Pearl - September 18, 2025Your Undesirable Traits Will Likely NEVER Change
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Summary
In this episode of the show, we talk about how people change over time, and how people stay the same. We also talk about a quiet weapon being ratcheted up against men that is rarely talked about.
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i have never seen a lazy person stop being lazy welcome to the show doug mpa hey how's it going
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so what are your thoughts on the topic have you what do you think do you think people change over
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time or do you think they mostly stay the same they mostly stay the same um if you guys really
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think about it the douchebags you went to high school are still douchebags um i knew this kid
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one time and he he was an in high school and then i was out and about in community college
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and then i saw him and he was in sweatpants and like a sweatshirt and he was walking all funny
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and he had like a medical aid with him we were at the movie he was at the movie theater because i was
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about to go see a movie and i'm like hey man like are you okay he's like yeah you know i ended up
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having cancer and then i was allergic to some of the cancer treatments so i had like a minor stroke
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and i had to learn to walk again and i almost died and i'm like oh my god wow like you know
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this must have been a life-changing experience i mean are you okay he's like yeah i'm okay whatever
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i was like all right so um a new retail store opened up in my hometown and i applied this this is when i
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was like in my early 20s i applied there and i started working there and this kid started working
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there so we started working together and he was still the same that he was in high school and at
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this place that we worked at and he went through like a life-changing he had a stroke he had to learn
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how to walk again he almost died and it's like so those stories where someone has a life um a life
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changing experience and changed their behavior that doesn't happen guys no no way you i've never
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seen that happen where someone goes to do something well i'm asking so i i'm trying to think of if
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anybody i mean i've seen maybe i think people could change maybe like 10 percent 15 percent well yeah i i
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did have another story um an undergrad i worked at a a home improvement store and this guy he was retired
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he he was a vietnam vet and i used to always be out in the garden i used to like it out there because
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people would just leave you alone and this guy always needed stuff that had to be brought down
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with a forklift and so he'd be sitting there i got to know him because uh in the evening time
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the garden is the last place anyone wants to be so he'd always be waiting for someone to come for
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a forklift and i i kept apologizing like sir i'm so sorry you have to wait so one day he's like son
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why do you always apologize i have nothing else to do except be out here and wait for my bricks
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he brought down he said son when i was young i was a hothead i used to get in fights all the
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time this network whatever then i did two tours in vietnam and that really chilled me out he's like
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you know after that he's like i haven't thought of a time i haven't got upset because because i
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survived two tours in vietnam so he's one of the few people where he told me his story where he did
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have a life-changing event but in general people don't change in fact guys um if you most of the time
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if a man leaves a woman it's because you see where the ship is floating with that woman you know
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where she's going to end up and you got to jump off the ship before she takes you with her like
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most of the women that you know that are going to be baby mamas are going to be baby mamas most of
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the women that you think are going to be whores are going to be whores you just have to choose
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early on if you want to deal with that or not what do you think about that probably as most of
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you know i have been fighting on the front lines of the simp epidemic for years but i need to tell
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you about a quiet weapon being ratcheted up against men that is rarely talked about it's not just the
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relentless anti-masculinity propaganda and only fans hoes causing the societal issues that we discuss
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on chalk.com that's c-h-o-q.com my name pearl is the discount code no i totally agree with you i was just
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thinking back i cannot think of any but i'm i'm only you know i'm under 30 i'm gonna i'm gonna hold on to
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that as long as i can every day um but so i don't know i could change my mind in 10 years as a woman i
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do reserve the right to change my mind at any time so yeah but i cannot think of anybody that i like
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went to school with or i knew from childhood that is that different or had like like most of the girls
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i knew that were pretty lazy got fat and i saw that coming there are there are ways to take your
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negative characteristics and they could turn it into a positive thing so my sister is everything
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that we talk about she's in her late 40s never had a serious relationship and she's never going to
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right so when she um but she's one of the most selfish people i've ever met and so she'll date these
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pookies and nug nugs but you don't ever have to worry about them getting money or anything out of
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her because her family can't get anything out of no one can get you have to you have to pry money from
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her cold dead fingers before you get money from her understand what i'm saying yeah so she she's actually
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really good with money and she has a lot of things she's one of those women where she spends frivolously
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but she's also like the most selfish person i've met but it's paid off because she has a lot of
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stuff you know she's she plans financially well and she keeps all the money to herself you know imagine
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a successful woman no guys imagine you're a man who has a mastery and six figures but you've never
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spent money on a woman ever in your life that's my sister what are traits that you would say
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you have not seen change and will not change so i'm gonna i'm gonna start i have never seen a lazy
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person stop being lazy i've never seen it i've never seen an outgoing person or shy person
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i've never seen somebody instead of outgoing i'll say not talkative because someone can be shy but
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still talkative once you get to know them but i've never seen like a not talkative person like
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magically become talkative or outgoing person becomes shy yeah what are what are other traits
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you've seen so probably selfish that doesn't yeah selfish i've never seen a petty person not be petty
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i live that petty life let's go hey um bitchy um yeah yeah with people that complain oh um
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people that are late oh yeah people that are late they'll never not be late ever yeah ever and it's
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i think one of the problems of life is people always project how you want someone to be and i think the
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happiest people can just accept and adapt you know what i mean like um if women are late then show up
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to the date 30 minutes late because you're gonna go crazy you're gonna go crazy expected them to be on
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time you might as well be late yeah yeah go ahead what are some other ones oh um uh people that oh oh people
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with integrity if you don't have integrity but by the time you're you're in your mid-20s you're just
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not gonna have it you know as in like saying what you doing what you say yeah having follow through a
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lot of people they just won't have it oh and then people so there's normally two kinds in the corporate
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world in public service there's two kinds of people there are people whose skills and abilities
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make them important by their work ethic and their work output and then there are people who who try
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to schmooze and lie and and and uh latch on to other people's work to become important so men and women
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huh yeah pretty much so if a person is the type of person that tries to lie cheat and steal their way to
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the top they're never going to change that they're always going to be trying to find some kind of hustle
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they're always going to try to latch on to your dream and and milk you for money but just you
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they start doing that early on and they never stop doing it
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those are good do you have any more i'm gonna milk you i'm gonna milk you for these because these are
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good uh it's another one um oh have you have you have you hired people at work yeah okay it sounds
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it sounds like you've done hiring go ahead yeah and you know i've managed people too um oh um
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a codependent people okay uh people so we all have that those people they're always
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in a relationship like always oh like i know a guy literally he's been in a relationship with one
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woman or another or his wife since we were 17 years old and he's he's my age and he's married now but
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he was never not in a relationship must be nice sorry um are there are there any other ones
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uh people that can't drive people that drive for i'm a bad driver that's right no you're not you're
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actually a really good driver we talking about really you giving me around you didn't back into
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any mailboxes you okay curbs so what are you talking about okay i'm not terrible but here's my problem i
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i i can zone out and that's usually when shit hits the fan
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uh what else um i already said integrity i would say people that um uh oh yeah um so there's this book
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that i always plug called messy it's it's called uh it's written by tim harper it's called messy how
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to be creative and resilient in a tidy-minded world so guys okay you don't want to be a dirty person
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where your house it smells really bad whatever but they're just messy people like i'm one of those
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there are people where you have clean clothes but they just never make it on the hanger understand i'm
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saying or um you you clean your dishes but you pull them out of the dishwasher to use them and
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if you're not a super clean and tidy person it's not a bad thing because you that energy that super
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tidy clean people use for that you use towards other things as in like creative endeavors or or stuff like
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that so don't feel bad if you're a messy person you're using that energy for other aspects of
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your life besides cleanliness yeah and i think that's from a young age yeah i do think part of
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it's a skill issue like um because like a lot of people didn't grow up with moms teaching them how to do
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that stuff but i i do think messy and like clean is from a young age yeah so i i think um once again i think
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everyone should be cleanliness but you know if you have stuff going on i've worked two jobs most of my
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life even when i was an undergrad grad school and i was pursuing so many things i just didn't have time
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to be clear and go clean and tidy and so yeah most of the time if you're a messy person just you know
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just accept it and try to figure out a way around it yeah oh like it's easier to hire a maid than it
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like or get like a cleaning service then try to change your whole personality