REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 17. The Panic Pandemic： Are You Infected With These 5 Fears？

00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my 0.99

00:00:11.520 watch cost 250. what's up guys andy priscilla here and this is the show for the realist say 0.99

00:00:17.560 goodbye to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.97

00:00:22.920 reality guys listen up i'm just gonna say it everybody's thinking it i'm sick of the coronavirus 0.98

00:00:31.280 not saying i'm sick actually i'm sick of it i'm not ignorant i understand the gravity of what's

00:00:37.380 going on but in light of everything that's going on right now i thought this would be a good

00:00:41.700 opportunity to talk about something that we all have in common right now whether you want to admit

00:00:48.900 it or not and that's fear and we're all fearful because we are uncertain my opinion there's been

00:00:56.600 a very poor job of delivering the actual facts to us in this crisis situation right now and i've

00:01:04.460 really struggled to find what it is i want to talk about with you guys because dude the truth is

00:01:11.100 with this level of anxiety and fear man talking about how to kick ass and business and you know 0.69

00:01:17.380 do all these things uh kind of seems like it's not that important right but i started thinking

00:01:25.640 about it and i was thinking about it last night and i've been thinking about it the last couple weeks

00:01:30.580 i've been talking to my guys here uh my guys here in the room with me my dot and joe who helped put

00:01:35.620 on the show and uh they're good buddies of mine and other good buddies um and and and my wife and

00:01:41.380 and my friends i've been talking about you know man i just haven't been that motivated to talk

00:01:46.160 about these these lessons that i normally talk about because there's so much going on and then 0.77

00:01:51.360 what i figured out was damn dude like this is actually the time people need these messages and

00:01:57.400 so my promise to you guys is uh it took me a few weeks to let this sink in really kind of question 0.93

00:02:04.660 what i was doing with my own content but i want you to know i'm going to continue making content the

00:02:09.480 exact same way that i've been making it um because i think we need it i think we need to stay focused

00:02:15.000 focused on the positive focused on what we can gain focused on how we can improve and really this

00:02:20.040 is no different than what i've been telling you guys for the last five or six years on podcasting

00:02:25.620 and then uh you know for the last decade on the internet is that look hard things are going to come

00:02:32.540 up bad things are going to happen and you have to be the kind of person that learns how to not only

00:02:40.660 push through but also how to come out the other side better and that's what we're gonna that's the

00:02:47.920 tone i feel like taking here and i think that's um that's what i'm going to continue doing you know

00:02:53.280 i'm not immune to fear guys you know it's scary it's scary what's going on i feel so um emotionally

00:03:01.720 upset about what's going on not just with the people dying but with the businesses that are dying

00:03:10.280 and with the people who are struggling and you know i think about um some of my friends i was

00:03:15.860 talking to one of my friends online the other night and they work in vegas and they work her whole family 0.71

00:03:22.940 works on the strip and they don't have jobs right now and they don't have pay and the pay they do get

00:03:28.920 isn't covering what they could have made in tips and their whole family is like that the dad the mom

00:03:34.380 uh the brother the sister and this person and and it breaks my heart man it tears my heart apart

00:03:42.800 to hear about people like this and and these people who have worked decades and decades and decades

00:03:49.000 to build companies that are just now like fucking gone and um i i'm i'm being honest 0.96

00:03:58.920 with you guys you know that emotionally upsets me you know my companies are doing very well we're in 0.93

00:04:03.360 the health space i'm not going to say we're crushing it but all things considered i'm very appreciative of

00:04:08.500 where we are in life and business and um it's just a hard situation and we're all scared and really

00:04:17.520 that brings me to what i want to talk about today which which is fear okay we're all nervous right now

00:04:24.200 we're all filled with anxiety but the thing you have to remember is the only way to get the fear

00:04:30.820 out and to get the anxiety out is to take productive action and so that's what i want to get into today

00:04:37.360 um you know in my opinion too many people out there really fear the wrong things and they base all their

00:04:44.740 actions off of this inconceivable worst case scenario fear they're worried about you know what other people

00:04:52.660 think they're worried about what uh kind of mood their boss is going to be in today they make a

00:04:58.420 mistake in front of someone else and they're worried they're going to get laughed at they're afraid of

00:05:02.280 failing so you know they don't want to take any risks uh they're in front of you at costco right now 0.99

00:05:07.640 we see these people everywhere they're right they're buying 277 rolls of fucking toilet paper 0.99

00:05:12.580 not realizing they could have avoided the whole thing by staying home and just not being selfish 0.99

00:05:18.100 okay back in the great depression guys fdr said this he said we had nothing to fear but fear itself

00:05:25.520 i'm sure you've heard that quote before i call bullshit i absolutely think there are things that

00:05:32.560 you should fear and you should fear them very strongly okay fear is also a motivator and if you use it

00:05:40.740 right it can be the most powerful driver of your success fear forces us to realize and become aware

00:05:48.540 of our surroundings and then take action on them you just have to make sure that you're afraid of the

00:05:54.700 right things and not some unfounded scary insignificant thing like taking your shirt off at the pool okay this

00:06:03.400 is what most people fear so what i want to do is i want to go through the five things that i think

00:06:10.640 you should absolutely be afraid of even during this crisis that we're going through right now

00:06:16.760 okay so the first thing i want to talk about is mediocrity all right being stuck in the hamster

00:06:23.540 wheel of life is absolutely the worst thing that you can do to impede your success laziness kills the soul

00:06:31.400 and it also crushes creativity you have to realize when you've come to that point and that point is that

00:06:39.020 moment you find yourself thinking that you've made it it's that moment you say to yourself i've got it

00:06:45.320 made i could sit back and relax and just enjoy the ride well i think we've all figured out in the last

00:06:52.120 couple weeks that that really is never the case and i've been telling you that for a number of years

00:06:56.860 henry ford said this himself mediocrity is the worst enemy of prosperity and did we not live in a world

00:07:05.120 that embraced mediocrity just three weeks ago he was right and it isn't even that hard of a concept

00:07:12.780 to grasp when you've decided to fit in with the crowd to set easy goals and chill once you hit them

00:07:19.420 that's it for you guys there's nowhere to go from there you're done you're forgettable congratulations 0.98

00:07:25.200 you have a 16 foot bass boat and a decent truck and not one person around you gives a fuck or will 0.98

00:07:32.400 remember you and which brings me to my next point which is insignificance okay we have mediocrity 0.94

00:07:39.060 now we've got insignificance one leads to the next what's worse than realizing nothing in your life

00:07:46.560 had any meaning and realizing way too late in life that you did what you could to barely get by and hit

00:07:53.240 the lowest common point of the american dream that was possible for you at some point you're going to

00:08:00.160 be fourth in line at the grocery store with a cart full of water bottles and 200 rolls of toilet paper

00:08:05.880 and you're going to suddenly think to yourself what the hell is the point of this is it going to matter

00:08:11.500 in a year in a few months do i have legacy whatsoever my kids going to be proud of me are the people that i

00:08:18.220 consider friends now even going to show up at my funeral are they even going to have anything to say

00:08:23.780 at all that should scare you insignificance is a scary thought insignificance is something that

00:08:31.500 should keep you up on a daily basis insignificance is something that you should truly fear you know

00:08:39.340 what the third thing you should fear is a life that offends no one first off why do you even worry 0.71

00:08:47.160 about people who don't give a shit about you in the first place too many people go through life 0.63

00:08:51.580 afraid of offending every single person around them and then they adopt behaviors that actually 0.97

00:08:57.520 lead to mediocrity which leads to insignificance because of this fear they make the same shitty 0.73

00:09:04.240 jokes as everyone else around them they pick their clothes to make sure they fit in with the same 0.55

00:09:09.120 group they bring nothing to a conversation that hasn't been deemed appropriate and verified by the

00:09:15.560 masses and then what ends up happening they become completely mediocre they become

00:09:21.300 completely insignificant and they can't figure out why this is why because you're so afraid of what

00:09:31.340 everybody else is going to say that you do nothing and when you do nothing you by default become

00:09:39.160 mediocre okay so this all ties together mediocrity insignificance life that offends no one what's after

00:09:48.680 that well this is the worst part regret that's point number four my dad always said this to me and my

00:09:56.240 brother growing up hey how long you gonna be dead and we would all look at him and he would go a long

00:10:03.620 fucking time right and we'd be like yeah and I know that's a little morbid and blunt but you know what 0.98

00:10:08.780 dude big Jim is right at the end of your life you're gonna think one of two things oh shit it's too late and I 0.99

00:10:15.760 didn't achieve what I wanted to or you know what I kicked ass and I did the best I could so you have 0.99

00:10:22.500 to ask yourself are you taking any risks are you achieving anything are you doing anything worthy of

00:10:30.180 bringing a legacy to your name you can't wait until the last minute of your life to address these questions 0.98

00:10:37.320 are you going to come up with one answer and that answer is no and guess what that answer does it sucks 0.79

00:10:43.860 and I feel sorry for people that come to that answer and take their whole life to get there

00:10:48.200 the only way you can avoid this is if you're constantly asking these questions right now

00:10:54.000 ask yourself am I happy do I have what I want am I who I want to be am I creating the impact I want to

00:11:02.880 create am I setting the right example for my family my friends my community am I am I am I ask

00:11:09.860 yourself the difficult questions and answer them honestly and if you don't get the right answer

00:11:15.600 guess what you could still make changes you need to adjust and you need to start setting goals and

00:11:22.060 working towards them if you don't like the answers to those questions guess what you're still alive

00:11:27.620 you're still breathing air your heart's still pumping you still have the opportunity to adjust

00:11:34.180 so start setting goals and working towards them now and that brings me to the last thing that you

00:11:41.880 should fear and that's point number five and this is sad because this is happening right now and this

00:11:50.460 should serve as an example of why it's so important to do all the things that I mentioned right before

00:11:58.200 this the first four points why they are so important because right now we are witnessing

00:12:04.520 thousands upon thousands of people dying and not only are they dying they're dying alone see dying alone

00:12:12.900 is a fear that a lot of people have dying alone is one of those fears that people think about but they

00:12:21.140 don't think it's actually going to happen to them well it's happening right now to a lot of people

00:12:26.580 who didn't think it was going to happen to them and what's going to be their legacy what's going to

00:12:33.400 be their remembrance what's going to be their purpose for being here you see we don't know when

00:12:40.100 we're going to die we don't know when things like this are going to happen okay we can't plan for them

00:12:46.300 so that means we have to take every single day of our life to move towards the scenario to where

00:12:54.340 you get to a point in life where you could be taken right now and people are still going to

00:13:00.060 remember you and they're going to love you and they're going to remember the good that you did

00:13:03.600 and the impact you made point number five something that you should absolutely fear is dying alone and I

00:13:11.380 don't mean specifically finding and having just a significant other it's way more than that and we're

00:13:17.080 seeing it right now I'm talking about relationships in general how many lasting friendships do you have

00:13:23.660 how many lasting relationships did you have if you did anything right in your life you should have at

00:13:28.700 least a few ask yourself right now if you have any that will actually be there at the end or

00:13:35.380 if you die alone will actually care about you past that time it's a real question I know it's morbid

00:13:45.780 and I know it's scary but it's real and you have to ask yourself how many people have I been loyal to

00:13:52.980 how many people have I treated the right way how many have I cultivated a better life for

00:14:00.320 have I built relationships where I actually cared about people and cared for people if not it's time to

00:14:10.340 get to work on yourself just like any earlier point you have to have some significance a lot of that is how you

00:14:18.620 reflect and behave to those around you you need to bring people up with you you need to bring them on your

00:14:26.000 journey to success and you need to work by inspiring them through the example that you live not the example that you

00:14:35.460 talk about living you need to aspire to the point that every single time you come in contact with 0.97

00:14:42.040 someone new they walk away saying damn that's a good fucking dude I'm glad I met that guy so 0.95

00:14:49.100 by now when we go through these five points okay are you guys starting to see how easily all this is 0.99

00:14:58.060 connected I mean I hate to keep coming back to death but I think when we take into consideration

00:15:05.040 what's going on in the world right now it really does drive the point home for us okay you have to

00:15:10.160 think at my funeral is there going to be a single person in the room is there going to be a handful of

00:15:16.160 people talking to hush voices how they haven't talked to me in years or is it going to be totally

00:15:20.940 different are they going to have to sell tickets because there's so many people that want to come to your

00:15:25.820 funeral are they going to have to fight over who gets to perform your eulogy all right these are

00:15:32.260 the things that I think about are people going to stay out all night celebrating my life and telling

00:15:37.260 my story and being thankful for meeting me and having it be a key turning point in their life

00:15:43.400 I'm not going to lie guys I know it sounds egotistical but that's what I think about I'm not

00:15:49.840 afraid of dying or death not not in the literal sense I'm afraid of being mediocre I'm afraid of

00:15:57.700 not having a legacy I'm afraid of not cultivating relationships and dying alone I'm afraid of being 0.96

00:16:04.220 so afraid of offending someone that no one thought I had a single fucking opinion about anything 0.91

00:16:09.680 but most of all I'm afraid of living a completely insignificant life so I know you're sitting at home 0.95

00:16:18.140 right now and you're probably listening to this and you're probably staring at your tv and you're

00:16:21.040 wondering should I go stock up on hand sanitizer should I get gallon jugs of water what's my boss 1.00

00:16:28.560 going to think if I stay locked up inside until all this passes look man all this is bullshit what you 0.93

00:16:34.820 really need to be thinking about now is what legacy are you going to build what success look like to you 0.87

00:16:42.080 what does the ideal existence look like to you what do the best relationships look like to you

00:16:49.500 because if you don't start thinking this way it doesn't matter if you die now or you die 50 years 0.98

00:16:55.880 from now at the end of the day no one's going to give a fuck and that should scare you 1.00

00:17:01.420 I told my teacher dumb bitch I'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00

00:17:06.240 spoke it till existence 1.00

00:17:07.800 I'm from where you can't trust so welcome

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 03, 2020

17. The Panic Pandemic： Are You Infected With These 5 Fears？

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