Pearl - Works Cited Coach Greg Adams And The Marriage Wheel Pearl Daily

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00:03:00.000 what up guys welcome to another episode of pearl daily i'm your host pearl and i'm telling you

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00:07:19.900 So, okay, so today we are talking about my Works Cited.

00:07:25.240 So today I am starting a Works Cited series on my channel

00:07:29.980 where I highlight content creators that were crucial in my development

00:07:34.120 in this red pill space.

00:07:36.140 Previously, this episode is going to be about Coach Greg Adams.

00:07:42.280 So CGA was a voice I discovered early on.

00:07:45.160 And I wasn't able to quite grasp what he was saying initially.

00:07:49.520 When I first heard his concept, the free agent lifestyle, I didn't really understand why a man would want to live that way.

00:07:55.960 Remember, I came from a traditional Catholic household that stressed traditional masculine duties for men, protecting, providing, getting married and having children.

00:08:05.200 The free agent lifestyle tells men to free themselves from the shackles of the plantation of expectation, from the shackles of the plantation and expectation of commitment and pursuing women.

00:08:19.620 2025 Pearl Radical Acceptance Pearl would recommend the free agent lifestyle to men in the current day, especially with the type of women the average man has to choose from.

00:08:29.340 Coach Greg Adams was one of the main voices that I heard speak about the family court system.

00:08:34.100 His channel covers at length the disadvantage men face when going through divorce or fighting for their children.

00:08:41.160 If you're an average guy or a little above, you get married at your own peril.

00:08:45.600 Women reserve the right to destroy your household, take your kids, and use that court as a weapon against you at any time. 1.00

00:08:52.160 They will use the dirty tactics in court to get what they want, false allegation included.

00:08:57.940 So, CGA has this thing called the marriage wheel. 0.83

00:09:04.100 And what I like about CGA is he has a ton of just original concepts.

00:09:08.400 Now, it's tough in the space because you don't always know where everything came from and, like, things get repeated.

00:09:14.180 But I found a lot of stuff actually originated from CGA.

00:09:18.280 He is, when I did my interview with him a couple of years ago, it was, like, one of the most eye-opening interviews I would say that I did over the years.

00:09:30.080 Economist writes, Greg Adams' marriage wheel is legendary.

00:09:33.740 well let's talk about it what is the marriage wheel the marriage wheel is basically the predictor of

00:09:38.540 most if not all marriages it's it's what i call the spoiler alert of marriages okay so what you're

00:09:43.980 basically going to find out is there's a formula to marriage in order to keep it uh working which 0.96

00:09:48.540 you have to connect connection phases number one okay obviously that's simple most people can do

00:09:52.780 that you do it at a 99 failure rate but most people can do that all right um once they get

00:09:57.900 to that particular phase you got to go through the investment stage and when when which the man has

00:10:02.860 to start investing to keep the ball rolling right investing what sense investing in all senses so

00:10:07.660 there has to be production of children there has to be investment into those children there has to

00:10:12.460 be home purchases or at least considering that financial financial investment cars vacations

00:10:18.860 you got to keep this ball up and particularly i'm getting stressed out listening to this yeah yeah

00:10:23.500 exactly i'll be i got a bathroom break right now okay go ahead and so if you don't um if you don't

00:10:29.340 don't get that if you don't give that investment the marriage is on right oh it's pretty much

00:10:33.400 going to be over so now if you do create that investment which most men do especially if

00:10:37.860 there's children you're going to go through the next phase and which is the bait and switch

00:10:41.740 which essentially nobody can tell me this man is not pure comedic gold

00:10:50.160 they didn't set you up so essentially

00:10:53.640 in the court systems where 50 plus divorce rate you have 70 of people who have been in marriages

00:11:02.600 have at least talked to a divorce attorney at that particular point now you have hey you keep

00:11:08.160 if she changes the rule of the game and you don't change with her

00:11:11.520 lose the investment this is typically what's happening in our marital system so 1.00

00:11:15.980 i tell people that that's going to come she's either become a feminist or the real feminist 1.00

00:11:20.480 that was in her that she hid in order to get the investment will show up if you don't go along with

00:11:26.880 her plan you go to stage number four which is the disengagement stage uh-oh and thus you pay for 0.94

00:11:32.800 play you're gonna pay a hefty check in the end he's so funny god to her to her to the system

00:11:42.800 to the state everybody benefits except you except you yeah you're the one paying and then you lose

00:11:46.960 your kids and so forth oh you said then your children are gone yeah your children some men

00:11:51.120 are like how are you that was the only good part of the deal yeah but you you you gonna pay for

00:11:55.840 them though if you lose oh no say it ain't uh the baker writes peace of the saints coach greg do you 0.99

00:12:01.520 believe believe do you believe paying for blocks is a stupid move well i mean listen would you 0.98

00:12:10.000 spending on that box what am i spending on it let me see let me look at my last let me look at that 0.99

00:12:13.920 cash app listen i've spent these 304s taking cash apps now they're doing cash oh they dangerous out

00:12:19.600 here they leaving paper trails i got to operate in cash only yeah don't yeah yes exactly um the

00:12:27.520 most i've ever spent on box was probably sixty thousand dollars maybe about a hundred thousand

00:12:33.280 okay yeah tell me more yeah um it's called marriage

00:12:40.560 so the most i've ever spent is 60k on there okay and uh it's definitely a pay-for-play move so yes 0.63

00:12:47.440 in that instance it's a stupid move but if you want me to go further let me know okay james 0.92

00:12:51.360 writes coach is just uh-oh coach is just bitter because his wife forced him into debt dang yeah 0.99

00:12:59.760 even though someone told him before their engagement that she had mental issues

00:13:05.520 hashtag vetting i know a lot of men that weren't told their wives had mental issues

00:13:12.560 it's no guarantee either peace to the saints they speak in their mind now what he deserves

00:13:20.480 he deserves because i often find it ironic that many people who talk like that to me 0.98

00:13:25.680 don't have no picture on their damn thumbnail all right so obviously that fat boy sitting over there 0.98

00:13:32.160 you know he's sitting over there wishing he was me okay you clicked on my face today 0.99

00:13:36.720 well congratulations all right that's enough said about that

00:13:41.760 you wouldn't be here if it wasn't for me showing up on this show all right what would you be doing

00:13:45.920 with your day that's what i have to say about that but anyway let's just handle the what he said here

00:13:50.480 Okay. Um, essentially what he went into is the common bitter and all of these things. Well,

00:13:55.540 listen, um, I'd be pretty bitter too. If I spent $60,000, I mean, can you, this argument,

00:14:04.360 the men are bitter. Yeah. Number one, if we were in their shoes, we would be pretty women get,

00:14:15.020 do you know what happens women will give a guy their youth but come out scotch-free we don't 0.99

00:14:20.700 pay anything and we get bitter right but the men the men give a woman their youth which I get it 1.00

00:14:28.900 it's not the same but and then the next 20 years of child support so they give them like half their

00:14:35.020 life and somehow they come out with a good attitude I don't really know how I don't I don't

00:14:41.440 really get it um but i'll interview guys that are going through a ton and they somehow have a great

00:14:48.380 attitude we try to warm in about these situations this is why i'm when you're saying we're talking

00:14:53.000 about like the manosphere the free agent so so what what i'm doing is you would hope that there's

00:14:58.480 a person like me speaking out on these issues so you don't walk into issues like that all right so

00:15:02.480 we you know i i tell people where my flaws were i tell people where my mistakes from and but what

00:15:07.460 he tried to do was put the mistake back on me when i've already admitted the flaw it's already in the

00:15:11.720 book sir so what were you trying to accomplish all right you were trying to accomplish to try to

00:15:16.380 one-up and potentially embarrass me but i've already spoken on the issues i've actually had

00:15:20.280 it published and all that stuff so there's no bitterness other than the male jealousy that you

00:15:25.500 might be trying to do to show me up but the mistakes have already been admitted and since

00:15:30.080 i made the mistakes i made them before you to give you this advice so that's okay yeah some men need

00:15:35.560 learn and obviously his father went out for milk did not come back all right but it's okay

00:15:42.200 checks and balances is back he writes why not just have trust offshore accounts and prenup

00:15:47.480 for asset protection if you want marriage this is what the top one percent do it's all legal

00:15:51.960 protects you a thousand percent courts can't touch trust offshore accounts it's not entirely true but

00:15:57.080 but I think that the right is not entirely true.

00:16:01.980 But the fact is, if you refrain from getting legally married,

00:16:06.540 that would be your first major step in protection.

00:16:09.120 And one thing I tell the saints is that I prefer to have a woman who's wealthy and beautiful.

00:16:14.640 You heard me?

00:16:15.080 That would be nice.

00:16:15.760 And if I had to pick one, I'm always going for wealthy.

00:16:19.540 Let us mess around in divorce. 0.93

00:16:21.180 She needs to be worried about her assets. 0.96

00:16:23.220 You know what I'm saying?

00:16:24.360 you know what i knew a guy in london and his strategy was to get really jacked and go after

00:16:32.520 the women that worked in law and finance and that way he was like i can get a kid out of them 0.88

00:16:38.360 and then when she cheats at work i can put her on alimony and child support 1.00

00:16:45.080 i was like i don't know if that'll work but hey you might as well go for it that would be the

00:16:49.640 smartest way to do it yeah keep these broke uh 304s away from your boy you dig mr highway writes 0.81

00:16:55.800 i mainly look at coach as an old school anti-marriage paralegal

00:17:02.840 these boys are wild paralegal they get creative i like it that's good paralegal

00:17:09.800 monetize your creativity the rest of his stances are up to your personal tastes

00:17:14.920 slash preferences as a man apparently very legal all right oh i like that uh rain man writes peace

00:17:22.600 to the saints if a man wants marriage what is best for asset protection i like cga to answer

00:17:28.760 first then mark i don't think cga oh wow i don't think he has a real solution wowzer he's never

00:17:35.240 been in a family court he's never understood this you never met with a lawyer have you ever met with

00:17:39.080 a lawyer have you ever met with a lawyer divorce attorney or what you're prop is you're proposing

00:17:43.400 here. You're more likely to hear what I have to say. I'm sorry, you were more likely to hear my

00:17:49.500 response when they tell you the reality of that situation than anything else. So, I mean, it just

00:17:53.840 speaks to the non-experience that you have. I would tell you, if you do go the side of access

00:17:59.500 asset protection, it could get kicked out of court or better yet, which most people don't

00:18:06.460 understand anything can be challenged in court if someone does sue you for it so i could have

00:18:13.340 an ironclad prenup but if the woman is foolish enough to contest the prenup you got to pay the 0.99

00:18:19.420 cost to con for the contested prenup so is the prenup so you basically pay for your wife to sue 0.97

00:18:25.500 you isn't that rich dude it's crazy so stephen crowder his wife his ex-wife was on twitter saying

00:18:33.180 she was like looking for work and it was very obvious what she was doing she was trying to

00:18:37.100 elicit sympathy and say like because people knew they were getting divorced and she's like

00:18:41.420 is anyone hiring this was getting 25 000 a month 25 000 a month

00:18:52.940 the off and saying she needs money could you guys lit what would you guys do with 25k a month

00:19:03.180 valid it could be because if they contested and throw a case out your prenup will stand however 0.87

00:19:09.900 you spent the court costs and the time to fight the battle because she was foolish enough to think 0.99

00:19:15.080 that she could defend you or or beat you so was it worth it to have ironclad prenup or was it

00:19:20.940 worth the asset protection everything could be contested and this is what people don't understand

00:19:24.580 about law yeah a person sues you doesn't mean they have a legit reason to sue you the court

00:19:31.160 we'll hear businessmen understand that better see this is what people see yeah businessmen people

00:19:35.280 they don't understand that and most people settle like say for instance i had an asset protection

00:19:41.120 plan and i put it in front of the woman we married she we divorced she contested 1.00

00:19:46.760 most men will fight it and say f that b but the most men i'm sorry some men will say f that b

00:19:55.280 but some men will say all right all right right they'll settle for sure and they still so was

00:20:00.240 the access protection worth it you see what i mean so it's it's not a clear and cut and dry answer

00:20:05.520 you want a solution on a youtube video why don't you invest some money to meet with a divorce

00:20:10.480 attorney instead of using the opinions of us as the end-all be-all that's what i would tell you

00:20:15.200 and i tell everybody that in my books and i tell everybody that only on my video i actually have a

00:20:19.280 free book that tells everybody go meet with a lawyer i'm not the end-all be-all but i'm telling

00:20:25.200 you the experience here because i'm handsome enough for you to click on my face but anyway

00:20:30.240 In short, there are a number of tactics you can utilize, and one thing we know for sure is there's asset protection and then there's asset invisibility.

00:20:41.100 It's one thing to protect a known target. That's difficult. It's quite easy to protect a target people don't know about, and there are options that you can take, and obviously if you wanted to take those, you'd want to have a conversation one-on-one in private.

00:20:54.160 Right. And as far as attorneys, attorneys have, for the most part, limited knowledge. If you get

00:20:59.780 to a very high level attorney, they can make recommendations and introductions to you.

00:21:04.000 When you have an accountant, an attorney, they're a part of your team. And the best one is able to

00:21:07.880 say, hey, man, look, I can tell you how to litigate this if it goes to divorce court.

00:21:12.280 I can also recommend you to this banker in this particular locality who can set you up with X,

00:21:17.620 Y, and Z. They're a part of a team and they know how to get things done. That's really what you

00:21:21.860 want one more thing to that a lot of times um what men find out is when they go this route

00:21:27.020 that some attorneys are a part of the bar association and um they kind of work in in

00:21:32.440 collaboration to keep men in a financial position to pay right most litigation i sat by a guy on a

00:21:38.980 plane right and um this guy was telling me about his divorce because i'm a plane talker i know i'm

00:21:46.300 like the girl you don't want to sit next to on a plane because i'm gonna we're gonna chit chat do

00:21:51.260 You know what I mean?

00:21:51.800 Like, this is 2025.

00:21:55.620 I think I should have been alive in the 90s.

00:21:57.440 I think I should have.

00:21:58.180 It's really unfortunate.

00:21:58.880 I mean, I was like four, but it's unfortunate because now people just stare at their phones

00:22:04.360 and whatever.

00:22:04.840 I'm a chit-chatter now. 0.77

00:22:07.300 So when I was on the plane, he was telling me how he hired an attorney and the attorney

00:22:12.680 was doing such a good job that he started arguing for the attorney or a bad job.

00:22:17.500 sorry a bad job that he started arguing for the attorney attorney fired him on the spot and then

00:22:22.640 represented himself and i think it's um and then one custody of his kid and i think it's because um

00:22:29.620 like i i think a lot of men i've heard that a lot of men can argue their cases better than the

00:22:36.320 attorneys i've heard that because like the bar association that would make sense because if

00:22:42.500 you're a rich guy they want to keep you in court forever why would they not you know and these

00:22:48.960 divorces that you're trying to say are brought forth by women oh absolutely right so overwhelming 1.00

00:22:53.980 majority we're talking about 80 90 if women were unable to bring these cases forward there would 1.00

00:23:00.160 be no court there would be no attorneys these people wouldn't have jobs in essence their

00:23:04.640 solution sometimes and you'll find this i've had attorneys tell me well just pay the money don't

00:23:09.220 fight i i i've had i've been told that more than to fight correct yeah and i've been told that for

00:23:16.100 sure in terms i'm not talking about in terms of women just in general in general in general and 0.95

00:23:19.940 sometimes yeah it's better to just pay the money so in essence you might think these attorneys are

00:23:24.500 going to give you advice to asset protect but their their real key is to keep these things going

00:23:30.340 their money is in bringing women to the court their money is not into keeping um so

00:23:36.020 So let's see what we got.

00:23:39.060 So then we got there is no God in marriage in the United States. 0.99

00:23:44.340 Oh, is this when he kicked Hafiz's butt? 0.99

00:23:46.600 Oh, this was so funny. 0.99

00:23:49.960 Oh, this was one of the funniest things.

00:23:56.040 So if you guys didn't know, Hafiz debated CGA on this show.

00:24:02.680 And by the way, this is pretty early when I got into the Manosphere.

00:24:05.640 this is like two or three years ago let me let me see the date on this two years ago okay and

00:24:12.840 i debated hafiz the next day and he just like spurred out on me it was like the weirdest

00:24:22.360 it was just strange um but i didn't know he got like dunked on by cga yes so no question

00:24:29.320 what's your issue with this yeah so so it's always an interesting conversation because to me

00:24:33.880 like like one of the things i'm obsessed with and dr peterson talks about this so well is that the

00:24:39.240 more your words are in line with the truth the more powerful those words are and i don't know

00:24:45.640 where you are if you believe in god or not i don't know who kind of kind of person you are but like

00:24:49.240 like when you line your words up with god like that's when to me your words have the most weight

00:24:54.920 dr peterson that's why i feel like he's so powerful his words transcend humanity and it

00:25:00.040 speaks on this divine level and so to me when you're giving advice your advice has to be as 0.98

00:25:05.800 in line with what god believes the world should run as possible that's the dumbest thing i've ever 0.95

00:25:12.600 heard the equivalent of that would be saying me saying just assume your wife your girlfriend 0.97

00:25:21.560 before she met you she was a virgin because that's how god wanted the world to run 0.99

00:25:27.240 don't don't assume she hooked up with guys before you don't know god wanted her to be a virgin so

00:25:36.940 she's a virgin and so to me the best advice benefits men and benefits women that's the best

00:25:44.040 advice though to your opinion said we had 70 years of advice only benefiting women and men suffering

00:25:50.280 as because of it that is a lie that is wrong and an opposite extreme is wrong as well a world where

00:25:56.560 it all benefits men and the women don't benefit it's wrong that's why it's about the balance and 0.97

00:26:01.200 so to me i'm very curious about i love her questions because it was like i i it's not a

00:26:07.220 gotcha question it was a a genuine serious question shout out my guy ams i love ams he did

00:26:12.540 a video about you know advice i would give to my daughter where he actually answers the questions

00:26:17.980 directly and so to me i i'm very interested in those questions because like when i would watch

00:26:24.560 kevin samuels and god rest the dead and it was so powerful because he would always push women 0.57

00:26:31.360 to being married because he knew do you think these hoes want to get married 1.00

00:26:38.560 like this is this is the problem youtubers start to think they start to think they're literally god

00:26:44.240 right and they think that if you like this is what i get a lot they're like pearl why don't

00:26:50.000 you tell women to be better why don't like why don't you have a solution do you think 1.00

00:26:54.560 Let me, okay, let me, let me, let me get this straight. Pearl saying,

00:27:01.680 don't divorce rape your husband. Like imagine you guys who've been married before your ex-wives, 0.67

00:27:09.900 imagine if they saw my video and I was saying, guys, do not put your husbands through hell in

00:27:15.820 divorce court. Don't get divorced. Do you know what they would have said? Next video.

00:27:21.800 do you think i am gonna stop a scorned woman you guys have got to be out of your freaking 1.00

00:27:29.780 mind if you think i have that kind of pull nope i just try to say hey this is where the world's 0.95

00:27:35.440 going adapt the beauty and the value and the protection and the safety like like in a being

00:27:41.520 a woman and being married nobody wants their daughter to be 41 years old single mom baby mom 1.00

00:27:46.960 of three nobody wants that for their daughter especially they want kids so to me i think the

00:27:51.520 the the part of the conversation needs to be is this information benefiting both human beings

00:27:59.680 that's is it benefiting both human beings my question is is it true right

00:28:10.080 gen z is the most the biggest group of women ever to be on only fans that's not a fun thing to admit 1.00

00:28:16.480 but is it true when you're on team men it only needs to benefit team men if you're on team

00:28:20.960 republican only needs to benefit team republican if you're on team america has to benefit all

00:28:24.800 americans if you're on team human has to benefit both males and females so that's why i loved her

00:28:29.200 questions because i think the best like i can give my hardcore advice to benefit men and i know

00:28:36.080 without a shadow of a die the most hardcore advice that benefits men simultaneously benefits women 0.71

00:28:41.360 one one more thing i'll add to that and i hope you i don't mean to offend you there's no god

00:28:45.280 in marriage in the united states so oh he just dunked on his head cga is so good they need to 0.98

00:28:55.820 i wish i could see cga on like pierce morgan or something like i would love it's so unfortunate

00:29:02.400 because i get invited on these shows and you know i'm happy to be invited i'm gonna do

00:29:07.700 you know the best i like i'm gonna do the best i can i'm gonna i i do my best right

00:29:13.980 but some of these guys are just they are such good debaters and they would kill on some of

00:29:24.480 these big shows but they'll never have them on because um i mean it's just how these big shows

00:29:31.840 operate they i think they would be too detrimental like they would just kill and they would make the

00:29:37.360 hosts look so bad they just wouldn't do it that's kind of misleading and people will find that out

00:29:42.140 if your marriage is destroyed you go back to your pastor and you say hey my marriage is being

00:29:46.220 destroyed he has no power over that because it is a state agreement so i will bring you back to make

00:29:51.740 sure you understand and i counsel men there's no god in marriage that's been gone listen it was an

00:29:56.220 old idea it's absolutely gone unless you live in an american south so you most people on the west

00:30:01.420 coast many people in the east midwest there's no god in marriage so well break that down what do

00:30:05.340 you mean there's no god in marriage there's no god in marriage so people get married one of the

00:30:09.340 things that they will do is they will seek counsel of the church and then as such the guys will give

00:30:14.140 them guidance and it will be biblical principle however they will say we can't do anything until

00:30:18.860 you sign this state-sponsored agreement with family law context all right they're not going

00:30:24.220 to have a bible in there they're not going to have a bible in that divorce court the judge 1.00

00:30:27.820 is not going to ask you do you like god and what about god in your marriage there will be no context

00:30:32.460 to that how many of you guys got divorced by a christian woman happens to the best of us

00:30:42.500 it really does they're very good at deception they learn it from a young age because think 0.99

00:30:48.420 think about all right if our nature as women is just whores like let's just be honest here 1.00

00:30:53.780 when women are given freedom we just pick whore and so the christian women from a young age 1.00

00:31:01.840 have had to hide the whore right they've had to you know from as young as we want to be whores 1.00

00:31:08.820 we have to hide the whore so the christian women are almost the most deceptive it's like the biggest 1.00

00:31:17.060 red flag and such as such what is the overriding principle here does your marriage is state funded 0.99

00:31:23.580 not god like that was such a good line sorry i'm getting i don't mean to scream sorry guys

00:31:29.040 um but god do you hear that your marriage is state funded not god funded imagine if he said

00:31:35.640 that on like pierce morgan or something i wish one day they do made a random point that i didn't

00:31:40.820 make it random i told you that that's what was that and it's now offended you what did i say

00:31:45.920 no it didn't offend me you're just wrong let me let me say but wait wait wait let me finish

00:31:49.380 let me finish there's no god in the marriage in the united states you can talk let me finish

00:31:54.140 not a whole second let me let me let me finish are you gonna say there's no god in marriage in the

00:31:58.540 united states coach finish your point you're saying there's no there's no god in marriage

00:32:01.980 united states correct got it that was his point so now now i'm gonna talk so i made a point and

00:32:07.820 i said if your truth aligns with god that truth is most powerful that's what i said if your truth

00:32:15.740 aligns with god meaning the word that you speak aligns with god those words are the most powerful

00:32:21.260 that he made a point saying there is no god in marriage so so first that's a semantic

00:32:29.340 oh this was so good thing because god is everywhere whether god chooses to supervene

00:32:35.100 in things or not i am i will never be the person that says god is not here i will never be the

00:32:41.180 person that says god is not present here could we argue that that is god blessing every american

00:32:47.900 western marriage of course not of course god is not blessing every american but god is so this

00:32:53.180 right here this is when men cope right this is the problem at this point he's met a hot young

00:33:00.300 thing that he's trying to that's convincing him that she's different and he's got to cope now

00:33:05.340 because he's got to cope because he doesn't want to get screwed so he has to rationalize

00:33:15.100 that this girl is different and marriage is not dead right that's what he's trying to rationalize 0.78

00:33:21.580 and you guys have all done it some girl gives you the gluck glock and you're like ah she's so

00:33:26.700 different i love her she had to give a lot of gluck glucks to to get that good right 1.00

00:33:35.260 you guys you guys forget about that at times so yeah this is a cope right here cope definitely

00:33:42.060 in my parents marriage so when you say there is absolute statements there is no god in marriage

00:33:48.040 false they're correct there is no god in some marriages there is no god in most see that's

00:33:55.360 he's rationalizing he's saying my my girl is different she is not different at all

00:34:01.600 you could do like the spongebob whenever he gets divorced i'm sure it'll happen i just can't

00:34:09.800 imagine a girl you can just tell when men have developed frame sometimes it takes like half

00:34:15.940 their lives to get it he's not there yet he's too emotional most marriages in regards to by

00:34:21.440 being there no god mean that god's not blessing it right so if you're saying that god is not

00:34:26.100 blessing what's happening in most marriages that is a true statement but to say there is no god in

00:34:32.280 marriages period that is a false statement see now he's arguing like a woman right because that's

00:34:39.280 women do we have a tendency they say you can't make generalization so if cga is making a 1.00

00:34:48.660 generalization about marriage in the united states which is you know it's unilaterally true right

00:34:55.080 we have exported our bad marriages overseas you know that's why they say get oh no my girl got 0.89

00:35:02.360 westernized because in the west we have the worst reputation of marriage okay the worst 0.96

00:35:09.380 um anyways so

00:35:15.420 he is obviously going to um cope he's gonna cope because god is in my marriage and god is also in

00:35:25.340 my parents marriage and i will continue to say when it comes to even understand the ideas of god

00:35:30.480 god gives human beings free will it's very simple concept you can freely sin or you can freely obey

00:35:38.320 and god like a good father if you want to touch the stove you can touch the stove and so to me

00:35:44.160 i just think when you're making when people make statements like this how this statement makes me

00:35:50.200 feel icky that's what he's saying like how do you expect people to feel there is no

00:35:55.280 what are you a woman anybody yeah but okay do you know what he did this to me when i had him on 1.00

00:36:05.760 is he just monologues and then if you interrupt him he's like i'm still talking i'm like bet

00:36:10.880 you've been talking for like 20 minutes hey hey hey i'm talking i'm talking i'm talking and then

00:36:17.200 you get the opportunity to talk so to me is how do you expect people to react and so my biggest

00:36:21.840 thing is that what i'm only communicating in regards to the marriages is that if you are a

00:36:27.120 man do your due diligence be able to see if she fits your life be able to see what is her family

00:36:33.200 background you can't you can't protect yourself 100 from business failure from friendship failure

00:36:38.720 from anything in life but there is wisdom there is godly principles that you can adhere to that

00:36:44.000 can benefit you but there's no absolute guarantees that everything in life will be successful no one's

00:36:48.880 teaching anybody but and i'm not the most religious person here so let me just give that disclaimer

00:36:53.280 out there you either but yeah yeah how like i feel like god or really is all faith it's all

00:36:59.200 i believe in this and no matter what you tell me you're not going to convince me otherwise because

00:37:04.080 this is what i believe i'm sure that there's tons of marriages out there that they believe they go

00:37:08.160 to church every sunday and then next thing you know it's they get divorced and then god was in

00:37:12.560 their marriage so i'm just trying to establish what a godless marriage is or are god-filled

00:37:19.360 marriages like how how that that genuinely curiosity like how that works because he's

00:37:24.560 saying no is nala in a god-filled marriage i think what i think what coach is basically saying is

00:37:31.040 like look i don't care if you're going to church every sunday or not at the end of the day your

00:37:36.240 marriage is between you your significant other and right here on earth forget about it not in

00:37:40.000 clouds and that's what he said did you ask him a question or no i'm just i'm just bringing this

00:37:43.920 out to the panel what what we tell people is that hope it's not a strategy all right hope it's not

00:37:48.400 a strategy in anything i hope my business goes well i hope i don't get injured today i hope i

00:37:53.120 succeed today we tell people real life principles all right we don't live in the clouds we live here

00:37:57.520 on earth whether you believe this is heaven or hell so i want you guys to understand you're

00:38:01.840 dealing with earth here are you this is a reality are you a believer absolutely not you're not you're

00:38:06.960 not a believer of god no no okay but obviously you are yeah were you ever a believer now now

00:38:12.640 he's gonna morality signal oh you're a non-believer i'm better than you my marriage will be different 0.98

00:38:19.040 because i'm more moral yeah i mean the christian guys get screwed the worst um here's here's here's 0.95

00:38:27.840 the deal what what tends to happen is um what tends to happen is uh people are introduced to 0.86

00:38:32.560 things based on someone else's biases okay and those biases are introduced to children and so

00:38:37.760 forth and so on so yes at some point that was the only story i knew until i investigated on my own

00:38:42.640 decided as a man what principles to stand on and realize i don't live by hope i don't live

00:38:48.880 by cope i live with what's real here let's talk about what's real instead of the mystique of this

00:38:53.840 damn thing here what's real is hope is not a strategy so if you don't love it can i address 0.53

00:38:58.640 yeah yeah go ahead yeah so first and foremost like i said it's very interesting i've always told you 0.98

00:39:02.960 you got to hear someone's background and then you know where they lean that's we know where their

00:39:06.960 advice gears towards so it's such an it's such a even when i talk about god like the the idea of

00:39:13.440 god in his brain is not the idea i'm talking about is this interesting verse in bible won't get too

00:39:18.240 lost in the sauce in the book of isaiah where where god is where the somebody's like farming

00:39:24.400 and he's talking about the intricacies of farming and he says even that wisdom comes from god god is

00:39:30.240 not the god of get married happily ever after that's foolishness is god gives you wisdom what

00:39:36.160 is the wisdom actually do premarital counseling yeah so then your pastor can tell you how to run

00:39:45.040 your household instead of you that's a great idea hafeez what is the wisdom actually be able to

00:39:50.560 decide okay if things don't work out what are we gonna do where are the kids gonna go what's the

00:39:54.800 money gonna go yeah because women never change their mind things gonna work out if she says it 1.00

00:40:02.320 it totally will happen who's gonna be the primary brainwriter who's not god gives you the wisdom to

00:40:06.960 be intelligent to be able to navigate hope is not a strategy 100 right hope is not a strategy but

00:40:13.120 god's message is not just simply blind hope it's wisdom literally jesus said be as well be as wise

00:40:19.280 as a serpent but as innocent as a dove you have to understand how to what does the serpent do

00:40:23.520 he's able to navigate on this earth so a hundred percent right no one's teaching hope as a strategy

00:40:28.880 that's a straw man argument true godly wisdom is relevant true godly wisdom is what made adam

00:40:35.200 a millionaire true godly wisdom is what made patrick bet david build this amazing company

00:40:39.680 it's actual practical step-by-step guidance that benefits people's lives so no one's talking about

00:40:45.360 what he just like he doesn't say anything hope being a strategy simply pray to god in your

00:40:52.240 look at his face

00:40:55.680 that's a guy that's going to divorce court we'll see you back in seven years if he's

00:41:01.920 whatever whenever you guys have your two kids and yeah we'll be managing to work out that's

00:41:07.680 foolishness what did i say naivete nihilism realism is in the middle no one's saying being

00:41:13.040 naive so when i'm talking about godliness in marriage those are certain principles and 0.97

00:41:19.360 wisdoms is it gonna make your is it gonna be that if you follow god you'll never get a divorce

00:41:24.800 no this there's not there's nothing in life where nothing bad is gonna happen you can do everything

00:41:30.080 okay but this is i hate this argument because i'll make the argument well like businesses fail

00:41:35.920 yeah i mean businesses do fail but if i knew that if i started a business for 20 years

00:41:44.080 i would have to be paying that business back and also having that business trying to ruin

00:41:51.040 my reputation and also having that business try to steal my children i might think about

00:41:58.880 just going and working for a company right or um you know if i think i calculated it once i'd have

00:42:11.400 to go through the numbers but let's say there's a five percent death rate if i start a business

00:42:16.980 which is probably similar out of a hundred divorces you know men are nine times more

00:42:23.560 likely to commit suicide if i knew suicide was on the table when i started a business

00:42:29.240 i don't know i might i might think twice before doing it right i might

00:42:35.120 right

00:42:37.160 so i don't know if this is the same everything the right way and the wrong thing can still happen

00:42:44.200 but does that mean you do things the wrong way absolutely yep

00:42:47.220 yeah i mean yes if okay option a don't live or have sex with a woman and then get married

00:42:57.240 option b live with her first make her date you for a long time don't court her at all 1.00

00:43:04.180 option b is way smarter than just oh after a year i haven't even hit let me give you

00:43:14.960 the rest of my life to f me and give you the greatest honor i could ever give a woman for free

00:43:21.820 you're not and so my biggest thing is that we we need to give men as much practical wisdom and

00:43:29.260 women as well give them as much practical wisdom that can build a healthy successful marriage when 1.00

00:43:35.140 he talks about don't get married without leverage i guarantee if he expounds upon leverage those are

00:43:40.200 all godly principles those are all biblical principles that what he's going to describe

00:43:44.500 and what he defines as leverage being masculine you know i mean protecting your assets all the

00:43:48.980 things he would describe as leverage that is godly wisdom may what does that even mean okay

00:43:55.440 the only men have zero leverage in marriage the only leverage that you have as a man is cheating 1.00

00:44:01.060 that's it act up bitch i'm gonna cheat 1.00

00:44:07.060 that's it i mean or divorcing her but i mean she doesn't like you anyway so like obviously she 0.99

00:44:15.640 doesn't you know he may not view it as godly because his view of god is just some old white

00:44:20.080 men in the clouds telling you to simply just do whatever you want right but to me true godly wisdom

00:44:25.640 is relevant it's practical okay shut up do you know what i mean i don't care now so i did an 0.71

00:44:34.880 interview with um cga and um the audio is a little off so you'll have to bear with me

00:44:42.160 but it's me like two years ago and i don't want to hear anything about me looking younger

00:44:48.280 i look the exact same i don't want to hear a single thing i don't want to hear all right so

00:44:54.380 this is me two years ago. Okay, here we go. Most marriages are going to end in a divorce 0.99

00:45:01.560 and the laws are going to be dictated based on your country or your city or your state.

00:45:07.520 So they're all different. And if you just happen to so get divorced in a place where the laws suck,

00:45:15.760 then it's going to be a worse experience. Some people get divorced in a place where they don't

00:45:20.020 suck or they just halfway suck. So it just depends on your state. Like California, for instance, 0.99

00:45:25.700 is considered one of the worst places to get divorced. I was getting divorced in California.

00:45:31.180 So my whole perspective of divorce is like, whoa, all right, these people, as a matter of fact,

00:45:37.360 some of the most wealthiest divorce attorneys are in California. So they have an incentive

00:45:42.240 to people get divorced. They want people to get divorced, obviously, to stay in business. 0.85

00:45:46.020 And when you find that out, the divorce laws are then introduced to most men at that point.

00:45:54.120 Now, my content, we introduced the divorce laws to men before they get married.

00:46:00.300 So that gives them an idea of what they're getting into.

00:46:03.240 Most men aren't introduced to divorce laws until. 0.96

00:46:06.320 Doug MPA says marriage is like a man having a chain around his waist and he's pulling a sled up the hill.

00:46:12.380 on the sled is a woman stabbing him in the back with a small knife a thousand times

00:46:17.960 the woman says i'm divorcing you and then it's done because the women were basically paid to 1.00

00:46:27.080 leave aren't we you have great incentives yeah what incentives are those great incentives i mean

00:46:32.880 incentives to be supported by what they would call maintenance spousal support or alimony those are

00:46:38.340 all maintenance spousal support and alamo they're considered the same thing just depending on where

00:46:43.220 you are what state you are those three words are used interchangeably but uh oddly enough feminists 1.00

00:46:48.660 are opposed to that as well oh they're opposed to that most staunch feminists don't like maintenance 1.00

00:46:55.700 or uh spousal support either this is what people don't understand they think feminists are just 1.00

00:47:00.340 going to agree to have an advantage in the family court they look at that as a negative as well

00:47:05.620 because they want to be able to be self-supportive and all of that stuff so yeah really the feminists 1.00

00:47:10.980 i've talked to i i i'll tell them to get a job instead of like trying to cash out some feminists 1.00

00:47:19.540 are not really feminists yeah we attribute the word we use that as a blanket term to describe 1.00

00:47:23.780 people who who like the red hair crazy feminists those are those people typically more agree with 1.00

00:47:32.580 many red pill guys there's just a kind of different call to action i think some people

00:47:37.700 ride the wave of feminism they're not really feminist so and then what about child support 1.00

00:47:44.180 so there's you got those yeah child support yeah tell me about child support of course the the evil

00:47:49.540 empire so you have child support so you have the spousal maintenance or or spousal support

00:47:56.580 and then you have child support which is a second payment it's calculated completely different from

00:48:01.940 spousal support so this was kind of before this was before i started doing the interviews with

00:48:09.620 the divorced men so this interview was actually really impactful for me to my understanding of

00:48:18.100 the family court system because again i came from my parents have been married 30 years

00:48:24.340 and most people around me were married and if they did get divorced um do you know it's weird

00:48:29.780 i've probably seen more divorces when i was 16 and up then like people didn't really get divorced

00:48:35.780 in my like small community in middle school there was like one or two so i didn't really know um

00:48:43.620 i don't know it's kind of the way i say it is once you see it you can't unsee it so

00:48:49.860 at this point i'm sort of waking up to just how bad it is for men and cga you know

00:48:55.700 him i i'm forever grateful to him because you know he took the he took like i think this interview

00:49:02.740 was like two or three hours he took the time out of his day to sit down and explain all this stuff

00:49:07.460 for me and this video did really well before youtube made me pull it um yeah poor dictated

00:49:12.900 on how long you were married and that's like alimony okay yeah so depending on how long you

00:49:19.300 were married or who was the primary breadwinner which typically is mostly men because that's how

00:49:23.700 women select but child support is based on how many kids you have if i have kids in a prior 0.97

00:49:28.500 relationship if my income significantly greater than hers it depends on what state so then you

00:49:35.140 can get a double penalty you leave out paying spousal support and child support and they're

00:49:40.660 both sometimes they're both collected by different agencies so i yeah because that that was the big

00:49:46.500 like shock to me is like women are basically because isn't child support dictated by how much

00:49:52.980 like who has the kids so it almost gives women incentive to take the kids to fight for the 1.00

00:49:59.540 custody yeah because then they get more money most typically you're going to hear a woman say 1.00

00:50:04.260 i want primary custody right which is going to mean she wants an advantage on that time wise 1.00

00:50:09.380 uh but the the excuse they'll use is that i raised the kids i was a primary uh parent he worked he

00:50:16.740 traveled he was never there he cheated whatever it is to get out of that he can't take care of

00:50:21.380 them because he works a certain schedule he travels he's an alcoholic he's an abuser that's

00:50:26.500 why he shouldn't have the kids that's how that's framed but we have to understand that there's a

00:50:31.620 calculation gonna give her more money the more time she has but here's the trip you want to hear

00:50:37.460 something funny when we when we say that most people say no that's not the case she just wants

00:50:43.300 more time to give the kids more stability right but men will say i deserve my parental rights 0.79

00:50:51.940 to have the kid equal time you know what the woman would say in that situation 1.00

00:50:58.020 he just wants more time so he can pay less child support oh it's like it's like a lose-lose yeah

00:51:06.420 because i just said she wants more time to get more child support so they then twist it back 1.00

00:51:11.220 and say he just wants more time so he can pay less child support yeah and that's that's what i really

00:51:17.140 did not understand when i first started watching red pill content i was like i was like why are

00:51:21.140 these guys so against marriage like this seems like a great a great thing yeah i mean in in if

00:51:27.380 it was controlled by church controlled by communities it's this is how communities are

00:51:32.420 built so people think that i'm anti-marriage but i'm pretty traditional in the in the aspect of

00:51:37.460 the best way to raise children in a two-parent household i know that i understand that but we

00:51:42.340 can't even do that we can't do that as a community so what happens is the state has to get involved

00:51:48.580 and the state has to do its best to find a way to support women who are now being

00:51:53.700 volunteering themselves out of marriage but they can't support themselves 100 so their state

00:51:59.460 you know there's resources that they reach to eventually and then there's also a penalty to

00:52:03.540 the guy saying well you married her so thus you have to support her to a certain extent

00:52:09.300 and for a long time it was like you have to support her forever then they put in

00:52:14.500 rules and laws to say this is you're going to support her until she can get on her feet 1.00

00:52:23.140 but you're also saying the women who violent who said i quit my job my career to be a mother and 0.83

00:52:28.900 a wife you got lucky right that's what i said i'm like why are you entitled to money

00:52:34.020 half the time they're the ones leaving half the time it's almost damn near all the time

00:52:40.180 well and even that statistic is skewed right so we say 70 of the divorces are filed by women

00:52:45.540 and then 80 or 90 when it's college educated but that's but that's skewed because a lot of times

00:52:50.900 women won't file the divorce to punish the man oh shut up i've never thought about so what happens 0.52

00:52:57.220 is that the guy says i'm leaving you for another woman well legally she's not going to file a 0.98

00:53:02.660 divorce because he's going to marry another woman or he's going to be out there dating

00:53:08.420 so in order to prevent him from finding another partner she'll stop the divorce proceedings or at

00:53:13.140 least halt it yeah so there's a lot more so then but by that point the guy says i'll file so then

00:53:21.380 he files and gets the process started that's only one of the because otherwise he knows he's going

00:53:25.700 to lose so so the divorces are that are filed by men are don't even count as the man filed it is

00:53:32.900 the woman that won the divorce but she won't she'll drag the proceedings to prevent him to marry 0.97

00:53:38.980 wow you just red pilled me a little more well you're here with the master you're here with the

00:53:43.380 number one the notorious cga you in the bunker right now so because i was thinking when i when 0.58

00:53:49.060 the more i've learned about the laws i'm like a guy that no wonder they stay with the whales

00:53:53.460 what what whales the fat chicks oh um yeah well again that's another hang-up because the guy can't

00:54:01.380 divorce the woman he can't divorce the woman because she gained weight yeah that's a disadvantage 0.99

00:54:06.740 but she could divorce me for gaining weight yeah oh he got us a lazy slob that's that's what i said 1.00

00:54:13.540 that's what i got all these whales on my page the whales yeah you call them busted pillsbury

00:54:18.980 whiskey can over here no no i did um a clip that was going viral and all these whales started to

00:54:25.140 show me their blubber i'm like show me your blubber right um and most of the time these people i was

00:54:30.180 whale attacked a couple years ago that was it was a rough time uh obviously the guy didn't marry her

00:54:36.580 in that state many times so now she's not who he married and we call that a baiting switch yeah 1.00

00:54:42.820 that's what they do they get the ring and they're like and then they're like i'll just let myself go

00:54:47.380 and there's no penalty for her he gets penalized for letting her go and that's the that's the other

00:54:52.740 penalty but i'm going to give you a third calculation that nobody remembers that i have

00:54:57.300 to teach people about and this is where men lose more than 50 so you hear that phrase men lose half

00:55:03.860 well men typically lose 75 of their income over these forces because the third calculation is how

00:55:10.740 property is divided how pensions are divided how um retirements are divided how um you know if you

00:55:19.140 had a business how is that divided so there's a there's those are three separate calculations

00:55:24.100 when you go through a divorce and typically if you had a guy and you were a business owner or

00:55:29.060 you had a military pension or a firefighter's pension and then you had kids and then you

00:55:33.860 has spousal support that's three income sources that are divided in the courts and it gets ugly

00:55:41.220 so okay so if you so this is your house yeah yeah so so if you got married again i'm sure you will

00:55:48.820 that ain't never gonna happen you never go after yeah but let's say you did you know tomorrow right

00:55:55.220 now then you get divorced how what would happen to the house um depending on what state it would be

00:56:00.580 considered either community property or it could be used to up to the judge's just uh discretion

00:56:06.340 to decide so oh so he can just give her the house good because that's called equitable equitable

00:56:13.940 what's equitable so there's equitable states like texas is i believe i'm not mistaken don't don't

00:56:19.940 quote me on the states but um some states are equitable uh whatever's equitable but in the

00:56:25.700 In the judge's mind, 70% would be equitable, and that could apply.

00:56:30.180 But a community property...

00:56:31.180 It's probably a simp.

00:56:32.180 Blue film.

00:56:33.180 Well, that's a problem.

00:56:34.180 And so if the judges are simps, or you have a female judge, what's going to happen, right? 1.00

00:56:39.460 What's typically going to happen?

00:56:41.720 In California, it's community property 50-50, which creates a problem.

00:56:45.820 If I split this house 50-50, I can't cut it in half.

00:56:48.500 I can't put tape down the middle and say, you live on that half and I live on that half.

00:56:52.660 So typically...

00:56:53.660 The whales did kill my TikTok because I said, I said something along the lines of 0.99

00:56:58.700 you don't deserve love as a fat woman. And I, I said, after that, I said, nobody deserves love, 1.00

00:57:08.680 but then they clipped it. So just the fat woman part. Um, and then do you know what happened? 0.86

00:57:14.820 All the whales, they started calling my mother. They got her phone number. They spammed me like,

00:57:20.020 gosh fat women will come after you let me tell you uh what happens is the guy feels like he has

00:57:26.660 to move out uh i'll just move out you have it but he could he'd be moving out but he also was paying 0.93

00:57:32.500 the mortgage but then and then she can go to court and say he hasn't been in the kids lives right

00:57:37.380 because isn't that one thing they'll do the girls will do like he'll move out to get out of the house 1.00

00:57:42.180 or they're fighting and then she'll go to court and say he's well that's why you don't move out

00:57:46.260 before the divorce is over right but typically a guy's gonna move out before the divorce is over

00:57:50.980 so he don't get killed and poisoned on accident he's like uh it'd be safer for me to be out of

00:57:58.820 the house because you know he got to go to sleep where's he gonna go to sleep they don't sleep in

00:58:02.340 the same bed well i was so i was explaining this to my dad right because my dad he doesn't know

00:58:07.860 about anything okay he's he's he's getting enlightened now um ken kill says men are

00:58:13.380 are benevolent if most men are in charge a few one to three percent will kill but when women are 1.00

00:58:18.840 in charge they kill society in massive amounts yep we're terrible people terrible laws are set

00:58:27.620 up for divorce where the man still has an obligation to the woman while the woman has 0.57

00:58:33.360 no obligation to the man she better come do the laundry thank you if you guys have a comment

00:58:39.080 question or concern either sign up to my memberships 10 bucks a month 100 a year and you

00:58:44.060 get unlimited super chats on the website you don't have to super chat you just type pearl reed and

00:58:49.220 i'll read it or um you can just super chat now on the show i told my father and and i was telling

00:58:57.080 him i'm like if you had like if you got divorced tomorrow and you split it with mom right and i

00:59:03.080 was like you would be fine because he's i'm like you're a super productive guy right and i'm like

00:59:09.400 like he i'm not gonna say he's jeff bezos but like he's like he's not not that much but do you know

00:59:15.700 what i'm saying like he's so productive that he would be fine but i'm like there's guys that like

00:59:19.380 work their whole lives to build up something and they're not the type of guys that like are gonna

00:59:23.280 start a business tomorrow and just remake it i mean it's it's bad either way yeah because

00:59:28.160 i mean you kind of learn especially when you start hiring people there's some people

00:59:33.220 that are they're just going to be employees forever they can't like manage other people

00:59:39.180 okay i feel like i've been forced to be a boss in my life i don't like it but

00:59:44.200 but so but you kind of start to realize the different like personality types and so

00:59:51.040 a lot of times I've found that business owners or men that are just that make a lot of money

00:59:58.360 and can make it again if they get divorced will still recommend marriage but they're in a

01:00:04.160 completely different spot because they're very high performing and they're going to like

01:00:11.160 um a guy with one set of skills that like a police off like I've heard police officers and

01:00:19.180 firemen get it very bad because that's a specific set of skills they're not going to be rich quick

01:00:24.840 and um so they do that for 30 years and she takes the pension he's screwed 1.00

01:00:30.860 screwed um where my father this was kind of trying to get out he's he's a guy he started

01:00:37.680 businesses or whatever and he like if he lost everything tomorrow he just would remake it in 0.99

01:00:45.160 like two years like he's just stupid like I wish I you know I don't even deserve a channel my father 0.98

01:00:53.420 deserves a channel I wish I wish he would come on I he's just a private guy but he he would do so 0.99

01:01:02.660 well he's more entertaining than me way but like I think sometimes like certain guys don't feel as

01:01:10.460 much like empathy I guess because they don't they're like oh I would imagine marrying Pearl

01:01:14.740 and you find out she's 1.2 million in credit card debt i do not have why are you guys making stuff

01:01:20.060 up about me in the chat i all right oh he would be fine so he's not worried about that situation

01:01:28.220 well if he had a guy typically we call a gray divorce guy so he's a little bit older he's worked

01:01:34.360 a certain amount of years in his company and he finally got to the top peak of his income

01:01:38.280 and then we call it she pulls the rug from under his foot right so he finally worked hard enough

01:01:43.880 to be able to pay off the mortgage pay off the house and then at 50 she pulls a plug so everything

01:01:50.280 he worked for is flushed down the toilet if he moves out of the house yeah and he's 50 at that

01:01:54.920 he's 50 so he got to start over from 25. oh and um because that yeah so

01:02:03.880 the guys that get rug pulled battled i mean they're starting over in their 50s and 60s

01:02:13.880 those are some of the worst guys i've interviewed oh gosh one guy got put on lifetime alimony

01:02:19.100 you gotta google your state yeah and he got put on lifetime alimony when he was 60

01:02:26.020 couldn't retire he's never gonna retire he'll work till he's dead whatever he saved is gonna

01:02:31.420 get divided in court so he can't just be like okay keep the house i'm gonna go

01:02:35.400 right he's gonna divide the savings too they're gonna divide the retirement too

01:02:40.060 and then he's going to have a monthly obligation let me see the other time stamps

01:02:44.680 uh 22 to 25 no fault divorce okay

01:02:50.420 legally it's not even a choice right but we're telling men don't do that because it's a it's

01:02:59.260 a lifelong sentence that you're giving yourself like you become a step daddy to bail out a woman

01:03:03.900 even outside of that i'm talking about like government benefits you guys pay more into

01:03:10.440 government benefits and we're the we're the ones that are on them i mean that's always been that

01:03:14.980 way though yeah it's worse now they pay you to be a single mom in the uk you get free housing

01:03:22.240 if you're a single mother right but that was annoying because i was like i didn't have any

01:03:25.680 kids so can i get rewarded there's no equity there's no fairness in this thing here but you

01:03:30.820 could go out there and get knocked up if you want i think i think the crazy thing is the problem men

01:03:36.060 have today is we've been educated that men women are equal yeah at a time where women were taken

01:03:41.000 care of and bailed out there was a sense that men are the providers this the role you provide over

01:03:45.440 here right and then if you didn't provide i know you get kicked the hell out all right i know 0.69

01:03:49.760 there's echo guys i didn't i didn't have um a producer then it was like early in my channel

01:03:56.300 so i just did the best i could and say all right you ain't cooperating that's it or if he was an

01:04:01.340 alcoholic and abusive he loses that's what divorce used to be but when no fault divorce came in then

01:04:08.460 it changed the game and it swung the pendulum swiftly to the point where now our generation

01:04:14.540 and younger we're dealing with the realities of these women are equal but i owe them child support 1.00

01:04:19.500 i gotta fight for my kids they get alimony but we're equal in society it doesn't make sense

01:04:25.660 how did no-fault divorce swing the pendulum the no-fault divorce allow women to get incentivized 0.99

01:04:31.260 to bust up marriages with no excuse see before you needed a reason you needed to hire a private 0.50

01:04:37.740 investigator and follow your husband to the hotel with a secretary right or you need to have been

01:04:43.340 abused you needed you needed a reason they would have to go to the court and say well why are you

01:04:47.340 divorcing this man at that point women didn't file 80 divorces they probably filed probably less than 0.97

01:04:53.340 have men probably filed the divorce but once they said you don't need a reason divorce rate 1.00

01:04:59.980 skyrocketed and then women can go in and say he's cheap um he's worth more divorce than married

01:05:09.340 well and then you see a lot of the government like programs come in too

01:05:13.340 the government programs like the the welfare and that type of thing yeah and child tax credits and

01:05:18.220 all these things like that yeah because i'm like why are we paying people to be single mothers

01:05:21.820 that's what i don't understand well you incentivize people to have b b single mothers and of course 0.94

01:05:27.500 they're paid to do it and i remember when i lived in the midwest when i was younger women would stay 1.00

01:05:32.860 getting knocked up by multiple men they would be like and there would be mothers telling their 0.51

01:05:37.500 daughters to get pregnant and that's why teenage pregnancy was super high because the mothers would 1.00

01:05:42.940 if they were if the women were shiftless and lazy as mothers they would have daughters and the 1.00

01:05:47.580 daughters would be 15 and 16 they'd be like girl you can get 300 a kid a month and so those girls 1.00

01:05:54.060 will have three four kids there's no incentive to be a good person as a woman truly really and truly

01:06:01.740 so let me get this straight like this is what you got to look at the chessboard as a woman 0.95

01:06:05.900 your option is be a good person don't put your husband on child support alimony don't marry rich

01:06:14.460 don't go on only fans or work

01:06:22.700 which one are you gonna pick and then it's a vicious cycle because i i cringe to think that

01:06:29.100 300 a kid is free money i couldn't do it but if you think some people are like that's good money

01:06:38.140 yeah i mean it's late to me okay so then next we got

01:06:46.540 uh 28 to 35. okay

01:06:57.260 you can get like right it's if you if you said i can't afford to have this kid i need child support

01:07:02.940 and you could have you could have terminated you could have this ended up for adoption you could

01:07:07.020 have not got pregnant because you were unable to uh afford the child but but you keep getting

01:07:12.300 pregnant that's it and i that's the crazy thing every person i know that's like had an 1.00

01:07:17.340 like irresponsible pregnancy right they're just reckless they're just it was i'm just like what

01:07:23.980 on earth every girl that i've known that had an abortion had parents that would have helped out

01:07:31.740 and a boyfriend that wanted to be involved the boyfriends wanted the kid they knew it was her 0.99

01:07:37.580 choice right but they would have it would have stuck around audience the worst thing the woman 1.00

01:07:41.420 can ever be in life is a single mother you heard it here first yeah i agree with the mother

01:07:48.460 so i have no sympathy for single mothers out here although i was raised by a single mother

01:07:52.940 but i always tell my daughter never be that i mean you basically just complicating life

01:07:57.420 and you penalize on the child um and you're gonna just basically ruin the child that's what you're

01:08:02.780 gonna do what do you so okay so you got divorced and you said you're married for 10 years and you

01:08:10.460 got almost almost 10 years got divorced and then you entered the dating scene yeah what was that

01:08:18.060 like uh these holes crazy out here no uh what was it like i i got an education in the uh generation

01:08:24.860 ex and millennials quite different so uh younger millennials tend to they want to push off marriage

01:08:31.820 as long as they possibly could my generation was not quite like that it was getting to that point

01:08:36.940 but but uh millennials typical like 29 30 32 34 but all but before all of that they was going to

01:08:44.380 be in these streets right they were going to be out here more times than a holland tunnel all

01:08:49.340 right so they were going to be partying we call it the holland tunnel in new york so they got ran

01:08:53.980 through more times in the holland tunnel and the holland tunnel is the busiest tunnel in new york

01:08:57.980 it goes from new york to new jersey okay busiest tunnel almost in america and a lot of women started 1.00

01:09:04.140 to show that that's the lifestyle that they live and sex in the city yeah i'm gonna live over here

01:09:09.580 and go over here backpack through europe and blah blah blah and then they were going to say oh i'm

01:09:13.900 marriage material now well the the marriage rates have plummeted since this generation that that

01:09:20.700 generation millennials but they will say millennials are staying married more and all

01:09:27.020 of that stuff but they're not being honest because they're still young many of them are barely hitting

01:09:32.700 40. so yeah that's now but you know there's generation there's this baby boomers getting 0.99

01:09:38.780 divorced right now in the 70s right so just wait give it time but dating dating wise i thought you 0.99

01:09:46.700 know let me give your your group your audience some context when i got married and was um engaged

01:09:54.300 there was no dating apps there was no smartphones there was not even text messages back and forth

01:10:02.220 they they started making phones i'm 47 by the time you guys see this i'm 47 i'm 46 right now

01:10:10.060 so there was no we had pagers and stuff like that and little link pagers but we had no smartphone

01:10:16.460 where you could just get an app swipe swipe swipe that was 2002 i think uh 2002 when i got engaged

01:10:23.740 2004 by the time i got married so that's what that was and even dating they had dating websites like 0.97

01:10:29.980 match.com was around i believe and um there was other things but um you were a loser if you were 0.98

01:10:35.740 on match you were a complete loser like you were a loser you on a dating site loser so the idea that 0.99

01:10:44.700 you couldn't get your person out in the open right that was loser so with that being said 0.99

01:10:51.020 i got divorced and and separated 2012. there's smartphones now there's tinder there's plenty of

01:10:58.380 fish there's bump now bumble uh there's instagram is just starting up so that's what i got reintroduced

01:11:04.700 in the dating market so it was like a highway it was like a fast moving highway when before it was

01:11:10.140 a crawl did you when you did you try to like court some like hoes at all when you entered like the 1.00

01:11:17.580 dating uh i didn't court them i ran through them too you know what i mean i had my phone

01:11:27.100 i think uh what happened was sex was much easier given see this is what the thing the crazy thing

01:11:32.700 is to get sex when i was about getting engaged was tough you had to work you had to talk to 0.61

01:11:38.380 to the woman and yeah so he comes out and all the hoes are hoeing right hold on i'm just want to see 1.00

01:11:44.580 the next one 28 to 35 and 37 to 42 okay we'll keep going no go you couldn't you know unless

01:11:53.460 you just met a fabulous 304 and you were just lucky that night remember it was getting lucky

01:11:58.580 there's no such thing as getting lucky it's just almost a guarantee so by the time i'm getting back

01:12:02.680 out um instagram had just started becoming a thing this was the baby infancy of instagram

01:12:09.160 and so i'm getting divorced during instagram's peak people were girls were flying in themselves 1.00

01:12:16.440 in they were flying themselves in girls were driving hours i mean it was just like what i

01:12:21.640 call the digital sexual revolution and it was nothing like that when i was getting when i was

01:12:27.320 uh married or situation like that yeah it was nothing like that so what what did you find out

01:12:33.320 about female nature like through this um like what do i find out about female nature 1.00

01:12:41.800 i just think that uh by that time i'll find out are you by the way i'm checking my phone in this

01:12:47.400 to make sure it's still recording the audio i'm not like i don't want it to seem like i'm being

01:12:53.320 rude i was just making sure the audio is still going yeah that's good when was this this was

01:12:57.640 like two three years ago i keep checking it so we're good we're good female nature at that time 0.99

01:13:04.520 i think i was learning that what they say and what they do are two separate things

01:13:09.400 okay so that was basically the epiphany i was like they're saying this but they're doing this

01:13:14.280 they're doing this under the cover at night but they're out there i'm an angel you know what i

01:13:17.960 mean like that type of stuff and i'm like this is crazy so that probably was the epiphany and um

01:13:25.400 to not to not trust what they do because i think what what people will tell you and i will tell

01:13:30.440 your young men whatever your belief system in women it's going to be validated by social media

01:13:38.040 and dating apps so if you think girls are out here being pure well based on your experience is that

01:13:46.200 true most of the time if you're using social media and dating apps you're gonna find out that there's

01:13:51.640 a lot of fast and loose women then that's gonna do you know what in college i had a male roommate 1.00

01:14:00.920 i didn't really understand he was like a fat italian guy but he would just get these women 0.99

01:14:06.280 off of tinder to come like straight to our apartment do you know how many times i've 0.71

01:14:11.080 been used to be a wingman for somebody like oh these are my roommates and you have like the

01:14:17.320 loudest sex oh my god and like four or five days a week i would meet all these different women i'm 1.00

01:14:22.440 like what the hell well then what your belief system is going forward and backwards right

01:14:29.800 you're gonna look back on the relationship my girl disappeared all the time friday at eight 0.94

01:14:34.600 o'clock what was she doing you know she was learning how to use her easy bake oven or she 1.00

01:14:39.240 was getting piped down right she getting like because it's easy so you will know that because

01:14:45.880 you'll be the guy piping women down that friday and you know and when she goes radio silent on 0.97

01:14:50.520 her guys that she's dating she got multiple options and also when you get that uh text

01:14:56.920 message this is the text message i don't know if it's popular now but um the uh oh i fell asleep

01:15:02.600 you know you text them at eight o'clock oh i fell asleep she texts you in the morning i fell asleep

01:15:08.120 uh you know i'm getting back to you well based on your experience you know that that's not true

01:15:13.480 she was getting ran through as we called it over here she was getting her insides pushing her

01:15:18.280 esophagus that's what she was doing she wasn't just falling asleep you know so what about what 0.98

01:15:23.080 about the guys that say not all women are like that um that could be true yeah i mean people 1.00

01:15:30.440 will say there's no unicorn there's no any of that type of stuff uh if you believe that they're all

01:15:35.480 not all women are like that i tell you roll the dice roll the dice battle this was a really big

01:15:40.400 turning point i really liked this concept it's a roll of the dice and i found this to be very true

01:15:48.860 because i would interview men that were divorced and then i didn't see any commonalities with the

01:15:55.040 traits of the women or the backgrounds of the women so i would find muslim women that did the

01:16:01.800 same thing christian women women that were completely in their guys for like there's 1.00

01:16:05.860 women that converted religions for a man and um they converted right back after divorce didn't 1.00

01:16:13.620 mean anything nothing nada and then you'll find out whether you're gonna win or lose but i think

01:16:19.780 we talk in generalities here i can't talk specifically about who does what but i have

01:16:26.100 some women that i would thought never was 304s and when they got to the crib they was full on 304s 1.00

01:16:33.060 and then vice versa some women i was like she is scab peeling skeezer and then all of a sudden she 1.00

01:16:37.540 gets to the house and she's all nervous about things you know what the hell's going on so 1.00

01:16:42.500 it's all different yeah yeah so uh i think what was the next part uh 37 to 42. okay 37

01:16:52.180 yeah i interviewed him the next day okay okay oh we were talking about hafiz so look i i people

01:17:00.160 he should know how content works right i'm saying my channel is about ferraris and then you want me

01:17:06.700 to tell me you drive forward tomorrow you know what i mean like he did that to me too

01:17:12.800 yeah i interviewed him the next day okay okay so look i i people he should know how content

01:17:22.140 works right so that's where he's authentic he's not authentic because he knows how this works

01:17:28.280 and now you're telling me to be balanced based on your interpretation of how it works but that's not

01:17:34.260 a that's not the conversation that we have on social media i think people tend to subscribe

01:17:39.540 to channels that have a certain message period now if you go off that if i invite you into my

01:17:46.140 channel and say this is what we're talking about and the next day i flip to try to have a balanced

01:17:50.720 conversation that's not authentic but then his argument is well you're only doing it for the

01:17:54.400 money look this is how social media you know what what are we doing here are we going to have an

01:17:58.800 authentic conversation about how social media works or you want a balanced conversation but it

01:18:03.920 can't be both what do you think do you think men should get married today should men get married

01:18:12.800 to it depends on your position so i tell men and a lot of people get this wrong they think i'm

01:18:17.680 against marriage as a principle that's wrong i'm against state-sponsored marriage and i'm against

01:18:25.680 men getting married without information most men get married both right they get married 0.88

01:18:31.040 state-sponsored and they think they're getting married under god or they get married in their

01:18:35.040 church or from their community and they're not anymore they stay sponsored then most men get

01:18:40.560 married when they're in a position where they can't uh provide whatever they need to provide 1.00

01:18:46.320 to the to the wife of the marriage and then that's how they get divorced so they get married and they

01:18:51.520 have nothing they have nothing but love we have love our love is like no other love are you saying

01:18:57.760 that doesn't last love yeah love is love does not last it's not intended to last what

01:19:07.360 love is not intended to last actually most people that's such a bad joke i don't even

01:19:11.520 know why he laughed guys are so nice right even people who are pushers of love will tell you that

01:19:18.000 love lasts 18 months maybe three years but this is why it's important that you actually have

01:19:25.200 something else to build on other than love but if you want to make your decision purely on love

01:19:31.680 what happens when the love ends and then you're going to have to deal with that so this is why

01:19:36.320 children are important right so if you have love love is basically basically lust confusing you to

01:19:43.040 procreate that's nature it gets this attachment it feels good i hope everybody experiences this

01:19:50.160 it's great as you get older it's less and less for for men you'll experience it less and less

01:19:54.960 this is just how it works i think that's true for everyone that's true for everyone

01:19:59.840 they use love to manipulate men into marrying them when they're when they've already been ran 1.00

01:20:06.860 through so this is the pair bonding argument so they'll say but but i love you but she need rent 0.96

01:20:12.200 to be paid yeah that's what it is or it's like that was um yeah that that's what people girls 1.00

01:20:21.560 get so mad on my show when i say that what love doesn't exist no no no not that like the pair

01:20:28.380 bonding oh the pair bonding yeah yeah but i'm like i don't it's like they tell on themselves though

01:20:33.580 because they're so angry yeah like why are you this why are you this man you shouldn't be that

01:20:39.340 rebecca you shouldn't be this man well the proof is in the pudding all i say is just look at the

01:20:44.540 results that we have out here if you have for women unfortunately if your sexual partners 1.00

01:20:49.900 pass a certain number what you're doing is manipulating it's not love there's no way it

01:20:55.660 it can be love now you can be attached people have to understand love and attachment are two

01:21:00.220 different things and you can tell by when the relationship ends if you had an attachment or love

01:21:05.260 see a person that had love they'll be have their feelings hurt and then they'll be indifferent to

01:21:10.460 the person they may be like well i just but a person that had an attachment is like a parasite

01:21:15.740 they'll try to kill the person they'll hate the person after they broke the attachment because

01:21:20.700 the egos involved there was never any love what they'll do is they'll go attack the person 0.77

01:21:27.180 yeah it's like a parasite parasitic relationship so once the once the host shakes the parasite off

01:21:34.620 the parasite hates the host right that's that's attachment and so if they loved them because he i

01:21:44.700 almost think like okay because when i think of girls like i feel like the girl if she hates her

01:21:50.060 ex she still loves him if she hates her ex yeah yeah because you don't like i feel like hate is

01:21:55.820 closer to love then then like i feel like if a girl doesn't talk about him like then she didn't

01:22:02.460 care okay so but but i my rebuttal to that is you don't destroy something you love typically

01:22:09.500 if there's hate involved she's trying to destroy embarrass them that's i don't know my my experience

01:22:14.620 what i have seen is that when women hate the ex 1.00

01:22:18.380 he could still hit do you know what i mean like that's what i've seen when women hate the ex yeah 0.99

01:22:25.980 he could still get it watch out for your your girlfriend's least favorite ex or wife ego so

01:22:32.860 what she'll do is drag him through divorce court take him to child support trying to penalize him 1.00

01:22:37.360 and hurt him take the kids away don't let him see the kids that that's okay what else do we have

01:22:44.300 oh that's it um but yeah so that's my that's my work cited show I want to do shows where I just

01:22:55.840 you know zoom in on the people that really inspired me in the space and really gave me like

01:23:01.300 light bulb moments I like to credit where credit is due and he has an awesome channel so you guys

01:23:07.140 should go check it out um and let me know what you guys think in the comments make sure you like

01:23:12.140 the video on your way out and go to the audacity network.com. That's the audacity network.com to

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Pearl - April 05, 2025

Works Cited Coach Greg Adams And The Marriage Wheel Pearl Daily

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