Pearl - Women Are Wondering Where All The Men Went (Call-in Show)

00:00:00.000 Viral online of a dozen women being asked the following question, do we need men?

00:00:06.580 Most answered very quickly, no, because men are useless.

00:00:12.300 This headline from The Hill, it caught my eye.

00:00:15.080 Most young men are single, most young women are not.

00:00:18.080 Young men have fallen faster than any demographic in America over the last 40 years.

00:00:22.780 It's a different world now, like we don't need men the way that they used to.

00:00:25.840 Nobody needs men!

00:00:26.860 The future is female.

00:00:30.000 Men and women are drifting further apart, and society is crumbling because of it.

00:00:36.620 A fascinating debate has broken out about the value of marriage.

00:00:39.920 You've kind of got the TradCon versus red pill thing.

00:00:42.620 This men's rights crowd that sometimes just goes too far the other way.

00:00:46.180 You need to stop acting like grown boys and infants and actually become men.

00:00:50.260 Marriage is a bond, and it's a sacred bond.

00:00:52.880 It's a machine designed to extract resources from you.

00:00:55.860 Now many of the red-pilled have taken the position that it's bad for men to get married.

00:01:00.000 Hannah Pearl Davis or just pearly things one of the most controversial faces in all of the internet

00:01:08.000 she goes on to say that marriage is a terrible deal for men because if me and you were in a

00:01:12.160 business contract you would never sign a contract where I am paid to leave gee what could go wrong

00:01:17.240 there 74 percent or something of divorces are initiated by women men have everything to lose

00:01:23.200 primarily their own children men get killed by the courts and by divorce laws I had no idea that

00:01:28.780 Courts of family law were courts of equity, not courts of law.

00:01:32.460 Because in family court, you don't need evidence to accuse someone of abuse.

00:01:35.680 You need no evidence.

00:01:36.820 When you guys say get married young, a lot of these men don't know what they're signing up for.

00:01:40.520 And you're not going to be there when their entire life falls apart.

00:01:43.880 I interviewed them on the other side.

00:01:46.400 I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.

00:01:48.700 How much did you spend trying to get him back?

00:01:50.840 The legal fees alone was about $200,000.

00:01:53.020 Before you know it, you're homeless.

00:01:54.640 You're literally just thrown out onto the street.

00:01:56.400 we absolutely reinforce bad behavior from women wives are taught to leave their husbands and then

00:02:01.440 daughters grow up without their fathers family is a foundation of society every problem in society

00:02:06.480 comes from single mother homes a lot of women will just chase this negative rabbit hole of

00:02:10.880 happiness endless happiness feminism's biggest failures is it lies to women we tell women to

00:02:14.960 date as many guys as possible we tell them to put off family into marriage you are allowed to leave

00:02:19.520 your perfect husband you are allowed to end a relationship with a really great boyfriend oh

00:02:25.200 freeze your eggs have an abortion what you're evil i don't think there's anything else in life

00:02:29.520 that we actually ever go into preparing to fail like if you have the mentality of this is going

00:02:34.160 to go wrong and be pessimistic naturally the outcome is going to be that it's going to fail

00:02:38.400 anyway it's self-sabotage that's the thing like women are so willing to leave marriages because

00:02:42.640 they're not happy this is not about happiness the most important thing is the children and the

00:02:47.920 problem is we have a modern society where it's me me me my feelings leave when i feel like it

00:02:53.520 instead of doing what's best for the kids this myth that we live in an age of male privilege

00:02:58.880 where's my male privilege they think well men have all the rights they have all the power

00:03:02.640 privilege patriarchal system that we have why doesn't our society care about men's rights

00:03:07.680 i have no friends no wife and no social life men are alone in this situation men are homeless men

00:03:13.920 are thinking about eating guns i've seen so many men on on the brink of suicide and they didn't do

00:03:19.040 anything wrong. How are you equal if the men are the ones that have to fight and

00:03:23.980 die to defend the country? The men are the ones that build and maintain all the

00:03:28.200 infrastructure. Women are helplessly dependent upon men. The so-called deaths

00:03:32.760 of despair from suicide, overdose to alcohol, three times higher among men than

00:03:38.400 among women. Culture is telling men you are no good. You got to get your act

00:03:41.660 together. I think men have failed themselves. What kind of a man are you?

00:03:45.020 What kind of a woman are you going to attract?

00:03:46.960 If men are in trouble, so are women.

00:03:49.620 Everybody knows this is a huge problem, but nobody wants to admit it.

00:03:53.300 Every single woman at the table said they wanted a man to get...

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00:03:58.060 Am I crazy?

00:03:58.760 Everything is really set up against you to fail as a man.

00:04:01.000 If men make less than women, women don't want to marry them.

00:04:04.440 So you know who wants more economically and emotionally viable men?

00:04:08.520 Women.

00:04:09.980 I don't want to be an independent woman anymore.

00:04:12.180 I don't want to be a strong, independent woman.

00:04:14.440 I'm over it.

00:04:15.600 When is it going to be my turn?

00:04:16.900 Where are we meeting the men that don't stop?

00:04:18.660 I can't keep having these same conversations.

00:04:21.460 The only simp here is you, Pearl.

00:04:22.720 You simp for men.

00:04:23.320 No, I think you simp for women.

00:04:24.740 She's a provocateur.

00:04:25.720 She says stupid stuff.

00:04:26.900 But Pearl is right about this.

00:04:28.180 It's already happening.

00:04:29.300 It's just not out in the open yet.

00:04:30.780 Now it's just hookup culture is going to be our fairy tale ending because men don't want a wife and women can't find a husband.

00:04:36.200 The future, if everybody follows your path, is there is no future.

00:04:40.680 We go into population decline and our economy goes into decline.

00:04:44.280 civilization will crumble the american story does not end well this is an existential crisis failing

00:04:51.180 young men what is up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily here on the audacity

00:05:03.640 network i'm your host pearl and if you want to donate we're almost to thirty thousand dollars

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00:06:06.960 okay guys so today um we are talking about women are now noticing that the men are gone

00:06:13.920 so basically women have told men for 40 years that they don't want to be approached

00:06:19.980 they have told men that they can do everything by themselves and it turns out when women keep

00:06:25.860 saying that men men men they go where they're wanted they'll listen and they'll leave them

00:06:30.700 alone. Mainstream media has been in denial for some time about the fact that men are disengaging

00:06:37.060 from women. It used to be expected that men would court women and romance them. Men would move

00:06:44.160 heaven and earth to attract a woman to be his girlfriend or his wife. Women called that misogyny

00:06:49.560 and patriarchy and rewrote the social contract. Now we have the circus that is the dating market

00:06:56.060 in the modern day. It's gotten so bad that outlets like the New York Times have finally caught on,

00:07:01.840 caught wind of men responding to women's disgust and mistreatment. A writer for the New York Times

00:07:08.320 is begging men to come back to women and romance and court them again. Let's take a look at what

00:07:13.960 they want to say. Now, by the way, guys, as I'm reading this, this is going to be a call-in show.

00:07:19.580 so I want you guys to think of the question if you were asked where have the men gone what's your

00:07:28.820 answer so I was excited this this article took place in Chicago that's where I'm from also if

00:07:36.180 you want unlimited super chats it's on the website okay a warm Saturday night in Wicker Park a vibrant

00:07:42.180 stretch of Chicago where seven restaurants crowd a single block Troy and I were having dinner at

00:07:47.600 mama delia one of the quieter spots the sidewalk patio held five tables three two tops including

00:07:54.460 ours and a pair pulled together for a group of eight young women at those tables troy was the

00:08:01.200 only man the scene was beautiful low lights shared plates shoulders angled in this kind of evening

00:08:07.540 people wait for all winter but still i found myself watching the crowd as it moved past us

00:08:12.720 women walking in pairs or alone dressed without a care

00:08:16.000 dressed with care at a table after

00:08:20.040 at a table at

00:08:23.600 sorry I can't talk today at table after table at the nearby restaurants there was a noticeable

00:08:29.640 absence of men at least of men seated in what

00:08:33.660 looked like dates Troy and I have known for almost

00:08:36.920 Troy and I have known each other for almost 20 years we met at Playboy of all places

00:08:41.900 back when we were both learning how desire gets packaged, sold, and sometimes misunderstood.

00:08:47.460 We stayed close friends, bonded, not just by our opinions, but by the effort it takes to stay into someone's life.

00:08:54.540 That night, we made the effort, but still, what I saw unfolding around us felt like something else entirely,

00:09:00.600 a collective shift I couldn't unsee.

00:09:03.260 It started to become clear the previous April, where a man who had been pursuing me canceled dinner at the last minute.

00:09:09.320 There was a scheduling mix-up with his son's game, and I understood.

00:09:13.840 I'm a hockey mom. I get it.

00:09:15.400 Still, I went. I wore what I would have worn anyway.

00:09:17.740 I looked at the table. I ordered well, and I watched the room.

00:09:21.780 Only two tables nearby seemed to hold actual dates.

00:09:25.080 The rest were groups of women or women alone, each one occupying her space with quiet confidence.

00:09:30.940 No shrinking, no waiting, no apologizing.

00:09:33.820 The night marked something, not a heartbreak, but an unveiling.

00:09:37.620 A sense that what I'd been experiencing wasn't just personal misalignment, but something broader, cultural.

00:09:44.040 A slow vanishing of presence.

00:09:46.400 I spent over a decade behind the curtain of digital desire.

00:09:49.920 As the custodian of records for Playboy and its affiliated hardcore properties, including sites like Spice TV,

00:09:57.100 I was responsible for some of the most infringed upon adult content in the world.

00:10:01.220 I worked closely with copyright attorneys and marketing teams to understand exactly what it

00:10:07.280 took to get a man to pay for content he could easily find for free. We knew what worked. We

00:10:14.740 knew how to frame a face, a gesture, a moment of implication, just enough to ignite a fantasy and

00:10:21.480 open a wallet. I came to understand in exact terms what cues tempt the average 18 to 36 year

00:10:28.560 old heterosexual man. What drew him in? What kept him coming

00:10:33.240 back? It wasn't intimacy, it wasn't mute, mutuality, it was

00:10:38.460 access to stimulation, clean, fast and frictionless. In the

00:10:43.500 world, there's no need for conversation, no effort, no

00:10:46.540 curiosity, no recipro

00:10:50.160 recipro, repress. No curiosity, no one's feelings to consider,

00:10:56.460 no vulnerability to navigate, just a closed loop of consumption.

00:11:01.540 What struck me wasn't the extremity of the content.

00:11:05.380 It wasn't the emotional vacancy behind it, the drift.

00:11:09.680 The way many men had quietly withdrawn from intimacy and vulnerability,

00:11:14.000 not with violence or resistance, but with indifference.

00:11:17.400 They weren't sitting across from someone on a Saturday night trying to connect.

00:11:21.260 They were scrolling, dabbling, disappearing behind firewalls, filters, and curated personas.

00:11:26.460 And while they disappeared, women continued to gather to tend to notice who wasn't arriving and to show up anyway.

00:11:33.160 I'm 54. I've been dating since the mid 80s.

00:11:36.240 I've been married. I've been a mother.

00:11:37.840 I've gotten divorced and had many relationships, both long and short.

00:11:41.980 I remember when part of heterosexual male culture involved showing up with a woman to signal something, status, success, desirability.

00:11:49.900 Women were often were women were once signifiers of value even to other men.

00:11:55.540 now it doesn't mean anything to buy your dinner because some other dude is smashing her after

00:12:00.000 dinner oh thank you for the 100 the 200 super chat holy crap thank you william thank you so much

00:12:09.820 wow holy crap we haven't had one like that in forever thank you um i don't know what to say

00:12:17.960 thank you so much um where was i reading okay women were once signifiers of value even

00:12:25.400 to other men it wasn't always healthy but it was meant to it was meant that men had to show up

00:12:30.440 and put in some effort the dynamic has quietly collapsed i know i can't read okay

00:12:37.640 um we have moved into an era where many men no longer seek to impress women

00:12:45.400 no longer seek women to impress other men or to connect across difference they perform elsewhere

00:12:51.320 alone. They've filtered us out. I recently experienced a flicker of possibility with

00:12:56.340 James. We met on Raya, the dating app. There was something mutual from the start, a wordplay,

00:13:02.020 an emotional precision, a tone that felt attuned. It was brief, but it was caught light. I remember

00:13:10.900 saying to him, even fleeting connections matter when they're mutual and lit from inside. And I

00:13:15.640 meant it. There was just enough spark to wonder what might unfold, enough curiosity to imagine

00:13:21.360 a doorway, but he didn't step through it, not with a plan, not with a presence. He hovered,

00:13:27.080 flirted, retreated, offering warmth, but no direction. Sexual tension and spark aren't reason

00:13:32.640 enough to sit still and hope there's substance behind the shimmer. So I named what I felt.

00:13:37.660 I texted him clearly with care, not simply to declare attraction, but to extend a real invitation

00:13:44.660 to explore what was possible.

00:13:46.720 I didn't chase.

00:13:47.760 I invited, leaving the door open.

00:13:49.740 If he ever wanted to cross the threshold,

00:13:52.240 not just to take, but to me, I was willing.

00:13:54.500 I wanted to, and I still do.

00:13:56.540 He never replied.

00:13:57.720 He still follows my Instagram stories.

00:13:59.740 One of those small gestures of passive engagement

00:14:02.240 that so many of us now mistake for closeness.

00:14:04.940 It looks like interest, but it feels like silence.

00:14:08.860 Who thinks that viewing an Instagram story is closeness?

00:14:12.580 All right, there are thousands of Jameses.

00:14:14.560 I have known dozens. The arc varies, but the undertow is familiar. What I won't entertain

00:14:21.960 is directionless orbiting. The thing so many men now seem to mistake for connection, the perpetual

00:14:29.180 maybe, the emoji check-ins, the casual seeing where this goes without it ever going anywhere.

00:14:34.360 We call it a situationship, but mostly it's an avoidance.

00:14:37.240 an avoidance of ownership a feeling of behavior of sex that isn't a means to an end but it is

00:14:47.340 communication so women often complain about situationships the same way that men complain

00:14:53.960 about not getting laid on a date women's burden of performance is getting men to commit after sex

00:15:00.140 men's burden of performance is to get women to make to make women want to have sex with them

00:15:07.360 That's the burden of performance we both have.

00:15:11.840 There was a time not so long ago where even a one night stand with tangled limbs and shared

00:15:17.260 and a shared breakfast when the act of staying the night didn't announce a relationship,

00:15:22.160 just a willingness to be human for a few more hours.

00:15:24.940 Now, even that kind of unscripted contact feels rare.

00:15:28.060 We've built so many boundaries that we've walked off the very moments that make connection

00:15:32.420 memorable.

00:15:33.700 And frankly, morning sex is often the best sex.

00:15:36.020 Sometimes you get a side of eggs before you disappear from their bed and their life forever.

00:15:41.760 The idea that vulnerability is a threat instead of an invitation has created a culture of

00:15:46.300 hesitation of men circulating intimacy, but never entertaining it.

00:15:50.380 And the result is thousands of tiny silos, everyone performing closeness, but no one

00:15:56.200 making a move that binds isolation, loneliness, a hunger for contact that has nowhere to land.

00:16:01.560 maybe we're between paradigms mourning what's fallen not yet fluent in what comes next the

00:16:09.640 infrastructure of intimacy slowness curiosity accountability have been eroded by haste

00:16:15.840 convenience and a kind of sanctioned emotional retreat it's not about blaming men it's about

00:16:21.100 noticing the imbalance about grieving what's not meeting us and about refusing to dress it up as a

00:16:26.740 personal failure when it's actually a collective reality. Here's what I'll say. You're missed,

00:16:31.280 not just by me, but by the world you once helped shape. We remember you, the version of you that

00:16:36.620 lingered at the table, that laughed from the chest, that asked questions and waited for answers,

00:16:42.060 that touched without taking, that listened, really listened when a woman spoke.

00:16:46.280 they don't really listen they're looking at your tits okay

00:16:54.140 you are not gone but your present is presence is thinning in restaurants and friendships in

00:17:00.320 the slow rituals of romantic emergence you've retreated not into malice but into something

00:17:04.980 softer and harder at once avoidance exhaustion disrepair maybe no one taught you how to stay

00:17:10.080 maybe you tried it once and it hurt maybe the world told you your role was to provide to perform

00:17:14.940 and to protect, but never to feel. But here's what's real. We never needed you to be perfect.

00:17:20.740 We just needed you to be with us, not above, not muted, not masked, just with. And you can still

00:17:26.200 come back, not by becoming someone else, but by remembering what connection feels like when it's

00:17:31.960 honest and slow, when it's earned and messy and sacred. Chicago says the article is an excellent

00:17:38.660 example of the differences in thought processes between men and women. Thank you. We're still

00:17:43.540 here those of us willing to concentrate or co-create something true we're not impossible to

00:17:50.600 please one in the chat if women can be pleased two in the chat if we're impossible we're not

00:17:58.860 asking for performances we are asking for presence for courage for breath and eye contact and the

00:18:04.460 ability to say I'm here I don't know how to do this perfectly but I'll try come back not with

00:18:09.360 flowers or fireworks but with willingness with your whole beautiful and perfect heart we're

00:18:14.400 still here and we haven't stopped hoping and for me i'll keep showing up not because i'm waiting

00:18:19.680 but because i know what it feels like when someone finally arrives um so we're gonna do

00:18:26.960 call and show so we'll put the link in the chat we want to know where have the men gone and how

00:18:31.680 would you answer this if a woman asked you um so we're gonna put the link in the chat in a second

00:18:39.360 And we're going to do a commercial break while we're waiting for Doug MPA to get on the line

00:18:47.940 with the callers. So we're going to do a 30 second commercial break.

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00:19:32.440 now we're back

00:19:33.160 it's dug mpa on the line hey can you hear me i can hear you how are you i am fantastic i love

00:19:43.480 this topic where have the men gone dug mpa why aren't they taking us why aren't they whining

00:19:49.880 and dining us anymore aren't they where are they like the men that used to go to the bars the men

00:19:55.800 that used to you know that be out in these places where are they at uh like you said in your opening

00:20:01.960 preamble there used to be a social contract a social contract okay um it used to be where men

00:20:08.920 and women used to used to go to the bar and then the women were on one side and the men were on

00:20:13.880 the other side and then a man would get some liquid courage see a pretty woman do the long

00:20:19.560 walk to the other side of the bar lay down a couple of lines and it either worked or it didn't

00:20:25.080 and if it didn't work the guy would have to make the long walk back across the bar and everyone

00:20:30.280 what kind of point at him and laugh right um another social construct we used to have to go

00:20:37.320 to a woman's um father's house you go to the father and say hey i'd like to take your daughter

00:20:42.840 out on a date it was all nice and simple but women call that misogyny and patriarchy it messed it all

00:20:48.520 up and and it's funny yes put you guys ever try to get advice on how to approach women from a woman

00:20:59.720 it's insanity oh just be confident bro when they're never gonna they don't approach women

00:21:06.040 and they're never gonna approach a man the biggest problem is women they know not what

00:21:11.720 they ask for they don't want men to approach but then they're never gonna approach so now

00:21:17.320 there's a staring contest you know women want to be in the workplace but they don't want to do any

00:21:23.240 work you understand i'm saying it's like we're in this great experiment and one of the best

00:21:31.480 slides i've ever heard pearl is the 20th century was women rewriting the rules to society the

00:21:38.120 social rules and the 21st century is going to be men responding to it women don't like how

00:21:44.120 men are responding to the rules they set but you don't get the you can't put it back in the bottle

00:21:53.240 understand what I'm saying? They just don't like how men are responding. Remember, women want all

00:21:58.600 the freedom in the world, but then still want men to be traditional and masculine. I always say

00:22:03.660 feminism has freed women up from being barefoot and pregnant in the house, but guys, it also

00:22:09.800 freed you up from your traditional masculine responsibilities too. You don't have to be a

00:22:15.080 pack mule for a woman. You don't have to pay a bunch of money to take a bunch of women out

00:22:20.140 uh on days that aren't going to give you anything uh in return you can ask what is in it for me as a

00:22:26.140 man so so do you think men do you think men that used to be in bars and stuff do you think they're

00:22:34.060 just like at home like where do you like how do you think it's migrated like would you say like

00:22:40.140 even you like 20 years ago did you go out more than you go now like maybe 100 friends of yours

00:22:46.220 would you say it's the same go ahead ask the last part again like yourself and the men your age that

00:22:53.180 you know um maybe 20 years ago would you say how often did you guys go out and now what do you guys

00:22:59.980 do instead so i mean friday saturday nights you get ready for five saturday night go out with the

00:23:07.900 boys you know but now let me look if you being able to get women in bars translated to getting

00:23:16.540 women online so the same guys that were good at picking women up at bars can pick women up

00:23:24.060 online a lot easier so a lot of the guys that have the game to pick women up in bars

00:23:29.100 are just getting a lot of women online yeah so it's kind of that's the one guy i know that's a

00:23:36.060 big player in miami he said he like never goes out anymore there's no point he just gets on instagram

00:23:42.220 and looks at his dms there and here's the thing and gets him right to the house it's like uber eats

00:23:50.620 but for bitches here's the thing one thing being freed from our these traditional masculine

00:24:00.140 responsibilities, it's made men really think about their time. Because guys, if you have

00:24:08.060 a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly valued education, you're going to make

00:24:14.160 more money. And early on, you're going to see if you're on the path into success. So now men are

00:24:20.280 really focused on how we're spending our time. As men, we can make more money. That's why you

00:24:25.840 shouldn't really feel bad about these famous guys who get divorced and have to pay their wife half

00:24:31.260 their stuff they're gonna make their money back but they're not gonna get their time back so more

00:24:35.900 men are being cognizant of their time more than anything and they're not wasting it with a bunch

00:24:41.260 of women that there aren't gonna reciprocate anything yeah yeah totally um is there anyone

00:24:47.780 on the line oh yeah we got a lot this is a hot topic here yeah and ladies a lot of callers thanks

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00:25:06.440 thank you to all the regulars in the youtube chat always good to see you and thank you for

00:25:10.360 everyone on the audacity chat oh and then williams with the big bomb 200 he's in the audacity chat

00:25:20.440 thank you so much william we really appreciate it i was about to say we'll send him a membership for

00:25:25.080 that one right i know wow thank you so much all right and ladies you can call in too you know

00:25:32.360 i see a couple of you in the check call it and let us know where you think all the good men have

00:25:36.520 gone do you see less men out and about when you go out do you see nothing but girls sitting at

00:25:42.760 tables and bars let us know okay oh i want to say so what i've seen i want to say what i've seen

00:25:49.000 before we go into the callers so if i go to a nice restaurant in a big city you'll see three types of

00:25:58.760 tables so one is a really hot woman with an older guy two is a bunch of mids with a club promoter

00:26:09.720 usually young mids under 30 ish um and then three is a bunch of women paying for themselves that

00:26:17.240 aren't overly attractive there might be like one cute one in the group but that's what i see

00:26:21.960 the other thing that i've noticed is that i think that going out places are more like divided than

00:26:29.240 ever so for example women might go to segregated yeah like women might go to a brunch on a saturday

00:26:37.560 or like um if i go to like a salsa night or something it's like more women than men

00:26:42.600 because that's like things women like to do but if you go um into like places men like

00:26:50.360 so like for example like dive bars it's all men like if i go to a karaoke the karaoke bar we went

00:26:57.720 to i would say there was more men would you agree yeah there was yeah so like but i don't think it

00:27:04.040 was because of the karaoke i think it was because the vibe of the place do you know what i mean like

00:27:08.840 that we were at um when you were here the like it's just more of like a dive bar feel like because

00:27:15.640 i was thinking about the places men like to go to and they like to go to places where it's like

00:27:20.200 cheap beer if they're gonna go drink like they don't really care about the the essence or the

00:27:25.560 way it looks they want to know like what is the happy hour price where the women want to know is

00:27:30.440 it a cool place is it like does that make sense so yeah that's what i'm seeing it's like how you

00:27:36.680 you're starting to see nail salons and places that are catered to women they're starting to have like

00:27:42.760 valets and all sorts of stuff that women they want to create an experience for women because

00:27:48.520 they know women expect a certain kind of experience for their money whereas a lot of

00:27:53.320 you're never going to see you you know places that men congregate with with ballet that isn't

00:27:59.160 a country club or something like that you know the other place that i noticed um i think that

00:28:05.720 that gyms that are either cheap are more male dominated or um more power lifting heavy i think

00:28:14.360 that's a place men go and then also um there's a third place i just had in my head and i forgot

00:28:22.600 yeah i can say that because i um i went through a short period where i went to one of those

00:28:28.600 lifetime fitnesses you know the places that the big huge gyms oh i have a membership there yeah

00:28:33.720 it's like $130, $140. Yeah. There's, those are the few times where I've seen it like 50,

00:28:40.040 50 men and women because women love those places, man. And they go there and do everything but work

00:28:45.740 out. You know what? I got it. I kept getting day passes because there's a machine I like to use

00:28:54.660 there. And then they sold me on a membership one time I went because I would go to get so many day

00:29:02.080 passes um hey i see a bunch of people i've never seen in here before so they're going to get

00:29:08.240 priority i want to i want to go over the rules before they come up go ahead so okay guys i want

00:29:14.160 to go through a couple rules if you're going to be on the show um make sure the youtube is not

00:29:19.360 playing in the background so if you're in the waiting room make sure that your youtube is not

00:29:23.920 playing in the background maybe put it in some headphones so we don't do whatever but we don't

00:29:28.720 want that on when you get up um we we are gonna allow you guys to have your camera off but i do

00:29:35.280 think as these shows get bigger we're gonna have to do cameras on um if if this gets abused and we

00:29:41.840 get people in here trolling or doing whatever this will change but because you guys because

00:29:47.600 you guys have been good we're gonna we're gonna keep it like that um on or off is fine the next

00:29:54.240 thing is please don't over talk me um i understand it's frustrating you might have a lot to say but

00:30:02.880 it's my show so you just can't over talk the host sometimes i'm going to interrupt you if

00:30:07.200 you're going on a tangent and you just got to not over talk me back it just is what it is um four is

00:30:14.720 um i'm missing one is that a doug mpa there's one more i'm missing i'm going to say you know

00:30:23.360 for now ladies are going to get priority so if i see a lady in the chat and make sure that you're

00:30:29.360 ready and you know it's a constructive conversation even if you have a opposing view it'll just be

00:30:36.240 good to hear more ladies come on the show so if i see a woman you get first priority so call in

00:30:42.400 would love to hear from you yeah and i love um when talking about society on this show

00:30:48.800 i am going to ask you specific questions it's not to be rude or to be prying but

00:30:54.400 what i like from this show is to get what you guys have seen out in the real world

00:31:00.240 i think that's how you get better information so um yeah i think that's really all i got

00:31:08.320 so cool let's do it first up we have kage the certified sexologist

00:31:14.880 this should be interesting hey guys make sure you hit that like button there are

00:31:20.640 885 people in here let's keep 100 engagement 885 likes kage you are on mute kage

00:31:30.060 the certified sexologist you are on me yes sir yes sir yes sir kage is that how i say it yes ma'am

00:31:39.360 what is a sexologist? Do you like coach people through it or what?

00:31:47.480 No, no, no. You don't coach people through it. People who have intimacy issues,

00:31:52.340 you explore different palliative methods on how to curate a better experience sexually,

00:32:02.300 even with themselves. Like there are people who have issues masturbating. There are people who

00:32:06.520 have issues, you know. What a job. That's an interesting, okay. It's actually, it's actually

00:32:14.660 a side job. My main job, I work for the government. Okay. I was just curious. I was like, I've

00:32:19.460 never heard of a sexologist. So what's your answer to the question? Where have the men

00:32:24.180 gone? You know, I actually wanted to use an anecdote today. I was, I was watching while

00:32:31.860 was at work, I kind of watched the new episode of the pop, the balloon. I don't know if you're

00:32:36.980 familiar with it, right? Yeah. It's a funny show. Today, there was an anesthesiologist. He just

00:32:44.560 finished his residency. And one girl popped on him because she's like, yeah, you just finished

00:32:53.300 your residency. You're about to start working, but so you're not financially stable. And I was

00:32:57.500 like you do understand day one he's making 250 day one day one he's making 250 easy

00:33:08.600 and yeah she was like yeah you're not financially stable so i just and you just getting into your

00:33:17.240 career i want someone more established in his career it's like you know he just did fucking

00:33:22.460 10 years in school. Like, what? Insanity. Men are, if I'm going to be honest, men are tired.

00:33:35.280 Men are tired of hearing that rhetoric. Men are tired of the constant berating when we state our

00:33:43.720 preferences, when we open our mouths and we're asked to express ourselves or to tell women what

00:33:50.700 we want and then we're told what we want by women so like that's that's a frustrating thing for men

00:33:57.580 so like in in that regards when it just comes to something as simple as communication just

00:34:03.720 even communicating with women is difficult so a lot of men are just like yeah you know if if a

00:34:10.180 good woman comes you know we're open but uh right now it's it's crazy we're dodging every everything

00:34:17.200 coming at us and what was your social how how old are you first i'm 31 i'll be 32 in september

00:34:24.880 okay is your social life now different than it was 10 years ago like in terms of going out going on

00:34:31.440 dates um i'll say 10 years ago i was in my early 20s so it's 2021 right uh so things were things

00:34:45.520 were kind of different i guess uh i was i was cougar diving then so

00:34:55.120 all the chicks all the chicks at the finish or at the wall i should say at the wall or

00:35:00.000 past the wall i was i was clapping major cheeks so i meant like um were you more willing to take

00:35:07.200 women on dates then did you go out more yes like yes yeah that's a question so could you contrast

00:35:14.240 a week you could do five years ago 10 what like just what maybe when did it switch for you and

00:35:20.800 how did it switch um 20 i would say about 2018 2018 was when it switched um like the the economy

00:35:37.040 downshift kind of changed everything. The prices of goods and services kind of switched. 2018 was

00:35:45.440 kind of like upwards of 2018 to like pre-pandemic. That's kind of like the changing point.

00:35:53.680 But like before then, it was easy to take a check out. One, it was more equitable.

00:35:59.200 And then it was just easier to... It wasn't as much pushback. I would say in 2015, it wasn't

00:36:06.720 as much pushback as it is now. Like from women. What do you mean by pushback? Like it was easier

00:36:14.120 to get sex or it was easier to get a date? Communication. Like my, my, my basis is

00:36:20.500 communication. The reason why men are, I guess, hard on like not, not dating women or not taking

00:36:29.960 women on dates is because the communication factor, like a lot of women don't even get to

00:36:35.300 the date. Like if I'm, if I'm communicating with them or if I get their number and, you know,

00:36:41.220 I'm, I'm working six or seven days a week, I'm, I'm conversing with her. And maybe on the weekend,

00:36:46.760 I'm planning on taking her on a date, but like if conversing with her during the week that I

00:36:52.620 have her number is very difficult, we were not making it to the date.

00:36:56.640 difficult how difficult as in like just uh just scenario either scenarios or like you know just

00:37:08.260 talking about life where their their viewpoints and their opinion i told you i told you because

00:37:13.600 pearl and i go back and forth she's like doug mba why don't you just like keep your mouth shut and

00:37:18.780 don't like challenge them on anything and just like keep your mouth shut and get laid but i'm

00:37:23.520 like pro you have no idea how how how rough conversation is with these women that they want

00:37:29.400 you to agree with everything they have these outlandish leftist liberal views and it's just

00:37:34.280 like it's too much it's too much is that what's you're talking about they have liberal views

00:37:41.860 like they text you about it yeah that or like because i'm i'm not really a big texter i'm more

00:37:47.960 like a conversationalist uh i like talking to people i like hearing the inflection in their

00:37:54.300 voice to kind of like that kind of pinpoints their character like a litmus test on their character

00:37:59.960 based on how they converse yeah so could i have an example of maybe a date that happened recently

00:38:08.040 um that went south that you had to cancel or like it didn't happen and why oh my god

00:38:14.880 the most recent one actually um so i i took this chick out to a nice restaurant uh as guys we're

00:38:24.760 we're very i'll say we're very frugal on like how our spending is like we'll we'll calculate things

00:38:32.840 and say okay i'll take her out um i know that this restaurant is a nice restaurant but i know

00:38:38.660 the spending is going to be this amount so in case we go somewhere else i know i'm going to spend

00:38:44.400 this amount because i i like to budget my funds i don't like to overspend and i like to waste money

00:38:49.120 so um so that night i kind of i budgeted and come to find out she had been to this restaurant before

00:38:59.760 and she personally knew uh no the the chef and the owner so she ordered off of a secret menu

00:39:08.800 that i didn't know about right and uh she i'll tell you specifically it was uh

00:39:17.600 oh my gosh she ordered like literally like uh was it three quarters of a swordfish oh my goodness

00:39:25.920 what was the bill on that just the swordfish by itself 465. 465 for the swordfish did you pay it

00:39:37.920 yeah yeah i paid it wait wait did you say 465. did you at least hit no

00:39:52.480 and the crazy part was she looks really good she looks really good right but she's 40. oh no

00:39:59.680 she's 40 at the time she was 39 but like she's 40 now mike oh my gosh the inevitable is upon

00:40:08.320 500 super chat we need to have like a jesus christ oh my goodness mike thank you um the

00:40:16.260 inevitable is upon us the awakened man can no longer ignore the options being open no matter

00:40:22.020 what color or creed ai passports mountains of the worldwide experience from men from all over the

00:40:28.520 the outcome of long-term couples with the opposite sex gen a will be the first generation of men

00:40:34.380 to couple with robots the west world will happen i mean we need to get like a we need to get like

00:40:40.460 a button to do a round of applause everyone everyone in the chat give mike trimmer a round

00:40:45.240 of applause yeah let me put a one in the chat thank you my holy crap um let's see we got any

00:40:52.840 chance of covering the ghost adventures murder for hire pilot divorce i don't know that one but

00:40:57.360 if you dm it to me on twitter i do check my twitter guys so as long as your account isn't

00:41:02.220 spammy it'll come through pearly things with a z i'm making a note of it right now okay um

00:41:07.660 damn so you didn't even did you want to hit after like were you still or were you so turned off that

00:41:15.520 you're just like i mean i was i was she was very attractive but like i was irritated i was so

00:41:22.360 irritated because it was just like, I'll give it to you like this. I'll give you my whole budget

00:41:27.520 that night. So like, um, the drinks were like, I think like $40 a piece. Uh, the, the meal that I

00:41:38.160 got, uh, had got, uh, salmon and asparagus, uh, with some bok choy and some basmati rice, right?

00:41:49.060 all of that together my drink and my whole thing i think was like 75 right um i was thinking okay

00:42:01.040 even if she up orders up and gets three or four drinks that's probably 200 so i'm probably leaving

00:42:08.780 300 dude

00:42:10.700 that fucking bill was like

00:42:14.700 600

00:42:15.400 for some 40 year

00:42:18.800 old coos oh no

00:42:20.960 if you saw her

00:42:22.700 you'd be like damn but yeah it's crazy

00:42:25.060 so hey you know

00:42:26.880 go ahead i'm sorry

00:42:27.720 so what

00:42:30.480 was she a single mom too

00:42:32.760 oh god why

00:42:34.620 why are you spelling everything out

00:42:36.820 what's up

00:42:37.480 oh come on man what race was she you already know she's a b-dub man come on pro you already

00:42:48.040 know she was a b-dub and and the crazy part was her son was little as at 39. at 39 her son was

00:42:55.640 probably like one or two two oh man wait what city is this in you really you really want me to say

00:43:04.680 yeah this is atlanta right atlanta fuck no okay detroit damn you got a 600 bill in detroit

00:43:14.360 yeah man the food spots here in detroit if you ever come here pearl you know from from illinois

00:43:19.480 you know they have swordfish in detroit hell yeah we got shark we got all kind of crazy stuff man

00:43:28.040 at least i know at least i know there's a good swordfish spot oh my god here we go

00:43:34.680 so you know this is a safe place to tell these stories target because you know never trust a man

00:43:42.500 that says he he's never sent maybe there's you know a small one percent but in the west dude

00:43:48.980 come on man so you know yeah hell yeah so yeah you know it's not about if you sent it's for it's for

00:43:55.940 how bad and how long you've done it and it sounds to me like you got it all out of your system bro

00:44:00.920 Did you try to hit at the end?

00:44:03.020 Like when you, did you drive her home?

00:44:04.640 I did.

00:44:05.100 I did.

00:44:05.800 I did.

00:44:07.260 And that.

00:44:09.800 I'm telling more than I need to.

00:44:11.980 But so after that date, I think like a week later, I was pissed.

00:44:16.680 I wasn't really talking to her.

00:44:17.880 She hit me up.

00:44:19.080 And I also do like massages on the side.

00:44:21.780 And she wanted me to do a massage.

00:44:24.560 And after the massage, she wanted to stay over.

00:44:29.200 And I was like, why do you want to?

00:44:30.280 she's like it's late i don't want to so i'm like okay this must be a sign to like do something

00:44:36.220 and i'm not a guy i think most guys are not a guy to like pressure a woman into to it right

00:44:43.720 we've been conditioned right um so yeah it never happened like it like kind of hinted i hinted at

00:44:52.200 it and she's like nah and i was like oh okay but uh my cousin was like you should have kicked her

00:44:58.260 i was like i'm not that guy did you think about splitting the bill at the end did you like

00:45:05.020 i did it came up it came up in my brain yeah you didn't say it though i didn't so can you walk me

00:45:12.500 through so like so let's i'm gonna pretend i'm her right and i say oh can i get the swordfish

00:45:20.080 did you what was your reaction was it silence was it a look of disgust what like what no it was it

00:45:27.940 was silence and bewilderment like it was like i didn't know because this is not on the menu what

00:45:33.940 the how did you what what are you asking for wait wait wait i've got did the chef or the owner come

00:45:40.540 out and say hi to her daddy he might uh oh bro no i'm so glad i asked that question this is a funny

00:45:51.440 story no he didn't she might have she might have spoke to him when i was in the bathroom or something

00:45:56.560 i don't know i have no idea wait do you have any other like dates like owls that you've taken this

00:46:02.320 is funny oh man uh three about three years ago um it was a chick i uh a friend had suggested

00:46:12.960 um beautiful woman she looked like sanaa lathan but like younger and she had like a

00:46:20.240 she had beautiful curly hair very fit body she taught salsa okay and uh she's a salsa dance

00:46:27.840 teacher and pretty much we went out salsa dancing because i love to salsa and bachata and um

00:46:36.560 so we went out and later on that night a friend of hers came in we we leave that place we go to

00:46:46.640 like two other places to dance because we were dancing pretty much all night that's what they do

00:46:50.960 in the salsa you know salsa community they dance all night anyway so um at the last spot um

00:47:01.280 i find out that the guy she introduced me to that had a road with all of us the whole group

00:47:06.960 of dancers and stuff um she was another dude that was interested in her and she invited us

00:47:14.960 both out that night what yeah yeah crazy wait so how did you find out did he tell you um no she

00:47:28.560 she kind of told me she was like yeah he's a guy that kind of like liked me but like i

00:47:33.760 you know i just you know before or after the interaction she said it after

00:47:39.040 we well we were dancing and then like after we danced like the third place that we were at we

00:47:46.120 were she told me and then the craziest part was so it was it was a bunch of women there it was a

00:47:52.600 bunch of guys um we ended up at this this dude's mansion um at the end of the night and um she

00:48:02.200 brought me in the bathroom i was like she brought she took me by the hand and took me to the bathroom

00:48:07.680 I'm like, oh, I'm about to get topped off.

00:48:12.860 That was the same thing in the morning.

00:48:14.740 I was like, oh, she about to swallow me.

00:48:18.800 But she brought me in the bathroom to be like, you know, his name was Jose.

00:48:24.820 He was Hispanic.

00:48:25.600 He was like, yeah, you know, Jose is in there talking to blah, blah, blah, blah,

00:48:28.860 blah, and he's just supposed to be interested in me.

00:48:31.580 You know, I was so taken.

00:48:36.000 I was so out of it.

00:48:37.000 It was such an out-of-body experience for somebody who I told I was interested in, was

00:48:44.180 aware of it, to bring me in the bathroom to talk about another guy that she had bought

00:48:50.240 that was into another, that was found another girl that night and they doing their own thing.

00:48:56.280 And why are you telling me about it?

00:48:59.060 Like, what?

00:49:01.980 You can't win them all.

00:49:04.180 my brother told me my older brother told me he said you should have whipped it out

00:49:07.540 and told her it was like hey it's party time ain't it

00:49:14.820 i was like no so you know i i'm just gonna was this another b-dub or was she latina

00:49:23.620 no she was a b-dub so she could have passed for the best pass for like dominican but

00:49:28.900 not if she was a b-dub okay these views do not reflect pearl or her platform this is pretty

00:49:34.900 dug in pa i've been black for over 40 years man you gotta avoid the b-dubs man i know you're in

00:49:40.500 detroit but move you said move that's crazy i tell you get it get away from these b-dubs man

00:49:47.860 there is no reason why any successful ambitious young black male should even met especially b-dubs

00:49:57.060 in detroit i've heard the legends of the detroit b-dub dude you got it come on man

00:50:03.060 come on and the crazy part is my my mother was like i guess what you would call mixed race and

00:50:11.720 then my grandmother was white my grandmother was a german woman so uh i just wanted to i guess stay

00:50:18.800 true to the the original uh sperm dna you know well we appreciate all the stories once again

00:50:30.560 that this is a safe place i think you got all the sympathy out of your system and just you know just

00:50:36.640 just we really appreciate the stories over here man thanks a lot no problem man you guys have

00:50:42.640 love your love your love your platform and if you're ever in detroit man we gotta we gotta

00:50:50.320 um i know you know anton anton daniel so oh yeah you know anton yeah yeah definitely

00:50:56.160 we'll all get we'll all get swordfish on you

00:51:04.320 all right buddy it was good talking thanks for calling anytime

00:51:08.400 man that was a great call was it guys i'm telling you we've all sent all of us have sent so so you

00:51:16.740 know try not to judge this guy too harshly man he's 31 i mean come on now

00:51:21.280 i wasn't judging i mean it's just you can't date without taking some l's you don't think the women

00:51:28.680 he took out on dates simped for some guy yeah like come on but you know that you know the girl

00:51:34.100 took on a date was letting chad tyrone glock tv you know it just happens you know what i mean

00:51:41.620 like she was doing the same not maybe not with money but you know okay up next we have uh

00:51:52.420 in enolia eniola

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00:52:46.120 letting in alex the banking counselor what's a banking counselor alex are you there

00:52:57.480 hey can you hear me yeah hey alex how are you

00:53:01.960 hey pearl how are you i've been following you and your content now for about man i want to say

00:53:07.880 probably i think i found your content right before the pandemic hit so it's been a little while well

00:53:15.640 i'm glad we can finally talk over the phone um so pretty awesome to get a call in here so yeah so

00:53:22.520 how's it going what's your answer to the question where have all the men gone

00:53:28.280 oh man that's a pretty uh that's a pretty complex question because i feel like

00:53:35.640 there's two aspects you have pre-pandemic right talking about the last decade you know the

00:53:43.400 introduction to the online dating app scene and it's evolved, you know, evolving revolution

00:53:51.240 type of deal. And then you have the post-pandemic dating market where I feel like a lot of people's

00:53:58.200 social skills and expectations really have just been skewed. And I feel like there's going to be

00:54:04.760 a long-term reverberation effect of that going towards long-term relationships for the next 20,

00:54:11.000 30 years um not just in long-term commitments but also in just you know engagements and of course

00:54:17.960 the rise the rise of divorces could i could i talk more about you so like how is your dating

00:54:24.260 life different now versus post like pre-pandemic so uh i put the banking counselor as a as a

00:54:34.180 hashtag there, I guess, uh, because I work in finance, but I also, uh, uh, before I got in

00:54:41.860 finance, uh, was going originally going to go to medical school to be in psychiatry. So I do have

00:54:47.720 a couple of degrees in, um, psychology and neuroscience. And as far as dating goes,

00:54:53.040 I'm 32 years old. I've been single now for, I want to say, uh, five years. I was in a long-term

00:55:00.560 relationship with someone prior to that right before um everything happened with the pandemic

00:55:05.520 and i think that especially guys in my age category guys that are in between the ages of

00:55:10.560 30 to 40 i luckily haven't been divorced or knocked up the wrong woman so knock on wood

00:55:16.640 been okay there um i met like how is your social like okay in a given week pre-pandemic were you

00:55:24.080 taking women on dates um were you going out yeah i would say i would say it's probably going the

00:55:29.320 same or different now go ahead um i would say pre-pandemic um it was

00:55:38.840 more feasible i would say to get like the initial uh meetup date introductory date i guess or like

00:55:48.040 wanting to see do the few dates experimentally um and now it feels like post pandemic it feels like

00:55:59.320 um it's like trying to pull teeth when when communicating with like a lot of the women in

00:56:06.180 my area because i'm in i'm in florida and um i'm in north florida to be more exact and it feels like

00:56:14.180 um i've learned at this age of my life i can't i can't i don't go by what women say i go by what

00:56:24.340 they do and in this dating market um i've i feel like because of what i do and like the the crowds

00:56:34.920 and associates that i have there's a certain level of expectation that comes with um being

00:56:43.120 an upper echelon of things that if you're not already rolling out i feel like with guys my age

00:56:50.200 Like if I'm not rolling out with my wallet first, it feels like there's no initial like they won't get on the date with you.

00:57:00.700 Yeah. And I mean, I've I've been in training.

00:57:05.060 I've lost, you know, 60 pounds.

00:57:07.320 I've been in jujitsu. I've been like, you know, quote unquote, getting my shit together in my 30s physically.

00:57:13.260 And like, you know, I have a good career and, you know, I have great friends in a great community.

00:57:18.280 but trying to find a decent partner stateside has been um so okay can we go into like so

00:57:27.800 five years ago pre-pandemic um i think it's five years ago now you gotta stop saying that um

00:57:35.400 that p word you gotta say cough cough or anything because if you say that

00:57:39.960 the p word too many times it'll flag the stream okay um my apologies in a given week were you

00:57:48.220 taking more women on dates less women on dates would you have a similar close rate to from today

00:57:55.340 to then how is it different i would say uh pre-pandemic and i'm i'm just being straight up

00:58:03.900 here i was more tolerant of being stupid as far as like managing my time and my money to convenience

00:58:11.420 uh women for the hope of like closing the deal so like you know it was easier like i would probably

00:58:17.740 go on like i would say one to three dates uh if it wasn't a week it would be like maybe every couple

00:58:25.580 weeks um just to you know explore try to not because i was trying to bag every single one but

00:58:34.620 try to you know siphon through trying to find a more compatible partner since i had moved on from

00:58:41.260 my ex at that point and the more i attempted to do that the more i found myself becoming um

00:58:55.500 nauseated with just how uh transactional it seemed things had become like it was more convenient

00:59:03.340 but it felt like super transactional and now from that point to here it feels like

00:59:11.260 I have to like pre-plan and fit things into a schedule in such a way that even if like something doesn't work out or blows up in my face, like I'll still go out on my own and still have a good time.

00:59:25.540 And sometimes like that, just I'd rather not even have to like worry about that and not have to like, you know, waste my time and waste my money to not be able to build something organically.

00:59:40.420 And I feel like that's what's missing nowadays in a lot of the market today is I feel like having organic conversations, like real conversations with people, even in a dating scene, because I'm no longer on dating apps.

00:59:52.760 I haven't used a dating app since 2017, maybe. And I'm amazed at how, like, if you're not partaking in that machine, how much more difficult it can be to actually go out to like a cafe or, you know, one of those like, you know, more neutral spots, restaurants or something like that to be able to cohesively interact.

01:00:21.760 interact and have a conversation with someone to to meet someone organically and build something

01:00:27.380 there got it got it well thanks for calling in doug mpa you got any other questions for him

01:00:33.080 no i i just want to say you do you gotta put yourself well you're doing it right now put

01:00:39.040 yourself in a position where you can't be disappointed by dating so a lot you seem to

01:00:43.760 be like you have a lot of honesty and integrity up front but a lot of women don't so ghost these

01:00:49.060 hoes yeah invite women to do something that you're gonna do whether they show up or not

01:00:53.720 good plan thanks for calling in all right buddy appreciate it guys okay who else is a new person

01:01:03.960 uh let's let in

01:01:06.820 okay okay galvis

01:01:12.840 hey galvis you're on mute hey galvis

01:01:18.580 hey galvis going once hey galvis going twice hey galvis going three times i'm going to put you

01:01:29.220 back hello oh there she is hold on oh we can hear you now go ahead yeah hi guys

01:01:38.080 hi how's it going it's going great you're one of the two women watching huh

01:01:44.960 they're a bit but there's more they're just shy

01:01:49.000 thanks for calling in um so what's your answer to the question where do you think the men have gone

01:01:56.720 i really don't know my guess is the lack of fathers in the household

01:02:07.880 and i'm just calling in worried about where are they where the real men are

01:02:15.880 where the real men are yeah like providers you know not just financially but you know protectors

01:02:27.680 you know think men men men well women ran them off how did women treat those men

01:02:34.960 badly i guess yeah so that's the best bet um the question is more to do with where do you think the

01:02:41.280 men have gone that used to go out and take women on dates and stuff do you think they're just not

01:02:46.160 dating what have you seen and you're it's not worth it for them to go out yeah what have you

01:02:50.560 seen with men you know have you seen them stop dating or stop going out yes i encourage them

01:02:58.800 but they don't want to because i'm a mom okay i have two girls i have a 15 and a 13. so i could

01:03:06.960 be your mom pearl oh where are you at in houston okay you're in texas mm-hmm um what's it are they

01:03:16.880 dating like the because your youngest daughter is 15 do they even date in high school anymore

01:03:22.960 like it doesn't even have to be your daughter i'm just kind of curious about gen z

01:03:27.520 like if the girls are like dating guys in high school or if they're just kind of anti-social

01:03:33.680 they're just friends so you know they have boyfriends in school

01:03:38.960 um what i hear from my daughter they do have there's dating happening at school as far as

01:03:48.880 we know she's not dating um so i mean we think she should date when she's older god willing

01:04:00.160 but i encourage a young man that i am around i encourage him to go out and

01:04:06.560 and ask women out and make eye contact and talk to people but that's very hard for them now

01:04:14.160 yeah yeah they've all they're the generation that's grown up on phones

01:04:19.600 yep have you seen um do you mind me asking your age 50. have you seen um like the women you know

01:04:28.460 that are like divorced and stuff um do you know any do you have any friends that got divorced and

01:04:35.660 in their 50s no you don't know any there's no divorces in houston no they are but i don't know

01:04:44.780 i don't have friends like that for some reason okay i was kind of curious if their experience

01:04:50.460 was that men are walking away as well as like the woman in the article i was just kind of curious

01:04:55.180 because they would have seen the change over time the people that i know bernardo my husband

01:05:01.660 he's also 50 and he's been his friends are divorced because the women have left them

01:05:09.800 and are they actively dating or no the men yeah yes okay of course quickly sure and

01:05:20.300 okay so they're still dating at least they haven't necessarily are they doing like hookups are they

01:05:26.740 like courting women like what are what's what's the 50 year old dating scene like for the divorced

01:05:32.660 men i think they're doing both okay the social media platforms of connecting and going to bars

01:05:40.820 i think both okay okay so it sounds like the guys you know haven't completely walked away from it

01:05:48.260 the guys that i know the people that have been divorced

01:05:50.420 have been because the wives left them yeah doug mpa you got any other questions for

01:05:58.020 oh do these guys ever tell you why their wives left with legitimate reasons or

01:06:05.300 or was it just a thing like they because most women leave for irreconcilable differences

01:06:10.420 and that's so gray right because like they think that the grass is green on the other side or life

01:06:15.780 is too boring was that the experience that these guys are telling you that maybe just one day she

01:06:20.820 just decided to leave hmm they've never shared why they left i didn't see reasons for them to leave

01:06:29.220 personally because i know these guys i don't think it's right um i know i mean knowing someone and

01:06:38.740 marrying them is living with them is something different i know but you know marriage isn't

01:06:45.780 marriages work you you guys have to be in it to especially when you have children you've got to

01:06:52.100 work things out but some people just don't want to i guess okay yeah and then so you you encourage

01:07:00.520 all the all the men you know the young men you know approach women correct how do you how if

01:07:08.440 they ask you how to do it what do you tell them just go up to them just you know they're gonna

01:07:14.560 say no next that's what i tell them okay cool well thanks for calling in um feel free to call

01:07:23.840 in any time okay absolutely thank you so much guys great job thank you bye bye

01:07:31.280 okay that's one of the few non-combative women we've had calling i know you know

01:07:37.120 she's in houston texas she sounds maybe like hispanic yeah so yeah texas is great man houston

01:07:47.520 dallas san antonio austin great places man great people down there okay i'm gonna try in

01:07:54.880 Eniola one more time Eniola thank you so much guys great job thank you

01:08:09.520 can yola we can hear you but your youtube's on one of the few non-combat

01:08:18.160 Eniola we can hear you can you hear me yeah

01:08:24.880 hey how's it going oh it's going good where are you calling out of what part of the country um

01:08:32.380 you could say the state oh the state okay um texas oh i got a lot of texans here

01:08:42.300 um so what's your answer to the question where do you think the men are going um the more specific

01:08:48.380 you can be the better um if it's men that you've seen either dating yourself maybe brothers friends

01:08:54.380 of years whatever um well to answer the questions

01:09:06.380 i don't know it's kind of i have like a couple of answers like sometimes i'll see

01:09:15.100 go ahead i just said okay yeah i'm just thinking about it um

01:09:18.540 so while you're thinking what has been your experience out and about like when you and

01:09:25.580 your girlfriends go out do you get approached by men do you usually go out by yourselves and sit

01:09:30.220 at tables by yourselves like how how is it out there for you while you're thinking about where

01:09:34.540 all like do you see a lack of men out there right now um no not really

01:09:43.420 um i mean when i go out with my friends uh yeah sometimes like me and my friends would get looks

01:09:52.060 but no i don't know it's it's not really too often that i get approached are you single

01:10:00.780 married or dating i'm single okay and are you actively dating now um

01:10:07.920 um no not really but i'm just putting myself out there okay like when's the last date you went on

01:10:15.720 i can't even think of it like a year six months

01:10:26.700 three months

01:10:34.000 uh if it's been that long we can move on uh because it's kind of a lot of dead air here

01:10:48.780 um are you still there yeah i'm still here um so so you see men out and about so but when you

01:10:59.720 see stories like the one that's in the new york times where these women are asking where

01:11:04.440 where all the men have gone why do you think that these women are asking that question like well

01:11:09.960 do you think that their points are valid um

01:11:17.000 yeah i think their points are valid i mean from their experience but i mean i'm sure they probably

01:11:22.920 like passed up you know someone that could have been um you know some like they probably i guess

01:11:32.360 what i'm thinking is that they probably passed up a really good relationship or someone that

01:11:36.600 could have been that for them okay um so do you do you want a relationship or do you see marriage

01:11:47.640 in your future at all yeah i want a relationship and i see marriage in my future do you want to

01:11:53.400 have kids one day yeah one day how many um i would say three or four okay and

01:12:06.760 do you want to primarily focus on the children so do you do you want a man to like would be a

01:12:12.040 provider a protector type or are you the 50 50 type um i would like a man to be a provider and

01:12:20.120 protector okay so you said that you don't have a problem being approached so where do you think

01:12:30.680 where would you go to be approached by a type of man that you want

01:12:34.440 um probably at a coffee shop or the library um or i could be at like a lounge i don't really go

01:12:48.520 out as often so i kind of just go to the same places are you on like the dating apps no

01:12:57.560 well i download them because men aren't really approaching these days yeah i know i'm just kind

01:13:03.240 of shy well you gotta get over it yeah your age group are you like are you like mid-20s late 20s

01:13:12.920 early 20s 30s early 20s yeah yeah if that's what you want are you are you in school

01:13:22.440 yeah i'm in community college i've seen that is that common um with your you like your friends

01:13:28.440 where they don't really go on dates i that's you're not the only one in gen z i've heard that

01:13:32.840 from um yeah i think it's becoming actually a common thing i mean

01:13:44.040 well actually now i'm thinking about it because even when i would see

01:13:48.840 girls my age getting approached it's either that they're just not socially awkward but a little shy

01:13:54.760 or yeah what are you going to school for um so i was going to school for pre-pharmacy but i am

01:14:07.280 going to change that up i'm not sure what to yet so um i'm curious with your friends do they um

01:14:15.720 i'm trying to think of me ask this how many close friends do you have

01:14:21.220 close friends I would say around like four and of the four how many are in relationships and

01:14:29.040 how many are actively dating um so I have out of the four I would say I have two that are in

01:14:40.620 relationships um or just well i have

01:14:47.740 i have one friend that um she's dating right now um

01:14:57.260 that i don't know i think she's not dating the person anymore i'm not even completely sure i was

01:15:02.620 just curious whether i was just curious where they're meeting them like if your generation

01:15:06.860 i haven't heard about a lot of people meeting the men you're talking about in the places you're

01:15:12.860 listing um it might be but i don't you're a little younger than me so i don't know but from what i've

01:15:19.700 seen gen z meets all online and i was just curious if that was your friends and your experience too

01:15:26.420 well so that was one of my friends experience and then the other one that was um dating the

01:15:33.200 other person before she just met him on campus oh okay you're in school okay yeah you really need

01:15:40.700 to take advantage of your time on college campus and if you want to your your best bet would be

01:15:47.200 especially when you transfer to university because a lot of people they don't know this if you start

01:15:51.060 in community college and you transfer to a university your gpa resets i went to community

01:15:57.320 college anyway yeah so when you transfer to university you might want to find you one on

01:16:01.840 campus because you will never have you should go you should go pre-med go pre-med or something

01:16:07.400 really hard and just drop and change it after the first semester sit next to the hottest guy in class

01:16:14.560 and made with more potential than in college and so many women especially um uh i'm guessing you're

01:16:24.640 i'm guessing your ethnicity but if you're if you're the race i think you are a lot of

01:16:30.400 a lot of a lot of women they fumble good men in college and then they go back out here and

01:16:38.420 you meet you're around 50 percent less men at least the day you graduate college no that it's

01:16:45.020 not true anymore it's like mostly women in schools now that's the one challenge they're

01:16:50.360 going to have on university is you're probably going to be sharing a guy it's not really like

01:16:55.240 it used to be like when you when you were in school it was more like they met people but now

01:17:01.240 it's mostly i think it's like when i was in school it was like 60 percent women and i think it's more

01:17:06.500 now yeah i would imagine well um and then you're and then you're asking those guys to not bang the

01:17:14.040 hot poonanny on campus and settle down with you good luck i'd go i'd get a dating app and go 10

01:17:20.000 years older that's what i would do but take that or leave it but there's still the engineering

01:17:27.140 department pearl come on now engineers are still going to be engineers you know yeah but you can't

01:17:34.940 women are still going to be women you're not going to logic them into banging the engineers

01:17:38.940 it's just not going to happen no but what i'm saying is is she can avoid all the chad and

01:17:46.040 tyrones on campus and hang by the engineering department that's what i'm saying she can she

01:17:52.020 won't come on like you're trying to logic women like come on you're right you're right it's like

01:18:00.140 the state takes care of the money they don't care about money anymore they don't they they

01:18:05.820 don't even women don't even understand money like like anyways what do you think about

01:18:12.320 what we're saying idiola um i mean i think yeah hang out by the engineering department

01:18:20.560 it doesn't matter what she says the the school the guitar player is going to sweep her off her feet

01:18:29.760 sorry go ahead yeah so i mean where do you think like i guess where do you think i can meet a lot

01:18:37.200 of good men or are they just everywhere or if i were you this is what i would do i would get in

01:18:43.600 the best shape i would i would treat getting in shape like a job my biggest regret in my early 20s

01:18:50.160 was being chubby there's no reason to be chubby look up the bmi for your height it's accurate

01:18:57.600 don't believe anyone that says it's not accurate if you're overweight don't know if you are you're

01:19:02.720 not i would literally i would take it so seriously i would take a semester off to get it done

01:19:09.360 and work at a gym that's how serious i personally would take it and what i would do is i would once

01:19:14.880 i'm in the right weight i would put a dating app 10 years older in a place that has a high net worth

01:19:23.520 and i would i would filter it so it's really um low distance the dating coaches i've talked to

01:19:29.760 say it takes about 15 dates to find someone you like and that's that's what i would do i would

01:19:36.000 set a schedule where there's a certain amount of dates you're going on a week until you find

01:19:40.480 someone you like doug mpa you can do a different strategy i'm just saying that's what i would do

01:19:46.880 you gotta think about this whole school thing with 70 of the student loan debt is women don't

01:19:52.000 put yourself in a whole bunch of debt yeah that will disqualify you from consideration

01:19:57.440 relationship or marriage then you know i asked you if you wanted children you want to be married

01:20:02.480 because if you have four kids i mean what good is your degree going to be anyway

01:20:09.760 so you should be using school to literally get it to get an mrs degree or find yourself a guy in

01:20:15.760 school or yeah i don't know if the i i think doug it's not really the same now in school as it was

01:20:22.720 But if you if you do go, if you do go the school route when you transfer, I would do a really smart major that, you know, you're going to change and just get in the classes and sit next to the hottest guy.

01:20:38.480 There you go.

01:20:39.700 And then change it, make it like Gen Ed's or something and then just change it.

01:20:44.300 And then it'd be great.

01:20:45.180 You could ask him to tutor you or something.

01:20:47.520 And just men love it when you're smarter than them.

01:20:50.660 so even if you understand it just pretend like you don't and have him explain it to you

01:20:56.760 there you go all right you can take that or leave it i'm not saying that'll work i'm saying that's

01:21:03.720 what i would do um all right well thanks for calling yeah thanks for calling anytime okay

01:21:10.620 yeah of course have a nice day let us know how it goes out there i will yeah do you know what i want

01:21:17.740 to i actually want to go on a tangent before you do the next caller go for it my biggest regret do

01:21:23.700 you know what it's like to look at pictures from your early 20s i recently got in shape like in

01:21:28.240 better shape than i was in i never was all out obese but i was like i just was chubby and i'll

01:21:35.020 tell you what guys the biggest mistake the biggest regret i ever had like what i would do if i was 18

01:21:41.660 again i knew i had eating and like issues i would have taken a year off of school and lived at home

01:21:50.460 and literally dedicated all my time energy and understanding to understanding nutrition

01:21:56.300 and how to cook how to meal prep i would have did that for a year i would have worked at a gym part

01:22:02.060 time so i could do it both it doesn't need to be a long-term thing but it's like once you get to a

01:22:07.660 a point where you can count calories in your head and you know exactly what you're eating it's so

01:22:13.260 much oh my god it's so much easier but you have to go through this terrible process of counting

01:22:18.540 calories and it's such a boring tedious annoying process and i'm the type of person where i have

01:22:25.260 to i have to focus all my energy on one thing to get it done or two things but anyways it because

01:22:32.300 Let's say, look it, I'm not here to tell you what to do.

01:22:35.140 If you want to go be a mother, that's how you're going to get,

01:22:38.460 going to get the hottest, richest, whatever you're into guy to settle down with you.

01:22:43.500 There's nothing men don't like more than fat women.

01:22:46.600 Okay.

01:22:46.800 That's number one.

01:22:47.880 Number two, it, let's say you, you say, Pearl, you're full of shit.

01:22:52.680 I want to go be a party girl.

01:22:54.240 Well, if you're going to go be a party girl, get on the best yachts.

01:22:57.760 if you're going to do it, do it, get the best yacht you can get on. You know what I mean?

01:23:04.880 Don't party in Columbus, Ohio. Go, go get a very good butt, get some abs and get on a yacht in

01:23:13.320 Miami or something. Now I'm not, I'm not saying you should do that. Right. But all I'm saying is

01:23:18.920 as a woman, there's nothing that'll get you further than being hot. There's really not.

01:23:23.880 and women we keep seeing these bbls and stuff but it's because women just can't figure out

01:23:29.980 the nutrition stuff that's the hard part let's say you want to go you know work in i don't know

01:23:36.680 sales or make a lot of money well if you're really hot you can go be a pharmaceutical sales rep

01:23:41.940 or you could go be a bottle girl do you know what i mean uh you know it's there's nothing worse than

01:23:49.340 wasting 18 to 25 chubby it's nothing worse it's like paying on hard mode well what's worse

01:23:58.980 spending 25 18 to 25 chubby or spending 18 to 25 getting some lesbian dance theater degree and

01:24:06.700 putting yourself 75 000 debt what's worse okay look i know there's worse things okay i know

01:24:13.820 there's I'm not saying it's like the end of the world but all I'm saying all I'm saying is

01:24:19.640 what I would I would just I wish someone sat me down because when I was 18 I was like no I want

01:24:25.200 to play I want to get this volleyball thing and I was you know you know you're thinking about all

01:24:29.500 these things because you're young there's all this stuff you want to do you want to experience like

01:24:33.300 all this you know how it is when you're young you think you can do anything

01:24:37.080 but whatever you're gonna do like I would take it so seriously that if I was 18 again

01:24:42.780 i would literally and when i got demonetized i kind of did this but i would literally spend

01:24:49.660 all of my energy and my mental like problem solving ability usually if you're fat it's

01:24:57.120 because you can't count calories or you can't cook if you can afford to eat out and just eat

01:25:02.280 like chipotle every day but you probably can't so i would just learn to cook um yeah so that's what

01:25:11.580 that's what i would tell you oh okay well uh ronald has been waiting a long time so we'll let him in

01:25:20.280 as to make sure to like the video subscribe please we really said you need a man to train

01:25:27.920 sorry sorry they said you need a man to train you well that's totally fine so go to the gym

01:25:33.160 and find one i recommend a bodybuilding or jujitsu gym

01:25:36.600 the only thing is bodybuilding

01:25:41.180 i should probably juju i've never done jujitsu but i've heard anyways

01:25:45.660 go ahead ronald are you there

01:25:48.060 ronald ronald going once ronald going twice ronald going three times i'm taking you out

01:26:00.020 okay wow we've so

01:26:03.360 yeah okay and then

01:26:07.280 I'm gonna let is this the Gabe

01:26:10.800 I'm gonna let him in for a couple minutes

01:26:13.900 Gabe is coming in it says

01:26:18.840 joining and then next person up is

01:26:23.200 gonna be Katie I think we have we're gonna

01:26:26.780 break the record for women calling in tonight I know

01:26:30.540 wow i can't believe it uh gabe is still joining gabe are you there this is the

01:26:36.620 nicest women have been to me in five years gabe you're on mute

01:26:44.380 hey hi doug what up gabe what up so tell me where have the men gone fast because we

01:26:53.340 you got four minutes we got a full call line go for it yeah uh pearl what did you ask where have

01:26:59.260 the men gone there's four different answers first off either they're being rejected countless

01:27:10.140 constantly friend zoned or sacrificed by me too and cancel culture

01:27:17.100 and that's the only explanation i can think of i'm sure there's more but okay i uh yeah cool

01:27:26.380 Well, anything else?

01:27:30.140 Oh.

01:27:33.500 No.

01:27:34.620 All right.

01:27:35.540 Thanks for calling, Gabe.

01:27:36.740 Pleasure is always always good to hear. Yeah.

01:27:40.580 Wow, that was short.

01:27:41.580 OK, we're going to let in.

01:27:46.340 Katie is coming up.

01:27:50.140 Katie is joining.

01:27:53.500 Katie, you're on mute.

01:27:57.300 Katie, are you there?

01:28:00.680 Katie, K-A-T-Y, you're on mute.

01:28:06.200 Katie, you think I should find God this year?

01:28:11.240 I'm 28.

01:28:12.440 That's the time to do it, isn't it?

01:28:15.760 Or maybe at 32, I should find.

01:28:19.180 It's coming.

01:28:22.200 Maybe I'll come on in a nun outfit one day.

01:28:26.380 No, no. The first time is having a big cross hanging, hanging between your cleavage.

01:28:32.780 Oh, yes. I do have a cross on today.

01:28:36.080 Yeah, you got to do that. Katie going once. Katie going twice. I'm going to put you back in the waiting room.

01:28:44.040 Okay, we have.

01:28:47.000 I'm going to tweet that. Should I find God today?

01:28:51.460 We have I pet big women.

01:28:56.380 i pet big women are you there there we go yeah what's up what's up doug mpa wait wait why is

01:29:05.340 your username ipet big women are you a chubby chaser it's my cod tag and i was like you know

01:29:13.380 what let's do it let's go they love it down on xbox um wait so but you didn't answer the question

01:29:24.620 are you are you chubby chaser or what what's up oh no no no um sure the gamer tag is a fun little

01:29:32.980 backstory um so basically i tell people it's a side hustle and i say it starts at 200 pounds

01:29:41.000 and for every pound she is that's a dollar a minute so if she wants to get pet you know it's

01:29:47.020 she's a good 250 then you know she's paying 250 an hour and if we get group we get a you know

01:29:53.440 three 350 ladies three we got tree 50 right here times three we give them a little group discount

01:29:59.040 you know we bring it down to a thousand actually do you know what how much would you how much would

01:30:06.160 it cost for you to bang a 350 pound broad like oh not pat like banger how much does psychotherapy

01:30:15.200 cost these days all right man i pet big women where have all the men gone what's that oh where

01:30:28.000 have all the men gone all these women are wondering why answer that question before i answer that

01:30:34.080 question am i allowed to cuss at all if it's in good taste yes okay cool so i'll tell you in a

01:30:43.600 little bit of a fun little vivid storytelling way where all the men went so when they look at

01:30:52.000 it's more of in response to this is what happened where it started with the women

01:30:56.560 we have they walk in the door half cooked evidence lacking conclusions all that one like

01:31:04.480 the 50 year old perfectly comes to mind all she was missing was some baritone in her voice

01:31:08.720 um but uh as kevin samuels would have put it i know you're both fans of them put your dick up

01:31:16.000 like that that woman definitely was rearing for a fight and it's really weird because that's how

01:31:24.340 women are a lot of women not all not all emotionally stimulated these days they like

01:31:30.780 to get into, you know, little fights and, you know, it's fun for them. Um, but I don't know

01:31:39.540 about you, but my favorite thing about women is, you know, that they're not men. So anyways, um,

01:31:47.740 I kind of want to attack this from a little bit of a, like, you know, like healthcare pathological

01:31:52.700 angle. Um, it's very, I'd like to think it's interesting perspective, but you guys can be

01:31:58.140 the judge. So in response to women like her, there was a complete divide and it was an extreme.

01:32:04.760 There were the men on one hand who became more socially aware and then the rest became like

01:32:10.720 absolute simps. They just dug in and like each side took their side. And the ones who became

01:32:18.840 self-aware, you know, developed themselves, compassion, nurturing, empathy, you know,

01:32:24.200 typically stuff that you'd think women would be good at, myself included, we piss a lot of women

01:32:30.460 off because we got Mr. 50-year-old fight me energy, like who don't know how to do these things. And

01:32:38.900 I've seen it kind of not, not just once, but two big hand cases, a lot of small, fun, little

01:32:45.980 anecdotal cases, but the perfect imagery I could paint with this is anecdotally, like I was engaged

01:32:52.980 twice and both had borderline personality disorder yikes um and i couldn't pin it with the first one

01:33:01.380 even with my psych background uh until the second one they didn't want me they wanted to be me

01:33:09.460 like they wanted what i had in fortitude and skills that they should have had that they were

01:33:16.180 failed in life for their gender like me being with them was validation for their hot dog water

01:33:23.700 personalities and simply because i was patient enough to try and help them and be there for them

01:33:29.940 and you know do the whole let's grow together and you know like until i find it got to the point

01:33:38.500 where i just want to peel my skin off and i think that's where the intelligent men went that's where

01:33:48.580 the self-aware men what do you mean where they wanted to be you can you give me an example like

01:33:54.180 a specific she did this sure yeah sure so um one that really really stuck in my memory real good

01:34:03.620 was I was mad at her for something. Go figure. And instead of taking accountability or acknowledging

01:34:14.840 it, I had to fight her for four hours for her to get it. So I basically ended up having to

01:34:22.500 console myself in the matter. And it was a pretty serious subject, but yeah. So she later came to me

01:34:34.660 and said, I don't know how you do it. Like I've watched the world knock you around and you still

01:34:42.000 get back up. And not only that, you know how to like heal the wounds. And she's just like,

01:34:47.680 I wish I could be like that. And it was, it was, I'm very big on energy and I don't know. It was,

01:34:59.000 it was like, I almost got this invoked feeling of pity. Like I saw probably the most vulnerable

01:35:05.840 form of her and either of them that I had seen in that way. And like, she, she went on to tell

01:35:16.540 me that she was like jealous of the facts, even envious that I could handle these issues and like,

01:35:25.240 you know, soothe myself. And she couldn't do that for me. She was like, I don't know how to do that

01:35:31.880 for you. Like, I don't blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like, man, I don't know how many times I've

01:35:36.880 said, instead of arguing with me or, you know, telling me I'm wrong, she asked more questions

01:35:41.900 and you know take a good take a good step in the radical acceptance direction and we'd probably get

01:35:47.040 a lot farther but it got to the point where you know even her own family was like yeah i get it

01:35:53.680 you got it like i understand like that you want to like i just know that exact situation where

01:36:02.560 you're dating a relative and you're like poor guy girl the same aunt who said i see the way

01:36:14.080 she and her daughter like look at you just hearing your name it brings like like the

01:36:21.360 whole stars are in their eyes the same woman was like yeah i get it

01:36:26.320 i don't blame you she even disclosed to me that there's a whole

01:36:32.080 bunch of mental illness on that side of the family i'm like you know what

01:36:35.280 if even she's telling me i should probably go like agreeing with me here

01:36:42.340 like she's had front row tickets for how long what am i gonna not listen to her

01:36:49.980 like no that's that's bananas but i think i think that's where the the extremes kind of sat

01:36:59.320 there's the guys who are just like you know what for what like myself and then there's the other

01:37:05.860 guys at the bottom of the barrel who are figuratively and literally getting their sacks

01:37:12.800 kicked you know by these emotionally aggressive women and even physically domineering women

01:37:19.060 yeah and you know then you've got the two big deal breakers when a woman that i'm dating is

01:37:28.520 when she outright disagrees with me in public as in the women that want to get you told in front

01:37:35.580 of everybody oh yeah and the women shame you yeah and then the women that talk to you look like they

01:37:42.920 can beat you in a fight those are the two worst kind of women two worst oh my god

01:37:47.880 yeah too many women will talk to you like they can physically beat you in a fight

01:37:53.820 it's like no you need to stop that quickly yeah no i'm i'm six foot and i'm i'm so close to my

01:38:02.640 goal weight of hitting 280 i was the little tiniest kid in high school i worked for like

01:38:09.640 over 15 years to be the size i wanted to be finally got there almost there like near and there

01:38:16.520 and i the tone like the amount of like baritone they will put in their voice like i i know exactly

01:38:25.180 what you're saying dude like you look like you're about 160 and you want to square up

01:38:29.600 like come on now don't forget i can identify as a woman real quick like we we can have these hands

01:38:36.840 these hands are ready for everyone man thanks for calling in okay yeah calling anytime

01:38:44.220 have a loved it loved it have a good night you too all right let's go we're gonna try katie again

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01:39:13.900 i'm here what's up katie hey i'm so happy to talk with you i'm happy to talk with you too

01:39:25.060 hey i am a gen x okay and my daughter has just turned 30 and she's like 5 10 has beautiful long

01:39:36.960 auburn hair i mean she's just this great girl and i mourn for her in the current dating age i mean

01:39:46.240 she is just at her wit's end and she's asking the same question where are all the good men

01:39:54.640 where are men period because she's tried all the apps she seemed to have done everything right i

01:40:03.360 I mean, she went to college and got like a vet tech degree, like a two year degree, wasn't making a ton of money, but was doing what she loved.

01:40:13.260 She tries to go kayaking and go to the gym and do all these different things to meet people.

01:40:18.760 But she has very Midwestern values, kind of old fashioned.

01:40:25.200 And the guys just aren't asking her out.

01:40:30.160 Does she have the dating apps?

01:40:33.360 Yeah. Yeah. She's done all that. And she'll go on a date here, a date there.

01:40:38.440 Is she in shape?

01:40:40.980 She is pretty much. I mean, I'd say she's a little overweight, but not terrible.

01:40:46.460 She's one of those that wears it well because she's 5'10", but not bad looking at all.

01:40:52.440 She's very pretty. And I'd say she's like a size 14, 16.

01:40:57.700 you know she's not like a size two or anything but she's also real big and super obese either

01:41:03.620 she's she's chubby okay a little chubby tell her to get on the treadmill i'm telling you

01:41:09.140 yeah she's on it that's that's been her her goal right now is like she's gonna get to this hot

01:41:15.340 summer uh girl you know but it's it's so has she ever had relationships in the past she did have

01:41:23.640 a five-year relationship, but it was with this ultra-liberal blue-haired guy who, if

01:41:32.440 you even started talking about, you know, we're very old-fashioned. We're very much

01:41:36.900 Gen X. We're about, you know, gender roles being proper. I grew up in a whole different

01:41:42.020 time, it seems like now. And I just, I mourn for these kids nowadays that are trying to

01:41:49.180 date in their 20s there's no rules she's gonna she's gonna have to start just giving it up

01:41:56.040 start sleeping with some guys i'm dead serious it's not gonna happen no other guys guys aren't

01:42:01.620 gonna wait for a 30 year old they're not gonna do it she's just gonna have to start she's gonna

01:42:06.020 have to start sleeping around that's it god i'm dead serious question to you in the chat was

01:42:13.500 if you could define the perfect woman say in her late 20s if you could describe that for her

01:42:25.980 what would you describe that perfect woman to be what is the woman that men are going to choose

01:42:32.620 a thin one she's got to get on the treadmill i'm dead serious i'm telling you i was chubby

01:42:38.860 i get her i mean the attractiveness part i get but like what should her goals be for like work

01:42:47.100 i mean if a woman's single she's got to work she's got to feed herself and keep an apartment

01:42:51.100 and that kind of thing but other than just how she looks who is she supposed to be oh okay okay

01:42:59.660 i have a couple questions does she want does she want a husband or a partner does she ever use the

01:43:06.220 the word partner at all when she talks about she wants a husband and kids i mean her just now that

01:43:11.900 she's just turned 30 her clock is ticking like she really wants a family she wants a home she

01:43:18.140 wants the white picket fence the whole nine yards and the guy doesn't have to be rich i mean just

01:43:23.180 decent blue collar guy would be great why did she spend five years with some blue-haired liberal guy

01:43:30.220 has she figured that out yet because yeah i think i think she's finally figured that out that that's

01:43:35.900 really not the way to go i mean she had this idealistic hippie um super liberal um experience

01:43:45.420 in college and she thought that was the way she wanted to go and honestly i think she wanted a guy

01:43:50.300 that she could kind of control and he was that kind of guy there it is i knew because she probably

01:43:56.220 still has that controlling aspect of of her personality and it comes out when she starts

01:44:02.220 talking to guys and getting to know them because look guys we can tell the type of women who want

01:44:07.340 to control us we can just tell by the way the terms they use the way they navigate

01:44:12.940 conversations and she probably comes off as controlling well and what i hear from the dating

01:44:19.020 coaches is it takes an average of 15 dates for women to find someone they like so like you know

01:44:26.620 is she is she she doing 15 dates a month every two months you know it's kind of a number she's

01:44:32.300 only one or two a month yeah and and the thing is with the apps there's no way she's not getting

01:44:37.740 asked out if like there's no way even like i've seen overweight women get like tons of matches

01:44:46.860 you know yeah like even a lot of young conservative women they get in this trap where

01:44:53.820 the they their father is conservative and they want a conservative man but they still want this

01:44:59.580 50 50 equality garbage right so they they want to be with a man in uniform or like a man that'll

01:45:07.980 protect the vibe but they still want this equal thing is that your daughter yeah she's a lot like

01:45:15.660 that and i've been watching her in the other direction now because i've i myself went through

01:45:22.380 this. I am 52 years old now. My husband's 58. But when I was in my early 20s, I grew up in

01:45:32.420 Eastern Iowa, very conservative, married very young, actually probably too young, had two

01:45:39.680 children. And unfortunately, my husband had mental health issues for some pretty serious mental

01:45:45.660 health issues that didn't crop up until his 20s. So that was a roller coaster ride we had to get

01:45:51.260 off of. I mean, for our own safety. But then here I was a single woman in her mid twenties with two

01:45:57.740 kids and I was also overweight. So it was like, I knew I was done. I knew I wasn't dating. I knew

01:46:04.140 I wasn't going to find love and marriage in the white picket fence that I wanted. That just wasn't

01:46:08.980 the reality of the situation. So I raised my kids by myself and I was very, extremely lucky and

01:46:18.920 counted my lucky stars that I found an older man who was a widower and I thank his late wife every

01:46:29.580 day because she broke him in so to speak to be a wonderful husband and we got married about five

01:46:35.460 years ago and I've never been happier in my entire life than to be a married woman. I live out on a

01:46:42.340 small farm i have horses and dogs and i had cancer a few years back and he married me even after his

01:46:50.160 wife passed away from cancer he dated and married me and i i beat stage four squamous cell cancer

01:46:56.320 of my throat uh five six years ago and now you know he married the girl with cancer it's amazing

01:47:04.380 but i have this fairy tale story and i've been trying would you say that she broke him in to be

01:47:10.100 a good husband why would you say that she really did i mean they go that's not funny

01:47:15.860 most men are good men and husbands before they meet a woman he did have conservative values from

01:47:23.300 the very beginning um but just the small things you know that people go through when they're first

01:47:29.940 married if your daughter hurt happens when you're first married he had already gone through all that

01:47:35.220 and i'd already gone through all that so it made you say stuff like that is probably what

01:47:40.900 contributed to your daughter having the viewpoint on men that she has you don't want to say that

01:47:45.380 type of thing about a good man don't say don't even joke about that kind of stuff you're very

01:47:52.500 probably right you're probably that is a uh an old saying that probably should just die i suppose

01:48:01.540 don't say that please because he sounds like a good guy and he did you very very well is a very

01:48:08.020 good man and i say that all the time and i acknowledge that constantly and in front of my

01:48:12.500 daughter because i think those are things that she needs to hear i mean and yeah go ahead i mean

01:48:21.780 it's gonna it's gonna partially be a numbers game for her like on average it's 15 dates

01:48:28.660 off of hinge people are doing the dating apps i wouldn't really like doing all these activities

01:48:34.020 and stuff is nice but it's if it's not working like every dating coach i've talked to has said

01:48:39.700 all roads lead to the dating apps like all of them also if she's gonna have to figure out this whole

01:48:46.500 one a conservative man but like wanting 50 50 things she has to put that away she has to put

01:48:52.500 herself in a position where she can find a conservative guy and keep her mouth shut and

01:48:57.060 become the type of man that he wants that's the only way she she's gonna win because odds are

01:49:02.020 she has a mouth on her a little bit she has to say her freaking opinion on stuff she needs to put

01:49:07.140 that away if she wants to get a conservative yeah but she's gonna have to she's gonna have to get

01:49:11.940 experience to learn it like she's not gonna in dating q these days how long do you wait to have

01:49:20.420 sex she's got three dates tops and she's gotta start just giving it out i swear to god they're

01:49:26.900 i'll tell you why kate they're not waiting they're not yeah many get to know women in two ways one

01:49:33.140 to have sex with them and then two to audit them to see if the relationship material you can't move

01:49:39.300 from you can't a man will not audit a woman for relationship until sex has happened and you have

01:49:46.500 to tell your daughter this if a man is just going to sleep with you and leave he's going to do it

01:49:52.020 in one date yeah eight dates ten dates so so you know three dates tops and she shouldn't be going

01:49:59.460 out with men that she wouldn't sleep with but she she if she wants if she wants to get the show on

01:50:04.660 the road she needs to sleep with the guys sooner rather than later and when you're older you can't

01:50:08.740 really sell purity like a guy might wait 10 dates for a 20 year old but at 30 he got like one and a

01:50:14.500 half okay you got like yeah because he's gonna think what am i getting out of this and if he's

01:50:21.140 not getting sex he's gonna he's gonna go somewhere else and assume she's going somewhere else does

01:50:26.500 she have any exes she's hung up on like you know she might not tell you but is there any like

01:50:33.460 situation go ahead um she had a bad experience recently where she went out with a guy that was

01:50:39.140 really creepy and then she went on one of these sites where these women all connect with each

01:50:44.660 other to find out whether or not the guy's dating a whole bunch of different people well she ended

01:50:49.540 up finding out that this guy is now in jail for sexually assaulting women and so that really

01:50:55.500 scared her and i think she just is like taking a break but i'm trying to encourage her to get back

01:51:02.920 out there and think of the long-term goal i would say get on the apps and i would actually expect

01:51:08.160 her like because if she's masculine she's going to get dumped a few times and she's just got to

01:51:12.480 figure out why and then sleep on the first date with the next guy until one sticks around that's

01:51:19.320 all you got and also the past 40 50 years women have this should be tell your daughter this too

01:51:26.140 the past 40 50 years women have been saying to men they don't owe men their time their bodies

01:51:32.700 any of that well it's the same for men out on the dating market men don't owe your daughter anything

01:51:38.500 they don't you know if they don't owe you they don't owe her closure she's probably going to

01:51:44.180 get ghosted all that stuff it's all fair and love and war understand i'm saying so she she needs to

01:51:50.400 and so that should toughen her up because she's gonna get ghosted she's gonna take l's but the

01:51:55.420 worst thing she can do is have one little heartbreak and then and then run away for two

01:52:00.780 years she doesn't have that time if she gets ghosted or takes an lcd look like they've been

01:52:06.140 telling us men you know get it dust yourself off and get back out there get a if she gets ghosted

01:52:11.060 just next friday it's a new date and women have it easier than ever you can filter for

01:52:17.140 like you can download hinge and filter for just conservative men if that's what you want

01:52:22.180 yep like you can that's a good idea i didn't realize that you could do that you could filter

01:52:26.340 by height i mean just buy the premium subscriptions any guy that she would hypothetically sleep you

01:52:33.220 know if she doesn't want to don't do it but you're not going to get to the relationship stage if you

01:52:38.980 don't kind of speed that up what would you say i'd say you give him three months ish to commit

01:52:45.620 yeah yeah like to a relationship yeah here's the thing if she has to take ownership of dating

01:52:50.740 because here's the thing um situationships are where a man and a woman are in a situation where

01:52:58.420 there's no labels a situationship is a woman's fault because like it's a man's responsibility

01:53:04.980 to know if he's putting effort into a woman and he's not going to get sex from her but it's a

01:53:10.580 woman's responsibility to end any situation where she's with a man and they're in a relationship

01:53:17.060 but she doesn't get the label she wants she has to cut that off it's her responsibility in her last

01:53:24.500 relationship it was a very long drawn out situation show and she just stayed in it she's

01:53:31.300 very giving person like going on dates and stuff like that she has no problem splitting the check

01:53:38.180 she will give gifts to people just for fun she's a very very very giving person so i don't think

01:53:44.900 that's ever been a problem um she's not a money grubber she's not looking for a guy who's rich

01:53:52.180 you have to understand a lot of time when girls are in a situation ship it's either because they're

01:53:56.580 annoying to the guy or they're not hot enough so if she really wanted the guy she'd lose the weight

01:54:02.180 maybe he would have been into her but like guys work their whole life to get to a certain level

01:54:07.800 and they're you know they don't want a chubby because i'm around the same height 14 16 is pretty

01:54:12.680 big like i just have to get on it yeah like i i would treat that like a i don't know if she makes

01:54:21.460 a lot of money i would get a job at a gym or something so you can kind of be around

01:54:25.860 she works as a lab tech at a hospital okay wait so some exercises they're running around the

01:54:32.660 hospital but probably not enough i mean if she loses weight she she's around doctors and male

01:54:39.860 nurses and stuff like that she could you know if she just ups the attraction level she could probably

01:54:44.980 back i don't think i don't know if they're gonna touch girls at work now you think

01:54:48.820 in hospitals oh yeah i guess you're you're right you're right you're right

01:54:54.660 they do you're right start giving start giving gluck luck in the rooms and maybe she'll find us

01:55:04.700 i don't want her to get fired though it's only 15 minutes from the house

01:55:11.080 so get another job and this is small town indiana so like everybody would know

01:55:17.600 you know maybe it's moving to a city you know it's like the women that want to get married

01:55:25.280 care more about getting the guy than their reputation yeah yeah we're only half an hour

01:55:32.940 from fort wayne indiana which is a bigger city so she's been traveling back and forth a lot

01:55:38.500 for the the dating stuff so we pretty much have to because we're in a tiny tiny town here so

01:55:45.840 yeah she could try being a travel lab tech for a while there's a what you could she could try

01:55:55.020 being a travel lab tech oh yeah yeah that's an option too if you plus tell her to study her

01:56:03.940 blowjob skills oh my goodness oh gosh you think her mother let her give her a class on that i

01:56:10.400 don't know if you ever you ever see a guy that's dating a girl that's like three points less

01:56:17.180 attractive and you're like how did she pull that off that's always what it is yeah honestly if

01:56:23.160 you know if if she takes interest in the guy's interests she doesn't try to challenge the guy

01:56:29.940 you know and she's half decent in bed she's she's there but just once again the biggest problem

01:56:37.400 i've seen i'm i said this is the third time i'm gonna say it she seemed to me like she was a

01:56:41.800 conservative guy but then she wants equal say and wants to be 50 50 and he has to know my opinions

01:56:47.240 on stuff which is why she she would date that that guy that she's with for five years she needs to be

01:56:52.680 the type of woman that conservative guy wants especially if she's attracted to conservative men

01:56:59.880 and and to answer the question of you know where are all the good men they're still there i i i

01:57:07.320 honestly think they're all still there it's the women that have screwed it up and that is why i

01:57:13.400 am such a big fan of this show um i think more women need to participate and need to number one

01:57:22.600 listen not try to interject or say you're wrong or anything like that but actually sit down and

01:57:30.600 listen to what men have to say and what they want because what they want i think is valid

01:57:39.000 and this whole me too crap has ruined it and they ruined it for themselves so uh that's basically

01:57:48.920 why i love the show and i pay attention yeah thanks so much for calling in you're a good sport

01:57:55.880 so i appreciate it give us an update and i will be showing my daughter yeah show her show her

01:58:04.280 some lana roads you know what i mean yeah thanks curly y'all been great right

01:58:15.400 yeah at 21 you could sell purity at 31 it's time to sell the gluck gluck

01:58:21.400 yeah a 14 16 yeah that's a no-go yeah it's a no-go i know the thing is i am my heaviest i think i was

01:58:31.800 a 14. so i know what that looks like and you're not getting called back i'll tell you that yeah

01:58:38.600 unless you're gonna date a fat guy they might call you back yeah afron five and that's the thing thank

01:58:44.920 you afron i appreciate it that's what i mean like maybe your situationship was just waiting to see

01:58:50.920 if she lost the weight yeah some guys do that they they have like a trait they kind of wait

01:58:57.400 to see if you'll like improve and they're not going to tell you what to do so it's like

01:59:03.560 if you don't do it all men do is just walk away or they break up with you a lot they always talk

01:59:09.400 about oh yeah women will break up with a guy long before shacks he leaves well guys kind of do the

01:59:15.240 same thing but at the beginning phase it's like he'll he'll disqualify you from relationship

01:59:21.960 consideration but still keep you around and you wouldn't even know you still think that

01:59:26.040 you and him are building towards something and in his head he's like no

01:59:31.480 yeah okay let's bring in nathan has been waiting for a while

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01:59:49.420 already we are on our way to three million yeah she was uh she was a single mama too and she found

01:59:55.060 a husband i know she can gluck gluck his first wife trained trained him broke him into what's

02:00:04.160 sad about me i'm so tired you see that disrespectful rhetoric yeah come on now all right it says

02:00:12.400 nathan is joining uh it says nathan's joining still but she was a good sport though i hope

02:00:22.000 that she does show this to her daughter though because her daughter's 30 i mean

02:00:27.040 if she loses weight and it you know i wouldn't even go on and i would spend three months i

02:00:32.880 I wouldn't go on a single date.

02:00:34.520 You're fat.

02:00:35.520 Get unfat.

02:00:36.420 You have three months.

02:00:38.440 And then I would literally, if I found dates, it would be in the gym.

02:00:45.900 That's your only job.

02:00:48.240 For some reason, it says Nathan is still joining.

02:00:51.020 So I'm going to bring Sean up.

02:00:54.400 I don't think it's the Sean that normally joins because I don't see his thing.

02:00:57.580 But Sean, are you there?

02:01:01.120 Yeah.

02:01:01.620 Can you hear me?

02:01:02.880 hey sean how are you doing well um so where do you think the men have gone

02:01:12.080 yeah so i mean i think the men are there i just think the women kind of choose to not see us

02:01:19.200 highly attracted to them or so we're highly attractive to them and i'll give you an example

02:01:24.800 at my workplace we just had like the new interns come in okay and there's like five guys and one of

02:01:31.840 them looks like super chat and the other four look like just regular guys and you got five girls and

02:01:39.280 all the girls want to do is basically gather around the super chat guy and the other guys are

02:01:44.640 just off to themselves eating lunch together and it's just very obvious that the girls are like

02:01:51.200 we'll double back for those other guys if we're like 30 later on but for now we're gonna go for

02:01:56.640 what we want so i think that's just how things kind of play out girls kind of want to go for

02:02:01.520 their first choice and then only when they kind of have to give that up or they become more realistic

02:02:07.520 you know getting kind of a nudge from their parents or people around them that they need

02:02:12.260 to settle down sooner than later then they'll kind of double back for a quote-unquote reliable guy

02:02:17.360 a nice guy instead of the hot guy right yeah yeah i agree doug mpa you got anything uh what's your

02:02:28.200 age group sean like i am i'm 34 actually so yeah so uh yeah all those young guys all they have to

02:02:40.060 do is hit 35 with no children and not being married and it all changes for them so if you

02:02:45.680 see those young guys they're like oh i wish that was me to tell them to keep their head down till

02:02:51.180 they hit 35 yeah i mean i would add on to that like when you're 35 but you also have your stuff

02:02:57.460 together and you're in shape then i would say you'll do a lot better but like if you haven't

02:03:03.420 done anything for yourself and you're 35 like they're not going to look your way yeah yeah

02:03:07.280 you're cooked how has dating changed for you in the past five years and like going out and stuff

02:03:14.620 go ahead yeah i would say dating has gotten better as kind of like my net worth has kind of gone up

02:03:21.140 my social status has gone up. I would say it has gotten better, but I would say kind of post

02:03:27.420 cough cough to, you know, Doug MPA's point, I would say there's a lot more of a anti-social

02:03:35.100 vibe I see amongst a lot of the girls. So it's easier for the ones that are more motivated

02:03:40.800 to date them, but for a lot of the girls, you know, especially in their 20s, they just don't

02:03:46.120 seem to be as motivated to date that i would see you know before kind of the the great scare kind

02:03:53.640 of happened like uh prior to that happening like approaching girls was a lot easier people were a

02:03:59.000 lot more open to conversations now it's just like everyone's either has their earbuds inside or

02:04:04.820 they're scrolling through their phone they can't really be bothered so it's somewhat easier but

02:04:10.220 it's also somewhat harder i would say okay yeah um how many dates do you go on a week or like in

02:04:17.220 a month and like how often do you go out now versus before yeah i would say i probably go on

02:04:24.280 about four dates a month now uh so i outside of kind of like work and going to the gym and things

02:04:31.020 like that i try to go out at least on weekends to try to meet folks at bars and things like that

02:04:35.100 But I would say most of the dates I meet are either pretty much through dating apps or it's through Instagram from people I met in person, but then, you know, followed them on Instagram, kind of make my sort of Instagram profile kind of like a dating app showcasing my life and then messaging them that way.

02:04:54.460 I found that's a lot easier way to get them on a date than asking them out directly.

02:04:59.440 For whatever reason, you know, nowadays it's easier to ask them out that way

02:05:03.800 than to just ask them for their number directly for whatever reason.

02:05:09.200 So, yeah, I mean, that's kind of how things are playing out at the moment.

02:05:12.700 Cool. Doug and Pierre, you got anything?

02:05:15.680 I do not, Sean. It looks like you have all figured out just, you know,

02:05:19.660 the young guys will learn.

02:05:20.760 they got to start they've learned early that part of the experience is taking those l's so just let

02:05:26.200 them take the l's at work okay absolutely all right buddy good talking to you thanks okay

02:05:36.680 i'm gonna bring up

02:05:40.520 uh polismo polissimo

02:05:45.960 hang on real good

02:05:49.580 are you there i'm here i'm here hey where are you calling out of

02:05:57.720 where am i calling out uh columbus ohio oh cool midwest too i did not miss that you

02:06:07.980 chatted out columbus uh a little bit ago that i what

02:06:14.440 you were talking you were you debased columbus ohio a minute ago uh well not a minute but like

02:06:23.160 uh i don't know maybe 45 minutes ago you were on a tirade and you were like hey you know

02:06:30.960 you know columbus ohio oh did i i might have sorry about that girl either way um i love you girl uh

02:06:41.580 you're you're wonderful and i'm a big fan well thank you um so where what's your answer to the

02:06:49.040 question where have all the men gone this is a two-tiered question uh there's old older men and

02:06:57.580 then there's younger men okay uh the younger men are completely fucked uh the older men have

02:07:03.760 completely the older men have completely given up i'm 49 i've been divorced twice i'm done with

02:07:13.200 women i but i but i have kids and you know i kind of got all the benefits the younger men are they

02:07:20.960 are well and truly because they want kids they want families they want all these things

02:07:27.600 um but modern women like they i mean i don't know it they're they're basically

02:07:37.380 diffusing bombs trying to get that for their for their lives they they don't know what the

02:07:45.760 hell's going to go off in their face you know that's my observance i feel horrible i have a son

02:07:56.200 i mean he's seven years old i have a son and i am horrified by what he the world that he's walking

02:08:06.760 into i don't know what to well i don't and i don't even know what to tell him i don't even

02:08:12.040 know how to start training him the worst part about it is wait till he gets into school and

02:08:18.860 you see how much more that they emphasize the girls over the boys because i have friends who

02:08:24.100 have sons and they keep having to go to the school like where are the resources for the boys

02:08:28.100 it's a bunch of women that are literally trying to push the girls over the boys and are treating

02:08:35.240 him like the like the boys are inherently bad inherently evil it's crazy so just watch out

02:08:42.020 and make sure to be an advocate for your son in public school man because you're going to be the

02:08:46.740 only one that cares no yeah and uh and i appreciate that doug and and i've actually seen it already

02:08:53.500 I go to all the parent-teacher meetings and everything

02:08:58.980 and I get up there and I yell at those people and stuff

02:09:01.540 but they do

02:09:02.720 everything is geared towards the women

02:09:06.440 or girls

02:09:08.820 and like they have girls night

02:09:13.240 after school thing

02:09:15.360 women's appreciation and all this stuff

02:09:20.000 and they don't have dog dick for the boys.

02:09:23.760 There's literally nothing.

02:09:25.800 They don't do this stuff for boys.

02:09:28.380 The boys are the evil ones.

02:09:30.660 So, you know, I don't know.

02:09:32.440 I take my boy out.

02:09:34.340 We go out on boy dates and we do our thing, you know.

02:09:37.780 I mean, on a personal basis, you know,

02:09:41.460 I talk to him about how valuable he is

02:09:44.780 and how awesome he is and stuff.

02:09:46.420 But, yeah, society is not going to give him that, ever.

02:09:53.940 But as far as, yeah, as far as, like, the men going their own way, yeah, it's older versus younger.

02:10:06.520 The younger are, these younger boys are so screwed.

02:10:09.940 unless something really major changes you know they're in a real bad spot um the older ones

02:10:18.460 like myself i'm 49 years old i like i have i mean i have i have kids already i have no use for a

02:10:27.300 goddamn woman you know um i'm so sick of these i'm i'm like no offense to you pearl or any other

02:10:35.540 woman out there but like i hate these hoes yeah i just have no i have no use for it anymore like

02:10:43.980 what the hell is like some like hysterectomy like whatever woman gonna like offer my life

02:10:51.320 um i have a quiet house i have a quiet peaceful place for my babies to come to when i get my days

02:11:01.400 uh like like why the hell would i introduce like i'm not an 18 year old anymore i'm not like

02:11:11.720 hyper hormonal trying to hump everything you know like i don't know what like some

02:11:18.400 woman would benefit me at this point

02:11:20.760 well you can at least you can at least smash

02:11:26.320 like i don't even really care about smashing anymore at this point like i mean like i said

02:11:34.060 i'm like i'm pushing 50 you know yeah i'm pushing 50 here like i i like my my like my imagination

02:11:44.100 is the hottest like i can conjure up the hottest woman in my in the world in my imagination

02:11:50.440 like spank it oh spank it in the shower if i needed to you know what that's the worst we're

02:11:56.540 losing to imaginary women a lot well no but but why wouldn't i do that and then just only have

02:12:04.260 to deal with that imaginary woman for you know 30 seconds as opposed to dealing with an actual

02:12:12.120 woman for however long if they ask you what's the where's the craziest place you've ever had sex i

02:12:18.120 say my mind that's it yeah because i can do anything in my mind but if like i i i you know

02:12:28.280 i pull in some woman uh then you know i'm stuck with her and then like what the does she even

02:12:35.240 bring me like honestly i like i like i said i'm almost 50. uh if it was some woman that like i

02:12:43.400 don't know she could bear another child or something she was of childbearing age still

02:12:48.040 then you know maybe you know i might i might entertain that idea but outside of that it's like

02:12:53.880 why the hell do i need a woman in my house i was talking about how men have woken up to

02:13:01.160 because men if you're uh if men will make money but now we get to consider our time

02:13:09.240 and that's what you're doing you just you're you're taking your time back and you're just

02:13:15.380 making sure because time is the one thing that you can't get back and you're just making sure

02:13:18.780 that it's going towards stuff that's benefiting you and your children instead of a woman so yeah

02:13:24.800 no i i absolutely agree with that um i i think that time is a thing you know but time i don't

02:13:31.700 i don't really care a whole lot about time what i care about is peace quiet uh just harmony in my

02:13:41.380 home and i don't you know in my experience i just haven't had a lot of uh really good

02:13:50.660 uh i haven't had a i haven't had a lot of good like you know experiences with like a woman

02:13:55.940 bringing peace to my home uh generally it's chaos and in just garbage and you know i don't i don't

02:14:02.980 really need it i'd rather just have uh i'd rather just have peace and quiet my baby's running around

02:14:09.380 doing their own thing and everything and uh yeah yeah i i don't i don't need a woman yeah okay

02:14:16.820 totally okay thanks so much for calling in okay call in any time all right uh big fan pearl thanks

02:14:24.420 so much um there was a super chat i think i missed it let me pull it up

02:14:37.940 what's up yeah what's up man you know just another day in the life

02:14:45.060 where have all the good men gone these women are asking where have they gone ship

02:14:49.380 um you know uh they've gone uh to the strip clubs and to to uh only fans and they've gone to

02:14:59.120 prostitutes they've gone to list crawler um they've gone to uh spinning plates you know

02:15:06.100 they've gone they've gone everywhere shiv have you noticed a difference and it's interesting

02:15:13.620 because you date more than you did five years ago but um maybe maybe for your friends would you say

02:15:20.180 they're dating more now than five years ago um have you noticed any that like exited the dating

02:15:25.780 market um yeah so it's interesting it just i think it really depends on i feel like everyone who was

02:15:33.780 a late bloomer like for me i was just like such a workaholic you know all i cared about was works

02:15:39.940 and um and so for me back then like i didn't get a lot of dates or girls but now i do because i now

02:15:48.260 have like stuff and like a personality and i've like done the work i found like all the guys back

02:15:53.380 then who all they cared about in college was just getting laid they got way more girls back then

02:16:00.820 and now now they're all struggling they haven't they haven't been laid in years really so guys

02:16:05.860 that is it because they're losers or well it's because the same things that work when you're

02:16:12.100 like 18 to 21 don't work when you're 30. like uh when you're 21 you can get away with not having a

02:16:18.500 job and not having stuff like in a parent's house it's really hard to get away with that at 35.

02:16:24.420 you know at 21 you can get away with like paying zero dollars i'm not saying you have to spend a

02:16:29.060 lot of money but like if you it's really if you don't have your own car if you don't have anything

02:16:34.980 that that stuff just gets harder as you get older in my opinion i mean look i don't know doug you

02:16:39.620 tell me i don't know if you uh you have the same experience but i i find that as you get older

02:16:44.580 girls will put up with less uh less uh on on the career front what so i'm just trying to understand

02:16:54.340 the question so as you get older women put up with less no like like my friends who got

02:17:00.980 like all they cared about was like sports and like getting laid in college.

02:17:05.500 Like now that they like are 35 and live at their parents' house and don't have a car and like are unemployed.

02:17:12.000 Oh, yeah. 100 percent.

02:17:13.420 Yeah. They're not getting laid at 35.

02:17:15.340 But at 18 in college, they were because they were an athlete, you know, and all they cared about was getting laid.

02:17:21.220 And then for me, all I cared about was like building a business and like work and money.

02:17:25.720 So I got didn't get laid that much in, you know, my early 20s.

02:17:29.720 And now I I'm spinning like multiple plates.

02:17:32.040 In fact, it's like now the problem is I can't fit them all in my week.

02:17:36.480 So I'm like now having to like split them up over three weeks now.

02:17:40.240 It's totally. Yeah.

02:17:41.520 Total nightmare.

02:17:42.240 I mean, I have to like create like a advent calendar for them or something.

02:17:46.200 You're always better because we all have those guys that flamed out in high school

02:17:51.760 or college. Yep.

02:17:53.680 And they don't understand that life is is a marathon, not a sprint.

02:17:59.720 And, yeah, you know, I've I've gone back to my hometown multiple times and I saw the guys that were, you know, popular in high school and stuff, you know, working at the tire place.

02:18:11.660 You know, yeah, so it's true.

02:18:14.840 And you guys, you're better off keeping your head down in high school, keep your head down in college, play the long game, getting a highly valued skill, highly valued trade, highly valued education, because the qualities it takes for you to get those three things.

02:18:29.720 are what will make you attractive to women uh for the long term in the long run and even better

02:18:37.560 is that when you get to 30 35 40 45 and you've done the work and you've done the hard work

02:18:43.620 i'm dating those college girls

02:18:46.300 oh yeah yeah they might they might hook up with the athlete but they're also hooking up with me

02:18:52.560 So, so like, so just remember that, remember that.

02:18:57.460 So that's, that's really the despair, right?

02:19:00.780 Is that like, I can go girls are screwing like three dudes at a time.

02:19:04.800 You might as well be one of them.

02:19:06.600 That's what I'm saying.

02:19:07.300 But like, it's better in my shoes where like, I can still go get that 21 year old hot girl,

02:19:12.260 you know, but like, if you're 35 and you have no, no job unemployed, you're out of shape,

02:19:17.420 like everything's just going bad and you have no car, no, no, whatever.

02:19:21.000 It's like, you're screwed.

02:19:22.380 you're not you're not gonna you're not even gonna get a 30 year old woman or a 35 or 40 year old

02:19:27.580 woman like you're maybe you can get a 50 year old woman if she's down bad or something but like

02:19:32.300 you're you know it doesn't work the other way around so yeah my advice guys who are in their

02:19:36.460 20s uh do the work trust me it's it's a headache anyway don't waste your time women are the biggest

02:19:41.420 distraction they'll ruin uh they'll ruin your life so you might as well get your life uh ruined once

02:19:46.460 to have have some things you know in place okay thanks um all right i think i think we're gonna

02:19:57.100 wrap it up we're almost at 10 o'clock yeah it's so we still have one two three four five six seven

02:20:05.820 eight nine ten eleven twelve thirteen fourteen fifteen people on the call lines oh my goodness

02:20:12.780 i'm meant to come up with a prioritization system here but this is a really good topic this is great

02:20:21.820 yeah totally is um well i do you have any final thoughts you want to do on the topic doug mpa

02:20:31.100 um you know i'm just gonna say it again women have told men for 50 years to leave them alone

02:20:37.500 but they knew not what they did

02:20:41.240 and what they were asking for

02:20:42.400 because now it's a staring contest

02:20:43.960 I think the only way out is for women

02:20:47.140 to start approaching men

02:20:48.200 but they're not going to do it

02:20:49.560 the most powerful women I've ever dated

02:20:51.220 surgeons, C-suite women

02:20:54.940 lawyers, they'll do everything

02:20:57.080 except approach a man

02:20:57.960 and then they also buy into this

02:21:01.260 don't approach me rhetoric

02:21:02.300 so they're unapproachable

02:21:03.340 but they won't approach

02:21:04.900 once again feminism has freed women up from being barefoot in the kitchen but feminism has also

02:21:11.380 freed men up from their traditional massive responsibilities if you're in a major city and

02:21:16.300 you make about sixty thousand dollars a year you can live a good single life as a man you can have

02:21:21.380 your apartment you can have your video games you know you can you know have enough money to take

02:21:27.260 a girl out every once in a while and get laid you can live a good life yeah so um men are just

02:21:33.500 taking their time back and asking what is in it for me and it turns out a lot of times that there

02:21:38.860 isn't a lot for a man in dating got it yeah i agree um yeah i think you know men do a natural

02:21:49.540 cost benefit analysis and now i mean they're just realizing that the juice isn't really worth the

02:21:57.620 squeeze and i can't blame them i really can't um thanks so much for watching everybody thank you

02:22:03.120 so much for all the callers it's really you guys that make the show having good callers so i really

02:22:08.160 appreciate you calling in sorry if i didn't if we didn't get to you this time i was trying to get

02:22:14.320 i think we had i think we've had four women on tonight yeah um the record yeah and uh so yeah so

02:22:22.960 i'm keeping track of the names i'll try to get you in next time but thank you everyone for calling

02:22:27.680 but it just got to two hours really really quick yeah two and a half i think yeah yeah yeah thanks

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