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00:02:30.040 So welcome to another episode of Pearl Daily.

00:02:34.640 So I was out in Chicago the other day and I started a conversation with a couple of

00:02:40.600 young women about the dating scene.

00:02:43.020 During the conversation, the women were talking about how they don't put effort towards dating 0.98

00:02:47.460 men because they would rather hang out with women.

00:02:53.040 I couldn't believe it.

00:02:54.040 these women were dead serious. I heard them talk about how much easier it is to go to a club or 1.00

00:03:00.480 hang out with the girls or go on a trip with their girlfriends than to put themselves out there in the

00:03:04.760 dating market to find a boyfriend or a husband. This made me think how this could be. And I thought

00:03:09.980 of a couple of things. We are four generations into women being told that they don't need men. 0.92

00:03:15.300 Modern women have forgotten what men bring to the table in relationships, the comfort, 1.00

00:03:20.040 the security, and the presence of a masculine man.

00:03:23.260 Two, like Myron from Fresh and Fit says,

00:03:25.940 men have civilized the world so much that women can live alone or with other women. 0.94

00:03:30.520 Packs of women can roam the streets without fear of anything bad happening to them. 1.00

00:03:35.100 And three, women hanging out with their girls is a short-term solution 1.00

00:03:39.160 to a long-term problem that can lead to disaster.

00:03:42.340 Modern women are giving away their best years to colleges, jobs, and now their girlfriends. 1.00

00:03:46.420 it's only a matter of time where most of these women will want to be with a man it's just a 1.00

00:03:51.440 matter of when but by the time they realize that it'll be too late at this rate it's going to be

00:03:55.960 like 62 that's the day they're ready to settle down okay so you can see on social media women 0.79

00:04:02.760 swearing that they will never leave their friends for a man they that they have time um that they

00:04:09.140 have time with their girls or they can go on girls trips but what i would say to them is you

00:04:14.280 can't marry your girlfriends. Well, I mean, some might, but you can't have kids with your

00:04:18.820 girlfriends. Your girlfriends won't provide for you and protect you. And also, like I say on my

00:04:24.440 channel all the time, women can't stand each other. If you ask most women who has done the 1.00

00:04:28.940 worst, most down low thing to them, it's usually other women. And I believe that a woman has more 1.00

00:04:34.820 of a chance of getting betrayed by their girlfriends in a 20 year period than by their

00:04:38.720 husbands lastly most women can count on their friends being there for them in their old age

00:04:46.160 we have all watched the series golden girls that's a real thing a bunch of old lonely women 1.00

00:04:52.220 living together is this the type of is this the type of life that women want to live so 1.00

00:04:58.420 we're going to start with seven reasons why women choose their friends over a man 1.00

00:05:05.460 or over boyfriends.

00:05:08.780 So, okay, seven reasons why girls choose friends over boyfriends.

00:05:13.600 The tiff between friends and boyfriends is never-ending.

00:05:17.340 Have you guys ever dated a woman and felt like you had to date her whole friend group?

00:05:21.300 Like, it's not just her, it's the friend group you have to appease to.

00:05:25.500 Because every time you guys have a fight, she goes to the friend group,

00:05:28.100 and now you have to rationalize.

00:05:29.580 You have to tell your side to the friend group.

00:05:32.200 the former has been through with her through all the roller coaster rides of life while the other

00:05:39.920 has brought has brought bought has bought an all new meaning to her life to choose between these

00:05:47.940 two gems has never been easy but it seems girls value friendship more than their own

00:05:52.400 real life relationships but so before you get into a relationship with your dream girl

00:05:57.040 make sure she doesn't have a best friend i mean definitely not the one in i mean definitely not

00:06:04.660 the one in payar kapunchamana have a look at the reasons which convey why girls are inclined to 1.00

00:06:13.160 move more towards their friends as you never know these might act as best relationship tips for you

00:06:20.520 number one friendship is forever once a girl that's not true at all once a girl has chosen

00:06:27.660 her soul sister dare you replace her they might fight like cats but in hard times you would watch

00:06:33.260 them being each other's back being each other's back oh just to be clear a girl never finds a

00:06:39.760 soul brother in her male friend fights with best friends are free from any knots whereas single 0.99

00:06:45.280 friends with the boyfriend can ruin the fairy tale dream. Number two, deeply entrenched in

00:06:51.300 each other's lives. Friends have stuck for her for obviously a longer period of time

00:06:56.620 and anybody would place their old relations above their new one. From her grunge and gross 0.93

00:07:03.860 dress up as a team to perfectly dressed adult, they have seen it all. Although there's no

00:07:09.520 denial that boyfriends can do romantic things to melt their woman's heart but friends steal the

00:07:16.300 show often three the lightness of mind and soul when compared to long hours spent with their

00:07:22.120 boyfriends even a few minutes with friends feel more honest and relaxed yeah because do you know

00:07:27.020 the same way you guys have to lie to us to make us happy we have to lie to you too there's this

00:07:31.540 idea that being honest gets, has a good relationship. Okay. Let's, let's pretend we,

00:07:39.440 both sexes were honest. Okay. Let's pretend that the men would say, the men would say, 0.64

00:07:44.620 I want to fuck your friend. Your friend's hotter than you. Yeah. I want, I want to bang the friend, 1.00

00:07:49.860 but do you say that? No, no. Because, or the sister or the mother, whoever the hell it is. 0.68

00:07:55.540 you guys don't say that because you love us. The same way women, we don't say, 0.72

00:07:59.700 my ex was better than you. Or we don't say, you know, we don't, we don't say uncomfortable truths

00:08:08.500 like our body can. There's a reason that we lie. We have to. Do you guys really want to know?

00:08:14.360 Do you, no, you don't. You'd rather we lie. Both sexes, we want to be lied to. 1.00

00:08:20.300 So anyways, yeah, so of course she can be more honest and relaxed with the girlfriend. She can 0.92

00:08:24.640 be herself anyway she's an open book in front of her friends moreover she can share anything

00:08:30.100 and everything with them therefore being loyal is not a big task for her until women use that 1.00

00:08:35.540 honesty against against each other and destroy their reputation and ruin their life ask me how

00:08:42.820 I know the rescuers after all the pebbles that life has thrown at her she's got her friends to

00:08:49.060 bring her back together boyfriends might be the ex but friends are never getting older so it's the

00:08:53.400 scolding of her parents or a fight with a boyfriend she finds home in her friend's hug

00:08:58.120 five a bucket full of weirdness all crazy and quirky things find their place at a friend's lap

00:09:04.100 she can be drenched in foolishness and still no one would judge her i mean that this is um 0.99

00:09:09.300 yeah women can be more annoying with each other where you might tell her to shut the fuck up right 1.00

00:09:15.940 yeah it's yeah it's they have their own humorous dancing on the world's weirdest yet funniest 0.98

00:09:22.620 songs her a-rated talks find a higher level when she is with the gang six no need of space most of

00:09:29.720 the fights in a relationship revolve around the space each partner need the quarrel over minimal

00:09:34.720 things result in a tensed atmosphere but with friends you need no space as you already have

00:09:40.440 the freedom of speech and action seven friends are family friends spend long hours in her house

00:09:46.100 doing nothing as if it is their own house and her parents and their parents also with passing days

00:09:52.160 they become a large part of the family on the other hand she needs to think a hundred times

00:09:57.100 about bringing her boyfriends to meet her parents yeah so um women are even making articles um about 0.99

00:10:05.760 choosing their friends over a man but don't just believe the articles

00:10:12.480 believe women themselves as we make tiktok saying the same exact thing guys don't ditch your friends

00:10:18.800 for a boyfriend. You only have so much free time. Do you know what I mean? You got to

00:10:25.020 ditch somebody for your boyfriend. So it's either the job, you know, we're not going

00:10:32.260 to do that. The friends. And now they're saying, don't do that. Don't do that. Especially

00:10:38.360 now that I'm 27 and I'm still seeing a lot of women do that. I'm like, girl, stand up. 0.69

00:10:45.300 stand up look you're first off if your boyfriend is isolating you from your 0.97

00:10:50.540 friends red flag leave of course it's the fat girl saying this of course I see 1.00

00:10:56.580 those I see the blubber I see the cat that's disgusting and you should be 0.99

00:11:02.840 able to have girl nights that's normal in fact that's very healthy you don't 0.98

00:11:07.340 need to do everything with your partner for God's sake also stop calling him

00:11:11.740 your other half. You, you yourself, you are whole as a person. You are whole as a person. He is not

00:11:18.640 your other half. He is just an addition to your life. I always tell my boyfriend, I want you. I

00:11:24.600 don't need you. Can you imagine her telling you this all the time? It's like we behave badly and

00:11:36.540 then just brag about it and we think it's like a good thing you gotta you gotta think it like that

00:11:43.060 girls stand up because i see sometimes here's some things that concern me and i need y'all to

00:11:49.040 stand up it's okay to be in love but stand up yeah of course of course so that's that's woman 1.00

00:11:55.920 ease for i don't like my boyfriend that much when they say i need i you know it's like when a woman 1.00

00:12:01.820 really likes a guy she begs she pleads she cries please don't leave me please please you know you

00:12:07.820 know how it goes uh but when she says i want you i don't need you that's i don't like you yeah

00:12:14.700 after here we go now she's going to talk about a bunch of friends she's going to talk about how

00:12:19.580 after 30 friendships have a harder time being maintained after 30 if you have a whole bunch of

00:12:25.580 friends i'm looking at you sideways point blank period female friendships is one of the most

00:12:31.260 hardest things to maintain besides your bills. It's like literally up there. You can maintain

00:12:37.220 a relationship with a man more than you can maintain with a female. I used to think back 0.99

00:12:44.460 in the day, like if you didn't have friends or if you didn't have a lot of friends, you were the

00:12:47.820 problem. You can have acquaintances, but I'm talking about like actual friends. After 30,

00:12:53.860 I can stand hard on like two good friends. Like if I needed to, you get what I'm saying?

00:12:58.140 and all you need is like one good best friend and like you're good like you're fine but I can't be

00:13:04.840 friends with a girl who has all these friends like to me that's like yeah the problem is the

00:13:11.720 more like friends a woman has the more she can manipulate them against you she can like turn 1.00

00:13:17.180 the group against you you know okay so why you should never choose a man over your female friends

00:13:28.040 we got another article a couple of years ago my best friend was arguing with her boyfriend about

00:13:34.480 me this guy oh no this guy was a great a of course emotionally abusive tool bag without going too

00:13:41.200 far into the details of their relationship i'll say he had made it his mission to drive a wedge

00:13:45.380 between my friend and me despite the fact i lived thousands of miles away he saw me as a threat to

00:13:51.460 his hold on her anyways uh one night my friend i'll call her tara and i had an especially

00:13:57.920 hilarious conversation on the phone i laughed until i cried and so did she the tool bag bag

00:14:03.880 who i'll call teabag did not like this in the midst of our laps laughter tara whispered oh 0.99

00:14:09.580 shit i gotta go i'll call you back late my stomach sank shit shit shit what was happening 0.99

00:14:15.320 i tried to get in touch with a mutual friend to check her out check on her but since it was late 0.99

00:14:20.320 in the u.s i couldn't find anyone about 30 minutes later she called me back her voice hushed and

00:14:24.660 thick sounding i don't know he gets so mad when i'm talking to you so what really happened guys

00:14:30.140 put the put what you think really happened in the chat um the laughing especially he's convinced

00:14:36.120 we're laughing at him it just infuriates him he said luis will never choose you over her husband

00:14:41.640 i'm all you have in that moment several things became obvious to me one teabag had to go

00:14:48.900 immediately friends and I had tried to eject him from her life before okay there's the real story

00:14:54.480 but things were escalating and she had to get out now a shirt while later Tara's relocation was

00:15:00.620 was orchestrated by friends and family while I could not be there we were almost we were in

00:15:07.060 almost constant contact as she extricated teabag from her life so yeah again usually when a guy 0.94

00:15:13.280 has boundaries standards or really asks anything of a woman that's when everyone in her life will 0.90

00:15:18.740 try to get her to leave him yeah and on the chat says I would choose my husband over female friends 0.98

00:15:27.220 if I had to luckily I don't have to choose thanks and if you guys do have a question comment or

00:15:33.040 concern you do get unlimited comments on the website he was wrong there is no choosing there

00:15:39.280 is no either or there is no there is room in my heart for both my husband and the woman I love

00:15:44.180 the love is not the exact same thing but take one away and I would be incomplete

00:15:49.100 So often I think it's an expectation that once a woman is married, her friends, especially other female friends, become secondary, a childish remnant from a former life.

00:15:58.640 I often encounter this idea among friends, acquaintances, or family, that when a woman who marries a man, the marriage consumes her.

00:16:07.140 Yeah, because if you have a kid, it's like, are you going to go to the club with your friends or read your kid a bedtime story?

00:16:11.860 You really got to pick. You can't be there for both, right? There's a pregame.

00:16:16.300 being a grown-up married woman somehow means that a woman's husband should be her best friend her 0.93

00:16:22.000 lover her soulmate or everything but how could one person be another person's everything frankly

00:16:26.880 that's a lot of pressure and i can't imagine being another person's everything i'm happy that i'm not

00:16:31.260 my husband's everything nor is he mine this is a conversation that is changing but even when i was

00:16:36.300 in the process of managing my life with my husband's three years ago there was a bit of worry in

00:16:41.260 the back of my head that somehow i'd lose myself my friendships or that i was expected to but the

00:16:46.280 truth is without my female friendships I wouldn't know a thing about love. The first person I ever

00:16:50.840 got a love letter from arguably the only person was my friend Liz. We'd been best friends since

00:16:55.860 high school went to colleges very far apart and were very lonely one spring break. Neither of us

00:17:00.780 could afford to go home and as we sat in our dorm rooms in different parts of the country

00:17:04.760 we longed for each other's comfort. Then I got an email from her. In her letter she talked about

00:17:09.440 relationships and crushes friends and intimacy. At one point she wrote but our friendship has

00:17:14.080 taught me about love I doubt other people but I don't doubt you I love you through your weirdness

00:17:18.540 you love me through my weirdness sometimes I'm somebody else with other people just like you are

00:17:23.180 but I'm me when I'm with you I want to be madly in love one day but our friendship is a guide

00:17:27.480 this is how love is supposed to be you're the only person I've ever wanted to write a love

00:17:31.140 letter to thank you so again this is us we try to make our husbands into women right we like tell

00:17:36.840 them about our problems they become our best friend big L for the men I felt the same and I

00:17:42.780 still do. In that precarious time when we were trying to figure out adulthood and how to be in

00:17:47.720 adult relationships, Liz and the depth of my acquaintance and appreciation for each other's

00:17:52.340 greatness and shortcomings gave me something to strive for. Through boyfriends and girlfriends,

00:17:57.200 Liz and my relationship was always the benchmark of how I deserved to be loved for and cared for

00:18:01.440 by anybody. I remember being in a relationship where I was tactically or not so tactically asked

00:18:06.340 to be someone else. To alter fundamental things about myself, these relationships always began

00:18:10.980 sour as soon as I'd remember Liz and think, is this not how I want to be loved? Is this how I

00:18:17.000 want to love someone? As someone, I'm not. Decades later, I still think of Liz's words when I'm

00:18:22.360 confronted with questions of honesty or authenticity in relationships. The first time I said I love you

00:18:27.680 and I meant it was to my friend Beth. Those three words had always terrified me. I'd said to people

00:18:32.740 before, but I always felt a nagging guilt about it. I wasn't sure if I'm being honest. Beth was

00:18:38.060 and is one of those friends who would never lie to you, no matter how painful it is to both of you.

00:18:43.140 We worked in the same office when I was in my early 20s, and we became fast friends over the

00:18:47.580 hatred of scanning photos and having to take notes at production meetings. What struck me

00:18:53.580 and scared me about Beth is that she was immediately able to see through my BS.

00:18:58.100 While I usually could charm people into forgiving my forgetfulness or selfishness, 0.67

00:19:03.800 she wouldn't stand for it you're not a shitty person but sometimes you really act like one

00:19:08.140 she said to me one night after i had behaved especially lousy i don't remember all the

00:19:13.660 details but it involved her waiting for me for hours while i flitted flirted around doing god 0.91

00:19:18.800 knows what i could shrink off most others anger but when beth looked at me it wasn't anger it was 0.91

00:19:23.900 hurt and disappointment i mean they should date she's a lesbian i that's what i'm getting from 0.94

00:19:29.080 this article what we had it out that night amidst the tears and the frustration i realized that beth

00:19:35.500 was angry because she cared enough to hold me accountable for my actions though i didn't like 0.96

00:19:39.580 to see it in myself she saw me as somebody better than the idiot i was acting like after the dust

00:19:44.620 settled i offered the most sincere apology i had ever given up given at that point while beth

00:19:50.520 accepted and hugged me i told her i loved her and the first time i meant it 100 well i felt like i

00:19:57.060 had my armor torn away i never lost my trust in beth and i'd never felt more love that night i

00:20:02.220 added holding the person you love accountable even when it hurts to my mental definition of love

00:20:06.660 over the years i've had many experiences that have shaped what love meant to me

00:20:11.720 somewhere with men romantic or platonic but the majority has been with friends who are women

00:20:17.760 and although i've learned a lot about love in the 10 years that i've been with my husband

00:20:22.060 certainly that living with someone in a physical relationship reveals things that aren't always

00:20:27.040 uncovered in friendship i find myself reaching for the lesson on love i've learned from the

00:20:32.080 women in my life rather than past romantic relationships this is not to say that women's

00:20:36.480 friendships are in service to the ultimate payoff of marriage blah blah blah far from it i'm not

00:20:42.320 even really saying that this is entirely unique to women's friendships i've just found that it is

00:20:48.400 women who i feel a distinct kinship with for me the ultimate payoff is that every time true love 0.99

00:20:54.640 touches you, you learn a little bit more about how to love yourself and others. You learn about

00:20:59.620 how you see yourself through the eyes of the person who loves you. You get to see what they

00:21:05.040 see. But I've been lucky enough to glimpse myself through the eyes of some amazing women.

00:21:10.340 Going back to teabag's accusation that I'd chosen my husband over Tara,

00:21:14.780 the choice would be like choosing my arm or my leg. Both are important to me. And if I

00:21:19.620 had one torn from me I'd spend so much time in pain from that loss that the other limb would

00:21:25.060 be an afterthought there's an extreme example but that's the level of rage I fell over teabag

00:21:30.280 even suggesting that thought to Tara I guess the point is we don't choose who we love but more than

00:21:35.760 that we don't have to choose who we love most there doesn't have to be a winner yeah because

00:21:40.640 it's going to be the friends it's not going to be you fellas sorry I hate I hate I hate to be the

00:21:45.200 bearer of bad news but she's got a thought friend um you're cooked done that's it um

00:21:51.920 I don't have one person in my life who's my everything but the people I've chosen to love

00:21:57.180 me are everything without them I'd be nothing in the foods oh wait okay that this is talking

00:22:06.120 about something else yeah so here we got women talking about how why you should never choose a 1.00

00:22:14.080 man over your female friends. And I just wanted to show you guys how this in essence plays out.

00:22:20.840 What is the long-term ramifications of this? Where does this go in 20 years? Well, what we're

00:22:28.180 going to see is a lot of female community living together. So you're going to see women sharing 1.00

00:22:32.940 apartments, sharing community homes, and single mothers choosing each other instead of a man. 0.99

00:22:38.200 And then they're going to break up, blow up, and then women will go on to the next parasite. 1.00

00:22:44.080 And after dealing with divorce, Tessa Geider and Christian Baitakeffer decided to raise

00:22:51.400 their family in a, wait for it, wait for it.

00:22:54.980 So it's like a play on like mother and community, like mom you, and like it's so a community

00:23:00.360 of moms living together under one roof, helping each other raise children together.

00:23:06.720 So the backstory is I found out that my husband was cheating on me for a year and I left him

00:23:12.220 obviously and then my friends were like hey you guys can come live with us while you're figuring

00:23:16.860 out this next phase of your life and then my best friend also went through an equally terrible year

00:23:23.360 like yeah when one friend did the divorce like when one girl in the friend group gets divorced

00:23:27.900 i got bad news for you fellas i got bad news you're next yep especially if she's having like 0.98

00:23:35.260 a good if she's having fun women hate being left out of fun right we love fun we hate like that's 0.99

00:23:41.600 why like this is kind of how our brains work so you guys go to work and we don't realize that

00:23:46.220 you're having a terrible time like we think you're having fun so that's why we had to join work so

00:23:50.440 we're like what they get to have fun I want to have fun too and now we're crying at work we're

00:23:55.640 doing like tiktoks crying in the car because we don't want to work well and it's the same thing

00:24:00.520 with divorce right we'll see the women and even if it's not a fun divorce we'll see them and be 0.95

00:24:05.740 like oh that's so fun they're going out to eat pray love I want to eat pray love and we don't

00:24:13.160 what we don't see is the not getting called back the all this you know bs the the ex-husband moving

00:24:19.740 on to someone younger hotter better in every way humbling you you know we don't see that we just

00:24:24.880 see the oh a trip to Aruba I want to go on a trip to Aruba and then yeah we end up divorcing too so

00:24:31.500 yeah i hate to say it fellas but yep then you're cooked then you're cooked also with her husband

00:24:37.100 the same time as i was a couple months into living here she was called me up and she's like hey

00:24:42.780 i'm this isn't working i think i'm gonna leave my husband and i was like okay we'll come live

00:24:48.040 with us it's three moms who are amazing moms and i think that's what makes all of it when they say

00:24:55.880 i'm an amazing mom that means they have to say it so their actions don't show it every amazing mom

00:25:01.480 that I know never has to say I'm an amazing mom right it's always they just are it's kind of like

00:25:06.720 the guy that's rich he's like telling everyone he's rich he's not actually rich he's telling

00:25:09.880 everyone he's rich it's so beautiful and so easy like I mean I'm going through a divorce and yet

00:25:14.980 I'm so happy and calm we all help each other with the kids we also all help each other with like

00:25:21.980 just cleaning up the house or making dinner like we like kind of just oh I'll cook this tonight or

00:25:27.320 I'll cook this tonight. And we make each other coffee in the morning. Like it's so crazy. Women 1.00

00:25:33.500 never talk about emotional labor when living with other women. Right. So there's no counting the 0.99

00:25:38.760 chores and saying, I did this, you did that, you know, yada, yada, yada. But when they do it for a

00:25:43.780 man, it's like, that's when we start counting. Like, it's just like, we just like take care of

00:25:50.160 each other. The con is like, I went from, and it's not even really a con, but it's just like,

00:25:54.760 I had one kid and now there's three kids in the house and so that can be a little bit loud.

00:25:59.620 House gets noisy. There's like two four-year-olds running around and then a one-year-old baby crying

00:26:06.000 at the same time and like it just can be a lot. We're very lucky in that our daughters like our

00:26:12.480 best friends like it's crazy. They get along so great. Until the moms have a falling out and then

00:26:17.860 they're going to be ripped apart from their best friend. And like play together so great. My biggest

00:26:22.660 piece of advice is that you have to make sure that these people line up with your values kind of who

00:26:31.060 you are as a person I just think is so important I think this whole situation could have gone so

00:26:35.860 differently if there was tension in the house bad energy or just somebody who didn't align with how

00:26:42.280 I kind of feel and live my life you have to really make sure that you know like one that your parenting

00:26:49.700 styles are similar that your views and your beliefs on things are similar and that you trust

00:26:56.480 those people because like they're going to be around yeah we're cooked cooked that's the future

00:27:02.100 i'm telling you that's that's the future we're already in it we're already watching this go on

00:27:07.780 as i'm i'm the youngest millennial i'm two months away from gen z i kind of wish i was

00:27:12.780 I'd feel younger you know um but that's that's what's gonna happen and people think I'm black

00:27:21.460 pilled or a doomer but I'm like do you guys not have eyes you don't see everyone getting divorced

00:27:25.360 you don't see people like it's like 10-year relationships that's what we're kind of in

00:27:30.300 it's like a subscription model instead of a marriage model like I don't know and you know

00:27:35.240 it's crazy the people that always call me black pill are always divorced that's that's that's

00:27:40.160 the crazy thing. It's like, they don't, it's like two plus two equals four, right? Their parents

00:27:46.120 will be divorced. They'll have gone through a divorce and then they'll say, Pearl, you're so 0.98

00:27:50.720 blackpilled. I'm like, what did you do? You did a subscription model. Or the women, it's like, 1.00

00:27:56.300 what happened to your ex-boyfriend? Where is he? They'll be like, oh, I believe in marriage. Where's

00:28:01.540 your ex-boyfriend? Well, we weren't married. Well, were you throwing it back? Yeah. Oh, okay. So I

00:28:07.940 guess it's not that special is it um john says except for you pearl 95 percent of women are 1.00

00:28:14.340 bought and pay for it and can't be trusted well your kids a lot and you know basically helping

00:28:20.500 raise your children and your children are going to be like watching them and learning from them

00:28:24.320 and so someone said in the chat i hope pearl doesn't hit the wall well i gotta do it eventually

00:28:29.080 i'm gonna age like i'm gonna be 70 and still got it

00:28:34.800 I mean, you know what? 0.74

00:28:39.100 I reacted to something today, which was a 72-year-old hooker. 1.00

00:28:46.980 She did not still have it, but someone did it.

00:28:49.480 Like, it's got to be someone that you align with and values and trust,

00:28:54.020 and you feel safe letting your children.

00:28:56.960 Yeah, and now here's the thing. 1.00

00:28:58.080 So single mothers, we all know are whores, right? 1.00

00:29:00.040 So they're all going to be throwing it back and bringing these random men into the house. 0.99

00:29:03.840 and now this has like got to be a father's worst nightmare he's like because you all know that if

00:29:10.040 there was like a horror meter right if there was like a like i i don't believe that all women are 0.97

00:29:16.620 equal sluts in a friend group that's not what i've seen what but what i can say is usually there's

00:29:22.800 somebody putting out in a friend group because a group of guys is not going to hang out with a 0.91

00:29:27.700 group of women unless somebody's putting out so someone in the friend group is doing it and

00:29:32.480 whoever's doing it is going to try to pull all the others towards her so she's constantly going 0.98

00:29:39.300 to be trying to get the others to be whores and naturally that's like our natural inclination for 1.00

00:29:44.760 I you know that's just what we want to do now there are women that understand there's consequences 1.00

00:29:50.460 for doing that so we don't right but when you have women getting cancer diagnosis and divorcing

00:29:56.160 their husband and throwing it back for a hundred men rather than be with their husband this is a

00:30:00.860 trying. We're going to do a show on this later. But what does that tell you? You know, I covered

00:30:08.900 a 72-year-old hooker. She didn't have sex for 40 years and then was like, I'm going to start 1.00

00:30:13.460 throwing it back. So that's what I can say. If you get a group of women, they're one of them, 1.00

00:30:19.880 and it could be your wife. You're not really going to know which one's the super slut, right? 1.00

00:30:24.260 You guys marry women that you think are great and they turn out to be super slut. So you're 1.00

00:30:28.340 aren't really going to know. But there's a super slut in the group that's pulling them. And the 1.00

00:30:32.720 longer they're together, the more bad decisions will happen, right? Because one girl in the group

00:30:39.400 is going to get the Botox. And then the other girls are like, I want Botox. Then, you know, 0.97

00:30:43.760 then they do it, right? One girl in the group is going to be like, I want to travel. I want to go

00:30:47.400 on all these trips. And the other girls are going to be like, I want to go on these trips. And 0.94

00:30:50.480 there's no guy to be like, hey, how are you going to pay for that? And then there's one woman that's 1.00

00:30:54.500 going to file bankruptcy. And the other girls are like, I'm going to file bankruptcy too and just

00:30:57.980 run on my credit cards right so that's kind of how it works so this has got to be a living nightmare

00:31:05.220 for the men because these are all cute women right they're all I I know you guys these are

00:31:10.140 woods for you these are woods you would do it so if they're woods then what's going to happen is

00:31:17.640 one of them is going to be thrown it back there's going to be a rotation of men and then it's also

00:31:23.380 going to, what also is going to happen is they're going to bring over, then the one girl is going 1.00

00:31:28.340 to see the other girl bringing home men. And then the other girl is going to be like, I want to do 1.00

00:31:32.940 that. And then they all start doing it. Right. Then I'm going to take this one step further.

00:31:39.340 So what's going to happen next is, um, then some, they're going to sleep with the same guy somehow,

00:31:47.640 because obviously the town's not too big, the city, some chat is running through, he's waiting,

00:31:52.940 right he's waiting there's some chad that has a script for single mothers he's probably gonna 0.83

00:31:58.160 give them a really nice script on the first date like he's open to being a stepdad he's not

00:32:03.920 but he's gonna get that poonanny right so um he has this waiting for them this script and then um 0.99

00:32:13.160 yeah long story short they're gonna they're gonna fall for it then they're gonna fight over a guy

00:32:19.440 and then they're gonna break up and the kids are gonna be devastated because they lost

00:32:22.900 their best friend and then they'll just find the next one so that's how it goes and be around them

00:32:27.920 okay let's see what we got next up here we got older women in australia also living together 1.00

00:32:36.020 these women have come to see what their future yeah so this is so remember it's all fun and 1.00

00:32:41.220 games after the first divorce right now i'm not going to pretend that single mothers have no shot 0.97

00:32:47.380 at redemption right it's when they look like this and they're a single mother like the question is

00:32:54.540 how hot is she how hot is she how pleasant is she to be around and how old is the kid

00:33:01.680 you know like if she got pregnant at 15 and she's 32 and that kid's 17

00:33:07.180 a lot of guys aren't really going to care right they're going to be like okay

00:33:14.640 the kids i mean the kids not really a pro like i i knew i'm a guy who was pretty successful guy

00:33:21.740 and he said the the woman that he loved more than any other woman he dated was a single mom but he

00:33:27.180 said the kid was a 16 year old good kid who had like no problems at school he had his own group

00:33:34.160 of friends so it wasn't really like a problem right but if you have a two-year-old in tow

00:33:39.640 so the younger you get divorced the better shot you got right and you can also be a second wife

00:33:48.580 depending on how old the kid is right because you know if a guy

00:33:52.980 if he's divorced right and he doesn't want any kids if he goes with a childless woman the problem 0.65

00:34:01.540 is she's eventually gonna want a kid probably right she might say she doesn't but you know

00:34:09.000 eventually it'll come to it where if he gets the single mother she may be done she may be I'm not 0.99

00:34:14.960 saying she will be I'm just saying this is the things that guys are going to think about if 0.99

00:34:18.640 you're hot enough but these women aren't pulling shit I mean somebody's going to do it right but 1.00

00:34:23.700 at this point they might as well be escorts with this lady I covered earlier today it's going to 1.00

00:34:28.640 be released next week you'll see the video they might as well just be an escort because 0.99

00:34:32.500 yeah nobody's doing that and like Tate and thinking I want to protect and provide and

00:34:38.040 come home to that it could look like hello it's a new medium density social housing development

00:34:44.840 on the gold coast oh my goodness what's your own little seating area it's similar to the type of

00:34:50.680 accommodation they're hoping will solve a problem these women share housing insecurity in an all 1.00

00:34:56.920 too familiar story maggie shambrook had a successful career and single-handedly raised three children 0.99

00:35:03.080 then redundancy hit i had no success in the private rental market because i was then on

00:35:09.840 new start allowance with no hope of ever own translation i didn't save it all i had a very

00:35:15.940 successful career and i saved nothing and now i am facing the consequences for my actions

00:35:21.600 which society never lets me do until i'm old ugly and used up and now they got to figure out what

00:35:27.620 to do with these old single ladies yep winning their own home the women sought the help of a 1.00

00:35:32.540 newly formed foundation sharing with friends after meeting at a workshop

00:35:36.980 they've decided to pool what little superannuation they have to secure their

00:35:41.640 futures they require a hundred and twenty thousand dollars in capital now

00:35:46.540 that gets you buys you nothing in terms of a house in any other private market

00:35:53.020 their investment pays for the construction of affordable purpose-built

00:35:56.980 accommodation with five private living quarters communal lawn this is the

00:36:01.660 future yeah I mean you kind of see this in retirement neighborhoods like I have a relative

00:36:07.240 who was married later in life and this relative um the husband basically met the woman because

00:36:14.760 he moved into a retirement neighborhood where he wanted to he wanted to like meet the single

00:36:21.720 ladies because there's a lot in retirement homes we outlive men you know when I was in high school 0.58

00:36:26.420 they sent me to I got in trouble for something through a party I know and um it was like 10

00:36:33.580 people but let me tell you my parents made it seem like world war three like do you know what

00:36:39.260 they left me home alone for two summers in a row okay when I was in high school like a month and

00:36:44.260 a half at a time because I played travel volleyball I did nothing nothing thank you for the super chat

00:36:49.100 Doug nothing for two years no boys no parties and the last year I was like I'm gonna have a little

00:36:54.680 shindig, right? So I threw this party and it was like 10, 20 people. But let me tell you, 0.98

00:37:00.520 I'm from a Catholic area. They acted like this was Project X. They really did. And I got caught. 0.66

00:37:06.380 And do you know how I got caught? I got caught in the dumbest way. So my dad, he sat me down. 0.99

00:37:13.080 He's like, I found beer in the back. Like there was a beer, like full of beer cans, a bag full

00:37:19.080 of beer. And I thought he was messing with me because we didn't drink beer. Look at, I'm a

00:37:23.280 shots only type of gal or like I drink beer now but I was in high school right and um do you know 0.99

00:37:30.740 what happened these assholes came back so I went to go join my parents on vacation and these assholes 0.99

00:37:38.480 came back and threw another party when I left and left a mess in the garbage can and so I got 0.99

00:37:45.880 grounded I got grounded and I got in trouble because these assholes that I invited that I 0.99

00:37:52.820 thought were my friends at the time came back and threw a party and left evidence what an L 0.96

00:38:01.340 anyway and I know I know I know then they acted like this was World War III I mean it was it was

00:38:11.260 rightfully so but I'll tell you the over exaggerations I got after this like they they would

00:38:17.800 like my parents for years would call this like Hannah threw this big party and I'm like okay

00:38:24.400 it was like 10 I was way too scared to do a real rager and do you know what's crazy my next two

00:38:30.120 siblings threw ragers all the time nothing freaking nothing I was the only one I got sent to live with

00:38:38.540 my grandma in Wisconsin for half the summer in the middle of nowhere and then my my little brother

00:38:46.380 i came back once and he's playing beer pong in the living room he's throwing these there's like 30

00:38:53.500 like i i don't want to like my little brother i could tell you crazy he was wild he had these

00:38:59.320 crazy stories and do you know who didn't get in trouble him parents get older and they just stop

00:39:06.140 giving enough they're like whatever have sex just make sure i don't hear it invite the people over 0.97

00:39:13.920 boys can do it no no I had a sister who did the same thing I was the only one I was only anyways

00:39:20.720 I'm not I'm not salty but I'm just saying I was a relatively good kid in high school like I really

00:39:31.000 I didn't drink at all until this party and it was 10 people and I was petrified that I threw it I

00:39:36.600 was petrified yeah I'm sorry Pearl I know I know and then my haters will like use this against me

00:39:43.700 they'll be like see do you remember that thing you did in high school they're like women they 1.00

00:39:47.460 just live in the past now anyways um we're gonna read this watch this video laundry a library and

00:39:55.040 garden was really trying to work out oh i didn't even get to the point like a woman so my point

00:40:01.020 was my point was this so when i went to my grandma's house i got to see firsthand widow dating 1.00

00:40:07.600 and so these were women that were like older but you see women will always re-enter the dating 1.00

00:40:13.480 pool, if you think your wife is like not going to have sex after you die, you are sadly forsaken.

00:40:21.380 These women were throwing it back. They got nothing to lose. They don't give a shit about 1.00

00:40:24.420 chlamydia. They're almost dead. Do you know what I mean? So, but they was interesting because they 1.00

00:40:29.240 would be dating and I would sit because I had to DD for my grandma and her friends and I would

00:40:34.520 take them to like a karaoke bar. Right. And they would tell their like dating stories. Right.

00:40:39.700 and let me tell you um it was interesting the problems that they would have with dating it

00:40:46.680 was like things you wouldn't think about like they would be dating a man and he would die

00:40:49.700 so imagine you're like going on a third date you're excited for a fourth day and then you hear

00:40:54.400 he's dead yeah he's dead or they'd go on dates with men and they would be like they would get

00:41:00.600 cancer they you know that is what you're dealing with the dating pool and then they would like not

00:41:06.500 want to date men their age it's like women right you're old as hell they'd be like i don't want to 0.98

00:41:11.340 date someone old and i'm like huh do you know what i mean anyways i'm gonna continue what didn't it

00:41:18.040 what's the what's the least you need to live privately and then what would you be prepared to

00:41:23.180 share with other people that you've got to know the foundation which is currently seeking

00:41:28.020 charitable status provides the land an 800 square meter suburban pearl feels no accountability for

00:41:35.000 the party no it was my fault I'm all I'm saying I'm gonna be the I'm gonna be a woman I don't

00:41:39.360 care I'm gonna do it I'm gonna double down all I'm saying is there was no equal punishment

00:41:45.340 distribution in my house and I think older kids in the family can really relate to this it's like

00:41:52.320 when you're the older ones it's like you do anything it's they crack the whip the whip is

00:41:57.720 cracked but it's like by the youngest the parents are so tired they just don't care they don't they

00:42:03.680 really don't I have developed a or he passed away during the sex acts look I

00:42:10.160 don't know okay I didn't ask that question I was like I was 18 at the time

00:42:14.360 base of about 120 women who are actively prepared to come into a model like ours

00:42:22.460 the idea not only provides a housing solution but also addresses another

00:42:27.260 epidemic loneliness. I don't have any family at all and so the sense of community is important

00:42:36.400 as far as I'm concerned. There are still hurdles to overcome but these women now have hope for

00:42:42.560 a brighter tomorrow. Daya Clark, ABC News. Yeah so that's that's what we got so anyways guys

00:42:54.400 um that's the future that's what we're going for so let me know what you guys uh think in the

00:43:02.600 comments please like the video on your way out please subscribe to the channel these women have 1.00

00:43:08.720 come bell and um yeah you know i will see you guys uh next show i think i read all the super

00:43:19.380 chats. Let me read on the website. Like the video, subscribe, and I'm going to see you

00:43:26.740 guys tomorrow. Bye-bye.

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Pearl - April 10, 2025

Women Aren't Dating Men Because Of Their Friends ｜ Pearl Daily

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