Pearl - “Woman Admits She REGRETS Becoming a Mother” @JustPearlyThings

00:00:00.000 Almost three, and she is beautiful. She's funny. She's pure. In so many ways, I look at her and

00:00:06.900 see this beautiful, better version of me. I don't hate my child, but if I'm being completely truthful,

00:00:13.640 I 100% regret becoming a mother. Motherhood breaks every single day. It brings out parts of me that

00:00:21.600 I don't like, parts of me that I hate. I have become more impatient, exhausted, overwhelmed.

00:00:28.260 I feel like I'm constantly just trying to make it through the day, just to relive it again tomorrow.

00:00:34.540 I also really miss the woman I was before her.

00:00:37.660 I look back at her now, and she is someone so far from who I am today.

00:00:42.560 She was beautiful, free, kind, and optimistic.

00:00:46.500 She believed she could manifest her own destiny.

00:00:49.720 She could decide on a Friday night that she wanted to go to dinner.

00:00:53.740 That's what I mean.

00:00:54.840 See, here's the problem. 1.00

00:00:55.860 Women are so useless. 1.00

00:00:56.640 They can't cook a good dinner. 1.00

00:00:58.260 we can't we can't cook we can't clean and so we're so used to our whole 20s where we live the

00:01:03.860 life of queens and high status women even though we're low status um or like we should be and so

00:01:08.840 then when we go and have kids then we're low status and you can't go to the events you can't

00:01:13.680 do all this stuff and so if you're used to that and you've built your identity around that um 0.77

00:01:17.980 you're gonna have problems get in her car and go somewhere anywhere she could sit on her couch and

00:01:23.400 watch Netflix for hours and I didn't understand how much I loved that freedom until it was gone

00:01:29.240 what's interesting is that in my 20s I barely thought about motherhood

00:01:33.900 then I turned 30 you can still do that stuff it's just like you're too useless 30 and like the flick

00:01:40.480 of a light switch it suddenly felt like everyone around me had a family every time another friend

00:01:46.400 told me she was pregnant I was genuinely happy for her and privately devastated for myself

00:01:52.740 That's what I mean. We don't, we don't, we don't have families for the right reason.

00:01:57.520 I became desperate to find a husband and have children.

00:02:01.320 And looking back now, I've had to ask myself a really uncomfortable question.

00:02:06.260 Why did I want children so badly?

00:02:08.680 I don't know that I ever had a great answer other than I didn't want to grow old and be alone.

00:02:14.300 I came from an incredibly loving family and a lineage of very maternal women.

00:02:19.420 so motherhood was just something i assumed would eventually happen to me i don't think i ever

00:02:25.000 stopped and asked myself whether i was actually maternal or whether i wanted the everyday reality 0.99

00:02:30.620 of raising so she was spoiled that's what happened she was spoiled she's a brat and so

00:02:35.060 now having to put another person before yourself is just going to be too difficult too hard 0.96

00:02:39.620 we have a female laziness epidemic female laziness that's really what's causing all this 1.00

00:02:44.580 women don't want to have kids because we're too lazy to do anything ourselves 1.00

00:02:47.640 and even entertain ourselves, right? 1.00

00:02:50.560 A child.

Pearl - October 07, 2026