Pearl - May 25, 2026Women Who Can't Stop COPING Over Divorce
Episode Stats
Harmful content
Misogyny
17
sentences flagged
Toxicity
11
sentences flagged
Hate speech
18
sentences flagged
Summary
In this episode, we re reacting to women coping in real time and in real life. We re talking about how to deal with a situation where a partner no longer wants to be intimate with you, how to cope, and why it s okay to leave a situation that no longer serves you.
Transcript
00:00:00.000
if you really pay attention to these women a lot of times it's just a lack of gratitude and wanting
00:00:05.600
more all right what's up guys welcome to my reaction series uh what's up guys welcome to
00:00:11.840
my reaction series so today we're reacting to women um coping in real time and i don't know
00:00:17.360
women we just have this funny thing where um whenever we take an l we just have to make it
00:00:22.640
everybody's problem and it's like we number one we tell everybody and not only do we tell everybody
00:00:31.200
but we also try to cope and make everybody say that it's not an l and that we were right
00:00:38.000
and the cope um is usually pretty funny so here we're gonna watch the cope
0.88
00:00:47.360
and this one's for the grillies who built their whole entire life around another person listen
00:00:51.200
into this okay probably as vulnerable as i get online but i've always been in relationship or
00:00:56.200
some type of situationship where there's another person there for me since i was like 16 my ex
00:01:01.060
cheated on me immediately i got with my husband like to me there was nothing scarier than being
00:01:06.040
alone so my entire self-worth came from another partner validating me like i felt like i had to
00:01:11.860
be loved by someone at all times there was only two things i knew at the time like i wanted to
00:01:16.060
be loved by someone but i also wanted to live in china because it wasn't my choice to come to america
00:01:19.780
even though i'm thankful it wasn't my choice mom got remarried when i was 10 and i just got
00:01:24.180
dropped over here like i literally picked a college major that i do not care about which
00:01:27.940
was international business and all i wanted was like okay if i do international business it
00:01:32.500
probably means i can move to china and i also filed to be an exchange student in china for my
00:01:37.300
second year of college but then i met my husband moved in together pretty much right away okay
00:01:42.020
girls this is a big mistake we literally merged into each other like our hobbies our lives right
00:01:47.460
Right around this time, COVID also hit, so now we're really stuck with each other.
00:01:50.880
At this point, I started planning everything around us, my schedule, my work, and the craziest
00:01:58.500
Women will spend their youth with a man, right?
0.98
00:02:00.980
And then the issue is we tend to resent the man, so we put a lot of time into him, and
0.98
00:02:07.140
then we resent not spending that time on ourselves and spending it on him because men tend to
00:02:14.980
they don't really like to change their schedule for you and we're not really attracted to them
1.00
00:02:19.680
if they do that so um then the women later are like oh i wish i did all these things it's probably
1.00
00:02:25.680
things they couldn't have even done anyway because most women are lazy but they'll convince themselves
0.93
00:02:30.000
they could have did those things and then it's like a rabbit hole my purpose is to be with my
1.00
00:02:34.200
husband and honestly for a while it worked out just oh fuck until like the moment it didn't
0.97
00:02:39.460
anymore like my brain was like developing literally the beginning of this year we were planning for a
0.98
00:02:43.880
child because i felt like i don't know what my purpose is anymore do i become a suburban mom
1.00
00:02:49.220
get ready with me okay well she'll cope all right now we have a fat woman with tattoos and pink hair
00:02:56.640
all right so when i left my ex-husband it wasn't because i hated him you know things just weren't
00:03:05.740
okay so for no reason she got bored there anymore and i'm too much of a happy person to be miserable
00:03:13.200
in a relationship so i left for the both of us to be happy made her a lot happier but she didn't
00:03:20.840
realize it because he made her richer better you know healthier and just an all-out better
00:03:25.940
life altogether but she will never appreciate him i left for him to have the ability to find
00:03:32.300
someone who could give him the love and attention that i just couldn't give him right and so i
00:03:37.540
explain that to him and he understood i suppose at the time and so i felt comfortable leaving
00:03:46.020
on good terms you know we still co-parented really well together um i moved in with a friend
00:03:52.820
and things were fine until they weren't because flipping the script on me randomly
00:04:00.660
especially after he started seeing other women which is fine that's what i wanted
00:04:06.340
but that's when he changed and then i became the enemy and i was shut out there's a lot more to it
00:04:15.220
i'll explain in more videos yeah there wasn't more to it and she's just coping
00:04:23.140
getting fat number three and why it didn't work out basically it comes down to we weren't
0.84
00:04:28.500
fucking he did not want to be intimate with me everything you know she looks thin so i'm gonna
0.98
00:04:33.700
to say she was such a she was mean to him all the time and then he didn't want to have sex with her
1.00
00:04:38.060
about me was an issue because i very quickly got depressed he we got married a month later he was
00:04:46.980
off into germany for four months between the honeymoon and when he left for germany we
00:04:53.540
twice sorry mom for the language but yes we only were intimate twice and come to find out while he
00:04:59.640
there he was on kick and there was all this other things like i started gaining weight because of
00:05:05.080
oh okay so she did get fat i didn't she doesn't look i can't see how big she is we'll look after
00:05:10.200
she's done how miserable i was and i knew the intimacy was bad but the financial stability
00:05:18.840
that he was gonna be able to provide outweighed you know i would i thought i could make myself
00:05:24.840
continue with the relationship and very quickly as time went on it was always like oh i don't
00:05:32.440
like your hair naturally curly or i would try to initiate oh i already took care of it myself so
00:05:38.600
lack of intimacy and he was just very financially controlling and so i was going to try to force
00:05:46.920
myself to work through it because i said we just had a big wedding my parents spent this money
00:05:52.120
i made a huge mistake and now i'm just going to be completely complete failure and it was
00:05:58.920
what do you guys if you were in a sexless marriage on your part why was it sexless
00:06:04.040
tell me in the comments talking to my dad and him being like it's okay you can get divorced you if
00:06:12.760
you're seriously unhappy get divorced this is what i mean when men um they they assist women
00:06:19.880
and making terrible decisions like the men will help her move and then take care of those so like
00:06:24.920
the women i don't know a lot of people say women regret divorce and i don't think so because there's
00:06:29.880
too many men that still take care of them and so i did and it relieved so much because i wasn't
00:06:35.880
sleeping well for months trying to like figure out that what i'm gonna do and it was my dad saying
00:06:42.680
listen you don't have any kids thank god for that you can start over and i know you're embarrassed
00:06:50.200
but trust me the right guy's not going to care if you've been married three times
00:06:53.480
also oh my gosh this is your third like to mention that my ex would always throw out oh i know that
00:07:01.480
you'll never divorce me because you'd be too embarrassed to tell people that you've been
00:07:05.320
divorced three times so haha jokes on him so we've kind of wrapped that up basically that's what it
00:07:12.200
It is lack of intimacy, overly financially controlling, and just we weren't vibing.
00:07:36.040
Clearly, I am divorcing my husband after being a stay-at-home mom for six years.
0.97
00:07:42.200
And you guys keep asking me for the tea, so I'm going to tell you the freaking tea, okay?
00:07:46.380
Because most people, like, stay-at-home mom, it's a good life, right?
0.70
00:07:52.220
Why would I be leaving my husband after being a stay-at-home mom for six years?
00:07:57.340
I have everything that I ever hoped and dreamed for, right?
00:08:02.160
And then she's going to talk about how it wasn't enough.
00:08:04.860
If you really pay attention to these women, a lot of times it's just a lack of gratitude
00:08:10.820
and i would say that's sort of the it's like women's toxic just never being satisfied
1.00
00:08:18.780
because it's easy for someone to become financially controlling and abusive when
00:08:27.300
you are relying on that person to literally live every single day i would rather be broke
00:08:36.100
and by myself than trapped in a house with that and then if you break it down and say well was
00:08:44.100
he hitting you it's it's always emotional abuse which can be damn near anything and truthfully
00:08:50.100
i guess i'm just another statistic because my daughter died four years ago um and if you look
00:08:57.300
at the statistics like those marriages don't last so maybe it's that i don't know um he threatened
0.89
00:09:05.380
to kill me about a year ago and that's when i was like mentally like i fucking checked out of
0.55
00:09:09.840
everything like so that's the tea i mean it's not it's not piping hot or anything but being a stay
0.95
00:09:16.840
at home mom isn't all that is cracked up to be okay now she's gonna cope um i would agree that
00:09:22.020
being a stay-at-home mom has its own problems um and women never anticipate those but all right
00:09:28.580
let's see what this next woman you know has to say what finally made me leave my husband
00:09:33.840
it wasn't a big fight it wasn't realizing of what was sacrificing it was realizing that i was
0.91
00:09:41.200
literally sacrificing my peace honestly i was still a mom i yeah what's gonna happen is women
00:09:48.360
run um and they say they're sacrificing their peace but the chaos is in us unfortunately
00:09:53.020
we have a hell on earth in us men will never understand the hell on earth that is in our brain
1.00
00:09:59.220
you know just imagine like you guys are so lucky because you're like these women torture me and
00:10:04.000
that's terrible but just imagine like being tortured by yourself yeah i was constantly on
00:10:08.500
the edge and i honestly stayed longer than i should have folks were paid there was food on
00:10:14.100
the table we had a home we had a not a home we had a ranch like we were living life
00:10:19.220
our life together we've worked together for a long time since we were in high school
00:10:23.260
and for a long time i was convinced that that was enough like literally thinking about it now i
00:10:28.840
thought that was enough but what people don't talk about is how lonely it was being with someone
00:10:34.880
who constantly was looking for attention and lusting over other women the cheating and the
00:10:40.500
lies the hiding things they all have a business trip but you were with somebody else yeah the
00:10:47.020
cheating women get tired of it eventually women are very spiteful have you guys i don't know my
0.96
00:10:53.200
experience eventually the women get tired of getting cheated on at some point anyways um
00:10:58.580
guys let me know what you think of the comments like the video and subscribe to the channel
00:11:02.180
um i love you guys thanks for watching and i'll see you next time