Pearl - November 20, 2025


WOW! A Woman Who Recognizes She Was To Blame For Her Failed Marriage

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letting him lead red flags games
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Marnie Fred
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In this episode, we are reacting to what I would say is an extinct creature, a creature that doesn t exist in normal life, but occasionally you do see them. They are called zebras, and they are a female version of a zebra.

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00:00:00.240 Divorced women, talking about having faith is just kind of funny to me. 1.00
00:00:04.060 Usually what that means is there's some pastor saying that, you know, pumping up the ego,
00:00:08.080 making her think she's more important than she is.
00:00:10.240 What up guys?
00:00:11.040 Welcome to my reaction series.
00:00:12.980 Today we are reacting to what I would say is a extinct creature, a creature that doesn't
00:00:18.580 really exist in normal life, but occasionally you do see one, kind of like zebras, I think.
00:00:25.320 An accountable woman.
00:00:26.300 So we have a woman. 0.66
00:00:27.020 This is why my marriage.
00:00:27.680 We have a woman talking about why her marriage failed. 1.00
00:00:30.580 This is why my marriage failed and what I learned.
00:00:33.720 And so this is for the wives, not the girlfriends, but I was married for 13 years and I did everything
00:00:38.220 wrong.
00:00:38.560 I did get two beautiful children from it.
00:00:40.520 So of course it was more than worth it.
00:00:42.900 But when I do get remarried, I'm going to do so many things different because the core issue
00:00:47.580 was we were not aligned.
00:00:49.320 I was at church today and the message was spot on.
00:00:51.940 So I knew I needed to share it with you.
00:00:54.640 I don't know why, but I find it ironic when, um, 0.94
00:00:57.680 women have boob jobs, but claim to be religious. 0.97
00:01:01.500 The keys that will help you win at your marriage.
00:01:05.780 And number one is to let him lead encourages leadership.
00:01:10.560 Yeah.
00:01:10.920 That's still a bad sign.
00:01:12.140 So I was hoping I had so much hope when I started this video, let him lead that men naturally
00:01:18.520 lead.
00:01:19.100 Um, again, that's putting the onus of responsibility on him.
00:01:22.280 I have to allow him to lead, not to be a better listener and follow.
00:01:28.200 In the dating phase, it's really easy for women to want their man to lead. 1.00
00:01:31.600 But when they get married, all of a sudden it's like, they want to take over and have
00:01:34.200 control and have the last say. 0.98
00:01:35.840 And you're probably saying, Oh, he sucks at leading.
00:01:37.660 Well, maybe because you walked all over him and you deflated his ego. 0.96
00:01:40.480 Well, yeah.
00:01:41.280 And following is also a skill.
00:01:42.980 It's like, you know, when you have an employee that works for you and there's the one that
00:01:45.640 waits for orders and the other that takes initiative.
00:01:48.500 You could be a woman that takes initiative or a woman that waits to be, um, you know,
00:01:54.120 everyone always likes somebody that makes themselves useful without having to ask. 0.97
00:01:58.060 Go and made him feel shitty.
00:01:59.020 So take a step back and try letting him lead again, because he's supposed to lead. 0.58
00:02:03.920 If he's not leading, you're, you're not going to win at this marriage.
00:02:08.380 Number two, you need to be his teammate.
00:02:11.780 It's like in the, yeah.
00:02:13.580 Okay.
00:02:13.860 She has learned nothing.
00:02:15.320 Teammate that assumes equal.
00:02:17.100 He's the coach.
00:02:18.040 You are the player.
00:02:18.840 That's hierarchy.
00:02:19.960 We just don't get it.
00:02:21.360 We don't, we just really don't get it.
00:02:23.980 Game of baseball.
00:02:24.980 When we try so hard, not that hard, but we, it's like, we try.
00:02:29.020 Try, try and say, oh, I've learned.
00:02:31.960 And then we say the exact same thing.
00:02:34.020 We just, you know, we're not that good at stuff.
00:02:35.860 There's a catcher and a pitcher and they have to be in sync.
00:02:39.480 Otherwise they will 100% lose the game.
00:02:42.260 And so you've got to be able to strategize with them.
00:02:46.040 Like it's so important to even say captain, that would be better.
00:02:49.220 Hierarchy strategize to have a grown ass conversation and say, what can I do to help? 0.91
00:02:53.260 How can I lighten your load? 0.96
00:02:54.420 How can I make your life easier?
00:02:56.700 And men.
00:02:58.240 That's the first good advice.
00:02:59.660 How can I help?
00:03:00.860 That's a good question.
00:03:01.700 That's a great question to ask people.
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00:05:49.440 So let her help you.
00:05:51.200 Sometimes men have a hard time doing this.
00:05:52.920 If you both don't, they don't like women that are trying to compete at the same thing, but
00:05:57.420 stuff that's like complimentary.
00:05:59.600 Yeah.
00:06:00.160 They, they, and they don't, they don't mind being helped as long as it won't be used against
00:06:03.640 them later.
00:06:04.500 Both have your own separate.
00:06:06.040 You have to be able to strategize and cheer each other on and play to win together.
00:06:10.860 And number three is give them space to reset.
00:06:13.540 Men really need a reset time so they can come back more aligned and grounded and loving.
00:06:19.120 Men don't like us that much.
00:06:20.520 They think we're annoying.
00:06:21.580 We talk too much.
00:06:22.280 I think men are even, they've been gaslit into thinking they like women at all.
00:06:26.580 I don't really think they like us.
00:06:28.960 I think they like looking at us. 0.98
00:06:30.660 They like the boobs. 1.00
00:06:31.680 I don't have any, but like imagine, you know, they like the, they like it when we throw it
00:06:36.780 back on them, but the actual, like, what do they get out of conversation with a woman?
00:06:41.800 Not much, unfortunately.
00:06:43.360 They like looking at her.
00:06:44.300 She's cute. 0.95
00:06:45.020 So.
00:06:45.680 And so don't resist it.
00:06:47.280 Don't be bitter about it.
00:06:49.080 Encourage it.
00:06:50.060 It's going to benefit you.
00:06:51.480 And this means you have to know him.
00:06:52.980 You have to know what lights him up and refreshes his soul and makes him feel alive.
00:06:56.940 And I'm not saying men go play golf three times this week, but I'm just saying if you really
00:07:00.700 need time away from women, that is how they reset. 1.00
00:07:04.280 Because again, women need time away from women. 1.00
00:07:06.940 We just have an annoyance meter.
00:07:08.420 Like we're this annoying, right?
00:07:09.840 Or no, no, no.
00:07:10.660 So let's say we're this annoying daily, but it builds up.
00:07:13.180 It's like, oh, she was annoying, annoying, annoying, annoying, annoying. 1.00
00:07:16.100 And there's very few women that aren't annoying, right? 1.00
00:07:18.680 And it just builds up.
00:07:19.740 And at some point they need a release.
00:07:21.320 They're like, I need to go hang out with the boys.
00:07:23.060 And then they have a new annoyance meter.
00:07:24.560 Then they can come back like a new, a new person.
00:07:26.820 You need a time to reset.
00:07:29.240 Like women don't get in the way of that. 1.00
00:07:31.200 So share this with somebody who needs to hear it.
00:07:33.180 And if you're married and you need to hear this, then leave me a comment.
00:07:37.120 Is she a life coach? 0.99
00:07:38.220 Let's look at the TikTok.
00:07:40.100 Oh, I knew it.
00:07:44.520 I knew it.
00:07:45.640 I knew she was going to be a relationship coach. 0.90
00:07:48.600 Let's see what she books an hour. 0.93
00:07:50.080 Oh God, God help us.
00:07:52.300 Discovery call coaching.
00:07:53.840 Okay.
00:07:54.020 What is the coaching cost?
00:07:55.140 Oh, so you're not even going to put the pricing.
00:07:57.880 That means it's too much money.
00:07:59.260 How crazy is that?
00:08:00.560 Divorced.
00:08:01.420 Let's see what else she says.
00:08:03.420 So I got a few questions asking how they can attract someone like me.
00:08:09.220 So thank you.
00:08:10.200 So sweet.
00:08:11.120 And that's easy.
00:08:12.240 I know what I want.
00:08:12.940 I know what I'm looking for.
00:08:14.100 And so God, God help us.
00:08:15.940 I know what I want.
00:08:17.380 I love this translation.
00:08:19.000 When women said, I know what I want. 1.00
00:08:20.460 You know, let's react, let's react to the rest of this.
00:08:22.600 So I got a few questions asking how they can attract someone like me.
00:08:27.820 So thank you.
00:08:28.800 So sweet.
00:08:29.720 And that's easy.
00:08:30.840 I know what I want.
00:08:31.540 I know what I'm looking for.
00:08:32.700 And so I love to think of the translation.
00:08:35.220 I know what I like.
00:08:36.500 And I know I have to stop dating what I like in order to get what I want, which is retirement and kids.
00:08:41.600 It's an analogy of the iceberg.
00:08:44.040 So you only see 10% of the iceberg, right?
00:08:46.680 The rest, the 90% is hidden underwater.
00:08:49.160 And so for me, if I see red flag behaviors, which might be something small to somebody, but to me, that's the tip of the iceberg. 0.97
00:08:57.100 Like, what's all the other shit that lies beneath? 0.98
00:08:59.700 Yeah. 1.00
00:08:59.860 So again, when women are constantly talking about red flags, they're the red flag generally. 1.00
00:09:04.000 That's how they're treating me in the first 30 minutes of our date.
00:09:06.060 How is he going to treat me three months from now?
00:09:08.180 And I'm talking about red flags.
00:09:09.520 I love these red flags.
00:09:10.740 That's what I'm talking about them so much because I love them.
00:09:13.280 I love them.
00:09:13.980 It's like, doesn't open the door for me, um, walks in front of me and doesn't pull out the chair and obviously doesn't pay for the meal.
00:09:21.400 And maybe we'll even talk over me.
00:09:23.660 Those are all red flags.
00:09:25.000 And in the past, I would have tolerated them for sure, because I felt really shitty about myself.
00:09:29.140 And I didn't know that there were really good men out there that existed.
00:09:32.080 I didn't know, but now I do know because you are the average of the five people you hang out with the most.
00:09:36.840 And so if you hang out with bench warmers, you're like, that's all you're ever going to know.
00:09:40.840 You have to level up.
00:09:42.200 You have to attract the first round. 1.00
00:09:44.100 Or she says, um, so when women talk like this, it's evidence that her friends suck. 1.00
00:09:48.240 Um, and she thinks she's better than them, but usually she's not draft picks or at least this double A triple A. 0.99
00:09:55.200 Right.
00:09:56.020 And so now I don't settle.
00:09:58.460 I do not tolerate that type of behavior.
00:10:00.640 And it's because I know what I want and there's nothing wrong with that.
00:10:05.340 What I also look for is a man who leads with integrity and confidence.
00:10:10.400 And he does not try too hard.
00:10:12.340 And he leads with his worth, his gifts, who he is, not what he is, not his assets, not his resume.
00:10:22.480 Translation.
00:10:22.620 I am looking for assets.
00:10:24.200 May not his past accomplishments.
00:10:26.260 What is she even saying? 0.99
00:10:26.780 None of that bullshit. 1.00
00:10:27.980 He leads with who he is. 0.99
00:10:29.420 And he is a man.
00:10:31.180 They always make it broad.
00:10:32.520 So men can't do it. 0.86
00:10:33.740 And by the way, following women's advice always gets you not laid. 0.98
00:10:38.300 Is enough on his own.
00:10:40.460 He doesn't need a woman to be complete. 1.00
00:10:44.640 And I'm also looking for a man who doesn't play games.
00:10:46.900 And I know you all think that when we play games, but I've had a couple of guys who, you
00:10:50.800 know, invited me on a date and then didn't do a very good job of planning it.
00:10:54.640 Kind of expected me to bend over backwards because they were trying to play it cool.
00:10:57.780 And like, this is backwards.
00:11:00.080 And another guy who thought that it was, um, not good to walk up to a girl in the bar because
00:11:05.620 then it would look to her that he was, um, desperate.
00:11:08.680 And that's, that's games.
00:11:09.700 Like if you like a girl, if you want to talk to her, if she seems, so again, this is showing
00:11:13.940 she has no idea what the male experience is and to be a good in a relationship, you have
00:11:18.600 to know your customer.
00:11:19.500 Like if you're selling something, you got to know what they want.
00:11:22.720 Um, yeah.
00:11:23.700 Interesting.
00:11:24.000 Do you walk up to her?
00:11:25.680 You're going to risk rejection, but you miss every shot you don't take.
00:11:29.020 And to me, that's game playing.
00:11:30.460 I also, you're going to attract me if you're into personal growth, that means you're intentional
00:11:35.880 every day about improving your life in all of the areas, spiritually, physically, mentally,
00:11:40.900 emotionally, financially, all of the areas.
00:11:43.520 And I'm interested in somebody who had, who can keep up with me energetically, who is works
00:11:49.800 out, who takes his health very seriously, who eats well, most of the time, who is not
00:11:55.020 women have attractive fit. 1.00
00:11:56.700 Women have a hard time when they have to start dating fat guys. 1.00
00:11:59.460 Because over a certain age, you're, you're kind of, even if you're thin, you're kind 0.97
00:12:04.040 of the equivalent of a fat guy. 0.70
00:12:06.240 So, um, fat women are sorry, fit women have a really hard time with this because they're 1.00
00:12:10.820 either going to have to go down in money or, um, looks.
00:12:13.800 And when they, a lot of women, when they get older, compromise in looks and they, they 0.99
00:12:18.840 have a hard time accepting this reality.
00:12:21.440 Not excessive with alcohol, who doesn't do drugs, who will listen to audio books and podcasts
00:12:27.960 about personal growth and motivation and encourage me with the same, right?
00:12:31.640 This is the type of person that I was not decades ago.
00:12:35.460 And now these are the type of people that I hang out with all the time.
00:12:39.560 And I'll tell you something else.
00:12:41.120 I spend zero time in front of the TV.
00:12:44.520 I'm not exaggerating.
00:12:46.060 People tell me, oh yeah, I don't watch TV either, but you know, I did see this show,
00:12:49.540 blah, blah, blah.
00:12:50.820 Zero, zero time in front of the TV.
00:12:54.120 So I-
00:12:55.360 I gag you every time you relax.
00:12:56.960 I'm busy building my dreams and working out and getting wind in my hair and being
00:13:02.700 curious and living life. 0.99
00:13:05.340 I'm not going to sit on my ass and watch other people live their lives on TV. 0.98
00:13:08.860 And so if you want to track somebody like me, you are, we're going to be aligned in, in all 0.99
00:13:13.760 of the ways, and we're going to be able to work out together and get wind in our hair together
00:13:18.540 and have-
00:13:20.120 I want to take up all of your free time.
00:13:21.800 experiences and be adventurous and spontaneous and work on ourselves and encourage each other.
00:13:27.660 both of us cheer each other on and encourage each other.
00:13:30.820 That's how you're going to track somebody like me.
00:13:32.600 If you have bench warmer traits, like you spend your downtime watching TV, or you party and
00:13:39.760 drink on the weekends, or you are not investing in yourself mentally, emotionally, if you have
00:13:46.200 zero faith or-
00:13:48.200 Oh, so again, divorced women, talking about having faith is just kind of funny to me.
00:13:52.980 Usually what that means is there's some pastor saying that, you know, pumping up the ego,
00:13:57.180 making her think she's more important than she is.
00:13:59.640 Um, so now she's going to use you not going to church as a disqualifier.
00:14:04.340 Yeah, pretty much.
00:14:06.080 You are, you're not going to track somebody like me.
00:14:08.580 You're going to track the bench warmer.
00:14:10.380 So I got a few questions.
00:14:12.580 We're going to, does she think she's a starter? 0.98
00:14:15.660 Bruh.
00:14:16.340 Okay.
00:14:17.580 All right, guys, let me know what you think of the comments.
00:14:19.760 Um, I had hope for that video and she squandled. 1.00
00:14:22.060 So is that, does that happen to you guys?
00:14:23.460 You go on dates and you're like, oh, I have hope for this woman. 0.57
00:14:25.580 And then she keeps talking and she's like, you're like, nevermind.
00:14:28.780 Anyways, guys, like the video, subscribe to the channel, bring that notification bell.
00:14:32.000 Um, and I'll see you next time.