022 - Game & Hypergamy in Major Cities w⧸Myron Gains.
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1 hour and 23 minutes
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246.2305
Summary
Myron Gaines is a man of many talents. He is a self-development coach, entrepreneur, social entrepreneur, entrepreneur and entrepreneur in his own right. He has been around the game for a long time and has a lot of experience in the fitness and entrepreneurship space.
Transcript
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and we're live episode number 22 with Myron Gaines what's up brother what's up man how you
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doing rich doing good man it's a broadcast we've had in the making for a long time coming behind
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the scenes Myron's a longtime friend and mentee from my community and uh he is a he's going to
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be a big thing in this space as uh the years and months come up he's also the village bicycle he
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he goes around a lot that's my job man I'm just like working my rounds and you know spreading the
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message and basically yeah I'm being a garden tool right now you know what I'm talking about
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so um we could we could go down a whole bunch of avenues and paths on this broadcast today we're
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going to try to keep it under uh 90 minutes but um let me kind of introduce you as I know you um
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you've been around this space it feels like almost about a year is when I first met you maybe about a
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year year and a half ago um you know you're a solid guy that does well in life in general with
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your day job but you've also got a lot of skills when it comes to self-care like you kind of leaned
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into the space as look I want to help guys get better results in the gym um how old are you now
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I'm 30 years old 30 so you're 30 you're natural uh you do a lot of evidence-based um advice when it
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comes to training when it comes to nutrition um I've seen you link like everything like when you're in
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the community and somebody's like hey I have a question like boom boom boom boom study study
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study it's like dude's got it like if you follow him on instagram you'll see pretty much a lot of
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the same stuff um and his handle's on the bottom there um but you also got involved with uh the
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whole simp to pimp thing and that's kind of like one of your catch uh slogans is turning simps to pimps
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and a big part of that is of course the self-care but it's the mindset issue when it comes to doing
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better with women you live in Miami one of the things you wanted to hit on this broadcast was
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dealing with like women in the most hypergamous city in North America is what you called it
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um why do you call Miami the most hypergamous city yeah I mean the reality is Miami is a great
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way to test your raw smv you know what I mean that's just the reality because here you're competing with
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top tier guys that are in Lambos Ferraris whether they're rented or not but everyone's pushing a facade
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here so if you're not firing on all cylinders as far as like being an attractive male high value
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you're probably going to get left in the dust because the thing is is that we have the highest
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concentration of attractive women here in South Florida and in the United States in my opinion
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and I've been around and there we all know women are you know they they date up so for you to be
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able to get these types of women these model type women that live here you got to be on on on point
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with uh everything whether it's your fitness your game your money you have to have all these things
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situated before you even begin to be able to get out here and game and actually be successful I mean
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you could be broke and you know still go out and do things but you're not going to optimize your
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results with the highest value women the best looking girls because they're 100 dating up because
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so many high value guys have vacation houses here like in Miami Beach on Star Island whatever it may
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be how long you lived in Miami for I've been here since uh 2018 so I've been here just over two years
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and where'd you grow up I grew up in uh Connecticut New Britain Connecticut to be exact hard hit
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most of the family too right yeah uh my yeah my parents uh we grew up I was born in New York City
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and then I moved to Connecticut uh at around nine ten years old and then I when people ask me I always
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say I'm from Connecticut I went to high school in New Brent High uh New Brent Connecticut which is like
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right in the center right outside of Hartford and uh you know humble beginnings I didn't grow up rich
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or anything like that my dad came to the United States in the 80s uh as an immigrant from Sudan
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and he brought my mom over they didn't speak a lick of English and they just figured out my dad
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drove a taxi in the New York City in Brooklyn at the worst time back in the 90s and it was most
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dangerous and uh you know he was able to work his way up and buy a home and raise us and you know
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growing up we we didn't have the most money but you know we had food and most importantly both parents
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stayed together to this day and um even though we weren't the richest that stable family that stable
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household made things like uh much better for me growing up and and I didn't value and now as an
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adult I can look back and value that like wow this is why I've been able to you know be raised right
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and you know be mentally sane and not have any real issues because I came from a stable household
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regardless of income both parents were there and my mom always kept the house clean she always
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uh cooked for us like I remember my mom would get anxiety if my dad went to went to work without
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having a lunch pack you know that's how much my mom cared about serving him and my dad was a leader
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too who's an alpha male so my mom respected him and stood by him and uh you know it worked out great
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and I grew up Muslim as well too what was the um what was it like for you like when you kind of got
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into the real world as a a man when you kind of graduate from boy to man you you know reach out in
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the world real world you start to interact with women like were you a simp at one point or were you
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always kind of like you know you had game so uh this is a great question um so growing up I always
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kind of had some kind of awareness of of this you know of the the rp because uh because I was raised
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in a muslim household with uh parents from north africa so obviously everyone knows islam is a
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patriarchy men lead women follow and uh you know my mom always told me from a young age hey make sure
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you go and marry a woman from the middle east you know an egyptian uh you know libyan whatever may
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an egyptian girl a saudi arabian girl sudanese girl whatever may be but go back qatar wherever
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go at dubai meet one of these girls and bring her back because you don't want to deal with an
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american and I was like mom what are you talking about and then as I become an adult and I'm like
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kind of seeing like how things have changed uh you know it's just it's tough to make a relationship
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work nowadays with the way the laws are constructed the way with the north of all divorces etc so I see
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what my mom meant now as an adult um so I always had this kind of awareness and then when I went to
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college I kind of I was I was good with ladies in college but like I didn't know exactly why and then
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uh you know I found roletz massey I read his book shout out to him uh and it connected a lot of dots
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for me you know things that I had like experienced and seen but like I was like oh I can't really put
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my finger on it and then I was like oh eureka like it literally like laid everything out so I recommend
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every guy read that book that's it was it was great stuff but I would say I had the awareness but
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I've definitely simped in the past I'm no I'm not immune to being an idiot and like simping and
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making terrible mistakes with with women and learning the hard way was there like there's
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usually for most guys some kind of trauma in their life that brings them to you know trp or to my
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channel or to read rollo's book like was there heartbreak when I just like was there something
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that brought you there you know I've never had a serious girlfriend that hurt me man and people
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ask me they're amazed when I say that I've always been so focused on like um excelling at the gym
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work whatever it may be that like I never uh dated a girl super seriously to the point that it could
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affect my performance like I've been I've seen women before whatever it may be but I never let
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them get in a position where like it would like be it would mess uh mess with my capacity to perform
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so it wasn't it wasn't trauma it was just for me more like the interest of connecting the dots and
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figuring this out because was that was that nature from like your upbringing like was that just kind of
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like in your dna you just saw it in that sense because I mean one of the core tenets of trp is
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um you know you never get into a long-term relationship especially in your 20s and women
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will always push for it at some point like I'm sure like you've had some girls like you know Myron let's
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have a talk you know because I'm thinking we'd be better as a couple and we want to be exclusive and
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you know you get stuff like that yeah for sure like them trying to angle a relationship I would say
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how'd you end up handling stuff like that when that would come up that's a great question rich and I've
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never until you asked me that question now I I know why now it was because I knew deep down I
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couldn't bring any of these girls to my mom or like my family they wouldn't approve that's why
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because nowadays like my parents are begging me to get you know find it you know I want to have I
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want to have grandchildren I don't care who you bring home whatever so now they don't care but
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when I was younger when I was younger my mom was like hey make sure you you get the right girl make
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sure she's Muslim make sure she speaks Arabic you need to pass the religion and and the language down blah
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blah now as I get older she's like just bring anybody so I would say from from all those years
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the formative years and the teens in the 20s I didn't take any girls serious because I knew I
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wouldn't be able to bring them home to the family so that's I'm yeah that was a good question that's
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interesting um so okay so you talked about doing some simping so what's the worst simping that you've
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ever done like what's the worst blue pill beta thing that you're like embarrassed to even
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mention I would say uh just and it's several like texting girls and like hitting them up and just
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talking to them knowing that like they're just and well back then I didn't know but I thought like
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just giving them more attention would work and like they'd like me like I hope like I basically ran what
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I call like I hope she likes me game which is like never the way to go yeah you should be running it
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like hey take it or leave it type game versus like I hope she likes me and that's what I was doing I was
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like trying to build rapport and I was trying to build comfort and all this stuff before attraction
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and for anybody that hasn't read the mystery method I think it's an excellent book to read
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to learn basic uh intersexual dynamics between the two genders um you know you you got to build
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attraction first before you build comfort you know so I I didn't even build attraction so I would say
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that was like one of the biggest mistakes like just fundamentally like putting the cart before the
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horse and now understanding that like your attention is your currency as a man and I made so many
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mistakes looking back in college uh looking back in my teens uh even my in my 20s you know I didn't
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really start figuring this stuff out until about I was about 28 29 but before that I had kind of known
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but then I finally connected the dots when I got older so I would say definitely just giving free
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attention was like the biggest mistake and like talking to girls that clearly like didn't see me in
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a romantic light yeah I always you know always laugh at all these like thirsty beta kind of simps because
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they have blood on their hands they don't even know it like they've like they've gotten
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they've gotten the sexual marketplace to the point where like fours believe that they're tens with
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three kids in tow from two different fathers because of all the free attention they get from
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about 80 percent of the male population which in some sense makes our job harder but it also kind of
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makes it easier because it's really easy to stand out from all the simping too absolutely and I talked
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about this in a video uh like like how um because you know a lot of guys think like oh you guys over in
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this fear you guys are just haters and it's like no bro over 56 percent of instagram users are women
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and women get five times as many likes as men that's some hardcore stats for you right there for
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the guys that think we're like you know we don't know what we're talking about yeah let me just hit
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these uh super chats so Odin yeah I got yours bro thanks man uh the elite tag team is out and about
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Manny says what's the verdict on cold approach it's an excellent question you got to do it man like that
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for anybody that uh might not be familiar with me I came into the scene through uh my boy John
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from Modern Life Dating and I've been out he's seen me out uh in a couple venues in in uh Phoenix and
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uh Orlando and and one of my things is night game like you know I'm pretty good with like cold approach
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and especially within a night venue and I guess we've talked about that later but the point is
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is you got to learn how to cold approach man because if you don't know how to cold approach you're not
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going to be able to forge uh fundamental skills that you need to learn when you're interacting with
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women and cold approach is one of the best and most organic ways to develop these skills these
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social skills on the fly because when you're talking because when you when you cold approach
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a girl number one it shows confidence right and if you do it correctly it says a lot about you as a
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man and it shows a lot of uh social awareness because when she's giving you feedback you're
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immediately replying in a witty funny way and then it shows social calibration which social showing
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social calibration is very attractive because most guys don't have that so when you're able to show
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that you're calibrated on a social sense she's gonna instantly find you as like an anomaly compared
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to other guys because what do most other guys do they'll come in and ask boring questions they
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won't raise a sexual tension they're not interesting whatever it may be so when you're able to like
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ping her responses based on your experiences and come back with a funny answer it's like oh wow this
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guy's cool you know and she'll want to like she'll want to know more so but cold approach is definitely
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skill that needs to be learned yeah um a friend of mine and what i see most guys do actually
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is what i call interrogation approach where they basically like get right in their face and like
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so what do you do where do you live what kind of kind of drive oh yeah do you like that it's like
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you know what kind of clubs you go to and it's like no no you got to chill the hell out i like your
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um break in line what the hell was it it was something like uh hey i wanted to say say hi because
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i haven't seen somebody as cute as i am or something yeah i uh yeah my pickup line guys like for
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all the guys that wonder my opener every single time i go out was hey you're almost as cute as me
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what's your name that's it then i'll just put my hand out and then you know and if she shakes my
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hand uh what i'll do is i'll like hold on to it and if she lets me hold on to it well this is a way
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of screening you know one of the techniques that i use because my thing is i don't run like i hope
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she likes me game i run is she available game so you're screening out time wasters immediately
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because the thing here about miami especially is that a lot of girls come down here to vacation to
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take pictures to like get some clout you know what i mean so you need to filter those girls out
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immediately when you're out so one of the ways that you could do it or get naturally without
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being overt is like kind of subtly holding your hand when you introduce yourself and watching her
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body language when you're talking to her which you know uh you know john does teach that court
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whole course on that but uh but yeah definitely that's yeah that's my that's my line right there
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um a lot of the guys that i've seen sulk about the results they get with women um you know they
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always find you know like a problem for it it's uh too too short um you know too tall too fat too
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skinny um one of the things i've heard often is well if you're not white you know you might as well
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throw it in the bin um clearly you know you've done well so what's the secret i mean does skin color
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really matter to women no it doesn't and as a matter of fact one of my buddies here in miami
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we're working together on a project right now he's not the best looking guy he's darker skinned
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and he's short he's not under six feet and he's not in good shape but he's like getting girls left
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and right and the reason why is because he portrays himself in a good light you know for all the guys
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out there that say oh you can't get a girl unless you're six feet tall or more or it's all about the
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face or whatever actually it if you could pick one amplifier to as a man to get girls it would be
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social status i would say clout and social status is number one as far as like attracting girls and if
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you don't believe me look at a rapper like six nine you know what i'm saying so um and he's got all
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these chicks in his videos and he's he's hung out with like hot models and all that stuff so
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clout was everything so if if you if you're not the best looking guy the beauty about being a man
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is that you're not only judged on the way you look i always say like girls have an attraction
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floor so as long as you hit that attraction floor and you're able to like show her your other features
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which are you know whether you make more money you make good money you're confident um you're in
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good shape you you convey yourself in a certain way a masculine way that's that's attractive
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you'll make you're more than more than make up for the fact that you're not the most attractive guy
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but the thing is that a lot of guys want to just like say oh it's all looks it's all looks and it's
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really not the looks just get you into the door but if you can't convey high value in other ways
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you're going to take an l i know plenty of guys that are like in great shape and they're gym cells
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they can't get girls because they're socially awkward they don't have any type of they might not
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be financially stable whatever so i think you need the trifecta to truly be successful and looks is just
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a part of it to get you in but you but the beauty of the man is you can uh show your other
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features whereas like as a woman if you're not good looking oh man you're gonna have to you're
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gonna have a hard life as a female you know because that's how guys judge women you know at the end of
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the day unfortunately but women women fortunately for us judge us on a whole matrix of things yeah
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there's always still a long lineup of men that would that would go out with a four though i mean
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they're absolutely yeah yeah it's just off the chart kind of crazy yeah absolutely um what kind of
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game do you usually run in miami like you'd use use cold approach or use dating apps like what's
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your favorite or is it just a combination of it i i use all so uh okay so rank them for us so so tell
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us what you like the best and why so personally um before covid my my favorite was night game now i
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will warn the viewers that night game probably has one of the lowest returns on investment when you
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compare time money effort everything like that but to me i enjoy the fact that like night game in miami
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makes you razor sharp like you go to another city it's easy mode when i went to phoenix i was like
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whoa what is this you know what i mean but like uh here it's very hard so especially if you're like
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partying in miami versus like miami beach like miami beach is filled with tours you could probably
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it it'll be easier in miami beach but if you're doing it in in miami with locals it's pretty tough
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um and then after that obviously dating apps is probably the best roi because you're dealing with
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like basically she's already getting screened out for you because like when you swipe right and she swipes
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right on you it's like okay she's interested she's available and then you go from there but a lot of
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girls use dating apps you know just to get free attention so you got to set up your profile in a
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certain way and have these mechanisms to screen out time wasters which uh we taught that in pandemic
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pick up me and john uh and then i would say after that is um then you can run day game like you know
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i would i'd do day game last like if i see an attractive girl when i'm walking to the gym because
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i live in like a brickle for so for anybody that's like familiar with miami that's in manhattan of miami
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so there's a lot of good looking girls walking around with their dogs or whatever so like when i'm walking
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to the gym or i'm going to get some food or whatever if i see a cute girl i'll introduce myself
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but um i don't like overtly carve out four hours and go to the mall and walk around and try to talk
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to girls like i don't i don't think that's a useful way to spend time but i don't knock guys that do
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that because i know a lot of guys that get successful with that and then after that is a
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social circle game which i'm going to start running that here fairly soon but with social circle that's
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a little bit more of a long game because you you can't you can't afford to take an l with social
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circle because you're going to see these people again i got a question here from one of our one
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percenters i'm i'm just going to drop the youtube link so if you guys are watching this like on
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twitter or facebook anywhere if that link shows up that i've just posted head over to youtube and
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click that it helps me out a lot more with the algorithms uh alan said can you please explain
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night game yeah that's a great question so so night game pretty much is any type of game
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where you're going out to a venue uh where there's like liquor being alcohol being served and it's
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like a social environment so like a nightclub a bar i mean some people might even constitute like a
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daytime pool party as night game uh like a day club yeah like a day club which i mean i guess you can you
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can you can lump it there but pretty much any social scene that's designed to have people meet where
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there's liquor being served it's typically like a night game venue so um night game is is like i'll
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use it in miami for example like if you're at a club or a bar or whatever it's you know the act of
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approaching women and meeting girls through uh at the bar which for a lot of people is tough because
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you have a lot of obstacles you got a lot of music you got you know bouncers that are that are haters
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you know quite frankly you got to pay covers uh drinks cost more money uh you got to nowadays uh you got
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to run table if you're not if you don't have a table you're gonna have to be even more sharp because
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uh the guys that have a table are gonna have a little bit more preference with the ladies than
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you um so there's a lot of different factors which is why a lot of guys stay away from night game
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especially nowadays with like the emergence of social media and the whole i think rush talked
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about this how like uh the the table the bottle service scene along with social media and phones
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has made night game dead i don't think it's dead but it definitely is uh the hardest one of the
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hardest ways to source girls but i like it because it's a challenge and it makes you gotta have
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money though i mean like a table is gonna cost you a minimum three thousand dollars for the night
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yeah in miami yeah at the top club even low season you're paying at least 12 to 1500 for like
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uh the lowest level liquor at a top club here the good thing is if you set it up right and you know
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some of the guys are like they'll actually bring the hottest girls to your table um a lot of them
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will just go there just try to drink your shit so yeah yeah i mean there's a certain there's a certain
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level of work that you got to do to like filter out the ones that are going to be the
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manipulative time wasters yeah i could run over a table game real quick if you want me to because
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i know how to yeah so uh so i talked about this on solos thing real quick but like yeah so the way
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you run table game guys is like if you are going to get a table you got to do it with guys that know
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what they're doing and what i mean by that is you don't want to go and get a table with simps because
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if you get a table with simps they're not going to know how to act when you have girls at the table
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so what you do is if let's say it's three to four guys right one guy stays back at the table and he
00:20:07.640
he controls the drinks your two most charismatic guys go out and source and what they do is they
00:20:12.340
approach girls and hey what's your name blah blah blah screen them out figure out what their what
00:20:17.280
their logistics are what they're doing you know you don't want to go and like meet up with girls
00:20:20.440
like oh i'm i have a boyfriend i'm just here for like no you're not fun you just yeah you just kick
00:20:25.520
them to the curb immediately like i said you're screening out time wasters right let me just let me
00:20:29.120
just stop you for a second anytime you go to a nightclub and there's some girl who spent two and a half
00:20:34.100
hours doing her hair her makeup her you know putting on the right push-up bra trying on 17
00:20:39.580
different outfits and she gives you the i have a boyfriend she doesn't okay she's available she's
00:20:45.600
there for a reason for sure for sure and i say like she probably just more work though yeah it's
00:20:50.680
just more work so like me i don't like with night game the beauty is that you've got a high
00:20:54.980
concentration of girls so like you can you can afford to like just kick girls to the curb that
00:20:58.800
aren't cooperating so um so you find the girls that are fun because you don't want to bring any
00:21:02.440
girls that are a buzzkill uh and what you do is you just bring pairs of twos and threes bring it
00:21:06.720
back to the table and then your buddy controls the liquor he doesn't let them touch the liquor he
00:21:10.180
pours the liquor for them so that they don't drink the alcohol and and and leave or because a lot of
00:21:14.900
girls they'll just want to sit at your table because they don't want to stand their heels all the time
00:21:17.580
the whole time that's another that's another little secret that guys don't know girls want to get on
00:21:21.060
table just to sit down so you and what you do is the biggest the biggest game changer is finding girls
00:21:25.920
that are different like that don't know each other so you get like a set two set here three set here
00:21:30.060
another three set here whatever it may be bring them all to the table and the reason why you do
00:21:33.140
that is to create that competition anxiety so when they see you there with other girls that they don't
00:21:37.540
know and especially like let's say one group of girls miss like they act like they act up or whatever
00:21:42.140
and they piss you off you kick them out and let the other girls see that so they know oh wow we better
00:21:45.840
act right or else these these guys don't care and then you just kick them out and then they're going
00:21:49.120
to get in line because like i've always said it that like girls get in line when they know you have
00:21:52.420
other girls in line and it creates that competition anxiety so they're going to be more apt to like
00:21:56.600
cooperate and then you know you just go from there and you game them and you see how it goes but
00:22:00.000
you know you should your guys if your two guys are smart they should have like done a lot of the
00:22:03.520
filtering for you before they even brought them to the table and then one guy controls the liquor
00:22:06.680
and he doesn't let him touch it he pours the drinks and then boom you just you know you wing it but you
00:22:10.740
you know john's in the chat right now he says you know this is expert level gain
00:22:14.720
dude's right man you know i did this um at your age when i used to go to vegas like every
00:22:20.600
60 days or so um you know we did table and bottle serves but we never had like a strategy that you laid
00:22:26.680
out like this yeah yeah it's it's it's tough to pull off because like a lot of guys don't have
00:22:31.320
dudes that don't know that know what they're doing but if you go with guys that know what they're doing
00:22:35.180
like a two or two or three other guys that like are aware and you do this it's like a killer because
00:22:40.000
then like you guys are basically working as a team to screen out time wasters because make no mistake
00:22:45.160
when you're doing night game a lot of girls are there just to get free attention take snapchats take
00:22:49.440
instagram pictures like look at my life it's so lit oh you know i'm saying so what you do is you know
00:22:53.960
you're trying to get rid of those girls immediately and i always tell guys for free they drink for
00:22:57.520
free yeah dude you know and the other thing too so i'll give you guys a little dirty secret about
00:23:02.000
miami a lot of these girls that get into like the top clubs live story whatever they get in for free
00:23:06.160
because what promoters do is they'll walk around ocean drive and they'll go to the beach and they'll
00:23:09.960
find big groups of girls i'll say hey listen you guys want to go to club live tonight for free
00:23:13.580
uh and they'll be like oh yeah sure i'm like all right we'll put you guys at the table or whatever and
00:23:17.580
what they'll do is they'll bring those girls in and they'll put them at a table with some like old
00:23:20.940
dorks that spent like forty thousand dollars on that table the girls will go there drink their
00:23:25.000
stuff and then they'll like leave the vi leave their area and then like go out and mingle and
00:23:28.500
then that's when you come in and you can bring them to your table and then you know work it that way if
00:23:32.960
you are going to run table game uh if you're not going to run table game it's going to be a little
00:23:35.480
bit harder but uh you know table game definitely you want to do it with guys that know what they're
00:23:39.660
doing because if you have a simp in the group he might mess it up for everybody he's giving out free
00:23:42.420
liquor like oh yeah i love you baby like simping so you know and the bottles aren't cheap so you know
00:23:48.000
you got to just be smart about it if you're going to do it i always say go with a squad you're
00:23:50.860
better off going alone than going out with like guys that don't know what they're doing in my
00:23:53.760
um we were talking before offline when we were doing a zoom hangout in the community about um
00:24:00.840
like the most attractive body parts that women look at and you're doing like training for certain
00:24:09.120
like traps arms like i think you did all the research on this what was the top five body parts
00:24:14.480
that that chicks typically dig when it comes to the male physique you know the masculine physique
00:24:19.440
yeah so um typically it was like what guys think you know chest and arms and stuff like that
00:24:23.660
but some ones that two body parts that were like really uh attractive to women that no one really
00:24:29.500
talks about are forearms and glutes surprisingly um and when you think about it from like a uh from
00:24:36.540
an evolutionary standpoint makes sense because having strong forearms assumes that like you know that
00:24:41.380
you're uh that you work that you that you're physically strong because you don't get
00:24:44.800
guys that have big forearms typically do some kind of manual labor or they or they work out or they do
00:24:49.940
something physical which makes them more attractive you know you know always have having calluses on
00:24:54.360
your hands also makes you attractive and then having nice glutes actually contrary to what guys think oh
00:24:58.720
it's only girls that need to have nice glutes like no guys do too so uh those are two body parts that
00:25:03.560
like guys don't even know are like attractive to women but like yeah chest and arms are typically
00:25:08.260
there but like gluten forms are also about the top five i have um i have a comment here i'm going to
00:25:14.980
put up on the screen um don't need to read it okay yeah but you know you can read it but what's your
00:25:21.520
thoughts on that well uh facebook user i'm going to have to respectfully uh disagree with you and the
00:25:26.980
reason why is because when you make uh what you're getting a professional and getting a transactional
00:25:32.660
interaction you're not going to get her best brother like that's just the reality that's why you don't pay
00:25:36.860
you don't pay to play because you're going to get some starfish like some you know some bs you're not
00:25:44.060
going to get the real thing so you you always want genuine desire and that genuine desire comes from
00:25:48.780
you being able to demonstrate higher value dhv and a table is a way to do that you know what i'm saying
00:25:53.520
because like i said women have a bunch of attraction triggers one of them unfortunately like i know a lot
00:25:58.520
of guys don't like hearing this but you know financial stability and when you have and social status so
00:26:02.660
when you have a table you're able to convey that without saying a word now am i saying run
00:26:06.800
table game to get girls no but what i am saying is for the guys that do want to run table game that's
00:26:11.040
the proper way to do it so that you don't get fleeced because i know a bunch of guys in here
00:26:14.200
are going to go to vegas or miami or la or new york city or whatever and they're going to run they're
00:26:20.100
going to want to get a table that's how you do it properly without getting fleeced which new york city
00:26:23.980
that's a whole nother game la that's another game i don't know if you want me to break down those
00:26:26.840
cities of like how to approach those places but um but yeah dude like you're not going to get
00:26:31.340
that because because it's like it's going to cost you either way depending on how it is you want to
00:26:37.260
approach a sexual marketplace and women there's always a cost to interact um the thing with that
00:26:42.800
comment is i find he's not doing either right yeah like this is somebody that isn't getting any
00:26:48.200
results whatsoever so it's points and sputter the garden tools uh that you're talking to in the
00:26:53.980
nightclub let's go get a professional but the reality is see there's validational intimacy
00:26:59.880
and there's transactional intimacy uh you'll never get her best like myron said when it comes to
00:27:05.640
transactional where you have to pay in exchange for the intimacy where it's validational she's she's
00:27:11.300
doing it because she's enthusiastic about being around you and it's it's totally it's way better
00:27:16.260
it's a million times better so that's the difference between the two i mean if you want to pay just get
00:27:22.880
a doll dude just do that yeah you're better off man you're just better off like you know rubbing one
00:27:28.720
you know than doing that like that you're whenever if you pay a woman for intimacy she she fundamentally
00:27:34.720
can't respect you so and if she can't respect you you're not going to get her best you know what i
00:27:38.520
mean like that's just the way it works so women don't respect guys like that yeah so for him to say
00:27:42.980
that you know facebook user you probably aren't that experienced with women no offense bro um what
00:27:49.260
else can we hit on here man we got a lot of stuff asked a good question he said break down some of
00:27:53.100
that west coast game i can talk about it briefly yeah okay go ahead talk about west coast game
00:27:56.560
so uh i have a couple girlfriends that are out of la and uh what i learned and i went out there
00:28:02.340
myself and what i figured out was that um los angeles is very dependent upon social circle game
00:28:07.660
so like um california the the whole state of california the bars close at two but by like 1 30
00:28:13.560
they turn the lights on they want you out because they need to have the place closed down by two
00:28:17.200
so what i learned in la when i was there was that it's not like vegas or miami where you can like
00:28:21.980
party all night you need to know people to get invited to a house to get invited to like a mansion
00:28:26.140
party or whatever like on the hollywood hills or whatever so the only people let's keep it real
00:28:29.480
that have access to that is either you have clout or you're a hot girl so social circle is very
00:28:35.180
important in la to uh get invited to like clubs and then the other thing too is that um to get into the
00:28:40.680
top clubs you you definitely got to know people because there's such a high concentration of
00:28:44.180
celebrities there that they're they don't need like the average person's business you know what i'm
00:28:50.960
saying so uh la that's one thing i didn't like about la is that like it was very social circle game
00:28:55.980
uh dominated so if you're not a somebody or you don't have connections you're it's just going to
00:29:00.640
be tough and another thing too is that um like a lot of girls like with these hollywood parties what
00:29:06.080
they'll do is like the manager of like a celebrity rapper whatever it may be and i learned this like
00:29:10.940
girls have told me this that live in la this is exactly how it goes down they get a invite like a
00:29:15.400
dm on instagram hey such and such celeb is having a party at this address at this time blah blah blah
00:29:20.960
not he doesn't give the address but like he's interested do you guys want to come bring your
00:29:23.800
friends and they're like yeah they're like okay cool he'll give them the address they'll show up
00:29:27.460
and it's only girls no guys can come and then they'll make them sign ndas all the girls have
00:29:31.740
to sign ndas and then when they get to the house uh they take all their phones so they can't post
00:29:35.740
anything on social media whatever it may be they bring them in the celeb is there with all his
00:29:39.440
friends whatever and then they just party and then like you know that's just how it is you know
00:29:43.500
i know dan blazerian does this with ndas and a bunch of other celebs so la is very
00:29:47.500
who you know uh new york city though is a little bit different like new york city is you got to pay
00:29:52.680
to play and what i mean by that is uh in new york city it's not like miami where you can go
00:29:56.860
anywhere and there's hot girls at a dive bar like new york city if you go to a dive bar you're going
00:30:00.660
to take it out it's going to be all dudes so the only way you're going to meet a track limit in
00:30:03.960
new york city is you're going to have to pay to get into the top clubs like mr purple one oak uh
00:30:08.740
you know bounce etc and if you're a guy as soon as you show up at the door and it's like two or
00:30:13.360
three of you they're going to try to they're either a going to force you to get a table and spend a
00:30:16.740
couple hundred or thousands of dollars or they're going to that's my ringtone that's a great ringtone
00:30:24.720
man uh so they're going to make you pay a bunch of money at the door or they're not going to let
00:30:30.320
you in and say you're not on the list so uh new york city is definitely like um you got to pay to
00:30:35.060
have fun in new york city whereas like the thing i like about miami is you can land not know anybody
00:30:39.220
and still go to any club or bar and still see attractive women versus like in la and new york you
00:30:44.920
either have to know people la or new york you also have to know people but you could pay your way in
00:30:48.860
new york city so those are the big differences i've noticed in night game in those major cities
00:30:52.420
cool dude you got some serious uh breakdance here um give give these guys some tips with
00:31:01.040
online game um you know talk about the importance of photography um you know some of the approach
00:31:07.320
mechanisms like i know that you've done like a full course on it with pandemic with john so it would
00:31:11.940
take literally like a few like several hours to go through it all but yeah give them some of the
00:31:16.520
nuggets like yeah some of the stuff at 30 000 feet yeah so the biggest thing so i i know everybody likes
00:31:21.900
to say oh online dating is is bs it doesn't work or whatever you know look at the tinder study from
00:31:27.120
2015 where women found 80 of guys unattractive look at the tinder study yeah you're wasting your time
00:31:32.120
exactly exactly like people come in and tell me i can't i can't tell you how many people call me and
00:31:36.640
john scammers and then you know i mean and we're like okay so i in my youtube video i broke this
00:31:41.820
down like the reason why girls find so many guys unattractive on dating sites isn't necessarily
00:31:46.120
because the guys are ugly but the way they convey themselves is ugly and what i mean by that is that
00:31:50.820
guys take bad pictures their profiles are low value etc so some top tips i can give right now are
00:31:56.080
go against the grain so what i mean by that the average joe has average pictures with his friends
00:32:01.760
drinking a beer at a bar and it's like oh okay man you're just another like frat guy what you need to do
00:32:06.540
is demonstrate higher value and take good pictures in cool areas professional photography
00:32:11.720
that shows you in a good light you know i mean it's amazing how a few professional photos will
00:32:17.460
dramatically increase your results with with online dating because you need to convey yourself in a way
00:32:22.160
that's high value but you don't have to necessarily be the best looking guy just like i said there's
00:32:26.160
always a traction floor so as long as i think every man is capable of getting himself to at least a
00:32:30.700
seven you know if you take care of yourself in the gym sorry if you take care of yourself like your skin
00:32:34.600
your teeth uh get in the gym and work out you're going to become attractive like you know you know
00:32:39.500
if guys walk around with dirty teeth for example are like one of the easiest ways to demonstrate like
00:32:44.520
to increase your smb by two or three points because if you have white teeth that are straight
00:32:48.740
that is a huge like signifier of value because having nice teeth is a luxury you know what i mean
00:32:54.580
so it you don't have to say a word and it's already implied that you have expendable income
00:32:58.780
you know what i mean when you have a nice smile uh and it says a lot about your cleanliness as well
00:33:02.440
so like these little things these little covert dhvs uh are excellent to to increase your value so
00:33:07.660
i would say take care of yourself get professional photography if you're overweight get in the gym
00:33:12.980
you can't be fat yet you're going to take an online dating if you're fat and you're in and you're
00:33:17.160
taking pictures like you're just going to have to uh make yourself look better and then uh you
00:33:21.880
definitely want to have at least one photo in a suit another photo in like some street wear
00:33:25.380
and uh and do it in cool locations you know so if you live in new york city try to take it like
00:33:30.520
under a bridge underpass or something like that where with the skyline in the back like these are
00:33:34.060
you know get with a photographer and shoot a thousand pictures in cool locations in your city
00:33:37.880
or city near you and that will dramatically increase your results just off that one of the things that
00:33:42.960
you guys can do um is go to airbnb experiences or go to facebook marketplace and just find a student
00:33:50.300
photographer that will do like a three-hour shoot for 100 bucks like a little cost it'll literally cost
00:33:56.040
you a hundred dollars to get professional quality photographs you just bring a couple of different
00:34:00.360
outfits you do you know like a wardrobe change kind of like you know once or twice throughout the
00:34:04.300
whole shoot they usually know where to shoot and what time of day to shoot right and you just get
00:34:09.700
that and i've seen like i've seen guys go from like a six to a nine just just with way better
00:34:16.660
photography better lighting you know proper fitting clothing a nice haircut if they have a beard they get it
00:34:21.720
cleaned up so they don't look like a hobo um like there's work that you have to do to attract women
00:34:26.280
the problem is that there's a lot of guys out there today that feel like they should just be like for
00:34:30.820
who they are and that's just a function of a lot of single mother households a lot of guys that have
00:34:35.180
been force-fed a lot of you know bs kool-aid their entire life you know trying to convince them to
00:34:40.460
believe that women should just love them for who they are and it just doesn't work that way like
00:34:44.500
there's work that has to be done and um it is what it is man like it like it's always dressed in
00:34:50.360
overalls and it looks like work and most people don't want to do it and here's the thing too i
00:34:54.120
think a lot of guys are fundamentally unaware at like the gravity of options that women have
00:34:58.760
like the thing is is that you have to be you you have to be high value as a man in 2020 because
00:35:04.240
girls have more options than before and i'll tell this story so last year i was at a at a club in
00:35:08.460
miami and i met this this uh really hot blonde girl white uh she was a blonde girl caucasian blonde
00:35:16.380
hair blue eyes five foot nine five foot ten like typically what i what i date right uh really
00:35:21.200
attractive and i'm i get her number i get her eyes i was like hey let's you know meet up tomorrow hang
00:35:26.300
out whatever because it was like saturday night or something she's like yeah yeah cool whatever
00:35:29.060
and um we i get her number and we're texting and then i notice that the texting starts to stop right
00:35:34.520
starts to get flaky and i'm like oh here we go she's gonna play and then i looked at her instagram
00:35:38.980
story and i noticed that she had like was dming little wayne she put screenshots of herself
00:35:43.780
talking with little wayne on instagram and basically at the by the end he's like was like
00:35:48.220
yeah uh lock me in let's meet up whatever so i was like oh well that's why i lost it right there
00:35:52.580
and and the the reason why i tell that story is a lot of guys internalize rejection and get mad at
00:35:57.040
the girl and what guys need to understand is that like in between a time the time a girl meets you and
00:36:01.980
and you want you set the date she might meet someone that's higher value than you and just go with
00:36:06.620
him that is why the flake rate is so astronomical so you can't uh you can't get mad at the girl and you
00:36:11.820
can't get mad and you can't internalize the l you just got to move on and just like accept that this
00:36:15.900
is the reality that grows they up and if someone higher value comes along that you might lose her
00:36:20.400
now with that said you can take steps to mitigate that how do you do that why by becoming higher
00:36:25.440
value yourself so that your flake rate comes down and you're able to exert your boundaries because a
00:36:30.080
lot of guys think oh why am i doing all this to get a girl no no no no wrong you're doing all this
00:36:34.720
for you and then a byproduct of doing this for you is that you can now exert your boundaries
00:36:40.140
and your authority on a woman and she'll actually respect you because girls date up so if you're not
00:36:46.280
above her in some manner she's not going to respect you and defer to your authority that's why you
00:36:50.480
become high value you know and and the women are a byproduct of the high value i think a lot of guys
00:36:54.620
have the mistake thinking like oh why should i make this money and become successful for women no no no
00:36:58.740
man it's always for you and then if you choose so women could be a byproduct of that i'm glad there's
00:37:03.500
somebody else saying this because i feel like i've been beating on this drum for years but nobody
00:37:06.780
fucking listens yeah yeah no i mean guys it's it's it's it's a fact man i mean i mean if you if
00:37:13.540
you do because here's the reality right if you go to the gym and train and this is why myron gets
00:37:19.640
results out of life this is why he's done well in business and training and helping guys move from
00:37:25.380
simp to pimp because he's willing to see it for what it is and do the work right most guys look at
00:37:31.080
and be like ah it's too much forget it yeah man it's just like sorry i'm going to cut you off there
00:37:36.080
no no no it's all good i was just going to add to that is like because here's the here's the reason
00:37:39.720
why you guys have to do this for yourself and not for women when you're in the gym at 6 a.m
00:37:44.060
squying 20 reps and 225 on your back and you're about to puke or whatever 315 whatever it may be
00:37:48.640
girls is not enough of a motivation to continue to pursue that endeavor of fitness okay when you're
00:37:55.360
grinding at home working trying to make this this big money girls is not enough of a motivation to
00:38:01.240
continue to do that it's got to be for you because you'll never find the proper amount of motivation
00:38:07.060
if you're using women as the only uh motivation to uh to become successful it's just not going to work
00:38:13.760
because the reality is women are flaky they're fickle you know their emotions change all the time
00:38:17.900
so if you base your validation if you base your self-worth on a woman's validation you're going to
00:38:22.220
take an l every single time so you got to do it for you because you know that you're you know who
00:38:26.040
you are day to day every day so that's why it's got to be done for you and then a woman the women
00:38:30.200
can be a byproduct if you choose i've started started to be you know uh develop a little bit
00:38:36.560
of fame around my instagram stories because normally after i'm done my workout it's a quick boomerang with
00:38:41.120
the finger right and a lot of people you know will dm me and it's like i'm not doing that for chicks
00:38:46.220
like that is literally me telling my inner bitch that i got a good workout in let's do it again
00:38:51.820
because it feels good you know absolutely when you're a byproduct of that it's it's not the
00:38:57.540
focus of it and that's where almost every guy gets it wrong yeah right uh let me grab the super
00:39:03.040
chat here from afi kingdom brother myron gains unplugged fit uh sliding through showing support
00:39:09.840
blessing to the chat thanks man appreciate it thank you afi um right there man there was a super
00:39:16.780
chat here from manny what's your philosophy on life purpose um i'll let you hit on that first
00:39:22.360
yeah life purpose man i mean your happiness comes first you know what i mean like you the thing is
00:39:29.520
is that you have to be selfish in your endeavors everything's got to be for you and then if it
00:39:34.160
benefits someone else and you want to bring them into your world then you can do that but the thing
00:39:38.900
is is that women love guys that don't need them and i think a lot of guys don't understand that
00:39:44.300
that like you you need to become the prize you need to build a castle and then she has no problem
00:39:48.700
being in your castle you know what i'm saying but like when you're relying on her to like you know
00:39:53.260
to get by and everything like that it's just inherently unattractive because women are attracted
00:39:57.640
to guys that have their stuff together and they can just like they just they just want to be a part of
00:40:02.740
that you know i mean but i think a lot of guys make the mistake and you know let a woman lead the
00:40:06.680
interaction and depend on her for a bunch of things and women don't want to be put in that position man
00:40:10.620
they want to be able to defer to your authority and relax and know that you got it you know
00:40:13.960
so your life purpose has got to be whatever makes you happy that you want to do and then everything
00:40:19.680
else comes after that my opinion yeah it's like i've got the same view if you know for me it's
00:40:24.460
just mental point of origin it really just boils down to does this serve me you know this is does
00:40:29.500
this support my mission if she's involved in it is she supporting my mission or is she getting in
00:40:34.220
the way of it um you know those are the questions that i often ask myself when it comes to purpose in
00:40:38.880
life and um it was far too many guys that'll just bend the knee and become less so she can become more
00:40:43.700
and eventually they end up getting you know crushed or destroyed and or run through the
00:40:47.940
divorce machine like even worse because they've done it the wrong way your purpose should always
00:40:52.600
come first your life should be the focus of the unit if it's something that you want to do if you
00:40:58.180
want to get married or do something stupid like that but your life should be the focus of it and
00:41:01.900
she should be complimenting that fully along the way yeah and you're doing a disservice to the woman
00:41:06.180
when you when you let her lead when you let her lead or you defer to her authority you're doing
00:41:11.600
her a disservice because it's not natural for her to lead the man she's going to feel out of place and
00:41:16.820
awkward about it so that's where this like like guys always talk about oh my wife doesn't you know
00:41:21.160
she doesn't want to make love to me anymore she's always mad she's always rude whatever it's because
00:41:24.960
you're putting her in a stressful position where she's becoming the decision maker now she has to
00:41:28.720
become masculine women don't want that you know there's a there's a really good video that what's not a
00:41:33.740
really good figure but a really good example of this exact scenario on grant cardone's channel
00:41:38.780
i watched it last night for like 12 minutes or so and i wanted to vomit my mouth but but the title
00:41:44.080
of the video was something like um you know it's the g and e podcast which is grant and elena cardone
00:41:49.920
and they were talking about how to make life decisions together as a couple or how to make
00:41:54.360
choices together as a couple like all right let's click on this because this is going to be some happy
00:41:57.760
horseshit yeah so i'm sitting there watching it for about 12 minutes and it's like the whole thing is
00:42:01.840
he's he's he's basically supplicating her the entire time yeah and i mean if you watch their
00:42:08.160
dynamic closely there's an interview with her on london real with brian rose and she's basically
00:42:13.000
telling brian i didn't want anything to do with him he was too short he wasn't my type he basically
00:42:18.040
chased me for a year and a half he was a simp but i was like all right fine he rented out the gun range
00:42:21.920
so i'm going to go shoot skeet with him sort of thing so the only reason why he's in that environment
00:42:26.600
and he's got hers because he's very very successful and wealthy and she's like a washed up
00:42:31.480
d level actress that didn't go anywhere um but women don't want to make decisions with you they
00:42:37.220
want you to decide and they toe the line that's really what it boils down to but a lot of people
00:42:42.380
are going to watch that shit be like yeah let's be like grant and elena because that's going to work
00:42:45.980
and it doesn't work for you it really doesn't work it's like the worst thing that you guys can do
00:42:49.360
the two biggest mistakes man that men make with dealing with women or their long-term counterparts
00:42:54.620
are these two things thinking that men and women are equal yep and then also thinking that a
00:43:00.320
relationship can be run on a 50 50 basis which which it never works that way you look at any
00:43:05.480
successful business there's a ceo you president there's one president united states there's always
00:43:10.840
you can't lead by a committee there's got to be one decision maker you know i'm not saying that
00:43:14.600
your wife can't have an input in the decision but at the end of the day you have to be the decision
00:43:18.640
maker this 50 50 thing doesn't work because women are not designed to lead and i always say it women
00:43:23.780
are fundamentally incapable of leading a man within the confinements of a romantic relationship they're
00:43:28.640
just not built for it so when you put in that position you're setting yourself self up for an l
00:43:32.760
and that comes from the false premise that guys think that when men and women are equal and we're not
00:43:37.380
and i've you know i used to date a lawyer she's getting mad at me like we are equal what are you
00:43:41.840
talking about i was like okay cool you know what next time we're in bed uh when i hear like a at the door
00:43:46.240
you know i'm saying you can go deal with the the robber you know i'm saying since we're equal
00:43:49.680
you got it this time it's like oh you're being a smarty smart ass but like i was like you know but
00:43:54.340
like it's true like men and women aren't equal like we're completely different and that's okay i think
00:43:58.460
there's a problem like people don't like admitting that men and women are different and we're not equal
00:44:03.300
and we're better in different things like for example we're physically superior to women but on the
00:44:07.400
other end women are superior superior to us like from a social calibration standpoint you know
00:44:11.480
they're better communicators so i you know we're better together than we are apart and we complement
00:44:15.960
each other and i think guys like trying to sit here and say oh no we're equal and all this other
00:44:19.280
stuff like that's just you you go into if you have that mindset when you go into a relationship with
00:44:23.080
your girl you're gonna you're gonna lose because because you guys aren't equal you know yeah 100
00:44:27.340
100 i think that's why the divorce rate is so high in the states and western countries is because
00:44:32.340
they believe that false premise that you can do a 50 50 relationship and that you're equal when it
00:44:36.000
doesn't work that way she loses respect when she has to lead absolutely the problem is is that that's
00:44:41.180
like that's a big part of the function of globalism and liberalism is it's trying to convince and
00:44:47.660
brainwash society to believe that men and women are the same and they're not i mean like like you
00:44:53.900
just mentioned like rollo constantly states when men and women are complementary if you size it up
00:44:59.500
right but men are the leaders men need to lead and and women love men that lead like one of the
00:45:06.560
things that you'll see a lot of and i'm sure you've seen this too as well as guys will send you
00:45:09.840
like screenshots of their interactions with chicks and it's like where did i go wrong you know how did
00:45:15.020
i screw this up and it's like well from the get-go when you ask her out there's there's dialogue back
00:45:20.360
and forth and it's like you can't even be decisive about where you're going to meet her and at what
00:45:24.280
time and what you're going to do because you're asking her like well what would you like to do
00:45:28.000
where would you like to go what would you like to drink it's like when you go out with a woman and
00:45:32.780
your messaging it's like eight o'clock coffee wear that black dress in that picture that i saw
00:45:37.760
and i'll tell you this man so so check this out i got a funny story you want to talk about
00:45:41.860
cognitive dissonance uh i had a match with a girl on bumble like a month ago and uh she was like a
00:45:47.060
feminist right uh i didn't know this until after i met with her but like uh i told her okay meet me
00:45:51.800
at this place at this time and wear these clothes and she was like she messaged me back she said oh my
00:45:55.980
god that's so hot thank you like and i was like what and she was like yeah like you're telling like
00:46:00.280
you're making a plan i was like and then that's when i kind of hit me like oh yeah this is bumble
00:46:06.000
where like this is like a feminist dating app like all the guys on here typically are soy boys
00:46:09.820
and you know they can't make a decision so when i met with the girl she was like amazed that like i
00:46:14.660
told her like i told her what to do and this girl's like a which i found out later she's a feminist so
00:46:19.200
like even girls that like subscribe to that narrative of feminism still i always say attraction isn't a
00:46:24.600
choice so like when you show these masculine traits they're hardwired to positively respond to them
00:46:30.220
and it's just like you know when these guys think oh no we're just gonna like use these
00:46:33.580
social you know the politically correct uh connotations to do things and it's like it
00:46:38.820
just doesn't work man so do you do you see a lot of women on dating apps that that look feminine but
00:46:44.500
end up being feminist because i've seen this more and more over the years where they still have
00:46:48.600
traditional feminine cues right like nice hair they've done their makeup you know they put on nice
00:46:53.380
clothes they wear a great bra or maybe they even had their boobs done like typically feminists would
00:46:57.660
not do stuff like that but you find out later on that they are in fact feminist yeah so fortunately here
00:47:03.300
in miami miami has a very strong latin culture so like it's not as visible here like as like a new
00:47:10.060
york city of washington dc uh etc so here like uh since we have such a strong latin culture here uh
00:47:16.780
in latin culture you know obviously like you know it's traditional men are men are masculine women are
00:47:21.140
feminine the girls here dress up they leave their hair down they wear heels they wear makeup they
00:47:25.160
they take care of themselves so it's not as much here but definitely in other cities yeah like i've seen
00:47:30.340
like you know you'll meet girls like that but it's funny though because like i'll go on dates with
00:47:34.080
these girls right and they'll be like yeah i'm a feminist whatever and i'll tell them all right
00:47:36.700
cool but you know you know you're not going to make any decisions on this date and they're like
00:47:39.980
yeah i know and they'll be okay with it you know what i'm saying uh so it's like yeah they could be a
00:47:44.960
boss in their workplace but they still want to be able to go yeah their boss boss yeah hashtag boss
00:47:50.820
girl you know they they want to be a boss in their thing but they still want to be able to go to a guy
00:47:54.580
that they can submit to that they can feel comfortable deferring to is the problem is that
00:47:58.040
the more successful girl gets the harder it is the smaller her pool of candidates that she can
00:48:03.240
submit to so that's why so many girls end up perpetually single because they basically they
00:48:08.080
they out market themselves to some to some extent you know so question do you find that they defer to
00:48:14.260
you because of who you are um you know within the statement within the alpha credit or is it because
00:48:19.600
you use like the muslim card for that uh or is it both i i think first it's it's the way i convey
00:48:25.160
myself so they immediately like what it's the way i convey myself because i tell girls sometimes like
00:48:29.540
yeah i don't i don't listen to women when it comes to dates or you're not going to pick what we're going
00:48:33.280
to do sorry i don't follow i tell them straight up on the first day i don't follow women's lead ever
00:48:37.080
and they're like oh well that's interesting and then that'll you know get them intrigued and then
00:48:41.880
they'll ask and i'll be like yeah well this is why you know my parents stood together and it's
00:48:46.240
and it's worked out because my dad led and didn't really like listen to my mom like my mom still had
00:48:50.160
input and decisions that were made in the house for sure but at the end of the day my dad my dad
00:48:54.700
made the final decisions when he wanted to move to connecticut she followed him etc and now they're
00:48:58.320
still together to this day so um yeah it's always intriguing but like yeah typically it's the way i
00:49:04.700
act and then that prompts the question like how are you raised like what's up with this and then when
00:49:08.600
i tell them my background they're like oh okay i i get it so how how important to you today as a 30
00:49:14.160
year old guy is chasing excellence versus women chasing women so yeah man you got to chase excellence
00:49:20.900
and for the guys that don't know in here man i got to give rich some props rich is my coach guys
00:49:26.040
right so when i started my business uh like and i was really getting into it like i i paid the time
00:49:32.160
i got rid you know you got to pay for this stuff guys when you want to get elite coaching uh one of
00:49:36.900
the best like one one thousand dollars i've spent and i sat down with rich and we talked and he
00:49:42.080
basically told me hey man you got to get on youtube you got to start uh building an audience
00:49:46.020
all this stuff and he gave me like some game changer tips and uh you know i still talk with
00:49:49.840
him now and he and he and he mentored me and the reality is you have to become successful you have
00:49:56.380
to become the you have to become the prize and then you can start to uh exert your boundaries on
00:50:01.120
women because if you don't become successful yourself you can't push your you can't have you can't
00:50:06.240
have boundaries if you're not high value you know what i'm saying so like a lot of guys are
00:50:09.820
putting the cart before the horse like oh well you know my girl can't have social media she can't do
00:50:14.100
this and they're all alpha and stuff but like you know they don't got a thousand dollars in the bank
00:50:17.200
it's like you have to become the prize first then women will defer to your authority you know what i
00:50:21.940
mean so i i say get a mentor that's huge like just from like working with rich john from auto life
00:50:28.380
dating donovan sharp all these guys taught me so many things that i was able to cut my learning time
00:50:33.200
and literally like a quarter you know thanks to rich and all the other guys i was able to get my youtube
00:50:37.960
up to 1300 subs within like six weeks you know what i'm saying so that's what happens when you when
00:50:43.700
you pay for coaching when you invest in coaching and guys that know what they're doing and get
00:50:47.800
mentorship from people that you can learn from and become better because i always say this poor people
00:50:52.980
spend time to save money rich people spend money to save time that's the biggest difference yeah people
00:51:00.460
don't understand like the the limitation um on time and your health that you have you know as a man
00:51:08.020
like it like it runs out you know it's like a you know it's like an hourglass with sand in it it's
00:51:13.020
it's gonna run out and as time passes like the older you get the harder it is to accomplish things
00:51:18.800
like it's harder for a guy that's 50 to do what you've done from scratch than a guy that's 30
00:51:24.640
right i mean you got a lot more runway so i always tell guys i mean if you're gonna do this do it
00:51:28.580
you know like obviously chase excellence i mean do it if you're 50 and you haven't done it yet but
00:51:33.240
the sooner you get that done and you've established yourself as a man the better you're gonna do in
00:51:38.780
every area of your life and the less likely you are that you're gonna have a problem in areas of
00:51:43.720
your life because money like money and success solves a lot of stuff right you know success leaves
00:51:49.400
clues and it also builds a great network like your network is often you know what becomes your net
00:51:55.200
worth and a lot of people don't understand that surrounding yourself with excellence matters
00:51:59.280
and you're not going to surround yourself with excellence if you're sitting in the corner of the
00:52:02.640
internet sulking with a bunch of losers that get nothing done that are hiding behind you know an
00:52:07.040
avatar on their screen you have to you know participate with people that are doing the work
00:52:11.420
right and here's another thing too that i want to say like one thing i learned as i've gotten into
00:52:15.040
this space and i've like dramatically increased my income and become uh moving up in the totem pole
00:52:19.780
is one thing i'm learning about successful people is they spend a lot of money on mentoring and being
00:52:25.420
around other successful people so they can pick their brain and also just having a network of guys
00:52:30.440
that are like-minded that want to become better because the reality is and i kind of had to learn
00:52:34.600
this the hard way i had to like cut off some close friends of mine from home that you're the average of
00:52:38.720
the five people you spend the most time with so if you're hanging out with a bunch of guys that
00:52:41.660
aren't ambitious or aren't successful well you're probably going to end up that way too and if you are
00:52:46.140
successful you're not going to have the drive to become better if you're in a room and you're the
00:52:49.300
smartest guy you're messing up you're actually the dumbest so um so i think that's like another
00:52:54.440
thing another thing too that you were mentioning about like you know how money solves a lot of
00:52:57.040
problems i'll say this when it comes to dating when you have your body on point and you have
00:53:01.320
your money on point you're not going to sit there and tolerate bs from girls that you're just not
00:53:06.060
going to do it like i can't explain it it's like you have to you have to get to this point but you
00:53:10.540
will not tolerate like some 19 year old bimbo mouthing off to you at a club you're going to be like
00:53:14.340
what you're just going to like walk away from her and go talk to someone else like you're not
00:53:17.540
you're not going to take her serious and you're not going to internalize rejection because you're
00:53:20.920
going to have that abundance mindset because you know you're high value and you'll be able to move
00:53:23.920
on to next girl i can't tell you how many times i've been at a bar i'll talk to a girl she'll curve
00:53:27.840
me straight up like turn her back on me whatever all right cool i'll go talk to another girl she'll
00:53:32.080
see me talking to the other girl and then she'll re-approach me later and say oh so what was your
00:53:35.100
name i'll be like nah you'll get out of here so it's like you know you give it back to them and it's
00:53:40.760
just but but that's that's the power of of uh having your stuff together as a man you will not
00:53:45.980
you'll move differently and when you move like this like i said women are very socially calibrated so
00:53:50.920
when you have that abundance mindset she could feel it that you're outcome independent and she's
00:53:55.060
gonna she's gonna work a little bit more to retain your attention because most guys let's face it they
00:53:59.360
go up oh i hope you like me let me qualify myself to you and i always say when you qualify yourself to
00:54:03.860
a girl you're already taking an l you know what i mean she should be calling herself qualifying herself
00:54:07.380
to you never deny a woman the the benefit the pleasure of qualifying herself to you as a high
00:54:12.940
value guy because then she's going to value that interaction more and women date up they need to
00:54:17.040
qualify themselves to you to feel that it's a good thing like like when you get your head around it
00:54:21.340
and you go and do the work for it it's actually a good thing for you oh yeah take advantage of it
00:54:25.860
hypergamy is great because here's the thing guys if if hypergamy didn't exist if women didn't date up we
00:54:30.520
wouldn't be the you know the advanced society that we are now i'm talking to you guys through a sony
00:54:34.980
camera we're streaming live you know rich is in canada i'm in miami and we're doing this this is
00:54:39.500
all because of hypergamy this is because dorks didn't get to procreate and only the best procreated
00:54:44.140
and now they were able to invent all these great things and we're here today talking on youtube about
00:54:49.100
about it you know what i'm saying so hypergamy is a good thing a lot of guys get mad like oh
00:54:53.140
it's like bro no survival of the fittest man this is the way it is like dorks don't procreate and it's
00:54:59.300
probably better that way for us as a society you know what i mean um you've you've basically doubled
00:55:04.160
your income in the last couple years like since i've gotten to know you with what you're doing
00:55:07.320
and you're already paid well before you know you got into personal training and helping you know
00:55:11.800
simps become pimps and all that how how is that what's that and working with you yeah of course i
00:55:17.100
mean but we've already covered that we don't need to spend too much time but i mean like how has that
00:55:20.960
changed all the haters bro they always say oh rich is robbing people like he's he's charging
00:55:24.860
a thousand dollars an hour it's just like all right guys well you know results whatever there's
00:55:30.920
there's always going to be that corner of the internet of a bunch of sulkers fine do it okay
00:55:35.080
cool but i mean for you like while you've seen your your your annual income practically double in the
00:55:41.280
last you know like year and a half how has that changed you as a man when it comes to your life
00:55:46.520
because i mean this this playlist that we're broadcasting on is called playing to win and
00:55:50.300
there's a difference between playing to win and playing not to lose and i think you'd probably agree
00:55:54.260
before you know you hopped into space before you got coaching from guys like me and and others
00:55:59.340
um you were you're pretty much in the playing not to lose fear but now i see you as a man that's
00:56:04.920
playing to win how has that changed your life like holistically like i'm not just talking about
00:56:09.700
women like everything it just it just creates an air of confidence that can't be replicated man like
00:56:15.040
um you speak with a certain tonality and confidence that you can't be faked you know when you
00:56:22.060
like people it's like what i would say it's magnetic because like when you say something people want to
00:56:27.460
listen you know i mean and for you to be able to command that authority uh it's got to come from
00:56:31.620
some kind of natural uh ambience that you're presenting and and that's what like people always
00:56:36.800
say oh money isn't everything you're right money isn't everything but it's a good down payment you
00:56:41.300
know i'm saying and it's going to help you in other endeavors your life and it's going to help
00:56:44.020
you move differently and have the confidence to uh take risks you know what i mean like when you
00:56:48.880
have a little bit of expendable income and if you succeed you win because like as men we're taught
00:56:53.020
from from a young age you know who dares wins right so you gotta you gotta get out of your comfort zone
00:56:58.180
and uh you know being successful allows you to get out of your comfort zone so that you can like take
00:57:02.760
these risks and make more money or whatever it may be but yeah i mean it's just like i would say
00:57:07.560
the biggest thing is it creates this air of confidence that it's it's it can't be faked whenever
00:57:12.300
somebody says you know money can't buy buy happiness you look like i always respond with yeah but you never
00:57:19.220
see anybody crying in an exotic car facts right never happens i've never seen anybody crying a
00:57:24.720
lamborghini so don't give me that crap you know like the guy yeah i mean it's true like yeah like
00:57:30.560
you know money isn't everything there's a lot of people out there it's not but it buys options yeah
00:57:34.340
that are like you know that are they have dough and they're like you know and i'm not like rich by any
00:57:38.040
means but like you know i'm doing okay uh for a 30 year old guy no no kids no family but um you know
00:57:42.980
the thing is is that it gives it gives you options and it makes life uh much easier for you to do things you
00:57:48.380
don't have to like check your bank statement or whatever you can just do what you want which is
00:57:51.840
like incredible freedom you know what i mean so that you can't really put a price on that another
00:57:56.300
thing too is because guys always want to link it back to women and stuff like that i always tell
00:58:00.820
guys men and women look at money completely differently and like men look at money from
00:58:05.260
like a society uh from a hierarchy standpoint like if a millionaire walks in a room all the guys are
00:58:10.140
instantly going to have some level of respect for that guy because they're gonna be like okay he's a
00:58:13.500
millionaire he probably had to because men understand the burden of performance right and we know that
00:58:17.480
this guy's probably put in some kind of work unless assuming he didn't inherit it to get that
00:58:21.180
level of money you know you might pick his brain hey how'd you make it whatever it may be you know
00:58:24.860
so that's typically how men look at money women however look at money as like a means to an end
00:58:29.160
so like i always tell guys like don't sit there and lead with your wallet until i made five thousand
00:58:32.420
dollars in the stock market today baby it's like no bro she doesn't care about that but if you tell
00:58:36.320
her hey baby pack your bags we're gonna go to you know mexico for three weeks uh she's gonna she's
00:58:41.180
gonna respond favorably to that but how did that happen from you being able to earn more money like
00:58:45.040
women don't care about money when they tell you oh i don't care about money they're not lying they
00:58:49.420
don't care how it's made they just like the benefits that come that come from it and the
00:58:53.200
spontaneity and the freedom so that's why i think like a lot of guys make the mistake thinking like
00:58:57.080
oh let me overtly tell her about how i made ten thousand dollars in the stock market it's like no
00:59:00.340
bro like no you demonstrate about that but like when women say that they don't care about money you also
00:59:04.960
have to watch their actions because they will choose a high value guy that's got his money sorted
00:59:09.920
over a younger alpha that doesn't have his money sorted yeah um but i'm not like as they don't
00:59:16.320
care like how it's made is what yeah yeah yeah yeah they don't care how it's made they like what
00:59:20.540
it provides they like they like what it does like i think they look at money as like a means to an end
00:59:24.600
yeah well it's a security component for them right because women yeah women usually well not women
00:59:30.060
usually but throughout history women have always relied upon high value men that could provide that's why we
00:59:35.940
have this alpha seed beta need dichotomy today where you see women that will go get knocked up by
00:59:41.000
the alpha chad tyrone and then get you know billy bob to take care of the kids for yeah um you mentioned
00:59:47.940
earlier um you know single guy with no kids right now do you want to get married and have kids is that
00:59:53.300
something that you're looking at in the future like where's your headspace out you know for that with
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a 30 year old that's a dangerous proposition nowadays man it is but i want to hear what your view on it is
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yeah um the only way i mean down the road maybe 10 years i want to have a kid but the the thing is is
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that i would have to have like some serious safety nets in place to to do that you know the way the
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problem is that the divorce the marriage laws have not caught up to the fact that like women are
01:00:17.240
earning men in a lot of cities you know they like it hasn't basically the laws haven't caught up to
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like how how we progress as a society so like as a guy especially if you make substantially more than
01:00:26.940
your wife you're in a bad position if you get married so if i were to do it it would be solely
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to have kids definitely to have kids and then i'd probably have to marry a girl that like made as
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much money as me that also that that way i know that she could she can't take me well it was she
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wouldn't be able to take me to the cleaners as bad financially you know i would try to mitigate as
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much damage but like man it's just a dangerous proposition nowadays so i'd have to really go in with
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my eyes wide open probably do a coaching session with you rich how do i do this correctly
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you know book your time for that so yeah it's just guys just got to go in with their eyes open man
01:00:58.960
it's a dangerous time to get married as a man especially if you make substantially more than
01:01:01.960
your than your wife it's an unfortunate reality yeah i always get guys that ask that question it's
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just like man it's a that's that's such a slippery slope to the climb and i get why you want to do it
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but um yeah i don't know like i've been talking to a couple guys in my community about putting a
01:01:16.160
like a full course together on um you know vetting for ltr slash marriage that'd be good for like
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you know for raising kids because there's a whole bunch of steps that you got to take so if that's
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something that's of interest to you guys you know leave me a comment below let me know maybe i'll
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put something together that's a great idea right there man i mean because at the end of the day
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like if you're not trying to have kids there's no point to get married in my opinion forget it really
01:01:36.200
there's nothing in it for you as a man i wouldn't even even if you wanted to have kids i still wouldn't
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get married because all that does is solidifies the state involvement in your household
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right i mean you can do it like have a kid but not get married there's still ways to do it yeah
01:01:52.000
that's a far longer talk um what else should we be covering on this broadcast that we haven't
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talked about yet uh i mean i don't know if anybody has any questions about fitness i know there were
01:02:02.840
some guys asking questions about game i'm looking okay so let's talk about fitness for a bit because
01:02:06.460
this is kind of like you know how you got started in this this is like a early segue so um
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what do guys what do most guys make the mistake on when it comes to self-care over and over and
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over again that you're constantly having to correct to make them aware of so i would say from because
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i've worked with a lot of clients now a couple like hundreds and what i'll say is that uh the biggest
01:02:28.820
mistakes that guys make with their fitness is they don't have the rudimentary basics down and what i
01:02:33.120
mean by that is that they're looking at you know they're looking at all the like minor little things like
01:02:37.840
the accentuated things versus the fundamental so like for example they'll ask me questions like
01:02:42.900
hey man what supplements should i buy hey man like how many reps should i do like stuff like that when
01:02:47.420
in reality they're not eating they're eating like crap they're not sleeping they're not drinking water
01:02:51.880
you know they're they're not going to the gym frequently enough like they don't even have
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even have the staples down and i would say the fun here's a here's the reality with with the with
01:03:00.620
the fitness industry guys i can't make money telling you the basics that are going to be
01:03:05.220
responsible for about 90 your results you know eating correctly sleeping enough training three
01:03:10.120
to four times per week getting enough frequency and in volume uh all these types of things these
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are all free you know i mean but what i can make money is selling you bogus supplements selling you
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uh stupid plans um selling you uh you know some fat loss quick scheme i always say the fitness
01:03:26.000
industry doesn't make money on getting people fit they make money on selling you dreams some kind of
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quick turn quick fix you know whether it's herbal life or skinny fit tea or whatever it may be like
01:03:35.880
none of that stuff works you know i mean it's all bs but they play on human emotions to get a short
01:03:41.780
term solution a quick solution to a long-term problem short-term solution a long-term problem so
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i would say a lot of guys just don't get the fundamentals down and that are responsible for
01:03:49.800
most of their results is it is it because of the instant gratification culture that we live in or is it
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oh yeah yeah like yeah rich like man i would say like so we live in like that's that's amazing like
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i always i call it the fast food society we live in a society now of like where you can you know use
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your phone and get a random guy to pick you up in a black vehicle and take you to a destination and
01:04:10.720
you can have someone randomly bring food to you like you know and all this other stuff you know we
01:04:14.960
live in a fast food society so like drive-through society so people are used to getting things
01:04:18.860
instantly you can look up anything on the phone on google and get an answer within
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a millisecond so the the thing is is that fitness doesn't adhere to that fast food society so a lot
01:04:27.380
of people aren't used to that and they don't understand that like with fitness it's literally
01:04:31.100
the equation for success i always say this it's consistency plus time equals results every single
01:04:36.320
time but uh people don't aren't patient and they don't want to see it through um and you know even
01:04:42.060
worse they might go and like take drugs to try to make the process go faster when in reality if you
01:04:46.440
know even if you take drugs and you're you don't know what you're doing in the gym it's you're still not
01:04:50.800
going to get results like people think oh you're only making gains because you're on steroids like
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no a lot of times these these bodybuilders are on steroids they know what they're doing
01:04:57.140
and they're taking the drugs because they have the foundation down packed so well that now that
01:05:03.080
they've gotten to a point where they've maxed out their natural potential so i know i know a lot of guys
01:05:07.240
that are on testosterone replacement therapy and they're fat like they just don't get any kind of
01:05:12.080
results this is a picture here off your instagram of you before when you were fat to to fit um what did
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you have to like how much did you weigh here so the picture on the left that was me at about 240
01:05:23.800
pounds i was taken in january of 2016 i did an experiment where i got like super fat uh were
01:05:28.800
you trying to get fat or was that just a result of lifestyle no i did it on purpose so at the end
01:05:33.440
of 2014 i had just finished a cut or excuse me i had like just finished um like basically like a
01:05:39.140
cutting phase of getting leaner and then i was like all right i'm gonna do a dirty book which for the
01:05:41.940
guys that don't know a dirty book is like when you basically go on like a crazy calorie surplus period
01:05:45.560
in an effort to try to build muscle which i will never do again but anyway i got up all the way
01:05:49.540
up to 250 pounds and then january 1st 2016 i started to cut uh it took me about seven months to lose the
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weight and i was able to get down from around 250 to about uh 205 and the picture on the left there
01:06:00.540
i was around 240 to 245 so i was like right in the beginning of the cut um and then the photo on the
01:06:06.540
right was taken like a few months ago you're about six foot three right i'm six three yeah so um that's
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what i look like now but it's just like you know being fat definitely taught me a lot that it i'll
01:06:17.660
never do it again i will never do it again it was the worst but it was a good learning experience and
01:06:22.480
like i was able to apply my same methodologies that i teach my clients how to lose weight and it comes
01:06:27.180
down guys to a calorie deficit sustained over time you know there's some like trick tips and tricks
01:06:31.360
here to like you know make it uh more efficient but at the end of the day it's a consistent calorie
01:06:35.660
deficit that loses the weight i think that's another thing that guys don't understand is that
01:06:38.280
energy balance like is very important for dictating body composition changes uh i've got a super chat
01:06:44.000
here let's throw this up for us michael hendrick says i'm a 36 year old army vet single father i
01:06:48.840
found this community about two months ago just ordered no more mr nice guy thank you for helping
01:06:52.440
clueless guys like me get our lives together you're welcome dude that's a good starting point um
01:06:57.540
it's good you know it's probably good to go through once or twice but the real meat and potatoes
01:07:02.640
and stuff like um the rational mail book series especially books one and two um and a lot of
01:07:08.380
this stuff in my red pill playlist will deal with the intricacies of a lot of the things that myron's
01:07:13.340
been talking about like there was a point there where you were like going off in a tangent like
01:07:16.740
all right i'm just going to take out my earphones and walk away and get a drink and just let him deal
01:07:19.740
with this for the next 50 minutes because you're basically saying everything that i've been saying
01:07:22.860
but it it takes a long time for it to set into guy's head like they just don't want to
01:07:28.800
they don't want to do the work and they don't want to realize that these that these uncomfortable
01:07:36.380
truths that are crushing the comforting lies that they've been subscribing to their entire life
01:07:40.720
actually work right they actually work it's it's like get that work done man it's so it's so important
01:07:47.260
you can't be an rp masturbator guys you got it you got to actually like do the work like you can
01:07:50.960
consume you know you can read the rational mail bachelor pad economics riches book when it comes out
01:07:55.480
but if you don't apply the principles and you just sit there and read it and like oh wow this is
01:07:59.480
like great theory but you don't apply it you're going to take a l in the marketplace like this
01:08:03.960
information is and here's the other thing too because like a lot of guys like are on some stuff
01:08:07.980
where they hate women or whatever guys you read these books not to hate women you learn to you read
01:08:12.360
these books so that you can avoid hating women for what they'll never be to you because like a lot of
01:08:15.920
guys have this notion that like and a role says all the time shout out to him uh and i is so true
01:08:20.220
because you know a lot of guys have this notion that like women should love them unconditionally
01:08:23.960
and unfortunately guys everything in life is conditional this you know your job your your
01:08:29.280
life is conditional you know people your friendships you know that's conditional upon you bringing them
01:08:33.860
value and them giving you giving them value in exchange everything in life is conditional no one
01:08:37.720
loves you unconditionally so that that fairy tale you got to beat that out of your brain chris chris rock
01:08:42.980
said in his tambourine stand up only women children and dogs are loved unconditionally men are only loved
01:08:49.260
under the condition that they provide something absolutely man and a lot of guys don't like
01:08:53.660
accepting that harsh reality but that's the whole hard truth men have always been expendable you know
01:08:57.700
there's a reason why they say women and children off first you know what i'm saying like you got to
01:09:02.020
accept that reality that the burning performance is on you and that you're an expendable commodity as
01:09:05.580
a man so you got to put yourself first because no one else is 100 man uh i got a super chat here i'm
01:09:13.080
just waiting for it to populate on the screen from uh manny but he says had a good question here too
01:09:19.460
about sorry which one uh dolom and sport he asked you talk a lot about hypertension oh there you go
01:09:24.940
training uh what about trying to combine stamina with strength i'll answer this nice and succinctly
01:09:30.020
the problem is that the the methodologies of training for strength versus the methodologies
01:09:34.840
of training for for stamina are completely different so you're gonna you're gonna have
01:09:39.660
problems with like the two methodologies of training interfering with each other so like when
01:09:43.860
you're training for strength you're typically taking longer rest periods you're working at a higher
01:09:48.120
percentage of your one rep max uh etc right because you're you're working on strength it's
01:09:52.700
strength is specific but when you're doing stamina well you're doing more volume you're working on
01:09:57.200
your endurance and that is kind of that's pretty much counterproductive to you like getting stronger
01:10:01.940
so and it's going to interfere because when you're training for strength you got to be pretty much
01:10:05.780
firing on all cylinders so i would say pick one and just stick to that man because when you try to
01:10:10.420
chase two rabbits a lot of the time you'll end up with none so that's what i would say for that
01:10:13.700
yeah if you want to do better with women then then then focus on strength and mass um you know
01:10:20.360
like stamina like runners um you know like long distance cyclists runners triathlons typically they
01:10:25.860
don't have the aesthetics that women like you know the golden ratio the 1.62 broad shoulders narrow
01:10:30.620
waist you know thick dense muscle uh mass i'm not talking bodybuilder size but i'm talking like
01:10:36.160
you know like like the nice yeah like it dominant sport if your goal is to look good naked you should you
01:10:42.500
should train like a bodybuilder and just like focus on hypertrophy you like you don't need a lot of guys
01:10:46.880
think like you you have to be like you don't have to power lift to build muscle guys there was a study
01:10:50.600
done in 2014 2015 i did a video on this called how many reps you can build muscle from like anywhere
01:10:55.760
from six to 35 reps if volume is equated so you can you that gives you a lot of leverage to like be
01:11:01.220
creative with your training and and use different variables because the beauty with hypertrophy is you can
01:11:05.640
build muscle with a wide range of rep ranges and i actually encourage that because you don't want to lift
01:11:10.120
too heavy because you increase your likelihood of injury when you're the closer you get to your
01:11:14.060
one rep max that you're working with so uh many super chat he says uh what do you guys predict the
01:11:19.260
culture will be like socially and in dating within 10 to 15 years because of the growth of the
01:11:23.840
manosphere yeah so i this is a great question i personally think within the next 10 years more guys
01:11:29.140
are going to be aware and i would say i would say easily 10 of the male population will be aware of this
01:11:35.620
stuff and they'll they'll start like exiting the marketplace i'll like because this stuff is
01:11:39.840
exploding like more and more guys are finding this kind of content every day so um you know from
01:11:44.460
their frustrations like you know if you look at like what guys commonly google it's like how do i
01:11:48.680
get girls and stuff like that and then boom they start finding this type of content so um yeah it's
01:11:53.180
just a matter of time i think in the next 10 years as the internet gets bigger the world becomes more
01:11:56.380
globalized more and more guys are going to start uh seeing this type of content i mean even the young
01:12:01.080
boys now you look at them on twitch they're like even saying like simp and all this stuff they're aware
01:12:04.400
yeah they're they're starting to put up with a lot less um bad behavior with women which is you know
01:12:10.240
which is a good thing but um there's always going to be simps there's always going to be like the vast
01:12:15.020
majority of the male population will be betatized um men will always defer back to the feminine you know
01:12:21.720
for the most part like there's always even like even guys like us i'm sure that you would totally agree
01:12:26.860
but there's even times where i'm like you know thinking about doing something and i have to catch myself
01:12:31.140
because that would be beta you know sort of sort of thing like don't be a little bitch you know
01:12:35.960
sort of thing but um yeah it's just work man it's you know it's just constant work you know hopefully
01:12:40.880
the reach gets out there it's real difficult because on most platforms they don't want you to
01:12:44.980
talk about stuff like this they don't want men to become better they don't want i mean it's so weird
01:12:50.420
to me because women are dramatically more attracted to high value men that have consumed content like this
01:12:58.260
and are going out there and doing the work and increasing their income making more money making
01:13:01.740
more muscles you know learning game to deal with women in a more successful way but at the same time
01:13:07.600
they want to throttle it back and they want to hide it from views and they don't want guys to know this
01:13:11.420
information they it was a part of the part of society that that wants men weak plugged in and feminized
01:13:17.420
too right absolutely anything that like exposes any type of content that like demystifies
01:13:23.900
like female nature and like you know shows unflattering realities like is instantly like
01:13:30.020
censored you know what i mean like they're like oh you're you're talking about how you know the h
01:13:33.880
word oh never mind you know we're gonna we're gonna start we're gonna start blocking your stuff
01:13:38.060
and it's like and it's sad too because here's the thing what guys don't understand is that
01:13:41.860
there's a lot of men that find this content and pull the gun from out of their mouth you know
01:13:46.120
what i'm saying like uh rich i mean a guy a guy i remember a guy you were telling a story
01:13:51.140
about how a guy had a a horse tranquilizer gun in his mouth and he was going to kill himself i think
01:13:55.260
like in mexico or something like that yeah he was a mexican veterinarian there's actually a video with
01:13:59.660
a q a on before the train wreck he called in and told the full story i've been meaning to to cut that
01:14:04.620
out of the video so i can put it on instagram but it's you know it's pretty fucking sad like the dude
01:14:08.580
dude was about to end his life with a horse tranquilizer and um you know he he saw a computer
01:14:13.940
screen with something about hypergamy and he started watching he dove down the rabbit hole and he's like
01:14:17.680
dude's dude's alive he's doing amazing he's very successful he's you know he's still here he's
01:14:23.280
still walking this earth because he chose not to take a permanent solution to a temporary problem in
01:14:28.640
his life absolutely and i think that the thing what people don't understand and i understand why it's
01:14:34.240
like this like people don't know that like men we're designed to suffer in silence like guys it's
01:14:40.220
very frowned upon for men to like go with their problems to like someone and talk about it you know
01:14:45.160
what i mean and a lot of guys are suffering in silence whether they're thinking contemplating
01:14:49.040
suicide from a bad divorce they lost access to their children they lost all their money from a
01:14:53.040
divorce men are far more likely to kill themselves post-divorce so you know you give a guy a copy of
01:14:57.780
the rational mail and it saves his life well you know what maybe it's worth it to get banned off
01:15:01.320
youtube to save a guy's life so that you can let him know that hey man uh you know this is probably
01:15:06.360
why she broke up with you these are the mistakes because guys have like a innate like need to know
01:15:10.920
things that's why we've developed society the way it is now like men always want to figure out
01:15:14.860
like we're problem solvers right so like when a girl randomly break like the women are like the
01:15:19.600
one thing that most guys can't figure out no matter how smart they are because women don't operate
01:15:22.780
logically so so a lot of guys since they can't figure it out they're like oh i'm just going to
01:15:26.840
take my life and and fortunately there's content out there like this that lets guys know hey listen
01:15:31.060
you don't have to do that you can that you can improve yourself you can get back out there you can
01:15:35.420
meet another girl but you know it's just that this type of content is censored and it's sad because
01:15:41.100
there's guys that need this it's just that people don't know because at the end of the day let's keep it
01:15:44.240
real no one cares about men i can't tell you how many guys uh you know me and john have worked with
01:15:48.860
behind the scenes that need this kind of help but they didn't know where to turn you know but and
01:15:52.760
they were able to come to us and we're able to help get their confidence up their money up their
01:15:55.480
their fitness up and they're new men they within a year they get the 180 change you know but like
01:16:00.800
this stuff is important man it's it's life-changing like that's not some bs yeah it's um it's sad man
01:16:06.480
it's um you know we live in a soy society we live in an estrogenic society it is what it is you
01:16:11.220
gotta avoid all that nonsense and the negative uh inputs absolutely you succumb to it you become
01:16:16.740
it it is what it is right uh what do we got here about another 10 minutes left what else should we
01:16:21.040
should we cover before we go uh i can i don't know if guys have any questions about game uh fitness
01:16:29.260
whatever it may be throw the questions in the chat guys i'll uh i'll answer whatever you guys want
01:16:35.620
let's see if i got all the super chats here i think i did they usually pop pretty easy on my
01:16:40.220
screen philosophy yeah we got all these um where can people find you let's let's talk about that
01:16:46.880
because you're on instagram and youtube you got a youtube channel so tell them so tell them what
01:16:50.680
you're doing on youtube and what you're up to there so on youtube guys i've been pushing out a lot of
01:16:54.560
content um i'm putting out like you know at least three videos a week and then i'm i'm gonna start
01:16:59.800
running like a like a podcast where i'm gonna interview people on there i'm gonna bring rich on
01:17:03.940
we'll talk about that behind the scenes on like mondays where like i'll interview them ask some
01:17:08.100
questions about you know what it's like to run night game in their city i did an episode with
01:17:12.400
donovan on monday actually this past monday where we talked about uh running game in miami versus
01:17:17.120
vegas and like donovan gave a bunch of gems on how to do things correctly in las vegas and i talked
01:17:21.080
about miami you know how to set yourself up and then uh i'll bring other guests on and talk about maybe
01:17:25.720
we could talk about toronto where rich is at how things are there and then entrepreneurship that type of
01:17:31.120
thing uh but yeah the youtube channel is unplugged fitness uh my instagram my twitter and my facebook
01:17:35.740
is the same hand is the handle at the bottom unplugged fit i use that for all my main social
01:17:40.240
media and then the youtube channel is unplugged fitness and on my youtube channel i give uh dating
01:17:45.020
stuff and i give fitness stuff and then just like what i do with fitness where i use studies and i put
01:17:48.660
link all my studies there because i always believe like if you're going to make a claim as to why
01:17:52.300
something is more optimal in in physique training you need to be able to cite resources you know what i mean
01:17:56.820
like there's just you there's it's 2020 you got to have an evidence-based lens if you're not then
01:18:01.560
you're you're not credible in my eyes and then uh with the with dating stuff i also cite studies i
01:18:06.480
apply the same lens there like you know i put a bunch of studies as to like you know why the dating
01:18:10.720
marketplace is the way it is and i pretty much give an objective factual look at it like this is why
01:18:15.620
it's like this guys it's why girls flake like i literally broke it down in one of my videos this is
01:18:19.600
why they flake and then this is how you you know overcome that with you know because we're not about
01:18:24.200
crying over here we're about solutions and helping guys figure out this problem versus like complaining
01:18:28.920
like some of these black belt channels like oh i program you know i mean crying and making eight
01:18:33.740
hour streams about guys like me and rich and john and everybody else you know who you know who you
01:18:38.840
are but i'm not going to give that guy clout right now but yeah man it's just but that's where you
01:18:43.320
can find me on my stuff yeah i got a question here in the chat from marty in sales he says can i gain
01:18:48.140
muscle while eating once a day um like an omad you can't you can man but you got to understand that
01:18:55.100
you're limiting yourself so here's the thing because i always get questions about fasting and
01:18:58.900
john bulldog mindset's big on omad right like he stopped it oh did he yeah he doesn't do it anymore
01:19:05.260
okay so the the thing here's the thing what one meal a day and they've done a couple studies on this
01:19:10.040
i think it was a 2015 study by brad schoenfeld basically you're most anabolic when you get about
01:19:15.180
four meals per day with protein evenly spaced out you know somewhere between three to four four
01:19:20.920
seem to be like the optimal but anywhere from three to five you'll be okay if you get protein
01:19:24.500
throughout the day that's the most anabolic now can you build muscle eating only one meal a day yeah
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i'm sure you can but again there's many ways to skin a cat and it's all about skinning the cat in
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the most optimal way so if you're going to set yourself up to win you want to do things the most
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optimal way and to be honest with you omad is not the most optimal you're probably better off eating
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if your goal is hypertrophy building muscle mass we know that muscles typically grow on calories so
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you want to keep that um you want to be giving yourself um protein feedings you know sustainably
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throughout the day especially if you're younger too especially if you're younger yeah so can you do
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it yes you know there's always ways to do things but like is it optimal no according to literature
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that's not the optimal way to do it so i would i would refrain from that if your goal is hypertrophy
01:20:07.880
uh adriano says marty no pressure from your parents to settle down i guess he's talking to you maybe
01:20:15.780
yeah he probably meets me yeah no yeah every time i talk to my mom man she's like so uh you know when
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you're gonna do this and i'm like yo mom or she'll like or she'll show me pictures siblings you have
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any brothers or sisters yeah i got a sister she's in med school and i got kids no no you should tell her
01:20:31.280
to hurry up and have some kids so you can get yeah yeah she gets a pass because she's in med school but
01:20:35.980
like i got a brother he's 18 and it's always funny because like my mom will send me pictures of like
01:20:40.760
chicks from like egypt or sudan or like morocco like you want to marry her she's hot you want to
01:20:45.980
marry her she's hot like she'll just like send me pictures of random girls and i'm like no man like
01:20:51.040
no thanks but like she's always like offering me girls from like the middle east that like her
01:20:55.680
family's good you want to marry her and i'm just like nah man so if you do that are you gonna run
01:20:59.740
i hear him like abu or yeah i would i would me and abu have talked talked about this uh like yeah
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i would have multiple wives uh there's no way i would only have have one the thing though with
01:21:09.600
in islam guys is a lot of guys think like oh yeah you can have multiple wives this is awesome no the
01:21:13.380
the checks and balances is you have to treat each wife the same financially so if you buy a house for
01:21:18.040
one you need to buy a house for the other one like you don't you can't make them live together if
01:21:21.680
they don't want to so that's how you kind of like check and balance the polygamy so um you know you
01:21:26.460
got to be able you got to have your your t's crossed and your i's dotted if you're going to
01:21:30.640
do that but yeah i would definitely probably have multiple wives because like i just yeah i'm not
01:21:35.240
you got to pull him on at some point to talk about his lifestyle and you know how he runs it because
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i think it's way different than what people think it is yeah yeah abu like he he's got that thing
01:21:44.400
figured out man like he's you mean him talk about it offline like he's a good dude he knows exactly
01:21:48.580
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