Pearl - Young Man Speaks His TRUTH @HeadspaceWithSpiro

00:00:00.000 So in many ways, modern women, they don't even know what they want. So how are they going to 1.00

00:00:03.460 know what a man wants in a relationship? No self-respecting man with common sense is going

00:00:08.680 to put themselves in that position. What's up, guys? Welcome to my reaction series today. We

00:00:13.760 are actually reacting to a young guy talking about how women are crashing out because men are

00:00:18.520 choosing to be single over being with us. I'm going to be honest. I don't think that really

00:00:22.760 paints the whole picture because women are also like they're freaking out that men are going to

00:00:27.240 get ai sex dolls um or whatever but women have and are choosing to not be with men i don't know

00:00:34.380 what i see in real life is that men crave women's validation far more than the other way around

00:00:38.700 um but there is a chunk of men who have just like sort of given up because women are just

00:00:43.800 so insufferable so i don't know we'll see station with someone yesterday about an article that i had

00:00:49.060 come across and it wasn't even about just men being single at higher rates than previous decades

00:00:54.960 But in particular, men who are more intelligent, I'm not sure what metric they use to measure this, so take it what you will.

00:01:01.140 But men who are more intelligent are less likely to be in relationships, more likely to be single, and even less likely to seek relationships and interact with women in the first place.

00:01:12.880 Now, I had made the point that people who are more observant are going to see what's going on in the current dating climate.

00:01:20.800 They're going to see what their friends have gone through.

00:01:22.180 They're going to see the disrespect.

00:01:23.160 They're going to see the boundaries being crossed.

00:01:24.960 and they're going to want to opt out. Now, this goes really for anyone with common sense,

00:01:29.860 I think, is going to feel that way. Now, what he said was, the point he was making was that people

00:01:36.320 who are more intelligent tend to overthink, they tend to overanalyze, and therefore, they're not

00:01:42.420 going to throw the hat in the ring in fear of perfectionism or rejection or have it what you

00:01:47.320 owe, right? Now, my thing is this, no matter how confident someone is around women, no matter how 0.92

00:01:54.460 much attention they get or do not women still screw them even men that are like attractive and 0.69

00:01:59.300 good with women women still like women still um screw them over as well so that's kind of where

00:02:06.400 men are having a hard time get from women they still need to have standards again this is a lot

00:02:11.960 of why you see men opting out and seeing even more so people in current relationships the disrespect 0.99

00:02:20.260 Yeah, and that's another blackpilling thing is just seeing how rude a lot of women are to their husbands. You think you get more respect being the father of a woman's children, but if anything, it's less because women openly disrespect them on the internet. 0.99

00:02:35.940 You can't tell me a rational person would look at that and want to put up with it or be in that position.

00:02:43.820 Most of the time, relationships that I see and that other people see have someone who is disproportionately a beneficiary, and that tends to be the woman, for day in and day out while the man is taking constant disrespect.

00:02:58.620 And my point of even talking about this is not to say that this person I was talking to was wrong.

00:03:02.720 He's actually a good friend of mine.

00:03:04.560 It's not to say that he was wrong because I see his point.

00:03:07.980 I see what he's saying.

00:03:09.160 I mean, I've known people personally who do overanalyze things, who look at things down to the minutiae detail and develop a detrimental form of perfectionism, right?

00:03:19.340 And I've heard a good way of this being worded is someone being crushed by their own genius, where this person can be very talented or very skilled at something but not want to try.

00:03:29.420 and i believe that when it comes to things you you never know how far you i think a lot of men are

00:03:35.000 looking at the drawing board and just realize trying isn't rewarded you know when i was a kid

00:03:39.120 not a kid a young woman i was on a volleyball team and i remember there was a game where i led

00:03:46.820 i got all tournament and led the team in kills and blocks but my coach had a favoritism towards

00:03:51.360 another player so it didn't matter how much i like tried they would still bench me and that was the

00:03:58.500 most demotivated like i've always been a really hard worker and tried really hard but it was so

00:04:03.960 demotivating because what was the point of working hard if i got nothing out of it and i think

00:04:08.460 collectively that's a matter of realizing there's no point in putting an extra effort if they get

00:04:12.980 nothing out of it take it if you don't try these people could be 10 out of 10 at it no makeup needed

00:04:18.560 by the way but when it comes to relationships when it comes to dating i see things very different

00:04:26.680 I see being analytical as necessary because you do not want to be someone who overlooks the red

00:04:34.320 flag. You don't want to be someone who overlooks a woman's past, a mistake I've seen countless men

00:04:40.080 make because it is going to have potentially lifelong prolonged effects if you do those

00:04:47.160 things, if you overlook those things. I'm sure we've all known someone or maybe currently know

00:04:51.760 someone who is in a marriage or a long-term relationship and puts up with constant, constant

00:04:58.720 disrespect. And then we'll even go as far to lecture you about how marriage is a good thing,

00:05:05.140 how relationships are important, how a man should be in a relationship. And of course,

00:05:09.020 I've said this many times. I think that marriage and family and having a father and a mother there

00:05:14.160 to raise a kid when it can work out is a great thing. It's an amazing thing. But speaking of

00:05:19.340 perfectionism let's look at who's really the origin originator excuse me of that that thing

00:05:26.200 you guys ever seen where a phone will come out right the latest phone let's say it comes out

00:05:32.740 in march or november whenever it does and with a number of weeks there's already trending searches

00:05:38.740 about the next year's model that is yeah that's kind of like what men are um men are subscriptions

00:05:47.860 for what women choose and women hold all the cards and dating because women have way more choice and

00:05:52.880 the people with more choice um ultimately have the power um men's buying power lasts longer but

00:05:58.940 it never hits like their peak never hits women's buying powers peak ever long ways away and people

00:06:06.340 are wondering about the specs and what it offers what does it bring to the table that the phone i

00:06:10.700 have right now doesn't. And then you find out it was never about the phone. It was about the image.

00:06:18.420 And I saw a comment that worded this really well when it comes to modern women. It was me,

00:06:22.160 myself, and iPhone. I couldn't agree more. But this is exactly how dating feels like.

00:06:29.440 Modern women having this perfectionism where they will be with a perfectly good man, 1.00

00:06:34.980 someone who is respectful someone who is loyal someone who is a guy you'd want to get that dog 1.00

00:06:43.540 in him you know what i mean so then it's either he doesn't have that dog or he's got too much 0.80

00:06:47.680 dog and then women just we just go back and forth between too much dog more more dog less dog you

00:06:54.760 know we can't make up our minds introduced to your parents and they always say i'm gonna get

00:07:00.500 attached and so it's just exhausting for them like going through all these emotions with women over

00:07:05.620 and over again if anything like women are the ones that use men for sex more than men use women for 0.92

00:07:11.540 sex better they're always looking for the next thing the very next thing that's shiny and better 0.89

00:07:17.540 and different so in many ways modern women they don't even know what they want so how are they 0.99

00:07:22.420 going to know what a man wants in a relationship no self-respecting man with common sense is going

00:07:28.980 to put themselves in that position and that's the point i was making with this whole intelligence

00:07:34.740 thing is it goes further than that i don't care if you are a

00:07:41.140 einstein or not or phd i don't care if you're someone with common sense you're going to look

00:07:46.420 at this and you are going to want to play no part in it now there comes a point too

00:07:53.700 when it comes to relationships and when it comes to respect and when it comes to the way people

00:07:57.700 are treated where there was a quote a very memorable quote i remember from a movie i heard

00:08:03.060 this from the movie nacho libra if you guys remember that one it came out i believe in the

00:08:06.020 early 2000s maybe it was around 05 give or take a few years but it went something like aren't you

00:08:13.700 tired of getting dirt kicked in your face and it was the yeah and that's how a lot of men feel it's

00:08:20.820 they keep putting their heart on the line and really trying to go into relationships in good

00:08:25.700 faith despite what happened and they keep getting like disrespected by women what's up guys i have

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00:09:54.380 to chalk.com and using the code pearl now and you know men there's gonna be a point when they don't

00:09:58.920 do it anymore protagonist of the movie it was his tag team partner in the lucha wrestling well

00:10:04.160 someone always will but enough will say no you know what i mean that said it to him and i couldn't

00:10:11.200 agree more i couldn't agree more because when i see men getting disrespected openly disrespected

00:10:16.180 public humiliation like i've seen in some cases among couples i have to ask aren't you tired

00:10:22.420 of getting dirt kicked in your face and you know back when that movie came out 0.99

00:10:28.340 that is something money can't buy the balls to tell a woman to shut up still had blockbuster 0.98

00:10:34.980 and hollywood video i remember seeing that movie multiple times with my fire i think we might have 0.98

00:10:37.860 even seen it in theaters. And I saw a post about this where people born between 92 and 99, so

00:10:47.020 myself, were really one of the first generations or perhaps the only generation to see this big

00:10:55.420 contrast between a more analog lifestyle that wasn't so dominant with social media and what

00:11:02.700 have nowadays where we still had a blend of technology i'm sure a lot of us remember the

00:11:09.260 snes and the nintendo ds and the sega genesis and all that but we saw the shift

00:11:18.060 nowadays and there was a dramatic shift things have kind of crazy going out into public where

00:11:26.460 everybody's just looking down like if i go outside and i'm in a major city

00:11:32.300 it always blows my mind how quiet everything is even being in a major city because people just

00:11:37.740 are not talking like they used to and you can people are happy to talk to you um like if you

00:11:43.580 go up to somebody and strike a conversation they'll usually talk back but i don't know it's

00:11:48.620 just there's a lack of friendliness that used to just be there gifted in ways that we perhaps could

00:11:53.900 not imagine. And it's not just relationships, by the way, that have changed. It is men as a whole

00:12:00.140 wanting to isolate themselves, because I believe this goes further than relationships.

00:12:06.780 But men wanting to isolate themselves from society. When I was in my early to mid-20s,

00:12:14.680 there came a point where I would stop accepting the invites that my friends gave me. I would even

00:12:20.920 not reach out to them. And I thought maybe I was not being a very good friend. Maybe I was being

00:12:25.000 self-centered. I was second guessing myself. But what I really came to realize was I was

00:12:32.100 developing discernment. I was developing wisdom through experience. I wasn't going out of my way

00:12:38.640 to seek out women, to seek out relationships. I wanted to focus on my mission and purpose.

00:12:44.140 I was in a position in life where I really, to put it. The issue is a lot of men don't feel

00:12:50.140 like they have purpose without a family and children. And that's why it's dangerous for

00:12:54.640 men to have that mindset because then a woman can just take it from you. But a lot of men don't feel 0.62

00:13:00.400 as though they have a purpose if they don't have a life and kids. And that's why I think there's

00:13:06.460 an increase in men committing suicide. Up front, I was kind of lost in many ways.

00:13:10.980 I hit rock bottom. But I quite frankly didn't have time for the games anymore. And I will say

00:13:17.220 this, when it comes to relationships, when it comes to anything, if there is someone there who

00:13:22.020 is going to derail you from your mission and purpose, you have to distance yourself from them.

00:13:25.900 I don't care. And I see so many men who will get with women who are the epitome of a walking red 0.99

00:13:33.020 flag. And they will let them do that. They will let them derail them from their mission and purpose, 0.77

00:13:38.480 spending time with friends who they've known for years, who are good influences, derailing them

00:13:44.560 from? Yeah. A man really becomes a lesser version of himself when he gets with a woman a lot of the

00:13:51.720 time, not always. Wise men learn from the mistakes of others. It's not just women. I've pretty much 0.53

00:13:56.780 cut myself off from society. I can no longer stand the nonsense I see and hear. I do everything

00:14:03.140 possible to avoid being subjected to the evil, corrupt family court system. Solitude is thy

00:14:08.980 undisturbed sanctuary people don't have standards anymore just expectations from my experience women

00:14:15.120 usually want companionship when they're feeling lonely and going through emotional times but when

00:14:18.620 things improve in her life and she regains confidence she begins to drift away often

00:14:23.140 setting her sights and a newer more exciting companion if you don't feed their ego or keep

00:14:27.880 them entertained they move on love is very rare in the modern dating game oh my gosh okay let's see

00:14:34.040 preventing them from spending time with family who they don't know how much longer is going to be

00:14:37.860 there. All for a woman that is going to disrespect them, cheat on them and do things behind their 1.00

00:14:43.340 back. It does not make any sense in the world. And this is again, why I say men who are of 1.00

00:14:48.400 common sense, I'm not even going to say more intelligent. I'm just going to say men who have

00:14:51.440 common sense are going to look at that and want nothing to do with it. They're going to want

00:14:54.860 absolutely nothing to do with it. I remember I had someone when I was around 23, who was

00:15:02.800 very boastful about getting female attention about having a girlfriend meanwhile he was

00:15:09.340 in a relationship and this girl was doing things behind his back and he was doing things behind

00:15:13.260 her back so it's really really nonsense not going to lead anymore seriously again why i say

00:15:17.820 men who are looking at this if it's not going to lead to a friend who does open relationships and

00:15:24.280 this person um he always says that everyone's in open relationships and they don't know it and

00:15:30.300 You know what? I hate to say it, but he kind of makes sense. I think men like him just adapt to

00:15:35.940 the drawing board. Marriage, family, a girl you could introduce to your parents, there's really

00:15:40.320 no point. But he was getting very arrogant. This is someone I used to work out with in the middle

00:15:46.580 of the gym. And he was trying to talk down to me about this subject, lack of subject matter,

00:15:54.600 quite frankly, in his case, because he doesn't have much to talk about. But I remember I had

00:15:59.820 challenged him and this is just for fun again I was 23 years old you guys can probably tell I've

00:16:03.720 come a long way perhaps at least I like to think but I had challenged him to an arm wrestling

00:16:08.080 competition because he was trying to act like he was some tough guy in the gym and all this and

00:16:13.780 of course I was single back then I was single I've been single for years so I had a lot of time to

00:16:20.060 practice my arm wrestling skills but in all seriousness I remember I had beat him fairly

00:16:27.980 easily and i i did work blue collar work here and there so i did have an amount of functional

00:16:34.040 strength regardless of my lifts in the gym i'm trying to say this in the most composed

00:16:41.840 least braggadocious most humble way possible but he wasn't all that he thought he was

00:16:49.980 and we were fine after right we were talking i thought it was funny quite frankly

00:16:56.420 but my point being with someone like that who i don't want to be the judge and say if he's

00:17:04.380 intelligent or not or say if he's using common sense or not because a lot of people i think

00:17:08.920 fall into this trap and the emotions take a hold of the logical side many men get so arrogant about

00:17:13.740 their relationships they think it could never happen to them and it happens to them all the

00:17:19.280 time but he was one of these guys where he would get with women just to say he's in a relationship

00:17:25.920 just to act like he is something because he has a girlfriend or because he gets female attention

00:17:32.900 and meanwhile he was in his mid-30s at the time and not married which there's nothing wrong with

00:17:40.180 that by the way but what are you doing with a girl and what are you doing with multiple women

00:17:46.540 if it is not going to lead anywhere you are wasting your time that's i'm not even to say that

00:17:49.720 him being not married was the issue he was not focusing on the things that he should be focused

00:17:53.960 on, not to go into his business, but he was not in a position in life that he should be at where

00:18:00.080 he wants to just relax and chase girls. That is a waste of time at any age, chasing women.

00:18:06.560 But when it comes to the gym and when it comes to people with that mentality, because I've known 1.00

00:18:11.000 people that will go to the gym purely for females. They'll go there to either show off to women 1.00

00:18:15.840 or to build muscle to try to impress women. It's the most backwards thing I've ever seen.

00:18:22.200 You don't do things for other people.

00:18:24.320 You don't live for the appeasement of other people.

00:18:27.560 People are inherently flawed.

00:18:29.180 Everyone's going to have their opinion.

00:18:30.660 If you're dependent on other people's opinion and view of you for your own sense of confidence or peace, you're never going to have it.

00:18:37.760 You are never going to have it.

00:18:39.880 And that's why I think it's so backwards when I see stuff like that. 1.00

00:18:44.200 and to think that you have a lot of modern women who will come around spaces and stuff like that 1.00

00:18:53.580 and try to act like the men are the problem yeah and that's the thing they we they used to actually 1.00

00:18:59.860 kind of be able to convince men of this but no more men are done we've screwed men over too many

00:19:04.780 times that it's just all cooked it's cooked who are by the way choosing to opt out shows me that

00:19:09.780 they're in really a state of panic. All right. So, um, okay, I'm going to kind of end it there.

00:19:16.820 Here's my thoughts. I do think that there pretty much is always someone that's going to do it. I'm

00:19:21.200 a little black pilled on this because I've seen too many porn stars, three UFOs and fat women get 1.00

00:19:25.320 married. Um, when men are in a state of scarcity, a lot of times they do end up caving. However, 0.94

00:19:30.900 there is a growing population of men that are going to walk away. And, um, I think both genders

00:19:36.300 are just going to go further and further apart because neither really wants to be with each 1.00

00:19:39.160 other so anyways all right let me know what you think in the comments like the video subscribe

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Pearl - June 26, 2026

Young Man Speaks His TRUTH @HeadspaceWithSpiro

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