REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 18, 2021


103. Winners Royale

Hosted by
Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Nicole LaPera Andy Priscilla David Goggins
102. …But Helth๏ผŸ Ft. Dr. Russell Surasky 104. Winning Is More Fun Than Fun Is Fun Ft. Ed Mylett

Episode Stats


Length

13 minutes

Words per minute

168.54

Word count

2,219

Sentence count

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Harmful content

Misogyny

9

sentences flagged

Toxicity

95

sentences flagged

Hate speech

57

sentences flagged


Summary

Summaries generated with gmurro/bart-large-finetuned-filtered-spotify-podcast-summ .

In this episode I talk about how important it is to become self-reliant and learn to handle your own shit so that you can improve in your career, relationships, and in your personal life. I also talk about why it s so important to learn to deal with your problems on your own terms.

Transcript

Transcript generated with Whisper (turbo).
Misogyny classifications generated with MilaNLProc/bert-base-uncased-ear-misogyny .
Toxicity classifications generated with s-nlp/roberta_toxicity_classifier .
Hate speech classifications generated with facebook/roberta-hate-speech-dynabench-r4-target .
Hosts, guests, and mentioned names generated with spaCy (en_core_web_sm), reconciled against Wikidata.
00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch 0.99
00:00:11.720 cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to 0.98
00:00:16.900 the lies the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
00:00:22.260 guys today i have a short real talk episode for you it's not going to take a whole lot of time 0.98
00:00:27.600 um i posted a fucking meme or a message or whatever you want to call it a little thing 0.98
00:00:35.640 where i type some fucking words on it into my instagram story and it said 1.00
00:00:39.960 a real simple statement handle your own shit and 0.99
00:00:47.700 the response to that post is inspiring me to come here and explain to you 0.97
00:00:56.760 how important that is now i got all kinds of responses right i got a lot of reactions you
00:01:04.200 know like 100 you know i agree oh that's fucking awesome and then i got some people that come at 0.84
00:01:11.440 me with this victim shit all right and let me let me explain something to you guys i want i want you 0.95
00:01:16.280 to understand something if you cannot go through life and you can't handle the regular things that 0.95
00:01:24.140 happen to a human being in a regular day of life okay meaning
00:01:31.420 when you have a personal problem or you have an issue or you have a situation at home or you have a 0.99
00:01:41.420 situation with a friend or your job or a customer or your fucking husband or your wife or whatever it is 0.99
00:01:49.580 if you automatically take those things and dump them on other people dump them on your friends 1.00
00:01:58.760 dump them on your husband dump them on your wife dump them on your co-workers you have zero chance 0.89
00:02:05.580 of winning anything in life ever you have zero chance of owning your own home uh that you're proud of
00:02:12.460 you have zero chance of making an income that you're proud of you have zero chance of having
00:02:17.060 fulfilling relationships nobody wants to be around people like that guys it's the most toxic 0.99
00:02:23.740 fucking trait someone could have taking their business and dumping it on someone else without 0.99
00:02:31.240 any regard for what this person may have going on at any given time and you would be surprised 0.99
00:02:38.460 at the amount of people who have large followings that you guys know that consistently do this to
00:02:46.200 other people all the time which is why they struggle in their careers okay let me let you in on a little 0.99
00:02:53.020 secret there's a lot of motherfuckers that you watch on the line that aren't who the fuck they say 0.99
00:02:57.280 they are a whole bunch of them and I know this because I know all of them all right now I'm not here to 0.99
00:03:02.600 name names or embarrass anyone I want everybody to fucking win I want everybody to do good I 0.85
00:03:08.440 want everybody to improve but the first thing that you have to do for you to get on the track that 0.95
00:03:15.540 you want to do is to become self-reliant that means you have to not only understand your own problems
00:03:23.260 you have to attack your problems and you have to address your problems and solve them mostly on your 0.96
00:03:30.320 own now and I know that flies in the face of the current narrative that we all got to have a fucking 0.98
00:03:36.940 therapist and we all got to have fucking healing and we all got to have somebody to fucking coddle us 0.98
00:03:43.800 but guys and you know what sometimes that's okay I've seen people before I have friends I talk to 0.99
00:03:52.660 Dr. Nicole LaPera happens to be a personal friend of mine that I talk to quite often about things that
00:03:58.600 are going on but I don't expect her to solve a fucking problem for me I don't call her and say hey 0.98
00:04:04.600 Nicole and dump all my shit on her and then fucking run away no I say hey I got this little issue what 1.00
00:04:14.120 do you think and usually I get I get a question back and that question helps me solve the fucking 1.00
00:04:19.620 problem so I'm not saying you can't go get help I'm not saying you can't have people to rely on to 1.00
00:04:28.120 help you with things but what I am saying is that a lot of you motherfuckers have become so fucking 1.00
00:04:34.380 soft and so addicted to the validation of voicing your bullshit problems that you won't even try to 1.00
00:04:43.260 attempt to improve where you are in life okay your identity is now attached to this victimhood that you 0.99
00:04:52.180 see in yourself which is a big problem because if you and your identity is based around your struggle
00:05:01.020 all the time right meaning every story you talk about is your struggle every post you talk about
00:05:08.260 is vulnerable and you're trying to get attention and likes and comments okay everything that you
00:05:15.000 identify your personal self with in regards to what you show other people has to do with you 0.92
00:05:22.040 having a problem okay it's sympathy bullshit let's just call it what it is you like the attention 0.99
00:05:27.700 so you complain all right but here's the problem with that that's bigger than just being fucking 1.00
00:05:33.340 annoying and guys it is super fucking annoying nobody likes it nobody that likes your shit when you post 1.00
00:05:40.060 this shit actually gives a fuck about it they're just hesitatingly double tapping your shit and then 0.99
00:05:48.300 hoping you shut the fuck up that's the truth okay so the problem here for you is that when you attach 1.00
00:05:56.380 yourself to this identity the identity of a victim the identity of not being able to overcome the 0.99
00:06:02.360 identity of constantly telling your struggle story the identity of never overcoming you have created
00:06:08.640 this scenario where you can literally never overcome the problem that you claim to have because you've built
00:06:16.680 your identity around it and this is dangerous this is how people get stuck in a hamster wheel where
00:06:22.940 they're running full speed but nothing ever changes and nothing ever changes because in their mind and 0.96
00:06:29.100 maybe your mind too you have self-identified being a fucking victim that the world stomps on that the 0.99
00:06:36.680 world spits on that the world shits on and guys it's just not fucking true the truth is you have 1.00
00:06:43.360 problems just like everybody else has problems you just don't hear their fucking problems because 0.99
00:06:49.200 they're not bitching about the problems in the same way that you are just because you're vocal about 0.97
00:06:55.160 something doesn't mean it's unique okay so when you're complaining and you're telling your story
00:07:02.480 and you constantly harp on all these negative bad things understand that you are creating more of that
00:07:09.100 for yourself and you are trapping yourself in a cycle that will not be able to be overcome until you
00:07:17.300 start to change how you see yourself you have to change how you see yourself before your situation 0.97
00:07:24.280 changes so instead of seeing yourself as this perpetual struggle bus person who has all these fucking 0.97
00:07:32.820 problems all the time start vision envisioning yourself as someone who's overcome these problems 1.00
00:07:38.660 start talking about how you overcome little things instead of continuously piling on your bullshit 1.00
00:07:46.300 okay lots of people millions of motherfuckers have the same problems that you have and overcome them 1.00
00:07:54.080 with more difficult situations i say this all the time because it's fucking true and you if you would 0.99
00:08:02.700 sit there and take inventory of how bad your problems really are you'd start to understand they're not 0.97
00:08:08.520 that fucking bad okay i challenge you to to remember the last time you bitched about something to one of 0.99
00:08:16.120 your friends remember the last time you unloaded something on instagram or youtube or a fucking wherever 1.00
00:08:22.240 you is you communicate with people when you made it when you complain and you bitch i want you to think 1.00
00:08:27.500 about this and i want you to take inventory and rate that that complaint against literally the hardest 0.99
00:08:35.880 fucking thing you've ever gone through maybe a family member dying maybe you were in a bad car wreck 0.99
00:08:42.880 maybe you were stabbed in the fucking face and almost fucking died maybe there's all kinds of shit that is 1.00
00:08:49.620 way worse that's happened to you than what you're complaining about now and all you're doing by complaining now 1.00
00:08:55.360 is trapping yourself into that fucking situation for the rest of your life now the feel good you know do-gooders 1.00
00:09:03.840 out there that the politically correct motherfuckers are going to fucking say oh you're so mean by saying 1.00
00:09:09.200 no dude i'm telling you the truth i don't want you to remain a victim i don't want you to get trapped 1.00
00:09:14.240 in this situation where you're consistently spinning your wheels and can't figure out how to get the fuck out 0.72
00:09:20.560 of it okay i have no doubts that most of you want to overcome these struggles i have a lot of doubts
00:09:27.280 whether or not most of you will overcome these struggles because society has geared itself now
00:09:33.120 to perpetuate the victim mentality so hard that it's almost impossible to escape it because everywhere
00:09:42.140 we look we have people telling us oh it's okay oh take a break oh you're too hard on yourself oh 1.00
00:09:49.500 you're you know you need to see a therapist oh you need to heal oh you need motherfucker you know 1.00
00:09:55.340 what you need to do you need to get your fucking shit together and do the motherfucking work and 1.00
00:10:00.260 stop complaining and dumping all your bullshit on everybody else your life ain't that motherfucking 1.00
00:10:05.240 hard it ain't any fucking harder than anybody else's life and you just want to pretend it is 1.00
00:10:10.020 so motherfuckers will give you sympathy that's the fucking truth okay and if you can accept that truth 1.00
00:10:16.320 and say yeah i'm being a bitch i need to clean up my shit now you can start making progress now you 1.00
00:10:22.300 could become aware because dude i'm gonna tell you i used to be this i'm not talking about this 1.00
00:10:27.540 as if like i'm pointing the finger and saying hey you're a fucking bitch i used to be this this is how 1.00
00:10:34.040 i was 2015 2016 i was 350 fucking pounds dude i was the biggest victim of my own shit dude i tell my 1.00
00:10:41.720 shit all this shit oh dude you know it's okay to be fat because you know you own this these 0.99
00:10:46.420 multi-million dollar companies and you're doing all i made every fucking excuse and oh people don't 1.00
00:10:50.620 understand what it's like to own all this shit dude you need to cut yourself a break now you know 1.00
00:10:54.480 what i needed to do i needed to quit being a motherfucking pussy and i did and now my life is 1.00
00:11:00.260 completely different i'm 10 times more happy i'm 10 times more confident i'm making 10 times more 0.99
00:11:06.940 money i'm 10 times all the positive that i was then all of it confidence grit fortitude self-esteem 0.98
00:11:15.200 fucking everything motherfuckers i'm 10 times better you know i was talking with one of my 0.99
00:11:20.220 buddies uh david goggins yesterday we were having a great conversation and we were talking about you 1.00
00:11:26.080 know what the real fucking problem in the world is dude the real problem that all of you suffer from 0.99
00:11:31.200 that are listening right now the real problem is you don't have any real fucking problems 0.99
00:11:34.980 that's the problem you don't have any real hard problems most of you listening live in america 0.99
00:11:41.560 most of you are watching this on a fucking two thousand dollar computer or a thousand dollar 1.00
00:11:46.120 iphone or a fucking thousand dollar flat screen tv you're telling me you got real motherfucking 1.00
00:11:52.020 problems bullshit you have all the opportunity in the fucking world and you don't have enough 1.00
00:11:57.440 real problems and you're finding shit to complain about because everybody else is complaining 1.00
00:12:02.000 and anybody who says this shit about oh just be happy with what you got and be happy where you 0.98
00:12:08.220 are yeah there's truth to that because it can soothe you right it can make you feel okay with where you 1.00
00:12:13.240 are but the truth of the matter is we've got to own our own shit and we've got to handle our own shit 0.98
00:12:18.540 so that we can produce what the fuck we're capable of producing because when we start to produce what 0.99
00:12:24.720 we're capable of producing and i'm not just talking about business i'm talking about life we show people 0.95
00:12:29.820 who are close to us what it looks like to overcome we show people who are close to us what it looks
00:12:38.040 like to utilize and play the cards were dealt in an effective manner which matters because most of
00:12:45.640 the world thinks that whatever cards you're dealt are the cards you're stuck with and that's not true 0.99
00:12:50.920 true motherfuckers badass motherfuckers people who fucking change the world they understand it doesn't 1.00
00:12:57.200 matter what fucking cards you're dealt it's how you fucking play them 1.00
00:13:01.200 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till 1.00
00:13:07.100 existed i'm from where you can't trust so welcome 1.00