1027. Q&AF： Building Long-Term Goals, Scaling Without Losing Your Mind & You're On Your Own
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In this episode of the 80 For Sells Podcast, DJ Khaled and Andi Fric & Frac discuss their favorite summer drinks and how you can take back control of your life. If you like the show and want to learn more about mental toughness, you can get the entire 75 Hard program for free at episode 208 on the audio feed only, or you can buy the entire program for $99.99.
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what is up guys it's andy for selling this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies the
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fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
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we have qnaf that is where you submit the questions and we give you the answers now you
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can submit your questions a bunch of different ways dj's going to tell you how guys you can email
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your questions in to ask andy at 80 for seller.com you can also click the link in the description
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right here and submit them online or you can just drop them in the comments in the qnaf videos on
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the tube other times we're going to have shows within the show tomorrow we're going to have
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cruised the internet we call that cti that's where we put topics on the screen current events we
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speculate on what's really going on and we talk about how we the people have to solve these
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problems going on other times we're going to have real talk real talk just 5 20 minutes of me giving
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you some real talk and then occasionally we're going to have 75 hard versus that is where a
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person who has completed 75 hard comes on the show talks about how they were before how they
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are now and how they use 75 hard to take back control of their life if you're unfamiliar with
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75 hard it is the initial phase of the live hard program which is the world's most popular mental
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transformation program in history you can get that entire program for free at episode 208 on the audio
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feed again that's 208 on the audio feed only or you can go to andyfricella.com and buy the book
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on mental toughness it has the entire live hard program and a whole bunch of other info that's
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not on that free episode uh if you're somebody who likes the ins and outs and the nuts and bolts
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and all the details that's the that's the way to go uh obviously it's not free but it is more in
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depth let's see we are the biggest show in the world that doesn't run ads that is a fact all
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right the reason we don't run ads is because i do not want to be told what i can and can't say
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ever so i make a little deal with you guys it goes like this if you like the show if it makes
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you laugh it makes you think if it's something of value realize that the only way our show grows
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because we don't have a big network behind us and we don't have a big uh ad campaign it only
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grows through word of mouth and uh we just ask very simply that if you enjoy the show the specific
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episode share that bitch out all right so don't be a hoe share the show all right this episode
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yeah i mean some people think they could share one for the whole year and they've done their
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little deal like that's not the deal man the deal is every episode okay if it gives you value yeah
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if you think it sucks fucking don't share it yeah but they never suck they don't suck yeah that's
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right man what's going on dog nothing dude yeah i got a little uh you know i don't i know we can't
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really talk about it but i have some shit i got some drink in my cup yeah gas it's my favorite
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drink we've had so far absolute gas yeah yeah it's uh let's just tell them what it is no i can't no
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no i'm saying like we just beep it you know this is fucking gas yeah it is like this is my summer
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drink no doubt like drink like not drink it's a drink and what do you call it though because like
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you're used to calling it like purple it's pink give me some of the red this is pink no but it's
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clear it's what do you say you guys you're gonna be confused just the drink dog yeah just simply
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a drink give me the drink i want the drink all right you know i'm saying yeah then that now the
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yellow drink's good too the yellow is good bro i'll drink the yellow juice all day long yeah
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yeah we're gonna name that one golden shower if i said that kind of sounded like i'll drink urine
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didn't it well enough of that it's time to get better today that is good though isn't it bro
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it's fucking gas yeah it's absolute gas dude fuck i'm excited dude you know just when i think
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you know yeah it's there you know remember we're still learning yeah we're still learning yeah
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Perspective is a powerful fucking thing, isn't it?
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And I think that how you choose to see anything is really going to be responsible
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uh andy question number one andy with an exclamation point um andy i'm a 23 year old
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female medical student with a very clear vision for my life i often feel misunderstood by my
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family and those around me because many people deemed the goals i've already set and achieved
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as impossible i was and still am often ridiculed with people telling me i won't make it anyway
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My long-term goal is to immigrate, which is why I choose a field like medicine that isn't tied to a specific country.
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I'm already learning the language and immersing myself in the culture.
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I'm seeking advice on how to effectively build a foundation for long arc goals that span a decade or more.
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My question is, what is the best way to lay the groundwork for goals that are still far off, 10 years more in the future?
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well look first of all goals that took 10 years 10 years ago now take three years or four years
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because of the different technologies that we have so it's hard to put a time frame
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because of the evolution and the speed at which technology is changing in the world
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my 10-year goals when i started in 1999 that was a much different amount of ground to cover than
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a 10-year goal now and which is really great for for you guys you know we have a lot of talk about
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you know how hard it is to succeed and all these things but it's always been hard
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and i would honestly trade places with any of you at this current time even considering what's going
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on in the world to be 20 years old again and have the ability to cover way more ground in a much
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shorter period of time yeah so let's be careful about how much we think we can accomplish in 10
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years because it's probably a whole lot more than you think at this point in time because
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that ability to to accelerate is only going to get more and more and more so that's the first
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thing the second thing is in order to achieve any goals you have to understand that you are going
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into a battle okay a metaphorical battle and you cannot go into the battle with bad tools and bad
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weapons if i if we were in a real battle and i sent you out there against people who were
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you know had rocket launchers and machine guns and i gave you a little buck knife you're going
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to get killed all right you're not going to be successful no matter what you do no matter how
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tough you are no matter it doesn't matter the tools that they have are better than the tools
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that you have and for that reason you don't have a chance so we have to understand that our mind
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and our body is the tool that is our weapon system that is what allows us to accomplish
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the goals that we're going to accomplish and far too many people don't realize this they
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don't realize that if you're not finely tuned and you're not training your mind and you're
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not holding yourself into the best possible condition you are in a situation where you
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are at a disadvantage against people who are so how should you look at this well the number
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one reason that most people can't achieve their goals isn't because they don't know how to achieve
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them. It's because they lack the ability to adhere to the steps of achieving the goal for a long
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enough period of time for those things to materialize. So you have to be able to cultivate
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and understand that the skills of resilience and fortitude and grit and mental toughness
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and the ability to endure and the ability to adhere these are the things that number one give
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you the confidence to achieve these goals but number two give you the very practical ability
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to follow a plan for much longer than you might be excited about following it all right so this
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is the purpose of the live hard and the 75 hard lifestyle a lot of people don't understand that
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75 hard and live hard are to be completed every single year this is a lifestyle this is not a one
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hit it fix it type thing these skill sets that I just mentioned grit fortitude mental toughness
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discipline the ability to endure resilience all these things they have to be trained
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all the time because they are perishable it's no different than any other perishable skill
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if you want to learn how to play the guitar and you get pretty decent at guitar and you stop for
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a year you're not going to be as good if you stop for five years you're going to be starting over
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these are things that you have to understand about your own tools your your mind your body
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so learning that at a young age because you're very young and being able to be conscious of that
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and become aware of that and keep that finely tuned
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will give you the ability to adhere to your plan
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much longer at a much higher level than everybody else.
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That is a huge advantage because 98% of people,
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they quit the minute that it becomes inconvenient.
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The minute that something happens that they don't like
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they're saying, you know, I've done a lot of reflection
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because every single thing that you could possibly choose
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on the entire planet to do is going to get boring
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to push through those times, you cannot get there.
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to the place you're trying to get and this is the mistake that most people make most people start a
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thing they have this amazing energy quote-unquote motivation they let that motivation drive them to
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the point where it's no longer exciting the motivation fades they lose the fuel to move
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down the path you have to operate on a different understanding is that the real progress in life
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is not made when you're motivated the real progress in life is made when you'd rather do
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anything else and you still do what it is you're trying to do at a high level that is the separator
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between those who do and those who don't and if you can develop that and you can keep that in mind
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and you can keep that finely tuned you will be at a massive advantage over everybody else so that is
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the second thing understand you have to control what you control you have to always finely tune
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your mind you have to keep your body in the best shape that it can be because these are your tools
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your weapons that you're using to fight the life resistance that comes your way when you are an
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ambitious person okay and number three um you need to get very specific okay i want to do this
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and you break it down backwards into daily critical tasks that have to be done every single
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day that will eventually lead you to there and guess what i've built a piece of technology that
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actually does this for you if you go to operator standard and get on the wait list because we're
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still in beta and we're still in the the mvp mode we are going to open that up very soon
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go get on the wait list for operator standard go on my website join the wait list and when this
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launches there's there's thousands of people in there already they took advantage of jumping into
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it in uh december and they've done an amazing job helping us find the holes and figure out what
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needs to be and how to do but this technology is amazing because what it actually does
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is you get to tell it what you're trying to do and it breaks down the critical task all the way
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down to today that helps you get to where you're trying to go so you're not questioning what you
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actually need to do yeah it takes that vagueness that's just one of the things it does this this
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thing is like fucking jarvis for winners okay i can't even tell you all the shit that's gonna
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come out with it and what we're working on but that it does that now so um you can either do
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that yourself or you can get that and fucking use that and so those are the three things that
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you have to do let me ask you this andy because i know like i said i mean we we talk you know
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oftentimes outside of this just life shit you know and i remember asking this was years ago
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did i ask her i'm like you know did you know that you would be where you are today and your answer
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because you know most people like oh no i didn't know i just you know like no this is what i
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expected that's right right and and i think i guess my question is and it may not even be the
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right word but in 1999 19 year old andy was there like a level of like blind confidence at that time
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like you know what i'm saying so it's so the answer is yes and no okay did i know we would be
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here specifically not exactly did i know that i would be in a position where i was winning
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yes on an undeniable undeniable winning yes i expected that that was not ever a doubt in my
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mind i just kept moving and that is like what faith is about right right like yeah i said blind
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confidence well look dude the work's always going to come before the belief yeah all right people
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think that when they start out they have to have this amazing belief in their ability to accomplish
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things and because they don't they think there's something wrong with them but they've got the the
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order of operations backwards okay the truth of the matter is is the only way that you start
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believing that you're actually going to get there like truly believing it like you said at the
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beginning you're like i want to be there that's where i want to be i would like to be there yes
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and and because people lack confidence which goes back to the live hard program they they they say
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man i don't really believe that and what happens is that freezes them up in the beginning and
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they're not realizing that you have to go and you have to do some of the work and you've got to do
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the work for a considerable amount of time not a month not three months not six months not a year
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we're talking years okay and eventually you get to a point where it starts to produce results
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And you're like, oh shit. Okay. This makes sense. I work. I see some results. I get some more belief. Okay. And when that cycle happens two or three times where you start to really learn that your inputs equal a certain output, now confidence isn't a problem because you understand what the game is about.
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yeah so the the reality is is you have to do the work blindly the best that you can and by the way
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we have incredible tools like we talked about in the operator standard that will help you
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understand the things you should do when you may not know what to do as long as you do them and
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then they start to produce results you learn that confidence and that's where the expectation comes
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in so once you get to a point where you've you know you've put the ingredients in you've baked
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the cake the cake comes out it's pretty good you put the ingredients in you baked another cake the
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cake comes out pretty good you put the ingredients you bake another cake the cake comes out better
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and you continue that process it doesn't take that long before you figure out like fuck dude
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i can do this and this is great so now you know what it takes to actually move forward and you're
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in a position to move forward with confidence understanding that you now expect to be successful
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you're not hoping or wishing or doubting it right you understand that if i put this work in it will
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produce this result and that's a very freeing feeling because it removes the things like doubt
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it removes the things like uncertainty it removes the lack of confidence and now you understand
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that is is simply inputs and outputs and that's what we have to understand dude expecting to win
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is completely different than hoping to win yeah okay hoping to win is man you know maybe if i do
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some of this work a lucky break will happen i'll meet someone something will happen people will
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like it i'll go viral i'll do this i'll do that that's hope expecting is i'm going to do whatever
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the fuck it takes no matter what to produce this result and that result is going to fucking happen
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and i don't give a shit if the fucking world ends that result is still going to fucking happen
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that's a different thing okay totally different thing and the only people who actually win are
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the people who eventually get to a point where they expect it but you've got to build that part
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by doing the work not really understanding until you see the results a few times to gain that
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confidence of expectation yeah it's like it's like the hockey stick you talk like you're gonna
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go for a minute without seeing anything no no fruits at all yeah yeah most people will quit
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i mean dude look man most people are quitting their goal in six months yeah like nothing happens
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in six months okay and and that was not that's not a new thing by the way i mean we could blame
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the internet and say oh yeah it's all these influencers times are changing it it's more in
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your face now but even when you were younger even when i i was younger that's the same way people
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operated okay they operated from a place of relying completely on their motivation and not
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on pushing past the point where the motivation fades or working until something bad happens and
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then saying oh well something's bad happened to me and that's the story they tell for their whole
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life you have to keep going through those things and if you don't you just have to accept that
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you're not going to ever become what it is you're going to become.
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What most people do their entire lives is they go for one or two or three years
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And before you know it, you've done that six times
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and it's taken you fucking, you know, 18 years of your life.
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You're 38 years old and you don't know what the fuck you're going to do with your life.
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that is the danger of not pushing through the monotony of achieving anything and there's not
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a single person on the planet i don't care if it's elon musk i don't care if it's bezos i don't care
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if it's michael jordan i don't care if it's tom brady it they're every single person these people
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they are experts at doing the work diligently at a high level after the excitement fades
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that's where things are really produced you're not even producing anything before the excitement
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fades like yeah brother that's crazy to think about dude yeah that's crazy yeah yeah once the
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new car smell wears off what are you doing then oh i'm gonna get a new car that's right you know
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that's right yeah that's wild yeah that's how people think fuck man i love it man let's keep
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moving guys guys any question number two andy i own a small roofing company in iowa
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for the first few years it was exciting because everything felt like growth i've hired eight more
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guys full-time we are making more money than we ever have and are backed up almost four months
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which is huge for us. But lately the pressure has started feeling different. Now I've got
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employees with families, depending on these paychecks, customers are trusting us with big
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money and mistakes cost way more than they used to. I still want to grow, but sometimes I honestly
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miss when it was smaller and simpler. How did you handle that place realizing that your decisions
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affect a lot more than just you now um i certainly leaned into it i didn't run away from it
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you know for me that happened about when i was 13 or 14 years into my business um
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you can only go so far when it's about you okay when when your purpose is about you
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and you're not in a financial position of stress
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the way that you were, comfort starts to set in.
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and then they end up losing and they can't figure out why they lost because they're like well you
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know i was doing good but now things are not good well yeah the reason things aren't good is because
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you're playing a game that runs on a sliding scale you are actually competing against other
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human beings and when the when everybody else is moving forward and you stand still they're
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gonna pass you it's no different than getting way ahead in a marathon and then deciding to pull out
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your lawn chair and say, man, you know what? I'm so far ahead. This is great. I'm at mile 19. I'm
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going to chill. I'm going to, and then eventually they pass you up and then you, you can't catch
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them because you have to start the momentum over again. So, so you have to understand that comfort
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is super dangerous. And the way you should be looking at this is this is a reignition of your
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responsibilities that will cause you to continue to progress learn work grow and create at a bigger
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scale level what you should be doing right now by the way the four-month wait list is not good
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just so you know okay no you think that's good for you where you that's not good it's perspective
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you know why that's not good because those people that are waiting for four months
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might hire someone that can do it tomorrow okay so while you think it's good because we got all
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this business on the books you're thinking about yourself you're not thinking about your employees
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and dude if you're an ethical business owner you have to understand that you have a responsibility
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for the people who have bet on you for their livelihoods those men and those women have bet
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on you for their livelihoods understand that and if you can't take that seriously not only will you
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not win you're kind of a shit shitty owner not even kind of you are all right so this is a point
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in time where your intent naturally moves and this happens to all entrepreneurs who scale okay
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it naturally moves from what I need to do for me to a point where I have to grow because these
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people are betting on me and they have families and they have homes and they have obligations
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and if I don't grow the business they're not going to be able to pay those things and that's
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a different kind of pressure it's kind of like i imagine like when people have children and it's
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all about themselves and then all of a sudden there's this little fucking sack of meat that
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comes out and you're like holy shit dude if i don't do it this kid's gonna fucking starve yeah
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okay now i've never experienced it in that way but i imagine that's what it feels like 100 okay
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yeah that's what i've been told yeah but that same responsibility and obligation should be
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put on your employees as well okay because like dude these people are betting on you man they're
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betting their lives they're betting their families they're betting their futures on you
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and if you sit there because you have you know a couple bucks in the bank you're a piece of shit
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that's the truth okay because they're betting on you you have to understand that they are betting
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on you okay and you a lot of people like to bitch nobody believes in me nobody what about all those
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employees that show up every day they fucking believe in you otherwise they wouldn't fucking
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be there okay so how you should be looking that this now is to change the responsibility and the
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intent from yourself to them all right and when you can do that and then you expand the vision
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of your growth to include their hopes and dreams and what they're trying to accomplish underneath
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that umbrella, now you start to create a really great company that solves the problem of overwhelm
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that you're currently experiencing. When you have people that understand that they can actually
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achieve what they're trying to, they can make enough money, they can bill what they want,
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they can live in the house they want, they can drive the car they want, they can do these things
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in your system now you're in a situation where they are willing to help you in a very proactive
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way to handle the minutiae and the overwhelm that comes with scaling so your choices are this
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yeah you can reminisce about the good old days but remember in the good old days you were fucking
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broke okay you didn't have the bass boat you didn't have the corvette you didn't have the
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escalade you didn't have a nice house you were starving and you had to watch what the fuck you
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ordered at the restaurant see everybody likes to reminisce about the good old days but they forget
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those things yeah okay so let's be real about what you're talking about and i would remove this idea
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from your head because there is a metaphysical quantophysical element to what you desire in your
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brain that the universe and god will provide for you so if you start to think man i really would
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just like to live a simple life and all this shit uh god's gonna find a way to deliver that to you
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and you may not like the way he delivers it yeah so you need to be thinking about the other people
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you need to be thinking about their well-being and when you can go from thinking about you to
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thinking about them it unlocks a whole new level in entrepreneurs yeah well dude and like again
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we've we've talked about this before man it's like you know like dude you said you say it like
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man i miss the store days i mean i do miss it but my job my role is different it's changed it's
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vault you know i'm saying how many different hats have you worn all of them you know what i'm saying
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hr dude all of them i pack boxes dude i remember whenever we we first started shipping out dude
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uh at four o'clock in the afternoon we would go out and literally pack the boxes okay before that
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when it was just me and chris we would print shit out on a printer and there'd be like five or six
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boxes and we would pack them and order them i mean i've done everything yeah everything from
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sweeping the floors to being the ceo to being chairman of the board like ever everything
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everything i've done everything yeah okay you got to get comfortable in what that role is now yes
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and that role will evolve and when you get a new role that's going to come with different
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responsibilities the reason that i like the quote-unquote good old days was because i got
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to deal more with customers face to face that's not reality for me anymore not because it was
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easier no that's i just enjoyed it yeah so i find other ways to do that for example how i do that
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now is instead of dealing with customers face to face i will walk the floors and i will talk to
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the people and i will talk to them and i will help them with what they are doing and i get that same
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sort of reward in a different way yeah so yeah yeah man uh look dude this is very simple stop
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thinking about yourself start understanding that you have a massive responsibility to take care of
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your employees and that little fire that you feel like is getting a little uh you know small is
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going to reignite in a way that's much bigger than it ever was because there's one it's one
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thing to worry about yourself okay like i know how to survive being broke all right it's i don't
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ever want to go back there but the reality is is if i had to i could fucking do it and it wouldn't
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it wouldn't be a deal when i think of my employees in any company that i'm involved in or own and i
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think about them having the obligation of children and i think about their bills and i think about
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the things that they have these are serious obligations dude and i always think like fuck
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what what's going to happen if if they lose their job like i that i hate that i don't want i don't
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want that to happen yeah and and if i'm being honest sometimes i care about that too much which
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causes me to hang on to employees longer than i should oh that's a whole yeah fucking conversation
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because dude like i am you got a good heart i do and sometimes it's fucked me but the
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the overall result is still much better because of it yeah i love it i love it guys andy let's
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get to our third and final question guys any question number three uh andy i think i spent
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most of my early 20s subconsciously waiting for someone to point me in the right direction
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a mentor an opportunity a break something now i'm 30 and i'm realizing nobody's coming
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no shit andy uh if i want a different life it's on me to build it yep but was there a moment
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for you where that fully clicked and once it did how did you change the way you approach life
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well look i started when i was 19 i didn't have any money we had 12 000 that we used to pay the
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rent for our store for an entire year because nobody would rent to us because we didn't have
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credit and we didn't have anything that would make them want to rent to us so then we had to
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finance the rest of everything on the credit cards which put pressure on us and put debt on us
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so I didn't have a choice all right I had to go and
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who even at that level you know they're they came from a rich family they had an inheritance they
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had an investor they had something and i used to be really bitter about that i used to get really
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mad about it the first especially the first three or four years where like literally we weren't
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making any money it would really irritate me i was like what the fuck you know we got to compete
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against all these people who have all this and that and this and this and this but what i started
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to realize is that because those people had those resources they weren't learning the lessons that
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they needed to learn that made them effective and so by year four five six i was being able to
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outmaneuver them like very easily and they couldn't figure out why well the reason why was because i
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started with nothing and I had to figure it out and they started with the safety net and they
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didn't have to figure it out they could always go to just writing a check or going back to the
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investor or going to their trust fund or whatever they had to do so I started to understand that I
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was learning these skills that they didn't learn by year 10 I had put most of these people out of
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business okay so I went through that in a little bit different way but I did realize from the very
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beginning that it was on me and nobody else like nobody was going to come and do any of the shit
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for us like it wasn't even it wasn't even like something that I really thought about was I bitter
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that other people had better advantages to me yeah until I understood that I was the one with
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the advantage because people who come with resources and they come with safety nets and
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they come those people never learn how to fucking fight it's just like people who complain about
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how hard it was growing up and they say well i i grew up here and i grew up with the trailer and
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i did this and i come from the hood and nobody gives a fuck about me do you understand how big
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of a fucking advantage that actually is because you learn the skill of survival and fighting at
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a very young age but because your perspective is based upon what people try to say is you know
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oh that person got there because they had this or that person was lucky or that's that's what we
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hear our whole lives we hear from other people around us our whole lives that literally everybody
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else that's made it did so because they had some sort of advantage that you don't have that's not
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the way it really works the way it really works is is that the people who build real shit they
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actually come from the hardest situations early on in life because they had to learn how to survive
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and provide for themselves in a way that these other people didn't you know they learned how to
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fight young and when you come from that and you look at it at the right perspective which is what
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i'm telling you now you are at a tremendous advantage over everybody else okay but most
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people can't break free of that victim mindset and they don't understand the reality that all
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of these people that they look at the reason they have all these crazy stories about where they come
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from isn't because they make them up after they get there it's because the people who had to go
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through the hardest shit are the people that are equipped to actually fight the battle of
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entrepreneurship so this whole idea that is in society that is propagated by a bunch of fucking
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people who are victim mindset losers that everybody who's done everything is somehow
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you know grew up with a fucking golden spoon in their mouth is total bullshit all right the best
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operators in the world came from the hardest situations every single operator that i know
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that's built anything relevant those people came from shit okay so if you come from shit
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you should instead of like saying oh i come from all this bad stuff and i got ptsd t2 times d from
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from when i grew up like motherfucker use that shit yeah okay lean into that understand that
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you are equipped with a set of skills that these other people don't have
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and when you apply those skills and they continue to go down the path eventually you get to a point
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where all of the people with the quote-unquote advantages have fallen off because they have
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a backup plan they have comfort they don't have to succeed otherwise you know they could go they
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have the ability to go back to mom and dad or go back and say oh i'll try this other thing or do
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this other thing or do this other thing that's that's something you don't have and that's a
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blessing that's not that's not a handicap and so you know i don't know if that really answers
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your question about like how do i realize that nobody's coming the only thing you got to realize
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is that like that's the that's what it is like nobody's coming bro people have their own lives
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in mind they are worried about themselves this is why like all you fuckers that think everybody's
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talking about you all the time bro bro they're talking about you in a passing conversation one
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time they're your ego is so big you think people just obsess over what you're doing like fuck that
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you know what i'm saying like they're worried about themselves so go ahead no i mean you know
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like one of the things that i've always like had a hard time understanding is like that that whole
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thing of like oh everybody else has got it and i don't have it's like well first like you don't
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even know if they actually do have an advantage you don't know because you're just seeing the
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end result not the not the work that went into that right that's one but then two who gives a
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shit it ain't you it's not your situation right right you know what i'm saying it's like could
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have should have would have been could have been hope hope it was too fucking bad okay it ain't
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yeah it just ain't it is what it is like what and if you that's right that's right dude you have to
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be dedicated to producing the end result you have to be obsessed with it dude like that's the thing
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is like you know like these these idiots on the internet who put out all this shit about balance
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and you gotta fucking work like there's no work-life balance as an entrepreneur that's not
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real especially when you're getting it going it's not a real fucking thing okay and anybody who says
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different hasn't built anything you know the whole problem with the internet is it gave a voice to
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people who can talk real well and say nothing right so that's the entire problem with the
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internet how many of these people saying oh you're going to have work-life balance have actually
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built anything significant okay i promise you they did not have work-life balance in the first five
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to ten years they didn't have it you have to be obsessed bro that's the level of competition
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because you have to understand other people are obsessed there are people that will eat a bowl of
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glass and eat a pile of shit every single day for as long as it takes to get where the fuck
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they want to go. And if you're not one of them, they're going to beat you. That's it. That is
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reality. So I had this kid messaging me the other day and like I was showing something on my
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Instagram. Oh, I know what it was. I was showing the startup of my career GT and he could see all
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the other cars through the windshield and he messaged me and he's like, dude, I'm so sick
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of being where i'm at like honestly how do i acquire this level of wealth like how do i do it
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and i'm like dude how old are you he's like 22 i'm like perfect you're the perfect age
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you have to become you have to become so obsessed with producing the outcome that literally nothing
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else fucking matters nothing and people will say oh that's selfish that's wrong it is what the fuck
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it is that's what it takes okay if you are not obsessed with producing that outcome especially
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in the beginning you're going to get eaten alive you're going to get eaten the fuck alive and it
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doesn't matter what joe schmo therapist or you know dude who never built anything on the internet
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who's doing shit for likes shares views remember half the shit on the internet is pacifying
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victim-minded bullshit that people post to make people feel better about them not doing the thing
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they're supposed to do okay learn to take a step back and watch people's content a lot of the
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things that are being said are not said because they're the truth they're said because it makes
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the majority of the market which is people who are not going to follow through feel much better
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about not following through okay it is it is prop is giving them permission to stay where they are
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and that's why it gets the like shares views that's why when you see a clip of me saying what
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i just said people are like oh well are you happy yeah motherfucker i actually am happy i walk into
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my garage every day and get to pick out a car like you pick out your fucking shoes okay it's cool as
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fuck i get to do whatever i want if i want to go to fucking vegas today i call up and there'll be
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an airplane in 30 fucking minutes and i can go there i can do whatever the fuck i want anytime
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i want if one of my family members or one of my friends or somebody i know their house is about
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to get foreclosed on i can fix that okay someone gets cancer i can fucking pay for that which i've
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done all those things okay if our city gets hit by a tornado i can fucking contribute to that i
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can make differences because and those things make me happy yeah so this whole idea of you either
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get to be rich or you get to be happy is it's not either or dude it's how you get rich and what
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value system you have and what you do with the money that allows you to figure out what you're
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going to do when you be happy people have this lie in their mind you know because i'll tell you
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this is true too after a while when you own all the material shit it stops mattering like
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when i walk into my garage you know this because you've been there and we bring someone even if
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they're famous into the garage who's been around it they're like holy shit to me i don't even
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notice it yeah like i'm walking in i'm like this is my life this is what i do all right
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i don't give a fuck about like i know you guys see me post all the cars and shit i'm posting
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that for fucking 18 year old 19 year old 20 year old andy to say hey man look what the fuck you can
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do how do i get that right this this idea that you can buy all the shit it's going to make you happy
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no that's not that's not true but it gives you far more ability to make impact on your friends
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your family your community which makes you really happy okay so you know you can't really listen to
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someone who says oh are you up yeah he's got all this shit but is he happy uh well they don't know
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because they never had anything okay you never hear someone who has made a bunch of money and
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worked their fucking ass off and worked for 30 years and build this incredible life and then
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they say oh man i wish i hadn't done that yeah that's not what the you never hear them say that
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you only hear people who haven't done a motherfucking thing say that and then you
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have these feel-good predators on the internet who by the way they understand what they're doing
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okay this is why i call them predators they know and are aware that most of their market
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is people who are going to not do the thing so they curtail their content to make people feel
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great about not expanding their own human potential which is ultimately the entire goal of
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being on this fucking planet listen motherfuckers these people are handicapping you and not a single
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one of them has made any money outside of the the other outside of anything other than making people
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feel like it's okay to just be right where they are and dude the reality is and then you have
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the christians i am one who don't understand christianity and think that being a very small
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little you know poor little me is somehow biblically the way you should be the bible
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actually talks about you not wasting your fucking talents to become who it is you're supposed to
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become god gives you gifts he gives you something inside of you that is meant for you to pull out
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develop and give to the world and there's no favor in in god's eyes to not use those things it talks
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about it in the bible so this whole idea of there's some sort of moral high ground of wasting
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your life being a nothing is a complete lie and it is totally exploited by these feel-good predators
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who know that their audience is a bunch of fucking victims and if they say something like
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hey you have to be obsessed with your goals and you have to like fucking basically for a period
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of time give up everything else they know that those people don't want to hear that they want
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hear what they want to fucking hear it makes them feel good about how they are now and that's that's
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why these people do that they know they fucking know what they're doing that's the thing you don't
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understand you know how i know they know what they're doing because i know these people and
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they've told me that and they've said things like that okay and it's disgusting shit imagine
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bro imagine your whole business is being some sort of therapist or some sort of influencer
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or some sort of author and your whole business plan is to make people feel good about being
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way less than what they could be because you know that's what's going to sell shit for you
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that is fucking evil shit that is predatory shit and that is what you are listening to and then
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furthermore the rest of the people that post all this content about you know oh you got to have
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this and this and this and listen man they've never done anything they don't know okay people
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are good talkers they're not just because they can get on a microphone and get in front of an
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interview and sound real smart doesn't mean they fucking know what the fuck they're talking about
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okay there's these things i don't know if you know them they're called it's called acting
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okay like you know there's this is another thing called lying right and just because someone like
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do you ever notice that the people who seem to be the nicest are always the
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And then we find out all this fucked up shit.
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And if you're not obsessed with winning and you don't realize that no one's
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