Pearl - Women Perceive Kindness As WEAKNESS

00:00:00.000 Okay, so today we're talking about nice guys and why nice guys finish last and it's for a good reason.

00:00:05.980 Now, this might be one of my more controversial streams, but oftentimes all of society wants women to get with Betabucks.

00:00:13.520 Now, Betabucks in a relationship in the context of a woman, meaning they're letting the woman lead.

00:00:20.860 Women typically pick betabucks for resources, parental investment, and they typically pick

00:00:29.220 alphabucks for genetic material or leadership qualities. Now, we get into a little bit of a

00:00:35.020 problem because women naturally want to procreate with alphabucks. Women naturally do not like

00:00:40.440 betabucks. To be fair, women don't like anybody, right? Thank you. Thank you for the $20 super

00:00:46.060 chat we don't like any we don't even like ourselves so don't take it too personal but women want to be

00:00:51.820 with alpha fucks and in order for society to function women have to reproduce with the best

00:00:57.980 genetic material possible but this poses a problem because women are naturally always going to pick

00:01:05.220 the top 20 percent of men now this is contextual the same guy could be the bottom 80 percent of

00:01:11.200 men and the 20 80 percent but top 20 percent of men at different points in his life and even in

00:01:16.420 different rooms like for example I have a friend who plays guitar and he jumps into the top 20

00:01:21.840 percent of men um he jumps into the top 20 percent of men immediately when he plays his guitar

00:01:28.600 bitches love guitar so in order for society to function women must date men they don't like now

00:01:34.200 this causes a ton of issues women did have less choice in the past and conservatives argue um

00:01:41.100 that they did have a choice. But really, when you take into account societal shame

00:01:46.240 and the lack of free shit being given to women, women had to marry men they did not like in order

00:01:55.120 to survive. Now women have the choice to live without men. Yes, women need skills, men's skills

00:02:04.040 and money to survive. But collectively, as a society, we have subsidized women's ability to

00:02:10.700 be with the top 20% of men. Now the equivalent of this, I was thinking about it. And if you guys

00:02:15.840 have a thought later in the show, when you, we do the call-in, um, I was thinking about that women,

00:02:22.180 um, the equivalent of this would be young women being subsidized for men to bang. I don't know

00:02:28.020 how, but if you, if you got it, if you got a better analogy, put it in the chat. Women will

00:02:32.620 always organize themselves to be with the top percentage of men and hypergamy is not a straight

00:02:37.420 jacket a lot of times men put their own point of view on women men like things that are dependable

00:02:43.260 useful and obedient so many times when fathers brothers or even male friends tell women who to

00:02:51.340 pick they tell women to pick men that are dependable obedient and useful but the issue is

00:02:56.440 the customer is always right and that's not what women want women like chaos women like strength

00:03:01.100 that is emotional strength money to some degree although that's not what we pick first in genetic

00:03:06.880 material um now i had a reaction or a coffee talk the other day i can't remember the precise topic

00:03:12.880 but i noticed um there's a comment that i thought articulated this pretty well i said that marrying

00:03:20.320 a man that's a provider um is an l for women and i think this offended some of the guys in the chat

00:03:26.000 because i mean who which one of you which one of you guys hasn't been a provider at some point you

00:03:31.760 You know what I mean? It's just an L. And you know, I think men come back and they say, hey, but

00:03:37.400 objectively, logically, that's a good deal for women. And I'm like, look, the customer's always

00:03:43.220 right. That's not what women want. Women want spark connection. We want to be with Leonardo

00:03:47.800 DiCaprio on the freaking like boat. You know, you can't shame the customer out of wanting what they

00:03:54.820 want. You could argue it's immoral, but that does not change the fact that women want men

00:03:59.860 that have high status behaviors and not money. Now let's go into the female psyche. Any woman

00:04:07.540 that has sex out of obligation knows how to, any woman that has sex out of obligation feels like

00:04:15.680 they have to have sex. Most women have sex out of obligation and not desire. For example, I have to

00:04:22.620 have sex with my boyfriend so he proposes. I have to have sex with my husband so he does not leave

00:04:28.500 me going into the female psyche is understanding that women want and their dream is to have sex for

00:04:34.500 fun and not to get things out of it not for resources so that's where false rape are that's

00:04:41.380 where false rape allegations come into play although women are evil and spiteful and all

00:04:45.780 that stuff a lot of times it's because women retrospectively view sex that they had to have

00:04:51.060 out of obligation is rape now it's not um necessarily true right but that's how we feel

00:04:58.420 and in this society the customer is always right and it's useful to understand how women feel right

00:05:03.780 robert glover's book somebody called me out on this in the chat no more mr nice guy discusses

00:05:09.460 the idea that nice men are not nice in fact they are weak nice guys are secretive nice guys are

00:05:15.780 are fundamentally dishonest. They give gifts and presents and submit to the women in hopes that

00:05:22.660 she will give them sex or genuine desire in return. Nice guys are actually unable and unwilling to

00:05:29.020 verbalize their own needs. Nice guys are not willing to correct women in their lives. They're

00:05:34.220 neurotic. They're always thinking what will go wrong. He puts himself on a pedestal for being

00:05:38.860 attentive to the needs and desires of others and gives with the expectation of getting something

00:05:44.020 back nice guys are controlling they can't control emotions so when problems arrive um they get

00:05:50.980 weird you know it's kind of like the guy that freaks out you know like when here here's the

00:05:55.620 difference a nice guy that you know jack and in titanic i use this a lot because women love this

00:06:01.000 this movie uh the reason the rich fiance was a villain to rose is because he was neurotic you

00:06:07.440 know rose said look ninja i'm gonna go bang this guy in the bottom of the boat sorry not sorry i'm

00:06:13.560 going to go bang him. And the fiance, you know, he pulled out a gun and crashed out. That's what

00:06:19.360 the nice guy does. Cause he's like, it's like repressed, right? It's like, I have done all

00:06:23.620 this stuff for you. I expect you to do this for me. Where if he was a real ninja, he would have

00:06:29.100 just said, have fun on the, have fun on the bottom of the boat, bitch. Um, is there a nice

00:06:35.560 young Latina? Is there a, is there a Latina from the bottom of the boat who wants to come with me?

00:06:41.020 i need a new wife do you know what i mean that's an attractive mindset but he crashed out do you

00:06:46.960 know what i mean this this guy crashes out gets a gun gets so mad titanic was fiction okay i know

00:06:54.000 it was fiction i'm totally aware it was fiction but it speaks to the female psyche there's a

00:06:59.580 reason women relate to this movie right it's women's dream to marry the guy that that they

00:07:04.960 love for him and not money um nice guys use their behavior to control outcomes nice guys give in

00:07:11.680 order to get you know and women do this too it's kind of like men at some point all women are

00:07:18.240 basically nice guys nice guys in a way are adopting the female psyche because women give in order to

00:07:24.160 get that's why sometimes you know when men are banging a chick right and she's like oh let me

00:07:30.640 cook dinner and then the chat is like no sorry sorry you will not cook dinner because i don't

00:07:37.180 want you to be entitled to anything for me in the future i'm here to pump and dump bitches you know

00:07:44.140 she says i got you concert tickets he's like no you know because he understands that about women

00:07:49.740 but it's like adopting a female mentality right um nice guys give in order to get nice guys are

00:07:57.700 passive-aggressive. They're full of rage and repressed rage. Rage that women are choosing

00:08:02.800 assholes. I am nice, so you owe me sex and love. Nice guys outsource their worth to her reactions

00:08:09.180 so they don't feel good enough in their own skin. It's based on how women respond, right?

00:08:14.700 Niceness is covering up insecurity. Women aren't broken or hypocritical for choosing men who take

00:08:22.520 risks hold frame and don't seek validation from them the rejection of the classic nice guy is a

00:08:28.360 feature not a bug a bug and it's accurate first for it's accurate screening for men who can actually

00:08:35.960 lead and create attraction instead of covertly demanding it men that complain about women tend

00:08:41.880 to be reactive even though i complain about women um in a way um complaining about women in general

00:08:49.720 shows that and this is i'd like to say this is very hypocritical and i'm gonna keep doing it

00:08:54.520 some things some some flaws that you have you'll just keep going you'll just keep going with it

00:09:00.760 it's like well take me or leave it but when you complain about women it's um communicating that

00:09:07.400 you're bad with women right it's communicating um that you're react it's like not holding frame

00:09:13.320 because you're reacting to other people you know the guy reacting to a woman doing something to him

00:09:19.000 he's not holding frame, even though it's like perfectly reasonable. He's like, I paid for this

00:09:23.260 cruise. I got you on the lifeboat and you're banging some guy in a car. But the, the, if he

00:09:29.720 was a Chad, he would have said, all right, next bitch. You know, nice guy, nice guys are reactive

00:09:35.340 to women. Nice guys do not have the courage to be honest. Nice guys don't have the courage to

00:09:40.740 look dumb. Nice guys live in fear. They do not have the courage to make mistakes. And this

00:09:45.000 repulses women women hate men that are um looking for her approval validation seeking behaviors

00:09:52.600 include bombarding women with good morning texts and how are you messages seeking reassurance do

00:09:58.120 you like me this is tied to childhood patterns of managing mom's moods replicated with women

00:10:04.440 it reads as low value and puts her in a masculine role the i did everything right resentment after

00:10:10.600 months and years of being the perfect supportive partner um listening helping and never cheating

00:10:15.720 he complains that she's not affectionate or sexual enough um guys who's always available

00:10:21.080 and never rocks the boat and then wonders why dead bedroom or she branches to someone with edge

00:10:27.480 uh women reject or lose attraction because it signals he can't lead or handle reality without

00:10:33.400 his validation and i was thinking about it i'm like in a way the guys that are um courageous

00:10:39.320 enough to be assholes to women in a way they kind of deserve the they kind of deserve it because um

00:10:46.840 i think it's more difficult when you love a woman like i think it's easier for a man to make a

00:10:53.080 million dollars than hurt a woman's feelings when he really loves her is that is that bait of me to

00:10:59.000 think it just seems like it seems like a man could easier make a million dollars or succeed at work

00:11:05.880 then he could say no to women and i say this i say this because i just look around and nobody

00:11:11.080 seems to be able to do it right it seems like that's actually more difficult because i think

00:11:18.360 i've met more maybe maybe it's my circles right but i think i've met more millionaires or men on

00:11:24.200 track to be millionaires by the time they're 40 or 50 or 60 than men that say no to their wives

00:11:29.720 that they love is that crazy being a nice guy um is like wanting a reward for raising a brat

00:11:36.980 so it's kind of like imagine if you had a company right and the boss said i did so much for the

00:11:43.980 employees i did how did they not respect me and you're like do you want a cookie for

00:11:50.100 having terrible employees like when you think about it like that you almost start to when you

00:11:56.220 start to think about it like men allowing things you almost start blaming the man instead of the

00:12:01.880 woman like you know Steph Curry it's like can you not get your woman in line are you gonna tell her

00:12:08.400 to shut the fuck up do you know what I mean like when their wives are wilding out it's like you

00:12:14.180 don't have the courage to stand up to your wife oh but she could take everything and that better

00:12:19.000 than a nagging wife in your ear your kids are gonna have to suffer because they're never gonna

00:12:24.680 like you're gonna allow her to ruin them too and when i started thinking of it like this i'm like

00:12:30.020 i think we're right and so i thought about this a little further and i'm like in a way it's really

00:12:35.560 on the guy for allowing women to treat him that way all right contracts i gave you a back rub so

00:12:42.960 you owe me sex i bought you dinner so you owe me sex um it leads us to accept it hate accepting

00:12:51.400 things from you because we don't want to accept anything. Like it's like crazy. If you meet a

00:12:57.540 22 year old hot chick, it's absurd. The amount of, um, it's the absurd, the amount of resources

00:13:04.820 that are thrown at her 24 seven. And it's, you start to not even feel bad for the guys. Cause

00:13:10.120 you're just like, she's made it so clear. She's not into you. And you just keep throwing the

00:13:16.640 money, keep throwing the validation. You keep telling her how awesome she is. What are you

00:13:20.620 getting out of this why is it that the guy has to bring everything to the table well you don't have

00:13:25.320 to play right it's you know we have a bunch of fat whores on the market you know i'm not saying

00:13:29.940 you got to play but if you're gonna play it is on you what you allow you know and i don't mean to

00:13:37.080 say this to judge or to nag you i'm sure i couldn't do it better but i just i'm kind of thinking of

00:13:43.100 this concept because if you start to think of men as the bosses of households that's what they're

00:13:48.940 supposed to be right if you have a boss that's tricked into thinking that he's equal by employees

00:13:57.680 do you feel that bad for him are they nice or are they just weak and it's okay right i'm a weak in

00:14:03.080 a lot of ways i'm soft in a lot of ways i'm not judging i'd like to make it clear this is not this

00:14:08.200 is a judgment-free zone i don't think i'm better than anybody um but i i think of things because

00:14:14.880 come from a sports background in terms of sports and like if you lose a game it's so much more

00:14:20.640 helpful to know why you lost i remember i had a female versus a male coach and the male coach

00:14:27.440 would just say you did x y and z and the female coach would be like talking about our feelings

00:14:33.440 from the game you know nice is nice weak is weak two different things well you can call in and tell

00:14:38.880 me if you think i'm wrong hey i don't think i know everything um okay frame is controlling what you

00:14:45.680 can control women like oh wait let me get the actual definition because i thought i had it in

00:14:51.120 here i don't want to misquote it is the set of beliefs interpretation of events and personal

00:14:57.040 boundaries that define a person's reality okay yeah so it's like if you're worried about her

00:15:02.800 cheating you're in her frame you're not in your frame she should be worried about you cheating

00:15:07.200 Ninja.

Pearl - April 18, 2026

Women Perceive Kindness As WEAKNESS

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