Pearl - Women Lead Other Women To DESTRUCTION

00:00:00.000 if they have consulted with you they are not allowed to represent your ex because it would

00:00:04.000 be a conflict of interest little pro hack okay love you ladies whoa what up guys welcome to my 0.79

00:00:11.200 reaction series women will always leave women to destruction that's why having a strong masculine

00:00:17.760 man is so incredibly important but today we're actually reacting to women giving each other 0.87

00:00:24.240 divorce advice you know if you have one girl in the friend group that's getting divorced

00:00:28.960 you're kind of cooked um especially if the woman values uh that woman's opinion you're just you're

00:00:34.960 cooked sorry fellas just get ready for it you know what i mean they'll be using the same lawyers 0.55

00:00:39.600 um going through the same single mom copes you know so let's go three tips if you are about to

00:00:45.440 leave your husband or are leaving your husband that my attorney gave me that saved my life during

00:00:51.680 my divorce that took over a year and a half first of all from the very first second that you think

00:00:58.000 about leaving you are going to start taking out cash especially if you are a stay-at-home mom

00:01:04.320 um or if he is the primary breadwinner and you have spent most of your time raising children

00:01:09.200 you're going to start taking out cash and i was like i don't need to do that he'll always want to

00:01:12.880 see me succeed and like be able to provide yeah no um women do this years in advance if you guys 1.00

00:01:20.160 are watching how many years in advance do you think your wife planned the divorce for me and 1.00

00:01:26.000 and my children wrong wrong you could be wrong even if he's like the best guy alive if if when

00:01:32.100 men get left and they get their feelings hurt you don't know if they're going to still provide for

00:01:36.380 you or not and chances are they're you have to be able to make it on your own but before you get

00:01:42.300 there if you've been a stay-at-home mom you're gonna need something stashed away so start taking

00:01:46.920 out cash while you can um she said little amounts like you're gonna start at the grocery store

00:01:51.840 you're going to take out like 40 60 bucks cash back every single time you go to the grocery

00:01:57.280 store you're going to stash that away don't put it in a bank account stash it away because i

00:02:01.660 promise you you're going to need it file as soon as possible for divorce because in most states

00:02:07.280 there's like a waiting period and some states are longer than others i think colorado's was

00:02:11.740 six months i can't remember um but it's going to take a while and you want to get that paperwork

00:02:17.400 started asap tip number three um apply for the best credit card you can find with the max limit

00:02:24.200 that they have yeah so you could start taking out debt you know there's so many things men solve for

00:02:31.560 us um in our life and a lot of divorced women they're not going to appreciate like men bring

00:02:40.120 a lot of structure because they bring routine and we love instability we hate routine even though

00:02:46.920 though it's good for us so a lot of times like the mothers leave not realizing how much good

00:02:51.900 the fathers do for them at least one because just know that when you get divorced your credit is

00:02:58.100 going to plummet and if your husband ex-husband is anything like mine he is not going to pay a

00:03:05.160 dime to you until a judge orders him to which could take in my case a year and a half get out

00:03:11.180 the max limit credit card you can while you still have credit just in case you need it because you

00:03:17.320 will need it last but not least and the men are really gonna hate me for this one i don't care

00:03:21.700 women have to do what we have to do to survive in a patriarchal society immediately consult with 1.00

00:03:27.400 an attorney the second you complain about anything with that much makeup and lip filler 1.00

00:03:32.200 thinking about leaving before you file paperwork before you say a word consult with an attorney

00:03:37.100 at least one at least three honestly um a lot of them are going to be free consults some of them

00:03:44.620 will be 50 bucks 100 bucks well worth it i promise you find one that is used to representing women

00:03:50.480 and is going to help you out the most in your specific circumstance if you want to be really

00:03:55.960 diabolical and if you have the means consult with as many attorneys as you can in your area especially

00:04:01.420 all the high-powered good attorneys because if they have consulted with you they are not allowed

00:04:07.480 to represent your ex because it would be a conflict of interest little pro hack okay love

00:04:12.620 you ladies whoa actually i heard that when i was doing the divorce um if you didn't know we're 1.00

00:04:19.360 um doing a divorce documentary and that's one of the tactics they say that women do they kind of 1.00

00:04:25.400 screw the guys because they consult with all the high-powered divorce attorneys in the area years 1.00

00:04:29.680 ahead of time whenever a person is getting a divorce they will ask me what other advice do

00:04:34.620 you have outside of the legal process of divorce and my advice is begin the emotional divorce as

00:04:42.120 well cut time you can always do this emotionally we break up like six months before guys emotionally

00:04:47.480 this person is about to be your ex you should treat them as such they shouldn't and that's

00:04:52.480 the problem is women will treat their ex like a terrorist but men will still act in good faith 0.76

00:04:57.060 you gotta stop doing that have access to your heart anymore if they send you this big long text

00:05:02.980 about how much they want you back ignore it you're at the point of divorce for a reason now you can

00:05:08.800 respond to them say hey this is inappropriate do not correspond with me do not text me do not leave

00:05:14.300 voicemails whatever it is unless it is about co-parenting your child together if you have a

00:05:20.300 child you'll see divorced couples where either the ex-husband or the ex-wife is still trying to get

00:05:26.260 emotional comfort from their ex-husband from their ex-wife and all that does is make it very hard for

00:05:32.740 you to begin a fresh start which is the whole point of the divorce right to have a fresh start

00:05:37.580 without being emotionally tied to this person how you once were so my advice is emotionally cut

00:05:44.680 ties don't let them you know rile you up by trying to fight with you don't let them get you to feel 1.00

00:05:50.820 sorry for them when they tell you how hard yeah um again yeah it's so crazy women always complain 1.00

00:05:56.640 about money after a divorce but all these women have heavy makeup and fake nails people think 1.00

00:06:01.100 the first step to a divorce is filing paperwork it's a woman banging her personal trainer 1.00

00:06:06.040 it's not these are three things that i would do if i had to do it all over again

00:06:12.560 step one get clear before you act before you do anything get honest about where you are

00:06:21.220 are you done or are you just still trying to make it work because how you move next depends on that

00:06:28.040 step two understand your situation specifically financially this is the part people skip and it's

00:06:36.600 what makes everything harder later. So understand what you have access to, what accounts exist,

00:06:44.400 what does your day-to-day cost? You don't need to have it all figured out, but you need to have a

00:06:50.000 basic picture. And then step three, talk to the right people, not just friends. Friends mean well,

00:06:56.660 but they're not a strategy. Start with maybe a family law attorney, even if it's just a consult.

00:07:03.760 Call around and see who might be willing to do it for free.

00:07:07.800 Or look up somebody who can help you think through options step by step.

00:07:12.720 You don't have to have the whole plan.

00:07:16.060 You just need to stop guessing and start getting clear.

00:07:20.280 If you want help mapping that out, shoot me a DM.

00:07:24.020 Yeah, so this is what I mean. 1.00

00:07:25.160 Women will always lead other women to destruction. 1.00

00:07:27.600 Okay, three healthy practices in divorce negotiations. 1.00

00:07:30.280 I'm expecting these to be unhealthy.

00:07:32.180 The things you can do in the middle of your divorce to make your life a lot easier to hold

00:07:37.260 your peace, to feel more grounded and to make decisions that are in your best interest. Hi,

00:07:42.840 my name is Joanna and I help women exit relationships in a powerful way. I'm also

00:07:47.340 a negotiator. So along the way, I teach you how to negotiate like a baddie. Number one,

00:07:51.840 I want you to refrain from responding in text message or in email in regards to anything about

00:07:58.980 the relationship. So like when they want something in the negotiation and they're like, well, I want

00:08:03.620 the house. And you're like, you're not going to get the house. Like I've been raising my children

00:08:06.320 in this house and I've just, I've lived here my whole life. Like we're not, we are not doing that.

00:08:11.020 Instead, we're going to replace it with, I understand that this is a really difficult

00:08:15.760 time for both of us. We're going to create alignment in our communication without agreeing,

00:08:20.840 agreeing to the thing that you don't want to give up. Okay. A little bit of a, like you got to switch

00:08:26.120 your mindset otherwise you will have an endless power struggle okay i don't disagree not like yeah

00:08:32.280 texting back and forth it's just the way okay i would agree i would agree you know in this

00:08:36.660 negotiation and it's gonna drag out i promise you that the second thing i want to highlight is the

00:08:41.780 formula of using agreements-based communication making your stance or your argument and then

00:08:46.720 asking for agreement it's like a sandwich the reason why we want to use agreements-based

00:08:51.300 communication at the top is again to create that alignment which is my god okay i'm bored we're

00:08:55.900 gonna go to the next one women just women you guys tune out women where it's like you're just

00:09:00.680 saying nothing i i can't all right you're giving me nothing here three tips on how to navigate

00:09:06.300 divorce landia more effectively one let go of what you can't control you're not in control of the

00:09:12.700 other person's reactions so let it go two take this time to translation when i'm mentally tormenting

00:09:20.820 um him um i can't i i actually the translation is you actually have more control than you think

00:09:28.300 you could be nicer uh we're just going to gaslight him and make him seem like he's the problem focus

00:09:33.120 on you a whole new chapter has opened up get excited for what's going to happen as opposed

00:09:37.920 to getting scared three be translation um you're going to get pumped and dumped a lot and um get

00:09:44.500 excited for it instead of being terrified because it's going to happen firm in what you believe in

00:09:49.520 and have endurance this is sometimes for the rest of your life so be secure in your choice

00:09:56.560 translation legally rob him i helped me get through my divorce i never thought in a million

00:10:02.080 years i would upload this video or even share that i went through a divorce but here i am and

00:10:08.000 if i help just one person out there that's going through what i went through then i'm happy number

00:10:14.480 one, you need to know it's okay to not be okay. Your emotions are going to fluctuate every single

00:10:21.600 day to where one day you're happy, one day you're sad, one day you're angry. It's just always going

00:10:28.140 to be different. You never know what to expect, but just let yourself feel everything. Don't try

00:10:34.040 and suppress it or hide it. Just let yourself go through every single emotion because then one day

00:10:40.260 you're going to wake up and then you realize you're you're okay you're going to be okay

00:10:44.980 so I would say that's probably one of my biggest tips is just let yourself go through that tell

00:10:52.640 yourself over and over that it's okay that you're not okay right now it's it's gonna pass I promise

00:10:58.960 you but you just need you need to accept it you know what I mean second tip for me would be 0.97

00:11:06.720 absolutely god without god it's just crazy how women are saying god helps them through a divorce 0.89

00:11:13.100 like ma'am did you read the bible at all i truly don't know what i would have done

00:11:19.180 through my marriage i always wondered like where's god where where is he translation i nitpicked at

00:11:26.060 everything he did and i'm gonna blame his lack of leadership and instead of i don't know um my

00:11:31.960 lack of obedience. I feel like everything I'm going through is so hard. Should I leave? Should

00:11:36.880 I stay? Like, I just, I never felt him there, but then once I left and especially now, like looking

00:11:43.920 back at the situation, he was with me the entire time and I just didn't realize it. And I would

00:11:50.760 just say, if, if you're going through a divorce right now, truly let God help you. He's the only

00:11:57.320 person that truly can he's the only person that can heal you he's the only person that is truly

00:12:03.000 there for you 24 7. so just let yourself feel him read the scriptures more pray more okay but there

00:12:11.400 you know it's so funny it's like you're going to skip over the scriptures that say not to get

00:12:15.960 divorced it's okay like if you're really reading the scriptures then you would mend the marriage

00:12:22.440 you know, but just have a better relationship with him. Let him help you. I am so blessed to

00:12:31.080 where I never, not a single day did I ever just lay in bed all day and let what I went through

00:12:38.880 completely debilitate me and make me not want to get up out of bed. But I just want to thank God

00:12:45.940 because I don't know. I don't know how I would have done it without him. I was able to get out

00:12:50.920 of bed every morning and have joy throughout the day you know have fun throughout the day find

00:12:57.160 happiness true happiness and I don't know I truly don't know how I wasn't just like in bed all day

00:13:04.560 crying I I really don't but that's that's why I really see now that God was with me through the

00:13:12.180 entire thing because there's no way I could have done that on my own or just with my family or

00:13:17.840 friends help, which is great, but really just try and find your relationship with God and talk to

00:13:23.340 him. My third tip would be friends and family. Make sure you have your people to support you.

00:13:30.380 I don't know what I would have done without my twin sister, who was there for me 24-7,

00:13:35.240 my friends as well. Put friends around you that'll just tell you what you want to hear and not be

00:13:39.680 honest until you get back with your husband. Family, it truly helped me so much. They knew

00:13:45.280 what I needed at the time they knew if I needed to get out the house or if I just wanted to sit

00:13:50.660 and be sad or like I'm done with this rambling okay guys um let me know what you think in the

00:13:56.340 comments have you seen women that take advice from other women to get divorced and it didn't

00:14:01.680 pan out for them let me know in the comments like the video and I will see you next time

Pearl - May 14, 2026

Women Lead Other Women To DESTRUCTION

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