Pearl - Women COPING With Turning 40 - Love To See It!

00:00:00.000 i am you know like i'm no longer worthy or i have you are your price has to go down um it doesn't

00:00:07.120 mean you can't find love it just means you have to provide value to a guy outside of sex because

00:00:12.080 the sex ain't that great at 40 you know what's up guys welcome to my reaction series so today

00:00:17.360 we are reacting to what women do best and that is cope a lot of times women can't uh we can't deal

00:00:23.120 with the reality of taking an hour or a poor decision um and so instead of taking accountability

00:00:30.080 learning from our mistakes changing our ways we just double down and get better at uh coping

00:00:37.680 and so today i i think the reason women have such big birthday celebrations

00:00:43.440 is because we're coping um about getting older like it's actually making a big celebration

00:00:49.440 because we aren't looking forward to it at all and so we just have to cope so today we're gonna do

00:00:55.920 this one okay and i realized that it it wasn't this is um okay we're gonna do all of the women

00:01:08.720 that are 40 uh barring on like jlo or anything are gonna be sixes or below just because they're 40

00:01:16.080 right uh for a 40 year old she's attractive but she's gonna be five six range age i was just

00:01:24.240 grieving i was grieving the life that i thought i should have had just why didn't i go on like a

00:01:31.040 linear pattern that i feel like other people go on or things kind of happen to them in a certain set

00:01:38.720 okay yeah she wasn't good looking enough or likable enough to lock down the men that she wanted

00:01:44.000 and now she's just being really sad also um this is my ninja creamy if anyone cares

00:01:52.960 and they they don't have to go through the pain of the mistakes that they've i do have two older

00:01:59.040 boys two older stepchildren there okay yeah so she took an owl because she's a single mother

00:02:04.320 and now she's gonna go out and date oh with two boys cooked you're done

00:02:07.600 you got you should go 70 or something 20 and 21 and it's in my face how much privilege they have

00:02:17.420 and all the things that are kind of paid for paid for them that i never had i had to figure out a

00:02:23.460 lot of things myself which required me to fall and and pick myself back up and lots of learned

00:02:29.480 incredible the lack of self-awareness you have your tits out which obviously brings you um a lot

00:02:34.860 of a lot of favors right and you're just gonna gaslight that's kind of what women do best

00:02:41.180 turning 40 this year was like a mirror in my face which was like did i have to go through

00:02:46.440 all of that could have things have been easier yeah obviously you could have made better

00:02:50.560 decisions but we all know that we won't and we don't so we're gonna move on and next we

00:02:55.540 got this lady right here that's life lessons i learned in my 30s we'll get into skincare

00:03:00.440 life relationships. Way to start with number one. You're not about your skincare. You look

00:03:05.520 kind of weird. Best piece of advice I learned and it took me a decade to learn. Peace is priceless

00:03:11.040 over passion. Okay. So I am too tired to date men I can't control. I promise you. I learned this

00:03:19.920 because I was dating this guy last summer and- Oh no. You learned this at 39. Oh my God. You're

00:03:26.960 done triggering my anxious attachment and nervous system i'd be through an air anxious attachment

00:03:33.040 is controlling attachment if i want to control other people's behavior like if they stay in my

00:03:37.760 life or not or when i'd be on a plane for hours i'd just be thinking about it rereading our text

00:03:43.520 we broke up and then since then i like laugh when i travel and i'm like wow this plane ride is just

00:03:49.360 so peaceful i'm not thinking and going over this and i just realized that peace is

00:03:57.200 truly a better feeling to becoming yourself is actually a lot quieter and slower it's

00:04:04.560 a process where you start just making these little micro movements and then you look back

00:04:09.680 and you're like oh yeah okay i think i like know who i am now but it's not just like i know who i

00:04:15.440 am literally no way to be in the moment and to feel like you know who you are it's just a reflection

00:04:21.360 of all these little things yeah know who i am that just means i hoard enough that i need to

00:04:27.520 take a break and quote unquote find myself which means find bad decisions you know that happened

00:04:34.080 to you your career can really start mid to late 30s not in the beginning of your 30s being bold

00:04:39.840 and adventurous at 30 is make for yourself bitch sorry actually the ideal time it's not too late

00:04:46.560 i moved to new york by myself single at 30 my whole life started because of that decision

00:04:52.000 but being bold at 30 i think is really a good time to just do something crazy move to a new city

00:04:59.200 get out of a relationship you're not happy with find a new friend group if you're not happy

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00:06:35.520 four if you do not believe in yourself you will be stuck at the end of the decade regretting it

00:06:41.480 okay i have a friend that didn't believe in herself never made big bold decisions never

00:06:46.500 moved away and at the end of her 30s i do not think she was where she wanted to be

00:06:51.620 but being where you want to be sometimes takes very bold, scary decisions. When you're 30,

00:06:58.280 you can always redo a lot of it, but be bold because you're going to regret at the end of

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00:07:08.980 detour, it will always lead you into the direction you're supposed to go. Always aim to make your

00:07:14.500 own money. Do not depend on a relationship or your family, even people that have it set for

00:07:20.520 their family I've seen so many issues where then all of a sudden it wasn't so never depend on that

00:07:25.440 this one took me a while that's not bad advice but say yes to activities that are going to propel

00:07:30.800 you forward say yes to useless activities that all of your girlfriends invite you to because

00:07:35.040 sometimes you'll get to bang chat and don't just party my mid to late 30s I started saying no a lot

00:07:41.720 more because I wanted to feel good on a Saturday morning and I wanted to be productive during the

00:07:47.520 weekend weird because before I was like, let's make mac and cheese and just watch TV all day.

00:07:52.080 Stop being a yes woman. Piggybacking on that. Drinking is overrated every weekend. It's not

00:07:57.700 a good look. I learned that by like 21. Where have you been lady? Took you till 40. So are drugs.

00:08:04.040 Controversial, but meeting timelines and having kids at 30 is a lot more sacrificial than you

00:08:10.080 think. You will never regret waiting an extra few years. Well, it depends if you have endometriosis

00:08:16.240 this or not huh have those years to yourself and i can ask almost every friend most of my friends

00:08:20.480 are in their late 30s early 40s and they all wish that they just had a little bit more time to

00:08:25.140 themselves oh my god how much time do you need so if you're not meeting the timelines that you

00:08:29.800 wanted to it's okay because your future you is thanking you do the beauty things that make you

00:08:35.240 happy but always keep it natural you want people to do not look natural early detective lastly

00:08:41.860 surround yourself by friends that lift you up and that you respect okay let's see who's next

00:08:47.300 who who what's the next cope all right let's see this lady hi everybody it is daisha oh the music

00:08:56.420 and i am coming on here because i feel like i need to talk about this being uh vulnerable

00:09:03.700 and open about me turning 40. turning 40 in december okay this is a fat woman

00:09:11.620 and i'm clearly having a lot of feelings about it i have never in my life felt this way about a

00:09:17.620 number ever in my life like this is the first time that i'm like there's so much coming up

00:09:22.980 around being 40. and i've had a hard time even saying 40. like i my brain is not computing i

00:09:29.780 think because i've always been the young youngest one i'm the youngest in my family um and i was

00:09:37.060 was just, I'm just, I'm just a baby. I'm just a baby. I'm blessed and grateful to see another

00:09:42.760 year and, and to see 40. Um, there's just so much coming up for me and finding a partner

00:09:48.160 found, or will I have that baby ever? Um, all these things with babies and youngest one. I'm

00:09:55.780 the youngest in my family. Um, and I was just, I'm just, I'm just a baby. I'm just a baby.

00:10:02.040 we're not just a baby i'm blessed and grateful to see another year and and to see 40 um there's

00:10:09.440 just so much coming up for me finding a partner which i haven't yet found or not gonna happen

00:10:15.780 will i have a baby ever you don't have to lose 50 pounds first um baby probably not um all these

00:10:22.160 things with babies might as well just do ivf and i would love to have a kid one day and you know i

00:10:28.780 women in my family have had children older but there is you know women do have a little bit of

00:10:34.900 a timeline and a body clock so these things are starting to really get to me a little bit like

00:10:40.820 where I'm at in my life career-wise and what do I what I do and how do I feel like I've you know

00:10:46.940 been doing so far and just I don't know like all this stuff is coming up which is good like I need

00:10:53.360 to really look at it and i feel like a lot of women have uh told me that 40s are just like

00:11:00.600 40s are amazing and you just really yeah they're all coping in the comments saying she looks like

00:11:06.340 she's in her 20s uh no she doesn't really sit in yourself and you get really clear and you know

00:11:10.740 what you want and what you don't want and all these things like i do feel like they said that

00:11:15.040 about the 30s too um but maybe i would love to you know get into my i don't give a fuck this

00:11:21.380 a bit more in my 40s wants to whore around because now here's the thing young women people are

00:11:28.340 watching all the time so if they whore it doesn't go undetected because people are always watching

00:11:33.060 them old women no one really cares about so you can whore pretty hard and no one's going to give

00:11:37.460 an f that's that is exciting also know that i don't look 40 which is like what does 40 look

00:11:44.560 like who knows i mean when you were little and you thought about 40 that was like ancient right

00:11:48.780 um and i still play roles like i literally just played a university student so what i don't know

00:11:58.040 i'm just gonna get my gabrielle union on i guess but yeah there's a lot of things around the

00:12:02.880 industry and women okay yeah she's cooked all right let's see who's next uh this other woman

00:12:09.720 probably the best looking 40 year old maybe yet um for you know but it looks very plastic and

00:12:17.780 maybe the first one was the best looking i don't know these are all probably upper you know for a

00:12:23.380 40 year old woman but just not great they should go for 60. my fellow 35 year old plus um ladies

00:12:34.660 because

00:12:38.420 i turned 40 last week and i pretty much spent the last few months of 2024

00:12:45.860 dreading my birthday because i all dread our birthdays

00:12:55.380 i don't i don't understand why women celebrate it i don't want any attention drawn to it

00:12:59.300 bought into the whole concept but it's like i am you know like i'm no longer worthy or

00:13:10.660 i have you are your price has to go down um it doesn't mean you can't find love it just means

00:13:15.540 you have to provide value to a guy outside of sex because the sex ain't that great at 40 you know

00:13:20.900 no value or no man's ever gonna want me because technically we're told that once a woman it's

00:13:27.940 just gonna be harder is 40 you're expired i mean more like 30 but i guess i'm almost 30 so let's

00:13:36.980 let's see how let's go with 40 ladies and i just want to let you know that it's not so bad um

00:13:47.820 yeah like it's i i it's like i didn't want it's it's actually really sad and really

00:13:55.080 yeah i just think it's tragic that that's how i lived my last few months before my 40th

00:14:04.240 was feeling horrible about myself like it's almost like the day was gonna come and something

00:14:11.200 horrible was gonna happen to me and i gotta tell you this girl's saying your 40s are the

00:14:16.720 best years i'm 55 and i still feel like i'm kind of in my prime

00:14:25.520 this is such cope all the women in the comments cope cope cope cope we all wish

00:14:31.200 we're as hot as we were at 18 there's nothing like 18 year old punani the world is just at your

00:14:37.800 fingertips not begging to give you things from one day and then you have to go through all this work

00:14:42.880 just to somewhat compete with it when you're older and it's like uh to the next nothing's changed

00:14:48.100 and i i think we need to start normalizing the beauty and the grace that comes from just aging

00:14:58.620 as a woman you know i think it's okay to not the ugliness that comes from aging we got to

00:15:04.880 normalize that we get uglier the older we get um maybe if you get if you're fat and you get thinner

00:15:10.860 that's an exception but usually not so be 20 anymore or 30 and i've had enough of this woman's

00:15:20.080 cope let's see who's next uh-oh i'm turning 40 and of course i woke up this morning with

00:15:27.840 gray hair intense lower back and hip pain like i genuinely cannot stand up straight this is

00:15:34.780 a pretty good body for 40 she could still get a man this is where why your hair dye your hair

00:15:39.420 honey we are right now we gotta dye brown or blonde makes sense because it is the first

00:15:44.400 day of pride and therefore nothing shall be straight um motherfucker yeah um aging comes

00:15:52.740 for us all so this is my bro yeah it does okay let's see who's next

00:15:57.780 everyone so a lot of you didn't believe that i was 40 so i had a video where i spoke about

00:16:04.940 getting my hair fixed and my skin fixed and my tits fixed and all you guys cared about was i think

00:16:11.660 she was the best looking one that i said that i was 40 you didn't believe me so i've taken the

00:16:15.340 filter off so now you can see this is my that filler does not look good 40 year old skin and

00:16:22.800 i have had botox injected into my head dysport since i was 26 years older than now i'm 40 so

00:16:30.460 i gotta get on it i hope that with the filter off you can clearly see we got some i've got a muscle

00:16:37.260 pulling down that side of my face um yeah you can clearly see that i have a bit more of an aged skin

00:16:45.100 than what that filter yeah talk does make you look so much younger so much younger which was real

00:16:52.460 all right guys let me know what you think in the comments um which 40 year old did you find the

00:16:57.260 most attractive i think the last girl is the best looking um let me know in the comments like the

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Pearl - June 23, 2026

Women COPING With Turning 40 - Love To See It!

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