REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 173. Q&AF： Inter-Relationship Dynamics, Handling Employees & Overcoming Social Awkwardness

00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the

00:00:21.140 lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality

00:00:25.800 guys today we have a q and a f is that right that is right okay and i'm here with my man dj what's up

00:00:32.840 dude white lightning what's going on baby bro um you have something you would like to address yeah

00:00:37.980 i do man mass is it okay if i speak hey so hey man dude dj's gotta rant a little bit let me let me

00:00:47.820 pull this fucking the floor is yours i pre the plantation field is mine thank you uh so there

00:00:54.600 is this review that we got on the podcast okay and um debug 85 whoever you are my guy talk i want

00:01:02.100 to talk to you for a minute so you say quote i really enjoy this show but i wish dj would stand

00:01:07.440 up more for his views if andy doesn't agree with his view he backs down real quick i get agreeing with

00:01:13.100 your boss even when they're wrong i think this is a platform to be honest and stand up for your

00:01:17.680 beliefs um why are you such a pussy bro yeah apparently i'm just this you know bro dude this

00:01:24.920 shit like this actually pisses me off though because this is my thing man first of all yes

00:01:31.180 you're my boss right i don't pay you to agree with me no i actually pay you to not agree exactly and

00:01:36.900 which we do all the time yeah right like if you guys don't know i pay this man and his team to keep

00:01:43.060 me from getting killed that's my that's my main problem there's a lot of times where he has to

00:01:46.540 tell me what the fuck to do and i listen yes and so but like the thing is man like i think this just

00:01:53.040 speaks to a bigger a bigger thing is is that people are not used to hearing how real conversations should

00:01:58.880 go uh right like like we have on this show real conversation yeah with real fucking people with real

00:02:06.060 opinions with real experience with with real knowledge of the world and real opinions right like but we have

00:02:12.740 real genuine conversation and guys not every conversation is going to be something that you

00:02:18.180 agree with here's the mature side when andy says something because he's been doing this longer than i

00:02:23.580 have and he has a different opinion on something or a different uh experience on something because

00:02:28.100 he's fucking 103 years old which is true and i just happen to agree with it it's not because he's my

00:02:33.740 fucking boss it's because hey he's probably saying some shit that that's factual that's real like bro like

00:02:39.080 this comment i just it blows me man well i think where it bothers you bro is that it's insinuates

00:02:45.580 that your opinion and truth is for sale which it isn't yeah like i mean like what the fuck like dude

00:02:50.480 when we first uh i don't want to say got together because we're not fucking in a relationship but

00:02:54.900 but like no like but like we're not bro when i first came around like that was one of the first

00:02:59.080 things you told me he was like hey i like what you have to say yeah well shit i like what you have

00:03:03.200 to say yeah like all right we'll say it together you know i'm saying like it's never been that you know

00:03:08.400 and so i don't i don't know who debug 85 is man look bro it listen listen this is your first taste

00:03:13.920 of internet criticism is this what this is yeah you don't like am i an influencer now like what the

00:03:17.920 fuck bro look here's the deal if you guys pay attention to how we communicate it's real simple

00:03:22.780 i'll say he'll say something and sometimes i'll say yeah but blah blah blah blah blah right and he'll be

00:03:29.700 like okay i see it like that too and then i'm like but what about this and then we we navigate our

00:03:35.680 way down the path you know what i'm saying and like what this person is saying is essentially

00:03:40.720 that and this is why you're upset about it it's essentially that your opinion and your beliefs

00:03:45.560 and your integrity is for fucking sales bald and so and it's not no and that's not the kind of man

00:03:50.180 that you are so it offends you yeah right i'm offended bro i'm offended and i mean i think i think

00:03:56.000 it's just weak shit um personally i don't know but you understand what i'm saying i do yeah i do and

00:04:00.820 i think that it doesn't feel good when people when people say that like dude you know you're only

00:04:04.580 saying that because of blah blah blah motherfucker you don't know what the fuck anybody thinks i have

00:04:08.300 no idea and dude what it is is that person disagrees with me and they think because you're you you

00:04:13.000 should disagree with that i'm supposed to right and which is a whole nother conversation yeah so

00:04:16.480 which really means that you're not box no that you're not fitting into that motherfucker's box

00:04:21.000 exactly that's right and that alone like that that by itself bro hey it sound kind of racist

00:04:26.420 right i'm just saying well at the very i don't know if it's racist but like it's definitely

00:04:31.320 uh you're not it's pro bullshit yeah just because someone doesn't disagree with someone that you

00:04:36.580 disagree with you think it's because money that's a reflection of that you would change your opinion

00:04:42.280 yeah based upon money well i'm doing like that's projecting bro and i call like really i bet that

00:04:47.300 person bro i bet you a hundred bucks bro that they don't fucking disagree with anybody anything

00:04:51.740 their boss says oh 100 because that that's what they're they're they're thinking like fuck

00:04:56.400 dude i gotta agree with my boss that's some miserable shit yeah and you'll go nowhere yeah

00:05:00.740 you'll go nowhere you know i i think it's important that you you keep an open mind which

00:05:05.040 is what i call myself doing right like i know that i'm young i know that that you know there's a lot

00:05:10.380 of things in this world that i haven't got a chance to do just yet and so when i have somebody that's

00:05:14.040 in front of me that has that experience guess what i'm gonna do i'm gonna shut the fuck up and

00:05:17.240 listen right because i can learn from that well going back to our our uh show about belief

00:05:24.160 our question about belief we hit on a while back um how's your life now compared to the day we met

00:05:31.240 bro i'm i'm still the best fucking drug dealer out here baby yeah that's right i'm saying like so so

00:05:36.380 like dude hit like there's evidence for him to like actually listen to what you know i had to say

00:05:42.860 100 well i mean dude like i mean i'm at this point too and it's fucking weird bro it is weird

00:05:47.320 it is weird but i'm at a point now man like andy if you told me to you know we go up on the

00:05:52.200 fucking roof and jump off i'd do it yeah but you know because i know that i wouldn't tell you to

00:05:57.020 do that there's a fucking there's a parachute you're gonna toss there's gonna be something

00:06:00.160 yeah but like i i i've there there's i've crossed the line you know i'm saying like of of of that

00:06:06.140 that's trust i'm past that yeah i'm not gonna i would never do that no well like dude people like

00:06:11.100 this man i think it's just a projection of their own the own way they think you know 100 so i

00:06:16.080 challenge you to grow debug 85 you too man catch me in such a pussy yeah and i'll i'll do my best to

00:06:22.320 you know stand make sure you disagree with me especially when you don't ask massive for

00:06:26.380 permission and all that shit yeah fucking dude i hate people like that like people the people who

00:06:31.240 are contrarians on everything like they gotta fucking disagree with you on fucking everything

00:06:35.380 just because they think it makes them look smart bro you look fucking dumb you look you look stupid

00:06:40.100 yeah now it's one thing to play devil's advocate and bring up both sides like john burke does

00:06:44.260 and he does a great job at fucking awesome job yeah but like dude if we're in the midst of making

00:06:48.500 a decision i could promise you if someone says the best way and he thinks it's the best he's not

00:06:52.700 going to disagree just disagree just just yeah exactly yeah fuck that guy all right so q and af

00:06:58.300 q and af baby so we got three questions wait hold on we got a fee though oh we do have a p

00:07:02.440 i skipped the fee i said we had to p you got a p i gotta and i don't have to be

00:07:06.560 all right q and af uh there is a fee to this show if it made you think if it made you laugh

00:07:12.520 if it made you uh better if it's something you think needs to be shared or said hey man share the

00:07:18.520 show we don't run ads on the show we don't uh run ads for the show this is entirely word of mouth

00:07:23.680 so if we do good share us if we don't do good don't share us but here's the other thing too like

00:07:29.020 i'm not just saying share on your social media like dude text your like-minded buddies you know

00:07:33.780 what i'm saying uh hit up people and in conversation when it comes up about what's good what you listen

00:07:39.120 to what you're hearing and who the fuck's telling the truth okay like you don't have to just post

00:07:44.200 this shit you know do tell your like-minded people to come fucking subscribe because we need to

00:07:49.240 get get all those motherfuckers together so uh that's the fee that's the fee pay the fee yeah so

00:07:56.100 q a q a man so you guys you guys know how this works i got three questions for andy these questions

00:08:01.040 all come from you guys so um as always email your questions in to ask andy at andy for seller.com

00:08:08.020 and uh send your questions in uh we appreciate them i do my best to filter through them alongside

00:08:13.940 with my my boy madat so send those in and with that being said uh let's go ahead and kick off

00:08:20.280 number one here cool so andy you are 260 pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal so um this young man

00:08:28.420 i believe he's like 20 years old he he actually he wants to ask you this have you ever had to deal

00:08:33.060 with being cheated on in the relationship so i guess he might be going through some some issues

00:08:37.640 right now maybe needs a little help have you ever had to deal with that personally yeah of course man

00:08:42.740 i think anybody you know i think anybody who i think everybody deals with that usually at some

00:08:49.360 point in their life unless you're one of those people that meets their their love of the life yeah

00:08:53.240 right like and which is highly uh unusual even though that's advertised as a norm um you know

00:09:01.660 yeah man i'm not gonna talk about specific instances because i don't want to embarrass anybody or talk

00:09:06.420 shit like i'm not that's not what i do but yeah man for sure and uh you know the the thing is that

00:09:14.760 you have to remember especially being a young man is that you know when you're 20 years old bro

00:09:21.320 you know um typically you don't have the things that are typically attractive to what women

00:09:29.800 uh value okay women value uh wisdom they value knowledge they value the ability to protect they

00:09:37.700 value an income a strong income they value uh the ability to provide um you know and you young bucks

00:09:45.520 are probably gonna get laid you know and shit you're gonna have girlfriends and stuff like that

00:09:48.960 but like bro you're in a competition then and and i hate to say this but women have the power between

00:09:54.520 the ages of 20 and 30 you know they're young they're beautiful uh most men are too stupid to

00:09:59.860 look past or look for anything else you know let's let's be real and um you know so so when you get in

00:10:07.280 your 30s it gets a little bit different you know a lot of those same girls that ran around and did all

00:10:12.280 this shit uh you know they start they start to come to a little bit of a drought you know what

00:10:17.860 i'm saying because like a lot of these dudes who have become something they remember that

00:10:22.020 you know and they start yeah i mean dude there's just a there's just a lot of things to consider

00:10:29.080 about the human dynamic when it comes to dating and in the different ages uh of how it works you know

00:10:35.920 and uh it's it's fucking hard out there and you know the big thing is i think that people got to

00:10:41.640 remember is that whether you're a man or a woman or whatever is that the way you attract someone of

00:10:47.500 quality is becoming someone of quality you know if you want somebody who's physically attractive

00:10:52.880 in shape takes care of themselves uh is funny is intelligent has their shit going on um you should

00:11:00.720 probably try to become as close to that as you fucking can if you're going to attract that

00:11:04.360 and that's the thing most people miss like that's like we could talk about the the inter uh

00:11:10.600 relationship dynamics or the power shift that happens from uh women to men as they get older

00:11:17.840 women get older you know men typically get uh more desirable as they get older women get less

00:11:22.820 desirable it's just a fact of fucking reality don't shoot the messenger okay um but that all that

00:11:30.100 shit really honestly what i've seen is that it comes down to your habits yeah you know like all

00:11:35.800 of this can be solved like you could you can become better and better and better and this is man or woman

00:11:40.940 uh better and better and better as you age with just developing good habits for your mind and your body

00:11:47.380 you know and if you're not doing that and you're just one of these people who's out uh at the bar

00:11:52.980 you know every weekend trying to look to get laid and shit bro you're going to get the sloppy

00:11:58.040 shit left over because the quality people are out there fucking doing real shit and they're working

00:12:02.500 on real shit and they're probably not the fucking club you know so you know if you're a young person

00:12:08.380 you're going through this realize one thing you know a couple things one you know uh as you get

00:12:14.080 older and as you get stronger and as you develop more skills and as you become closer to that version

00:12:18.920 of the person that you want uh you're going to be able to attract a better partner that's reality

00:12:23.960 if you're a woman and you understand that you know as you get older the the you have to bring

00:12:30.460 depth into those other qualities you know what i'm saying you have to take care of yourself you

00:12:33.800 got to take care of yourself mentally you got to work to be a quality human to have other qualities

00:12:38.220 besides just your fucking looks right because like dude here's what i see a lot of women who think

00:12:43.460 that they only got to have looks and that's it and like dude i'm going to tell you if you're one of

00:12:47.920 these younger women and you think all it is you got to have looks and you happen to be good

00:12:51.960 looking now and you don't have good habits from my experience those girls who are between 20 and 30

00:12:57.420 who don't have good habits who look naturally good because they are the way they are they're

00:13:02.120 blessed by god um between the ages of 30 and 40 they get to be like disgusting creatures okay and it's

00:13:09.320 because of their bad habits they're still going out to the bar they're not taking care of their body

00:13:12.860 they're not investing in their career and they think they're going to catch some rich dude

00:13:15.960 motherfucker let me tell you something there ain't that many rich dudes out there

00:13:19.120 so like y'all ain't gonna catch the same motherfucking dude you know and and so like

00:13:25.140 dude this goes for both groups yeah invest in yourself become a quality human take care of your

00:13:32.020 body take care of your mind okay become the most attractive partner that you can and you will attract

00:13:38.440 better partners this is not fucking rocket science this is very simple very simple shit but the

00:13:45.580 problem in society these days is people want to be fat fucking slobs and be lazy as fuck

00:13:49.520 and they want to attract the fucking best partner they want the 10 bro that's not reality it's not

00:13:54.020 reality it's never going to work that way you might swing and hit a home run one time but that ain't

00:13:58.200 going to be your consistent fucking life you're going to end up miserable you're going to end up with

00:14:01.920 somebody who's a piece of shit you're going to end up with somebody who probably doesn't treat you

00:14:05.120 right because they don't treat themselves right and you're going to be unhappy and you're going to go

00:14:08.280 through the cycle and most people go through where it's you know relationship relationship relationship

00:14:12.160 marriage divorce marriage divorce marriage divorce marriage single forever you know whatever like

00:14:17.580 bro like you know if people would stop and like like literally like if you would stop right now

00:14:23.440 and take the next 12 months and fucking say fuck dating i am going to give myself become the best

00:14:31.880 version of my fucking self over this next year live hard okay seamless plug yeah but if you did that

00:14:39.880 i can promise you all of this shit that we're talking about will change completely because

00:14:44.620 your mind will elevate your skills will elevate your ability to communicate will elevate you'll

00:14:49.560 become more physically attractive you're more mentally attractive you know and that goes for

00:14:54.460 both sexes so you know it's like anything bro you're it's it's the attitude of entitlement i see a

00:15:00.800 lot of dudes out there who look like fucking shit who like think they should have these like

00:15:05.280 beautiful women who have all their careers together and who are all you know good partners and like

00:15:11.760 bro you're a hunk of shit right like we all know deep down women don't want yeah look bro this is a

00:15:18.020 hierarchy man right like this is you have to look at this as reality our fucking moms because they love

00:15:23.360 us they tell you shit like this oh all that matters is what's in your heart and that's all that is not

00:15:28.780 all that matters it's not even close to what fucking matters that's a little bit of what matters

00:15:33.300 there's a whole bunch of other shit yeah you know what i'm saying and we're being real here yeah

00:15:37.160 and not not no fairytale bullshit yeah so if you want to attract a better fucking partner for those

00:15:42.820 of you who are going through heartbreak for those of you who are going through frustration for those

00:15:46.560 of you who are in shitty relationships motherfucker become better work on yourself because the better

00:15:53.340 you get the better you will attract and that's it yeah fuck that's fucking fire all right i get tired

00:16:00.280 of that shit i get i thought it was always funny like i mean everybody's been through it but i mean

00:16:04.680 fuck i remember back in my shit it is it is but i remember like a middle school when i had my first

00:16:08.940 breakup where i thought it was in the world oh yeah you know everybody i think everybody goes through

00:16:12.680 that phase you know i still remember but like you said i mean you move on you fucking get better

00:16:16.960 well i can tell you this it's been interesting you know um watching the man woman dynamic change yeah

00:16:23.980 as you age so like you know in your 20s the girls have literally all the fucking power like they can

00:16:31.160 pick and choose from anybody in their 30s it becomes more even because some of these dudes have made

00:16:36.420 something of themselves right yeah uh and then you know some of the other girls have kind of fallen off

00:16:42.300 and they match up with the guys who didn't become something of themselves you know i'm saying and the

00:16:46.620 ones who take care of themselves they sort of match up with the guys who are who are doing it right

00:16:51.780 and then in your 40s it gets even more that way like there's a very clear delineation between

00:16:57.100 motherfuckers that are doing it both men and females and motherfuckers that aren't and it's very

00:17:02.040 fucking obvious because if you look at one of the motherfuckers who's doing it they look young they

00:17:06.520 look healthy they're fucking sharp they're with it they're fucking take care of themselves uh and the

00:17:11.260 other people all look like they're 60 years old so it's you could pick whichever one you want i know

00:17:17.580 which one i'm picking i'm picking i'm gonna get better every motherfucking day regardless of my

00:17:21.500 relationship status yeah that way no matter what the fuck happens you're in a good place you'll be

00:17:25.660 all right you see what i'm saying yeah like that's a good way to be and plus that makes your relationships

00:17:29.840 better right yeah like people have to fucking realize like dude the better you are the better

00:17:34.920 you will attract and that's very fucking real it's i don't care if you think it's morally right or wrong

00:17:39.420 to say or whatever the fuck you think i'm just telling you the way it is so yeah but all right

00:17:46.040 question i always wanted to do like a fucking show like a cup like a like i would love to do like a love line

00:17:51.140 like dr drew and adam carolla bro that'd be fucking hilarious yeah that'd be dope calling

00:17:57.700 andy i think i think my my girlfriend's cheating on me yeah well are you fucking 500 fucking pounds

00:18:03.960 you eat cheetos all day yeah i mean fuck what do you want me today no i'm only 400

00:18:07.620 yeah 499 yeah right fuck man all right question number two you want to get good be good i get it

00:18:15.620 man yeah i get it all right question number two you you've employed hundreds thousands of fucking

00:18:24.920 people yeah how do you handle employees in situations where you see their potential more

00:18:31.080 than they see their potential oh man that's that's almost every employee for me like bro the

00:18:36.440 motherfuckers that founded this country were fucking 20 21 22 young yeah you know what i'm

00:18:40.860 saying like the biggest problem with most people and dude i was guilty of this shit too it's they

00:18:46.160 think because they're only x amount of years old that they can't be whatever it is they want to be

00:18:51.640 they had this big hang up on their age i had it too when i was young in business i thought the reason

00:18:56.480 i sucked in business was because i was young that wasn't it at all the reason i sucked in business was

00:19:00.860 because i was bad yeah okay so you have to realize that like the dudes who wrote the declaration

00:19:06.920 independence those motherfuckers were 22 yeah okay they founded a fucking country you can't you can't

00:19:12.740 fucking do something in a career or at a company bro you could do anything you're fully capable at that

00:19:17.140 age to do fucking anything yeah so my my goal or my my advice to someone who's that age or any age

00:19:25.640 above it is to find people who have experience in the shit that you want to do learn everything you

00:19:31.960 can from them and go fucking implement the shit you know what i'm saying because because that way you

00:19:36.060 could accelerate your growth based upon the experiences of people who have already done what

00:19:40.140 you want to do yeah which is such a simple concept you know that you know and that's what all these

00:19:46.220 internet coaches try to sell on right they sell their programs and shit on all this shit uh you know

00:19:51.660 you're buying my experience and this and that and this this this is what the fuck have they built

00:19:56.480 right what have they built how many employees they have right how many companies have they

00:20:01.180 built real life can you go see them where do they exist you see what i'm saying yeah like bro most

00:20:07.300 of those motherfuckers on the internet talking like all this fuck coach shit bro i bet you they

00:20:10.820 don't even have fucking 100k to their fucking name so no wait on the next deposit for you yeah

00:20:17.760 for the next coaching which that's right which they're getting from selling a fucking like dude

00:20:22.520 it's all bullshit yeah so like dude you got to find people who have built real shit yeah because

00:20:27.840 without building real shit you don't have the experience to teach it right you know what i'm saying

00:20:32.800 that makes perfect fucking like dude you could ask me i can't teach you how to ride a bike if i've

00:20:38.100 never rode a bike bro you can't listen you could ask me anything about business fucking anything

00:20:47.760 and i could tell you an answer yeah you know what i'm saying because i've at 23 years in

00:20:52.980 i've literally fucking experienced it all firsthand many times you know i'm saying yeah like you have

00:21:00.480 to have that that's what builds the skills like i wish all these motherfuckers out there trying to

00:21:05.260 make a business out of coaching would just build a company you know what i'm saying yeah dude it'd be

00:21:10.040 the most rewarding shit ever and the country needs it yeah now more than ever yeah starving for it

00:21:15.660 but when you but but so you said you started out you had a lot of employees that that you saw their

00:21:20.440 potential more than they did so how did you pull that out of them how did you get them to see that

00:21:24.160 it's hard it's you got to constantly it's a constant battle of teaching uh putting them into play

00:21:31.320 correcting their mistakes you know making sure they understand that they can do this shit yeah um

00:21:36.540 sometimes you don't you know sometimes people won't perform until you unload an immense amount of

00:21:41.180 shit on top of them and all of a sudden they're fucking they kill it the pressure creates yeah for

00:21:45.400 sure for sure uh some people you put up uh the same work on them and they crumble okay so you have

00:21:53.000 to understand it's there's not one answer to that it's depend like bro i'm gonna mold you differently

00:21:59.340 because you know uh as a lie yeah for sure like you're brown play-doh right right like my dad's

00:22:06.160 over there he's that clear play right right you know there's a little more dye in that brown play-doh

00:22:10.520 so i gotta work it a little different you know what i'm saying like bro but that's the point that

00:22:14.760 that's real shit real shit though okay you know like dude you're gonna have different traits different

00:22:18.620 experiences different worldview different background than this person your level of fucking sensitivity is

00:22:23.860 different than this person so your level of comprehension is different than this person so if i

00:22:28.540 fucking address you all with the same broad stroke brush uh it's not there's not a real answer

00:22:33.300 there now there's ways to create policy on large groups but you you have to still manage the people

00:22:40.560 individually to get the most out of them so you know i would have to know some shit about this person

00:22:46.540 to answer that question but my my question from a management level is bro know your fucking people

00:22:52.880 spend some time with them talk to them a little bit you know i'm saying learn their ins and outs what

00:22:57.880 they're how they respond how they don't respond what their what their likes are what their not likes are

00:23:02.480 what the strong at what the weak at bro that's your responsibility as a fucking leader and manager

00:23:06.840 to know those things and if you're the ceo of a big company like i am where i've got fucking almost

00:23:11.680 400 fucking employees in this building uh motherfucker i gotta have people that can do that and then

00:23:17.620 report it back to me right so i train them how to do what the fuck i would do in that scenario then

00:23:22.360 they go do it and i do it for them yeah you know i'm saying so it's you know i'm to the point now

00:23:29.100 where i only manage sale right so like it now it's like super easy because like i've known in

00:23:34.520 my whole life so i know it's and we're very similar so it's like it's not hard anymore but

00:23:39.800 i guarantee you if i go to my fucking board or if i go to my middle management i'm gonna say what's

00:23:44.720 the hardest part of your job is to manage the personalities because it's the hardest fucking

00:23:48.160 job there is because it's 400 different ones listen it's not even 400 if you all if you have

00:23:52.540 four employees inside your fucking store right now um you're you're a one man ownership operation

00:23:58.920 right one woman or whatever fuck you guys know what i mean okay one person yeah fucking bro uh you

00:24:06.560 got to know those four personalities and that's difficult and because because you got to know those

00:24:10.680 four personalities you're always in this situation where you're dealing with everybody's fucking shit

00:24:14.520 you know i'm saying so what's the best way to bring those people along the best way is to pour

00:24:19.680 in them from a personal development standpoint to make sure they're understanding that to become

00:24:24.360 bro just tell them listen motherfucking podcast for real dude yeah like you you have to become good

00:24:29.680 at leading and managing and sales to be successful in business and it doesn't matter if you're a

00:24:34.460 creative people can say well i'm a creative i don't have to know motherfucker if you don't

00:24:37.600 understand branding and sales and how people think and respond you're gonna be a shitty fucking

00:24:42.020 designer yeah yeah our designers here understand branding they understand how people respond

00:24:48.460 they think through situations you see what i'm saying oh yeah so like dude it always comes down

00:24:52.980 to the people it always comes down to different personality traits how you learn to manage them

00:24:58.020 like bro this is how you become so great with people it's practice there is no fucking 997

00:25:05.720 dollar course you could fucking buy in the name of the fucking world that can give you that

00:25:09.140 yeah you have to just go fucking do it the reps yeah yeah that's dope all right last question

00:25:16.700 and it's it's weird because you have a hard time saying that's not two there's two bro it's

00:25:22.980 killing me inside he hates it i can see it can you see it on his fucking face it's killing me bro

00:25:28.080 he wants to say well that's one well that's two for one you guys don't know that i fucking

00:25:32.540 told him quit saying that shit it's so hard for him not to say yeah i can see his fucking mouth

00:25:38.540 performing bro you fucking having a heart you better practice man i'm trying i am struggling

00:25:47.820 bro it's it's fun as fuck just to watch you try not to say it yeah maybe that's what debug was

00:25:53.800 talking about yeah yeah yeah all right question number three so i'm seeing oh disagree with me

00:25:59.880 yeah right i'm seeing the trend with these questions and i think the lotion to the basket

00:26:03.140 i'm seeing i'm seeing the trend with these questions i think a lot of the young listeners

00:26:08.640 are gonna get a lot of value out of this episode um but this question so this this is uh i was getting

00:26:14.180 some advice on that man woman thing too bro if you're a woman and you're in your 20s and you happen

00:26:18.440 to be one of these women who is in shape and naturally pretty and all this shit you better

00:26:22.960 start fucking working because that shit will go yeah okay you better start developing some good

00:26:27.340 habits yeah if you're in your 20s and you were you were uh not where you want to be

00:26:31.860 motherfucker look where i was at 36 and look where i am now you could fucking change your whole

00:26:36.280 life right now and that goes for men and women yeah you know what i'm saying it's real like there

00:26:40.140 ain't bro people can make themselves attractive by simply fucking working and being somebody who is

00:26:45.240 ambitious and achieve shit even if it's just their fitness yeah that's real

00:26:49.220 anyway yeah oh you're good so this question uh question number three so what are your thoughts

00:26:56.560 so i'm gonna give the question there's some background to it but what are your thoughts

00:27:00.040 on the young people you know in my generation um who are socially awkward so this person uh says

00:27:08.700 that they've been trying to hire more people expand the business right scale they're wanting young

00:27:14.040 vibrant ambitious people but a lot of their applicants are just socially awkward so can those

00:27:20.080 young young people still be developed yes if so how so okay we start our training here legitimately

00:27:27.100 with how to greet people and shake their motherfucking hand okay people always ask how do you find such

00:27:33.340 great people we build them it's real simple so the reason that your people lack social skills because

00:27:40.700 you haven't taught them yet yeah that's it you know and one of the things i like to do to teach my

00:27:45.020 people social by the way uh for all you leaders out there listening most people want to get better at

00:27:50.580 their social skills like yeah they are very interested in developing it bro you guys have

00:27:56.400 to understand that we have been indoctrinated to believe that what the fuck we were born with is

00:28:00.220 what the fuck we got and that's just not true okay you could develop all of these things like a lot

00:28:05.240 of people look at people who are charismatic or good at sales or good with people and they're like

00:28:09.740 fuck i wish i had that bro i was the worst at that i was the worst at that sal sal was born that way

00:28:17.260 i had to earn that way yeah okay and dude i so about 10 years into my business you know i had a

00:28:24.940 lot of reps at retail yeah so i got a lot of shaking hands i got better right but i still was like

00:28:29.640 terrible like when i would get up in front of front of people to speak i would get nervous and i would

00:28:35.100 like you know i'm talking like six people dude and these are people i know these are dudes i go out

00:28:39.020 and drink beers with yeah you know what i'm saying yeah so i'm like i realized like i have to get over

00:28:43.380 this man i have to get over this fucking shit otherwise i'm never gonna be what what i can't

00:28:49.920 lead the company where i want to go if i get nervous in front of six people right you know so

00:28:55.020 i realized that so i started thinking i'm like well what the fuck can i do how do you get better

00:28:59.020 well how did i get better from the day one at s2 when we started in 1999 to the you know 10 year

00:29:05.860 mark i just did it so i thought how can i accelerate that experience and i came up with the plan that i

00:29:12.980 talk about all i think it's in 75 hard book too i think i talk about it but where i went to i went

00:29:17.600 to deerberg's uh every day for literally years bro and and i would go there every day and i would park

00:29:24.380 in the deerberg's is our uh like kroger store yeah it's a it's a local family-owned grocery store here

00:29:29.860 in st louis awesome fucking store right people um yeah i mean both our family-owned grocery stores

00:29:35.040 here schnooks and deerberg's amazing companies um but uh but anyhow uh i had to say that because

00:29:45.500 i'm friends with both of them okay so but it is true it is true they are great they're both amazing

00:29:51.660 and it's really cool because they're a testament to to uh upping because they're competitive and

00:29:57.080 like you could tell like when one family does this the other family does this and the other family

00:30:01.280 ups that and then fucking deerberg's yeah but it's great because it provides an awesome experience

00:30:05.400 and that's the way capitalism works yeah motherfuckers

00:30:10.440 fucking gabriel gipes yeah so anyway i would go back into uh i would go to the store and i would try

00:30:19.700 to talk to three people that i didn't know all right and have a a two-minute conversation that was

00:30:27.300 more than hey how are you or or that something where i would have to talk about like a lot of

00:30:33.560 the time i would comment on like a woman's purse or something they were wearing or something i noticed

00:30:39.940 about them uh or something they were looking at yeah right and i would start up a little conversation

00:30:44.640 like oh dude you really like those goya beans and she'd be like fuck no i only buy these things

00:30:48.860 because trump said so right like that and i'd be like fuck yeah man me too so that kind of that's

00:30:54.440 what counted right like it had to be like an interaction um and what's funny is is i did

00:30:59.780 that every day for years bro and i got fucking great at it like great at it because like dude

00:31:04.680 it's not that hard yeah pay attention say hi be friendly make a joke or two most people got a sense

00:31:10.140 of humor and if they fuck you know what the best part is is that all the times i made little jokes

00:31:14.360 they didn't laugh now i don't give a fuck anymore so it's whatever man you know but but dude the more

00:31:21.820 you do shit the better you'll get at it and that's what you have to realize a lot of guys um

00:31:25.900 you know they they come into rote syndicate uh and my latin eyes group uh you know and that's one of

00:31:32.420 the biggest things they struggle with and some of these guys are ceos of of companies right running

00:31:36.180 shit yeah and we'll we'll go through some exercises i'll teach them a few things about how to how to be

00:31:40.620 more social and exercise like that um and these guys will go out and do it guess what their companies

00:31:45.580 fucking grow because they become way better with people yeah so it's a skill you could have

00:31:50.720 if you want to go and put in the work it's no different than anything else yeah bro i'm a firm

00:31:54.920 believer that literally almost everything in life can be gained if you put that focus and effort on

00:32:01.820 like i mean are there things that i probably couldn't do right like i could never become lebron

00:32:08.380 james basketball right like it's just not my body type it's not what i'm built for um but i could

00:32:14.080 become a pretty fucking good basketball player yeah you know what i'm saying i guarantee you if

00:32:18.080 i practice i could go to a men's league and fucking play right like i'm not saying now but i'm saying

00:32:22.100 if i had worked my whole life right like if i work now it'd take me 15 years to get good i'd be old

00:32:27.020 man by then yeah but still balling on i'm still gonna be getting better bro i'm gonna be like when

00:32:30.580 i'm still i'm gonna be like that silverhead dude on the boat doing the dances and shit you know that's

00:32:35.260 gonna be me but like bro uh i'm just saying like it's you know you guys got to get over this

00:32:42.920 mentality that people are gifted with things that that you think are traits when in reality

00:32:47.760 they're skills okay and understand and believe in yourself like dude you're not some peasant

00:32:52.780 bitch that was just born for average shit that's what the whole fucking school system the whole

00:32:58.880 fucking media system the whole fucking government system is designed to make you fucking think it's

00:33:03.580 to make you think you're a worker fucking bee you're not a worker bee you're a fucking human dude

00:33:08.420 humans have done incredible fucking things we've we fucking we fly from one continent to another

00:33:15.620 continent on a fucking machine that weighs like fucking 60 tons or whatever bro 100 tons in the

00:33:24.860 air at 600 miles an hour with 400 but bro like think of the amazing shit that people have done

00:33:30.600 those people are no different than you you all you have to do is be able to fucking believe enough

00:33:36.700 and yourself to start doing the work and then when you start doing the work long enough you'll get

00:33:41.380 results which will reinforce that belief and that cycle repeats itself over and over and over again

00:33:46.000 till you believe you're a bad motherfucker so and you won't do that with a 997 dollar fucking course

00:33:52.320 yeah no shit yeah guys that's three so go pay the fucking fee yeah that's what's up

00:33:58.900 on the floor now my jury box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in the code bad bitch

00:34:07.560 booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 13, 2021

173. Q&AF： Inter-Relationship Dynamics, Handling Employees & Overcoming Social Awkwardness

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