REAL AF with Andy Frisella - November 13, 2021


173. Q&AF： Inter-Relationship Dynamics, Handling Employees & Overcoming Social Awkwardness

Topics
managing employees & social awkwardness
Hosted by
Andy Frisella
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Andy Frisilla LeBron James
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142

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Summary

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In this episode, Andy and Andi discuss a recent review of the podcast and how it offends Andi, and the people that write in reviews of the show. Also, Andi talks about his first taste of internet criticism and how he deals with it.

Transcript

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the real let's say goodbye to the 0.99
00:00:21.140 lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality 0.87
00:00:25.800 guys today we have a q and a f is that right that is right okay and i'm here with my man dj what's up 0.71
00:00:32.840 dude white lightning what's going on baby bro um you have something you would like to address yeah
00:00:37.980 i do man mass is it okay if i speak hey so hey man dude dj's gotta rant a little bit let me let me 0.92
00:00:47.820 pull this fucking the floor is yours i pre the plantation field is mine thank you uh so there 0.99
00:00:54.600 is this review that we got on the podcast okay and um debug 85 whoever you are my guy talk i want 0.99
00:01:02.100 to talk to you for a minute so you say quote i really enjoy this show but i wish dj would stand
00:01:07.440 up more for his views if andy doesn't agree with his view he backs down real quick i get agreeing with
00:01:13.100 your boss even when they're wrong i think this is a platform to be honest and stand up for your 0.99
00:01:17.680 beliefs um why are you such a pussy bro yeah apparently i'm just this you know bro dude this 1.00
00:01:24.920 shit like this actually pisses me off though because this is my thing man first of all yes 1.00
00:01:31.180 you're my boss right i don't pay you to agree with me no i actually pay you to not agree exactly and 0.99
00:01:36.900 which we do all the time yeah right like if you guys don't know i pay this man and his team to keep
00:01:43.060 me from getting killed that's my that's my main problem there's a lot of times where he has to 0.89
00:01:46.540 tell me what the fuck to do and i listen yes and so but like the thing is man like i think this just 0.86
00:01:53.040 speaks to a bigger a bigger thing is is that people are not used to hearing how real conversations should 0.99
00:01:58.880 go uh right like like we have on this show real conversation yeah with real fucking people with real 0.90
00:02:06.060 opinions with real experience with with real knowledge of the world and real opinions right like but we have
00:02:12.740 real genuine conversation and guys not every conversation is going to be something that you
00:02:18.180 agree with here's the mature side when andy says something because he's been doing this longer than i
00:02:23.580 have and he has a different opinion on something or a different uh experience on something because
00:02:28.100 he's fucking 103 years old which is true and i just happen to agree with it it's not because he's my 0.98
00:02:33.740 fucking boss it's because hey he's probably saying some shit that that's factual that's real like bro like 0.99
00:02:39.080 this comment i just it blows me man well i think where it bothers you bro is that it's insinuates 1.00
00:02:45.580 that your opinion and truth is for sale which it isn't yeah like i mean like what the fuck like dude 0.99
00:02:50.480 when we first uh i don't want to say got together because we're not fucking in a relationship but 0.98
00:02:54.900 but like no like but like we're not bro when i first came around like that was one of the first 0.98
00:02:59.080 things you told me he was like hey i like what you have to say yeah well shit i like what you have 0.88
00:03:03.200 to say yeah like all right we'll say it together you know i'm saying like it's never been that you know
00:03:08.400 and so i don't i don't know who debug 85 is man look bro it listen listen this is your first taste
00:03:13.920 of internet criticism is this what this is yeah you don't like am i an influencer now like what the 0.93
00:03:17.920 fuck bro look here's the deal if you guys pay attention to how we communicate it's real simple 0.98
00:03:22.780 i'll say he'll say something and sometimes i'll say yeah but blah blah blah blah blah right and he'll be 0.99
00:03:29.700 like okay i see it like that too and then i'm like but what about this and then we we navigate our
00:03:35.680 way down the path you know what i'm saying and like what this person is saying is essentially
00:03:40.720 that and this is why you're upset about it it's essentially that your opinion and your beliefs 0.96
00:03:45.560 and your integrity is for fucking sales bald and so and it's not no and that's not the kind of man 0.99
00:03:50.180 that you are so it offends you yeah right i'm offended bro i'm offended and i mean i think i think 0.99
00:03:56.000 it's just weak shit um personally i don't know but you understand what i'm saying i do yeah i do and 0.94
00:04:00.820 i think that it doesn't feel good when people when people say that like dude you know you're only 1.00
00:04:04.580 saying that because of blah blah blah motherfucker you don't know what the fuck anybody thinks i have 0.99
00:04:08.300 no idea and dude what it is is that person disagrees with me and they think because you're you you 1.00
00:04:13.000 should disagree with that i'm supposed to right and which is a whole nother conversation yeah so 0.99
00:04:16.480 which really means that you're not box no that you're not fitting into that motherfucker's box 0.98
00:04:21.000 exactly that's right and that alone like that that by itself bro hey it sound kind of racist 0.99
00:04:26.420 right i'm just saying well at the very i don't know if it's racist but like it's definitely 0.62
00:04:31.320 uh you're not it's pro bullshit yeah just because someone doesn't disagree with someone that you 0.77
00:04:36.580 disagree with you think it's because money that's a reflection of that you would change your opinion 0.87
00:04:42.280 yeah based upon money well i'm doing like that's projecting bro and i call like really i bet that 0.91
00:04:47.300 person bro i bet you a hundred bucks bro that they don't fucking disagree with anybody anything 0.99
00:04:51.740 their boss says oh 100 because that that's what they're they're they're thinking like fuck 1.00
00:04:56.400 dude i gotta agree with my boss that's some miserable shit yeah and you'll go nowhere yeah 0.99
00:05:00.740 you'll go nowhere you know i i think it's important that you you keep an open mind which 0.99
00:05:05.040 is what i call myself doing right like i know that i'm young i know that that you know there's a lot
00:05:10.380 of things in this world that i haven't got a chance to do just yet and so when i have somebody that's 0.96
00:05:14.040 in front of me that has that experience guess what i'm gonna do i'm gonna shut the fuck up and 0.97
00:05:17.240 listen right because i can learn from that well going back to our our uh show about belief 0.78
00:05:24.160 our question about belief we hit on a while back um how's your life now compared to the day we met 0.95
00:05:31.240 bro i'm i'm still the best fucking drug dealer out here baby yeah that's right i'm saying like so so 0.91
00:05:36.380 like dude hit like there's evidence for him to like actually listen to what you know i had to say 0.92
00:05:42.860 100 well i mean dude like i mean i'm at this point too and it's fucking weird bro it is weird 0.86
00:05:47.320 it is weird but i'm at a point now man like andy if you told me to you know we go up on the 0.70
00:05:52.200 fucking roof and jump off i'd do it yeah but you know because i know that i wouldn't tell you to 0.91
00:05:57.020 do that there's a fucking there's a parachute you're gonna toss there's gonna be something 0.99
00:06:00.160 yeah but like i i i've there there's i've crossed the line you know i'm saying like of of of that 0.78
00:06:06.140 that's trust i'm past that yeah i'm not gonna i would never do that no well like dude people like
00:06:11.100 this man i think it's just a projection of their own the own way they think you know 100 so i 0.99
00:06:16.080 challenge you to grow debug 85 you too man catch me in such a pussy yeah and i'll i'll do my best to 1.00
00:06:22.320 you know stand make sure you disagree with me especially when you don't ask massive for 1.00
00:06:26.380 permission and all that shit yeah fucking dude i hate people like that like people the people who 1.00
00:06:31.240 are contrarians on everything like they gotta fucking disagree with you on fucking everything 1.00
00:06:35.380 just because they think it makes them look smart bro you look fucking dumb you look you look stupid 1.00
00:06:40.100 yeah now it's one thing to play devil's advocate and bring up both sides like john burke does 1.00
00:06:44.260 and he does a great job at fucking awesome job yeah but like dude if we're in the midst of making 0.82
00:06:48.500 a decision i could promise you if someone says the best way and he thinks it's the best he's not 0.99
00:06:52.700 going to disagree just disagree just just yeah exactly yeah fuck that guy all right so q and af 0.96
00:06:58.300 q and af baby so we got three questions wait hold on we got a fee though oh we do have a p 0.99
00:07:02.440 i skipped the fee i said we had to p you got a p i gotta and i don't have to be
00:07:06.560 all right q and af uh there is a fee to this show if it made you think if it made you laugh
00:07:12.520 if it made you uh better if it's something you think needs to be shared or said hey man share the
00:07:18.520 show we don't run ads on the show we don't uh run ads for the show this is entirely word of mouth
00:07:23.680 so if we do good share us if we don't do good don't share us but here's the other thing too like
00:07:29.020 i'm not just saying share on your social media like dude text your like-minded buddies you know
00:07:33.780 what i'm saying uh hit up people and in conversation when it comes up about what's good what you listen
00:07:39.120 to what you're hearing and who the fuck's telling the truth okay like you don't have to just post 0.99
00:07:44.200 this shit you know do tell your like-minded people to come fucking subscribe because we need to 1.00
00:07:49.240 get get all those motherfuckers together so uh that's the fee that's the fee pay the fee yeah so 1.00
00:07:56.100 q a q a man so you guys you guys know how this works i got three questions for andy these questions 0.99
00:08:01.040 all come from you guys so um as always email your questions in to ask andy at andy for seller.com
00:08:08.020 and uh send your questions in uh we appreciate them i do my best to filter through them alongside
00:08:13.940 with my my boy madat so send those in and with that being said uh let's go ahead and kick off
00:08:20.280 number one here cool so andy you are 260 pounds of twisted steel and sex appeal so um this young man
00:08:28.420 i believe he's like 20 years old he he actually he wants to ask you this have you ever had to deal
00:08:33.060 with being cheated on in the relationship so i guess he might be going through some some issues
00:08:37.640 right now maybe needs a little help have you ever had to deal with that personally yeah of course man
00:08:42.740 i think anybody you know i think anybody who i think everybody deals with that usually at some
00:08:49.360 point in their life unless you're one of those people that meets their their love of the life yeah
00:08:53.240 right like and which is highly uh unusual even though that's advertised as a norm um you know
00:09:01.660 yeah man i'm not gonna talk about specific instances because i don't want to embarrass anybody or talk
00:09:06.420 shit like i'm not that's not what i do but yeah man for sure and uh you know the the thing is that 0.72
00:09:14.760 you have to remember especially being a young man is that you know when you're 20 years old bro 0.98
00:09:21.320 you know um typically you don't have the things that are typically attractive to what women 1.00
00:09:29.800 uh value okay women value uh wisdom they value knowledge they value the ability to protect they
00:09:37.700 value an income a strong income they value uh the ability to provide um you know and you young bucks 0.96
00:09:45.520 are probably gonna get laid you know and shit you're gonna have girlfriends and stuff like that 0.97
00:09:48.960 but like bro you're in a competition then and and i hate to say this but women have the power between 1.00
00:09:54.520 the ages of 20 and 30 you know they're young they're beautiful uh most men are too stupid to 0.99
00:09:59.860 look past or look for anything else you know let's let's be real and um you know so so when you get in 0.97
00:10:07.280 your 30s it gets a little bit different you know a lot of those same girls that ran around and did all 1.00
00:10:12.280 this shit uh you know they start they start to come to a little bit of a drought you know what
00:10:17.860 i'm saying because like a lot of these dudes who have become something they remember that 0.99
00:10:22.020 you know and they start yeah i mean dude there's just a there's just a lot of things to consider
00:10:29.080 about the human dynamic when it comes to dating and in the different ages uh of how it works you know
00:10:35.920 and uh it's it's fucking hard out there and you know the big thing is i think that people got to
00:10:41.640 remember is that whether you're a man or a woman or whatever is that the way you attract someone of
00:10:47.500 quality is becoming someone of quality you know if you want somebody who's physically attractive 0.96
00:10:52.880 in shape takes care of themselves uh is funny is intelligent has their shit going on um you should 0.95
00:11:00.720 probably try to become as close to that as you fucking can if you're going to attract that 0.97
00:11:04.360 and that's the thing most people miss like that's like we could talk about the the inter uh 0.99
00:11:10.600 relationship dynamics or the power shift that happens from uh women to men as they get older
00:11:17.840 women get older you know men typically get uh more desirable as they get older women get less 0.98
00:11:22.820 desirable it's just a fact of fucking reality don't shoot the messenger okay um but that all that 0.99
00:11:30.100 shit really honestly what i've seen is that it comes down to your habits yeah you know like all 0.99
00:11:35.800 of this can be solved like you could you can become better and better and better and this is man or woman 0.97
00:11:40.940 uh better and better and better as you age with just developing good habits for your mind and your body
00:11:47.380 you know and if you're not doing that and you're just one of these people who's out uh at the bar 0.94
00:11:52.980 you know every weekend trying to look to get laid and shit bro you're going to get the sloppy 0.99
00:11:58.040 shit left over because the quality people are out there fucking doing real shit and they're working 0.99
00:12:02.500 on real shit and they're probably not the fucking club you know so you know if you're a young person 0.99
00:12:08.380 you're going through this realize one thing you know a couple things one you know uh as you get 0.99
00:12:14.080 older and as you get stronger and as you develop more skills and as you become closer to that version
00:12:18.920 of the person that you want uh you're going to be able to attract a better partner that's reality
00:12:23.960 if you're a woman and you understand that you know as you get older the the you have to bring
00:12:30.460 depth into those other qualities you know what i'm saying you have to take care of yourself you
00:12:33.800 got to take care of yourself mentally you got to work to be a quality human to have other qualities 0.97
00:12:38.220 besides just your fucking looks right because like dude here's what i see a lot of women who think 1.00
00:12:43.460 that they only got to have looks and that's it and like dude i'm going to tell you if you're one of 0.99
00:12:47.920 these younger women and you think all it is you got to have looks and you happen to be good 1.00
00:12:51.960 looking now and you don't have good habits from my experience those girls who are between 20 and 30 1.00
00:12:57.420 who don't have good habits who look naturally good because they are the way they are they're
00:13:02.120 blessed by god um between the ages of 30 and 40 they get to be like disgusting creatures okay and it's
00:13:09.320 because of their bad habits they're still going out to the bar they're not taking care of their body
00:13:12.860 they're not investing in their career and they think they're going to catch some rich dude 0.99
00:13:15.960 motherfucker let me tell you something there ain't that many rich dudes out there 0.99
00:13:19.120 so like y'all ain't gonna catch the same motherfucking dude you know and and so like 1.00
00:13:25.140 dude this goes for both groups yeah invest in yourself become a quality human take care of your 0.97
00:13:32.020 body take care of your mind okay become the most attractive partner that you can and you will attract 0.99
00:13:38.440 better partners this is not fucking rocket science this is very simple very simple shit but the 1.00
00:13:45.580 problem in society these days is people want to be fat fucking slobs and be lazy as fuck 0.99
00:13:49.520 and they want to attract the fucking best partner they want the 10 bro that's not reality it's not 1.00
00:13:54.020 reality it's never going to work that way you might swing and hit a home run one time but that ain't 0.99
00:13:58.200 going to be your consistent fucking life you're going to end up miserable you're going to end up with 1.00
00:14:01.920 somebody who's a piece of shit you're going to end up with somebody who probably doesn't treat you 1.00
00:14:05.120 right because they don't treat themselves right and you're going to be unhappy and you're going to go 1.00
00:14:08.280 through the cycle and most people go through where it's you know relationship relationship relationship
00:14:12.160 marriage divorce marriage divorce marriage divorce marriage single forever you know whatever like
00:14:17.580 bro like you know if people would stop and like like literally like if you would stop right now 1.00
00:14:23.440 and take the next 12 months and fucking say fuck dating i am going to give myself become the best 0.99
00:14:31.880 version of my fucking self over this next year live hard okay seamless plug yeah but if you did that 1.00
00:14:39.880 i can promise you all of this shit that we're talking about will change completely because 0.99
00:14:44.620 your mind will elevate your skills will elevate your ability to communicate will elevate you'll 0.99
00:14:49.560 become more physically attractive you're more mentally attractive you know and that goes for
00:14:54.460 both sexes so you know it's like anything bro you're it's it's the attitude of entitlement i see a 1.00
00:15:00.800 lot of dudes out there who look like fucking shit who like think they should have these like 0.99
00:15:05.280 beautiful women who have all their careers together and who are all you know good partners and like 1.00
00:15:11.760 bro you're a hunk of shit right like we all know deep down women don't want yeah look bro this is a 1.00
00:15:18.020 hierarchy man right like this is you have to look at this as reality our fucking moms because they love 1.00
00:15:23.360 us they tell you shit like this oh all that matters is what's in your heart and that's all that is not 0.99
00:15:28.780 all that matters it's not even close to what fucking matters that's a little bit of what matters 0.99
00:15:33.300 there's a whole bunch of other shit yeah you know what i'm saying and we're being real here yeah 0.99
00:15:37.160 and not not no fairytale bullshit yeah so if you want to attract a better fucking partner for those 0.99
00:15:42.820 of you who are going through heartbreak for those of you who are going through frustration for those 1.00
00:15:46.560 of you who are in shitty relationships motherfucker become better work on yourself because the better 1.00
00:15:53.340 you get the better you will attract and that's it yeah fuck that's fucking fire all right i get tired 1.00
00:16:00.280 of that shit i get i thought it was always funny like i mean everybody's been through it but i mean 1.00
00:16:04.680 fuck i remember back in my shit it is it is but i remember like a middle school when i had my first 0.99
00:16:08.940 breakup where i thought it was in the world oh yeah you know everybody i think everybody goes through 1.00
00:16:12.680 that phase you know i still remember but like you said i mean you move on you fucking get better 0.91
00:16:16.960 well i can tell you this it's been interesting you know um watching the man woman dynamic change yeah 0.97
00:16:23.980 as you age so like you know in your 20s the girls have literally all the fucking power like they can 1.00
00:16:31.160 pick and choose from anybody in their 30s it becomes more even because some of these dudes have made 0.76
00:16:36.420 something of themselves right yeah uh and then you know some of the other girls have kind of fallen off 0.63
00:16:42.300 and they match up with the guys who didn't become something of themselves you know i'm saying and the
00:16:46.620 ones who take care of themselves they sort of match up with the guys who are who are doing it right
00:16:51.780 and then in your 40s it gets even more that way like there's a very clear delineation between 0.98
00:16:57.100 motherfuckers that are doing it both men and females and motherfuckers that aren't and it's very 1.00
00:17:02.040 fucking obvious because if you look at one of the motherfuckers who's doing it they look young they 1.00
00:17:06.520 look healthy they're fucking sharp they're with it they're fucking take care of themselves uh and the 0.99
00:17:11.260 other people all look like they're 60 years old so it's you could pick whichever one you want i know 0.99
00:17:17.580 which one i'm picking i'm picking i'm gonna get better every motherfucking day regardless of my 0.99
00:17:21.500 relationship status yeah that way no matter what the fuck happens you're in a good place you'll be 0.98
00:17:25.660 all right you see what i'm saying yeah like that's a good way to be and plus that makes your relationships 0.99
00:17:29.840 better right yeah like people have to fucking realize like dude the better you are the better 0.91
00:17:34.920 you will attract and that's very fucking real it's i don't care if you think it's morally right or wrong 0.98
00:17:39.420 to say or whatever the fuck you think i'm just telling you the way it is so yeah but all right 0.96
00:17:46.040 question i always wanted to do like a fucking show like a cup like a like i would love to do like a love line 0.98
00:17:51.140 like dr drew and adam carolla bro that'd be fucking hilarious yeah that'd be dope calling 1.00
00:17:57.700 andy i think i think my my girlfriend's cheating on me yeah well are you fucking 500 fucking pounds 1.00
00:18:03.960 you eat cheetos all day yeah i mean fuck what do you want me today no i'm only 400 1.00
00:18:07.620 yeah 499 yeah right fuck man all right question number two you want to get good be good i get it 1.00
00:18:15.620 man yeah i get it all right question number two you you've employed hundreds thousands of fucking 0.99
00:18:24.920 people yeah how do you handle employees in situations where you see their potential more 0.96
00:18:31.080 than they see their potential oh man that's that's almost every employee for me like bro the 0.99
00:18:36.440 motherfuckers that founded this country were fucking 20 21 22 young yeah you know what i'm 1.00
00:18:40.860 saying like the biggest problem with most people and dude i was guilty of this shit too it's they 1.00
00:18:46.160 think because they're only x amount of years old that they can't be whatever it is they want to be 0.95
00:18:51.640 they had this big hang up on their age i had it too when i was young in business i thought the reason
00:18:56.480 i sucked in business was because i was young that wasn't it at all the reason i sucked in business was
00:19:00.860 because i was bad yeah okay so you have to realize that like the dudes who wrote the declaration 1.00
00:19:06.920 independence those motherfuckers were 22 yeah okay they founded a fucking country you can't you can't 0.99
00:19:12.740 fucking do something in a career or at a company bro you could do anything you're fully capable at that 1.00
00:19:17.140 age to do fucking anything yeah so my my goal or my my advice to someone who's that age or any age 0.99
00:19:25.640 above it is to find people who have experience in the shit that you want to do learn everything you 0.99
00:19:31.960 can from them and go fucking implement the shit you know what i'm saying because because that way you 0.99
00:19:36.060 could accelerate your growth based upon the experiences of people who have already done what 0.99
00:19:40.140 you want to do yeah which is such a simple concept you know that you know and that's what all these 0.98
00:19:46.220 internet coaches try to sell on right they sell their programs and shit on all this shit uh you know 0.99
00:19:51.660 you're buying my experience and this and that and this this this is what the fuck have they built 0.99
00:19:56.480 right what have they built how many employees they have right how many companies have they 0.96
00:20:01.180 built real life can you go see them where do they exist you see what i'm saying yeah like bro most 1.00
00:20:07.300 of those motherfuckers on the internet talking like all this fuck coach shit bro i bet you they 1.00
00:20:10.820 don't even have fucking 100k to their fucking name so no wait on the next deposit for you yeah 1.00
00:20:17.760 for the next coaching which that's right which they're getting from selling a fucking like dude 1.00
00:20:22.520 it's all bullshit yeah so like dude you got to find people who have built real shit yeah because 0.99
00:20:27.840 without building real shit you don't have the experience to teach it right you know what i'm saying 1.00
00:20:32.800 that makes perfect fucking like dude you could ask me i can't teach you how to ride a bike if i've 1.00
00:20:38.100 never rode a bike bro you can't listen you could ask me anything about business fucking anything 0.99
00:20:47.760 and i could tell you an answer yeah you know what i'm saying because i've at 23 years in 0.98
00:20:52.980 i've literally fucking experienced it all firsthand many times you know i'm saying yeah like you have 0.98
00:21:00.480 to have that that's what builds the skills like i wish all these motherfuckers out there trying to 1.00
00:21:05.260 make a business out of coaching would just build a company you know what i'm saying yeah dude it'd be 0.99
00:21:10.040 the most rewarding shit ever and the country needs it yeah now more than ever yeah starving for it
00:21:15.660 but when you but but so you said you started out you had a lot of employees that that you saw their 0.98
00:21:20.440 potential more than they did so how did you pull that out of them how did you get them to see that
00:21:24.160 it's hard it's you got to constantly it's a constant battle of teaching uh putting them into play 0.99
00:21:31.320 correcting their mistakes you know making sure they understand that they can do this shit yeah um 0.94
00:21:36.540 sometimes you don't you know sometimes people won't perform until you unload an immense amount of 1.00
00:21:41.180 shit on top of them and all of a sudden they're fucking they kill it the pressure creates yeah for 0.99
00:21:45.400 sure for sure uh some people you put up uh the same work on them and they crumble okay so you have 1.00
00:21:53.000 to understand it's there's not one answer to that it's depend like bro i'm gonna mold you differently
00:21:59.340 because you know uh as a lie yeah for sure like you're brown play-doh right right like my dad's 0.86
00:22:06.160 over there he's that clear play right right you know there's a little more dye in that brown play-doh
00:22:10.520 so i gotta work it a little different you know what i'm saying like bro but that's the point that 0.97
00:22:14.760 that's real shit real shit though okay you know like dude you're gonna have different traits different 0.99
00:22:18.620 experiences different worldview different background than this person your level of fucking sensitivity is 0.99
00:22:23.860 different than this person so your level of comprehension is different than this person so if i 0.95
00:22:28.540 fucking address you all with the same broad stroke brush uh it's not there's not a real answer 0.86
00:22:33.300 there now there's ways to create policy on large groups but you you have to still manage the people 1.00
00:22:40.560 individually to get the most out of them so you know i would have to know some shit about this person 0.99
00:22:46.540 to answer that question but my my question from a management level is bro know your fucking people 0.98
00:22:52.880 spend some time with them talk to them a little bit you know i'm saying learn their ins and outs what 0.99
00:22:57.880 they're how they respond how they don't respond what their what their likes are what their not likes are 0.99
00:23:02.480 what the strong at what the weak at bro that's your responsibility as a fucking leader and manager 0.99
00:23:06.840 to know those things and if you're the ceo of a big company like i am where i've got fucking almost 1.00
00:23:11.680 400 fucking employees in this building uh motherfucker i gotta have people that can do that and then 0.99
00:23:17.620 report it back to me right so i train them how to do what the fuck i would do in that scenario then 1.00
00:23:22.360 they go do it and i do it for them yeah you know i'm saying so it's you know i'm to the point now 0.52
00:23:29.100 where i only manage sale right so like it now it's like super easy because like i've known in
00:23:34.520 my whole life so i know it's and we're very similar so it's like it's not hard anymore but 0.61
00:23:39.800 i guarantee you if i go to my fucking board or if i go to my middle management i'm gonna say what's 0.99
00:23:44.720 the hardest part of your job is to manage the personalities because it's the hardest fucking 0.99
00:23:48.160 job there is because it's 400 different ones listen it's not even 400 if you all if you have 0.99
00:23:52.540 four employees inside your fucking store right now um you're you're a one man ownership operation 1.00
00:23:58.920 right one woman or whatever fuck you guys know what i mean okay one person yeah fucking bro uh you 1.00
00:24:06.560 got to know those four personalities and that's difficult and because because you got to know those 1.00
00:24:10.680 four personalities you're always in this situation where you're dealing with everybody's fucking shit 0.99
00:24:14.520 you know i'm saying so what's the best way to bring those people along the best way is to pour 0.99
00:24:19.680 in them from a personal development standpoint to make sure they're understanding that to become 0.97
00:24:24.360 bro just tell them listen motherfucking podcast for real dude yeah like you you have to become good 0.96
00:24:29.680 at leading and managing and sales to be successful in business and it doesn't matter if you're a 0.99
00:24:34.460 creative people can say well i'm a creative i don't have to know motherfucker if you don't 1.00
00:24:37.600 understand branding and sales and how people think and respond you're gonna be a shitty fucking 0.99
00:24:42.020 designer yeah yeah our designers here understand branding they understand how people respond 0.99
00:24:48.460 they think through situations you see what i'm saying oh yeah so like dude it always comes down
00:24:52.980 to the people it always comes down to different personality traits how you learn to manage them 0.95
00:24:58.020 like bro this is how you become so great with people it's practice there is no fucking 997 0.98
00:25:05.720 dollar course you could fucking buy in the name of the fucking world that can give you that 0.97
00:25:09.140 yeah you have to just go fucking do it the reps yeah yeah that's dope all right last question 0.99
00:25:16.700 and it's it's weird because you have a hard time saying that's not two there's two bro it's 0.99
00:25:22.980 killing me inside he hates it i can see it can you see it on his fucking face it's killing me bro 0.99
00:25:28.080 he wants to say well that's one well that's two for one you guys don't know that i fucking 1.00
00:25:32.540 told him quit saying that shit it's so hard for him not to say yeah i can see his fucking mouth 1.00
00:25:38.540 performing bro you fucking having a heart you better practice man i'm trying i am struggling 1.00
00:25:47.820 bro it's it's fun as fuck just to watch you try not to say it yeah maybe that's what debug was 0.99
00:25:53.800 talking about yeah yeah yeah all right question number three so i'm seeing oh disagree with me 0.96
00:25:59.880 yeah right i'm seeing the trend with these questions and i think the lotion to the basket
00:26:03.140 i'm seeing i'm seeing the trend with these questions i think a lot of the young listeners
00:26:08.640 are gonna get a lot of value out of this episode um but this question so this this is uh i was getting
00:26:14.180 some advice on that man woman thing too bro if you're a woman and you're in your 20s and you happen 0.97
00:26:18.440 to be one of these women who is in shape and naturally pretty and all this shit you better 1.00
00:26:22.960 start fucking working because that shit will go yeah okay you better start developing some good 1.00
00:26:27.340 habits yeah if you're in your 20s and you were you were uh not where you want to be 1.00
00:26:31.860 motherfucker look where i was at 36 and look where i am now you could fucking change your whole 0.99
00:26:36.280 life right now and that goes for men and women yeah you know what i'm saying it's real like there 1.00
00:26:40.140 ain't bro people can make themselves attractive by simply fucking working and being somebody who is 0.97
00:26:45.240 ambitious and achieve shit even if it's just their fitness yeah that's real 0.98
00:26:49.220 anyway yeah oh you're good so this question uh question number three so what are your thoughts 0.96
00:26:56.560 so i'm gonna give the question there's some background to it but what are your thoughts
00:27:00.040 on the young people you know in my generation um who are socially awkward so this person uh says
00:27:08.700 that they've been trying to hire more people expand the business right scale they're wanting young
00:27:14.040 vibrant ambitious people but a lot of their applicants are just socially awkward so can those
00:27:20.080 young young people still be developed yes if so how so okay we start our training here legitimately 0.87
00:27:27.100 with how to greet people and shake their motherfucking hand okay people always ask how do you find such 0.93
00:27:33.340 great people we build them it's real simple so the reason that your people lack social skills because 0.97
00:27:40.700 you haven't taught them yet yeah that's it you know and one of the things i like to do to teach my
00:27:45.020 people social by the way uh for all you leaders out there listening most people want to get better at
00:27:50.580 their social skills like yeah they are very interested in developing it bro you guys have 0.99
00:27:56.400 to understand that we have been indoctrinated to believe that what the fuck we were born with is 0.98
00:28:00.220 what the fuck we got and that's just not true okay you could develop all of these things like a lot 0.99
00:28:05.240 of people look at people who are charismatic or good at sales or good with people and they're like 0.99
00:28:09.740 fuck i wish i had that bro i was the worst at that i was the worst at that sal sal was born that way 0.98
00:28:17.260 i had to earn that way yeah okay and dude i so about 10 years into my business you know i had a 0.99
00:28:24.940 lot of reps at retail yeah so i got a lot of shaking hands i got better right but i still was like
00:28:29.640 terrible like when i would get up in front of front of people to speak i would get nervous and i would
00:28:35.100 like you know i'm talking like six people dude and these are people i know these are dudes i go out
00:28:39.020 and drink beers with yeah you know what i'm saying yeah so i'm like i realized like i have to get over 0.94
00:28:43.380 this man i have to get over this fucking shit otherwise i'm never gonna be what what i can't 1.00
00:28:49.920 lead the company where i want to go if i get nervous in front of six people right you know so 0.99
00:28:55.020 i realized that so i started thinking i'm like well what the fuck can i do how do you get better 0.56
00:28:59.020 well how did i get better from the day one at s2 when we started in 1999 to the you know 10 year
00:29:05.860 mark i just did it so i thought how can i accelerate that experience and i came up with the plan that i
00:29:12.980 talk about all i think it's in 75 hard book too i think i talk about it but where i went to i went
00:29:17.600 to deerberg's uh every day for literally years bro and and i would go there every day and i would park
00:29:24.380 in the deerberg's is our uh like kroger store yeah it's a it's a local family-owned grocery store here
00:29:29.860 in st louis awesome fucking store right people um yeah i mean both our family-owned grocery stores 0.74
00:29:35.040 here schnooks and deerberg's amazing companies um but uh but anyhow uh i had to say that because 0.96
00:29:45.500 i'm friends with both of them okay so but it is true it is true they are great they're both amazing
00:29:51.660 and it's really cool because they're a testament to to uh upping because they're competitive and
00:29:57.080 like you could tell like when one family does this the other family does this and the other family
00:30:01.280 ups that and then fucking deerberg's yeah but it's great because it provides an awesome experience 1.00
00:30:05.400 and that's the way capitalism works yeah motherfuckers 1.00
00:30:10.440 fucking gabriel gipes yeah so anyway i would go back into uh i would go to the store and i would try 1.00
00:30:19.700 to talk to three people that i didn't know all right and have a a two-minute conversation that was 0.98
00:30:27.300 more than hey how are you or or that something where i would have to talk about like a lot of
00:30:33.560 the time i would comment on like a woman's purse or something they were wearing or something i noticed
00:30:39.940 about them uh or something they were looking at yeah right and i would start up a little conversation 0.98
00:30:44.640 like oh dude you really like those goya beans and she'd be like fuck no i only buy these things 0.99
00:30:48.860 because trump said so right like that and i'd be like fuck yeah man me too so that kind of that's 0.99
00:30:54.440 what counted right like it had to be like an interaction um and what's funny is is i did 0.97
00:30:59.780 that every day for years bro and i got fucking great at it like great at it because like dude 0.87
00:31:04.680 it's not that hard yeah pay attention say hi be friendly make a joke or two most people got a sense 0.98
00:31:10.140 of humor and if they fuck you know what the best part is is that all the times i made little jokes 0.99
00:31:14.360 they didn't laugh now i don't give a fuck anymore so it's whatever man you know but but dude the more 1.00
00:31:21.820 you do shit the better you'll get at it and that's what you have to realize a lot of guys um 0.99
00:31:25.900 you know they they come into rote syndicate uh and my latin eyes group uh you know and that's one of 1.00
00:31:32.420 the biggest things they struggle with and some of these guys are ceos of of companies right running
00:31:36.180 shit yeah and we'll we'll go through some exercises i'll teach them a few things about how to how to be 0.53
00:31:40.620 more social and exercise like that um and these guys will go out and do it guess what their companies 0.99
00:31:45.580 fucking grow because they become way better with people yeah so it's a skill you could have
00:31:50.720 if you want to go and put in the work it's no different than anything else yeah bro i'm a firm 0.99
00:31:54.920 believer that literally almost everything in life can be gained if you put that focus and effort on
00:32:01.820 like i mean are there things that i probably couldn't do right like i could never become lebron
00:32:08.380 james basketball right like it's just not my body type it's not what i'm built for um but i could
00:32:14.080 become a pretty fucking good basketball player yeah you know what i'm saying i guarantee you if 0.93
00:32:18.080 i practice i could go to a men's league and fucking play right like i'm not saying now but i'm saying 0.97
00:32:22.100 if i had worked my whole life right like if i work now it'd take me 15 years to get good i'd be old 0.75
00:32:27.020 man by then yeah but still balling on i'm still gonna be getting better bro i'm gonna be like when 0.91
00:32:30.580 i'm still i'm gonna be like that silverhead dude on the boat doing the dances and shit you know that's 0.94
00:32:35.260 gonna be me but like bro uh i'm just saying like it's you know you guys got to get over this 0.83
00:32:42.920 mentality that people are gifted with things that that you think are traits when in reality
00:32:47.760 they're skills okay and understand and believe in yourself like dude you're not some peasant 1.00
00:32:52.780 bitch that was just born for average shit that's what the whole fucking school system the whole 1.00
00:32:58.880 fucking media system the whole fucking government system is designed to make you fucking think it's 1.00
00:33:03.580 to make you think you're a worker fucking bee you're not a worker bee you're a fucking human dude 1.00
00:33:08.420 humans have done incredible fucking things we've we fucking we fly from one continent to another 1.00
00:33:15.620 continent on a fucking machine that weighs like fucking 60 tons or whatever bro 100 tons in the 0.99
00:33:24.860 air at 600 miles an hour with 400 but bro like think of the amazing shit that people have done 1.00
00:33:30.600 those people are no different than you you all you have to do is be able to fucking believe enough 0.99
00:33:36.700 and yourself to start doing the work and then when you start doing the work long enough you'll get 0.84
00:33:41.380 results which will reinforce that belief and that cycle repeats itself over and over and over again 1.00
00:33:46.000 till you believe you're a bad motherfucker so and you won't do that with a 997 dollar fucking course 1.00
00:33:52.320 yeah no shit yeah guys that's three so go pay the fucking fee yeah that's what's up 1.00
00:33:58.900 on the floor now my jury box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions in the code bad bitch 1.00
00:34:07.560 booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold doesn't know headshot case closed 1.00