17. The Panic Pandemic： Are You Infected With These 5 Fears？
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Summary
In light of the coronavirus crisis, fear is the number one thing we all have in common right now, whether you want to admit it or not, and that's fear. Fear is the root cause of anxiety, and we're all filled with fear, but the only thing you have to remember is that the only way to get fear out is to get the anxiety out.
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told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living
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spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my
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watch cost 250. what's up guys andy priscilla here and this is the show for the realist say
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goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking
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reality guys listen up i'm just gonna say it everybody's thinking it i'm sick of the coronavirus
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not saying i'm sick actually i'm sick of it i'm not ignorant i understand the gravity of what's
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going on but in light of everything that's going on right now i thought this would be a good
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opportunity to talk about something that we all have in common right now whether you want to admit
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it or not and that's fear and we're all fearful because we are uncertain my opinion there's been
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a very poor job of delivering the actual facts to us in this crisis situation right now and i've
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really struggled to find what it is i want to talk about with you guys because dude the truth is
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with this level of anxiety and fear man talking about how to kick ass and business and you know
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do all these things uh kind of seems like it's not that important right but i started thinking
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about it and i was thinking about it last night and i've been thinking about it the last couple weeks
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i've been talking to my guys here uh my guys here in the room with me my dot and joe who helped put
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on the show and uh they're good buddies of mine and other good buddies um and and and my wife and
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and my friends i've been talking about you know man i just haven't been that motivated to talk
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about these these lessons that i normally talk about because there's so much going on and then
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what i figured out was damn dude like this is actually the time people need these messages and
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so my promise to you guys is uh it took me a few weeks to let this sink in really kind of question
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what i was doing with my own content but i want you to know i'm going to continue making content the
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exact same way that i've been making it um because i think we need it i think we need to stay focused
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focused on the positive focused on what we can gain focused on how we can improve and really this
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is no different than what i've been telling you guys for the last five or six years on podcasting
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and then uh you know for the last decade on the internet is that look hard things are going to come
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up bad things are going to happen and you have to be the kind of person that learns how to not only
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push through but also how to come out the other side better and that's what we're gonna that's the
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tone i feel like taking here and i think that's um that's what i'm going to continue doing you know
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i'm not immune to fear guys you know it's scary it's scary what's going on i feel so um emotionally
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upset about what's going on not just with the people dying but with the businesses that are dying
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and with the people who are struggling and you know i think about um some of my friends i was
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talking to one of my friends online the other night and they work in vegas and they work her whole family
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works on the strip and they don't have jobs right now and they don't have pay and the pay they do get
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isn't covering what they could have made in tips and their whole family is like that the dad the mom
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uh the brother the sister and this person and and it breaks my heart man it tears my heart apart
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to hear about people like this and and these people who have worked decades and decades and decades
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to build companies that are just now like fucking gone and um i i'm i'm being honest
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with you guys you know that emotionally upsets me you know my companies are doing very well we're in
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the health space i'm not going to say we're crushing it but all things considered i'm very appreciative of
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where we are in life and business and um it's just a hard situation and we're all scared and really
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that brings me to what i want to talk about today which which is fear okay we're all nervous right now
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we're all filled with anxiety but the thing you have to remember is the only way to get the fear
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out and to get the anxiety out is to take productive action and so that's what i want to get into today
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um you know in my opinion too many people out there really fear the wrong things and they base all their
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actions off of this inconceivable worst case scenario fear they're worried about you know what other people
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think they're worried about what uh kind of mood their boss is going to be in today they make a
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mistake in front of someone else and they're worried they're going to get laughed at they're afraid of
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failing so you know they don't want to take any risks uh they're in front of you at costco right now
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we see these people everywhere they're right they're buying 277 rolls of fucking toilet paper
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not realizing they could have avoided the whole thing by staying home and just not being selfish
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okay back in the great depression guys fdr said this he said we had nothing to fear but fear itself
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i'm sure you've heard that quote before i call bullshit i absolutely think there are things that
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you should fear and you should fear them very strongly okay fear is also a motivator and if you use it
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right it can be the most powerful driver of your success fear forces us to realize and become aware
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of our surroundings and then take action on them you just have to make sure that you're afraid of the
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right things and not some unfounded scary insignificant thing like taking your shirt off at the pool okay this
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is what most people fear so what i want to do is i want to go through the five things that i think
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you should absolutely be afraid of even during this crisis that we're going through right now
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okay so the first thing i want to talk about is mediocrity all right being stuck in the hamster
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wheel of life is absolutely the worst thing that you can do to impede your success laziness kills the soul
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and it also crushes creativity you have to realize when you've come to that point and that point is that
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moment you find yourself thinking that you've made it it's that moment you say to yourself i've got it
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made i could sit back and relax and just enjoy the ride well i think we've all figured out in the last
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couple weeks that that really is never the case and i've been telling you that for a number of years
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henry ford said this himself mediocrity is the worst enemy of prosperity and did we not live in a world
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that embraced mediocrity just three weeks ago he was right and it isn't even that hard of a concept
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to grasp when you've decided to fit in with the crowd to set easy goals and chill once you hit them
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that's it for you guys there's nowhere to go from there you're done you're forgettable congratulations
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you have a 16 foot bass boat and a decent truck and not one person around you gives a fuck or will
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remember you and which brings me to my next point which is insignificance okay we have mediocrity
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now we've got insignificance one leads to the next what's worse than realizing nothing in your life
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had any meaning and realizing way too late in life that you did what you could to barely get by and hit
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the lowest common point of the american dream that was possible for you at some point you're going to
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be fourth in line at the grocery store with a cart full of water bottles and 200 rolls of toilet paper
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and you're going to suddenly think to yourself what the hell is the point of this is it going to matter
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in a year in a few months do i have legacy whatsoever my kids going to be proud of me are the people that i
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consider friends now even going to show up at my funeral are they even going to have anything to say
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at all that should scare you insignificance is a scary thought insignificance is something that
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should keep you up on a daily basis insignificance is something that you should truly fear you know
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what the third thing you should fear is a life that offends no one first off why do you even worry
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about people who don't give a shit about you in the first place too many people go through life
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afraid of offending every single person around them and then they adopt behaviors that actually
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lead to mediocrity which leads to insignificance because of this fear they make the same shitty
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jokes as everyone else around them they pick their clothes to make sure they fit in with the same
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group they bring nothing to a conversation that hasn't been deemed appropriate and verified by the
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masses and then what ends up happening they become completely mediocre they become
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completely insignificant and they can't figure out why this is why because you're so afraid of what
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everybody else is going to say that you do nothing and when you do nothing you by default become
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mediocre okay so this all ties together mediocrity insignificance life that offends no one what's after
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that well this is the worst part regret that's point number four my dad always said this to me and my
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brother growing up hey how long you gonna be dead and we would all look at him and he would go a long
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fucking time right and we'd be like yeah and I know that's a little morbid and blunt but you know what
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dude big Jim is right at the end of your life you're gonna think one of two things oh shit it's too late and I
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didn't achieve what I wanted to or you know what I kicked ass and I did the best I could so you have
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to ask yourself are you taking any risks are you achieving anything are you doing anything worthy of
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bringing a legacy to your name you can't wait until the last minute of your life to address these questions
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are you going to come up with one answer and that answer is no and guess what that answer does it sucks
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and I feel sorry for people that come to that answer and take their whole life to get there
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the only way you can avoid this is if you're constantly asking these questions right now
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ask yourself am I happy do I have what I want am I who I want to be am I creating the impact I want to
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create am I setting the right example for my family my friends my community am I am I am I ask
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yourself the difficult questions and answer them honestly and if you don't get the right answer
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guess what you could still make changes you need to adjust and you need to start setting goals and
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working towards them if you don't like the answers to those questions guess what you're still alive
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you're still breathing air your heart's still pumping you still have the opportunity to adjust
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so start setting goals and working towards them now and that brings me to the last thing that you
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should fear and that's point number five and this is sad because this is happening right now and this
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should serve as an example of why it's so important to do all the things that I mentioned right before
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this the first four points why they are so important because right now we are witnessing
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thousands upon thousands of people dying and not only are they dying they're dying alone see dying alone
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is a fear that a lot of people have dying alone is one of those fears that people think about but they
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don't think it's actually going to happen to them well it's happening right now to a lot of people
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who didn't think it was going to happen to them and what's going to be their legacy what's going to
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be their remembrance what's going to be their purpose for being here you see we don't know when
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we're going to die we don't know when things like this are going to happen okay we can't plan for them
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so that means we have to take every single day of our life to move towards the scenario to where
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you get to a point in life where you could be taken right now and people are still going to
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remember you and they're going to love you and they're going to remember the good that you did
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and the impact you made point number five something that you should absolutely fear is dying alone and I
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don't mean specifically finding and having just a significant other it's way more than that and we're
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seeing it right now I'm talking about relationships in general how many lasting friendships do you have
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how many lasting relationships did you have if you did anything right in your life you should have at
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least a few ask yourself right now if you have any that will actually be there at the end or
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if you die alone will actually care about you past that time it's a real question I know it's morbid
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and I know it's scary but it's real and you have to ask yourself how many people have I been loyal to
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how many people have I treated the right way how many have I cultivated a better life for
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have I built relationships where I actually cared about people and cared for people if not it's time to
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get to work on yourself just like any earlier point you have to have some significance a lot of that is how you
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reflect and behave to those around you you need to bring people up with you you need to bring them on your
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journey to success and you need to work by inspiring them through the example that you live not the example that you
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talk about living you need to aspire to the point that every single time you come in contact with
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someone new they walk away saying damn that's a good fucking dude I'm glad I met that guy so
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by now when we go through these five points okay are you guys starting to see how easily all this is
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connected I mean I hate to keep coming back to death but I think when we take into consideration
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what's going on in the world right now it really does drive the point home for us okay you have to
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think at my funeral is there going to be a single person in the room is there going to be a handful of
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people talking to hush voices how they haven't talked to me in years or is it going to be totally
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different are they going to have to sell tickets because there's so many people that want to come to your
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funeral are they going to have to fight over who gets to perform your eulogy all right these are
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the things that I think about are people going to stay out all night celebrating my life and telling
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my story and being thankful for meeting me and having it be a key turning point in their life
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I'm not going to lie guys I know it sounds egotistical but that's what I think about I'm not
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afraid of dying or death not not in the literal sense I'm afraid of being mediocre I'm afraid of
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not having a legacy I'm afraid of not cultivating relationships and dying alone I'm afraid of being
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so afraid of offending someone that no one thought I had a single fucking opinion about anything
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but most of all I'm afraid of living a completely insignificant life so I know you're sitting at home
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right now and you're probably listening to this and you're probably staring at your tv and you're
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wondering should I go stock up on hand sanitizer should I get gallon jugs of water what's my boss
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going to think if I stay locked up inside until all this passes look man all this is bullshit what you
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really need to be thinking about now is what legacy are you going to build what success look like to you
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what does the ideal existence look like to you what do the best relationships look like to you
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because if you don't start thinking this way it doesn't matter if you die now or you die 50 years
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from now at the end of the day no one's going to give a fuck and that should scare you
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I told my teacher dumb bitch I'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living