Pearl - Your Undesirable Traits Will Likely NEVER Change

00:00:00.000 i have never seen a lazy person stop being lazy welcome to the show doug mpa hey how's it going

00:00:08.400 so what are your thoughts on the topic have you what do you think do you think people change over

00:00:15.440 time or do you think they mostly stay the same they mostly stay the same um if you guys really

00:00:21.520 think about it the douchebags you went to high school are still douchebags um i knew this kid

00:00:28.720 one time and he he was an in high school and then i was out and about in community college 0.92

00:00:36.560 and then i saw him and he was in sweatpants and like a sweatshirt and he was walking all funny

00:00:44.080 and he had like a medical aid with him we were at the movie he was at the movie theater because i was

00:00:48.800 about to go see a movie and i'm like hey man like are you okay he's like yeah you know i ended up

00:00:54.160 having cancer and then i was allergic to some of the cancer treatments so i had like a minor stroke

00:00:59.840 and i had to learn to walk again and i almost died and i'm like oh my god wow like you know

00:01:05.680 this must have been a life-changing experience i mean are you okay he's like yeah i'm okay whatever

00:01:10.080 i was like all right so um a new retail store opened up in my hometown and i applied this this is when i

00:01:17.360 was like in my early 20s i applied there and i started working there and this kid started working

00:01:23.680 there so we started working together and he was still the same that he was in high school and at

00:01:30.960 this place that we worked at and he went through like a life-changing he had a stroke he had to learn

00:01:35.440 how to walk again he almost died and it's like so those stories where someone has a life um a life

00:01:41.520 changing experience and changed their behavior that doesn't happen guys no no way you i've never

00:01:46.880 seen that happen where someone goes to do something well i'm asking so i i'm trying to think of if

00:01:54.640 anybody i mean i've seen maybe i think people could change maybe like 10 percent 15 percent well yeah i i

00:02:05.360 did have another story um an undergrad i worked at a a home improvement store and this guy he was retired

00:02:13.120 he he was a vietnam vet and i used to always be out in the garden i used to like it out there because

00:02:20.880 people would just leave you alone and this guy always needed stuff that had to be brought down

00:02:26.160 with a forklift and so he'd be sitting there i got to know him because uh in the evening time

00:02:32.640 the garden is the last place anyone wants to be so he'd always be waiting for someone to come for

00:02:36.400 a forklift and i i kept apologizing like sir i'm so sorry you have to wait so one day he's like son

00:02:41.200 why do you always apologize i have nothing else to do except be out here and wait for my bricks

00:02:46.400 he brought down he said son when i was young i was a hothead i used to get in fights all the

00:02:50.720 time this network whatever then i did two tours in vietnam and that really chilled me out he's like

00:02:58.880 you know after that he's like i haven't thought of a time i haven't got upset because because i

00:03:03.280 survived two tours in vietnam so he's one of the few people where he told me his story where he did

00:03:09.360 have a life-changing event but in general people don't change in fact guys um if you most of the time

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00:05:29.040 thinking back i cannot think of any but i'm i'm only you know i'm under 30 i'm gonna i'm gonna hold on to

00:05:37.680 that as long as i can every day um but so i don't know i could change my mind in 10 years as a woman i

00:05:50.160 do reserve the right to change my mind at any time so yeah but i cannot think of anybody that i like

00:05:59.920 went to school with or i knew from childhood that is that different or had like like most of the girls

00:06:07.520 i knew that were pretty lazy got fat and i saw that coming there are there are ways to take your

00:06:17.120 negative characteristics and they could turn it into a positive thing so my sister is everything 0.99

00:06:23.360 that we talk about she's in her late 40s never had a serious relationship and she's never going to

00:06:29.280 right so when she um but she's one of the most selfish people i've ever met and so she'll date these 0.92

00:06:39.360 pookies and nug nugs but you don't ever have to worry about them getting money or anything out of 0.94

00:06:46.080 her because her family can't get anything out of no one can get you have to you have to pry money from 0.91

00:06:54.560 her cold dead fingers before you get money from her understand what i'm saying yeah so she she's actually 1.00

00:07:01.440 really good with money and she has a lot of things she's one of those women where she spends frivolously 1.00

00:07:08.000 but she's also like the most selfish person i've met but it's paid off because she has a lot of

00:07:12.000 stuff you know she's she plans financially well and she keeps all the money to herself you know imagine

00:07:17.920 a successful woman no guys imagine you're a man who has a mastery and six figures but you've never

00:07:26.080 spent money on a woman ever in your life that's my sister what are traits that you would say

00:07:33.680 you have not seen change and will not change so i'm gonna i'm gonna start i have never seen a lazy

00:07:42.240 person stop being lazy i've never seen it i've never seen an outgoing person or shy person

00:07:54.080 i've never seen somebody instead of outgoing i'll say not talkative because someone can be shy but

00:08:03.120 still talkative once you get to know them but i've never seen like a not talkative person like

00:08:08.960 magically become talkative or outgoing person becomes shy yeah what are what are other traits

00:08:15.920 you've seen so probably selfish that doesn't yeah selfish i've never seen a petty person not be petty

00:08:23.600 you're petty right i'm one of those 0.81

00:08:26.560 i live that petty life let's go hey um bitchy um yeah yeah with people that complain oh um 0.96

00:08:39.520 people that are late oh yeah people that are late they'll never not be late ever yeah ever and it's

00:08:46.480 i think one of the problems of life is people always project how you want someone to be and i think the

00:08:53.520 happiest people can just accept and adapt you know what i mean like um if women are late then show up 0.58

00:09:01.360 to the date 30 minutes late because you're gonna go crazy you're gonna go crazy expected them to be on

00:09:06.560 time you might as well be late yeah yeah go ahead what are some other ones oh um uh people that oh oh people

00:09:17.280 with integrity if you don't have integrity but by the time you're you're in your mid-20s you're just

00:09:24.000 not gonna have it you know as in like saying what you doing what you say yeah having follow through a

00:09:32.560 lot of people they just won't have it oh and then people so there's normally two kinds in the corporate

00:09:39.440 world in public service there's two kinds of people there are people whose skills and abilities

00:09:45.680 make them important by their work ethic and their work output and then there are people who who try

00:09:51.600 to schmooze and lie and and and uh latch on to other people's work to become important so men and women

00:09:59.680 huh yeah pretty much so if a person is the type of person that tries to lie cheat and steal their way to

00:10:09.600 the top they're never going to change that they're always going to be trying to find some kind of hustle

00:10:14.720 they're always going to try to latch on to your dream and and milk you for money but just you

00:10:21.920 they start doing that early on and they never stop doing it

00:10:26.880 those are good do you have any more i'm gonna milk you i'm gonna milk you for these because these are

00:10:30.800 good uh it's another one um oh have you have you have you hired people at work yeah okay it sounds

00:10:40.960 it sounds like you've done hiring go ahead yeah and you know i've managed people too um oh um

00:10:49.040 a codependent people okay uh people so we all have that those people they're always

00:10:57.760 in a relationship like always oh like i know a guy literally he's been in a relationship with one

00:11:06.000 woman or another or his wife since we were 17 years old and he's he's my age and he's married now but

00:11:14.960 he was never not in a relationship must be nice sorry um are there are there any other ones

00:11:24.640 uh people that can't drive people that drive for i'm a bad driver that's right no you're not you're

00:11:34.480 actually a really good driver we talking about really you giving me around you didn't back into

00:11:40.400 any mailboxes you okay curbs so what are you talking about okay i'm not terrible but here's my problem i 0.98

00:11:47.440 i i can zone out and that's usually when shit hits the fan 0.55

00:11:54.880 uh what else um i already said integrity i would say people that um uh oh yeah um so there's this book 0.66

00:12:09.200 that i always plug called messy it's it's called uh it's written by tim harper it's called messy how

00:12:17.920 to be creative and resilient in a tidy-minded world so guys okay you don't want to be a dirty person

00:12:25.600 where your house it smells really bad whatever but they're just messy people like i'm one of those

00:12:32.560 there are people where you have clean clothes but they just never make it on the hanger understand i'm

00:12:37.280 saying or um you you clean your dishes but you pull them out of the dishwasher to use them and

00:12:46.640 if you're not a super clean and tidy person it's not a bad thing because you that energy that super

00:12:54.720 tidy clean people use for that you use towards other things as in like creative endeavors or or stuff like

00:13:02.400 that so don't feel bad if you're a messy person you're using that energy for other aspects of

00:13:09.040 your life besides cleanliness yeah and i think that's from a young age yeah i do think part of

00:13:15.440 it's a skill issue like um because like a lot of people didn't grow up with moms teaching them how to do 0.95

00:13:22.480 that stuff but i i do think messy and like clean is from a young age yeah so i i think um once again i think

00:13:31.280 everyone should be cleanliness but you know if you have stuff going on i've worked two jobs most of my

00:13:37.840 life even when i was an undergrad grad school and i was pursuing so many things i just didn't have time

00:13:43.440 to be clear and go clean and tidy and so yeah most of the time if you're a messy person just you know

00:13:49.760 just accept it and try to figure out a way around it yeah oh like it's easier to hire a maid than it

00:13:55.920 like or get like a cleaning service then try to change your whole personality

Pearl - September 18, 2025

Your Undesirable Traits Will Likely NEVER Change

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