1001. Q&AF： Comparing Yourself To Others, Fear Of Delegation & Preventing Self-Sabotage
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In this episode of The Realists, we talk about how to deal with comparing yourself to others and how to stay focused on where you really stand without lying to yourself about where you stand. We also talk about the benefits of the 75 Hard Program and why you should do the same.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Purcell and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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Well, it rained all day yesterday, like all day.
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Might be getting all the salt and shit off the road.
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Andy, I try not to compare myself to other people, but I do.
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Friends are making more money, building bigger things, posting wins online.
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Every day, and even when I'm doing okay, it feels small next to what I see.
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How do you stay focused on your own path without lying to yourself about where you really stand?
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Well, I think there's two kinds of people, okay?
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I think there's the kind of people that compare themselves and, you know, they look around and
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they get upset and they say, well, you know, he's doing this or that, and they justify why
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And they tell themselves all kinds of lies about, you know, well, they must be cheating
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or they must be doing this or they must be doing that, or they must be this or that
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And then they tell themselves some sort of story as to why that person is ahead of them.
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Like, there's a lot of people out there that are full of shit.
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There's a lot of people out there that are pretending to be something that they aren't.
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And sometimes those stories are true, but it really doesn't matter because there's a second
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And the second kind of person looks at what everybody else is doing, has a moment of feeling
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I'm going to fucking smash every single fucking one of them.
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I'm going to win so big that they all have to swallow it and fucking admit that not a single
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one of them was me and they couldn't do what I did.
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And they get up and they go to fucking work, okay?
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And there's only one group of those people that actually win, all right?
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So there's this big thing on the internet where they say, comparison is the thief of joy.
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Comparison is the thief of joy if you're not willing to get up and fucking compete, okay?
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Comparison is the thief of joy when you're doing nothing and you notice that other people
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are doing things and it steals your joy, which it should, okay?
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This whole idea, 99% of the shit that's told to you online is told to you with the idea of
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pacifying the lazy motherfucker that lives inside of you.
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If you watch all these feel good people and you listen to what they say, and then you remember
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that there's a much bigger market for victims than there are for actual doers, then their
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When you hear them say all of this feel good shit, when you hear them make all these excuses
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and tell you not to do these things, how many of those people are actually going to go out
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They're going to go from event to event to podcast to podcast to mastermind to personal
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coaching, looking for the fucking answer that doesn't exist, okay?
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That they don't want to admit is the real path forward, which is figuring out what it
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is you want to do and then dedicating your entire life to making that happen.
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This idea of winning being some sort of casual endeavor is poison to our culture, and we
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We see all of these people saying all of this shit that is completely untrue when it comes
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It might make you feel a little bit better about losing, but that's not going to fix your
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So when we talk about comparing people, first of all, you want to be in that second group
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You want to be in the group of people that say, I don't give a fuck what they're doing
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because I'm doing what I'm doing, and I know in the long term what I'm doing is going to
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You want to be that person, but the other reason that comparison is the thief of joy is
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such a bullshit statement is because if you don't compare yourself to other people, how
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See, there's practicality to this that gets ignored because people can't even admit that
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another person might be doing more than them or might be winning more than them or might
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know things they don't know or might be executing in a way that they aren't familiar with, okay?
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And when you say, don't compare my life to anybody else's, let's be fucking real, man.
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It's a justification for you to accept what it is you don't even want, okay?
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If you want to win, you got to compare yourself.
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If you want to fucking win long term, you got to understand what they're good at and
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You can't do that if you can't acknowledge what other people are doing because you're afraid
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Do you think that Nick Saban doesn't compare himself when he was coaching to other teams?
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You don't think they look at other teams and say, okay, well, these guys are good.
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That's a natural part of any single fucking person that is competitive in anything.
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You don't think Michael Jordan, back when Michael Jordan was kicking ass, didn't understand
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You don't think he knew exactly which way the guy could pass better?
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You don't know which side of the court he shot from?
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And if you're serious about winning, you should be comparing yourself in a way that helps you
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Now, is there a way that keeps you exactly where you are?
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That's called looking at other people and saying, well, you know, their parents had some money
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or they started out on third base or they hit social media when it was hot or they had
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this thing that I didn't have or they didn't have this thing that I have.
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And they start telling themselves all this shit to feel good about where they are when
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in reality, the whole reason they're even reading the content or going to the seminar
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or talk or listening to the podcast is because they know they're not okay where they are.
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There's a whole bunch of people out there that claim they're trying to make you better
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when really they're just trying to make their business better.
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Victims are never going to step up and become what it is that they could and should and can
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become because they are unable to take responsibility that the fucking thing that they call happen
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to them is actually usually a result of the poor decisions that they made in the past.
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Are there things that maybe they didn't decide that, you know, you know, maybe they were born
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without legs or yeah, there's things like that.
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And every time you look at someone and you say, oh, you know, he's got this and that
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that's your little bitch voice making excuses as to why you can't and why they are.
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So when we talk about this comparing thing, you guys need to switch your frame around how
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Like you're saying in the thing, oh man, like, dude, when I was fucking building my business.
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The first three years I made zero money, like zero, zero dollars.
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So that's 19, 20, 21, 20, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28.
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I made $695 per month for a total of $58,380 per year.
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Every single one of my fucking friends, all of the, every single one was making more money
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I didn't sit there and think, oh man, you know, fuck dude, they're all doing better
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Give me another few because I can promise you I'm never going to live my life on a fucking
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And a lot of you guys need to cultivate that and develop it and understand like, all right,
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Well, then I'm going to fucking do whatever it takes to do that.
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Competition is a core of every single fucking great person that's ever lived.
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The people that you admire the most, the people that you look up to, the people that you want
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They may say they don't because they want to sound enlightened and like they're at peace.
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And they try to get it out of you so that you don't have, they don't have any competition
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and you can keep buying their poor me books and listen to their poor me podcasts and listen
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to their feel good fucking tweets about all this shit.
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Like look at the comments and some of the fucking shit that people write and just read
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them and you're like, holy shit, every single person here is fucked.
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So the end of the day, guys, this whole thing, there's a lot of bad information that you get
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fed that is not congruent with the reality of building, creating, becoming, and winning.
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And if you want to win and you want to be great, you better compare yourself and you
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And you better know how to handle the emotional distress and the doubt and the frustration
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that comes from comparing yourself to someone and realizing that they're fucking better than
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And then being mature enough to say, okay, well, that's me.
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I feel like there's also a maturity thing too, right?
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Like, like you, like if I see somebody, okay, Hey, what are you doing, dude?
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Like, where does that, like, you know what I'm saying?
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Like, cause I don't feel like people are truly like holding on because there's really
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Like they're probably just doing something a little different than you are.
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Like, yeah, there's practicality to that, right?
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Also, you don't know how long they've been doing.
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Also, there's all kinds of shit you don't know, but that doesn't matter.
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All you got to do is look at what they're good at and fucking get better than them.
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And if you don't have that capacity, you just don't have what it takes to win.
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And you got to realize that, like, you should stop reading this content about winning.
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You should unplug and go live your fucking life because, dude, the problem with this
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this whole hustle culture shit, which, by the way, that's not the enemy.
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Is that you have people who have figured out how to market it right.
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Hey, man, it's going to take real fucking long and it's going to be hard and.
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And you're going to lose all your friends and then you're going to make new friends and
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And you're probably going to lose some fucking girlfriends and you might get divorced.
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And, you know, there's all kinds of things that are going to happen.
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Hey, by the way, that's five thousand dollars a month.
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You know, and then another thing to go with you guys, you guys pay in these fucking idiots
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that have never built anything to teach you something just shows that you don't have the
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When you look at somebody who's 22 years old or 25 years old or 30 years old and you
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can't see their business, you can't like you can't see it.
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Remember, you know, you ever notice all these guys got mystical businesses.
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You ever notice all these companies they have that nobody fucking knows about.
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But you understand, I got this company and I got this company and I got this company.
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You guys don't dig far enough because you want them to have the answer.
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You want to believe that they have the quick fix.
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And so you don't dig and you don't use your common sense.
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You guys that pay these people who are, who have never really built anything and they're
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just flossing some fucking lifestyle that they rent to teach you.
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Dude, you guys are the dumbest fucking ones out there.
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And then these people love to say, well, I got scammed.
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Yeah, you deserve to because you're fucking stupid.
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Nobody wants to talk about the, the responsibility of the person who's actually trying to buy the
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This guy's selling you a scheme and you know, it's you, you're hoping it's a scheme and then
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So like, dude, the point is there's probably like five people that are qualified to fucking
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And they're none of the, they're none of the people like, yeah, dude, if they don't have
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real shit that you can see, you have no business at all, at all paying them any money for shit.
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Guys, uh, Andy, question number two, uh, Andy, my company is growing, uh, but I'm still involved
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Uh, I know I need to delegate more, but I don't trust the people to do it at the level
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How do you get over this fear and what protections did you put in to make sure the fuckery didn't
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Well, usually, uh, the reason that, well, first of all, you got to understand when you
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delegate, usually they're going to do about 80% as good as you ask them to do.
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So the way to protect yourself is to create, define standards, define standards, a defined
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You won't ever, and it doesn't matter if it's landscape or any other business, you won't
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be able to scale it without the proper systems in place.
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And the reason that you probably feel like there's going to be chaos is because not everybody
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In your case, this would be you going out and taking literal photographs of how shit should
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be tutorial videos about how shit should be showing people exactly how it's done, documenting
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those things, putting them into a fucking defined win document.
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This is the standard and making your people sign the fucking standard.
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So that way when, and then if you don't meet the standard, this is what happens and make
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That way, when you go to a job site and you see plants that are halfway sticking out or
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paver stones that aren't pulled in right, you could pull out your document and you could
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And as you start to scale out with these systems, the standard starts to become plugged in and
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So you start to, the other teammates and everybody else starts to hold the line because they
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know that if you come on the site and, uh, you know, you find the paver stones fucked
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up that they're going to have to do it over and they're not going to get fucking paid
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So once that standard is, is in place, it spreads and people accept it and they understand
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that this is how I should operate it all the times.
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And if you're smart, you build this not around punishment, but around the purpose of what
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We are going to fucking make everybody else's work look like shit.
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And, and, and the good thing is with landscaping is that a lot of people that do landscaping
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So when you set this standard and you start to operate on the standards for a while, it
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No, no company can scale without defined standards.
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And most small businesses have a hard time thinking like, how do I define the standard?
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Like if you don't have this, you don't got to make this tech, this doesn't have to be
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some high tech, uh, you know, professional document, bro.
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Go take the fucking pictures, fucking plug them into AI and say, make me a fucking sheet
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of a standards document, you know, tell it what you're trying to do and have it fucking
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Like this doesn't take a lot of time, especially now.
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And if you're operating any business at all, without a, a, like, like without a very clear
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set of operational standards, you just cannot scale.
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System scale, system scale, nothing else scales.
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You pointing your finger and saying, do that, move that.
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What scales is systems and you've got to learn how to develop them.
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And I know that sounds complicated to people who've never done that before, but just like
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when I started in business, you could start very simply.
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Here's the things that have to be done to open a store, run a store, close a store every
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You got to check this shit off and you got to sign it every day.
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And you'll get to a place where, you know, eventually you've got a full system that regulates
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So, so yeah, man, I mean, it sounds scary, but it's really not.
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I went through this when we opened up our second store, we went from one store to two
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As stupid as it sounds, that was the hardest thing for me to ever do in business because
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But what I didn't realize is we really didn't have anything to fuck up at the time.
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Um, but you know, and now when people walk in, right.
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And they walk into this building and they see this building, the other building and
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all these people and all this shit and, you know, S2's headquarters and all, and they'll
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always say, they're like, how, how, how the fuck do you do all this?
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They, and, and once your company becomes mature and everybody starts to understand what the
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systems are, then it becomes a truly locked in standard that people can identify without
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Like other, other peers will hold the other peers accountable to say, well, that's not
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I know you also talk too often about like irrational, like fears, you know what I'm saying?
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Like, Oh, you're going to have, you know, you're scared.
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I'm scared my employees are going to steal from me.
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I'm afraid they're going to fucking, you know, quit on me.
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And so like, you know, in this situation, this guy's trying to find somebody who, who I guess
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Like, are you like, what are you going to delegate if you don't have systems?
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Delegating is easy when people know what to do.
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Like, like what's hard is delegating and, and, and the person not knowing what to do
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Like, like you got to put the systems in before you delegate.
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Cause I also think too, it's like people always like, you know, like the, the, the guys
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But it's like, I guess the question is like, how did you find those people?
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But it's like, you didn't like those people built themselves.
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That's why it's so important to have that shit in place.
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You got to have the, you got, they got to know what to do before you tell them what, what
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And you telling them what to do, like I said, they're going to do 80% of it.
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If you want them to do a hundred, they got to know exactly what to do.
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Guys, Andy, let's get, it should become like the way.
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Like what, I don't know what your company's name is.
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When you hold a high standard, eventually that works into your brand standard.
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Which becomes equitable because the brand gets identified as a top quality brand.
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Andy, I've realized something about myself that I don't love.
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Whenever things start to go well, more attention, more opportunity, more responsibility, I instinctively shrink a little.
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I'll procrastinate, distract myself, or downplay it.
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Like, it's like part of me is uncomfortable being seen at a higher level.
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Why do people sabotage right when things start working?
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I think that's a, I think that's a, I think that's a, I think that's a bullshit, I think
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Why the fuck would you fucking get an opportunity and then shrink down and not take it?
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Why, why would you, why would you get an opportunity that comes to you that you are so excited about
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and work so hard for only to quote unquote not execute?
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I get asked that self-sabotage shit all the time and I cannot, I don't understand what
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they're even fucking, I really honestly, and I mean this, I don't understand what they're
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The opportunity came to you and now you're not going to fucking take it.
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No, I can't answer the question because I don't know what the fuck it means.
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I can't answer the question because I don't know what it means.
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What do you, what do you talk, like, what do you, what do you mean self-sabotage?
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I mean, I don't, I don't, what do you think he means?
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It sounds to me like it's a confidence thing, man.
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Like, you're not confident in your fucking abilities to go through with it or like, you
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Like, you don't, you don't believe in yourself or like, it sounds like a inner issue here.
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Like there's something personal going on there.
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Let's say you get some new responsibility and you don't exactly know what to do.
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Do you think the Wright brothers knew what the fuck they were doing for, they put cardboard
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and shit, they fucking threw some cardboard together and said, yeah, let's run this bitch
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Think back to any job that you've ever had ever.
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Did you learn it in training or did you learn it on the job?
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You learned it in the fucking job and it doesn't matter, bro.
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You know, doctors go to med school for 12 years and then they get in the hospital and
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You're going to learn more by doing than you'll learn by anything else.
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Well, the definition is it refers to the intentional or unconscious behaviors, thoughts, and actions
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that undermines a person's own goals, success, and well-being.
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It acts as a self-imposed barrier often driven by fear of failure, fear of success, or low self-worth.
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This is why we have the operator standard tech with arcane and all the shit.
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And you, you're, you're, you have, you're, you're basing your wins on a 24 hour day.
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You got five critical, critical tasks every single day.
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You win or you lose based on those critical tasks being executed, regardless of how you
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Now you get this and that's how you live because that's how I live.
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And maybe this is why I can't, why I can't understand it because I don't deal in those
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So if you've, if you've operated a personal, if you started to install a personal operating
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system that you execute on, no matter what, no matter how you feel, no matter what's going
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on, then it forces you to keep moving down the fucking pipe when new responsibility is piled
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You don't have time to think or analyze or, uh, self-sabotage when these are just things
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So probably my, my misunderstanding of this concept comes from the fact that I've lived
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on a personal operating system for my whole professional life, which I give to you guys,
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It's not open right now, but, um, when we get the MVP dialed in, it will be, but it,
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you know, this is why you have to work on a, a system because system scale, it doesn't
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matter if you, if you're feeling like a fraud, if you got to get the shit done today for it
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So like, I wonder, you know, I was thinking like when you bought your first nice car, you
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Cause I think, I, I mean, I think it was on the MFCO.
00:31:34.960
You told the story how like you didn't really want to drive it or like you didn't want nobody
00:31:41.660
Because you're like, uh, you know, or I haven't shit.
00:31:44.560
I hadn't shifted into my new identity fully and got comfortable with it yet.
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That could be a thing, but that doesn't mean you stop.
00:31:52.220
That doesn't mean you fucking quote unquote self-sabotage or you need to realize that
00:31:56.640
if you don't take the opportunity, you're probably not going to get another one,
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you know, um, but this is why, again, why I believe in systems over fucking emotions or
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At the end of the day, bro, winning comes down to what you did versus what you didn't.
00:32:20.020
And if you did, even though you're feeling like a fraud and you're having a hesitation,
00:32:25.440
and you don't feel, it doesn't matter because you did it.
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If you didn't do it, it doesn't matter if you feel like you're the king of the world
00:32:33.160
and the baddest ass motherfucker on the planet, you still didn't do it.
00:32:38.400
And this way that you feel about your life is irrelevant.
00:32:41.400
You need to adopt a daily framework of execution that forces you forward, regardless of how you're
00:32:49.760
I personally, like I'm just being real and people probably think I'm bullshitting this.
00:32:53.640
I can't relate to the self-sabotage thing, dude.
00:32:59.140
Like you're going to tell me you almost not have starved fucking long enough.
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Y'all must not have been broke because I remember what it's like to be broke.
00:33:07.360
I remember what it's like to not have any money.
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I remember what it's like to not have shit and I fucking hated it and I wanted anything
00:33:15.820
So yeah, maybe I did walk into rooms and raise my hand for things that I didn't fucking
00:33:21.720
know what I was doing, but I did that because I needed to get away from where I was and
00:33:25.720
I didn't let things, you know, like, yeah, there's been like, bro, you think, you think
00:33:30.720
when I started this, this company way back in 1999, I knew anything about supplements.
00:33:40.080
The first customer that came in, that was a real customer, not my friend.
00:33:46.580
He asked me, he says, Hey, uh, you know, what do you think of this?
00:33:56.080
I pick up the fucking bottle and start reading it to him.
00:33:59.080
I'm like, well, it says here you could gain fucking this and this and this and it does
00:34:09.200
Like, but I didn't sit there in there and be like, oh man, I'm so unqualified for this.
00:34:13.040
Like I, I, it didn't even hit my mind until the motherfucker was in the store asking me
00:34:24.320
So like, you just got to go and you got to do the best you can and you got to be willing
00:34:29.260
to make some mistakes and look stupid and understand.
00:34:31.560
But for this person that you've got momentum and you're like, oh, I don't know if I bro,
00:34:43.420
I hate to break it to y'all, but the opportunities to win, the window is closing.
00:34:51.340
You don't have time to, to feel, uh, you know, I'm self-sabotaging myself.
00:35:11.820
And if you do not accept that reality, you might as well accept being in the latter group,
00:35:17.460
the poor group, the group that's going to struggle their whole fucking life.
00:35:20.820
You think you're struggling with, you know, oh, I've got a fucking imposter syndrome.
00:35:28.580
I don't have the, you think that's a struggle way too.
00:35:36.140
Some of y'all really must not have spent much time there.
00:35:39.320
You must not know what it's like to have nothing because you're about to, if you keep
00:35:43.400
fucking around with this stupid shit, like, oh, I fucking don't feel qualified to do it.
00:35:53.580
By moving regardless of how they feel and then figuring it the fuck out.
00:35:57.100
And then they look back and they're like, I can't believe that even stopped me.
00:36:00.660
You don't think I look back at my, my, me going from one to two stores and laugh at
00:36:04.960
myself and be like, fuck, I wasted five and a half or five years doing that.
00:36:08.260
I could have done that and right away it would have been fine.
00:36:12.900
Like, I mean, even with your knowledge of, of supplements and shit now, right?
00:36:16.340
Like you have that knowledge now, you know, fucking all the whole business, you know, every
00:36:26.260
Listen, dude, I'm not trying to be an asshole, but I've forgotten more about fucking nutritional
00:36:30.600
supplements than most people will ever fucking know.
00:36:33.980
So they don't even assume that I really know the shit.
00:36:42.060
Like you just got to go and the, all the shit to make you qualified will come.
00:36:46.500
And then you'll gain confidence by saying, man, you know what?
00:36:49.840
I didn't know what I was doing, but I figured the fuck out.
00:36:51.540
And then the next time that situation comes up, because that's going to come up a whole
00:36:54.880
bunch, you're going to be like, well, you know what?
00:36:59.600
And then you get real comfortable with uncertainty.
00:37:02.140
And I hate to tell you this, but this is the truth.
00:37:04.240
The most successful people in the world are the most comfortable with being uncomfortable.
00:37:10.880
They are the people that can operate with uncertainty.
00:37:13.000
They are the people that can go and have courage regardless of if the outcome is guaranteed
00:37:16.960
or not, because they have confidence in themselves that they will make the outcome.
00:37:23.040
So we have to understand that all this fucking new age, pussified nonsense that you read online
00:37:35.620
That is for victims who want to feel like they're actually doing something without actually doing
00:37:43.960
You feel bad because you're not who you're supposed to be.
00:37:48.780
If you want to feel good, be who you're supposed to be physically, mentally, financially, spiritually
00:37:55.880
If you're going to, if you're, if you're, it's really hard to feel bad about your life
00:37:59.660
when you're doing everything, you know, you're supposed to do.
00:38:03.400
Like when, you know, and you look at yourself in the mirror and, and, and at nighttime and
00:38:15.620
The reason all these people are looking for the solution to feel good is because they're
00:38:19.960
unwilling to do the one thing that will actually make them feel better because it requires
00:38:24.280
fucking effort and it's not comfortable and it requires courage.
00:38:31.640
That's why people fucking flock to this shit, dude.
00:38:36.440
Oh man, you know what I'm fucking, well then fucking sit on the bench.
00:38:51.120
It's not even for most of the people that think they want to win because they're unwilling
00:39:05.180
They want to feel like they're doing shit, but they're not actually doing shit.
00:39:10.320
And these are the people that buy all the fucking self-help books and they go to all the therapy
00:39:15.060
and they fucking optimize their morning routine, 500 steps.
00:39:19.560
They do everything except the fucking work that's going to move them forward.
00:39:27.260
If a criminal took all the effort that they put into trying to scheme and scheme and scheme
00:39:33.800
and scheme and scheme and just fucking did it the right way, they'd be a fucking hundred
00:39:42.480
They are willing to look at every single thing and do all these things that require all
00:39:49.520
this thinking and all this effort and all this analyzation, when in, if they would just
00:39:54.420
say, fuck it, I'm just going to do what I got to do every single day to the top of my
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And all the things that they're dealing with would go away.
00:40:08.920
Your mental health will be a lot better when you're winning, bro.
00:40:14.580
What do you, you know, there's no greater stress than financial stress.
00:40:25.200
You think you're going to fucking therapy your way out of feeling under the boot of fucking
00:40:35.260
Sell all your shit and live within your means so that you don't have the financial
00:40:40.480
stress or go out and win and not have to worry about it.
00:40:44.280
Then you get to do whatever the fuck you want and you got the money.
00:40:58.120
It's like you watch these people and you're like, they're trying to fix a problem.
00:41:05.420
That comes from them not doing or becoming or creating the life that they want.
00:41:11.980
And they're willing to do anything to feel better about the problem, except solve the
00:41:23.220
They just want, look, dude, there's a difference between winning and wanting to feel like you're
00:41:32.100
They want to, they want to, they don't want to be looked at as somebody who's like just
00:41:38.640
They don't want to be, you know, like, you know, and then they got all this pressure
00:41:43.160
and all this anxiety and all this stress from being poor and, and fat and out of shape
00:41:48.680
and no, you know, no, nothing of what they actually want for themselves.
00:41:54.160
And then even worse, what do they start telling themselves?
00:42:07.700
You know, like, dude, it's just a, it's just a fucking ocean of justification and, and
00:42:34.680
And maybe that's because I've lived on both sides of it.
00:42:37.180
You know, maybe it's because I know how much better your life is when you actually dig
00:42:47.300
You know, that's why you have people who are a hundred pounds overweight and they, they,
00:43:00.220
You know, it's the same thing when they're broke.
00:43:03.380
It's the same thing when they're, you know, it's the same thing, bro.
00:43:06.680
You acclimate to that level and then you're comfortable there and you know, it's not what
00:43:14.260
you really want, but yet you're unwilling to do the things that are actually going to
00:43:20.780
So why do you, why is it so important to you for everybody to think you're trying to
00:43:26.540
Why is it so important for you to pretend like you're trying to get better?
00:43:35.040
Just fucking delete all the fucking podcasts, delete all the personal development shit, throw
00:43:40.640
the personal development books in the fucking trash and just live your life.
00:43:49.520
You're never going to be happy, but you're certainly never going to be happy if you think
00:43:54.520
that you're going to become this thing that you never become and you're not willing to
00:44:03.640
I mean, it's scary to think how many people waste their lives, their whole lives, bro.
00:44:07.900
Thinking like what they're going to do one day.
00:44:16.160
You know, I think, I think a lot of people have never dealt with a true like near death
00:44:24.380
experience where they realize how fast it could be over.
00:44:27.280
And, and, and, uh, that's probably another, another thing that keeps people where they
00:44:32.880
That's something that I think changed my mentality.
00:44:42.220
Makes you think totally different because you know, it can be over in a fucking second.
00:44:46.080
So your, your, your, your urgency goes way the fuck up, dude.