Pearl - November 07, 2025


“You Need to Interview Happily Married People”


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Length

8 minutes

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159.09866

Word count

1,398

Sentence count

123

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Misogyny

24

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Toxicity

30

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Hate speech

20

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Married women have the reputation of being great wives, but what does it take to be a good wife? Why do married men have a wife that drives them insane? Why is it so hard for women to tell their husband no?

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00:00:00.000 Okay, so I just posted my last coffee thought, and I see a girl named Sarah commented, Pearl, start interviewing people who have been married for over 20 years and are still married.
00:00:11.600 We can help understand, we can help people understand what marriage is really about.
00:00:17.060 People are truly lost in what it means to be married.
00:00:20.040 I'm still married for 40 years, and we need to teach people what marriage is really about, and we need to stop labeling people.
00:00:25.860 No one is perfect. Well, Sarah, I'm going to answer your question.
00:00:30.500 I do appreciate the comment. Whenever there's a female supporter, I do appreciate it.
00:00:35.180 But I got to be honest. The people that have been married 40 years made us not believe in marriage.
00:00:46.060 Because we look in your husband's eyes, and they don't look happy.
00:00:50.240 They look like hen-packed and just nagged for a lifetime. 0.84
00:00:54.360 And I just want you to understand that married people make us not believe in marriage, that really see it for what it is.
00:01:04.960 Again, if marriage was so great, why doesn't it have a better reputation?
00:01:09.300 If you guys were such great wives, even the women that have been married 20, 30 years, and guys knew they had a 50-50 shot at a great wife,
00:01:17.540 don't you think people would sign up?
00:01:20.420 And the crazy thing is, I feel like the more people market marriage, the worse their marriage is.
00:01:27.720 It's just something I've noticed, especially with men.
00:01:30.300 The more they say young men go up and buck up and get married,
00:01:34.380 the more I look at them and I see these simpy men that can never tell their wife no.
00:01:40.360 They can never do it.
00:01:41.420 And it's not, you know, I'm not a perfect person. 0.99
00:01:45.260 I'm sure I'll be a bitch too. 0.96
00:01:47.320 It just seems like the woman life cycle. 1.00
00:01:50.900 But again, if married women were such amazing, awesome wives, shouldn't I just see it? 0.94
00:01:58.560 Shouldn't I just not have to convince you?
00:02:00.860 And it gets even worse.
00:02:02.080 You know, I don't ever stop working.
00:02:03.700 I'm always out talking to people, asking people.
00:02:06.320 And it's not to say that I don't see happily married people,
00:02:09.400 but I don't see married men that don't have a wife that drives them insane.
00:02:14.300 I don't.
00:02:16.760 I don't see a married man that has wives that are just like great feminine. 1.00
00:02:21.160 You know, I met this one woman that seemed so sweet a while ago, like a year or two ago.
00:02:25.920 And I was asking her about her husband and how they met because they were married a long time.
00:02:35.440 And this is, I don't want to give out way too many details, but it was kind of in the middle of nowhere.
00:02:40.540 And she said she met him in high school and she was kind of mad she met him because she was such a great guy.
00:02:46.360 And she had to settle down and she wanted to date some other guys.
00:02:51.960 Like women are women. 1.00
00:02:53.580 And I think the older women are mad because the jig is up. 1.00
00:02:57.760 You guys were whores too. 1.00
00:02:59.820 You guys were whores in high school. 1.00
00:03:01.700 You lived through the 80s. 0.99
00:03:03.060 You lived through the 70s. 1.00
00:03:05.180 Nobody's buying this shit anymore because who raised these whores? 1.00
00:03:09.600 You guys did. 1.00
00:03:12.700 You guys did.
00:03:15.860 So before you start coming out and saying,
00:03:19.400 oh, we were so much better and different.
00:03:21.780 And you just need to interview people.
00:03:24.000 Do you not think, it's just like the audacity sometimes of you guys.
00:03:28.240 Do you not think I've interviewed married people?
00:03:31.900 Do you really not think I've interviewed married people?
00:03:36.400 Truly.
00:03:38.340 Ma'am.
00:03:38.900 I've interviewed so many married people.
00:03:43.980 I grew up around married people. 0.70
00:03:45.800 Most of the people I knew growing up were married and they were all terrible wives. 1.00
00:03:49.580 I can count on one hand.
00:03:50.700 There's one woman I know.
00:03:52.800 Who?
00:03:53.880 She, um,
00:03:54.740 She was the only one whose husband ever told her no.
00:04:00.240 She's a delight.
00:04:01.520 I love her.
00:04:02.000 I love her to this day.
00:04:03.040 But it's just,
00:04:04.960 and it's not that the men couldn't tell the women no,
00:04:07.400 but it's like living with a terrorist.
00:04:09.900 I think most women, 1.00
00:04:10.960 it's basically living with a terrorist.
00:04:12.720 Because,
00:04:13.720 you know,
00:04:14.000 you can tell her no,
00:04:15.020 but now you have hell to pay for the next like month.
00:04:18.520 And most of the men,
00:04:19.760 they just want silence and peace and whatever.
00:04:23.300 And women like you gaslight for eternity. 1.00
00:04:26.780 You guys do. 0.74
00:04:27.520 You gaslight.
00:04:28.500 You say,
00:04:29.240 oh,
00:04:29.420 it's just the people you're interviewing.
00:04:31.000 And I'm like,
00:04:31.340 I don't know.
00:04:31.880 I grew up around a lot of married people,
00:04:33.620 older married people, 0.96
00:04:34.440 and they pretty much all seem miserable.
00:04:36.600 There's a few exceptions,
00:04:38.020 a few notable exceptions.
00:04:39.380 But in general,
00:04:40.480 I'd say out of 10 couples,
00:04:43.020 half divorce,
00:04:43.780 out of five married couples,
00:04:46.200 maybe one is miserable,
00:04:48.160 or sorry,
00:04:48.920 one is happy and knows how to tell the wife no, 0.96
00:04:51.500 and regularly has sex. 0.61
00:04:53.220 I regularly ask married people, 0.99
00:04:57.020 how many married people they know that have sex on a regular basis?
00:05:02.060 And the answer is no. 0.93
00:05:02.700 And so what I realized is a lot of men took a shitty deal, 0.76
00:05:06.660 and society benefits from it. 0.93
00:05:09.240 Society needs these beta men.
00:05:11.740 They need them.
00:05:12.360 We couldn't function without it.
00:05:14.480 And men love being used.
00:05:16.280 I don't know what it is,
00:05:17.260 but men will like beg to be taken advantage of.
00:05:19.820 They really will.
00:05:21.080 And so I just realized,
00:05:23.540 I realized,
00:05:24.380 a lot of people are miserable.
00:05:30.240 Misery loves company.
00:05:32.160 And that is why married men want other men to get married. 1.00
00:05:36.720 They're like, 0.95
00:05:37.040 I'm miserable. 0.99
00:05:37.840 You're going to be miserable here with me. 0.99
00:05:39.340 And no, 1.00
00:05:39.960 you're not going to enjoy that 22-year-old poonanny. 1.00
00:05:42.860 And the women, 1.00
00:05:43.760 they're kind of the same way.
00:05:44.700 They hate their beta husbands, 1.00
00:05:45.800 and they're like,
00:05:46.620 I had to settle with this guy I don't even like.
00:05:49.660 You women will settle with me. 1.00
00:05:52.260 And it's very obvious,
00:05:53.500 because the more you market your marriage as amazing,
00:05:56.640 the less I believe it's amazing.
00:05:58.940 Because if it was so amazing,
00:06:00.580 shouldn't I just see it?
00:06:02.360 Shouldn't you just look happy together,
00:06:04.080 and just be like,
00:06:04.880 whee,
00:06:05.480 you know.
00:06:06.920 But what I've noticed is that the people that say they're the happiest,
00:06:10.880 they're just not the most happy.
00:06:15.300 Now,
00:06:15.860 I think this comment expresses a more true,
00:06:19.400 a more true,
00:06:21.260 interact,
00:06:22.300 or depiction.
00:06:23.760 I've heard for years that single men were outlived by their married counterparts,
00:06:30.120 but as I experienced life,
00:06:32.620 I found myself watching some of the fellows who bit the dust because of their bad marriages,
00:06:37.620 in a pretty obvious dance of cause and effect.
00:06:40.820 I even found myself wondering who is the woman that other women admire most.
00:06:47.800 Betty Brodlick seemed like a more likely candidate than Florence Nightingale. 0.91
00:06:53.760 Look,
00:06:56.900 ladies, 1.00
00:06:57.740 we got some evil in us.
00:07:00.240 We gotta stop acting like we bring joy to people's lives.
00:07:05.880 We really don't.
00:07:08.540 And I hate to say,
00:07:09.840 I hate to say this as a woman.
00:07:11.980 I really do.
00:07:12.700 I'm not trying to act like I'm different or special.
00:07:15.380 But we just have an internal chaos that just ruins everything.
00:07:18.860 We're pretty,
00:07:19.480 so we can like smile, 0.99
00:07:20.680 put the tits out. 1.00
00:07:21.620 But really, 0.99
00:07:23.640 I mean,
00:07:23.940 you see older women and there's just no value add there. 1.00
00:07:30.480 Even if the women like cooking clean, 1.00
00:07:34.640 the,
00:07:35.100 have you ever like been in a house with an annoying mother or a terrible sister?
00:07:41.160 It doesn't matter how helpful they are.
00:07:44.560 The terrible personality proceeds.
00:07:47.920 It's like the awfulness of the personality is just way above any benefit of cooking and cleaning.
00:07:53.440 So anyways,
00:08:01.220 yeah,
00:08:03.600 I mean,
00:08:04.120 so my response to this comment is,
00:08:06.460 I appreciate the comment.
00:08:07.960 I have interviewed married people.
00:08:10.080 And if your interviews were better,
00:08:12.300 I'd maybe have a different opinion on marriage.
00:08:14.220 If you women were better wives, 1.00
00:08:16.100 I'd maybe have a different opinion.
00:08:18.060 Sorry. 1.00
00:08:18.920 But the reason women are whores today is because their whore mothers raised them and their whore great grandmothers raised them. 1.00
00:08:25.480 And maybe we didn't have as much opportunity back then. 1.00
00:08:29.600 But if they did,
00:08:30.320 they would have did the same thing.
00:08:31.420 And it's not propaganda.
00:08:32.760 Nobody's tricked. 1.00
00:08:33.800 Women are whores. 1.00
00:08:34.680 Thank you. 1.00
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