Pearl - Woman Quits 6 Figure Job FOR NO REASON

00:00:00.000 again women get these overpaid jobs they get these big egos thinking that we're more competent than 1.00

00:00:04.880 we are and we're just not what up guys welcome to my reaction series today we're reacting to a

00:00:09.600 woman talking about quitting her 250 000 a year job and regretting it can you imagine as a man

00:00:16.000 quitting a job that makes 250k um i just can't imagine a guy doing that he would just put up

00:00:22.320 whatever whatever he needs to put up with but women we just are never happy i quit a 250 000

00:00:28.800 a year job thinking it would be easy to find another one after a year of unemployment i wish

00:00:32.960 i could go back and shake myself so this is what she looks like and that's kind of your typical

00:00:37.840 like oh it's of course a human resources career of course and i bet they were happy to see her go

00:00:44.000 because a lot of times these women are employed in these companies and they're not really pulling 1.00

00:00:47.600 their weight and so they're that's a huge expense on a company um and they don't want to go through

00:00:54.400 like the hassle of firing people because they don't want a claim or whatever um so anyways i

00:01:01.600 think that this is good so after quitting a 250 000 a year hr job jess terry vaughn is coming up

00:01:09.360 on a year of unemployment time away from work helped her become a more present mother and

00:01:14.480 rethink her relationship with from and reach oh my gosh time away from work helped her become

00:01:20.640 a more present mother and rethink her relationship with money she is now seeking a job that aligns 0.99

00:01:25.760 with her values and promotes a healthy work-life balance so again women getting money generally is 1.00

00:01:30.800 easy and men getting money is generally hard so men understand that when you make a certain amount

00:01:35.280 of money there's no such thing as like a work-life balance but women do not understand this um and 1.00

00:01:41.440 they will whine and complain even if they're overpaid this as told to essay is based on a

00:01:47.760 conversation with jesse terry von a 39 year old former hr executive based in vancouver washington

00:01:54.560 it's been edited for length and clarity when i quit my 250 000 a year hr job last year i thought

00:02:00.720 the reality of finding another job would be no big deal i was out of touch with the reality of

00:02:05.520 the job market i hadn't applied i hadn't applied to a job in a non-traditional way in over a decade

00:02:11.200 because i'd always been recruited now that it's rounding up on a year of unemployment i wish i

00:02:15.200 I could go back and shake myself. So again, she's getting old and ugly. And women have no idea how 1.00

00:02:19.840 much opportunity is given to us because we're young and beautiful. It's why we invest so much

00:02:23.700 in plastic surgery. It's why we invest so much in the gym. Again, a lot of times women, we're 1.00

00:02:30.740 under this illusion that our opportunity is because we work hard. And you'll see women cope

00:02:36.240 with this. Oh, I worked so hard. And I'm not saying women don't, but just compared to a man,

00:02:41.040 it's just not the same at the same time my time away from work has finally allowed me to be a

00:02:46.160 present mother and confront my strained relationship with money i'm getting ready to go back to work

00:02:50.720 but i plan to make a few changes i knew it was time to leave when my values no longer align with

00:02:55.600 the companies i identified early on in my career that i was good at work and i let my productivity

00:03:00.240 and achievement become my identity there are many times throughout my decade-long career in hr when

00:03:05.280 i tried to take a step back and be less intense but i think i had an addiction to the dopamine

00:03:10.000 that came from the stress. Translation, I love harassing people at work. Somebody's got to nag 1.00

00:03:14.900 these men about talking and it's going to be me. When my daughter was born, my husband became her

00:03:20.860 main caregiver and I became the sole provider for our family. In 2023, I was promoted to the

00:03:25.540 director of people experience at my dental company. I love the diversity of my job's responsibilities,

00:03:30.860 the salaries in my team, and I stayed for months. The straw that broke the camel's back when I came

00:03:35.160 back was i was in direct opposition with my boss about something that made me realize i wasn't the

00:03:40.200 right person to person for the job i made a commitment to myself that would never that i

00:03:45.560 would never stay in a role where i was compromising my values so again men understand in the work

00:03:50.680 environment it's not really about your values it's about getting the job done um but women again we 0.98

00:03:55.960 think we're more important than we are at work and we don't realize how replaceable we are

00:04:01.160 so again women get these overpaid jobs they get these big egos thinking that we're more competent 1.00

00:04:07.740 than we are and we're just not um i didn't wake up that day thinking i was going to quit but

00:04:12.360 something about the day made me feel like i couldn't take it anymore after i quit i took a

00:04:16.520 break that backfired but i don't have any regrets i have a little bit too much hubris thinking it

00:04:21.400 would be easy to find my next role so i didn't start applying to jobs until january of this year

00:04:25.840 I was out of touch with reality. As a healthcare recruiter, I saw an almost constant shortage of

00:04:32.100 workers, so I thought it would be the same for the HR industry. From January to April, I applied for

00:04:37.360 jobs, wrote professional cover letters, reached out to past co-workers, sent LinkedIn messages,

00:04:42.440 and did everything I could to secure a new role. But it felt like my applications went into the

00:04:47.000 abyss. It was very humbling. I don't have any regrets and feel that everything worked out as

00:04:51.800 it should, but I wish I had looked at the job market in my field and started applying sooner.

00:04:56.900 Quitting made me realize I hadn't been a present mother. I used to think I was the most present

00:05:01.800 mother I could be. I'd stop working at five and I put on a smile to play with my daughter,

00:05:05.600 but I was still mentally going through it as I, but I was still mentally going through everything

00:05:10.240 I had done that day. I was available, but I wasn't present. So again, women don't want to 1.00

00:05:15.640 be mothers. Women would rather have a HR job than be a mother. Women would rather have Juanita in 1.00

00:05:23.300 daycare watch their kid rather than watch their own. Since quitting my job, I'm finally able to

00:05:27.760 give my six-year-old daughter what she needs. Me fully immense in her world, playing, being silly,

00:05:32.160 and not just being physically next to her. Kids are intuitive and I feel like she's noticed a

00:05:36.280 difference. I've learned to stop using money to deal with stress. When I was earning a $250k

00:05:41.200 salary, I'd cope with a stressful day by ordering something from Amazon, buying myself a little

00:05:46.040 treat, or doing a Target run. I justify it by saying it's just a sweater from Target. It's not

00:05:50.400 a designer purse. I didn't realize I was spending money to distract myself from stress. Now that I

00:05:55.220 don't have access to disposable funds, I have found other ways to deal with stress. I've gotten

00:05:59.840 into coloring, painting, and even doing my own nail art. I'm not overly artistic or talented at

00:06:04.740 any of those things, but they're cathartic and allow me the satisfaction of seeing something

00:06:09.180 through to completion without pressure. I've also built a community of friends over this time. I go

00:06:14.220 walking some mornings with a neighbor who has kids in the same school as mine. It's good for physical

00:06:19.960 health, mental health, and connection. My time away helped me realize I'm so much more than how

00:06:25.440 productive I am in a day and how much I can contribute to my company. So the translation

00:06:30.860 of this is really a woman realizing that she's not as important as she thought. A lot of women 0.54

00:06:37.540 really overestimate just how useful and actually productive we are i'm ready to work again but i

00:06:44.340 have boundaries i'm translation i'm never going to get another job although it's nice and relaxing

00:06:50.100 to stay home in color i miss working i miss feeling productive like i've accomplished something

00:06:54.500 that is tangible and in the service of others i also miss the daily social connection that i had

00:06:59.060 at work i'm ready to work again and need to work again to provide for my family but i guess i've

00:07:03.700 become disenchanted with corporate america i don't want to go back to an office from

00:07:07.940 nine to five or have to send my daughter to a daycare instead of spending the day with her 1.00

00:07:12.420 i'm not even seeking balance just a job that won't systemically conflict with motherhood

00:07:16.500 mental health and life i may be idealistic but i'm no longer willing to sell my soul for work so

00:07:22.740 i don't think mothers realize how much they're missing until they're home full-time i don't know

00:07:27.860 if any of maybe the two women that watch me i don't know if any of you have gone from like 1.00

00:07:32.900 working full-time to quitting but i was in a situation growing up where like i had nannies

00:07:39.620 and stuff and sometimes the closest person you are like the person you're the closest to is the nanny

00:07:45.940 um and i don't know if the parents are always aware because they're so stressed out i mean i

00:07:50.980 was one at 10 right i mean we had to be everywhere i i don't even blame them but they don't realize

00:07:56.260 all the little things they're missing like when i was a kid i just remember getting out of school

00:08:00.820 and like going to see the pickup you know school pickup and i was just like praying it was my mom

00:08:05.460 or my dad i'm like please be my mom or my dad it was always the nanny no offense to the nannies you

00:08:10.660 guys did a good job but it just you know wasn't the same so and those are like actually my favorite

00:08:17.140 memories with my parents is when they did come to my basketball and volleyball games and they would

00:08:21.860 drive me home from the games and i just loved like being there with them like i love talking about

00:08:26.900 like it's just something different when the parents are like involved in the day-to-day you

00:08:32.340 know because i mean there were times when i during my childhood where my parents were more involved

00:08:36.740 and less involved like obviously 18 years is a long time and they had a business so like there

00:08:41.540 were ups and downs but yeah i just remember oh my gosh one time i had a nanny i hated i i faded this

00:08:49.460 nanny and i just remember getting out of school and being like oh please god not her not her

00:08:56.900 Anyways, guys, make sure you like the video, subscribe to the channel, and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - December 28, 2025

Woman Quits 6 Figure Job FOR NO REASON

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