Pearl - Women EXPOSING Their Narcissistic Mothers!

00:00:00.000 what's up guys welcome to my reaction series so i've been saying for years that women are not the

00:00:04.380 gender and women actually hate their kids and nobody believed me everyone said pearl you just

00:00:10.020 hate women pearl you just are a female hater you just have mother issues and i'm like no i mean i've

00:00:17.120 just observed the way mothers treat their kids and i was talking to someone that were around from 0.98

00:00:22.320 where i grew up the other day and i told them i could name two mothers from where i grew up

00:00:26.580 that actually seem to enjoy their kids the other one pretty much all of us figured out that our

00:00:31.340 mothers were nuts when we turned like 12 or 13 but nobody talks about it because the fathers 0.99

00:00:36.520 usually defend the mothers instead of telling her to shut up and stop being a bitch so it's usually 1.00

00:00:41.280 how it goes so anyways my mom was my biggest hater let's see the biggest bully she hated 1.00

00:00:46.340 everything about me she hated how weird i was how playful i was she hated that i just existed in

00:00:52.900 being and so she picked me apart and she tried to make me this small and the voice of her lived

00:00:58.540 inside my head for years and it repeated in different faces in different spaces and for 0.53

00:01:04.560 much of my life her yeah the the first person to call their daughter fat ugly or tell them they

00:01:10.440 need to change in some ways usually the mother her voice defined who i was and lived in my head 1.00

00:01:14.980 because my mom was my biggest bully she was the first bully the woman that was supposed to hold 1.00

00:01:19.260 me and love me and yet she made me feel this small and she did everything in her power because 0.99

00:01:24.100 of what she lacked within herself to make sure that I would repeat the cycle and I didn't I

00:01:29.580 chose not to my mom was my biggest bully and for years I lived with this framework and these yeah

00:01:35.880 glasses of how I saw myself in the lens of my mother see we usually get a very healthy view

00:01:42.520 of ourselves from our parents yeah and that's the problem that's what I mean mothers emotionally 0.76

00:01:47.060 torture the kids because they're just emotionally unstable and the father is the father is supposed

00:01:51.900 to protect the kids from the mother but they've been cucked in the society and they've been told

00:01:56.860 that the mother is supposed to be in charge you know the father needs to be in charge they're

00:02:00.200 supposed to build us up and love us but what happens when that doesn't happen what happens

00:02:04.140 when the people that are meant to hold you and love you and care for you abuse you neglect you

00:02:08.900 make you feel small or make you feel bad about yourself and so i spent a lifetime taking those

00:02:14.900 glasses off, making sure that I would be who I actually was and that I could see myself in the

00:02:20.780 mirror. So if you had an abusive parent, if you had a neglectful parent, I'm here to tell you that

00:02:26.180 you don't have to live through their lens. And to erase that voice that's in your head that was

00:02:31.180 put in there by other people, that's not really who you are. And there are a bunch of beautiful

00:02:36.100 things that we live in 2026, the internet and books and podcasts and people are out there

00:02:40.620 that can make you see the truest version of yourself because you're not what your parents

00:02:45.320 told you you were you're fine you're perfect you're here you're not broken there's nothing

00:02:49.400 wrong with you all right so here we got the next one i think it's really funny when people try to

00:02:54.540 hate on me because you'll never ever say anything worse than what my mom has said to me my mom is my

00:03:03.360 number one hater yeah look at the comments i hate my mom my mother is so jealous of me my whole life

00:03:08.360 that's another dynamic when the daughter starts getting more attention than the mother moms are

00:03:12.300 the reason my business is always booming it's a therapist my mom was my first bully my family 0.99

00:03:17.280 is the worst thing that's ever happened to me yeah all right let's keep going why does my mom

00:03:22.680 hate me a new series it's called amani why all right amani why does my mom hate me says your

00:03:28.540 mom doesn't hate you all right your mom does not hate you she just doesn't like the fact that she 0.57

00:03:32.960 can't control you because you know your other siblings yeah your mom can mask the control

00:03:38.600 she has over them through care she looks very caring and so your siblings don't see it and

00:03:44.220 they're like oh mom just cares about us and then your mom might say and then your siblings

00:03:47.900 might say to you about your mom yeah oh my dad is that's another thing they say oh she 1.00

00:03:52.980 just does these terrible things because she cares so much because she can't bitch what 0.91

00:03:56.600 mom just cares about you like allow it like stop stop being argumentative but it's not 0.98

00:04:01.420 that is the fact that you see through the fact that she's just trying to control you whereas

00:04:05.000 your siblings don't so she doesn't remember the days when a woman just for you being you she hates

00:04:09.140 you because she can't yeah and that's the thing whenever then you get to the point where you stop

00:04:12.980 accepting things from your mother because it'll just be used against you later not control you

00:04:17.420 you're the one that slipped out of her hand so she'll do anything she'll be nasty she'll say

00:04:22.080 horrible things to you she might say to you that your prayers are not valid she might say that no 0.97

00:04:26.320 one's gonna marry you she cannot control you and that scares her because if she can't control you

00:04:30.640 she can't control the narrative and she's very scared of you know the the judgment and shame

00:04:34.960 that the community will give so it is care in a way but more about how she's perceived as a result

00:04:42.160 of how you're perceived and you don't care no that's true it's all about the mother's perception

00:04:47.760 everybody is tortured into um managing the mother's reputation instead of her just being

00:04:54.080 a nice person and because you don't care she don't like you because she's yeah okay let's see the

00:04:59.440 the next one leaves you that your mother hates you i think that's probably the yeah and it's

00:05:03.060 even worse because mothers will be nice in public and so nobody believes you that they torture you

00:05:10.200 in private thing about mother's day after going no contact nobody hold on we can fathom that a

00:05:16.140 mother could be so cold or wicked to her own child i haven't spoken to my mom since 2023 but mother's

00:05:22.140 day's always been weird for me to celebrate someone who forced me to eat soap as a kid

00:05:25.800 and told me I deserved to be hit by my dad

00:05:28.500 and called me a brat and told me to stop crying, 0.81

00:05:31.080 it always felt like a weird holiday.

00:05:32.840 As an adult to spend money on flowers and a gift for someone.

00:05:36.500 And remember, mothers get a whole day celebrated.

00:05:41.120 When do we celebrate fathers?

00:05:42.600 When fathers are the ones who care about the best interest of the child, 0.97

00:05:46.600 mothers don't.

00:05:47.480 Mothers care about the best interest of themselves. 1.00

00:05:49.300 Who would regularly abandon me when I wasn't measuring up.

00:05:52.380 who would betray my trust and talk about me behind my back to my siblings while I was in survival

00:05:57.520 mode, raising my own kids. It just always felt like a very fake day to pretend like everything

00:06:02.480 was fine when it absolutely was not. I have so much peace after going no contact. I don't see

00:06:08.020 her. I don't send her a card. And now that I have my own kids and I see how easy it is to love my

00:06:12.740 own children, I have a lot of peace around my decision. So no matter where you're at in your

00:06:16.580 relationship with your mom, you are not obligated to perform any emotional labor, offer any gifts

00:06:21.800 or meet expectations that feel forced, manipulative,

00:06:25.420 or deny the reality of your current relationship.

00:06:28.200 Go ahead and prioritize your own self-care.

00:06:30.400 Honor your own feelings.

00:06:31.400 And if you need to, just treat it like it's any other Sunday.

00:06:33.960 But if you do go see her,

00:06:35.340 make sure you set some clear boundaries

00:06:36.780 or set a time limit for a call

00:06:38.960 or be clear about when you'll be leaving if you go see her.

00:06:42.460 A five-minute phone call is perfectly respectable.

00:06:44.860 You don't owe her a full day.

00:06:46.120 I want you to release any guilt.

00:06:48.240 You are not responsible for making her happy

00:06:50.540 or meeting her demands.

00:06:51.800 yeah and that's the thing you are allowed to not talk to your mother your whole family will guilt

00:06:55.560 you about it but you're allowed to do it they will emotionally torture you forever and manipulate you

00:07:00.440 and your family in the future she gets upset and says that she was crying in bed all day

00:07:04.680 that she was devastated or angry or hurt that you wouldn't come see her after everything she's done 1.00

00:07:10.840 for you bruh that's that's the one thing oh i did so much bitchy that you were supposed to do it 1.00

00:07:17.160 It was crazy. My mom would always say that. And I'm like, we had nannies. What are you talking 1.00

00:07:22.500 about? Oh, she's put you in a lot of therapy, hasn't she? She's manipulating you. That's all

00:07:27.340 manipulation. She should have worked harder for a relationship with her kids. So they'd actually 1.00

00:07:31.420 want to be around her as adults. This is just a mirror into how she's made you feel. If you're

00:07:35.820 no contact or recently no contact and you're feeling a little guilty or ashamed, but you know

00:07:40.680 it was the right decision, it's okay to feel your own feelings and acknowledge your own pain.

00:07:45.020 It does suck to let go of the fantasy that your mom could ever change.

00:07:48.480 I know.

00:07:49.060 I had to do it too.

00:07:50.320 But that's an important part of grieving someone who's still alive that you can't be around

00:07:54.400 for your own sanity.

00:07:55.840 Any aunt, uncle, or sibling who comes to you with anything along the lines of,

00:08:01.660 how could you treat your mother this way? 0.99

00:08:03.720 That's a flying monkey. 1.00

00:08:05.120 That's also manipulation. 1.00

00:08:06.720 And anyone who doesn't know your situation and comes at you with, but she's your mom.

00:08:10.860 I could never treat my mom that way.

00:08:13.160 I think you're overreacting.

00:08:14.320 don't you think you're being a little bit harsh just remember that you saw this video because i

00:08:18.640 believe you i trust your inner wisdom and i applaud you i know what you've lived through without you

00:08:23.760 even having to tell me grown adults do not reject a loving parent to all the moms who are out there

00:08:29.360 raising kids without a village or an example of what a good mom looks like good on you for 1.00

00:08:33.600 becoming the example yeah that's the thing you're gonna be better off cutting off your crazy mother 0.97

00:08:38.240 so anyways all right guys i love you thank you for watching please like the video if you can 0.80

00:08:43.040 and subscribe and I'll see you next time.

Pearl - September 10, 2026

Women EXPOSING Their Narcissistic Mothers!

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