we're not doing the hard jobs in society and we're still complaining like we're still

00:53:57.220 we're not doing all of the infrastructure jobs we're not working on the oil rigs there's men

00:54:04.080 that die every year trying to get us oysters so we can eat them they die they literally pass away

00:54:11.760 and we have the audacity to complain it just drives me nuts for the foreseeable future and stay

00:54:19.920 in a relationship whether marriage or dating where they're not getting their needs met and

00:54:24.080 the second thing i would add is that you know i i think in my experience and also my research

00:54:29.600 men do continue to benefit more than women from marriages i wouldn't say it's like drastically

00:54:33.920 skewed one way or the other but as a whole men do tend to get more work around the house women still

00:54:40.000 do most of the child rearing work and so they are getting additional benefits from a relationship 0.94

00:54:45.120 that a woman more often than not is not absorbing so i would say i'm not surprised if women do cause 0.99

00:54:51.600 most divorces okay let me get this straight so again the average woman has one child maybe two

00:55:01.200 let me i just wanna i just wanna i just wanna like talk this through and you decided that for

00:55:07.280 my one kid that i'm raising that i can put in public school so after about five years i can

00:55:12.800 throw that kid in public school you don't even have to see the kid all day like you can now the

00:55:18.000 teachers watch him right cool great amazing you don't even have to pay for it that and you could

00:55:24.640 do this in a two or three bedroom apartment now i know i know we all want houses okay maybe you get

00:55:31.680 at a townhouse I don't know but you can work your HR job so you can do that so let me get this

00:55:37.660 straight we have Roombas we have air fryers and we have Chipotle and you're gonna divorce your

00:55:55.160 husband over cleaning up after one kid when our great great great grandmothers

00:56:02.280 on average had seven and they stuck it out do what you want i don't care it's your life but

00:56:10.120 do you see how i don't really take this complaint that seriously do you do you guys see where i get

00:56:16.920 a little bit frustrated but i would say that that's not necessarily causing it right if you

00:56:22.440 You are in a situation where you are the person doing the bulk of the labor, the bulk of the child rearing, your husband's checked out.

00:56:28.340 You know, what does that actually look like in your experience?

00:56:31.080 I think the vast majority of divorces, where we're at a point where one or both spouses are like, we're done, is serious discontent.

00:56:43.040 I don't see as much abuse or even adultery.

00:56:47.960 I see mostly just where people have gotten discontent.

00:56:51.220 And I would say that the majority of the time, you've got, well, it's like I was saying earlier, where marriage is basically a partnership.

00:57:01.200 Most marriages fail when one or both of the spouses stop acting like it's a partnership.

00:57:07.340 And the way that I see that usually play out is one partner checks out, the other partner gets resentful about it, and the resentfulness drives more checked out.

00:57:17.960 the checked out drives more resentfulness and they just yeah so men check out when we annoy them so

00:57:24.840 much that they just don't feel like dealing with us anymore i mean there's a saying you can't

00:57:30.040 negotiate with terrorists and i you know i really believe that because i mean they've given us

00:57:36.040 everything we're still not happy so at some point men they just suffer in silence they just let us

00:57:45.240 whine and complain and they just go on with their video games or whatever their anime or

00:57:51.000 their bitcoin whatever they want to do you know um so and honestly if your guy's checking out

00:58:02.120 that's that's kind of your fault like you've had all this time to study him and figure out what 1.00

00:58:08.280 he likes and what he doesn't like i mean you should hear how gold diggers talk okay the women

00:58:16.360 that treat getting a husband like a job they have like notes of all the things the it's like when 1.00

00:58:23.960 women will go to games right like athlete or trying they're trying to snag like a rich guy 0.77

00:58:29.880 so they'll go to the box seats or the and they'll research the heck out of these men they'll have

00:58:35.160 notes of all the topics they like to talk about imagine having a woman or a guy pay that much

00:58:40.880 attention where they have detailed notes of everything you like and don't like and know

00:58:45.960 exactly how to behave i'm not saying we should do that all i'm saying is i mean a lot of those 0.99

00:58:53.180 women pull it off i mean not a lot but a significant i mean you should they have schools

00:58:58.940 for this in russia it's like a thing they're they're dying they just there's it's a doom 1.00

00:59:04.620 spiral yeah they said god forbid she has to load a dishwasher they don't come out of it um

00:59:12.220 generally speaking um this is i'd say about and i'm being very broad here about two-thirds of the

00:59:20.380 time i would say that it was the man who was the one checking out um usually they're looking around

00:59:28.300 going, you know, man, I work all day and I go home to somebody who wants me to work more

00:59:33.500 around the house or whatever, contribute to taking care of the kids. They're not satisfied

00:59:41.340 with the state or the quality of physical intimacy. So they start looking around going,

00:59:49.040 I think I could do better or I could be happier. And that may not mean that they're actively

00:59:57.580 pursuing like affairs or something but i mean they could this could be completely 100 in their head

01:00:03.660 but they're checked out and you've got see the difference is

01:00:09.020 see men have to compete with other men for women women have to compete with silence

01:00:16.540 men will dump women for not even another woman like a lot of times we think it's another woman

01:00:21.900 but they just want their silence and the nagging to stop the other spouse again usually the

01:00:27.260 and if that's your husband that's your fault it's time to you know start studying what he likes what

01:00:33.020 he doesn't like men study us they have whole books on what women like to talk about it's kind of nice

01:00:38.380 actually i mean i don't like horoscopes but guys will tell other guys to talk about horoscopes on

01:00:44.860 first dates it's not my thing but i mean isn't that kind of nice that they've been so kind to

01:00:50.860 figure out what we actually enjoy talking about isn't that considerate no wise who's going you

01:00:58.620 know we both work all day he's a you know a job i'm here at the house taking care of the kids

01:01:05.260 what or maybe working herself and they're both coming home at the end of the day and uh she

01:01:13.020 kind of wants to not do all the work herself and he's thinking that he's worked enough for the day

01:01:20.860 and she can do whatever else needs doing.

01:01:24.560 And it's usually in this.

01:01:26.900 Hard to recover, it's possible to recover from that, it's hard.

01:01:29.640 It seems to be that there's this perception

01:01:31.900 that I find really odd.

01:01:32.780 Like there's this push I'm noticing from the right

01:01:34.820 and from the red pill and trad cons

01:01:36.500 and you know, these different populations online 1.00

01:01:38.480 for women to like go back into being stay at home.

01:01:41.460 So that's a huge push, you know, 1.00

01:01:42.640 women should stay with their kids. 1.00

01:01:44.580 But. 1.00

01:01:45.420 I mean, at this point, guys, we have one kid to watch.

01:01:52.960 The matter is, I feel like even when men want women to do those roles, like there's often an undervaluing of how much work that is.

01:02:00.560 I was one of four.

01:02:01.620 My mom homeschooled us.

01:02:02.620 She did stay home with us.

01:02:03.900 And I think it's why I don't have kids.

01:02:05.240 You know, I looked at that and I was like, catch me never.

01:02:07.400 This is not.

01:02:08.060 again what i see here is an overvaluing of our jobs now i know we've heard this

01:02:21.500 for decades we've heard that a mother is the most important and the hardest job on the planet

01:02:30.960 it i just don't believe it i mean all right let me just hold on i just just so you guys can see what

01:02:37.180 a day in the life on an oil rig this just seems harder to me i mean i don't know i could be wrong

01:02:46.980 but i just i mean call me crazy and welcome to noctis on youtube

01:02:56.960 these oil refineries and gas wells to meet the energy demands of the world's population

01:03:02.720 the oil industry is the center of the world's economy okay so let me just do that

01:03:08.560 a day in the life of a mom of let's do seven let's do i'm sure there's a vlog yeah so

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01:03:20.320 let me sound on side and we're gonna give them their space for that and i'm gonna take the older

01:03:28.800 kids into town to pick up a few things for what we're doing for the rest of the day i put a whole

01:03:34.320 chicken in the oven i just drizzled it with some olive oil and now i'm not saying this isn't

01:03:40.000 difficult right so now look at she prepares the food oh she's she's actually

01:03:50.320 a decent mom she doesn't use her kids in this that's actually good but okay we got her the 1.00

01:03:57.360 flowers now again most women don't have seven children let's just call it but 1.00

01:04:08.000 they love to sleep in but our two little ones are still up pretty early in the mornings and so

01:04:14.320 we just let them snuggle in bed with us um and a lot of times we'll give them a little snack

01:04:18.800 or let them watch a show or play a game i mean again again again what i'm not saying i'd like

01:04:24.640 to say what i'm not saying is that is that being a mother is an easy job does this environment

01:04:36.720 terrify you imagine being surrounded by nothing but the endless experience this is the daily

01:04:42.080 reality on an offshore oil drilling platform here the waves of the ocean can be intimidating

01:04:48.320 rising and falling with an unpredictable force that okay we got that and then we got game

01:04:54.880 and just kind of have a slow and easy start to the morning

01:04:59.360 she said it herself a slow and easy start to the morning

01:05:07.440 so our youngest son takes some medications in the morning for seizures and so we want to make sure

01:05:11.600 that he's not on an empty stomach um for a healthier breakfast a little bit later that morning

01:05:18.320 and then our final kiddo made it downstairs this time it was our daughter Penelope to be the last

01:05:25.060 one downstairs now she does some laundry you know again again guys so again I just want to

01:05:32.240 I want to reiterate I'm not saying it's easy but if I had to pick if I if I okay gun to my head

01:05:42.420 and they said pearl that oil rig job or you could watch seven children

01:05:55.220 now the issue is now while no job is easy per se it all requires work

01:06:05.300 i would say that we don't tend to take the jobs that require the most work

01:06:12.420 So anyways, it's a hard job and yet we complain more and yet we complain, it drives me mad.

01:06:24.300 Not what I want to be doing and pass, but like for people who opt into that, you know,

01:06:30.120 I think that if, if we want to see more people choosing those kinds of pathways, then I think

01:06:35.740 one, they have to be treated as valuable.

01:06:38.440 And then two, I think there has to be recognition.

01:06:40.120 We have a whole day.

01:06:42.420 We, we have a whole day in this country to celebrating mothers.

01:06:49.360 I mean, what more, what more do we, we have an entire day.

01:06:55.280 Ignition of like, that is a 24 hour job, you know, if it's.

01:06:59.400 And again, it's a selfish mindset.

01:07:02.280 It's me, me, me.

01:07:03.120 I need more credit.

01:07:04.540 What do you, what do you, what do we want?

01:07:07.360 If you go to work nine to five, like, yeah, you do still have to do some

01:07:10.420 stuff when you come home. 0.88

01:07:11.320 her job can't be 24 seven while yours is nine to five. 0.92

01:07:14.040 That's very unequal. 0.99

01:07:15.880 And I can only imagine as a woman getting very fed up

01:07:19.480 in those kinds of circumstances and situations.

01:07:22.240 It's a very parallel world to the one, you know,

01:07:25.080 I've lived and built for myself, 0.88

01:07:26.440 but I have a lot of empathy for women who I hear discussing,

01:07:30.160 you know, how life has been like for them

01:07:32.280 in those situations and why they would then

01:07:34.240 be more attracted to the workforce. 1.00

01:07:36.360 I've even heard a lot of women saying on TikTok 1.00

01:07:38.560 in particular who got divorced,

01:07:40.520 was already a single parent this didn't change anything for me like i was already operating like

01:07:45.080 a single parent in the marriage now i just don't have a man child i'm having to take care of and

01:07:49.320 you know i find that to be pretty to the younger women watching okay when women refer to their

01:07:56.360 husbands as man children that is so disrespectful that is the most disrespectful thing it's not cute

01:08:02.760 it's not funny and i don't know why women do that don't women that do that really should be by

01:08:09.160 themselves it says so much more about the woman than it does the man because what it says is that

01:08:16.760 she is resentful and she's nagging she will find something wrong with everybody

01:08:25.400 compelling i think one thing i'm always trying to do is like guard myself against you know just

01:08:29.960 hearing one side of the story versus the other but you know it's surprising to me i guess to hear you

01:08:35.560 say that cheating is not as big of an issue that causes the divorce and it's really more that kind

01:08:40.920 of dynamic of one partner really not pulling their weight and checking out and then resentment

01:08:45.240 growing and then that spiral really starting now if we're going to talk about pulling their weight 0.99

01:08:51.720 why is such a common complaint sexless marriages would wouldn't you argue that if a woman's not 1.00

01:08:58.920 sleeping with her husband that's not pulling her weight like beat up i think it was i think the

01:09:04.920 gottman's have research on this which are some psychologists i really like following the work of

01:09:08.760 it's a a married couple that are both psychologists that produce a lot of work around relationships

01:09:13.400 and they've talked about like four horsemen of relationships and like the actual you know

01:09:18.360 components that they have noticed tend to be like complete relationship killers and it's things like

01:09:22.920 stonewalling you know it's these sort of innocuous activities i think of being what kills a

01:09:28.360 relationship but seem to have a much larger role actually in the grand scheme of things i i agree

01:09:33.880 with all of that um and i'll say if i can tell a quick kind of story to illustrate one of your

01:09:40.760 points the first time i got involved in a uh out custody fight one of the things that we were

01:09:48.840 fighting over was child support and um we came in we got child support this guy was making he was

01:09:57.080 making less than three thousand dollars a month so is she um and he's being ordered to pay

01:10:03.400 and it's it's not much there's like six or seven hundred dollars a month

01:10:15.400 this this is why we get the out of touch

01:10:20.280 i i don't know about you guys for me personally i would be pretty pissed about six or seven hundred

01:10:27.000 a month for 18 years that's a lot of money maybe not for a divorce attorney who's making a ton or

01:10:36.040 immediate personality is making a ton but for the average american making 45 000 a year 50 000 a

01:10:43.800 year that's a lot that could be a third of rent half of rent depending on where you live

01:10:51.640 which for somebody making less than 3 000 that's a lot uh for somebody supporting a child and

01:11:01.000 making less than three thousand that's not a lot so he came in and decided i want equal custody

01:11:11.160 and she looked at me and went oh thank god so we agreed that that that we would do these weeks on 0.98

01:11:19.080 week off which effectively comes out to 50 50. i think we gave her like 183 days out of the year

01:11:27.720 him 182 and you know you split up uh holidays but he gets this kid for he goes from two days a month

01:11:37.720 to 15 or four to 15 or something and he's not having to pay child support which he's thrilled

01:11:44.760 to that. But then he has to start paying for groceries, for clothes, for medical care. He

01:11:52.500 has to get up early in the morning to take her to school. He's got to pay for child care when he

01:12:01.640 can't be home to take care for this child after school. And I've still got this text message

01:12:08.980 saved somewhere where he texts her and he says, hey, this didn't save me any money. I'm having

01:12:14.360 spend almost two thousand dollars a month on her instead of the six or seven hundred that it was

01:12:19.320 before um and for whatever reason he could not figure out why we were not willing to go back

01:12:25.000 to the negotiating table on this um i have seen that happen a couple times in in in my career

01:12:33.960 and i'll say this as a as a lifelong back look 50 50 custody no child support no alimony

01:12:43.480 it's 50 the men's dna why don't they get 50 50 shared custody that's my question

01:12:54.440 why do we even have the state involved in a family matter why what is the point bachelor

01:13:03.080 you know if i had to sit down and budget out like hey what do i think it costs

01:13:07.160 for a uh for for raising a child and in this world i don't know that's completely 1.00

01:13:14.920 that's completely over my head and beyond me i know and then i i know that um most women are

01:13:21.720 probably going to handle that within a relationship as especially in the beginning and guys aren't

01:13:26.520 necessarily going to think this through but i mean it's a very i mean it's a shocking awakening where

01:13:32.520 he went like he started to basically put two-thirds of his income towards his child he's only got her

01:13:38.600 about half time um and he didn't think about that when you know she's taking care of this child 29 0.77

01:13:45.800 days out of the month and he's just got her too sick of eating crap that doesn't fill you up

01:13:54.680 more about the child custody thing because obviously this is one of the

01:13:57.880 more contentious things that gets raised um i interviewed a guy that spent 1.5 million in a

01:14:03.800 divorce and did not get primary custody did not did not you know when i first i said that i first

01:14:11.400 started paying attention to these issues when i met my i think i'm in the wrong account guys

01:14:15.560 it's just today i do apologize for the ads now husband and that's true because also he had gone

01:14:21.240 through the divorce cycle and the custody thing because he has two kids and he had found that

01:14:27.720 here in georgia in gwinnett county when he was going through that um they did have a preference

01:14:33.000 for the mom keeping the kids and he had to actually hire an attorney and fight to go get

01:14:38.200 50 50 which he did um and he fortunately had a pretty you know happy so there's a couple things

01:14:43.720 some men have it different because they have the money to go get lawyers so upper class men some

01:14:49.960 men get lucky with a good judge and some men figure out how to beat the system there are

01:14:57.240 strategies that some men use and they don't have terrible divorce divorces some women don't take

01:15:03.560 their men to the cleaners some women it's an easy divorce but again if I was going to take a pill

01:15:12.200 and there was a 10 chance that i would have to spend 18 years paying 600 bucks a month

01:15:21.480 and i get to see my kid every other weekend for me personally i would never take that

01:15:27.160 pill so i understand why men do not want to get married he like um i don't know amicable divorce

01:15:34.680 so like he she was not you know fighting against him um but he ended up getting 50 50 and and

01:15:39.640 that's great but i that was sort of shocking to me when i first met him that it would not just start

01:15:44.760 from a place of 50 50. and from my research it sounds like that has been slowly changing it seems

01:15:51.080 like not only have states changed some of their laws and approaches but also um typically these

01:15:56.520 days when men actually seek custody they are getting it is that what you witnessed and also

01:16:02.680 with that being said you know do most men seek it are most men trying to have a significant

01:16:07.320 amount of custody with their kids? You know, the state of the law in most states at this point is

01:16:14.440 it does not favor the mother over the father. Now, that said, laws are enforced and, excuse me,

01:16:21.800 not enforced, administered by judges. So, there are some counties in Tennessee, I'm sure it's the

01:16:30.280 same in georgia where it's the same judge who's been on the bench for decades and they are boomer

01:16:37.800 or older and they're sitting there going obviously guys it's kids are going to go to the mom i don't

01:16:44.120 know why we're having this now remember remember

01:16:51.480 there's no evidence that children are better with mothers all the evidence suggests they're

01:16:57.080 better with fathers. Phoenix Light Games says women reject the red pill because it reveals 0.51

01:17:03.020 unflattering realities about themselves so much. So they have to take accountability for their poor 1.00

01:17:08.460 decisions, but they're invested and refuse to change. Are you doing a call-in show today? Today

01:17:13.740 we're not doing a call-in, but a different day we might. Phoenix Games also says that's a false

01:17:18.980 reality. Pearl is right. The minority of men that win cases have the money. The ones that don't

01:17:24.200 can't fight for custody because they can't afford to it doesn't mean he doesn't care so guys if you

01:17:28.920 want me to read your chat you go to the audacity website and we're streaming there too and i do

01:17:33.000 read them sometimes it takes me a second because i'm watching the show but yeah you just get the

01:17:37.880 ten dollars a month membership and then i read your chats discussion but more and more we are

01:17:43.800 starting from the assumption that something close to 50 50 is ideal um so if and again in most

01:17:53.560 counties knox county is one of these if a dad comes in and they want to fight for something

01:17:58.840 close to 50 50. now and that's that's the first thing they'll tell you is that men don't fight

01:18:04.680 for custody but you don't know why and the reason why a lot of the times is one the lawyers will

01:18:13.480 tell them not to because they'll have to spend fifty thousand dollars or thirty thousand dollars

01:18:19.560 and they probably won't win statistically that's the first reason and the second reason is many men

01:18:25.560 can't afford it many people in america are living paycheck to paycheck many men have average jobs

01:18:34.840 and they're difficult and they don't have extra spending money many men have sacrificed their

01:18:39.400 income for their family the past however many years and they don't have the extra money to spend

01:18:45.960 on a lawyer and on top of that they have a full work schedule maybe they've been kicked out of

01:18:51.200 their house so they say why don't men fight well if you've actually listened to what why

01:19:00.040 it paints a different picture they're probably going to get it and unless there's a reason not

01:19:05.060 um and there's plenty of reasons not to unfortunately i i get in those fights uh with

01:19:11.500 some frequency but i i think that the longer time has gone on and and i've been practicing for

01:19:18.540 i'm coming up on it'll be my ninth anniversary a month from now um it is it is becoming a lot 0.98

01:19:28.940 more egalitarian in that sense yeah and the reason is because there's more women making money 1.00

01:19:35.100 and what are women good at doing? Complaining. That is our number one thing. We're very good 1.00

01:19:42.100 at that. So you're going to see more of the laws becoming more fair as women make more money. 1.00

01:19:50.160 And really, to me, the solution to feminism is giving us the freedom that we asked for. 0.99

01:19:57.120 And I know conservatives, they never follow me on this, but I don't see women's right to vote

01:20:04.120 going anywhere right but why don't you give the responsibility that comes with it if you want to 0.81

01:20:09.680 vote enroll in selective service just like the men do at 18 and in this case put women on child

01:20:18.140 support women that make more than men put them on child support they wanted to be a man so there you 0.70

01:20:26.800 go you're on child support now that is the only way I see anything changing because right now we

01:20:31.820 have all the freedom but none of the responsibility so if you start putting the responsibility on

01:20:37.580 women that men have that's when you might start to hear complaints i get that's what we're best

01:20:44.300 at we are great at nagging we can nag the government we can nag our husbands we can nag

01:20:49.820 our everyone at work like we are just nag nag we're great at it so it's like

01:20:56.240 you might as well make it harder for us and then boom we'll start nagging

01:21:02.040 now to your question about no that's what i'm saying you know what irritates me

01:21:06.220 so what irritates me is they say no no no no no they're children we're just kids and i find that 0.87

01:21:14.160 women we should find this offensive i find it offensive that they treat us like we're children

01:21:18.760 we're not children so like what and they what they want to say is oh we were just lied to by

01:21:25.200 effeminate that just irritates me yeah lied to uh it's that's like giving an 18 year old a million

01:21:32.620 dollars at 18 okay you give an 18 year old a million dollars and you put them in a mansion

01:21:36.900 and they party in that mansion for a decade they're just part they're going great getting

01:21:42.940 drunk doing all these drugs and then at the end of the decade they say well we were just lied to

01:21:48.400 what lied to no you were just doing the fun stuff right obviously but you guys buy that i don't know

01:22:00.780 why you buy it it drives me nuts um phoenix light games and god forbid there's a case where the

01:22:06.380 mother who has primary custody encourages the child to change his or her gender identity which

01:22:11.540 is detrimental to a child's development dad can't do anything correct that's true whether men fight

01:22:18.140 for it in the majority of the cases that i've worked yeah he says his clients are women he's

01:22:24.540 trying to get more clients the sympathetic ears his grift yet guys men are problem solvers and

01:22:31.020 the issue is a lot of men are ruled by women's emotions so they're afraid of women getting mad

01:22:37.180 and so what they do is they learn at a young age that and and think about if we're in their shoes

01:22:44.060 right and we had to pick the hard way or the easy way and you think so you go to school and you say

01:22:49.420 things in a really direct maybe slightly rude but direct way and the teacher yells at you the school

01:22:55.660 counselor yells at you the principal yells at you do you change your tone or do you keep it the same

01:23:02.700 and if you go into work and you try to be direct and you try to be honest and you get demoted

01:23:11.180 you get fired you get punished what would you do right i would start calling us queens too i would

01:23:19.820 do this you know what i mean it's like obviously so we have to look at what are people's incentives

01:23:29.340 probably about two-thirds three-quarters of the time the men are fighting for something

01:23:34.460 greater than about a third custody um and uh generally again unless there's a really good

01:23:42.220 reason not to generally they get it um and they and and everyone's usually thrilled that dad's

01:23:48.540 going to come in and take the kids take responsibility for the kids and as long as

01:23:53.500 the mom doesn't feel like he's a danger to the kids or that he's just trying to reduce and

01:23:59.340 remember when it's a danger to the kids the family court is based on a balance of probabilities

01:24:05.500 meaning it's not based on evidence so it's based on if it's more likely that he's abusive to the

01:24:12.140 children than not and what happens when women when we cry it's becoming more the lies have become

01:24:20.780 more detectable now but let's say five years ago do we you know you can find examples on youtube of

01:24:28.140 women crying in public versus men no one feels sorry for the man everybody feels sorry for the

01:24:33.980 woman use his child support payment and he's not actually going to exercise co-parenting time

01:24:41.740 usually usually a woman who's leaving a marriage through divorce is is welcome or is open to dad

01:24:49.500 getting the kids because that's that's time where she doesn't have to be on 100 um that's that's

01:24:58.300 time where she's not having to financially support the kids so i would say generally i mean it's here

01:25:03.500 it's it's you're a good person like a genuinely good person no skeletons in the closet nothing

01:25:08.620 that is going to be painful to talk about across examination you're you're going to get uh pretty

01:25:14.620 close somewhere over 30 around 50 if that's what you're going for yeah i mean it seems i

01:25:21.900 my anecdotal experience looking out in the world is it seems like more and more men are pushing

01:25:25.500 to get custody and that when they do they're giving it and and i my spidey senses kind of

01:25:30.700 tend to go off when i hear a man claiming like oh i couldn't get my kids she's keeping my kids from 0.88

01:25:35.180 me and i i not to say that i don't think there's some bitter bio moms out there for sure there are

01:25:40.460 but it does seem like the law has adapted a good bit to where and oh my goodness 0.95

01:25:52.380 we are the most privileged class of people in america i am unless there's like a pretty credible

01:25:58.460 claim against you for some reason it it seems pretty difficult to have a scenario where the

01:26:03.020 woman can just like divorce you for no reason take the kids for no reason and prevent you from

01:26:07.420 accessing that i'm fine yes i would i would agree with one footage i want to find let me see if i

01:26:12.940 can find it i'm gonna play this for a little bit i'm gonna look for this i'll show you a video of

01:26:18.140 that exactly how general there there are exceptions to everything we're talking about white privilege

01:26:23.900 is a racist myth oh my goodness charlie with that as in in general that's exactly correct so when it

01:26:33.580 comes to child support like obviously that is something that you hear a lot of men complaining

01:26:38.220 about and i like that you brought up how the you know it could be a lot of money out of your

01:26:42.540 paycheck and still not be a lot of money to supplement that child you know i did an episode

01:26:47.180 on daycare cost a few months ago and it's very similar right where it's like you look at the

01:26:51.340 amount of money people are having to pay for daycare and it's astronomical but then you think

01:26:55.260 would i take somebody else's kid for eight nine hours a day for that amount heck no it's not that

01:27:00.060 much money you know that would not make it worth it in my book so it's very similar in that way

01:27:04.700 i mean what about how much do you see is there like an average that most people pay when it

01:27:09.580 comes to child support or is it sort of all over the map based on income it is it is absolutely

01:27:15.420 based on income in tennessee there's actually a an excel spreadsheet you can you can google

01:27:22.300 tennessee child support guidelines and you can go to the link and you can down it's based on how

01:27:28.220 much your wife stays home too okay i'm about to get this link um that's an email

01:27:42.700 okay the is it one second so she said that never happens and by the way

01:27:50.540 But I could show so many stories where this exact same thing happened.

01:27:56.120 This was a stay-at-home, traditional Catholic wife. 1.00

01:28:00.680 She wants to leave because she's not happy. 0.94

01:28:04.280 And the husband got kicked out.

01:28:08.620 I filed a motion for temporary orders on three different specifics.

01:28:13.320 One is to have John vacate our marital home.

01:28:16.580 Secondly, for the court to accept my... 1.00

01:28:19.100 phoenix light game says is she serious women divorced for the dumbest reasons most of the time

01:28:24.220 i left him because i wasn't feeling it anymore how many times have you heard that in your life

01:28:28.940 this is not a parenting plan and thirdly to have a court order and that john pay child support and

01:28:35.500 spousal maintenance we've been married for 16 years i have been the at-home mother to our five

01:28:39.580 children and have homeschooled them for the last nine years i also manage the majority of our

01:28:43.260 children's extracurricular activities which includes their involvement in boy scouts orchestra

01:28:47.340 piano lessons recently my boys are now involved in a hunting certification class and i often

01:28:51.500 carpool for my son's irish dance class i have chosen our children's pediatricians and their

01:28:55.500 dentist and have taken them to the majority of their appointments i've read all this in your

01:28:58.140 papers i don't need you to reread it um i am the manager of the home and most categories of domestic

01:29:03.500 order our marital tensions for the last 16 years have been unrelenting we worked with six marriage

01:29:08.460 counselors to the effect of trying to resolve those problems the last two most recently dr

01:29:12.380 Dr. Recknagel and Dr. McBride have provided the letters.

01:29:14.380 I don't need the diagnosis. I read it.

01:29:16.380 I have filed for divorce asking for reprieve,

01:29:18.380 and John is not willing to negotiate

01:29:20.380 any settlement or resolution

01:29:22.380 to that divorce and has made excessive effort

01:29:24.380 to delay, draw out, and prolong

01:29:26.380 this process. Our court hearing is not for

01:29:28.380 five more months. I expect that

01:29:30.380 it will be torturous to remain living with John during that time.

01:29:32.380 And you're still in the same house right now?

01:29:34.380 We are currently still in the same house.

01:29:36.380 And how big is this house? 2,800 square feet.

01:29:38.380 And is it separated by different floors? Is one of you on one floor

01:29:40.380 one on the other. I'm on one floor on one end of the house. John's bedroom is on the opposite end

01:29:44.140 of the house. I homeschool the children. I'm home during the day and John has a home office so he's

01:29:47.260 home during the day also. What does the home office consist of? It consists of about a 10 by

01:29:51.180 10 foot bedroom. I'm talking about what stuff is in it. A computer, a desk, a set of files,

01:29:55.820 a fax, and a phone. Most of his work takes him out of the house on appointments in the mornings.

01:29:59.340 He uses his home office just as a communication base and that could be relocated conveniently

01:30:02.140 to any other location. He's had three different locations he's worked from in the business of

01:30:05.660 Feral Apparel for the last nine years. I object to that. What's your objection? It would be very

01:30:09.420 disruptive to move the business okay that's not an objection she's making an argument you get to

01:30:12.300 have your chance after she's done john has cut me off financially since august of 2011 he closed

01:30:16.620 all of our bank accounts and removed my name from them four months later when i was instructed that 0.93

01:30:20.300 this was abusive and reported this to john there you go financial abuse she gets to be a stay-at-home 0.91

01:30:26.700 mom and she's trying to kick out her husband who pays for the house under financial abuse look at 0.99

01:30:35.500 Look at that.

01:30:36.500 He reinstated an American Express to me for a limit of $1,000 monthly.

01:30:39.500 Most places don't take American Express.

01:30:41.500 I can buy gas and groceries.

01:30:43.500 Despite his control of the funds, he continues to spend lavishly on things that are for himself.

01:30:46.500 All right.

01:30:47.500 I need to know more at this hearing.

01:30:48.500 You have to understand I've read everything in this stack right here.

01:30:50.500 Okay.

01:30:51.500 I understand.

01:30:52.500 I was just to repeat that to you.

01:30:53.500 I don't need repeated.

01:30:54.500 What I need to know is you have indicated he makes X amount of money, and your basis

01:30:56.500 for doing that is you went through all the bank records, and you came and you spelled

01:30:59.500 all the bank records out, and this is the money he's made.

01:31:01.500 He's indicated in his taxes he makes X amount of money and significantly less.

01:31:03.500 i want to know what the difference between the two of you is that's it i don't need to know

01:31:06.500 everything that's in the paper i want to know why your position is right and he's going to tell me

01:31:09.020 why his position is right mine is documented let's make statements anything else no she doesn't really

01:31:13.100 understand revenue that's why but she's going to say that he makes more she's unhappy in the

01:31:18.060 marriage that's what she wants is a divorce there we have she's unhappy in the marriage that's what

01:31:22.680 she's divorcing because she's unhappy wants a divorce there we have we're one big happy family

01:31:28.420 we work together she just moved out of the big bed two or three months ago and we get along fine

01:31:32.860 There's no danger. There's no abuse.

01:31:36.040 My business is integral to staying in the house

01:31:39.160 because there is all the inventory, which you also didn't mention.

01:31:40.940 What's the inventory?

01:31:41.880 The suits. I'm a custom tailor.

01:31:42.860 So there's all kinds of things in the office.

01:31:44.240 The whole bedroom is full of feral apparel.

01:31:45.900 It's very disruptive to move it anywhere.

01:31:47.820 We do just fine together in the house.

01:31:49.340 The kids want us to stay married.

01:31:50.880 Everything works just fine as it is,

01:31:52.640 and I would submit that to try to break this up

01:31:55.560 or do something or make a decision today would not be wise.

01:31:58.020 I would petition that we have an evaluation done for our family

01:32:01.580 with a social worker, a master's in social work,

01:32:03.160 to help us find out what really is in the best interest of the children

01:32:05.040 versus breaking this up, which I propose would not be.

01:32:08.960 Our most recent counselor, Dr. Dilsaver, also has put his finger on what's going on,

01:32:12.540 which is the root cause of selfishness.

01:32:14.420 Moira does not and will not talk to him anymore.

01:32:16.260 That's what we're hoping to try to have a happy ending

01:32:18.500 and bring this together versus tearing it apart.

01:32:20.440 I have not cut her off financially.

01:32:21.520 I've always provided, but when she was dealing with other men

01:32:24.940 who were very interested in her emails back and forth, all that good stuff,

01:32:27.520 I naturally would take control of the family money

01:32:30.800 versus having it be an open book. I never closed any of her accounts. Our joint accounts, which we both had control over, I took care of, and they're still there.

01:32:36.560 But I've always provided, I took care of, and paid for everything, and I've never denied her dollars, and I don't fight with her, and I've never raised my voice, all that good stuff.

01:32:42.660 I don't know where to start, because there's no reason for all this, but she's unhappy.

01:32:44.720 Again, in the state of Washington, under the laws of the state of Washington, she doesn't have to have a reason.

01:32:49.060 She has to state the marriage are irratruvably broken. That's the end of it. She's saying that that's occurring.

01:32:52.100 Now we have to deal with the financial aspects of it, the parenting plan aspects of it, and I need you to focus on that, because nothing else I can deal with on the calendar.

01:32:57.680 so let's deal with the financial aspects the living aspects and the parenting plan aspects of

01:33:00.400 this okay go ahead i propose i live in the house and if moira is unhappy that she go to work and

01:33:06.400 get her own place to live and she's an excellent mom and homeschool teacher and i'd like her to

01:33:10.320 stay homeschooling the kids and can do that we have proposed if anything that we do a tag team

01:33:14.320 parenting plan which keeps our house together keeps it integral look at the guy in this he's

01:33:19.360 doing everything he's saying look plus judge please don't care i don't want a divorce please

01:33:26.080 don't kick me out of my house the kids want us together she's saying no no I'm not happy

01:33:32.000 who cares about these kids I'm emailing Chad I'm off um and let's see I bet the judge is

01:33:44.420 reasonable right guys I bet it's it's a reasonable judge doesn't that seem reasonable if you want to

01:33:48.900 leave that you should go pay for your own stuff say thanks for letting me not work for 10 years

01:33:54.780 Starbucks is hiring. I'm going to go be a barista. Doesn't that seem reasonable?

01:33:59.960 Target, Walmart. I mean, after a decade, she could go be a teacher, right? I don't know how 0.55

01:34:07.600 it works, but I'd imagine homeschooling for 10 years, you could go teach class.

01:34:13.380 With the family and least disruptive to the kids, we all get along fine. Everyone wants a happy

01:34:16.580 family. So that's my proposal that she move out because she is unhappy, which is unfortunate. And 0.59

01:34:21.740 AND WE CONTINUE TO KEEP THE FAMILY BUSINESS TOGETHER AND STAY IN THE HOUSE AND SHE CAN STAY

01:34:27.500 HERE DURING THE DAY AND I STAY WITH THE KIDS AT NIGHT BECAUSE THERE ARE TIMES WHEN SHE

01:34:29.980 STAYS OUT ALL NIGHT AND WON'T ANSWER HER PHONE AND IT'S JUST NOT GOOD BUT DURING THE DAY

01:34:32.420 I THINK SHE'S FINE.

01:34:33.420 I WENT THROUGH THE SAME BANK RECORD AS SHE DID AND I CAME TO THE SAME CONCLUSIONS

01:34:37.180 AS SHE DID.

01:34:38.180 YOU SAY ONE THING ON YOUR TAXES BUT YOUR BANK RECORDS ARE SUBSTANTIALLY DIFFERENT

01:34:40.320 THAN YOUR TAXES.

01:34:41.320 LIKE I SAID THIS IS THE ONE I SPENT OVER TWO AND A HALF HOURS GOING THROUGH THESE RECORDS

01:34:43.500 last night trying to figure out what's going on and money going into your

01:34:46.320 account was over $300,000 your taxes don't tell me that that's true I own the

01:34:50.040 cash register there's people giving me money every day for deposits on suits

01:34:53.280 and that money piles up I have a permanent loan available to me by using

01:34:56.460 that money it's not income it is it's not in comfort for accounting purposes

01:35:00.000 that's right it's money that I can use it's temporary deposits and I always

01:35:03.240 have hands giving me more money for deposits on suit so I have use of that

01:35:05.580 dollars I talked to several CPAs and they told me this is called a hybrid

01:35:11.180 cash flow or hybrid yeah basically the judge doesn't understand the accounting

01:35:16.300 he doesn't cash basis so that you count everything as its pictured but your

01:35:21.180 cash flow if its deposits is not counted as income until it actually is a

01:35:24.760 completed sale so I complete X amount of sales in the year and that's my gross

01:35:27.820 income the rest of it is again it's just cash flow dollars and we're able to

01:35:33.620 utilize them but it's not income so when it's called stealing from yourself when

01:35:37.840 you own a family restaurant you can take food from it sometimes if you put it

01:35:40.340 I have constant loans coming to me in deposits so half of our existence is borrowed money

01:35:45.460 It's not income and I've been consistent with this accounting since day one

01:35:48.900 And I've checked it out with different CPAs who have told me that that's one of the things

01:35:51.320 I would want to get more work done to explain but I was rushed. I'm sorry the paperwork wasn't good

01:35:55.260 I did everything I could to get all together

01:35:57.980 Speaking of I also have five testimonials stating that Moira is not the more fit parent

01:36:02.580 And that I should be the one to be in charge of the kids specifically her mother-in-law

01:36:05.600 I imagine you read that or my mother-in-law and close friends who have known us for years have all said John is the more fit

01:36:10.320 parent and should be the one so her own mother is saying you know what he should have he should

01:36:15.100 have custody of these kids wouldn't you think that's a valid source if her mother is taking

01:36:20.820 the guy's side you right so he's i mean we're in a just system he's doing the right thing here

01:36:28.480 right i mean the judge is gonna he's not just gonna say pretty woman here you're you can have

01:36:35.720 it all he wouldn't do that right right guys to take care of things so my income is what it says

01:36:40.880 on the tax returns and that's what i suggest we use to base any support you can write this down

01:36:45.660 if you desire but i have done the final uh temporary orders in this matter i will deal

01:36:49.340 with the parenting plan at first first of all upon reading all the papers and i went through it um i

01:36:54.040 do not find the father to be believable do you hear that i don't find the father to be believable

01:37:00.120 okay also based on your uh testimony here i just don't find you to be believable i don't think

01:37:03.900 that you were involved in children's lives as much you'd like to think.

01:37:05.800 And also, I did consider your criminal history.

01:37:07.100 I considered everything in this case.

01:37:08.540 As such, I am not going to put any current restrictions on either parent.

01:37:11.340 What I'm going to do is reserve those restrictions.

01:37:13.060 I find the mother has been the primary parent, 0.73

01:37:14.300 and she'll continue to be the primary parent. 0.99

01:37:15.940 Until the father has a suitable home for the children to sleep in,

01:37:18.320 his visits will be every Saturday from 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.

01:37:20.200 Once he has suitable arrangements,

01:37:21.920 the visitation will be Friday at 5 p.m. to Sunday at 6.

01:37:24.560 And every week, that's every other weekend.

01:37:26.520 And then during the week, he'll have every Wednesday from 5 to 8.

01:37:28.860 Schedule for the winter vacation as per the mother's request,

01:37:30.640 3.4, the school breaks for the mother's request.

01:37:32.180 summer schedule. Each party can have up to two weeks of summer visitation with the children.

01:37:35.260 They need to give their intended dates by June 1st. Actually, I'm going to make that since it's very

01:37:38.400 close to June 1st. I'm going to make that June 15th. I have right now alternated the holidays,

01:37:44.300 Mother's Day with Mother, Father's Day with Father. The time for that is 9 a.m. to 6 p.m.

01:37:48.240 I have reserved the issue of any restrictions. The transportation shall be done by the

01:37:52.740 receiving current. Petitioners, as noted, custodian for all other state and federal laws.

01:37:58.460 Mother and father shall make day-to-day decisions and the children are with them.

01:38:01.540 All major decisions are joint.

01:38:03.240 I have taken out religious upbringing because that's a constitutional issue,

01:38:05.900 and I don't rule on constitutional issues.

01:38:07.780 I don't rule on religion issues.

01:38:09.780 Dispute resolution is reserved.

01:38:11.740 All other provisions are reserved.

01:38:13.200 I have strict on all the requested other provisions because those are something for the trial court.

01:38:17.020 That is the parenting plan.

01:38:19.460 As to the temporary order, I have made the restraints mutual.

01:38:22.760 Both parties are—there actually was no requested restraints.

01:38:26.280 Yeah, so he just got kicked out of his house.

01:38:28.460 Yep.

01:38:28.700 his wife said not happy and got kicked out I'd be pretty upset you know what I mean

01:38:37.060 be pretty marriage counselors are professional gaslighters I know so despite all of the evidence

01:38:45.700 of the father being the better parent he's obviously more intelligent than the mom

01:38:49.260 even in the short term he has a better case and yet the judge says he's not believable yeah

01:38:53.680 Yeah.

01:38:54.680 Yeah.

01:38:55.680 Download the spreadsheet.

01:38:56.680 I don't, I actually don't know what the formula is, I'm just used to punching in the information

01:39:02.020 and it spits out an answer.

01:39:04.180 But it looks at the amount of time, the number of days that a parent gets.

01:39:10.740 It's looking at the number of kids there are, it's looking at the income of both parents,

01:39:18.600 And at the end, it kind of spits out a number as to what does the state think is a fair

01:39:23.760 child support payment for one spouse to make to the other spouse.

01:39:32.680 You will sometimes see one of the spouses try to negotiate in that faith.

01:39:42.260 they'll ask for 50 50 and with with the intention of never or rarely exercising custody um or they'll

01:39:51.140 come in and they'll try to they'll try to hide what the other thing they don't talk about is

01:39:57.940 decision making so who gets to decide where the kids go to school who gets to decide what

01:40:05.540 extracurriculars they're in that automatically goes to the mom this is why i say we're in a 1.00

01:40:10.740 matriarchy we're not in a patriarchy income is we have so much more power than the average guy so

01:40:17.620 much more it is not even close um something you see a lot is guys will quit their pretty good

01:40:23.540 paying jobs take a thirty thousand dollar a year reduction in salary um and not see a change of

01:40:32.980 lifestyle so you have to you have to assume at that point they're working underneath the table

01:40:39.300 so anyway at this formula spits out enough and it's it's it's i don't see a typical child support

01:40:46.500 payment um i just see whatever that whatever that number is and do you guys i mean does this go

01:40:52.260 through you if somebody doesn't pay their child support how is that something that you come across

01:40:56.340 i feel like statistically i hear about it a lot but i'm curious on the ground like if that's

01:41:00.100 something that yes and that that that can you have to understand too so if you change your

01:41:06.340 child support let's say you lose your job in january you are still on the hook for child

01:41:12.340 support in january february and until you can go to court and get it changed sometimes it takes a

01:41:18.100 bit to get to court and they can take the money straight from your bank account from your social

01:41:23.380 security they can take away they can even throw you in jail and sometimes especially agreeable men

01:41:30.980 they get on high amounts of child support then they get they lose their job and they can't keep

01:41:37.420 up with it a lot of men end up committing suicide in this process they're nine times

01:41:43.600 more likely to commit suicide after a divorce and again that's why I say this stuff is serious 0.50

01:41:52.240 and women have a tendency to because it hurts their feelings not want the truth to get out there

01:42:03.420 so I think I'm going to cut it though because I've been going almost two hours

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Pearl - October 09, 2024

Why Most Modern Women REJECT the RED PILL： It Reveals Our TRUE NATURE! ｜ Pearl Daily

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