187. Let It Go
Episode Stats
Words per Minute
165.51875
Summary
We live in a backwards culture where we celebrate the bad shit that has happened to us and celebrate the good shit that hasn t. It s time to stop celebrating the shit that s happened to you and focus on what s actually happening to you.
Transcript
00:00:00.000
What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to
00:00:20.920
the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:24.760
Guys today I have a real talk, before I get into the real talk I'm going to remind you
00:00:28.760
of the fee, the fee is very simple, we work on value exchange just like the rest of reality.
00:00:33.920
If I do a good job, I require something from you and that something is not monetary, it's
00:00:38.400
just talk about the show, share the show, tell your like minded friends about the show, if
00:00:42.840
it made you think, if it made you laugh, if it made you have a new perspective, if it
00:00:46.320
brought value, okay, if it taught you something, share the show, all right, I don't fill your
00:00:52.220
ears with ads, I don't fucking fill your face with ads on the internet, this is word of mouth
00:00:57.160
man, and we've been able to dominate iTunes for a long motherfucking time doing it, okay,
00:01:01.340
so if you think these messages need to be heard, help me share them, all right, that's the fee.
00:01:06.180
Now today I want to talk about something man, I was scrolling Instagram and we've all have
00:01:10.440
friends that we see do these little polls and it says, tell me something secret and then
00:01:15.440
like these people post their, the people's secrets without showing who they are or whatever,
00:01:22.620
And I saw one today, I was scrolling through my buddy's, uh, my buddy was doing one of
00:01:27.160
these polls and I saw one today that kind of like, it kind of jolted me a little bit
00:01:32.660
because it, it reminded me honestly of, of, of something that, that most people do.
00:01:43.640
He says, he has the question box up and says, tell me something your spouse or your best
00:01:50.800
And the person put in, uh, my dad cheated on my mom with Craigslist prostitutes.
00:01:58.540
All right, look, dude, if you're really in therapy because your fucking dad cheated with
00:02:06.500
And that's got you to the point where you think you need therapy.
00:02:09.220
You have crossed the line from like normal functioning human into soft fucking cupcake
00:02:16.420
Let me explain something to you guys and I don't give a fuck how much this pisses people
00:02:20.500
off because I know it's like the popular thing now to, to, to like brag about your trauma
00:02:26.580
and to brag about how all the bad shit happens to you and to post your sad story over and
00:02:32.200
over and over and over again, uh, on Instagram every three days.
00:02:36.560
I'm, I'm convinced honestly that most people do Q and a just to talk about the sad shit that,
00:02:45.000
It's the same people answering the same fucking questions over and over, over again, talking
00:02:49.700
about their problems and celebrating the fact that there's some sort of fucking flawed
00:03:13.580
You only have so much ability in your life to choose what you're going to do and what
00:03:20.200
you're going to be and what your identity and your self image is going to be.
00:03:24.760
And when you choose to be one of these victims who thinks there's an Olympics out there for
00:03:31.360
the saddest motherfucking story, that means you have no room to move forward.
00:03:41.320
You have no room for the actions that lead to those aspirations because you're so busy filling
00:03:46.780
your mind with the bad shit that's happened to you already in life that you have zero chance
00:03:57.020
We live in a backwards culture where victim mentality is celebrated.
00:04:01.220
The hard shit, the bad shit, the unfortunate shit that's happened to us is glorified through
00:04:07.420
sympathy and virtue signaling where all these people, all the people, you know, pat you
00:04:19.640
Maybe you are, but that shit will eventually keep you from getting the life that you actually
00:04:25.820
That's the shit that's going to keep you from moving forward to keep you from focusing on
00:04:30.280
what you could be rather than what's actually happened to you in the past.
00:04:36.340
You can look forward or you can look backwards, but you can't look both ways at the same motherfucking
00:04:41.620
And so many of you guys have got enamored and sucked into this victim culture that we are
00:04:47.900
shoved down our throats from the media, from Hollywood, from all these things where we brag
00:04:56.340
And we talk about all this help we need over here and how flawed we are.
00:05:03.560
You don't think every motherfucker out there has a sad story of some sort?
00:05:09.560
Everybody has hard shit they got to go through.
00:05:14.160
There's not a single motherfucking successful person on this planet that hasn't gone through
00:05:22.240
And the fact that I see so many people create their identities around creating sympathy for
00:05:27.780
whatever their issues might be honestly disgusts me to the core.
00:05:38.300
That's not what our culture's supposed to be about.
00:05:44.100
It lends itself to a bunch of self-loathing, fucking weak, fucking mentally bound up,
00:05:53.380
drained of potential fucking humans, which is exactly what I talked about on the show the
00:05:58.960
They want you fat, they want you stupid, they want you lazy, they want you absorbed in your
00:06:04.840
own hardships so that you can never realize what you could potentially become.
00:06:16.860
Are you going to sit there for the rest of your fucking life and talk about all the hard
00:06:22.420
Because motherfucker, I got a list a mile long.
00:06:25.100
I don't even remember a lot of my shit because, dude, I don't care to remember it because it
00:06:36.560
Learn what you need to learn from the things that have happened to you and move the fuck
00:06:41.920
Oh, well, Andy, that's not as easy said as done.
00:06:54.340
You can go to therapy for the next 100 years and talk about all this shit over and over
00:07:00.140
and over and over and over again, and that isn't going to change the fucking happen, and
00:07:03.960
that isn't going to change what the fuck you should be doing moving forward.
00:07:12.620
You're so enamored by the instant gratification of likes and shares and attention that you get
00:07:17.800
for telling your sad story, and that doesn't leave any room for you to actually plan out,
00:07:24.880
visualize, think about the great shit in life that you could be creating because you're
00:07:29.880
too busy, worried, and focused on shit that you can't change.
00:07:48.060
We have been conditioned to tell ourselves that our story is debilitating, that our hardships
00:07:59.220
are the reason that we can't be what we want to be, when in reality, the hardships that we've
00:08:06.180
had are actually the things that teach us to teach us to have the skills and the thoughts
00:08:13.160
and the perspective we need to actually become what we want to be.
00:08:22.040
If you had to choose between having a perfect upbringing and having an upbringing that was
00:08:27.040
extremely hard, you should choose the one that was hard because it's preparing you if you
00:08:33.560
have the right perspective for what life is actually like.
00:08:38.960
So instead of spending all your time telling yourself this fucking story of how you can't
00:08:45.360
move forward because you're this and this and this and this, recognize that you're actually
00:08:59.780
You are costing yourself your entire potential.
00:09:06.120
And I know people aren't going to like to hear this shit because people right now love
00:09:12.660
They love to fucking ride the sad story into the sunset and get the claps and the shares
00:09:19.120
and the likes and the attention from all the other soppy, sad story motherfuckers.
00:09:23.380
Well, I'm going to tell you what, dude, those motherfuckers don't win.
00:09:26.240
And they can hate you, they can be mad at me, they can say, Andy, fuck you, you have no
00:09:32.020
empathy, you have motherfucking, don't even let me start on the harsh shit I've been through.
00:09:36.720
This is why I can talk about this shit and I don't have a problem talking about it.
00:09:44.960
All of those things, every single one of them served me in some way.
00:09:50.140
It taught me something, something that I use every single day.
00:09:53.280
Once you flip your perspective from being a fucking victim to being someone who overcomes
00:10:00.740
shit, now you start to understand why it's so fucking aggravating.
00:10:15.120
There's no hall of fame for who the biggest fucking victims are.
00:10:18.240
All the championship stories, all the awards, all the accolades, all the riches, all the
00:10:25.020
fucking glory goes to people who overcome shit.
00:10:29.520
Not whine about the same motherfucking shit for 10 years straight on the fucking internet.
00:10:35.440
So think about that and think about what you're dragging along and think about the weight you're
00:10:40.540
pulling trying to get where you want to go and how unlikely you are to get there unless
00:10:45.980
And I bet you, you'll let it go really fucking fast.
00:10:51.240
You will never get where you want to go playing the victim.
00:11:01.240
How many times have we heard the fucking lottery winner who wins hundreds of millions of dollars
00:11:06.980
and then five years later, their life is a complete fucking disaster.
00:11:13.440
I tell you why that is because they were gifted something without earning the skill set that
00:11:20.900
comes with it, that you need to maintain it and you need to keep it and you need to fucking
00:11:27.960
So if you don't fucking recognize the hardships that you have as an opportunity to build skills
00:11:34.280
by overcoming them and letting them go, you're never going to develop the skills that you
00:11:39.940
need to produce more success or produce a better life or produce the shit that you that that
00:11:51.020
And the choice is either continue to be like everybody else and justify every fucking hardship
00:11:57.940
that you've ever had as the reason to why you're never going to become what it is that
00:12:03.940
You can live your whole life telling the same sad story over and over and over again.
00:12:08.500
And then when you get to fucking die, hopefully you don't have to think about it and possibly
00:12:16.020
you'll get off having any regret because you had a quick death.
00:12:21.360
More likely, you'll get to sit there and think about all the things you could have been, all
00:12:26.300
the things you wanted to be, and all the shit you wanted to do that you never did because
00:12:30.340
you spent all your time worrying about fucking being the biggest fucking victim.
00:12:40.900
The real bosses live in a place where they overcome shit, where they take the hardships that
00:12:47.340
have happened to them, and they develop skill sets that move them forward.
00:12:54.580
They're thankful for the experience because of what it taught them.
00:13:01.940
And that is literally the difference between people who win and live an amazing, fulfilling,
00:13:08.640
successful life, and people who die wishing that they had done all kinds of other shit.
00:13:14.240
And you get to choose which group you're going to belong to.