165. Q&AF： Best Traits For Business, Approaching Losses & Identifying Advantages Against Big Sharks
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In this episode of The Realists, Andy Priscilla and her co-host Aq and Af talk about how to attract the right people in business and personal life and how to deal with them in business or even in personal life.
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what's up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye to the lies
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the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality today we have
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aq and af and as always i am joined by my handsome co-host hey hey hey white lightning white
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lightning baby what's up bro hey what's the fee tell them about the fee guys you got to pay the
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fucking fee all right and and first of all to you guys because we get them right it's the same people
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right and we appreciate you guys yeah i really really do and i and i know it sucks because we're
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not able to get everybody but share the fucking show guys please share the show all right if you
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get something out of it yeah if you get something out of it tell them if it makes you fucking bad
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tell them man share the shit man like i feel like we were just talking about this man we're you know
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we're crazy yeah you're speaking the gospel black jesus black jesus can we pray to black jesus is that
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okay korean jesus jesus was probably more black than he was white yeah that's highly honest i know that's
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gonna make that's some controversy yeah but you know pretty sure you had a good tan diverse jesus
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that's right praise yeah i mean guys share the show man get something out of it makes you laugh
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this show should be i mean fuck that's what minute in if you have another fucking laugh yeah i mean
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fuck you're laughing already share the fucking show share it right now just stop what you're doing
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and share the show cool good job you're coming up in the world bro i got i got a i got a good
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you're smart listening to the doctor i got dr sal yeah it's about a smart listen all the other
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doctors yeah no shit all right so q and af q and af baby all right let's go q and af how's it work
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so guys i asked andy three questions um and as always you can email your questions in to ask
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andy at andy for seller.com um i read them out and we see what he says so question number one so
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so this has to do with with with business people that you meet in business or even just in personal
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life what are the top three characteristics or traits that you look for in people to either deal
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with them in business or even just in personal life like are they are the same three traits or are
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they different you know i don't i don't break it down like that i think everybody's got their own
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unique uh traits that make them uh interesting or valuable um you know i i try not to have
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preconceived notions and what i try to do is identify people's gifts because as an operator of a business
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um we have use for all different sorts of talents and everybody has different propensity for talents or
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skills or uh gifts so if you close your mind down to the aspect of these are the top three qualities
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you're going to end up with the same kind of person and what's going to happen is you're going to try
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to fit that same kind of person into all these different roles that actually require different
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traits different skills or different gifts so i try to look at people with an open mind and
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identify what they have but the things that are like must have um for me there are some things
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right like i have to have someone who is um a realist right someone who can identify the tasks
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for what they are or identify the situation for what it is and react to the actual factual situation
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uh very emotionally yeah unemotionally like you know when we're running a business we're trying to run a
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play in business um and execute that play perfectly i don't really give a fuck how you feel about it
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you know what i'm saying like and this is this is reality yeah and that's the that's the world and
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perspective and worldview that i operate in so i don't like to be around people who are high maintenance
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uh bring me their emotional issues um complain about what's going on at home those things to me
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devalue people in in my eyes um because i'm not here to to be your counselor right i'm here to help
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you make a fuck ton of money and we do that by changing people's fucking lives yeah so we have
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to react within the real i think that's probably my main thing my main thing is that you're able to
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look at the facts you're able to put your personal feelings maybe over here to the side
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uh and open your mind to different perspectives you know there's other things too like i gotta have
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people around me that are open to learning new skills on their own um because we're constantly
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moving in a million different directions and if i don't have people who are open to
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learning and developing for example like in a lot of corporate structures or business structures
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you get people that come in and they say well i'm this yeah well hey motherfucker i need you to be
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this plus a little bit of that that that well that's not my job well then guess what you don't
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have a fucking job yeah you're right it's not your job that's right so like you know people who can
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take initiative you know honestly like our core values of our of all of our companies are really
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non-negotiable but um yeah i think it's important to understand that not everybody's going to have the
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same skill set and if you look at people through a one two three uh type view you're going to cause
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yourself a lot of pain in business over the years because what you'll do and i did this this is why
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i'm speaking about it you'll develop and people in the same framework and then try to stick them into
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jobs that requires a different framework um and it just won't work and what will end up happening is
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you'll end up believing that those people are bad and they suck yeah when in reality they could be a
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rock star over here there's a book all about this called good to great um you could get it anywhere
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i wouldn't get on amazon get somewhere else but uh that book will explain the concepts that i'm
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talking about you know i don't i just don't believe in narrowing it down that hard because everybody's
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so different you know what i'm saying yeah that makes perfect sense man fuck i was not expecting
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that's such a great answer well dude i mean like a creative type person is a creative you know
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a type a is a type a yeah uh you know you need all kinds of different character qualities and
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skills and traits to make a business run yeah you know what i'm saying those needs are ever changing
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yeah for sure yeah and dude the person who might be uh qualified to you know run let's say a retail
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operation may not be the same person who's qualified to uh run the entire operation right you know i'm
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saying um or maybe that's not the person that you could plug into your creative department they
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probably struggle there right you see what i'm saying yeah so like you have to figure out where
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everybody fits uh and i think a lot of people spend a lot of time trying to make everybody fit into
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their framework and that's why they can't ever get a culture to really grow right because like dude
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you walk through our businesses and our companies it's not that everybody's the same people are very
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different people of all backgrounds all different uh cultures uh you know all the differences that
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make up society we've got them all for sure but the reason that people gel is because of the
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foundational principles that we all believe in uh regarding core values you know you know what i'm
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saying yeah do the right thing stay loyal to mission loyal to each other uh take initiative accept
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responsibility uh you know believe like all these things that we talk about um make up the framework
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of of the foundation of the individual uh and then the the at the front end it's it's we all kind of do
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what we're good at would you say that's easier i mean follow-up question i'm sorry but would you say
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that's easier now because the culture is so strong that like that initial checklist like yeah your hiring
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process is so much faster now because people know the culture maintains itself yeah like they know what to
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expect yeah like dude people that wash out of our company don't they don't wash out because i
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identify their weaknesses they wash out because the other team the other team members do yeah so yeah
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it's definitely easier when you get bigger but it's also harder when you get bigger for other reasons
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because you don't have like i don't have contact with the thousands and thousands and thousands of
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reps that work off-site from us right you see what i'm saying right so um it becomes more challenging
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when you expand in that way but because the core values are so basic in terms of like just
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doing the shit that i feel like and i think everybody knows you should be values everywhere
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that's right yeah like it makes you bond and because our mission is very clearly customer focused
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in anything that i'm involved in um i think we disproportionately provide value versus what we
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ask for in return yeah you know that makes it easier but like yeah dude in the beginning when
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you're first starting and you're out there trying to build a company and you've got you
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maybe a business partner maybe one or two other people um that is the best time to start these
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things and to take them serious but most people at that level don't take them serious because they
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they are in such control over the day-to-day dialogue that they never systemize their culture
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does that make sense yeah so so like because overlook because it would just be me you and my dot in an
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office and i get to talk to you every day we all inherently know what the culture is so we never
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define it and we never define like how our core values and what we should operate and what our
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standards should be because we all know the standard right and this is the this is the paradox of being
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a small business person you might have good culture right now because you've got three tight or four
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tight crew people right yeah but what happens when you take what happens if you were to take those
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four people and make them uh and expand to 40 people today you see what i'm saying you couldn't
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control the culture with those four people you because you couldn't there's not enough face time
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to create it so how do you create it right and that's why you have to define it and build the system
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early but the reason most people don't build it early is because they think they already have it
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they're not thinking ahead yeah they're not thinking big enough either correct yeah so you know if
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you're the small guy right now and you're thinking man i really love to have a culture like some of
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these companies that i look up to do um the best plan is to start now you know i'm saying and be
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serious about it because like a lot of people don't take their system seriously when they're small
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you know they hire it's me you and and and my dot here and then we bring in joe and we don't like
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take it serious because we feel like it's a kind of a hodgepodge small operation and so it never takes
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you know what i mean and so what you have to do is you have to be a strong leader um you have to
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be serious about it in the beginning even when people will snicker and laugh and not really and
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not really maybe take you serious yeah you've got to force yourself your will upon them in in the very
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beginning stages that this is the fucking way it's going to be i had to do the same thing lost a lot
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of people that way but if i hadn't imposed my will that this was the fucking standard we sure as fuck
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wouldn't be here you see what i'm saying so it's it's yeah it's an involved question yeah but i would
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say just like most things in life the earlier you get on top of it the the earlier it gets in you get
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a grip on it yeah that's real all right question number two so we've all been there we've all struggled
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right um when you encounter what may seem to be like a devastating loss whether it's your job your
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car your spouse whatever it is right what are some steps that you take to quote unquote bounce
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back right like what steps would you suggest to somebody who just got done you know they just got
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fired from the vaccine mandate or you know they just lost a whatever it is right what what would
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you say are the first steps to get back on track well i think the first step is to understand that
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things change i i approach life understanding every day that things could change today i've had
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i had so many drastic things happen to me in very short amount of times over the course of my life
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like when i was stabbed or um in 2012 when they thought that i had a brain tumor and it turns out
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to be a cyst for two weeks i thought i was going to die so i've had these situations that that have
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basically brought me to a realization that everything is fucking temporary even your life your life is
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temporary so with that being understood it would be an ignorant thought uh or an arrogant thought to
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think that hardships are not going to happen to you they're going to happen to you so you have to
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learn that this shit is gonna happen it's a part of life it happens to everybody every single
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fucking human has extremely extremely extremely dark times extremely challenging times extremely
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hard times that they have to overcome and that honestly is the meaning of life in my opinion the
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meaning of life is to overcome the obstacles and set the example for the next generation uh to show
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them how you handle these things as they come and we've done a very poor job of that as as a society
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here in america in my opinion the entire society now is based upon this victim culture um people
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compete over how bad their lives are online for attention um everybody has a sob story that's worse
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than yours and you know that's the instant gratification culture right like if i could tell a sad enough
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story then i get more likes and like bro you're competing over who's the bigger bitch right let's be
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fucking real okay the real champions the people who fucking you probably never hear about because
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they don't fucking cry about every little fucking hangnail that they get in their life are the people
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who win and it's and a lot of people think oh well that guy's a fucking billionaire so he's probably
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never had those obstacles no it's just that he doesn't complain about him openly on the internet for
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fucking attention right that's the truth and so people who are high achievers you know one of my good
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buddies david goggins a lot of you guys follow him he's a fucking awesome dude uh goggins hates
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everybody okay i'll be real he'll fucking tell you that too but in the same sentence he's got the
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biggest heart of anybody you'd ever know and you would have to understand that because that's why he
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puts the content out he puts the content that he puts out i put the content that i put out because i
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know it's fucking hard and i know it's going to be hard and sitting here telling you that it's not
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going to be hard is a lie and that's what some of these guru fucks do they go out there and they
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they placate to your emotions and try to empower you empower you to be vulnerable and in reality
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what they're creating is this victim culture that's fucking weak as fuck okay and and i'm not saying you
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can't be vulnerable like when i got fucking problems i tell you about them yeah do i tell you
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about them yeah i tell dj about my problems all the fucking time do i get on the line and talk about
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the same problems no cry no i don't because you know what nobody fucking cares and half the people
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that saw my shit would be happy that i had those problems and and then half of those half half of
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those people would then do things intentionally to create more of that for me so a lot of you guys
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that complain online realize you're giving all the enemies that you have the exact recipe to fuck with
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you okay nobody can fuck with me because i don't let you know where i'm fucking soft all right
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nobody fucks with goggins because he's gonna let you know where he's soft we handle our own shit
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we realize that shit is hard and we fucking tell you how to overcome it so for me it's controlling
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the things that you could control the fucking whole world can fall apart i can still control some basic
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shit i can control how much fucking water i drink i can control how much exercise i have i can control
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what kind of information i put in my brain i control what kind of food i eat those are the things that
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i am in control of every fucking day okay those things happen to be the foundation of creating
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structure and momentum in your life all right so my advice to anybody who's going through a hard
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struggle to anybody who's have a devastating loss or a big uh momentum change you're it's the opposite
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of what everybody else out there is telling you to do oh take some time to fucking heal no um i wouldn't
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take time to quote unquote heal and sit on the couch and stuff your fucking fat face with a bunch of
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fucking bullshit because by the time you wake up to what's going on you're 50 pounds more down the
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wrong way okay your momentum is stopped and in my opinion this bad shit happens to everybody okay so
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the best thing that you can do is to wake the fuck up do the things that you can do to get better and
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realize like fuck dude that that stung a little bit but i'm gonna be all right and push through and
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like dude that's hard to do when you have uh you know a tremendous fucking life-altering loss
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but it's also the hardest things to do are the most important things to do
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and that's as far as i can tell a fact of life you know the hardest things that you think are or the
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thing you don't want to do most is usually the thing that will help you the most so control what you
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control realize it's not just you don't be a fucking victim all right and and use as a test
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like hey lots of other people have gone through the same situation most likely what did they do
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right like i know this i know this advice that the internet gives and that the world gives is
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counterproductive as fuck dude when i went to billy g's a couple weeks ago and i saw everybody there
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100 pounds fucking 50 pounds overweight from what they were it woke me to fuck up most people right now
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are sitting on their ass bro yeah bro and you guys are building a bigger and bigger and bigger and
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bigger and bigger mountain that you're gonna have to fucking deal with eventually so my advice was
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being somebody who's built these mountains and had to overcome them over and over and over again
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it's not like i never did this bro i'm talking about this because this is how i used to fucking do
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it yeah i used to follow that advice oh dude take some mental health breaks and chill and
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but and dude you know what happened during those breaks i got worse i got fatter i got broker i got
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lazier i developed bad habits and that made my whole life worse and then i had to deal with more of the
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shit i created because i followed the advice of some fucking weak ass motherfucker so my advice
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control what the fuck you control minimize the damage and fucking keep moving forward and bro that
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is real shit period like you could think that's harsh you could think that's emotionally insensitive or
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lacks empathy or whatever else these motherfuckers are telling you but i'm gonna tell you right now
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you follow what i just said versus following what they just said you're gonna be a better spot
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fuck i think i think guys you're listening pause this shit right now share this fucking show right now
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yeah holy fuck oh fuck i mean bro it's the truth no it's definitely people like the truth yeah
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so and it's funny because i i had a couple of these questions and we actually talked about this
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a little bit in the locker room this morning with chris what's your biggest advice to a brick and
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mortar business that's struggling to keep up with the big box stores and online bullshit what's your
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biggest advice for mom and pop who are just trying to fucking make it through right now what what
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would you say you're like quick synopsis what's the biggest piece of advice you got to them right now
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all right dude it's real simple okay the more technology takes over and make no mistake what's
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happening in society right now is designed to put small business out of business to move all the
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customers into digital and to really crash the local economy so that all the people who used to live and
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thrive uh and and derive their income off that local economy now become dependent on the government
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the rich people the people who are already rich going to get a lot richer okay the people the people who
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are who are already poor they have no chance of getting any better under this under this design that
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they're trying to push through which by the way um everybody should be paying attention to this global
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15 tax that biden's been talking about on tv because that will destroy the middle class completely a lot of
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you motherfuckers think that's going to hurt people like me it ain't going to hurt people like me it's
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going to destroy the small business that does not have the margin does not have the capability to pivot
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doesn't have an extra 2 000 bucks in their bank account to make changes which is most businesses by the way
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they will go out of business so you motherfuckers better get real loud about rejecting that to the
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point of i wouldn't even fucking pay it if they fucking bill you for it i refuse to pay it but getting
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into what you can do to be offensive against this understand a couple things the biggest thing that
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you can have that they okay so there's two kinds of people all right there's people who buy for
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convenience and then there's people who buy from people they love all right amazon cannot make you
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love them because they're too automated they don't have any personal touch they don't have anybody that
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gives a fuck about you at amazon is there anybody listening right now that thinks that anybody at
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amazon gives the actual fuck about you personally at all no i already heard you yeah play crickets yeah
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there's only so so your only play is to go the complete other way the complete other way is this
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build real relationships with real people in real life how can you do that in your small business
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there's all kinds of ways a lot of small business owners err on the side of being efficient with
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technology and they believe that if they make their if they become more like amazon
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they get more business yeah but let me tell you you can't fucking compete with amazon on amazon's
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pace so you have to be smarter than them and play a different game and that different game is
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i'm a small business owner i care about you and i'm going to show you how i care about you by building
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a real relationship and doing that in real life shaking your hand giving a fuck about your family
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giving a fuck about your kids giving a fuck about the products that i sell you all right guess what
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guys that takes a lot of effort it's real hard to do okay but you ain't ever going to be the more
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convenient option you're probably not going to be the cheaper option because you lack the buying power
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so your only option as a small business owner is to get aggressive about building real relationships
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in your community shaking hands kissing babies solving real motherfucking problems that's the only way
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to compete with that and by the way this is what we teach in rt syndicate okay a lot of people
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don't know our and my latinize business group rt syndicate what we do in that group it's it's a
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group that has a membership is teach these kind of things these kind of strategies okay it's not just
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this rah rah motivation group it's totally deep in in-depth tactical fucking information on how to win
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in today's world by people who are actually doing this shit in real life okay so uh i don't usually
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talk about my own initiatives but a lot of people don't realize what rt syndicate's about um all if
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you're not in it and you want personal develop information um you should be joining because
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that's where it's at and we go far more in depth than what we ever did with mfceo project or any
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content for free but uh but the point is is that there's a million ways to do that uh and that could
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be a whole entire fucking five hour podcast but you have to get creative on how you connect with
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your people uh but i really the answer to this is an ideology change quit trying to compete with
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someone you can't fucking beat you can't compare with okay and start being your own thing and because
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technology has gone so far to this you know you got mark zuckerberg saying meta and virtual reality
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dude people don't want that shit people don't want it okay and it's not just a little people
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that i saw a poll it was 89 of people thought what he's doing is bad okay people so what's that tell
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you as a business owner it says that 89 of the people i got customers that's right want to support
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small business in real life and have real america and real all these things no okay people do not want
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to go to this soulless fucking matrix world and and we're not going to go there i could tell you
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right now we're not they are going to continue to try to force this shit it's going to continue to
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get rejected and it's not going to work out well for these people i'm just telling you that but um
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yeah so real people real relationships solving real problems do that you're going to fucking beat these
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guys well guys that's fucking three so go pay the fee yeah so let's get it guys um
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i appreciate you guys sharing the show like dj said uh we worked this show completely on word
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of mouth so if you learned something there if it made you laugh made you think gave me a new
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perspective uh if it helped you if you think other people will value you know from it just give us a
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share dude that's all we ask all right guys i love you guys talk to you next time
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