On this episode of The Realist, we have QNAF on the show and we talk about how he is crushing it in the fitness and business world. We also talk about his weight loss journey and how he has been able to make it to where he is now.
00:00:00.000What's up guys, it's Andy Fursella and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:25.400Guys, today we have QNAF, okay? We're going to get down to that real quick before I get into it. I'd like to remind you of the fee. The fee is very simple. If we make you think, if we taught you something, if we make you laugh, if we help you figure something out, we give you a new perspective. If you thought the content was valuable, we ask that you share it, okay?
00:00:55.400Total content. I could do that and we could make a whole bunch of money, but it's annoying and I don't like it and I don't like when people do it to me, so I don't do it to you.
00:01:03.840And so what I ask in return is that you guys help us grow the show and that's going to become more and more important because social media is becoming more and more restrictive.
00:01:13.700So I'm really going to rely on you guys to spread this show around. We're going to be going to a daily show soon, which is great news, but I need you guys to spread that around, right?
00:01:25.940A lot of times people think that everybody else is doing it and that means not that many people end up doing it. It's always the same few people that share this shit every time and you know who you are and I appreciate you guys.
00:01:35.980But if you could help us out with that, it would be a much appreciated gesture. So DJ, why lightning? Why lightning? What's happening, bro?
00:01:46.140Hey man, day 28. Yeah, you're killing it, dude. Keep it moving, man. You are fucking killing it, bro. I'm doing something. Yeah, it's noticeable. Like, I mean, everybody in the office is talking about it too.
00:01:56.860I know shit. Yeah. So you're getting, you're getting, uh, you're pulling down that SIS. Yeah, I'm trying, bro. What's your weight at right now? I'm at 291 today.
00:02:05.420Okay. That's, and you were what? Almost 360 when we met? 350? 350. Yeah. So, I mean, that's fucking awesome, man.
00:02:11.540But I'm honestly, I'm not even worried about the scale right now. I'm just fucking working and just keeping it moving.
00:02:15.480Yeah, bro. That's it, dude. Just stay focused. Keep moving. Keep moving forward. And, uh, you know, it's one day at a time.
00:02:22.820It is, man. Cause we get so caught up on these daily changes, right? Like expecting them. Yeah. I'm not looking for the daily. I'm looking for the long-term shit.
00:02:28.860Yeah. See me after 75 days. We'll talk. Yeah, bro. And the cool thing is, is whenever you've bought in that,
00:02:35.060you're going to do something for X amount of time, no matter what, it makes it that much easier to
00:02:39.580follow. You know, you're not sitting there watching the pot, uh, you know, waiting for the water to
00:02:43.960boil. You know what I'm saying? You know, like, Hey, all right, I'm just going to do today. Then I'm
00:02:48.540going to, you know, we'll worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. And that's, that's how success is. You
00:02:52.900know, a lot of people, um, they do 75 hard and they get a lot out of it, but they, sometimes they miss
00:02:58.280the point. Like the whole point is guys, this is how you fucking build financial fortunes. This is
00:03:03.420how you build, uh, anything of extreme value in life. It's always done one day at a time. So, um,
00:03:11.420you know, that's how I live, dude. You know what I'm saying? I don't ever worry about tomorrow. I
00:03:15.520worry about today. That's it. Yeah. So it's cool to see you, uh, getting after it, man. You know,
00:03:20.140I just started myself. Yeah. I'm on a three day three now. And you know, the reason I started on
00:03:26.340over is because dude, like this shit is so crazy in the world, man. Like it's got me so distracted
00:03:33.160almost every day that I'm not like executing the way that I know I should be. And I'm just being
00:03:39.360honest, you know, nobody's immune to that. Right. Like nobody's immune to chaos or distractions or,
00:03:44.120uh, you know, bullshit, you know? And so I just wanted to keep my word to myself and everybody
00:03:52.340else and make sure that I'm getting as much out of the time that, that this crazy shit's going on,
00:03:57.440uh, that I can't possibly get it. And, and I could tell after only two full days that my mindset's
00:04:03.060already back in focus where it needs to be. So it's, um, it's exciting. It's awesome, man.
00:04:08.400Yeah. I mean, I'm, I'm just keeping it moving, man. But we got Q and AF guys. So we got three
00:04:13.580questions for you. Um, you guys know how this works as always email your questions in to ask
00:04:18.020Andy at Andy for seller.com. And, uh, with that being said, question one, yeah, let's go. How do
00:04:23.980you silence the naysayers? Right? So family, friends, anyone for that matter, right? They,
00:04:28.740they feed you this bullshit and they make you second guess your goals and aspirations. How do
00:04:32.080you silence those people? I was taking a drink in my pre-workout. Yeah. All right. Uh, my first
00:04:38.820form pre-workout mega watt and L carnitine buy it now. Shameless plug. Yeah.
00:04:43.580All right. So, uh, it actually was actually is what I'm drinking. It's just pretty good.
00:04:48.780Yeah. Uh, you know, the cool thing about those, any of those flavors, you can mix and match
00:04:53.280and they taste good together. It's fucking weird. I'll just dry scoop mine. Yeah. No dude,
00:04:57.660got to mix the carnitine and, and the mega watt together. Any flavors, they all go together.
00:05:02.500It's fucking crazy. Anyway, how you like that plug bitches? So anyway, how do you silence
00:05:11.960the naysayers? I give you one word by winning that's two words. That's two words. Yeah. All right.
00:05:17.780By winning. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? Like, dude, so many people feel that you, these people
00:05:23.800owe you their belief. You haven't done anything yet. Like we just have to have a realistic view
00:05:29.520of our own self. If you're the person who's told somebody that you're going to lose weight for the
00:05:36.760last 15 years and you never lost it, they have plenty of evidence to never fuck to not believe
00:05:42.000you this time. Right. You know, if you've been talking about building a business for the last
00:05:45.98010 years and you haven't done anything, then you have given people plenty of evidence to not believe
00:05:52.460you. So people don't believe in you until after you've done shit. Right. Like if I walk in the
00:05:58.280office right now and I say, Hey, I'm going to the fucking moon. There's going to be some
00:06:01.840motherfuckers that say, how are you going to do that? But everybody in there is probably going to be
00:06:06.440like, okay, I guess we're going to the fucking moon. Right. So like, because there's evidence
00:06:10.560that there's evidence that I follow through on everything I say, no matter how crazy it
00:06:14.920fucking sounds at the time. And, um, you, that's the first thing. Okay. The second thing is it goes
00:06:20.980back to what we were talking about in the intro, dude. You, you have to fucking, you have to put
00:06:26.280that shit out of you. You could do one of two things, right? You could either be the person who
00:06:29.820just ignores that shit and just chips away day by day by day by day. Um, and what will
00:06:36.240happen is those people eventually, when you start to win, they'll start to come around
00:06:41.100and they'll start to say things like, Hey man, I see you're doing really good, you know,
00:06:45.520or they'll, you know, make some people who really don't think you'll do it. They won't
00:06:49.460say anything to approve you of you until you've already, you know, built your entire fucking
00:06:54.620empire. And then they're going to say, Oh man, I always believed in you. I knew you
00:06:57.960would do it. Right. So that's what you're dealing with. Okay. And you have to understand
00:07:03.080like those people's opinions literally mean nothing. So the bigger question here is what's
00:07:09.620wrong with you that you actually give a fuck that those people say those things, you know
00:07:14.580what I'm saying? So that's the question that I would ask. Why are, why do you value people's
00:07:20.300opinions or criticism that haven't done anything themselves? Right. We have to focus on the good
00:07:27.040criticism, the things that help us improve the things that help us get better, the statements
00:07:31.760that we can examine ourselves and say, Oh, okay, I can get better on that. I can do better
00:07:35.220here. I can do better there. That's good criticism, but just hater bullshit. You're always going
00:07:40.020to have it, dude. Like it's never going to go away. Um, young doll's got a fucking song
00:07:44.820on it right now. You know that he's got out. What's it called? Yeah. It's a good fucking
00:07:49.840song, dude. When you do, when you, they're supposed to hate, I forgot what the fuck he says.
00:07:53.400But anyway, uh, the point is, is that it's a universal concept. Like people are going to
00:07:59.120fucking hate on you. And that's just what it is. So even when you're winning. Oh yeah. Especially
00:08:03.120when you're winning, bro. Especially when you're winning, it only gets worse. But the funny thing
00:08:06.820is, is that when you're winning and you know, everything's good, it affects, what's it called?
00:08:10.540Rain, rain, rain. Is that what it is? Rain, rain, go away. Yeah. Yeah. No, no, no. That ain't it,
00:08:15.140is it? That's it. What's the lyrics? Hold on. It's raining. Uh, no, that ain't the one.
00:08:21.960I promise you. It's when you do big shit. When you're doing big shit, they supposed to hate.
00:08:26.100Yeah. Okay. That's the song. That's the song. All right. All right. You're right.
00:08:29.060I love how I love how neither one of you asked the black guy in the room. Cause I definitely
00:08:32.720did not know it. We're blacker than you. What are you talking about? You're over there listening to
00:08:36.360Kenny G. Yeah. I have no fucking idea, but you guys, you guys are definitely more hip than me. So
00:08:40.220that's a good song by the way. Yeah. We, you were, you had it on the other day when it came in here.
00:08:45.620Yeah. Anyway, the point is, uh, you guys got to understand that you haven't, the truth of the
00:08:51.840matter is you haven't done anything to earn people's belief. Okay. And so you have to like
00:08:57.340everybody else in the world and history of the world, they're not just going to believe in you
00:09:01.140because you're fucking breathing the air and you say, I want to do this. All right. So silencing,
00:09:06.400silencing these people really comes down to just doing what you say you're going to do.
00:09:11.120Right. And when I said a minute ago, I said, there's two ways to approach this, right? You can ignore
00:09:14.840it or you could do what I do, which is I absorb all of it. I'm like, Oh, what'd you say?
00:09:19.380Motherfucker. Okay. And I keep a mental note and I'll remember 10 years from now what so-and-so
00:09:25.780said. Like I can remember literally every single fucking bullshit critique that I've gotten from
00:09:31.340a friend or a family member, people that matter to me. Yeah. Okay. And they, they all think I
00:09:35.740forgot about this shit now. Right. Like they all think like now I'm just like, Oh, he must've
00:09:39.900forgot. Cause he's doing well. No motherfucker. I still get it. That's why I give you a weird ass
00:09:43.700look whenever you fucking talk to me. You know what I'm saying? Awkward as fuck. Yeah, bro. I make it
00:09:47.460awkward as fuck. Remember when that motherfucker came in our locker room that one day that Sal
00:09:51.160used to work for? Yeah. What happened? Yeah. He got, he got the, uh, uh, you were given
00:09:54.880the, the, what do you guys call it? Call it like the old fuck tour or the told you so tour
00:09:59.240basically. I mean, so Sal had this boss that came in here. All right. Good guy. Oh, you
00:10:04.020called him out immediately. I remember this now. Yeah. Good guy. But he told Sal when Sal was
00:10:08.820going to fucking leave Johnson and Johnson, which he was the number one sales rep in the world
00:10:12.780to come work for me that he was fucking stupid. Yeah. So Sal's giving him a tour of the fucking
00:10:17.640HQ and I'm sitting in my recliner doing whatever the fuck I want because that's what I can do
00:10:21.980now. Right. And here in comes Sal with this fucking dude. He's like, Oh, you remember John? And I'm
00:10:28.140like, sure do. Yeah. I said, Hey John, remember when you told Sal I take this fucking job? Was
00:10:32.940that not the first thing I fucking said? It was the first fucking thing I said to him. I feel
00:10:38.080like that handshake went right to a fucking spaghetti noodle immediately. You know what?
00:10:42.760Did he, did he fucking, did he get uncomfortable? No, he definitely did. Yeah. Definitely. And
00:10:46.560then I made it cool. And then I was like, no bro, I'm just playing. You know, I wouldn't
00:10:49.700have believed in it either. Yeah. But the point is he knows that I know and he knows I never
00:10:54.400forgot about it. Right. You know what I'm saying? And I've used that as motivation for the last
00:10:58.340fucking decade to get where we are. And that's not a knock on him, bro. No, I'm just using
00:11:04.360that as an example. Like I remember when people do that, I have the memory of a fucking
00:11:08.880elephant, bro. Like I remember that shit and, and I use it to drive me and I use production
00:11:14.540pivots, right? Like when I get angry, when people don't believe in me, uh, and I start
00:11:18.300thinking negative thoughts and I start thinking like, fuck dude, this person, cause dude, we
00:11:21.580still all think that shit. Right. Um, then I get up and go do something productive and it's
00:11:27.800that simple. So, uh, so yeah, man, like toughen the fuck up. Like this is something that
00:11:34.020you're all going to deal with. Uh, you're going to deal with it forever. And the sooner
00:11:39.600you can come to peace with the idea that people are going to criticize you negatively for doing
00:11:44.920anything outside the norm of society. Um, you know, the quicker you can get where you want
00:11:50.600to go because a lot of people hold themselves up because they're afraid of what so-and-so
00:11:54.860is going to say or what so-and-so is going to say. And the truth is those people, first
00:12:00.080of all, they don't really matter. Second of all, when it comes to terms of you achieving
00:12:04.680things, but second of all, um, most of the time they don't even say the shit that you
00:12:09.400imagine. Most of the time you're making up these stories in your head. I wonder what,
00:12:14.040you know, so-and-so is going to say about me doing this. I wonder what my aunt Susie is
00:12:19.040going to say. Fuck aunt Susie. You know what I'm saying? Like it doesn't matter what she
00:12:23.520says. And you have to realize that you're making that story up and she probably doesn't even
00:12:27.880think that shit. Right. So your biggest hater is some, something, a story that you're making
00:12:32.200up in your own motherfucking head. So think about that. That's fucking deep. Yeah, it's
00:12:36.180true, dude. It's true. Most people don't hate on you. That's just the truth. That's our
00:12:41.040own egos telling us, Oh man, I bet everybody hates on me. That's our, that's our own self
00:12:46.080talk, you know? Damn. So it's fucking dope. Yeah, bro. Like it's, it's normal shit. All right.
00:12:51.920Question number two. So how do you keep business, business and personal, personal, right? So like
00:12:57.560having somebody that may not directly work for you, um, and you can't stand them for
00:13:02.120whatever reason it is, but you still have to work for them, work with them for business.
00:13:06.640So how do you keep that business, business and personal, personal? Well, that what's the
00:13:10.320objective? Yeah. What's the objective? To win, I'm assuming. Okay. Well then you got to work
00:13:15.280with what you got. Yeah. You know, I, I personally don't really care how much I like someone sitting
00:13:22.200across the table from me, if they can execute on part of the mission or whatever the plan
00:13:26.940is like, if I, if I think they're annoying or if they're, you know, like, dude, honestly,
00:13:32.240my ability to like someone has to do with, can they get shit done? Like when shit, when
00:13:36.940people get shit done, I can deal with their quirks or their little difference of personality.
00:13:41.020I can learn to appreciate them. There's plenty of people in our office that are, that would
00:13:45.780normally like be abrasive to me. Okay. But I love them because they fucking kick ass. Right.
00:13:53.020Right. And so then we're able to connect and I'm starting, I'm able to understand like that's
00:13:57.920their process of winning. I've got my own process of winning and I can appreciate and sometimes even
00:14:02.960learn from the way they do things, even though it's not the way I do things. So, uh, first
00:14:09.800of all, you have to consider like, what's the mission? The mission is to win. We're here to
00:14:13.280fucking win. We're here to kick ass. We're here to do good. And personal feelings shouldn't
00:14:17.520really, uh, get involved in those decisions or the actions that result from the decisions.
00:14:22.300Yeah. Um, I think that's weak shit. I think if you can't work with people that you don't like,
00:14:27.000you're not going to be very successful. Uh, now with that being said, I think that, you know,
00:14:32.580you should work to like those people and respect, you know, cause all real love and real like is,
00:14:38.180is based out of respect. Right. So if I got somebody who doesn't rub me the wrong, the right way,
00:14:43.200like, um, you know, let's just say, uh, you know, usually the people who rub me the wrong way are
00:14:49.240just like me, by the way, no, for real, dude, they're, they're, they're a little cocky. Yeah.
00:14:53.500They're a little fucking overly confident. Yeah. That makes sense. Yeah. Right. And I'm like,
00:14:57.160no, fuck that guy. And then I think about him. I'm like, wait, he's kind of like me.
00:14:59.980You know what I'm saying? So like, those are the people that kind of rub me the wrong way.
00:15:04.380But when I see them go out, when I'm like, okay, this guy's got it, or this girl's got it. You know what I'm
00:15:09.620saying? And I restart to respect it. And then I can respect their little swag.
00:15:12.840They got, you know what I mean? Cause it's just how they do. Yeah. Right. So like, dude, you know,
00:15:17.260this shit of like, you know, I don't like this person. Cause they got this, they say this or
00:15:22.320that, or that like, dude, what your priorities are fucked up. That's what I'm saying. Like,
00:15:26.960if you want to win in the big game of winning, you have to put those things aside. It's not
00:15:32.080going to always be like it's, it's, it's going to be, did we get the job done? So that, that would be
00:15:37.280my advice. Nope. All right. Question number three, hiring people with a bad past. Okay. So I know
00:15:44.920you can speak personally on this, obviously. Um, but you know, we're talking people with felony
00:15:49.280records, people currently there. I mean, there's going to be a lot of people getting dishonorably
00:15:52.540discharged from military anti-vax stance and stuff. Right. So how do you weigh out whether or not a
00:15:57.660person is, is genuinely truly changed, right? Like you're taking that risk. So how, first of all,
00:16:02.000bro, I take into consideration, not everybody that's like has a felony did bad shit in my
00:16:08.700opinion. Right. Like we have a couple of guys, a handful of people here who have been in prison
00:16:13.800before. Okay. Uh, they're in prison. Most of them are in prison for marijuana. Guess what? I don't
00:16:19.520think people should go to prison for marijuana. I think it's bullshit that people go to prison for
00:16:23.420marijuana. I think it's bullshit that you can walk into a fucking liquor store and buy enough
00:16:27.860liquor to kill yourself, but you can't, you have to go into a weed store. You could smoke the whole
00:16:33.000motherfucking store and not die, but you can only get so much. Like, so we have to, I asked myself
00:16:39.280like what morally did they do? Right. And then, uh, you know, if they did their time, if they paid
00:16:45.960their punishment, I'm who am I to fucking hold that against them? So I'm a big believer in fresh
00:16:50.220starts, man. Like I'm a big believer in like, dude, if someone paid their, paid their dues,
00:16:54.660then we should give them a, an equal chance as everybody else. That's my opinion. I think the
00:17:00.800world would work a lot better if we all had that opinion. Now, if you have people that, you know,
00:17:05.940if you have a dude who went to jail cause he raped three people and he happens to be out,
00:17:09.740I think it's probably a good idea to maybe look into that guy. You know what I'm saying? Like,
00:17:14.760uh, if it's a super violent crime or something crazy, like I think, I think it's, it's a good idea
00:17:20.540to look into those things. So, uh, I'm a big believer in, in fresh starts. I'm a big believer
00:17:26.540in, uh, people making mistakes and learning from them and growing. And if I didn't give those people
00:17:32.240an opportunity to have a start, I'd be a hypocrite in my beliefs. And one thing I don't
00:17:37.540like to be as a hypocrite, you know, now sometimes, you know, I, I, I speak a little faster than I think
00:17:43.640and I can, you know, but I try to catch myself because I, that's not a quality. It's not a quality
00:17:48.060that I value at all. Um, I despise it. So, you know, I try to live in congruency with that,
00:17:53.900with that thought process. And I think that it's important that we give people second chances when
00:17:58.180they've paid their dues to society. Um, as far as these military guys getting, uh, dishonorably
00:18:03.840discharged again, it's another example that I don't agree with. Like, I don't think it's dishonorable
00:18:08.880for someone to stand up for what the fuck they believe. I think what's dishonorable is that they're
00:18:13.440getting fucking discharged. The military is dishonorable in that situation. So I don't
00:18:19.420subscribe to society's rules, so to speak. You know what I mean? I try to judge on my own moral
00:18:25.500compass and give consideration on those things and then give people opportunities. I would say this,
00:18:31.420if you own a company right now, there's never, ever been a better opportunity to hire and add to
00:18:39.940your team of quality, integrity driven individuals. If people are willing to lose their fucking jobs
00:18:47.080over their integrity, they're probably going to do a pretty good job for you as long as they
00:18:52.460culturally align with your values. Yeah. You know what I'm saying? So like, you know, if I own a
00:18:58.360company, which, you know, I do, uh, I'm going to be looking to bring some of these people in. In fact,
00:19:03.440we have brought a number of these people in already. So, um, that's how I feel about that. Yeah. Yeah.
00:19:09.400Fucking dope, man. Is that two or three? That's all three. Oh, it was. All right. Well,
00:19:14.060that's all, that's, that's how you're going to outro it.
00:19:17.680Like that's all you got, bro. I couldn't say the tagline, man. So I'm like,
00:19:21.800you got to come up with a new tag, bro. You can't say the same shit every time. Like if you say
00:19:26.000it's one for one, two for two, three for three for the next 10 years, that's, you're not growing as a,
00:19:32.080as a commentator. So I'm trying to push you to grow. So let's, let's, let's do this live on the
00:19:37.160show. Okay. Let's come up with something. How do we transition here? Fuck. Yeah. Don't edit none
00:19:42.760of this out either. Yeah. Leave this in. Cause this is coaching. I I'm taking, I'm taking the
00:19:48.580criticism. All right. I know. Um, see, this is the criticism you want. No, no, for sure. Yeah.
00:19:53.180Oh bro. Listen, I know no criticism that ever came from you. All right. Let's do the transition now.
00:19:59.100Yeah. All right. That's fucking fire. That's three questions, man. All right. All right,
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