Pearl - March 31, 2026


Women Are Unhappy No Matter If They Get “Alphas” or “Betas”


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Length

8 minutes

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167.24565

Word count

1,348

Sentence count

45

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Misogyny

21

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Toxicity

3

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Hate speech

9

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In this episode, I talk about the difference between alpha and beta in a relationship and why it matters who is leading the relationship. I also talk about why women should not have to marry for money and why they should not marry for love.

Transcript

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00:00:00.480 What up, guys? Welcome to my coffee talk.
00:00:03.400 Today, I have the normal black coffee with half and half and sugar-free syrup.
00:00:08.100 If you have a better coffee order that's healthy and not just black coffee,
00:00:11.600 because I'll want to kill myself if I drink that, let me know in the comments.
00:00:15.720 Okay, so I was thinking about alpha and beta.
00:00:18.800 A lot of guys, they ask me, well, what's alpha, what's beta, blah, blah, blah.
00:00:23.180 You know, a lot of guys get offended because, you know,
00:00:26.920 there are men that are leaders at work, right?
00:00:29.400 so they go to work and everybody listens to them and they respect them like for example will smith
00:00:34.320 was one of the greatest actors of the world but leadership at work and in other areas is not does
00:00:40.440 not translate to leadership of your wife so alpha and beta um in the context of a relationship
00:00:47.500 is who is leading the relationship is it the man or is it the woman
00:00:53.960 even times the same man can be both an alpha and a beta so um for example some men when they're
00:01:01.760 younger are complete super simps and they let the woman run the relationship they completely 0.99
00:01:07.480 um learn their lesson they come back and now they're the alpha um now remember this kind of
00:01:14.660 is a sliding scale and a spectrum but really alpha is a set of behaviors and when you look
00:01:19.660 at a relationship, you can kind of tell. For example, Candace Owens and her husband, I'm going
00:01:24.880 to use public examples and how I can tell who runs the relationship. Candace Owens is more public 0.97
00:01:30.560 facing than her husband. He moved to where she lived. She didn't move to where he lived. And
00:01:38.020 it's just very obvious that the whole family runs around what she's doing. Now, this is not to say
00:01:42.920 that it's good or bad, but it's definitely not traditional. Same thing with Allie Best Stuckey.
00:01:46.880 Um, when you watch an interview of Allie Beth Stuckey and her husband, Allie Beth Stuckey
00:01:52.420 always answers first.
00:01:54.440 When in a relationship where the man's leading, the man is going to answer first.
00:01:58.360 The same way where if you have a company meeting, you look to your boss and you let him answer,
00:02:05.800 right?
00:02:06.080 I, you know, they say, how's the company's revenue or blah, blah, blah.
00:02:09.820 I'm not going to answer first.
00:02:12.380 And it's like that in relationships.
00:02:14.620 now there's this idea um that the alpha guys the prince charming they're just gonna take home
00:02:20.960 stacy and and save the day because a lot of times women pine for the alpha years later this is a 0.91
00:02:27.620 phenomenon we see in media and this is a phenomenon um we even see they've interviewed old women at 0.89
00:02:33.160 nursing homes there was still a lot of them talk about this guy in their 20s or in their teens that
00:02:38.400 just gave them this excitement and he's still in their head 50 years later. I bet. Um, so
00:02:47.860 there's this idea that if you like, let's say, um, Titanic, right? So Titanic is the story of
00:02:55.980 Jack and Rose. Um, you know, they're on the floating wood thing, like, sorry, Rose, um,
00:03:03.520 is from a rich family and her family wants to marry for money. And again, this kind of goes 1.00
00:03:09.220 back to women's internal struggle, which is marrying for money or marrying for love. Women 0.99
00:03:15.040 love bartenders, musicians, and all that, but long-term doesn't really make sense. For her,
00:03:22.260 she loved this broke guy on Titanic, but long-term her family was never going to let that happen. 0.99
00:03:29.160 she ends up leaving her whole family doing all this stuff because her vagina told her to 1.00
00:03:33.720 um okay who i'm not going to go too into that story it's good enough right but 0.97
00:03:40.420 for the broke guy and that's the female fantasy is leaving everything you know for the broke guy 1.00
00:03:45.780 and there's this idea that if you know jack you know leonardo dicaprio of course the hot guy
00:03:50.780 uh just survived if he just survived titanic that he would have um that him and rose would
00:03:57.420 have lived happily ever after. It's the same thing in the notebook. The Rachel McAdams,
00:04:02.580 whatever her character's name, she's in a relationship with a guy for money. She's 0.99
00:04:06.200 still thinking about that high school, uncontrollable, hot ex-boyfriend that she left
00:04:12.180 behind. And her family didn't want her to be with, right? Because the family never wants
00:04:17.360 the women to be with the, like, if anything, people always say women are gold diggers, 1.00
00:04:22.440 but I really don't agree. I think that, um, uh, men are actually bigger gold diggers than women, 0.99
00:04:31.160 because if you talk to the dads, they always are telling the women to marry for money. 1.00
00:04:36.980 All the mean movies about like women love are about not having to marry for money anyways. 1.00
00:04:43.100 So, um, in a way that's what feminism is, is women being able to bang 1.00
00:04:47.540 hot guys and not marry for money. Anyways, continue.
00:04:52.440 there's this idea that if those women just got with those men that they would be happy and they 0.76
00:05:00.060 would have these long marriages and I'm here to tell you even if you were in the beta bucks
00:05:04.580 position for your ex-wife maybe she cheated on you with an ex-boyfriend even if she got with 1.00
00:05:10.980 that ex-boyfriend she would not be happy women this is this is a lesson you're either a happy 0.84
00:05:19.000 person or you're not a happy person. You're either a woman that can control her emotions or a woman 1.00
00:05:24.280 that can't. You're either a woman that's happy all around or you're just not. And really the real 1.00
00:05:35.460 lesson is let's say she got with Jack. Let's say Jack and Rose or whatever survived Titanic and
00:05:43.400 they lived happily ever after um rose would have started nagging him about not making enough money
00:05:51.360 not working enough like it would have been fun to go dancing and do all the fun stuff until you
00:05:59.080 know the bills came and now he's not doing enough now i think the female dream is for the alpha guy 1.00
00:06:06.840 to then hit it rich right and that happens sometimes but um in a way fun is a skill so men
00:06:16.560 that are fun tend to have had a lot of time to develop that skill you know what i mean
00:06:21.660 so regardless um women are never happy like women can be with the alpha or be with the beta 1.00
00:06:31.100 quote unquote. And we just will not be happy. We won't. So I would say that it has less to do with
00:06:41.840 the men and more with the women. The men are in control on if they lead the relationship, right?
00:06:48.580 You don't have to move to the girl. You don't have to revolve around her schedule. She can revolve 0.82
00:06:52.380 around yours right but to some extent if a woman's just an unhappy person um she is never going to be
00:07:02.520 happy um and I think of somebody I know and she's had like four boyfriends I've met and
00:07:14.700 everyone i i meet i'm like god help you because um she could date every rich guy or every hot guy 1.00
00:07:24.480 under the sun and she's just gonna find something wrong with them so anyways um let me know what
00:07:30.540 you guys think of the comments have you seen a woman actually get the chad and then you know
00:07:34.860 complain later because that's what i've seen there's just been women that they get the guy 1.00
00:07:40.280 they want and you know they get the chad from high school now they want the chad from college
00:07:45.140 they get the chad from college now they want the chad from the city um they get the chad from the
00:07:50.900 city settle down now they're not happy for another reason it's just you know the constant unhappiness
00:07:57.000 is a woman problem and a lot of times it's nothing to do with you fellas like the video 1.00
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