REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 11, 2021


171. Q&AF： How To Handle Rejection, Winning With #75HARD & Andy's Biggest Fear

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In this episode of the What the Realest, we have a special guest on the show today, Andy Forsell. Andy has been in the real estate business for 23 years and has been through a lot of rejections and no's in that time period. In this episode Andy talks about how he handled them and how he's dealt with them over the years.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to 0.98
00:00:21.480 the lies of fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality 0.98
00:00:25.280 guys today we have what we good oh i thought you said something i thought he shit his pants i thought 0.98
00:00:31.140 i heard a fart yeah whatever that was all right cool i guess we'll keep going well today we have a
00:00:36.660 what do we got q and a f hey man listen we keep it real here i don't that was weird bro i literally 0.95
00:00:46.120 thought he just shit himself dude i don't know what that was but i thought he said something 0.96
00:00:52.280 what the fuck man all right well hey guys what's up we got a q and a f for you guys today uh 1.00
00:01:04.380 maybe we should just go straight to uh cruise the internet hey all right fuck it uh as a reminder 0.99
00:01:10.920 there's a fee for the show the show is not free if um if we prefer i can't even fucking do this shit 0.99
00:01:17.080 out bro that was like a low-grade e-flat over there bro he shit himself let's just start with 1.00
00:01:25.640 the q and a f holy fuck if you don't know the fee by now then what the fuck are you doing with your 1.00
00:01:30.080 life yeah all right uh yeah let's just go yeah man all right let's get it in how's your day going 1.00
00:01:38.720 it's good i just got done talking to ed my let about this uh arte summit we got coming up this week
00:01:44.220 next week in uh miami that's pretty cool um it's gonna be awesome i'm excited for that yeah i got
00:01:49.360 my my leg training in got my cardio done got some meetings done productive yeah not busy done not
00:01:55.840 busy no productive yes it is what it is bro cool all right uh so you guys know how this works i got
00:02:03.440 three questions for andy as always you guys can email your questions in to ask andy at andy for
00:02:07.760 seller.com with that being said let's get to it so question number one 23 years in business right
00:02:14.940 i know that you've probably faced more rejections and more no's than anybody else probably on the
00:02:21.800 planet right now okay how did you handle those rejections back then and versus like how do you
00:02:28.160 handle those rejections now if any i mean look the thing you got to remember is you're gonna have
00:02:36.720 especially when you're first starting out you have this like idea of what your business is going
00:02:40.340 to be and you're trying to communicate to people um and they have no reason to believe you you know
00:02:45.760 you haven't created anything you're not experienced you don't have a a line of accomplishments you're
00:02:51.880 fresh you're brand new and uh they don't have any reason to believe in you and there's a you know 0.97
00:02:56.820 millions of other people that say the same shit you're saying and you have to realize that so like a lot 0.91
00:03:02.700 of times in the beginning when you get a no the reason you get a no is because there's so many 0.99
00:03:07.480 people out there that just talk about the shit they're going to do and never do it that people 0.89
00:03:11.360 are conditioned to that so they're like yeah it's not a disrespect thing it's more like okay well go do 0.98
00:03:17.860 something get some shit going and then we'll talk you know and i think that's important to understand 0.98
00:03:22.580 uh when you start out you're going to get you know you're going to get fucking 30 no's for every 0.99
00:03:28.660 one yes it might be a hundred no's for every one yes uh you're going to get no's to even get people 0.93
00:03:34.520 to work for you because they don't believe in you you know like they're managing the belief in what you
00:03:42.300 do and what you're trying to do uh really comes down to the evidence that you have to support
00:03:48.680 yourself you know and to get that evidence you have to accomplish things and and that takes time
00:03:54.180 so persevering through the concept of a heavy wave of no's uh in the beginning of your business life
00:04:01.220 you know it's just something you got to do i wouldn't really worry about it i think it's normal
00:04:06.020 i think people i think people have a really hard time hearing no you know and for me how i handled it
00:04:11.300 was always the same still how i handle it um but i could tell you that like nobody tells me no
00:04:17.820 you know i'm saying like they just don't i've got there's too much horsepower too much momentum
00:04:22.940 like if i say i'm gonna go fucking invent this i have 50 other things that i've touched that i've 0.95
00:04:28.100 built that i could show like well this is my evidence this is why it's a yes yeah so i don't
00:04:34.480 get many no's anymore now if i do i do it the same way i would do it in the beginning which is i take 0.96
00:04:40.260 inventory of it uh i remember that the motherfucker told me no and then i i use it as ammunition to get 0.85
00:04:47.000 me moving and i take that and i and when things get hard when things get tough uh when i don't feel 0.99
00:04:52.720 like doing what i need to do i remember those things and i think about the motherfuckers that 0.95
00:04:56.660 told me no and told me they didn't believe in me and told me to get a real job that's why whenever 0.95
00:05:00.600 like i make you know some smart ass posts on my story and i you know i'll post something real cool 0.65
00:05:06.240 and the caption will say uh yeah i still got that little vitamin shot yeah you know i'm saying because
00:05:11.620 that's what i used to hear all the time hey andy you still got that little vitamin shot a little 0.98
00:05:15.340 retail dude i still hear that shit sometimes you know from like local people that don't have any 0.99
00:05:19.600 clue what i'm doing disconnected from yeah correct yeah uh they're disconnected from the fucking world 0.98
00:05:23.840 apparently yeah but uh you know it is what it is so like i would use those those those any 0.85
00:05:31.900 disbelieving voice is a useful tool for you if you understand how to fucking use it you know what i 0.91
00:05:38.300 mean but most people uh let those negative criticisms or that that voice of disbelief uh 0.90
00:05:46.560 or those knows that you're going to get cripple them from actually doing anything yeah and you know
00:05:51.840 that's i think you know handling that first wave of nobody believes that's going to last for your for
00:05:57.640 your first five or six years in business uh is one of the most important times to push through
00:06:03.200 you know what i'm saying yeah that's fucking awesome so i want to i want to semi switch gears 0.73
00:06:10.280 real quick um this is a 75 hard question for you so we're what three four years now into 75 hard right 0.70
00:06:18.140 you've created this yeah three years and and i mean over a billion hashtags on tiktok right like i mean
00:06:24.420 this this program's changed like literally it's changed a lot okay yeah out of all of that right
00:06:29.980 what for you personally right as the creator of this of this program what what's been uh what's
00:06:37.440 been what's been the biggest thing that's made you proud or or like like give you some type of like
00:06:42.640 you know i'm saying like like what's made you most proud about well i mean it's not a most proud it's
00:06:47.520 it's it's renewed that's renewable i could say the same thing every day anytime i see someone or talk
00:06:52.980 to someone like we had josiah here last week yeah um you know when i talk to people who have
00:07:00.360 truly changed who they are by going through the program uh it doesn't matter it never gets old
00:07:07.360 to me so it's not like you know like i don't look at it on a macro scale like holy shit dude it's the 0.93
00:07:12.720 this many it's the most popular program like i don't fucking that's not what i that's not how i look at 0.94
00:07:18.800 it like i take my wins from that program uh first off from myself okay like i look at the changes in
00:07:27.040 myself i i'm very proud of those changes i think about how i used to handle things uh for example
00:07:35.780 this injury that i've been dealing with with my shoulder you know if that were three or four years
00:07:40.660 ago and i couldn't train because i've been not able to train upper body at all uh just a little bit
00:07:45.980 a little bit of arms a little bit of back but i mean it's a pretty serious injury and three or four 0.99
00:07:50.600 years ago had that happened i would have put on 30 40 fucking pounds because i would have said fuck 0.96
00:07:55.320 and i can't do anything and you know here i am basically uh you know pretty much doing the best 0.98
00:08:00.380 that i can kind of holding steady to where i was i'm up a few pounds um but you know that's a big win
00:08:08.140 you know what i mean and so like i i'm proud of those things first because those things allow me
00:08:13.000 to set a better example for all these people listening and all the people that are customers
00:08:17.560 of our brands and our companies and our movements and the things that we do uh because i take that
00:08:21.800 obligation serious but like i don't ever i don't have one out one like big win that i said oh you know
00:08:27.380 i look at an individual dude when i hear these individual stories when i get to talk to people or
00:08:32.300 hear or even just read their real stories on the internet like dude i take the same amount of pride in
00:08:37.860 that every time you know and it's not like i don't look at like a lot of people try to over credit me
00:08:42.660 for these things they say oh dude thank you if it wasn't for you you know you saved my life no i 0.94
00:08:47.720 fucking didn't save your life you saved your life and that's the fucking point the point is is we're all 0.97
00:08:53.840 in control we're all able to save ourselves we all have the ability to build whatever the fuck we need 0.99
00:09:00.120 uh skill wise inside of ourselves if we just understood that things are skills not traits
00:09:07.940 for the most part and that they are within our control and once we learn how to operate within 0.91
00:09:13.260 the system of how things really are it's not me doing it you're doing the fucking work i'm just show 0.99
00:09:19.600 you the fucking way to do it and um so there's no you know i don't i don't know like i don't i just 0.98
00:09:27.260 look at it on an individual basis bro like anytime i can hear a story or read a story and i can tell 0.99
00:09:32.080 it's genuine and people really change and i'm not talking just losing weight i'm talking about like
00:09:36.100 chain like where they've woken up they're a different person yeah right they've they've woken
00:09:40.820 up to realize that all these things they saw in other people yeah mental toughness discipline
00:09:45.260 fortitude grit uh the ability to persevere confidence self-belief all of these things they
00:09:51.100 thought that people were just born with that they didn't happen to be gifted with now they 0.89
00:09:56.820 understand holy fuck i've been in control this the whole time and i know that if i do this i can 0.93
00:10:01.240 produce this and this and this dude that's a pretty rewarding experience like i honestly it's it's like 0.99
00:10:07.840 it's like taking someone out of the fucking darkness and and showing them the world for the first 0.89
00:10:14.180 fucking time and like that to me is where it's at yeah you know what i'm saying yeah and and and so 0.97
00:10:20.760 like dude it's kind of hard to explain and you know if if this was a business for me like if 75 0.98
00:10:27.540 hard and live hard was like a quote-unquote business uh initiative for me i i would probably look at it 0.91
00:10:34.280 and say oh dude it's the most popular program that's ever fucking existed yeah because it fucking is yeah 0.90
00:10:38.980 and did you expect that by the way like no i didn't did you know that was gonna like no but i knew that 0.98
00:10:43.660 it was the only mental the mental it's a mental development program right right and it's only fucking 0.99
00:10:48.180 one and and there's really no way to make it better yeah so it is what the fuck it is bro 0.99
00:10:52.840 you know like i did something cool with my life you know what i'm saying like uh but you know 0.91
00:10:59.480 i i don't i don't look at it like that dude i just look at it like one at a time man it's how i
00:11:05.860 look at everything it's how i look at building businesses it's how i look at building movements
00:11:09.440 it's how i look at building cultures it's how all of you guys who have businesses should look at
00:11:13.860 your business it's one at a time one at a time one at a time and and uh you know it never gets old
00:11:19.140 hearing it because dude as you know you've been with me for almost two years now every single day
00:11:23.580 um i get people that come up to me almost every day and it's not uncommon for them to get emotional
00:11:30.960 or or to to to cry or and it happens all the time and uh and and all different places and bro it's
00:11:39.440 it's it's really fucking cool and and i think on the bigger on the bigger side like you know where 0.54
00:11:46.300 i'm proud is i know that those people are going home and they're becoming better leaders they're 0.78
00:11:51.840 becoming better uh leaders in their community they're standing up for what they know is right
00:11:55.780 because now they have the confidence to do so and those things all make our country better which i
00:12:01.260 think when i think about like when i think about it like that on the big impact yeah that that's
00:12:06.240 what gets me most excited yeah they're better they're better mothers they're better yeah that's 0.97
00:12:09.820 right they're better at fucking everything yeah and and so um you know that's where those are where 0.95
00:12:16.520 i get my my little you know fulfillment from with those things yeah that's fucking awesome yeah okay 0.96
00:12:22.040 so uh that that's that's two questions our last question um and i'm really really curious to see
00:12:29.320 see your answer or hear your answer to this andy what is your biggest fear 0.97
00:12:34.740 uh man leaving leaving shit on the table for me you know it's um it's i don't want to i don't want 0.92
00:12:46.980 like dude i think about this like people think i don't know that i don't know if it's normal to 0.95
00:12:51.260 think about this but like i think about things like what would my actual last thought be right
00:12:56.460 so like when i when i got uh misdiagnosed with a brain tumor um back in 2012 um
00:13:04.740 ended up having a cyst still have it um 0.89
00:13:07.660 i remember when i first was told that i remember my first thought was holy fuck dude i haven't 0.98
00:13:19.320 fucking done anything my life is over that was my first thought like literal first thought and it 0.86
00:13:24.680 was like a panic thought like my stump like first stomach drop yeah like it was it's hard to describe 0.98
00:13:30.720 unless you've experienced it and um you know i've had two like two instances where i had to really
00:13:37.980 come to terms with the fact that i might actually die and one was when i got stabbed but that happened 0.85
00:13:44.900 so fast and it was so traumatic that i didn't have time to think about it it was more so shit was just 0.52
00:13:50.020 happening yeah and so there was no reflection you know what i'm saying like as it was happening
00:13:55.060 yeah now afterwards there was right but then you realize how close you actually yeah yeah but
00:14:00.460 when i got that diagnosis which thankfully was wrong um you know that i got to think about it right
00:14:11.700 like you know i had to fucking drive home from getting that news yeah you know what i'm saying and 0.98
00:14:16.520 i remember my first thought was definitely fucking panic like holy fuck i haven't accomplished anything 0.99
00:14:23.140 i haven't done any of the things i'm capable of i fucking half-assed most of the shit in my life 0.99
00:14:28.000 like i thought back like i thought about all the things i could have done that i didn't do because i 0.94
00:14:32.680 was like i like pussed out yeah right you know what i'm saying and like all of those things like
00:14:38.500 came at me at one time you know what i'm saying yeah and so uh that that is a feeling i don't want to 0.93
00:14:47.440 experience again so i think what my biggest fear probably is now is leaving so much shit on the 0.93
00:14:56.500 table that i have that feeling like no matter what like like whether it was a car accident or a 0.97
00:15:04.240 fucking uh uh sickness or whatever if i had any time to think about it like i don't want to have to 0.99
00:15:10.600 have that feeling when i'm thinking about it you know i'm saying i want to say well fuck dude it is 1.00
00:15:14.180 good shit because we're all gonna die that's right like that's something we all we know that 0.99
00:15:18.700 and i want to think you know that my existence fucking mattered yeah it is my existence perfect 0.99
00:15:24.620 absolutely not are there people out there that probably don't like me sure but i've done the 0.89
00:15:30.340 best that i could fucking do like i could honestly say like if that happened to me right now i could say 0.90
00:15:34.640 okay all right i did some some shit i at least set a bunch of people in the right direction 0.98
00:15:40.820 you know i'm saying that matters bro that shit matters and i believe that you know people talk 0.99
00:15:46.620 about legacy and they talk about wanting to leave shit behind and they but nobody ever really thinks 0.98
00:15:51.620 about cultural legacy they never think about like did i show people how to live right you know what i 0.97
00:15:56.740 mean did i show people how to um you know be better the right way but through my example like i think
00:16:04.400 i think people underestimate how important that really is because you know um like you said we are 0.87
00:16:13.820 all going to deal with those whatever we're gonna have to take inventory and those fucking at that at 0.99
00:16:19.280 some point in some point in life it had to be real with ourselves and that's where the basis of the 0.97
00:16:23.720 show comes from this is why i tell the fucking truth as i see the truth okay um because i don't ever 0.99
00:16:30.300 want to look back and be like man i wish i had spoke up i wish i had stood up i wish i had fucking 0.97
00:16:35.280 done this or i wish i had done that or you know i wish i had built that company to the best way that 0.62
00:16:40.160 i could or i wish i had done my podcast every day like all you know what i'm saying i wish i would 0.98
00:16:46.680 have got in shade yeah i don't want to fuck i don't want i don't want to think about nothing like 0.99
00:16:50.060 that i want i want to be able to say okay well at least i did what the fuck i was here to do 0.99
00:16:54.260 yeah and and uh so so not fulfilling that probably would be uh pretty big fear of mine 0.71
00:17:01.900 outside of that like i don't i don't i'm not saying i'm not scared of anything spiders none of
00:17:06.860 that yeah like i don't like snakes like but you know real real talk that's that's where i'm at
00:17:13.980 that's fucking powerful man cool man well andy uh this was a quick one but i i think this this 0.67
00:17:19.300 was deep and that's three i think pay the fee yeah so guys if you like the show uh if it taught 0.97
00:17:26.120 you something made you think if it gave you a new perspective if you thought it was valuable if you
00:17:29.680 think your friends should listen to it do us a favor and uh share the show you know uh with the way 0.98
00:17:34.360 social media is cracking down and they're definitely cracking down hard on me uh just for being fucking 0.95
00:17:40.560 honest um you know share the show you know we don't we don't ask for money here we don't run ads i
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00:17:53.660 love you guys i'll talk to you next time went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze 1.00
00:17:59.400 fuck a bowl fuck a stove counted millions in the cold bad bitch booted swole got her on bank road 1.00
00:18:06.020 can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00
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