Pearl - Women Hate Prenups. Are They Effective？

00:00:00.000 My own personal reason as to why I would never sign a prenup is because I feel like I'm ultimately

00:00:04.440 jinxing my marriage at that point. Because what do you mean we are talking about, we are planning,

00:00:10.220 we are anticipating, we are getting our attorneys involved about this future divorce before even

00:00:16.580 walking down the aisle? That just doesn't sit right with me. At that point, I would rather just

00:00:21.360 not get married. Let's just be in a relationship. For most of my life, I didn't even want to get

00:00:26.060 married. Translation, if I don't get the leverage over you, there's no point. Okay, so today we're

00:00:32.840 actually talking about a risk mitigation tactic. So welcome to Pearl Daily, guys. If you've been

00:00:39.960 watching my channel long enough, you know that I don't think marriage is the most favorable deal

00:00:46.040 for men. You do have to make your own decisions as a man, but especially in the modern age with

00:00:51.460 modern women, men really have everything to lose. They have nothing to gain. And the idea of 0.99

00:00:56.640 marriage, even in the age of women making more money, being independent and doing for themselves 0.64

00:01:03.200 is, you know, that a man is still supposed to sacrifice himself for women. And I've asked so 0.98

00:01:09.280 many people, especially the trad cons that tell men to get married, what's in it for the man?

00:01:14.060 You guys saw from my documentary. They never have a good answer other than shaming men for being

00:01:20.280 degenerates. That's really, ah, or telling you that you got to do it for my kids. It's 0.91

00:01:26.420 like, dude, most men aren't going to be able to have children. Where's their incentive? Even

00:01:33.720 if you get married, there's no guarantee. She's going to, she could just go bore your kid. You 1.00

00:01:37.880 know what I mean? And so it's interesting because they always, they always put it like what's in

00:01:43.020 it for them. They're like society. You know, we have to save society. And the average man

00:01:48.780 is thinking, yeah, for your kids. I don't know if I'm going to get custody of my kids.

00:01:55.360 My kids don't belong to me. You're a rich guy. Right. Um, so there's influencers on the right.

00:02:01.100 They just use every single trick in the book to try to get men to take a deal that is just

00:02:06.020 not favorable to men. Um, but the most vocal tactic I've heard recently is a prenup will save

00:02:12.420 you. Uh, I'm sorry to be skeptical. I just, I doubt it. Um, so what is a prenup? It's a legally

00:02:20.020 binding contract signed by two people before marriage, um, that outlaws how their assets

00:02:25.440 and debts will be handled in the event of a divorce or death. This allows couples to define

00:02:30.700 their own rules for property division and spousal support that can differ from the state, the laws

00:02:36.880 of the state. But here's the thing. Many women, they'll hate men for even asking for a prenup. Even 1.00

00:02:43.880 the question will give women a reason to shame the, her man for the rest of their life. She now has 1.00

00:02:52.400 the ability to hold that over your head forever. And you know, men can get screwed in court, even if 0.91

00:02:58.640 they do have a prenup. A lot of the time, the man is forced to pay a lawyer and for her lawyer while 0.84

00:03:04.580 the divorce proceedings are going on and she can just keep challenging the prenup. And by the way,

00:03:10.600 guys, when these influencers cite you stats that prenups will are effective, ask them where they

00:03:19.760 got the stats from 90% of the time it's from a law office. And I just have to ask, what is the incentive

00:03:27.160 for a law office that's selling prenups to be honest about how effective they are?

00:03:37.320 That's like a restaurant when you ask them, is your kitchen clean? And they say, yeah, yeah, yeah.

00:03:43.020 Can we verify that from a third party? Well, no, we, we told you it works, right? I don't believe that

00:03:51.000 prenup agreements are the magical solutions that trad cons are making it out to be. It's also funny that

00:03:55.760 so many religious influencers are telling men to get the state, get state legal protections against

00:04:02.320 their virtuous wives. What's up with that? So here's an article talking about, are there downsides

00:04:08.580 to prenups? Okay. Are there downsides to prenups? Like every good thing in life, sometimes there are

00:04:16.120 downsides to even the best of things like candy and prenups. Candy is delicious, sweet and fun to eat,

00:04:22.260 but the downside too much of it will send you straight to the dentist. Um, prenups help protect

00:04:28.120 you financially. They set expectations with your spouse and reduce the stress of divorce if it ever

00:04:33.580 happens. But the downside is that prenups can be expensive. See what we mean? There are downsides

00:04:40.100 to even the greatest things on earth, like candy and prenups. A prenuptial agreement is a contract between

00:04:47.080 two fiance's or five fiance's who are getting married. It outlines the terms and conditions of their

00:04:55.000 marriage, including the division of property and assets in the event of a divorce or death.

00:04:59.880 While prenups provide several advantages for couples, it is important to also consider the limitations,

00:05:07.160 drawbacks, and potential risks associated with them before deciding if a prenup is right for you.

00:05:13.320 Prenups have become increasingly popular in recent years as more couples look for ways to protect

00:05:19.500 their assets, clarify their financial expectations, and reduce the stress and uncertainty of divorce

00:05:24.820 proceedings. And the article will take a closer look at the pros and cons of prenups. So you can make

00:05:30.760 an educated decision about whether a prenup is right for you. All right. So the advantages of a

00:05:36.280 prenup is protecting assets. Many people get prenups to protect their assets, whether you have 50,000 or

00:05:42.200 50 million, a prenup can protect that money. Assets can include bank accounts, retirement funds, real

00:05:49.160 estate, and much more. For the sake of a prenup, assets are either accrued before the marriage or during the

00:06:01.280 marriage. You can protect both existing assets and the future assets in a prenup by marking them as separate

00:06:08.020 property. This means that your assets will be safeguarded and you won't have to worry about losing

00:06:13.060 them in the event of a divorce. Defining the terms and conditions of the marriage and divorce. A

00:06:18.260 prenup allows you and your partner to define the terms and conditions of your marriage, which can help

00:06:22.580 reduce stress and uncertainty. You and your partner can specify how assets and debts will be divided in

00:06:29.860 the case of a divorce, which will help ensure that both spouses are on the same page. A prenup not only

00:06:34.980 clarifies what should happen in the event of a divorce, but also the terms of a marriage. Things

00:06:40.180 like marital expenses, joint bank accounts, and other financial obligations can be outlined in the

00:06:45.300 prenup to dictate the rules of the marriage. Reducing the stress and uncertainty of divorce proceedings

00:06:52.020 because the terms and conditions of your marriage have been agreed upon in advance, the divorce process

00:06:57.940 can be much smoother and less stressful. There will be less room for disagreement and less uncertainty,

00:07:02.500 which can make the process less emotionally taxing. In other words, the big issues like property and

00:07:08.260 debt division have already been decided on in your prenup. If you have a prenup, you pretty much know

00:07:13.540 what's going to happen in your divorce. Taking the uncertainty out of divorce processes can provide a lot

00:07:18.900 of peace in mind and mind and relief to many. Clarifying financial expectations. A prenup allows you and

00:07:25.620 your partner to clarify your financial expectations, which can help prevent misunderstandings and conflict

00:07:31.700 down the road. When your financial expectations are clear, you'll be less likely to experience

00:07:37.780 financial conflict in your marriage. What do we mean by financial expectations? Well, do one of you

00:07:42.900 expect to be a stay at home parent? Maybe one of you significant, maybe one of you make significantly

00:07:48.500 more than the other who would pay the bills. Maybe the less earning spouse falsely believe the higher

00:07:53.540 earning spouse would cover most of them. The list goes on and on. These are the things that need to be

00:07:59.300 worked out in a prenup and will help clarify expectations. The downside of prenups. While

00:08:04.660 prenups have many benefits, there are some drawbacks to consider. Here are some limitations and drawbacks

00:08:10.020 of prenups. Difficulty in predicting financial circumstances. Did you know that Jeff Bezos did not

00:08:16.260 have a prenup with his ex-wife? It's crazy. We know. When he started Amazon, he probably had no idea that it

00:08:22.820 would launch him directly into the billionaire status. Just like Jeff Bezos, there's no telling

00:08:28.420 where you'll be in 5, 10 or 15 years. You could be orbiting around the earth like Jeff in 10 years and

00:08:34.580 you'll never know. It can be difficult to predict your financial circumstances. Okay, where's the downside?

00:08:39.780 Well, depending on your state law and your specific circumstances, a prenup that was fair and reasonable

00:08:46.260 at the time of your marriage may no longer be in the event of a divorce.

00:08:50.980 The possibility of a prenup being considered unfair or unenforceable. In some cases,

00:08:58.340 prenups may be considered unfair or unenforceable by the courts. This can occur for various reasons,

00:09:04.260 such as if the prenup was not entered into voluntarily, if it was not properly executed, or

00:09:13.140 if it contains provisions that are illegal, such as provisions related to child custody and support,

00:09:19.540 there are things you can do to ensure your prenup is as ironclad as possible, like using hello,

00:09:24.660 prenup or an attorney to draft your prenup, which can help you ensure that your prenup is up to par with

00:09:30.420 correct state laws. However, some, there are some things that are out of your control, such as

00:09:35.860 major change in circumstances. All right, now we got this pretty blonde lady talking about prenups. 1.00

00:09:41.700 A common question we get all the time has to do with, will my prenup hold up in court? That's a

00:09:50.660 really loaded question, but I'm going to break it down for you from a legal perspective. In the vast

00:09:56.340 majority of states, when you get divorced, you can either get divorced amicably or you have a litigated

00:10:04.260 divorce case, which is what people oftentimes think of when they think of divorce, like on TV,

00:10:10.980 right? You see a trial, it's very dramatic. A vast majority of divorce cases do not get to that point

00:10:17.860 because it's really expensive. When you have a prenup and you get divorced, you can either choose to

00:10:25.300 follow the terms of the prenup. And that may occur through either each hiring attorneys and hammering out,

00:10:32.020 negotiating the terms of your divorce based on what is in the prenuptial agreement or, and again,

00:10:38.180 I'm speaking very generally because each state is different. You can file in court and have a litigated

00:10:44.580 case in order to come to the conclusion as to whether or not the prenuptial agreement should be

00:10:50.980 enforced by the court. My point in explaining all of this to you is to show you that there is a wide gap

00:10:56.820 between having a prenup and following the terms that you contracted to and having a court actually

00:11:04.020 have to enforce that prenuptial agreement and incorporate the terms into a divorce judgment.

00:11:10.020 So back to the original question, will my prenup hold up in court? Well,

00:11:14.660 this question is up to the court at the time of your divorce. I do not have a crystal ball.

00:11:20.100 I do not know what a judge at the time of your divorce. Yeah. It kind of depends on the judge you

00:11:27.620 get is going to decide every case is different. And if you have any additional questions. Okay.

00:11:35.860 All right. The possibility of a prenup being challenged in court, let's back it up a little

00:11:40.260 bit in order to even have a prenup be declared unenforceable by a court. You have to go through

00:11:45.460 the court process. In other words, your spouse has to challenge the prenup. The prenup itself

00:11:50.500 doesn't just walk into the courtroom and let the judges know it's a bad prenup. No, somebody has to

00:11:54.980 challenge the prenup. Now the process of challenging the prenup can result in lengthy and costly legal

00:12:01.220 battles, which can be emotionally taxing and time consuming. The downside here is the act, the mere act of

00:12:08.420 dealing with a court battle. The possibility of a prenup being used as a bargaining tool. Sometimes a

00:12:14.340 prenup can be used as a bargaining tool in divorce proceedings. How? Well, a lawyer could theoretically

00:12:20.580 threaten to or actually file a complaint with the court challenging the prenup. The bargaining tool

00:12:26.180 here would be dropping the complaint in exchange for something like more money in the divorce or a 0.99

00:12:31.060 settlement. This can make the whole divorce process more complicated and emotionally taxing. 0.98

00:12:38.180 The possibility of a prenup costing a lot of money. Prenups can be very expensive, especially if you hire a

00:12:43.540 lawyer to draft the agreement. The average prenup costs about $2,500. That's just for the average

00:12:49.860 case. If you have a ton of questions, complex finances or difficult requests, your prenup could

00:12:54.740 end up costing $10,000 or more. Yikes. Luckily, hello, prenup is here to save the debt. Okay.

00:13:01.700 Now they're selling their prenups. All right. Common misconceptions about prenups. Many people think

00:13:06.180 about common misconceptions about common misconceptions about prenups as the downside to prenups when in

00:13:15.060 actuality, it's not even true. So we want to clear up some of the common myths floating around there for

00:13:21.380 you. Prenups are never upheld. That is not true. Prenups are often upheld despite what people believe.

00:13:28.420 Yes, there are times when a prenup is not upheld, but that is not the baseline standard. The bottom

00:13:33.620 line, it is possible to craft a valid and enforceable prenup that the court will uphold

00:13:41.940 if you get a good judge. Prenups can only protect one person. Wrong. Prenups can protect both parties,

00:13:48.900 but in different ways. For example, spouse A can protect the majority of their future inheritance

00:13:53.780 and preexisting assets while spouse B can still receive alimony and a lump sum payment to support

00:13:59.940 them after the marriage ends. Prenups mean your relationship will fail. Oftentimes people cite

00:14:06.020 distrust, a bad omen, or a failed relationship for their reason for not getting a prenup. Is that true?

00:14:10.580 It could be true, but it's not necessarily true. Think about it this way. When you purchase car insurance,

00:14:15.140 does that mean it's a bad omen and you're bound to fail at driving and crash every single day? Of course not.

00:14:20.580 Car insurance is simply a plan B in case things go wrong, which they might not. Think of a prenup in

00:14:25.300 the same way. A prenup is simply plan B in case things go wrong. Getting a prenup doesn't equal

00:14:30.820 failure. Is a prenup right for you? Should I get a prenup? That is the question. Whether or not a

00:14:37.540 prenup is right for you will depend on a number of factors. That includes your financial situation

00:14:42.020 and your personal values. If you are thinking about getting a prenup, it's crucial to educate yourself

00:14:46.820 with the resources available and or speak with a lawyer who can understand what is right for you.

00:14:52.500 In your opinion, prenups can be for everyone regardless of your net worth. The conclusion is

00:14:58.180 that prenups may have advantages and benefits, but they also have limitations and potential risks.

00:15:04.500 It's important to carefully consider the pros and cons of a prenup before deciding if the one is right

00:15:09.140 for you. If you're unsure about whether or not a prenup is right for you, it may be a good idea to

00:15:13.780 educate yourself on prenup laws in your state or consult with a family law attorney who can help

00:15:18.820 you evaluate the situation and make an informed decision. Okay, next we got five bad things about

00:15:27.700 prenups. All right, five potential, five prenuptial pitfalls that may be bad for your marriage.

00:15:36.420 All right, negotiating a prenup may damage your relationship and make divorce more likely. In the

00:15:42.180 context of a prenup, there is usually an initiator spouse and a complement spouse. The dynamics of

00:15:49.540 prenup negotiations may set up as a bad pattern for marriage. Some fiancés pushing for a prenup may

00:15:57.540 be demonstrating a lack of faith in their partner and a lack of commitment to marriage. This can cause the

00:16:03.460 compliance spouse to feel a lack of connection to the initiator fiancé and feel like the initiator is

00:16:11.860 cold or callous. In addition, negotiating prenups is anything but romantic and if prenup discussions

00:16:18.260 become tense or difficult, they destroy a portion of the couple's love before they've even had a chance

00:16:23.940 to enjoy their wedding. Negotiating finances is a harsh business and it's often made harsher by a

00:16:29.700 couple's lawyers. Generally speaking, both fiancés should hire attorneys to negotiate and draft a 0.76

00:16:35.540 prenup on their own behalf because the agreement may not be enforceable without the involvement of

00:16:40.580 separate legal counsel. Most lawyers representing parties in prenuptial negotiations act as if the

00:16:47.220 entire transaction is purely business. Although some aspects of a romantic partnership may require

00:16:53.140 the partner's focus on money and financial help. Marriage is not a business. Often the initiating

00:17:01.300 party says after the wedding you can just put the premarital agreement in a drawer and forget about it.

00:17:08.420 But of course that's not true and not really possible. The premarital agreement simply cannot be forgotten.

00:17:14.260 It's a, oh my gosh, it's a legal contract both parties are bound to live by. There may be resentment

00:17:23.140 on either sides that was given up, not agreed to, and the resentment may rear its head in all aspects

00:17:29.460 of marriage. Prenups tend to be, we love this word, coercive when negotiating parties do not,

00:17:38.340 do not have bargaining power. For example, when one fiancé asks for a prenup very close to the wedding date

00:17:48.820 after the invitations have been set out, the negotiation is unfair. The other fiancé may feel

00:17:54.660 extreme pressure to agree to anything just so the wedding isn't canceled. In fact, under such

00:18:00.660 circumstances, the compliant fiancé can claim that he or she did not have sufficient time to consider the

00:18:07.620 prenup and was under extreme duress when signing it. In that case, the compliant spouse could have

00:18:13.060 a very strong case for having the prenup overturned. There are other less extreme ways for bargaining

00:18:19.780 power to be imbalanced. Maybe one fiancé is not savvy with the business or money matter and isn't sure

00:18:24.900 what she is being asked to give up. Maybe the initiating fiancé is very influential and almost

00:18:30.100 intimidating to his or her partner, such that the compliant fiancé can't imagine pushing back or

00:18:37.460 asking questions about the prenup and it feels impossible to say no to the proposed terms of the

00:18:42.740 contract. Even mediators can be insensitive or unaware of any power imbalance when assisting clients

00:18:49.300 in negotiating a prenup. Mediators should try to determine whether the agreement was proposed by both

00:18:55.540 parties may be really thought of as the only one and whether the other party feels coerced. All

00:19:01.540 motivations and feelings should be exposed and discussed in the mediation prior to the proceeding.

00:19:10.580 Prenups may be inappropriate for couples entering into a marriage. Marriage is an exciting

00:19:16.020 joint venture. An important part of the joint venture of marriage is the financial partnership. A spouse

00:19:22.500 may correctly feel that some of this aspect of marriage has been taken away and a premarital

00:19:29.460 agreement decreases that spouse's rights. State divorce laws are designed to handle the issues of

00:19:39.380 disparity of income and disparity of premarital assets if and when the spouses get divorced. So

00:19:46.100 insisting on prenuptial agreements that may end up harming the relationship may not be a sensible

00:19:51.940 trade-off. However, prenuptial agreements can be highly useful for entertaining and entering into

00:19:58.740 second marriages who have children from first marriages. A prenup can balance the spouse's

00:20:03.460 loyalty to the new spouse with the spouse's concern and loyalty to his or her children of the first

00:20:08.900 marriage. Prenups often damage the relationship between the families of origin. An initiating party may

00:20:16.500 want a financial agreement prior to the marriage due to the existence of family wealth and a proposed

00:20:22.740 and proposal a premarital agreement that excludes all family property from the marriage forever. The

00:20:28.820 result is that the future spouse's family feels humiliated and disrespected and never forgets the

00:20:35.300 rebuff. This is not good for a relationship and it will result in the family of origin that will be 1.00

00:20:40.980 present during the entire marriage. A common example is where the initiating fiance doesn't want the

00:20:46.820 prenuptial agreement but spouse A's parents insist. The prenuptial agreement is made and agreed to but

00:20:52.820 the compliant spouse feels that spouse A was unable to stand up to his or her parents. The compliant

00:20:58.420 spouse loses respect for spouse A and spouse A's parents. When one family of origin tries to control 0.94

00:21:05.300 the marriage through a prenuptial agreement it distributes the delicate balance in a couple's

00:21:10.820 relationship and makes it more likely to fail. When prenuptial terms are unfair divorcing spouses

00:21:17.620 may end up in a court battle anyway. Prenuptial agreements do not always eliminate divorce court battles.

00:21:23.940 Sometimes premarital agreements give a spouse a fraction of what he or she would be entitled to under state

00:21:31.780 law. Although the outcome tends to support the notion that the deal is made in prenuptial

00:21:37.700 agreements years earlier was unfair to the spouse courts routinely enforce prenups that result in

00:21:43.700 unfair outcomes but we'll take a second look when enforcing the prenup would create such a dispensity

00:21:50.100 of wealth that the disadvantaged spouse would end up close to destitute or on public benefits. When a

00:21:57.860 couple that had a prenup decides to divorce and the divorce seems to result in an unfair result to one

00:22:03.060 spouse the spouse may very likely go to court to try to have the prenup set aside and request that the

00:22:08.900 court uses the laws of the state to make a decision about alimony and property division. Court cases that

00:22:14.900 involve the validity of a prenup can be very expensive and time consuming and they can drag on for years.

00:22:20.180 So it's important to realize that a prenup is no guarantee that you'll to avoid divorce court.

00:22:25.300 All right so now let's see what the ladies are saying about prenups. Clever. Make this full screen. 1.00

00:22:37.940 Clever things I've seen women put in prenups money before men edition. This is going to be fun. When I 0.99

00:22:42.900 started doing prenup work it was really because I had a divorce that I was working on and consulting with

00:22:49.060 and she had a friend who was getting married and she was like oh my god you need to talk to Joanna. 0.97

00:22:54.180 So a divorcing woman sent a woman getting married to me and that's how prenup work was born. Sometimes 1.00

00:23:00.020 I pinch myself that this is work that I do but if I can help one woman avoid the mistakes that so many

00:23:05.460 women have made before in getting married and wishing they could go back and do it again it's 1.00

00:23:10.580 worth it. Please keep in mind this is very respective okay like someone might have like 35 million dollars

00:23:16.660 own a tech company you know have tons of houses like it just depends on the situation but I always

00:23:23.460 love a six-month emergency fund for a woman in a bank account with just her name on it in the event

00:23:28.500 of a divorce. Someone I know was gonna have a baby and she put in writing that she wanted a tummy tuck 1.00

00:23:33.460 she wanted a nanny she wanted house cleaning care and in the event of a divorce those services 1.00

00:23:38.900 she put a tummy tuck in the divorce you have got to be kidding me level of living would be continued 0.94

00:23:46.740 as part of the divorce settlement so she would never lose support for the chat do you know what

00:23:51.540 the trads don't take into account you're negotiating with terrorists so you're negotiating a prenup with a

00:23:57.940 terrorist

00:24:01.860 and you know these trap these conservative guys are not getting train up prenups they think too highly

00:24:07.140 of their wives that's why they always get got they always think my wife would never 1.00

00:24:12.580 and to be honest if you think like that you kind of deserve everything that's coming to you

00:24:25.940 because tick tock is here social media is here and so before the men of the past women could hide our 0.96

00:24:32.500 true nature a lot better not anymore for raising a child one gal that i worked with had real estate money 1.00

00:24:40.820 that she was able to invest every single year and if the marriage came to an end she would get to take

00:24:45.460 all of the assets and portfolios that she'd built up over the course of the marriage because she had

00:24:49.780 sold her house to move in with him and so she didn't have a place to live so she needed a lot of options

00:24:55.300 let me know if you want more ideas i have them all right what do we got next woman said she never would

00:25:02.500 have married her husband if he made her sign a prenup what are we rating her guys fellas one to ten 1.00

00:25:09.380 one to ten let's go might be a little controversial but i would not have married my husband if he made

00:25:15.700 me sign a prenup and i know i'm gonna have a lot of people i'm giving her an inflated six i think she 1.00

00:25:20.500 naturally would be a five but she's got some filters and stuff on i guess she's thin in america she'll be 1.00

00:25:27.300 a sick she'd be like a four overseas calling me a gold digger trust me i am far from that my husband

00:25:33.220 and i we are actually in love we've been married for almost 15 years we have three beautiful children

00:25:38.740 and i also make my own if they weren't in love would she say it sorry i'm a pessimist money it was

00:25:46.340 actually my husband who taught me how to become my own successful independent woman how to get my own

00:25:52.500 bag because i believe that's what real men do they want their women to be the best version of themselves

00:25:58.420 and he did just that for me but my own personal reason as to why i would never sign a prenup is

00:26:03.860 because i feel like i'm ultimately jinxing my marriage at that point because what do you mean

00:26:08.580 we are talking about we are planning we are anticipating we are getting our attorneys involved

00:26:14.740 about this future divorce before even walking down the aisle that just doesn't sit right with me at

00:26:20.580 that point i would rather just not get married let's just be in a relationship for most of my life

00:26:25.460 i didn't even want to get married translation if i don't get the leverage over you there's no point

00:26:32.020 because you know childhood trauma so if we're going to get married if you are going to be my husband if

00:26:37.540 i am your wife it is for life okay you are stuck with me not only in this lifetime but probably in

00:26:42.900 many lifetimes afterwards because i'm psycho like that my husband didn't even bring up the idea of a

00:26:48.500 prenup when we got married and while he's not as successful as he is today he still owned his own

00:26:53.540 business and he was still doing far better than most 28 year olds and here i was still trying to

00:26:58.900 figure out what i wanted to do with my life so the fact that he didn't even bring it up to me

00:27:04.180 not once it actually made me love him even more because it showed me that we have the same morals

00:27:10.180 and values when it comes to a marriage when it comes to what being a husband and wife actually is

00:27:16.580 this is my own personal opinion i'm not saying that i'm right i'm not saying that at all i could be

00:27:20.500 completely wrong and i'm okay with that but if you are one of the women who actually did sign a

00:27:24.660 prenup i would love to know your reasons why and how you weren't offended by that how you weren't

00:27:31.540 offended by the way guys if you have any experience with prenups we're gonna do a call in so we're

00:27:37.700 actually gonna put the link in the chat now i'm gonna watch a couple more prenup videos but if you know

00:27:43.940 anybody that had a prenup i want to hear from firsthand experience your experiences and by the way isn't it

00:27:49.540 so we got james sexton and by the way isn't it lovely to hear what someone likes about you i think

00:27:56.420 it's one of the nicest things in the world when somebody says you know what i like about you jim

00:27:59.540 i'm all ears tell me you know or if someone who i love and trust i know you're my friend so if you

00:28:05.300 called me and you said you know jim can i give you some constructive feedback like something i think

00:28:08.820 you're doing that's getting in your own way dude i would be all ears that's an event in a couple's life

00:28:13.700 right so why why in this in this romantic context would you squander the opportunity to have that

00:28:20.580 conversation here's what you bring to my life here's how you make me feel here's when i feel the

00:28:25.620 most love here's when i feel not as loved by you i think it's because when people hear the word prenup

00:28:31.060 they're thinking ending think i could be wrong but i don't think most people associate the word prenup with

00:28:36.500 anything about the success of the marriage which is probably why so few people get them is there any idea

00:28:41.940 roughly what percentage no what's amazing about a prenup is a prenup is not filed anywhere it's

00:28:46.820 a contract and is it as binding as as anything else oh yeah the 25 years i've been practicing

00:28:51.780 trust me i've had a couple of prenups i've tried to set aside and i've been unsuccessful and i'm a good

00:28:56.580 lawyer but it's very hard to set aside a properly drafted prenup what is a properly drafted prenup

00:29:05.540 is my question prenups can be thrown out in court this guy's coming oh i also heard that

00:29:11.620 prenups can get like practically like thrown out of court is that true yeah so i want to hear from

00:29:16.900 the field not the lawyers not i want to hear from people in the field a lot of i'm going to send a

00:29:22.580 tweet too with this people's prenup get thrown out of court because you either had them sign it under

00:29:29.780 duress which happens the most what does that what does that mean though under the rest means under

00:29:35.540 pressure so like the wedding's today here's the paper or we ain't getting married that's the rest

00:29:42.180 like you can't do it but how does they how do they prove that in court if they got married like 0.78

00:29:47.140 five eight ten twenty years before that because you signed the date on it and you know what the date

00:29:52.900 of the marriage is and so those sorts of things get you thrown out but the biggest reason that um

00:29:59.860 the prenup get thrown out is because you didn't disclose all your assets really yeah i don't know

00:30:07.460 that it's so easy to like especially if um you're trying to move assets into other entities and that

00:30:16.340 sort of thing so like yeah so that's why i tell people get your affairs in order before you get engaged

00:30:23.780 because if you do that you don't have to disclose it's just no longer it on on the table but like if you

00:30:29.540 have assets in your name you get you get engaged and you are in contemplation of marriage you now

00:30:35.060 have to disclose what you have before you can move it into a trust or it would be like you're hiding

00:30:41.140 the assets really see i don't know that okay next we got another woman saying she wouldn't sign there 0.90

00:30:49.860 are going to be people online that say you didn't get married because he wanted you to sign a prenup

00:30:56.020 correct so why did you not just sign the prenup in that moment it was i'd rather walk away from

00:31:02.740 something knowing that i chose myself than to spend the rest of my life not being loved the way that

00:31:09.700 i love translation i want to take his money and virtue signal while i do it somebody

Pearl - May 29, 2025

Women Hate Prenups. Are They Effective？

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