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00:01:59.900what's up yeah yeah what's going on doc nothing man yeah how you doing good yeah you're looking0.99
00:02:05.460good yeah yeah thanks man i i know i said this plenty bro you're getting dark yeah like you're
00:02:11.700getting too dark oh too dark some someone say too dark huh yeah man no you looking good though
00:02:20.180dog that sounds a little racist yeah oily up yeah okay yeah no man no it's good guys it's
00:02:28.360it's friday when we're recording this uh monday when you guys are hearing it uh but we got a trip0.92
00:02:33.440to go hit yeah it's gonna be fucking sick yeah we're going down to atlanta for the uh form cars0.74
00:02:39.920and caffeine event uh should be pretty good i'm excited to get down there things gonna be hot down0.99
00:02:44.840there too oh yeah fuck yeah damn dude i'm so over this fucking yeah it's hot dude it's 107 degrees0.99
00:02:53.120global warning yeah is that what this yeah they were right yeah yeah i'm over here fucking0.99
00:03:02.000roasting yeah it's hot man dude it's super hot man but it's not gonna be hotter than the answers0.88
00:03:08.640you're about to drop on these questions oh yeah we got some you like that oh yeah that's a good
00:03:12.580one yeah you like that yeah yeah guys and we got three good ones for you man we got some uh we got
00:03:20.080some videos let's uh let's get started with the clip here we go and you what's good my name is
00:03:25.880christian i'm 24 years old i'm just asking how do you deal with the guilt of taking time off days
00:03:33.960off so i've been working on this brand for like two or three months i'm trying to develop this
00:03:40.140clothing brand even though people said oh clothing is oversaturated and all but it's just like any
00:03:45.700business that's what i believe there's competition everywhere there's nothing wrong with competition
00:03:49.880it's like my fourth business i unfortunately feel like three or four businesses i was 18 but i just
00:03:56.240refused to give up and during that time i developed an obsession with just working and working and
00:04:03.100working and anytime i take a day off or some time off like one day two days it's just mentally
00:04:12.460training i don't like to take this off and i'm just obsessed with my vision and goals and i
00:04:20.480purposely tried to make myself be like mediocre coming home having beer play some ps4 it's just
00:04:29.660not for me i tried to force myself but this obsession will never go away and i know it
00:04:35.940might sound ridiculous like as if it's a mental issue but that's what my struggle is taking time
00:04:43.680off so is there anything that you did that did not affect you or made you like get tired of it
00:04:51.320because i don't want to be tired of it and i don't want that to affect relationships as well so0.97
00:04:56.720hmm uh all right fuck dude first of all so let me get this straight so you're trying to break0.98
00:05:10.280the obsession that you have with being more doing more becoming better creating this amazing company0.99
00:05:18.880so that you feel normal when you're around other people is that that's the gist is that what i'm
00:05:28.600getting here um you are not programmed like everybody else okay when you are someone who
00:05:37.220has a vision in their mind and in their heart of something that they're trying to build and create
00:05:44.760and become. You are not going to think about life the same way that everybody else thinks of it.
00:05:52.040When everybody else goes to work in the morning and they are counting down the minutes to go home
00:05:57.660and sit around and do nothing, you are looking at the clock saying, man, it's already five o'clock.
00:06:03.960It's already eight o'clock. It's already 1230. I got to get to bed. That is the product of the
00:06:10.580mindset that is required to actually build something great. So what I think you're
00:06:18.720actually struggling with is that you've never been around someone who's built anything
00:06:24.700and you are trying to reconcile the difference between everybody you've ever known in your
00:06:32.640entire life and what it is that you are now. And you have to understand that people who
00:06:39.380build things create things become things all the people who have developed all of the things that
00:06:45.300you and i and everybody else uses on a daily basis as a matter of our lives the products0.73
00:06:51.260the businesses the services these people were fucking obsessed these are people who did not0.93
00:06:57.520want to take a day off they did not think about the the thing they did not think about call of0.96
00:07:04.320duty or or or drinking beer or hanging out with their friends they only thought about that thing
00:07:10.500regardless of everything else so the the mindset that you have here dude is actually the mindset
00:07:20.080that's required to do something like build a clothing line in a market where there are tons
00:07:27.000of clothing lines and by the way people are always going to need clothes so you know people can say1.00
00:07:32.220oh well you know it's oversaturated yeah it is it's saturated with a bunch of mediocre shit0.99
00:07:36.940don't be mediocre and you'll stand out but um yeah dude you know you got to realize that you0.99
00:07:44.160are built for something that everybody else isn't built for and the quicker that you realize that
00:07:48.540the less mental anguish that you're going to deal with along the journey of doing this thing so uh
00:07:55.760you know, there's no tips and tricks and any of these things I could tell you other than you just
00:08:02.620have to realize that being obsessed with a vision, especially in the early days, like you are,
00:08:09.920is a requirement and it's a blessing that you are that way. And it's probably the thing that's
00:08:15.100going to guarantee that this doesn't become your fifth or sixth failed business. Okay. The fact
00:08:21.360that you've already failed four different businesses and you're continuing to move
00:08:25.620that would cause most people to quit so like dude you have all the things that you need
00:08:31.660you have all the the mentalities correct um you need to let go of the idea that you're going to
00:08:38.280live like everybody else and still build this amazing thing because it's not going to happen
00:08:42.380dude you know on this topic of deception uh obsession right and i i was over here trying
00:08:48.700to remember who we were talking to dude but you said something about you know that you you you0.98
00:08:54.160hate busy people yeah who always say they're fucking you know i'm saying yeah i think it's0.89
00:08:58.540important too because like people are going to confuse obsession with you know just staying busy0.98
00:09:03.220but you don't look at busy as busy like you're either busy or you're productive they're two
00:09:08.460different things yeah right can we can we talk a little bit about that well yeah man i mean a lot
00:09:12.880of people you know they think that there's some sort of an award for being busy yeah there's no
00:09:20.540award for being busy there's no medal that you get you don't get paid for being how how busy you are
00:09:26.920you get paid for what you fucking produce and um so a lot of people confuse the two they think that0.91
00:09:33.840you know there's some sort of badge of honor for talking about how busy they are when in reality0.99
00:09:38.960No one cares. No one cares how busy you are, bro. In fact, if you're that busy, it means you're ineffective. So, you know, and then we get into the idea of, you know, using the technology that we built an operator standard, you know, where you define the win for the day, you execute to the point where that win is accomplished.
00:09:58.840and then you have the rest of the day to do whatever you want um you know obsessed people
00:10:06.060are going to still do the thing past those five wins that's what they're going to do um but you
00:10:13.040know this idea that you have to like force yourself into some sort of routine that looks like what
00:10:21.400everybody else is doing just because everybody else is doing it it's just not that's not how
00:10:26.540you should be looking at it dude you know you're different than them you're on a different path
00:10:30.320than them i feel like even his language just on like taking the you know these days off these
00:10:34.560break days like that's not that's not a thing when you're trying to build something well i mean dude
00:10:40.540you might take a day off you might take two days off but like yeah you're gonna probably feel guilty
00:10:45.760for it you know i'm saying you're gonna probably want to get back into it and you know you got
00:10:49.680shit you got to do yeah but isn't that doesn't that serve a purpose then like doesn't it serve0.98
00:10:53.680a purpose to take a day or two off so that you're hungry as fuck to come back that's the point of0.99
00:10:59.960the time off yeah so like you know dude i just think this is a young man struggling with something0.85
00:11:06.840that he's not had very much exposure to but i can tell you dude all the high achievers all the
00:11:11.860builders all the creators they don't really try to uh fit themselves into the acceptable behavior
00:11:19.200models of everybody else they understand that everybody else is everybody else and they
00:11:23.540understand that they are the way they are and they the sooner they accept that that's the truth the
00:11:28.820less agony and pain and frustration they face along the way because when you're on the journey
00:11:33.520of building something great you're going to have all these people they're going to say bro you're
00:11:38.080working too hard you know you just got to take some time off you got to do this you got to do
00:11:41.560that but yet none of those people have done anything they haven't done anything so you got
00:11:46.860to be careful who you're trying to fit in with right you know what i mean right yeah you've0.96
00:11:50.720taken plenty of time off your life still looks like shit yeah is that i mean that's what most0.97
00:11:55.200people do bro and you know they'll justify they'll justify that position um because that's the0.98
00:12:01.740position that they've taken as some sort of you know moral high ground position or uh whatever
00:12:07.740not realizing that you know there's certain people that are built to work on puzzles bro
00:12:15.000they're built to work on things they're built to build and create and become and without those
00:12:19.700things they're miserable and not everybody can relate to that in fact very few people can relate
00:12:24.220to that which is why it's ostracized in terms of you know oh you're working too much right exactly0.98
00:12:30.460so it's like you're you're a you're it's like it's like you're a fucking unicorn and you go1.00
00:12:36.360around the horses and all the horses are like bro just take the fucking horn off your head1.00
00:12:39.680right you know how about shoving up i fucking can't that's right i can't take it off my head1.00
00:12:45.060what do you want me to do hey you know what are you you're fucking out here flying around1.00
00:12:49.160your fucking cute wings and you think you're fucking somebody bro i can't help it i was built1.00
00:12:53.360this way yeah you see what i'm saying that's what it's like dude yeah and so you're trying1.00
00:12:58.140to explain to yourself yourself to a bunch of people that are never going to fucking understand0.63
00:13:03.320it so you can't worry about that you know i love it dude i love it man guys andy question number two0.97
00:13:10.400andy i'm 33 and i've spent my years grinding across multiple trades every time i apply for
00:13:20.020an inside management position i get hit with the same exact line you're too valuable on the shop
00:13:26.560floor to move into the office it just happened again i applied for the manager position at the
00:13:32.040shop where I'm currently a foreman. My leadership and trade knowledge are proven. Management
00:13:36.940explicitly tells me both are great. Yet once again, I was passed over simply because they do
00:13:42.040not want to lose my output on the floor. My question, how do I break out of being too good
00:13:47.820at the execution to actually earn the management role? And how do I maintain my drive and self-worth
00:13:53.860when my own capability is being used as the ceiling holding me back?
00:13:58.140uh you you're not being held back by your own capabilities you you don't understand what it0.99
00:14:04.380means to solve a fucking problem okay if you've been told three or four times that the problem is0.99
00:14:10.080that if we lose you off the floor we're going to lose productivity and you've been told that three0.99
00:14:15.160or four times then what the fuck is the problem what what is the ownership telling you the problem0.98
00:14:20.120is what are they telling them there's not enough of you there's not enough of you yeah so what's0.99
00:14:25.140the problem that needs to be solved oh i've got to fucking replicate myself and i have to solve0.97
00:14:31.380this problem before i go ask for the new position so you would think after four fucking times that0.97
00:14:37.600this would occur to you okay but i'll point it out for you here's the problem you're not you're0.90
00:14:43.760not hearing the ownership tell you what you need to do here's what you need to do you need to go0.98
00:14:48.280out in the fucking shop you need to take a little protege you need to make him the fucking guy that0.98
00:14:53.300you teach everything to and you need you need to work that guy into the position of running the0.99
00:14:59.700fucking shop floor and then after you've solved that problem and you've solved all the little0.98
00:15:04.920cancers and all the little butt hurts and the politics and the bitching and the crying about0.99
00:15:11.860this guy now fucking being in charge now you go to the ownership and you say hey i solved that1.00
00:15:17.380problem for you. This guy here can do it. I'm ready for this. Okay. That's what's holding you0.99
00:15:25.100back. It's not your capabilities. It's not that you're doing great on the floor and you're so
00:15:29.900good on the floor, bro. You're not leading. Okay. Cause part of leadership is developing the talent
00:15:37.140behind you. Okay. So if you are being held in a position because your output is, you know,
00:15:44.640you're you're you're you're the leader foreman of the fucking shop and your output is being pointed0.97
00:15:51.340out to you as the the thing that's holding you back then it should occur to you that you have0.99
00:15:57.660to figure out how to create output without you having to do it that that's part of leadership
00:16:03.400is replicating your skill set across the team if you can't replicate your skill set across the team0.85
00:16:11.160you're not a fucking leader you're managers different thing okay you are applying what do0.98
00:16:16.860you say for a leadership role yeah no you like upper management okay management so if you so0.99
00:16:22.120if you worked for me and you weren't able to fucking replicate yourself in the back and i0.95
00:16:27.480had to depend on you there's no fucking chance i'm giving you the other job yeah not because you0.97
00:16:32.340can't uh we can't get along without you it's because you haven't proven yourself to have one0.96
00:16:38.020of the main skills that an upper leader needs to have which is replicating skill set so you know0.99
00:16:45.400the problem is pretty clear dude if you want the job you got to figure out a way to fucking
00:16:49.020replicate yourself on the shop floor so that the shop floor runs and you've solved the problem0.87
00:16:53.480that the ownership had that's the objection that's the objection you're not hearing the
00:16:57.420objection properly i imagine that happens a lot like you know the the it does happen a lot but
00:17:03.080here's what happens with here's what usually happens when it happens it does happen a lot
00:17:08.020but what usually happens is people don't what i just said people do not hear it don't hear it
00:17:13.420and then they they continue to believe the story they've told themselves oh they're just cat me0.99
00:17:18.220here or they just don't want me to succeed or they don't this is all lip service shit no you0.99
00:17:24.500don't understand the fundamental realities of operating a fucking team okay i cannot pull this0.99
00:17:30.680guy out of the fucking program unless he's able that part of the program is able to sustain itself0.99
00:17:36.540if i could and here's the other problem a lot of people build in their own restraints okay0.99
00:17:45.300because they take their little role as the shop foreman and they say nothing's gonna happen
00:17:51.880without me i ever i need to sign off on everything i'm the man i'm in charge i'm the boss and they0.97
00:18:00.660ride that into the dirt and none of their fucking people ever develop and then they're confused as0.98
00:18:05.620to why the fuck they can't go anywhere your job as a leader is to develop and empower your team1.00
00:18:11.120to take your motherfucking job okay and then when they can do it guess what happens to you0.99
00:18:16.360you become more valuable not less so there's a lot of scarcity abundancy mindset that happens0.99
00:18:22.540here with people too because people think that once they get a powerful title you know shop
00:18:28.460foreman that they have to fucking you know that's their domain and then they don't develop people0.92
00:18:35.340they they sink themselves into it so hard they can't be replaced you're holding you back yes0.99
00:18:41.040you're you're fucking ego so that happens a lot too but like dude you know at the end of the day0.99
00:18:48.120it's real simple your fucking superiors are telling you that they can't pull you out because1.00
00:18:55.560you don't have someone that can do your fucking job and if you had half a fucking brain of1.00
00:18:59.820intelligence you would have went back there the first fucking time and started crafting that out1.00
00:19:04.740it shouldn't take me pointing that out to you which tells me that you're probably one of these0.96
00:19:09.780dudes who is the guy i just described you're probably that guy who's in the back who's i'm0.98
00:19:16.280the man nobody could do it as good as me and now you've realized that it's created the fucking jail0.97
00:19:21.640for you so one protege or she's i mean fuck how many how many bro usually it doesn't it look it0.99
00:19:29.680depends yeah if you're starting from scratch everybody has the opportunity usually you've0.92
00:19:36.900got one or two people that are far more developed than the rest of the team and your chances are
00:19:42.060higher to move faster with those people and bringing them in tight and helping them learn
00:19:47.680quickly yeah um it just depends on where you're at yeah dude i love it man yeah i mean look dude0.92
00:19:53.360this is that's a fucking obvious that's obvious yeah yeah you're not listening that's what i'm0.58
00:19:59.100saying like they're telling they are telling you exactly what the problem is yes you're just not1.00
00:20:02.940listening to it fuck man well i mean dude they could be shitty leaders you know they could be1.00
00:20:07.820saying here's what a good leader in that position would say hey bob fuck man you're now fucking1.00
00:20:15.100listening to what i'm saying right right how the fuck am i supposed to pull you out if i don't have0.99
00:20:20.620anybody that could fucking run that who you're gonna be managing okay and then he's gonna say0.95
00:20:25.280this he's gonna say well i don't know and i'm gonna say because what do you think i should do0.98
00:20:30.280well fuck i don't know i guess like you know uh we could hire no we're not hiring anybody because0.98
00:20:36.860then we got to hire double payroll for the same fucking job what do you think should happen well1.00
00:20:42.440you know maybe one of these younger kids exactly yeah that's how the fuck it works1.00
00:20:47.420so like dude it's this is basic shit i can't believe we're even asking this shit to be0.99
00:20:52.500completely fucking honest yeah you know another piece on this too man that's important it's like0.99
00:20:56.720you don't you don't you're not going to get the leadership title first no you lead first and then0.98
00:21:02.100you get the time you'll get the fucking title yeah that's a whole nother conversation yeah1.00
00:21:05.760yeah fuck me i love it man let's uh dude i mean look man1.00
00:21:09.380a lot of it just comes down to that scarcity mindset you know you these guys don't want0.99
00:21:17.100anybody else to be good because they're afraid it makes them look bad when in reality if you're0.98
00:21:22.380a leader and you've got seven guys on your team that are all great the fucking ownership if they're1.00
00:21:26.860not stupid as fuck says damn dude bob understands how to develop people let's get him in a position1.00
00:21:33.160where you can develop a lot more people you get it yeah dude how'd you get so fucking good oh bob1.00
00:21:38.740taught me everything exactly yeah yeah dude i love it man we got another uh video submission here0.52
00:21:44.200check this out hey what's going on andy so uh yeah um i'm a business owner i run my own online
00:21:52.520house companies where basically we help people get out of back pain and so my question is you know
00:21:59.380there's sometimes i feel like i should be further ahead right now because um i had a quite a few
00:22:05.680um um i wouldn't say failed partnership but you know didn't really work out so we're all the way
00:22:12.500to multiple six figures a month and now i have to part away with them because they're not really
00:22:18.160aligned with my visions and now i'm back on to do this myself and you know the progress has been
00:22:23.980pretty pretty slow and all of my friends they're progressing super super fast and just the feeling
00:22:30.320of falling behind behind and the feeling of you know um i should be further ahead right now so
00:22:36.760how do you deal with that this i guess type of state or type of emotions because you know i've
00:22:43.320been having a really hard time dealing with this but i know you know input decide output but just
00:22:49.260still um you know having a really hard time dealing with this emotions falling behind and
00:22:54.620you know in my mind i should i should be way far ahead right now but it feels like um kind of0.95
00:23:03.020feel like that cake in the ass a little bit so yeah appreciate you angie i mean dude that's that's0.90
00:23:10.740the game you know uh anybody with ambitions and drive and hunger and and the will to win0.98
00:23:18.320you're always going to feel behind you always feel like you're not doing enough you always feel like
00:23:23.800things aren't going the way that you want even when they are you're always looking at things
00:23:28.040and you're saying well i could have done this better i could have done that better
00:23:30.480that's the mentality of someone who has the ability to win you know a lot of these indicators
00:23:38.160that a lot of you guys bring up you bring them up as if they are indicators as to like a bad thing
00:23:44.960yeah okay like like all these people that you see win what do you think that they don't have doubt
00:23:52.820they have doubt okay doubt is a good thing you know why because it means that you're actually
00:23:58.980aware and you're questioning and you're saying well what if i do this and this doesn't work if
00:24:02.880i do that and this works and what about this and this and this most people aren't even that aware
00:24:06.460bro they're not even aware enough to doubt themselves okay if you're in a position where0.58
00:24:10.740it's really fucking hard all right what does that tell you does that tell you that it's bad or does0.62
00:24:16.040that tell you that you're pushing against the thing that it is you're trying to accomplish0.86
00:24:20.500and you're feeling some resistance that's normal that's an indicator of positive action okay these
00:24:28.820things that you guys see as symptoms that are seen to be as a negative or often and most of the time0.98
00:24:36.380there's signals that say you're doing the right fucking things. Okay. The fact that you feel0.99
00:24:42.300behind is a good thing. It says, dude, this guy's getting ambition. He's got drive. He's got,
00:24:46.820he's got these dreams that he wants to achieve. That's a good thing. Okay.
00:24:52.820Are you actually behind? I don't fucking know. I don't know. I don't think so because there's0.98
00:24:59.320guys in history that became billionaires after the age of 60. What are you? You're in your twenties.
00:25:04.800okay if that like fuck dude i don't know you're he's asian you're asian i can't tell how old you1.00
00:25:10.040are okay you could be a thousand i don't fucking know if you're a thousand you're behind all right1.00
00:25:15.960i'll just say that but you look pretty fucking young to me um and to have a to struggle is0.79
00:25:24.180normal to struggle with those feelings is normal dude we all want it to be fast we all want it to0.93
00:25:29.000be quick. We all want it to be easier than it actually is, but it just isn't. It just isn't.
00:25:35.480Okay. And we live in a time and age where the technology is so good that you guys are available.
00:25:42.820You guys are, you guys have the, the, the ability to move so much fucking faster than the generations
00:25:49.780that came before you. And you don't know that. And it's not your fault, but like, dude, to me,0.81
00:25:55.200when i see people kind of like get discouraged i'm just like god dude you don't know how good
00:25:59.880you have it you know what i mean like so so dude yeah man this is a normal part of being an
00:26:05.480entrepreneur uh you know i'll say this to the you know you had to part ways with this person and
00:26:12.280this and that i don't know the intricacy to that but here's what i will tell you and i see this
00:26:18.540a lot in people that are younger okay you will throw things in the trash
00:26:28.780that are really good for reasons that are not really good you know you'll get an argument with
00:26:36.180a business partner you'll you'll something will happen you don't realize or remember how hard it
00:26:42.680was to get to a couple hundred thousand dollars a month and then you come in one day and someone
00:26:48.740forgot to bring you a sandwich and all of a sudden they don't value you and all of a sudden0.98
00:26:53.140the partnership's over fuck you right yeah and when you're young people don't think long term0.99
00:27:00.700they don't think it's because they don't have the perspective of being alive that long they can't1.00
00:27:07.920think long term but like you guys got to be careful man like when you got good shit going0.99
00:27:13.480you know it's not easy to just throw the shit away and start to fuck over like you have to like0.99
00:27:19.120have a very solid you know objective internal conversation of like hey okay well how hard0.99
00:27:29.140was this to get here and how big of a deal is this and can we work through it and what we're
00:27:35.620And part of working through those things actually develops the skill set of becoming a much bigger operator, okay?
00:27:46.320Because, dude, you know how many times there's been, you know, arguments between me and Chris or me and my brother1.00
00:27:53.440where we've been like, dude, fuck you.1.00