130. 3 Basic Principles Of Feeling Alive
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Summary
What makes you feel alive? What does it take to be happy? What is it really takes to live a fulfilling life? Why is it important to have a purpose? And what does it really take to live in a place where you are truly happy and fulfilled?
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What is up guys, it's Danny Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality. Guys, today we got Thursday, Thursday thunder. I don't know what we're going to
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call it. It doesn't really matter. It's going to go in your ear. It's going to make you feel
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a certain way. And that's how we're going to do it today. I didn't have anything to really
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talk to you about that was on my mind. So what I did was, and if you didn't see it, I put
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up a little question bubble in my Instagram story and said, Hey, the first person to ask
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me a meaningful question or a good question, I'm going to answer it and make a podcast
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about it. And somebody did. And it was a really good question. The question was, what makes
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you feel alive? And I like that question because the thing that makes me feel alive is going
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to be the thing that makes you feel alive as well. And so I'm going to step-by-step break
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down those things here in just a second. But I did get one semi-negative question that I
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do want to address up front. And somebody typed in there, why do you demean people on
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your show? And I feel like that person was actually asking the question. They weren't
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trying to be rude. So I would like to address it. For those of you that follow me, you understand
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I'm not everybody's cup of tea and I'm cool with that. There's certain kinds of people that
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respond certain ways. There's people who respond to things that, you know, make them feel good
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in the moment. I personally have never responded to those things. I personally don't think those
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things actually change people. And I think in my opinion, and that I have a pretty good
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one because I live in this space that most people that work for that positive or think they
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respond to that positivity aren't actually responding to it. They feel like they like it because it
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makes them feel good for a few minutes or a few seconds if they're scrolling, right? They read
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something nice and say, oh yeah, that's nice. And they click the button and they feel good.
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And I understand that that's what you think is motivation. And that's what you think personal
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development is. But that's not what personal development is. Personal development is hearing
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the truth, acknowledging your lack of whatever it is that you're missing on, fixing that and becoming
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better in the real world. It's not really about your feelings. So when you hear me, and I very rarely
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explain this because if you listen to me enough, you'll grasp it. But for those of you that are new,
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if you hear me and you think, damn, dude, that's some fucked up shit that he's saying, understand that
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what I'm doing is I'm telling you what needs to be heard so that you take action. And the reason
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that I share these things with you is because this is the dialogue that has been in my head
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that has helped push me to accomplish the things that I've accomplished. And I've accomplished a
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fucking lot. All right. And I, I have a long way to go. And in the big picture of things, I haven't
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done shit, but for the time I have spent here, I've done some things. And so what I'm doing is I'm
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trying to let you in on what it really takes to change. You may not like hearing it upfront. You
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may not like the tone. You may think it's too aggressive, but if you break down the truth,
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I think you'll always find that it connects and it drives action. And that's who I'm concerned about
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reaching. I am not concerned about making you feel good. I am concerned about teaching you how to make
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you feel good. And there's a massive difference. Now with the show and the question that I was asked,
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what makes you feel alive? I have three key things that I talk about that create happiness
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and fulfillment. All right. And I'm going to talk to you about these things very quickly. And I'm going
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to let you in on how I relate them to my life. Okay. So the first thing is purpose. If you don't have a
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purpose that's greater than yourself, you will never feel fulfilled. You can never be happy and
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you can never feel quote unquote alive. All right. Is a very empty existence to live exclusively for
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yourself. And let me explain how I learned this lesson. I learned this lesson after about 15 years
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in business. Okay. I was sitting on my couch. I was making a fuck ton of money. I couldn't go to work
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because I had pneumonia and I was super sick. And I was watching movies and sitting on the TV and I'm
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checking my bank app and my money's just going up and up and up. And I'm sitting there not doing
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shit. And at first it was cool. It's like, okay, cool, man. I'm getting paid to chill. I like that.
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That's success. But after the three weeks that I had to stay home, after about 10 days of this shit,
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I'm like, fuck, this really sucks. And it didn't matter how much money I saw coming through.
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I felt like shit. And a realization came to me and the realization was, and it clicked for me all at
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once. It was like, damn, well, this is why rich people kill themselves. And I figured out real quick
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that the money wasn't anything to do with the purpose. And I realigned my purpose 100% onto my own
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staff and onto my own customers and onto everybody that I had responsibility to look out for. And when
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I flipped my purpose from making sure that my life was taken care of to making sure that their lives
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were better and taken care of. Okay. And for my employees, this means careers. It means skill
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development. It means personally improving their physical health or mental health, all of these
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things. For my customers, it's the same thing. We do these in all different ways. All right. But
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having that purpose that was bigger than myself made me feel like I had a reason or a mission to
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be here. And you cannot feel alive or fulfill without a purpose. All right. A lot of you are making the
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freedom of this country your purpose right now. That's an amazing thing. And you feel more excited
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and more alive than you felt in a long time. And you might be a little bit scared and a little bit
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nervous, but you know that what you're doing is important. So it makes you feel alive. All right.
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So purpose is the first step on that. The second step to me feeling alive was discipline. All right.
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When I discovered how important discipline was to happiness was basically when I put all the little
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moving pieces together over 20 years. And that program is called 75 hard. You guys might've heard
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of it, but what it is, is I figured out that if I was in total control of my environment and for me,
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and I know it's different for everybody, but for me, my environment, uh, typically that I didn't control
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had to do with my eating and my training and my alcohol. Okay. If you stuck a beer in my face,
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I was drinking it. If you stuck a pizza in my face, I was eating it and I didn't have control.
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I didn't have enough control to go to a restaurant and look at a menu and order things that were
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healthy for me. And, and dude, and I know for a lot of you listening right now, you still don't
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have that control. Like when you start looking at the menu, you look at like, you know, you,
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you have the intention to order something that you're supposed to eat and you know, that's good for you,
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but you start seeing, you know, the appetizers or the nachos or the, the things that sound great to
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you. And you start telling yourself a story. You start telling yourself, well, fuck it, man.
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You know, I'll get, I'll work extra hard tomorrow to get this off, even though, you know, you shouldn't
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do it. Or you start telling yourself something like, uh, well, you know, I'm here with my family
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and I don't get to spend very much time with my family. So I'm going to enjoy that. Motherfucker,
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what does you putting shit in your mouth have to do with enjoying time with your family?
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All right, let's be real. Okay. So we start telling ourselves all of these stories and all
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of these stories lead to us compromising on our discipline, which erodes our confidence. It
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erodes our belief in ourself. It erodes our power in this universe. All right. So once I figured out
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that I needed to control the things that I was actually in control of and look at that as a way of
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improving my discipline stock. So what I'm explaining here is every time I say no to that
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fucking beer, I'm like, yeah, dude, you didn't win beer. I fucking won. And as stupid as that
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sounds, it's like, I'm talking shit to that beer. Like, fuck you beer. Right? Like that's how I look
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at it. And once I figured that out and I knew that every time I started overcoming those challenges,
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I was building my discipline stock, just like a fucking John Madden football game where your speed
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goes from 90 to 91 to 97, I'm pumping my stock up and discipline. And once I figured out how to do
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that and what it actually meant to my life, I started to become more alive. All right. So
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discipline is the second part of feeling alive. And the third part of feeling alive, which is the most
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important part for any of us, because it's so easy to lose sight of. The third part is gratitude.
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We had our Monday meeting here at First Form today. We had a couple of gentlemen from our charity that
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we support here, Brace for Impact, who are from Haiti. These two men were actually, they're Haitians.
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They grew up in Haiti. One of them grew up in Haiti till he was 14 years old. Then he moved to the
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United States. And these are friends of mine, by the way. Moved to the United States, learned English,
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got a soccer scholarship, has built a career here in the United States, working for Brace for Impact,
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one of our favorite charities here at First Form, being an administrator for his community back in
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Haiti, doing things to create more opportunities for young men and young women that are coming from
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there like he got to experience. And the other gentleman that was here, who is also from Haiti,
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he lives in Haiti. He actually is a doctor and the administrator of the hospital that this other
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gentleman's charity, Brace for Impact, built. And they were here talking about the simple things
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to our company that they had to do to survive. Both of these men had to be given up by their families
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in an orphanage in Haiti so that they could actually eat and get water. Their family couldn't provide it
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for them. So they had to give them up to even eat or have water to survive. All right. These men have
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now grown up with literally zero opportunity in front of them to become contributors because they created
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the opportunities themselves as they went to become contributors to their own cause and to help other
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men and women like him or other children become men and women like they have. Okay. And you want to
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talk about gratitude? All right. My whole company, we're all sitting here with fucking $2,000 laptops
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and $1,000 fucking iPhones. And we get to come to this amazing facility and train and talk to people
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and help people. And we get to go out to eat at places and we all have a place to sleep and we all have
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a place to live. And we're sitting here listening to these men talk about the things they had to go
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through to even survive. You want to talk about gratitude? We as America all need to be reminded of
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gratitude. And it happens to be one of the three key elements that will make you feel alive as well.
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So when you think about what you're grateful for and you think about what you have and you
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automatically go to all this shit that you think you don't have, you are fucking lying to yourself.
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If you are listening to the show, you are lying to yourself. You have tons of good things in your
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life. You have tons of opportunity. And if you don't have opportunity, you at least have the ability
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to cultivate the discipline and the drive and the purpose to create that opportunity like those two
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men did. So those are the things that make me feel alive and they will make you feel alive as well.
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Purpose, discipline, and gratitude. If you incorporate these three things into your life every single day
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on a micro level, and I'm talking about a discipline of these things daily, you will feel like a completely
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different person. You will feel alive. Not just sometimes, not just when you have adrenaline,
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but literally every fucking day. A lot of people ask me where my passion comes from. How do you,
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why are you so passionate? I'm passionate because I feel alive every fucking day. And how I feel alive
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is the same way you're going to feel alive. Practice these three things on a micro level every single day.
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Um, so guys, that's it. I really thought that was cool. How we got the idea for the show from the
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Q and a bubble. I might do that. Keep an eye out on my story for that because I get bombarded with
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questions right away. So I'm not going to leave it up all the way, but, uh, in six minutes, I had like
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10, 10, 20 pages of, of screenshots of awesome questions. Uh, and I'd like to take the opportunity
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also guys to thank you guys for supporting the show. You know, I've, I really don't gain a whole lot by
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talking about all these things going on in society. Uh, but I feel they're important and I feel that
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the timing is important. And if I didn't, I wouldn't talk about them. All I'd ever talk about
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is fucking making money and success like I used to. But the truth is guys, without the freedom of
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our country, it's much harder to achieve those things. And we're going to have to fight much
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longer, much harder to create those opportunities. Just like these men did that I described in the show
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here in America, we don't have to worry about those things just yet, but we are headed in a
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direction to where we will. And I don't want to go there. So that's why I asked you guys to speak
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up. That's why I asked you guys to support what that message is. And, uh, I really, really, really
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appreciate the enthusiasm that you guys show for that area that we cover in the show. So, uh, thank you
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guys. I'd like to remind you, if you got something from the show, if it made you think, if it, if it
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improved your skillset, if it made you laugh, if it gave you a new perspective, uh, give us a share,
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you know, bring us up in the next conversation you have about self-improvement or what's going on in the
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world. So I love you guys. I appreciate you guys. And I'll talk to you next time.