Pearl - Women CRASHING OUT Over Being Lonely

00:00:00.000 as women we just always find a way to complain and today there's so many events and social

00:00:04.820 integration for women not for men because women are naturally naturally integrated into social

00:00:09.940 groups because men want to bang them so naturally women are high status especially if we're young

00:00:15.100 so there's really no excuse to be lonely like I'm kind of lonely but I'm kind of a loner do

00:00:20.660 you know what I mean I kind of I kind of stick to myself sorry I kind of stick to myself so it's a 0.85

00:00:25.540 choice i'll never complain about that choice but women do not do that women will go to all these 0.98

00:00:30.900 events and still feel lonely and it's like well it's it's your own fault there's all these events

00:00:36.340 and stuff you can go to um built for you to not be lonely and then you still feel it so anyways 1.00

00:00:41.160 we just can't do anything right someone who struggles with feeling lonely a lot like bitch 0.98

00:00:46.580 there's no reason you should feel lonely uh that's a choice and that that's what we gotta start 0.99

00:00:50.840 stop infantilizing women instead of saying oh say okay download your events app go to the same

00:00:58.280 coffee shops look at i'm not that social of a person i don't really go out much but if i wanted

00:01:03.640 to i could make friends really easily it's not difficult and you don't have a solid group of

00:01:08.440 friends you don't feel like people really care about you yeah i feel like we don't it's we can

00:01:13.240 never get a solid group of friends because we can't stop being insufferable so you're overlooked

00:01:18.920 people don't really see you like when you speak no one listens and when you talk in a group chat no 0.95

00:01:23.880 one responds bitch nobody listens you have 400 000 likes on a oh my god i just can't i can't 0.99

00:01:30.920 with my gender and you just feel like an outsider you're like okay i know i feel like this most of 0.95

00:01:35.960 the time this is my normal but i can't quite possibly feel this way on my birthday like at

00:01:40.760 least there's one day in a year where i'll feel special and people will care about me and will

00:01:46.840 reach out to me oh my god oh my god okay let's see this one not to vlog the first day of school

00:01:52.760 at all yes it is my senior year it will be my last back to school season ever but there's so

00:01:59.900 many emotions that come with the start of the semester stress anxiety getting back into routine

00:02:06.280 i'm living in an apartment for the first time to be honest the biggest emotion i felt since coming

00:02:11.440 back on campus it's just loneliness i've never really had a very solid friend group or friends

00:02:18.780 and it's something i've struggled with my entire life all of my good friends that i can you know

00:02:24.540 that i'll consider my good friends they all have better friends i am no one's first choice on the

00:02:29.540 first day of school i had all my meals alone yeah see they look at you got to accept your position

00:02:35.160 in the market all of my friends they have better friends to pick from of course why would you be 0.95

00:02:39.940 the best one women are hypergamous even with friendships look i i know a lot of times i'm 1.00

00:02:45.740 gonna have to put in more effort because i'm a little bit insufferable and women you know they 0.71

00:02:49.940 get annoyed and i'll make a comment so it just is what it is if you accept it then you can you know 0.99

00:02:55.260 work around it and seeing everyone take photos at the main building posting their fdoc stories

00:03:02.100 just having someone to go to photos even knowing that you know if you want photos you have this

00:03:09.000 certain person that you can text is such a little luxury that I'm very envious of for dinner I was

00:03:16.720 trying to find friends to eat with and everyone else already made plans with their best friends

00:03:22.640 and I feel like as a senior I should have this friend thing figured out but I know but you're

00:03:27.120 too lazy right you can make friends and go out of your way and at first at first you'll have to you

00:03:32.660 know prove your value you have to plan everything and do it but you can move up in the social

00:03:36.500 hierarchy if you really try as a woman i don't care about all that but if i really wanted to i

00:03:41.540 could you know what i mean maybe that's cope is that cope maybe i'm coping you know whatever

00:03:46.260 don't and i want to talk about this because i think it's really not talked about enough 1.00

00:03:52.900 everyone's posting about this here's the thing women we want to be friends with the popular 0.78

00:03:57.080 girls in the group and then when they don't reciprocate and we have to deal with people

00:04:00.260 that are a little annoying or awkward like we are then we complain about being lonely because

00:04:04.660 we just need the best it's like well maybe you don't deserve the best friends you know you deserve

00:04:09.260 the people that are a little insufferable like you which is all right hang out with friends but

00:04:13.720 no one's right all right so let's keep it all right let's let's see who's whining next tired

00:04:18.200 of being single it's been but again it wouldn't be hard i mean incels in the chat i know there's

00:04:23.560 an incel in the chat would you smash and look at oh no pearl i would never smash i wouldn't she's

00:04:28.440 got a chest tattoo would you spend time with her you know look at somebody's gonna do it i i'm not

00:04:33.540 with this i'm not with this culture of saying women are going to regret our decisions because

00:04:38.780 somebody always does it oh but pearl she's not going to be happy with him who are women happy

00:04:44.060 with women get tom brady and aren't happy that's consistent that's consistent three years and at

00:04:49.940 this point i truly feel like i don't even remember what being in a relationship feels like and i know

00:04:54.900 that sounds so dramatic but i am so used to being by myself that i like can't even imagine having

00:05:00.500 like a person that is just always there and every time i complain about being single are you on the

00:05:05.300 apps yeah i'm on the apps and it's a hellscape i truly am in a relationship with it where i just

00:05:10.900 go on it feel hopeless and just like i give up and then i delete it and then i get so desperate

00:05:17.300 to at least try to find the idea of someone that i redownload it i'm literally 30 years old and

00:05:22.500 i'm getting wiped right on by men that are either of my age or older that have intimacy without

00:05:28.660 commitment as their relationship preference girl but let's let's stop capping that you've ever did 1.00

00:05:34.020 that and you haven't done that do you know what i mean bitch in your all of your 20s you never 1.00

00:05:39.340 fucked a guy without commitment just go fuck see where it goes and you know they might not call 1.00

00:05:43.380 you they might call you but you know gluck gluck and fuck fuck and then you'll get called back 1.00

00:05:46.680 i genuinely feel hopeless and i don't really care how pathetic that sounds i feel hopeless having to 1.00

00:05:52.260 listen to you look at there's men that have no options at all and they have no choice and yeah

00:05:56.720 i give up i i don't i i haven't been looking everyone says well you shouldn't look i haven't 0.99

00:06:01.840 been looking at all i took a okay well then stop complaint oh my god i'm gonna kill you 0.71

00:06:07.260 i haven't been looking break from dating for a reason and now i'm just stuck in a drought 0.80

00:06:13.520 ninjas i hate it here i hate it here just download hinge or tinder bumble get your bajillion matches

00:06:19.640 and pick one that's it hi i'm chelsea i live alone in austin texas i'm 26 years old and

00:06:26.080 i feel lonely a lot my entire 20s i've had this lingering loneliness sort of feeling where you

00:06:32.440 just feel like down you feel lonely confused suppress all those i don't care like again you

00:06:38.080 got botox you got look at all the stuff she has she's pretty and she still has to complain we 0.99

00:06:43.900 don't care bitch we don't care i'm poorer than you i know i'm on the internet everyone thinks 0.97

00:06:48.340 i'm rich audacity network.com i'm poorer than you upset emotions and it's hard to really 0.99

00:06:55.920 sit and deal with it and understand it and a lot of it just comes from like ignorance and not being

00:07:01.700 able to predict the future but no matter the location this feeling is still put and I'm here

00:07:10.780 to just say that like this is something I experienced probably weekly this loneliness

00:07:16.660 feeling and so confused with my life I don't even know what's happening or what I'm thinking half

00:07:22.560 the time but one thing that does help me are healthy habits or just small productive things

00:07:29.580 throughout the day to keep me going activity is key for me if I stay in one place nope no good

00:07:36.960 for me so I'm just going to start documenting what it's like to live alone and experience alone

00:07:43.500 so now you're complaining about getting to live alone I just can't with us I just can't I'm 0.82

00:07:49.980 starting to understand black people's racism i'm starting to under i'm not i'm not saying it's right

00:07:54.540 but sometimes i understand because i can't imagine like growing up in the hood with some mother some 1.00

00:07:59.600 black mother that's fat and beat you and taught you nothing you have no dad and then white bitches 1.00

00:08:04.200 are living alone in an apartment in the city complaining about how they're lonely you know 1.00

00:08:08.460 what i mean i think i would be i would be i would hate white women too i would for the first time

00:08:12.780 i'm finally experiencing what loneliness feels like as a single person and not in a sense of 0.91

00:08:19.440 like I'm craving a relationship or like I want a boyfriend it's more so in the fact that like I'm

00:08:25.280 the only single person in any of my circles my only single friends live in completely different

00:08:31.520 states and I'm starting to feel the effects of being the only one that doesn't have a family

00:08:36.920 or the only one that doesn't have a partner and I think what makes this even harder is that I just

00:08:41.880 got off of the best like summer of my life basically living in a place where pretty much

00:08:48.820 everyone else was my age everyone was single everyone wanted to go out all the time like i

00:08:54.380 constantly had stuff to do because everyone around me was single and had that time to go out versus

00:09:00.860 right now i live in the chicago suburbs and pretty much the entire demographic of the chicago suburbs

00:09:07.620 we just can't be bored it's i was thinking about this today even dating like it's impossible for

00:09:13.980 us to just like be bored you know is people are like settled down people have families people are

00:09:22.240 married engaged and then like there's me and it's like really hard for me knowing that my people

00:09:29.280 exist out there but they're currently in a place that i can't be and that's not to take away from

00:09:35.400 the current friendships that i have like i adore my now the friendships aren't good enough it's

00:09:39.720 just incredible and so much but at the end of the day like we are in two completely different

00:09:45.540 phases of life and I feel it now and unfortunately I'm not going to be able to move to places with

00:09:53.800 more people like me until June or July of 2027 and so I'm sitting here I'm like how am I going

00:10:01.120 to help myself feel more fulfilled with my social life for the next eight months because at the end

00:10:08.660 of the day like all of my illinois friends they are partnered up and like they're not the kind

00:10:13.560 of people that they make new friends it's not look everything has choices and trade-offs

00:10:18.700 and i know with what i do female friendships are just kind of impossible for me they always crash 1.00

00:10:23.960 out i mean occasionally i'll make one but they women are just so flaky in general i don't know 1.00

00:10:29.860 i don't put a lot of effort into female i'm just being honest i don't i don't see the point 1.00

00:10:33.340 it's just me i had a i had an ex-best friend of 20 years who crashed the fuck out on me and it

00:10:38.440 kind of traumatized me because she just would subtly threaten to expose all the personal things

00:10:43.760 about me on the internet and like she was just so insuffering it was so funny because years later 0.94

00:10:50.120 she texts me and she's like i was willing to get on the phone with you today i'm like bitch why 1.00

00:10:54.440 would i want that but anyways this experience just i'm like i don't really want any female 1.00

00:10:58.900 friends you guys are crazy bitch bitches want to go out and like want to do stuff like that 0.98

00:11:04.760 and i'm very much in that place where i want to be going out as much as i'm sorry i didn't finish 1.00

00:11:10.120 my train of thought women okay it's like um but every choice has trade-offs so i mean look it

00:11:17.160 so half of your friends will get divorced later in life that are with their partners and it just

00:11:20.760 is what it is yeah yeah because i love to meet people i love socializing so much but i'm just

00:11:27.880 like where am I supposed to go and again like not to compare but hold on I gotta fix something

00:11:34.880 okay hold on I'm thinking about where I was this summer which was Austin and I never ran into this

00:11:41.400 problem because I had like so many different people asking me to hang out like every single

00:11:47.180 day and then here it's like I'm lucky if I even get plans like on a random weekend because all

00:11:53.880 of my friends either live so far away from me or they're busy with their own familial priorities

00:12:00.320 which that's totally fine but i just like don't know where i'm supposed to go meet other single

00:12:07.160 women no there's bumble bff there's just so much choice and we just still find a way to mess it up

00:12:12.240 here's the problem women don't want to put an effort i'm telling you if i really i got better 1.00

00:12:17.720 things to do than hang out with you bitches because you're just going to ruin my life 1.00

00:12:20.860 i value my privacy and i talk too much i'm just gonna say something you're gonna put on twitter 1.00

00:12:26.560 you know i'm just gonna do something so i try to limit my exposure to bitches but 1.00

00:12:31.660 do you know what i mean i yeah so there's so many choices if you want to make female friends i could 1.00

00:12:37.120 do it in a month i could do it a month you just gotta look at you go for the most popular women 1.00

00:12:41.920 if they don't work out go less popular and eventually someone's gonna stick around

00:12:45.240 we're not taught this as women so anyways all right i love you guys thank you so much for

00:12:49.920 watching if you could like the video and subscribe to the channel but speaking of lonely if you're

00:12:53.740 lonely we're actually doing an event on october 2nd and 3rd in dallas texas so friday night we

00:12:59.680 are going to do a podcast live with law of self-defense um and we're all going to hang out

00:13:04.520 and um eat burgers i think burgers and beer friday saturday we're going to do so go to a gun range

00:13:11.000 and a workout and then um saturday night if there's enough interest we'll add a steakhouse

00:13:15.200 and vip so people that get the vip package steakhouse the link is in the description um i

00:13:20.720 know the pricing is a little higher now but it's just guys we gotta um get a system going in the

00:13:26.080 beginning and then hopefully long term we can bring the prices down later but you gotta negotiate

00:13:30.960 with vendors and stuff and it just adds up so anyways all right i'll keep going

Pearl - September 17, 2026

Women CRASHING OUT Over Being Lonely

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