1022. Q&AF： Fitting In While Growing, Finding Purpose In Success & Hiring Your First Employee
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Summary
On this episode of The Realists, DJ and I talk about the dangers of riding a motorcycle in the rain, and the benefits of wearing a seat belt on the back of your motorcycle. We also talk about mental toughness and how to cultivate it in your life.
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what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have Q&A F that's where you submit the questions and we give you the answers DJ is
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show what's up man salutations greetings greetings fine shits kenichiwa mitsubishi soy sauce
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i speak kawasaki toyota that's right that's right
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dave's like i can understand them what's going on man nothing dude yeah beautiful day dog yeah
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You know, I wasn't planning on it being great because we called for, like, storms and shit.
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They've been asking me about all the bike content I've been putting up.
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and they think that like that's new to me right i'm getting a lot of you know it's okay but a lot
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of people saying hey be careful wear a helmet this and that wear your seat belt yeah look guys
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i've been riding bikes since i was eight years old all right dirt bikes i've had a street bike
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literally since i was 17 yeah the entire time um and i have multiple bikes and that bike that you
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guys have been asking about that's not a new bike i've had that for over a decade
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the reason that you've never seen me post about it is because for a while i took a hiatus from
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riding motorcycles and the reason that i took a hiatus from riding motorcycles is because
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i have a lot of people who depend on me and we are to a point now where the companies are
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pretty much self-sustaining i'm not the ceo anymore i do help with things
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um but if something were to happen to me we'd be okay so i'm back to doing shit that i actually
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want to do you know and so i just want to let you guys know that because i've been getting lots of
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questions about it um it's not a midlife crisis no yeah no it's something i've always been into
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and um for a while there it was just something that uh you know we had to start taking precautions
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you know um things that people don't think about like my brother and i never fly on the same
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airplane my business partner and i never fly on the same airplane these are things that we do
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to ensure that if something were to happen everything would be okay and uh you know i
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gotta live a life too man and these are things that i enjoy so i just wanted to mention that
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because a lot of people have been asking me about it now it has been a minute but how does it feel
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you know the first day i was out it felt a little it was i was a little wobbly um i got you know
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how like when you first start getting it felt like when you first start riding kind of on the
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road where you're like you're kind it's kind of not relaxing because you're like yeah you're
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nervous but really after like 30 minutes dude it all went away everything came back yeah and i feel
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good there's nothing else like it there there really isn't i mean i'm still a car guy i love
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cars i'm always going to love cars way more than bikes but uh it is a totally different thing it's
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something about just strapping a fucking powerful engine between your nuts well there's just
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something there i'm used to that so oh yeah yeah yeah well there's something there no i'm just
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saying dude like uh there's just nothing like there's nothing else like it's a different thing
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and um you know i think for all of you guys that ride you know my my recommendation will always be
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you know try to stay out of traffic dude i think you know riding is an amazing thing it's very fun
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um but riding through the city and on the highway and in traffic and lane splitting and all that
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shit bro it's not a matter of if it's a matter of when 100 and uh you know just just be smart
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oh yeah so oh yeah cars i know there's guys that are listening right now i'd be like you're a pussy
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if you don't lane spit and ride it every day and ride it all okay well then i'm a pussy like you
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know whatever you say but it ain't worth being stupid dude i've had a number of friends over
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the years who have passed away from bikes um same yeah dude and it's it's something that you know
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the minute you don't use your fucking brain you could be a fucking mark on the asphalt and you
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know people are wearing a t-shirt with your fucking face airbrushed on it that's right you
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know i'm saying that's right so that's right now dude it's what i've had to mature a lot from
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riding yeah like i was especially with kids yeah you got kids and you should be like when i first
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started riding the amount of side mirrors that i fucking punched off well just from being a
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fucking you know what i'm saying sometimes people deserve it some people do that's the other thing
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you guys that don't ride you don't understand what you're doing when you get close to a bike
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or you're riding its blind spot it all it takes is one fucking time of a slight mistake it's not
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like a car where you're like oops you motherfuckers that text and drive and don't pay attention
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assholes you are fucking assholes and on top of that under give them their space don't ride up
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on their back you know give them plenty of room and you know be courteous and watch out you know
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like bro i got cut off like twice just on the way here i know dude you know i'm saying people just
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pulling out it's way more dangerous than it used to be before texting it was so much easier to ride
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because people were paying way more attention yeah but now you got all these cars were not
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as fast back then either right oh yeah we have buggies actually yeah yeah you know we have buggies
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it was a lot easier when it was horse and buggy that's right yeah model t's no man it's just
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annoying how unaware and how disrespectful drivers are to riders you know it's like dude
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fuck you guys yeah no for sure so unless you're on a road bike then fuck you that's right yeah
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well that's a whole different conversation road bikers cyclists you got motorcycle i'm talking
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about motorcycles the road bikers there's something wrong with y'all you know you don't
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you know what i'm saying is that the next stage i guess is that where we go next i guess you know
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I'm saying no I fucking we get we get the skin tight suit the helmet that will never happen
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clicky shoes yeah they own the road that's right that's right fuck man hell yeah dude well guys
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listen it's gonna be a great show uh I got three good ones for you all right let's make some people
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better today guys Andy question number one hey Andy DJ the team I'm about to turn 21 here in a
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the last couple of years, getting ready for the real world.
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I'm finishing school next semester with a degree in accounting.
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What I am struggling with is when I'm around certain friends or even family,
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Most of my close family is slightly overweight,
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I just chose not to, thanks to your help and all that you do.
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but I also don't want to shrink back and stay comfortable.
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How do you handle that without becoming arrogant?
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and build and create and become what you see inside of you
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that doesn't make you better than them that's just how they perceive it because they're not
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doing fucking anything okay so that when they say that to you you have to understand that it means
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nothing okay it means nothing nothing you should give it zero energy you should think about it
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zero percent you should really just understand that those people are going to be the exact
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same place the exact same people doing the exact same things when you are 41 that they are now when
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you're 21 you have to understand that so anything that you take from them that is anything other
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than hey man i really you know whatever i can do i know i don't know much but i'll help you any way
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i can i hope you make it let's make it and they cheer anything other than that is probably terrible
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information terrible information unless which is rare they are willing to tell you why they haven't
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been able to be successful and be honest about it but most people aren't most people make up stories
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they talk about you know how they got screwed over or the you know the challenges that they
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they weren't able to overcome or the victimhood that the world has bestowed upon them and
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these people are cancerous to the mindset and the drive and the ambition that you have
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anybody out here listening if you have goals and you have dreams and you want to be better
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and these losers call you arrogant you have to understand that that means fucking nothing
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arrogant is when you're overestimating your own importance and your own abilities and dude all
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you're doing is trying to be better yeah that's not arrogance okay come to me in 10 years or five
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years when you're making a few million bucks a year and you think you're elon musk and i'll tell
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you you're an arrogant fuck that's right but that's coming from me that's coming from someone
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who's further down the road right you should never listen to people who are not further down the road
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with you when it comes to criticism because their criticism comes from a place of insecurity
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And you have to understand, these people will sell themselves on these stories that are total bullshit about why they never became who they wanted to become.
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And they will sell themselves so hard on that story, they will eventually pretend that's what they wanted.
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I'm the same motherfucker I was as I always was.
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The whole point of trying to go through the journey of life is growth and improvement and progression
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and tapping your God-given potential that you were gifted with and bringing that into the world.
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And if you're bragging about being the same as you were 5, 10, 20 years ago, your mind is fucked up.
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okay so you should give these people zero percent of your thought and your energy zero
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yeah i never switched up oh bro i've always been the same yeah that's your whole fucking problem
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dude yes like have you figured that out yet you're drinking the same place you're talking to the same
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people you're living in the same town you're working the same job you're fucking exactly the
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same in fact all this change is that you've gotten fatter and dumber and grayer and older and worse
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so you're not actually even the same you're worse than you were and then they'll brag about it like
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it's some sort of you know badge of honor oh i'm the realest motherfucker out there because i'm the
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same no you're a dumbass okay you're a dumbass and you don't understand and you've sold yourself
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and manipulated your own mind into believing that somehow doing nothing with your life
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I feel like that culture, especially with the young guys, right?
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The American ambition culture, the hardworking culture, the want to win culture is back in full swing with the young men and young women.
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And, you know, you got to understand the reason that they don't like the reason that young people struggle with this at 21 years old is because they don't have the perspective of someone who's 40.
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They don't know someone who's 40 who has gone down the path that they wanted to go down, that they were intended to go on.
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that person literally watched their best friends,
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the people they at one point cared the most about,
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You don't understand where these people are going.
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And those people that are saying that same shit,
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I'm sure a lot of what I just said resonated with a lot of people, right?
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Real is saying, hey, I'm where I'm at and I'm not where I want to be and I'm willing
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to do whatever the fuck it takes to get there and I'm going to do it and then doing it.
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Real man shit is not living the same life over and over and over again for 60 fucking
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years and then, you know, struggling your whole life, bitching your whole life, complaining
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about your whole life and then acting like you chose it.
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Guys, Andy, let's get another question in, man.
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And I've had a couple really good years financially.
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The weird part is the things I thought would make me feel accomplished.
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money hitting my numbers the recognition they don't hit the way i thought they would uh it's
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like the high is shorter every time and then i'm right back chasing the next thing it makes me
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wonder if i'm chasing the wrong stuff but i don't really know what else to chase did you go through
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that and were you technically where you're technically winning but it doesn't feel the
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way you expect it a thousand percent oh a thousand percent okay every single wealthy person if they
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have any kind of introspective ability goes through this all right in the beginning when i was young
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when i was 19 when i started in business bro i wanted boats and hoes and money okay like that's
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what the fuck i wanted i wanted to make a lot of money right i wanted to have cool shit i wanted
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to have hot girls i wanted all the shit that all the young men want okay and that's what i wanted
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all right so i worked it worked it worked it worked it worked it worked it worked and eventually
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i got to a point where i made a lot of money all right and that was about for me um as you guys
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know my first three years I made zero dollars my next seven years I made $695 a month for a total
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of $58,380 in my 11th year I made $180,000 and I thought I was rich and then the year after that
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I made seven figures and I've never made less than that since then okay so in 2000 and this was so
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that would be 2011 12 in 2014 15 i had more money than i ever could imagine having because of what
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i had just been through being broke right yeah that's a big change huge change huge change and
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i also hadn't like really upgraded my lifestyle so i was like i was stacking cash oh yeah all right
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so i got sick i got pneumonia and for the first time in 14 years i missed a significant amount
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of work i missed 17 days of work okay work days not not just weekends like monday through friday
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so it was like you know two weeks two full weeks right or three full weeks yeah and um
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i was so sick dude i had pneumonia and it was really bad and anybody who's had pneumonia knows
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like it is terrible and i was laying on the couch and i was watching movies and you know just sitting
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there and i watched you know i could pull up my banking app on my phone and i could see the money
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going in and I watched my money keep going up everything was going good but I was fucking
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miserable because I mean I was at home pretty much alone for all that time I didn't see anybody at
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work I didn't I didn't get to socialize it was bad and like I was very depressed and it like clicked
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because up until then money was the focus of the reason I started for the most part around 2010 I
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i kind of had a you guys know the story where i had this deal where my intent really switched
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and that's when we started making money but that's not that's not part of this conversation
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so i never understood like you you know you hear about these people that have everything
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and then they like blow their brains out and you're like what the fuck dude you had everything
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why the fuck would you do that you have to understand they didn't have everything
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because everything they were used to everything so it's like when you go somewhere and it's brand
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new you know if you go to disneyland the first day you're like holy shit this is fucking amazing
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right the next day disneyland is probably a bad example but the point is if you go there for 200
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days in a row it's just what it is all right when you buy a new house and you you go to the new
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house you're like oh my god i love my house it's so amazing two three years later you're it's just
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home yeah so you get acclimated to the things around you and this is why these wealthy people
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who have no goals no ambition no no purpose past the point of making money get so depressed
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all right because dude let me tell you something and i've seen this shit there's nothing more
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depressing than going to these rich people parties and seeing everybody wear the big jewelry and the
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nice watches and by the way i like the shit it's not my fucking purpose in life you know and they're
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taking all the group watch shots and it's like dude aren't you guys tired of this shit like like
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and you know like they're drinking the expensive champagne and everybody's hobnobbing and dude it's
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just like honestly it's just fucking gay like it really just is like that's the only way i can say
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it and it's very sad it's very sad because a lot of these people are very empty but it doesn't have
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to be that way it doesn't have to be that way and it's not supposed to be that way so when i was sick
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i had this revelation i'm like oh this even though i wasn't the wealthiest guy i was wealthy for me
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yeah and you know i had out i had out earned you know anybody that i personally knew anybody in my
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family and for me like I was like dude this is what you're this is what I always you know was
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supposed to do and it dawned on me like it this really like in a really like hard way I said fuck
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this is why they kill themselves this is why and I realized that I needed to figure out how to
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make that go away and so what i what i realized is that there are three things that you have to do
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in order to continue to feel what you're looking for which is fulfillment uh your ambition your
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drive and not complacent yeah okay so the three things well the first thing i figured out was
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i had a bunch of people who had worked very hard for us that had helped us build this business and
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i said okay they helped me i gotta help them and that was like the first thing i thought
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okay so it changed my purpose from me to them just like i did in 2011 when we changed the
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purpose from me to the customer which is what set the business on the track in the first place
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so I did the same thing for my employees I said in my mind and in my heart I said okay this isn't
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about you anymore it's about them all right and so I switched that focus which gave me more purpose
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and there's three things that you have to have okay you have to have actually four things one
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you got to have the right intent is the intent on yourself or is it on others okay and if your
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intent is on yourself with your customers you're going to lose if your intent is on yourself with
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your employees you're going to lose okay it's a two-way street yeah and if you focus on them
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they will give to you and vice versa that's how it works so you got to have the right intent where's
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your intent is your intent on you i would bet if i'm talking to you your intent has been on just
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getting you some motherfucking coin that's what it's been so audit your intent all right the next
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thing is there's three things that you have to have in order to feel happy on the process okay
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and that's something that's very important for people to understand yes the money's cool yes
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the success is awesome but you know what i love the most of anything that i do is coming in here
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and being around the team yeah i love it dude i'm here every single day i was just talking
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i think out of the days that besides the times i've been out of town i've probably in six years
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i've probably missed less than a week of days here okay and that's saturday and sunday so i'm
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here every day because i love being here and that leads into what what i'm going to talk about here
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for a second which i think you all need to pay very close attention to all right there's three
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things that you need to have that will bring you fulfillment and happiness one you have to have a
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purpose okay humans are meant for a bigger purpose they're not just meant to trade some of their life
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for some money and then go spend some shit that's not what it's about now i love all the shit i've
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got all the cars i've got a cool you know i've got cool properties i do whatever i want i love
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the shit that's my lifestyle that's my standard okay and i'm not changing it but it's not it's
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not anything more than life experience it's just it's how i choose to want to live right
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i'm talking about real purpose okay what is your purpose what are you building what are you creating
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what are you what are you pursuing who are you becoming all right and why yeah all right so you
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have to have a real purpose and if your purpose is just to make some money eventually when you
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get it you're going to feel how you're describing all right and everybody who makes money feels this
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way in the beginning and some never correct it so this is very important for you guys to hear
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because I'm sure you're going to get to a point where you're making a lot of money if you listen
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to the shit that I tell you if you don't you might not but I'm going to tell you if you listen to
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shit I tell you you're gonna win so you got to have the purpose okay the second thing is you
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got to be grateful and have gratitude for where you are at the moment all right understand you
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may not be where you want to be, but you are a hell of a lot better off than a lot of other
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people. And you're a hell of a lot better off than the worst case scenario. And it doesn't
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matter how bad things are for you right now. It could be a lot worse. Okay. So even if you're at
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rock bottom, you're not really at rock bottom, bro. It could get a lot deeper. All right.
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Be grateful for where you are and grateful for the opportunity to move forward and look at the
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small things even when i was broke dude and didn't have shit part of my daily prayer at night was
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always thank you god for making me who i am and i wouldn't trade places with anybody on the planet
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i love who i am and i love who you made me and i love the people in my life and i would never i
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and i mean this dude i would never trade with anybody i wouldn't trade with anybody on this
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planet I like being me I love the people in my life and I've always felt that way even when I
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didn't have any money okay so you got to be grateful and the last thing is you have to
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practice discipline you got to be able to cultivate the ability to control the things
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that you are in control of these are very simple things that dictate most of the outcome of our
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life okay this is what you eat this is what you drink this is what you put in your mind this is
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who you associate with these are simple things with a few other things that you are in control
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of that dictate most of your reality all right so you have to cultivate the ability to be disciplined
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this is the whole point of 75 hard and the live hard program it's about teaching you that discipline
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is not a trait that people are born with it's a skill and it's also a perishable skill that you
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have to continue to invest in over time if you can do these four things together audit your intent
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figure out what your purpose is and make it bigger than yourself much bigger and by the way
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you're going to have to redo your purpose many times over the journey because you're going to
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get to the point where you're at again where you're going to feel like well yeah i'm doing this but
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it's it's you know i'm kind of i'm kind of well then fucking make it bigger bro all right you
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got to continue to make the purpose bigger as you go this is why these wealthy people fucking are
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so miserable because they don't do that they get to the point where they're they buy a 30 million
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dollar house and they got an airplane and they got a boat and they got all this shit and and they and
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they fuck what do they do they fucking drink all day they drink start 11 o'clock in the morning
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they their life becomes a wreck and you know it's there's no way to live yeah okay and by the way
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that's not all wealthy people that's just people that don't figure it out there's plenty of people
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that figure it out so this whole fucking idea that all the fucking brokies say about oh rich
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people are so unhappy like they'll say this shit on instagram yeah but are you happy well are you
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fucking happy right like like oh are you happy eating fucking ramen and driving a shit box and
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living in your shithole apartment are you happy right like you're not you don't have to have one
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or the other you don't have to be poor to be happy you can be very wealthy and be happy if you
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understand that that's not the focus of your entire life and actually the way that you become wealthy
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is by having a big enough purpose that changes enough people
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or serves enough people that they trade you the money for it.
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You got to be grateful for where you are, like I explained,
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and then you've got to be able to be disciplined.
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it will remove the feeling that you are having,
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which is very common amongst people when they start making real money.
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on the point of being grateful and practicing gratitude right did you mention like you did it
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when you were when you were poor when you didn't have anything is it harder to be grateful when
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you're poor versus when you're rich you don't know what you don't know what it's like to be rich
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it's just you're grateful you know what i mean like when you're poor you don't fucking know
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yeah and when you're rich you know and you're like yeah this is awesome but okay you know
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what i'm saying like i got it okay no it's not harder it's it's it's it's not no no the answer
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is no the the thing is is sometimes when people get rich they forget to be grateful because they
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get immune to the life that they have which is exceptional so when things go wrong they get
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angry and then they bitch and they cry and they forget about what it used to be like yeah right
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yeah so and dude i want to drive this point home before we move on to question three
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but dude you do not have to be poor to be happy that is a that is a poor people thought process
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that justifies their own inaction and their own willingness to go down the harder path
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and that's why they say things to people who are doing things like this man is doing
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where he's out building his life becoming who he wants to be and then you know they'll he'll go out
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and buy a nice house and buy a nice car and do the things that you do when you get some money
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and people are gonna say oh i bet he's not happy i bet he's not that's just them like discounting
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what they could have been so it doesn't hurt them as bad you know so yeah that's the truth
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yeah they're full of shit dude it's fucking true they're full of shit bro listen you you cannot
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i would argue you can't be happy when you're poor if you're being real bro no you can be it's
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fucking hard you can be because someone don't have some here's where you can't be happy okay
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You can't be happy when you have ambition and you have goals and you're poor.
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If you are poor and you don't have, like, bigger goals and your goal might just be to, you know, do your life.
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You know, some people, listen, man, not everybody's ambitious.
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Those people should go listen to music and just be happy, dude.
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the you could be happy but but you can't you can't have goals and ambitions and be poor and
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be happy yeah you see what i'm saying you gotta pick pick something no no they they don't even
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dude listen man some people have never ever ever had anyone in their life tell them that they could
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have anything more than what they have okay i was talking to my buddy parker and parker owns a
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business and he's a young man he's he's under 30 and he has an employee that was like in his 40s
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and they were doing like he was doing one-on-ones and he said okay well what do you want and he's
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like what do you mean what i want he said what do you want out of your life and he's like well you
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know i i i don't know like i what do you mean like he could not comprehend what parker was asking him
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and finally Parker got him to say well I'd like to have a nicer car yeah okay which is a great
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start that's a good place to start and then the guy paused and looked at him and said nobody in
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my whole life has ever asked me that nobody has ever asked me that and we have to understand
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that there are a lot of people that have never had anyone make them believe that they could be
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fucking anything more than what they are and a lot of times those people go through their whole life
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and dude to be completely honest those people are happy because they've never been told they
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could have more so they don't desire more so they just do their life and that is okay but if you
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have ambitions and you have goals and you stay poor you're gonna be in fucking agony your entire
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life that's so real bro it makes me think too it's like you know it's easy they're fine with
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like i mean this goes into cti you guys heard that tonight but like i mean it's easier to
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fucking they have no problem convincing a kid they can be you know opposite genders yeah
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convincing them that they can go fucking achieve some shit yes sir that's all about control bro
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it's all about control they don't tell us what we're capable of because if they teach us what
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we're actually capable of we become too powerful to control it's the same reason that taxes are
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the way they are they can print as much money as they want so why the fuck are they taxing us right
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Well, they tax us because if they don't, we will become too financially powerful to actually be controlled the way they would like to control us.
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So you have to understand that the system that we live in is in complete contrast to what they tell us America is actually about.
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This is the whole reason we do CTI, by the way.
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What they say America is about and what it actually is are two different things.
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our job is to wake enough motherfuckers up and get enough people aware and
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dedicated to becoming personally excellent in all areas that it shifts that
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culture back to what America is supposed to be.
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let's get to our third and final question here.
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I created my flooring business about two years ago and I'm starting to get
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really busy to the point where I need to start hiring some guys.
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my question is how did you handle the pressure of hiring people for the first time your first
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hire how long ago was that oh i mean we had to have people help with the store i mean immediately
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yeah like our first people that helped they were like our good friends these are people that just
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came in when they could they work shifts um i'm very grateful for those people you know they came
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in they they helped us they believed in us we didn't have any systems we didn't know anything
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but they they stood there did their best and um we wouldn't be there without those people
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so we had to have those kind of people in the beginning sometimes we couldn't even pay them
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dude you know what i mean sometimes pay was taking them to dinner you know like and the
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dinner was free because we knew the guys so like so so we had a lot of people you know as much as
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we talk about like most people didn't believe in us we had a handful that did and i'll never
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forget those people um and they were just our friends okay so but hiring our first real employee
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um a lot about so my biggest lesson in business came from opening our second store all right
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we it took us five years to open store number two all right and the reason it wasn't because
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we couldn't do it financially we could have made it work the problem was is that we didn't like
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we did not we were so terrified of all of the things that could go wrong we were terrified
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that they would steal we were terrified that they wouldn't show up for work we were terrified that
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they would you know do all kinds of crazy shit that you're scared of right now right you're like
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oh well what about this what about that what about this listen man get in your fucking car
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and drive down the fucking road and look look how many businesses they are look look at all the
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there's thousands of them in your fucking city do you really believe that you're the only
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motherfucker that can't fucking hire someone and get them to work for you do you not you see what
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i'm saying yeah it's an irrational fear yeah okay now are you going to be great at it in the
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beginning probably not are you going to get some good people by accident yeah you will and here's
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the thing you have to understand. Most people want to be part of something. Most people want
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to win. Most people want to feel fulfilled. Far more people leave their jobs because they don't
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feel like they're contributing than they do for pay. All right. People want to do things. Your
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mission is to figure out how, if you want to be good at it, okay, now you can hire people and
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they will come in they will work for you and then when the next opportunity comes they leave
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and all this shit like that's what normal companies do yeah if you want people to come in
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and you want them to care and you want them to dedicate themselves and you want them to get
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better and help you build something special you have to paint the vision in a way where all of
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their hopes all of their goals all of their dreams are possible under the umbrella of this vision
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the big vision can't just be uh you know steve's construction it can't be that like hey you guys
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are going to work for me i'm going to make most of the money and you know then you can fuck off
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and go home drink beer that can't be what it is all right what it needs to be is hey we're going
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to build the best construction company ever we're going to go we're going to start here and then
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we're going to go to this next place and we're going to go to this next place we're going to
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start building decks then we're going to go to concrete then we're going to go to houses then
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we're going to go to this and you have to see this vision out in front that is so big that these
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first key guys especially and really all your people can see themselves living their life
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inside of that and then you got to do it okay because if they figure out that you're just
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fucking blow and smoke they're gonna leave and they're gonna fucking hate you all right so you
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have to understand people want to be a part of a team they want to win they most people are good
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most people are not bad we've had thousands and thousands and thousands and thousands of employees
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and the number of bad ones out of thousands is probably like
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100 it's it's a very it's a very fractional number yeah over the now i'm talking about over
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the years okay now have everybody stayed no but my goal has always been
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if they leave and they go somewhere else i want them to look back and say hey that was a very
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critical part of my career where i learned the most that i could learn and then they take those
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skills and go be some some great at something else yeah okay and if you have that attitude if
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you have a big vision you care about your people you help them win you're you're helping them
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grow their dreams bro you're not going to have a problem man but if you just try to do this thing
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where you're trading their labor their labor for money it's going to fucking suck and you're going
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to hate having employees everybody tell like we you know in arte syndicate we get a lot of people
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and they come in like when they're in the beginning and they're like fuck it was so much easier right
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i have employees i fucking hate having employees well yeah they probably hate having you as a boss
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too if you think that you know what i'm saying no shit like real talk dude i love our people
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like they're my fucking friends i don't know maybe they maybe maybe maybe they're fucking
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smoking blowing smoke to me but i feel like they're my friends you know and uh it gives me
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it gives me you know fulfillment and i enjoy it and i love being around the team and and i think
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that's i mean dude you're going to spend so much of your time doing this business why would you
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not want to be surrounded by a great culture of great people that you enjoy being around where
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you're helping them win and you're grateful for them and they're grateful for you see that's that's
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that's good leadership bro that's how you build things you know we talk about ethical entrepreneurship
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and unethical entrepreneurship like like these people who are like these far left communist
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people like the the the way they think of entrepreneurship they're actually correct
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okay and what i mean by that is this when they look at a company let's say uh you know a big
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giant globo corp amazon or whatever just for example and they see you know 14 000 people get
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replaced by robots in the in the warehouse and you know they're they're cutting people off i'm not
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saying i don't know if amazon does this but they're cutting people off before their benefits kick in
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or whatever and they say fuck capitalism well yeah they're correct okay but ethical capitalism
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and ethical entrepreneurship works really good okay because those companies those are the companies
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like what we do where we're sponsoring local teams we're building buildings in the community
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we're doing what we can for the city we're being a part of the culture we're trying to make things
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better and the big companies that don't do that don't you know while i do not agree with these
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fucking people i don't want to make it sound like that they only understand that part of the of the
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of the capitalism and entrepreneurship and then they get fooled by the people that fucking lead
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them into thinking that's people like us it's the mid-level people no we're talking about the
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richest motherfuckers on the planet we're talking about the five or ten you know kings of the world
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right now that own everything because they own all the money you want to be mad at people be
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mad at those fucking 10 people yeah don't be mad at your local guy who's trying to make it and
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create jobs and do the right thing and sponsor your teams and your communities those are the
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people that create the fabric and the support of the actual community so when you run the company
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that way and you do it for real you don't just talk about it you have zero problems finding great
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people so like dude back to the original thing you you have an irrational fear because you lack
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the confidence because you haven't done it yet but I want you to get in your car right now drive
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down the road and look at all the fucking companies and then remember what one man can do another can
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do okay you're not the only person in the history of business that's going to have a hard time
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getting employed like you come on dude yeah it's not real it's not a real concern they're gonna
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fuck up the floors it's it's not a real concern yeah they're gonna do that yeah yeah yeah by the
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way all the things you're afraid of they're gonna happen anyway yeah okay but but every time it does
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you get better and you learn how to avoid that next time which is investment in your skill set
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which allows you to move to a bigger and better place over the course of time yeah so look guys
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you know i understand it it cost me four years okay that fear that's why i said it was the
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biggest lesson i ever learned because it cost me the most time it cost me four years of my life
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that means i could be where i'm at now four years younger what's that worth so so that fear
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cost me that and that's how you have to think about it follow up on this because you you you
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actually have an example uh and i know first one for sure you know the the mail room to ceo story
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right and one of one of your longest employees now who started i think when you opened up that
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the next set of stories he's now like the president of the company right yeah and then like so how how
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how how was that buy-in belief i guess day one with him you know i'm saying like how how hard
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was it to kind of convince them it wasn't hard because we set the big vision and we worked our
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fucking ass off to make it happen yeah and we did it together so like that's the other thing
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you got to participate yeah if you're leaving it you know if you're leaving on thursday and
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coming back on tuesday and going to fucking fish they're gonna fucking hate you you're not gonna
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have any you're gonna you can't do it that way it won't work it won't work you got to participate
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what would you say the percentage of business businesses out there that are visionless versus
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the ones that are that have a solid vision in place it depends on where they are in the life
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cycle yeah okay in the beginning when it's founder run founder led and those people built the company
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those people have big vision and they actually really care and what happens is two things one
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those companies either get bought out or acquired and their new leadership comes in and it starts to
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become a machine that they try to milk everything out of and then eventually destroy it probably
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um or the founder passes it down to their kids okay and when you're in a second generation or
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third generation business those people don't have the understanding of what it took to build it
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the same way and it gets further and further removed for for to where you go okay so you know
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if they pass it down to their kids and their kids were able to like see them
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maybe they were there and they were around it when they were a kid,
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Like the founder cares because they fucking haven't gone through it.
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But then when it gets to the third generation,
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Like I see fucking dudes online that are third generation entrepreneurs and
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they're talking about how big their company is and they're pretending,
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i can fucking smell your inexperience and your dumb ass entrepreneurship fake bullshit
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through the fucking cell phone like you know what i'm saying like you're not fooling anybody that
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knows better so you know you got to be careful man like when these people tell when you see
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their airplane you see their house and you see their their lifestyle and you know and then they're
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telling you some story about how they did it man look that shit up because a lot of times what
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you're going to find is they didn't do shit they just got it handed to them and those are the
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people that end up ruining and degrading and becoming visionless as you described so always
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in the beginning they have vision they have to to become what it is they want but the way that
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you lose it is through acquisition now sometimes you get acquired and it gets way better because
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they pick the right partner to partner with or acquire the company sometimes uh they pick one
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and that company's total that's their total intention is to milk it dry all right but all
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would say 99 of second and third generation businesses they don't have they don't have
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vision the way that you need to have it to actually build things now sometimes you do okay
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Like there's there's there are examples of this, but they're just very few and far between.
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And by the way, if you're listening right now and you happen to because like, dude, those people can't help.
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You can't help that you were born into a successful family.
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And this is what I encourage you to do is if you're someone who who who inherits something or handed the reins to something, you have to understand that you are getting that not to destroy it or take it for granted.
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You are getting that to as a steward of something that really wasn't yours, but is now yours.
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And so the way you make your mark and one of the biggest things that second and third generation entrepreneurs struggle with is like they feel like nobody respects them.
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well nobody respects you because you're sitting on your ass milking the shit out all right but
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if you take the company from one place and it fucking skyrockets into the next you know
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stratosphere under your leadership you're a fucking hell of an entrepreneur and there are
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people like that but it's just it's just it gets rarer the further you go yeah i mean there's
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definitely examples of that yeah for sure dude i i know look i'm friends with some guys i have a
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number of friends who were you know they were born into business they took over the business
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and then they see it as a very serious obligation to honor their family that took it from there to
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where they took it over honestly dude like that is i think that's the coolest shit in the world
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you know and then they do their thing and they get the respect and they get the fulfillment they
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know what they've done and um you know a lot of those guys you know i i have a number of friends
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you know i could probably got 10 or so 12 business owners that i'm friends with that are in different
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places in that situation and when you talk to them in private one of the things they really
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struggle with is like they always feel like you know well i i you know insecure almost like because
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i didn't do it and they think everybody's judging them but you guys you got to understand like when
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you take something like if it goes from zero to uh 10 million and then you take it from 10
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to a billion you're fucking great okay you did like you should feel great even if you took it
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10 to 100 yeah or 10 to 50 you did your part you took something and you were a great steward of it
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and you should feel good about that and and and those of you that have never you know like there's
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a lot of people say oh these guys were born in this situation um that you know they were born
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on third base and they hit a fucking and they think they hit a triple not the great ones the
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great ones have something to prove the great ones want to earn it and that's why those guys win and
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sometimes those guys are actually the best operators because they paid such close attention
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to the to the the person in their family that came before them that they have a lot of skills
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That they really shouldn't possess at their age
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We will see you guys on CTI, don't be a hoe
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