Pearl - May 14, 2026


Women Lead Other Women To DESTRUCTION

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Joanna
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Length

14 minutes

Words per minute

187.79

Word count

2,648

Sentence count

51

Harmful content

Misogyny

15

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13

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In this episode, we re reacting to women giving advice to each other about divorce and how to prepare for the divorce process. Women will always leave women to destruction and that s why having a strong masculine man is so incredibly important.

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00:00:00 if they have consulted with you they are not allowed to represent your ex because it would
00:00:04 be a conflict of interest little pro hack okay love you ladies whoa what up guys welcome to my 0.79
00:00:11 reaction series women will always leave women to destruction that's why having a strong masculine
00:00:17 man is so incredibly important but today we're actually reacting to women giving each other 0.87
00:00:24 divorce advice you know if you have one girl in the friend group that's getting divorced
00:00:28 you're kind of cooked um especially if the woman values uh that woman's opinion you're just you're
00:00:34 cooked sorry fellas just get ready for it you know what i mean they'll be using the same lawyers 0.55
00:00:39 um going through the same single mom copes you know so let's go three tips if you are about to
00:00:45 leave your husband or are leaving your husband that my attorney gave me that saved my life during
00:00:51 my divorce that took over a year and a half first of all from the very first second that you think
00:00:58 about leaving you are going to start taking out cash especially if you are a stay-at-home mom
00:01:04 um or if he is the primary breadwinner and you have spent most of your time raising children
00:01:09 you're going to start taking out cash and i was like i don't need to do that he'll always want to
00:01:12 see me succeed and like be able to provide yeah no um women do this years in advance if you guys 1.00
00:01:20 are watching how many years in advance do you think your wife planned the divorce for me and 1.00
00:01:26 and my children wrong wrong you could be wrong even if he's like the best guy alive if if when
00:01:32 men get left and they get their feelings hurt you don't know if they're going to still provide for
00:01:36 you or not and chances are they're you have to be able to make it on your own but before you get
00:01:42 there if you've been a stay-at-home mom you're gonna need something stashed away so start taking
00:01:46 out cash while you can um she said little amounts like you're gonna start at the grocery store
00:01:51 you're going to take out like 40 60 bucks cash back every single time you go to the grocery
00:01:57 store you're going to stash that away don't put it in a bank account stash it away because i
00:02:01 promise you you're going to need it file as soon as possible for divorce because in most states
00:02:07 there's like a waiting period and some states are longer than others i think colorado's was
00:02:11 six months i can't remember um but it's going to take a while and you want to get that paperwork
00:02:17 started asap tip number three um apply for the best credit card you can find with the max limit
00:02:24 that they have yeah so you could start taking out debt you know there's so many things men solve for
00:02:31 us um in our life and a lot of divorced women they're not going to appreciate like men bring
00:02:40 a lot of structure because they bring routine and we love instability we hate routine even though
00:02:46 though it's good for us so a lot of times like the mothers leave not realizing how much good
00:02:51 the fathers do for them at least one because just know that when you get divorced your credit is
00:02:58 going to plummet and if your husband ex-husband is anything like mine he is not going to pay a
00:03:05 dime to you until a judge orders him to which could take in my case a year and a half get out
00:03:11 the max limit credit card you can while you still have credit just in case you need it because you
00:03:17 will need it last but not least and the men are really gonna hate me for this one i don't care
00:03:21 women have to do what we have to do to survive in a patriarchal society immediately consult with 1.00
00:03:27 an attorney the second you complain about anything with that much makeup and lip filler 1.00
00:03:32 thinking about leaving before you file paperwork before you say a word consult with an attorney
00:03:37 at least one at least three honestly um a lot of them are going to be free consults some of them
00:03:44 will be 50 bucks 100 bucks well worth it i promise you find one that is used to representing women
00:03:50 and is going to help you out the most in your specific circumstance if you want to be really
00:03:55 diabolical and if you have the means consult with as many attorneys as you can in your area especially
00:04:01 all the high-powered good attorneys because if they have consulted with you they are not allowed
00:04:07 to represent your ex because it would be a conflict of interest little pro hack okay love
00:04:12 you ladies whoa actually i heard that when i was doing the divorce um if you didn't know we're 1.00
00:04:19 um doing a divorce documentary and that's one of the tactics they say that women do they kind of 1.00
00:04:25 screw the guys because they consult with all the high-powered divorce attorneys in the area years 1.00
00:04:29 ahead of time whenever a person is getting a divorce they will ask me what other advice do
00:04:34 you have outside of the legal process of divorce and my advice is begin the emotional divorce as
00:04:42 well cut time you can always do this emotionally we break up like six months before guys emotionally
00:04:47 this person is about to be your ex you should treat them as such they shouldn't and that's
00:04:52 the problem is women will treat their ex like a terrorist but men will still act in good faith 0.76
00:04:57 you gotta stop doing that have access to your heart anymore if they send you this big long text
00:05:02 about how much they want you back ignore it you're at the point of divorce for a reason now you can
00:05:08 respond to them say hey this is inappropriate do not correspond with me do not text me do not leave
00:05:14 voicemails whatever it is unless it is about co-parenting your child together if you have a
00:05:20 child you'll see divorced couples where either the ex-husband or the ex-wife is still trying to get
00:05:26 emotional comfort from their ex-husband from their ex-wife and all that does is make it very hard for
00:05:32 you to begin a fresh start which is the whole point of the divorce right to have a fresh start
00:05:37 without being emotionally tied to this person how you once were so my advice is emotionally cut
00:05:44 ties don't let them you know rile you up by trying to fight with you don't let them get you to feel 1.00
00:05:50 sorry for them when they tell you how hard yeah um again yeah it's so crazy women always complain 1.00
00:05:56 about money after a divorce but all these women have heavy makeup and fake nails people think 1.00
00:06:01 the first step to a divorce is filing paperwork it's a woman banging her personal trainer 1.00
00:06:06 it's not these are three things that i would do if i had to do it all over again
00:06:12 step one get clear before you act before you do anything get honest about where you are
00:06:21 are you done or are you just still trying to make it work because how you move next depends on that
00:06:28 step two understand your situation specifically financially this is the part people skip and it's
00:06:36 what makes everything harder later. So understand what you have access to, what accounts exist,
00:06:44 what does your day-to-day cost? You don't need to have it all figured out, but you need to have a
00:06:50 basic picture. And then step three, talk to the right people, not just friends. Friends mean well,
00:06:56 but they're not a strategy. Start with maybe a family law attorney, even if it's just a consult.
00:07:03 Call around and see who might be willing to do it for free.
00:07:07 Or look up somebody who can help you think through options step by step.
00:07:12 You don't have to have the whole plan.
00:07:16 You just need to stop guessing and start getting clear.
00:07:20 If you want help mapping that out, shoot me a DM.
00:07:24 Yeah, so this is what I mean. 1.00
00:07:25 Women will always lead other women to destruction. 1.00
00:07:27 Okay, three healthy practices in divorce negotiations. 1.00
00:07:30 I'm expecting these to be unhealthy.
00:07:32 The things you can do in the middle of your divorce to make your life a lot easier to hold
00:07:37 your peace, to feel more grounded and to make decisions that are in your best interest. Hi,
00:07:42 my name is Joanna and I help women exit relationships in a powerful way. I'm also
00:07:47 a negotiator. So along the way, I teach you how to negotiate like a baddie. Number one,
00:07:51 I want you to refrain from responding in text message or in email in regards to anything about
00:07:58 the relationship. So like when they want something in the negotiation and they're like, well, I want
00:08:03 the house. And you're like, you're not going to get the house. Like I've been raising my children
00:08:06 in this house and I've just, I've lived here my whole life. Like we're not, we are not doing that.
00:08:11 Instead, we're going to replace it with, I understand that this is a really difficult
00:08:15 time for both of us. We're going to create alignment in our communication without agreeing,
00:08:20 agreeing to the thing that you don't want to give up. Okay. A little bit of a, like you got to switch
00:08:26 your mindset otherwise you will have an endless power struggle okay i don't disagree not like yeah
00:08:32 texting back and forth it's just the way okay i would agree i would agree you know in this
00:08:36 negotiation and it's gonna drag out i promise you that the second thing i want to highlight is the
00:08:41 formula of using agreements-based communication making your stance or your argument and then
00:08:46 asking for agreement it's like a sandwich the reason why we want to use agreements-based
00:08:51 communication at the top is again to create that alignment which is my god okay i'm bored we're
00:08:55 gonna go to the next one women just women you guys tune out women where it's like you're just
00:09:00 saying nothing i i can't all right you're giving me nothing here three tips on how to navigate
00:09:06 divorce landia more effectively one let go of what you can't control you're not in control of the
00:09:12 other person's reactions so let it go two take this time to translation when i'm mentally tormenting
00:09:20 um him um i can't i i actually the translation is you actually have more control than you think
00:09:28 you could be nicer uh we're just going to gaslight him and make him seem like he's the problem focus
00:09:33 on you a whole new chapter has opened up get excited for what's going to happen as opposed
00:09:37 to getting scared three be translation um you're going to get pumped and dumped a lot and um get
00:09:44 excited for it instead of being terrified because it's going to happen firm in what you believe in
00:09:49 and have endurance this is sometimes for the rest of your life so be secure in your choice
00:09:56 translation legally rob him i helped me get through my divorce i never thought in a million
00:10:02 years i would upload this video or even share that i went through a divorce but here i am and
00:10:08 if i help just one person out there that's going through what i went through then i'm happy number
00:10:14 one, you need to know it's okay to not be okay. Your emotions are going to fluctuate every single
00:10:21 day to where one day you're happy, one day you're sad, one day you're angry. It's just always going
00:10:28 to be different. You never know what to expect, but just let yourself feel everything. Don't try
00:10:34 and suppress it or hide it. Just let yourself go through every single emotion because then one day
00:10:40 you're going to wake up and then you realize you're you're okay you're going to be okay
00:10:44 so I would say that's probably one of my biggest tips is just let yourself go through that tell
00:10:52 yourself over and over that it's okay that you're not okay right now it's it's gonna pass I promise
00:10:58 you but you just need you need to accept it you know what I mean second tip for me would be 0.97
00:11:06 absolutely god without god it's just crazy how women are saying god helps them through a divorce 0.89
00:11:13 like ma'am did you read the bible at all i truly don't know what i would have done
00:11:19 through my marriage i always wondered like where's god where where is he translation i nitpicked at
00:11:26 everything he did and i'm gonna blame his lack of leadership and instead of i don't know um my
00:11:31 lack of obedience. I feel like everything I'm going through is so hard. Should I leave? Should
00:11:36 I stay? Like, I just, I never felt him there, but then once I left and especially now, like looking
00:11:43 back at the situation, he was with me the entire time and I just didn't realize it. And I would
00:11:50 just say, if, if you're going through a divorce right now, truly let God help you. He's the only
00:11:57 person that truly can he's the only person that can heal you he's the only person that is truly
00:12:03 there for you 24 7. so just let yourself feel him read the scriptures more pray more okay but there
00:12:11 you know it's so funny it's like you're going to skip over the scriptures that say not to get
00:12:15 divorced it's okay like if you're really reading the scriptures then you would mend the marriage
00:12:22 you know, but just have a better relationship with him. Let him help you. I am so blessed to
00:12:31 where I never, not a single day did I ever just lay in bed all day and let what I went through
00:12:38 completely debilitate me and make me not want to get up out of bed. But I just want to thank God
00:12:45 because I don't know. I don't know how I would have done it without him. I was able to get out
00:12:50 of bed every morning and have joy throughout the day you know have fun throughout the day find
00:12:57 happiness true happiness and I don't know I truly don't know how I wasn't just like in bed all day
00:13:04 crying I I really don't but that's that's why I really see now that God was with me through the
00:13:12 entire thing because there's no way I could have done that on my own or just with my family or
00:13:17 friends help, which is great, but really just try and find your relationship with God and talk to
00:13:23 him. My third tip would be friends and family. Make sure you have your people to support you.
00:13:30 I don't know what I would have done without my twin sister, who was there for me 24-7,
00:13:35 my friends as well. Put friends around you that'll just tell you what you want to hear and not be
00:13:39 honest until you get back with your husband. Family, it truly helped me so much. They knew
00:13:45 what I needed at the time they knew if I needed to get out the house or if I just wanted to sit
00:13:50 and be sad or like I'm done with this rambling okay guys um let me know what you think in the
00:13:56 comments have you seen women that take advice from other women to get divorced and it didn't
00:14:01 pan out for them let me know in the comments like the video and I will see you next time