103. Winners Royale
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Summary
In this episode I talk about how important it is to become self-reliant and learn to handle your own shit so that you can improve in your career, relationships, and in your personal life. I also talk about why it s so important to learn to deal with your problems on your own terms.
Transcript
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did i only weigh 180 but my watch
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cost 250 what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to
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the lies the fitness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today i have a short real talk episode for you it's not going to take a whole lot of time
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um i posted a fucking meme or a message or whatever you want to call it a little thing
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where i type some fucking words on it into my instagram story and it said
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a real simple statement handle your own shit and
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the response to that post is inspiring me to come here and explain to you
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how important that is now i got all kinds of responses right i got a lot of reactions you
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know like 100 you know i agree oh that's fucking awesome and then i got some people that come at
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me with this victim shit all right and let me let me explain something to you guys i want i want you
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to understand something if you cannot go through life and you can't handle the regular things that
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happen to a human being in a regular day of life okay meaning
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when you have a personal problem or you have an issue or you have a situation at home or you have a
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situation with a friend or your job or a customer or your fucking husband or your wife or whatever it is
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if you automatically take those things and dump them on other people dump them on your friends
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dump them on your husband dump them on your wife dump them on your co-workers you have zero chance
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of winning anything in life ever you have zero chance of owning your own home uh that you're proud of
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you have zero chance of making an income that you're proud of you have zero chance of having
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fulfilling relationships nobody wants to be around people like that guys it's the most toxic
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fucking trait someone could have taking their business and dumping it on someone else without
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any regard for what this person may have going on at any given time and you would be surprised
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at the amount of people who have large followings that you guys know that consistently do this to
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other people all the time which is why they struggle in their careers okay let me let you in on a little
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secret there's a lot of motherfuckers that you watch on the line that aren't who the fuck they say
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they are a whole bunch of them and I know this because I know all of them all right now I'm not here to
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name names or embarrass anyone I want everybody to fucking win I want everybody to do good I
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want everybody to improve but the first thing that you have to do for you to get on the track that
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you want to do is to become self-reliant that means you have to not only understand your own problems
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you have to attack your problems and you have to address your problems and solve them mostly on your
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own now and I know that flies in the face of the current narrative that we all got to have a fucking
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therapist and we all got to have fucking healing and we all got to have somebody to fucking coddle us
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but guys and you know what sometimes that's okay I've seen people before I have friends I talk to
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Dr. Nicole LaPera happens to be a personal friend of mine that I talk to quite often about things that
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are going on but I don't expect her to solve a fucking problem for me I don't call her and say hey
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Nicole and dump all my shit on her and then fucking run away no I say hey I got this little issue what
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do you think and usually I get I get a question back and that question helps me solve the fucking
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problem so I'm not saying you can't go get help I'm not saying you can't have people to rely on to
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help you with things but what I am saying is that a lot of you motherfuckers have become so fucking
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soft and so addicted to the validation of voicing your bullshit problems that you won't even try to
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attempt to improve where you are in life okay your identity is now attached to this victimhood that you
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see in yourself which is a big problem because if you and your identity is based around your struggle
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all the time right meaning every story you talk about is your struggle every post you talk about
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is vulnerable and you're trying to get attention and likes and comments okay everything that you
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identify your personal self with in regards to what you show other people has to do with you
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having a problem okay it's sympathy bullshit let's just call it what it is you like the attention
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so you complain all right but here's the problem with that that's bigger than just being fucking
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annoying and guys it is super fucking annoying nobody likes it nobody that likes your shit when you post
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this shit actually gives a fuck about it they're just hesitatingly double tapping your shit and then
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hoping you shut the fuck up that's the truth okay so the problem here for you is that when you attach
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yourself to this identity the identity of a victim the identity of not being able to overcome the
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identity of constantly telling your struggle story the identity of never overcoming you have created
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this scenario where you can literally never overcome the problem that you claim to have because you've built
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your identity around it and this is dangerous this is how people get stuck in a hamster wheel where
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they're running full speed but nothing ever changes and nothing ever changes because in their mind and
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maybe your mind too you have self-identified being a fucking victim that the world stomps on that the
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world spits on that the world shits on and guys it's just not fucking true the truth is you have
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problems just like everybody else has problems you just don't hear their fucking problems because
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they're not bitching about the problems in the same way that you are just because you're vocal about
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something doesn't mean it's unique okay so when you're complaining and you're telling your story
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and you constantly harp on all these negative bad things understand that you are creating more of that
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for yourself and you are trapping yourself in a cycle that will not be able to be overcome until you
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start to change how you see yourself you have to change how you see yourself before your situation
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changes so instead of seeing yourself as this perpetual struggle bus person who has all these fucking
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problems all the time start vision envisioning yourself as someone who's overcome these problems
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start talking about how you overcome little things instead of continuously piling on your bullshit
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okay lots of people millions of motherfuckers have the same problems that you have and overcome them
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with more difficult situations i say this all the time because it's fucking true and you if you would
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sit there and take inventory of how bad your problems really are you'd start to understand they're not
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that fucking bad okay i challenge you to to remember the last time you bitched about something to one of
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your friends remember the last time you unloaded something on instagram or youtube or a fucking wherever
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you is you communicate with people when you made it when you complain and you bitch i want you to think
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about this and i want you to take inventory and rate that that complaint against literally the hardest
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fucking thing you've ever gone through maybe a family member dying maybe you were in a bad car wreck
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maybe you were stabbed in the fucking face and almost fucking died maybe there's all kinds of shit that is
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way worse that's happened to you than what you're complaining about now and all you're doing by complaining now
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is trapping yourself into that fucking situation for the rest of your life now the feel good you know do-gooders
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out there that the politically correct motherfuckers are going to fucking say oh you're so mean by saying
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no dude i'm telling you the truth i don't want you to remain a victim i don't want you to get trapped
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in this situation where you're consistently spinning your wheels and can't figure out how to get the fuck out
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of it okay i have no doubts that most of you want to overcome these struggles i have a lot of doubts
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whether or not most of you will overcome these struggles because society has geared itself now
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to perpetuate the victim mentality so hard that it's almost impossible to escape it because everywhere
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we look we have people telling us oh it's okay oh take a break oh you're too hard on yourself oh
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you're you know you need to see a therapist oh you need to heal oh you need motherfucker you know
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what you need to do you need to get your fucking shit together and do the motherfucking work and
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stop complaining and dumping all your bullshit on everybody else your life ain't that motherfucking
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hard it ain't any fucking harder than anybody else's life and you just want to pretend it is
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so motherfuckers will give you sympathy that's the fucking truth okay and if you can accept that truth
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and say yeah i'm being a bitch i need to clean up my shit now you can start making progress now you
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could become aware because dude i'm gonna tell you i used to be this i'm not talking about this
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as if like i'm pointing the finger and saying hey you're a fucking bitch i used to be this this is how
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i was 2015 2016 i was 350 fucking pounds dude i was the biggest victim of my own shit dude i tell my
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shit all this shit oh dude you know it's okay to be fat because you know you own this these
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multi-million dollar companies and you're doing all i made every fucking excuse and oh people don't
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understand what it's like to own all this shit dude you need to cut yourself a break now you know
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what i needed to do i needed to quit being a motherfucking pussy and i did and now my life is
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completely different i'm 10 times more happy i'm 10 times more confident i'm making 10 times more
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money i'm 10 times all the positive that i was then all of it confidence grit fortitude self-esteem
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fucking everything motherfuckers i'm 10 times better you know i was talking with one of my
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buddies uh david goggins yesterday we were having a great conversation and we were talking about you
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know what the real fucking problem in the world is dude the real problem that all of you suffer from
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that are listening right now the real problem is you don't have any real fucking problems
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that's the problem you don't have any real hard problems most of you listening live in america
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most of you are watching this on a fucking two thousand dollar computer or a thousand dollar
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iphone or a fucking thousand dollar flat screen tv you're telling me you got real motherfucking
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problems bullshit you have all the opportunity in the fucking world and you don't have enough
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real problems and you're finding shit to complain about because everybody else is complaining
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and anybody who says this shit about oh just be happy with what you got and be happy where you
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are yeah there's truth to that because it can soothe you right it can make you feel okay with where you
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are but the truth of the matter is we've got to own our own shit and we've got to handle our own shit
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so that we can produce what the fuck we're capable of producing because when we start to produce what
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we're capable of producing and i'm not just talking about business i'm talking about life we show people
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who are close to us what it looks like to overcome we show people who are close to us what it looks
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like to utilize and play the cards were dealt in an effective manner which matters because most of
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the world thinks that whatever cards you're dealt are the cards you're stuck with and that's not true
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true motherfuckers badass motherfuckers people who fucking change the world they understand it doesn't
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matter what fucking cards you're dealt it's how you fucking play them
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till
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existed i'm from where you can't trust so welcome