00:01:34.980I believe the whole story I was told I took up for him fiercely, fiercely, fiercely, only to find out she was concerned for her child only because she knew of the revolving door previously.
00:01:51.200women are so much more likely to believe women than men and you know men lie i'm not in this0.85
00:01:55.440camp that men don't lie they absolutely do lie um but women will lie and then back each other up
00:02:02.880she knew of the woman previously she knew that he likes low caliber women previously she knew
00:02:11.360she knew she knew everything i didn't know she knew she knew and so when you get the stories
00:02:19.120from a man just know you're just hearing this little piece of it you're not hearing the whole
00:02:24.640story don't be angry with her actually don't even say a word don't say a word until you're married
00:02:30.720for about a year sit back and watch sit back and watch time tells its own story don't believe
00:02:38.100everything you're told his ego will not admit to what he did and why the baby mom is mad nine times
00:02:46.380out of 10 true story he's not going to he's not going to he's not going to take accountability
00:02:51.580it's not even in there so this is a projection everything women say about men um usually women
00:02:56.360do so if a woman says he doesn't take accountability it's usually i didn't take1.00
00:03:00.200accountability in like their 40s and 50s and then think that they're going to get a hot young thing1.00
00:03:04.460probably aren't and here's why and it's not because there aren't women who want a guy in
00:03:09.420their like 40s and 50s i am one of them i am very much attracted to men who are 20 30 years my
00:03:14.940senior i always have maybe i have daddy issues but the biggest red flag is they have no friends
00:03:21.260and i mean like real friends i'm talking about the friends who will like drop everything to visit you
00:03:26.600in hospital the friends you can ask for a liver real people who deeply know you and will go well
00:03:32.960out of their way to help you and your family and it's honestly not really even men's fault because
00:03:37.360men are socialized to make friends in a completely different way that women are women make friends
00:03:42.420through bonding we have conversations we just go run errands together our bonding and our friendship
00:03:47.620is based on our time and experiences together where men tend to do activities with each other
00:03:53.220so if they go golfing and then they stop golfing because of an injury they just lose all their
00:03:58.660friends their friendships tend to be very activity based and men are also very much socialized not to
00:04:03.540ask for help and to never talk about their feelings which means that all of that emotional intimacy
00:04:08.420and labor tends to fall on their romantic partner because that's the only person that men you know
00:04:13.540she's actually spitting a little bit because when men don't have friends they do start to confide in
00:04:17.620the woman and that's hell on earth that is hell on earth you cannot do that society are allowed
00:04:23.940to be vulnerable with there's also a whole lot of reasons why a man in their 50s would be isolated
00:04:28.660maybe they were in an abusive relationship and were completely isolated from everyone they knew
00:04:33.220or had carer responsibilities and so a lot of their friends became distant because they just
00:04:37.940just didn't have time mental health issues look the list goes on but just because it isn't your
00:04:42.520fault doesn't mean that it's not your responsibility to fix i've met a lot of men who are very
00:04:47.420successful very attractive charismatic great in the bedroom well into their 50s and 60s but i just
00:04:53.600know if we started dating i would be all of their emotional labor i would be their therapist their
00:04:58.760mother their best friend their girlfriend yeah because a lot of these guys getting divorced are
00:05:02.900blue-pilled that's why the relationship ended all of their acquaintances all in one and it's
00:05:07.640too much you really need a tribe and it's incredibly hard to build one because not many
00:05:12.220people want to be in a tribe they just want to have one they don't want to be a tribal member
00:05:16.540but after sleeping with tens of thousands of men for money most of my clients end up breaking up
00:05:21.260because they put so much emotional weight and responsibility on their wives while giving not
00:05:26.760very much in return that yeah okay okay let's see what this girl says unless you watch this entire0.98
00:05:32.480video and if you have dated a divorced dad ladies you need to help one another out here and leave0.73
00:05:39.440your warnings in the comments i actually think divorced guys are great today i disagree i know
00:05:44.240what you're thinking especially um because if they have young kids they're really not on demon time
00:05:51.440um the same way because i don't have as much time oh he's divorced too oh he has kids too
00:05:56.880he understands what i've been through it's worth repeating women don't divorce good husbands so if
00:06:03.520he's divorced and she didn't have a severe personality disorder or mental illness a horrible
00:06:10.240substance abuse problem or some other justice women divorce good men all the time um actually
00:06:16.560they don't divorce bad men will reason why he's just a good guy that got the short end of the
00:06:21.040stick you need to do your due diligence and find out the real truth not just what he's telling you
00:06:26.320these are just a few red flags that i've seen over the years and i've seen dating in my experience
00:06:31.600if he's doing this with the kids it's going to cause problems for you and him if any of his
00:06:36.640children are still sleeping in bed with him he's probably not ready to date if he doesn't give his
00:06:41.360kids any chores or any responsibilities because he just wants their time together to be fun that's
00:06:46.880going to cause a problem for you down the line if he's bribing or spoiling his kids the classic
00:06:51.200disney dad he's more concerned about them liking him than he is about raising them right if he
00:06:56.960posts excessive photos of him and his kids on social media it could very well be because he
00:07:01.440wants the rest of the world to think he's such a good dad if he expects you to step in and
00:07:06.240discipline or care for the kids early on or he takes their side over yours always making you
00:07:11.680feel like the bad guy that's a problem if he doesn't instill in his kids any sort of work
00:07:16.880ethic at all they're not required to have a job if he's not teaching them basic independent skills
00:07:21.840who the are you ladies dating you know you guys are telling on yourselves things like they're not
00:07:26.720getting themselves dressed by a very appropriate age they're not required to get jobs at a very
00:07:32.240appropriate age they don't do things like know how to pump their own gas aren't handling things that
00:07:38.080they should be handling again by certain appropriate ages he's not preparing them to
00:07:42.960stand on their own two feet he wants them to depend and rely on him far too long if he's all
00:07:48.240smiles out in public but loses his school with them in private problem if he gives them money
00:07:53.120anytime they ask without any hesitation again because he just wants to be liked and if he can't
00:07:58.480say no to his kids he's just a yes man this is your warning don't date this man i know i'm okay
00:08:05.520let's see who's next um biggest red flag when dating a divorced man that i am all for dating
00:08:10.800a divorced man, but I do have one red flag that I would be cautious of when dating a divorced man.
00:08:19.440Doesn't mean I won't because I, I do learn my lesson, but sometimes I don't. Anyways,
00:08:26.160if a divorced man bashes his ex or obsessively talks about his ex-wife, that is a red flag in
00:08:34.960my opinion. And if you're asking who is this lady lecturing me about what divorce men to date and
00:08:41.260not date, I'm Courtney. I have only dated divorce men since 2020, not by intention. I think it's
00:08:48.980just a life statistic thing. But anyways, I have very much become experienced with healed and
00:08:55.700unhealed divorce men. And one very, very big red flag is if they bash or obsessively talk about
00:09:04.040their ex-wife. It does not always mean they are not over their ex. It may mean they are not over
00:09:09.820the marriage. It may mean they have not healed from the fallout of the marriage, but I have found
00:09:15.280generally speaking in all cases, if they do this, that is not a good outcome for me. It generally
00:09:21.240means they are not ready for another relationship. And honestly, who wants to listen to their partner
00:09:27.620bash or obsessively talk about their ex? Yeah. Well, a lot of the men are traumatized
00:09:33.300and you get them out and women we don't you can't give your trauma to a woman because we'll just
00:09:38.720abuse you like you see this abuse he's opening up and she look at her eyes i don't want to hear
00:09:44.160about that be fair men don't want to hear about it either but you know so of the five divorced men
00:09:50.400that i've dated two of them did not bash or obsessively talk about their ex and when i say
00:09:56.360divorced i mean divorced or going through their divorce because i have dated three men who were
00:10:01.500still actively going through the divorce process, one of which filed their divorce while we were
00:10:06.960dating. But so one of the men that did not bash or obsessively talk about his ex got his divorce
00:10:16.380papers while we were dating or the like final copy to sign or whatever. And that's when he got
00:10:23.960really weird and kind of ended things with me. And that is the one divorced man who is back with his
00:10:31.020ex-wife is the one who did not bash or obsessively talk about his ex there's another one who didn't
00:10:36.860bash or obsessively talk about his ex but he was already fully divorced and had been for a couple
00:10:41.400years so i just feel like it just feel like it was already processed like it was it was good uh
00:10:47.820but the other one that did but did not talk negatively about his ex um or just in general
00:10:54.060like obsessed about her was actually the one that got back together with her pick your poison ladies
00:11:00.900sorry let's use next i've been on a decent amount tell me what happened dates with divorced men
00:11:06.260i'm almost 42 so it's a mixed bag out there and i'm so curious if other men or women are having
00:11:13.480this similar experience so maybe it's my fault for opening pandora's box but when i go on a date
00:11:20.000with a divorced man i'd like to know what was the catalyst behind the divorce because it teaches me
00:11:25.220a lot, and I can pick up on red flags. Now, I have noticed a lot of men will vent to me about how
00:11:32.420awful their ex-wife was. Hold on. Now, I don't lack empathy, and I know there are crappy women0.59
00:11:41.080out there, but at the end of the day, I'm a girl's girl, and when they're done venting,
00:11:46.680you know, I empathize, I listen. I say, well, if I was having dinner with your ex-wife,
00:11:51.980what would she say about you what would she say about you some of them are caught off guard and0.78
00:12:01.060some are like which I appreciate they're like oh shoot she would tear me apart yes she would
00:12:06.300so I really wish there was a website for like divorcees that can tell me what their ex-husbands
00:12:11.820were like the second thing because I'm a girl's girl if they have kids okay and they refer to the
00:12:21.180mother of their children as baby mama, I say, whoa, whoa, whoa. She delivered your children.
00:12:28.480What is her name? Don't give me that baby mama crap. I don't have kids. I don't want kids,1.00
00:12:33.900but all you mamas out there deserve to be called by your name, not baby mama.0.84
00:12:38.540So I'm curious if this is a similar experience for people in the dating world, dating people.1.00
00:12:45.500Yeah, here, this is kind of an example of how women will get information out of you just to0.63
00:12:49.380use it against you don't do it fellas don't do it don't open up to women ever all right guys i love
00:12:55.260you thanks for watching like the video if you can subscribe to the channel um and i'll see you next