REAL AF with Andy Frisella - January 28, 2022


222. Q&AF： How To Know When To Change Your Plan, Dealing With Actual Struggles & Introvert To Extrovert


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In this episode of The Realest, I sit down with Andy Fussella to talk about the importance of having a game plan and why it's important to have one. We also talk about why you should never abandon your current play to make room for a new one.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to
00:00:21.180 the lies, the figness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:25.500 Guys, today we have Q and AF and before we get into it, I'd like to remind you of the fee.
00:00:32.820 The fee is very simple.
00:00:35.580 Share the show.
00:00:37.120 That's the fee.
00:00:39.200 DJ.
00:00:41.420 What's up man?
00:00:42.300 What's up dude?
00:00:44.040 I mean dude, look, it's just, it's real simple and people hear it but they don't necessarily
00:00:49.060 do it and the thing is, is like bro, I'm not pumping people with a bunch of fucking ads.
00:00:53.020 I'm not running fucking shit in their face all day trying to, you know, I mean like
00:00:57.820 look dude, we're out here trying to help people, we're trying to answer their questions, do
00:01:01.320 good shit.
00:01:01.980 All I ask is a little shitty shit, that's all, you know?
00:01:05.280 That could just be a conversation.
00:01:06.580 Yeah bro.
00:01:07.200 Like it ain't gotta be like this big Instagram post that you make and talk to your friends
00:01:11.480 about this shit.
00:01:11.720 Well dude, and especially man, like guys, if you've been listening to me for the last two
00:01:19.540 years, you know that I've called all this shit exactly for what it was and had we had,
00:01:24.980 I mean, yes, we're a high ranked show.
00:01:27.580 We're number one, two or three in business every single day, no matter what.
00:01:32.900 But had we been the number one show in the world, maybe we could have got more shit done.
00:01:38.380 That's all I'm saying.
00:01:39.840 That starts with you guys.
00:01:40.980 So share the show.
00:01:41.520 It does.
00:01:41.980 Guys, I got three questions for you, Andy.
00:01:45.940 And as always, guys, you can email your questions into askandy at andyfussella.com and without
00:01:50.540 further ado, let's...
00:01:51.820 Guys, these questions are designed to help you get ahead.
00:01:54.460 Like what are you, what are you, what are you trying to do?
00:01:57.520 Where are you trying to go?
00:01:58.740 Who are you trying to become?
00:02:00.340 All right.
00:02:00.680 A lot of you guys listen over the last couple of years and you come here for the political
00:02:05.740 society commentary, but I'm a decent entrepreneur as well.
00:02:10.940 So I know some shit.
00:02:12.960 Yeah, I know a couple of things.
00:02:14.160 So like, let me help you with that.
00:02:15.740 You know, that's the purpose of we do these Q&As.
00:02:17.700 It's not, we're trying to serve.
00:02:20.300 So if you think it's something we can help you with, send it in.
00:02:22.720 We're always looking for good stuff.
00:02:25.740 All right.
00:02:26.220 So our question number one for you, Andy, question number one.
00:02:29.660 How often should you reflect on or change up the game plan?
00:02:34.160 I get the, if it's not broke, don't fix it mentality, but should I change it?
00:02:38.620 Well, I mean, dude, look, there's tons of nuance to that question, right?
00:02:45.700 My answer to that question is that most people change things far too rapidly to ever get any
00:02:52.700 real traction.
00:02:54.020 Most people who are trying to build whatever they're trying to build, right?
00:02:57.740 They're trying to build business, their fitness, a life, whatever.
00:03:00.160 It's all the same, same principles.
00:03:01.660 Most people have zero comprehension of how long it actually takes to get things going.
00:03:11.340 And so what happens is they come up and they get this idea, right?
00:03:14.320 Or this decision that they've come to, that they want to build X business, fitness, whatever.
00:03:20.080 And because the world messaging is consistently fast, easy, instant, we're inundated with all
00:03:30.700 these overnight millionaires on Instagram and running ads and we see all this shit every day. 0.50
00:03:35.460 We start to assume that it's supposed to be quick, easy, and fast.
00:03:41.460 And then what happens is we start to get down on ourselves because it's not happening for
00:03:46.040 ourselves and then we abandon our run or we abandon our play for a new play.
00:03:51.520 And here's the problem with that, guys.
00:03:53.400 If you abandon the play that you're trying to run to get where you want to go too early
00:03:58.680 for a new one and you never give it time to materialize and actually produce fruit, all
00:04:05.460 right, what happens is you spend the next 20 years of your life every two or three years
00:04:11.000 or fuck right now, man, it might be every six months because the time that people are claiming 0.85
00:04:15.960 it to become successful is shorter and shorter and shorter.
00:04:19.440 You know, there's now there's crypto experts and NFT experts and fucking everybody's getting
00:04:24.820 rich overnight, so to speak.
00:04:26.620 And, you know, what I want you to understand is most of that's a lie.
00:04:30.500 All right.
00:04:31.260 And I don't want you to fall into the trap of abandoning your plan because, you know,
00:04:37.680 you see so-and-so doing this over here and then over here, you got this other knucklehead
00:04:42.140 doing what he's doing, right?
00:04:43.660 And it makes you feel like you're off track.
00:04:45.700 And so then you come up with a new plan.
00:04:47.180 And what happens is we end up going, you know, every six months to a new thing, to a new thing,
00:04:52.040 to a new thing, to a new thing.
00:04:53.300 And we never give the thing enough time to actually materialize, right?
00:04:58.980 There's an analogy that I like to use and I've used for many years of farmers, okay?
00:05:03.760 If a farmer were to go out and plant a seed in the field and then walk out two days later,
00:05:11.040 three days later, four days later, and look at the fucking hole where he put the seed and 0.97
00:05:15.360 say, fuck, it's not working. 0.79
00:05:17.780 What would happen to people?
00:05:19.660 We'd starve, okay?
00:05:21.760 So there's an element of time that has to happen for you to get where you want to go.
00:05:27.980 And that time, guys, is, I'm sorry to say, a lot longer than what you're being told via
00:05:33.880 the social construct that we live in currently, right?
00:05:37.260 Okay?
00:05:37.800 So we're sold instant gratification and we're sold quick, easy, fast because that's what
00:05:42.960 the sheep buy, all right?
00:05:44.900 But the wolves don't buy that shit.
00:05:46.700 The wolves understand they got to fucking hunt and they got to hunt consistently.
00:05:50.080 And if they give up on the hunt, guess what they know?
00:05:52.400 They ain't eating, okay?
00:05:54.040 Okay, so don't be the guy or the girl who re-scraps their plans every single six months
00:06:02.180 because they think they're on the wrong track.
00:06:04.120 Instead, be the person who sticks their head up every six months and says, okay, how can
00:06:09.600 I adjust this plan?
00:06:11.100 How can I improve this plan?
00:06:12.800 How can I take what I've already been doing and actually pivot it into a better direction?
00:06:17.580 And that's what truly successful entrepreneurs do.
00:06:20.000 They look at what they've done and they might say, okay, what we've done here, it's not
00:06:26.840 working the right way.
00:06:27.560 But if we just tweaked it like this, this is what, and that's how we learn, right?
00:06:32.160 Right.
00:06:32.420 We learn from going through this process.
00:06:34.720 And it's very frustrating for me as a true, I don't want to say self-made because I'm not
00:06:41.280 self-made.
00:06:41.800 I had a lot of people tell me some really good shit along the way that has helped me.
00:06:45.220 I've had a lot of people work to help build these companies that I'm a part of.
00:06:49.380 And so I don't like the term self-made, but in the way that most people think of it, I'm
00:06:53.540 a self-made person.
00:06:54.840 Okay.
00:06:55.540 And for, as someone who's come from literally zero to where we are now, I want you to understand
00:07:01.880 that the only way we could have got there is by not doing what most people do, which
00:07:06.320 is three months, six months, scrap the plan, become a new thing.
00:07:11.120 And they do that over and over and over again.
00:07:13.100 Right.
00:07:13.520 And that's a recipe for losing.
00:07:14.820 You'll always lose that way.
00:07:15.840 You're never going to hit a grand slam.
00:07:17.140 Bro, I've never hit a fucking grand slam.
00:07:19.380 I've never hit a home run.
00:07:20.800 Every fucking thing that I've done in business has been singles and bunts and stolen bases.
00:07:26.320 Okay.
00:07:26.720 It's small, it's small things over a long period of time.
00:07:31.180 All right.
00:07:31.740 So don't be that person who scraps all your shit just because you see Tony from the old
00:07:37.520 neighborhood pretending to be successful because he's probably not.
00:07:41.000 And if he is, he's only going to be temporary because the skills required to keep success occur
00:07:46.680 over a long period of time, not in a short period of time.
00:07:49.200 So even if you were to hit a home run and you were to, let's say, get that NFT that makes
00:07:53.960 you $3 million, motherfucker, you're not going to be able to keep it because you never built
00:07:58.240 the skills.
00:07:59.320 All right.
00:08:00.220 So think about the skills.
00:08:01.580 The skills pay the motherfucking bills.
00:08:03.280 That's where you want to be.
00:08:04.560 All right.
00:08:04.720 Andy, question number two.
00:08:05.860 So question reads, Andy, I know that you've spoken a lot about the victimhood mentality
00:08:11.760 and I absolutely agree with you.
00:08:13.180 My question is, what's your advice for someone who actually went through some real pain and
00:08:17.900 real struggle that isn't trying to play the victim card, but it's trying to turn their
00:08:21.880 struggle into a story?
00:08:23.520 Well, look, dude, that's me.
00:08:25.980 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:26.720 Like, dude, I went, I was stabbed in the fucking face, dude.
00:08:29.880 I almost fucking died.
00:08:31.280 I was heavily disfigured for the first two years of that.
00:08:34.040 What you guys see today is not what it looked like for the first two years.
00:08:38.740 It was swollen up the size of a grapefruit.
00:08:40.500 I went through massive depression.
00:08:42.140 And by the way, that's only one of the things I've gone through.
00:08:44.340 I've gone through tons of these things.
00:08:46.120 Okay.
00:08:47.720 What you have to do is you have to look at the situation that you're dealing with.
00:08:52.840 And instead of saying, oh, dude, poor me, poor me, poor me, start to fucking figure
00:08:57.140 out how the lessons that you've learned can help others.
00:09:00.260 And also what you've learned and how to drive that through forward.
00:09:05.260 For example, like one of the things that for me was very beneficial of getting stabbed
00:09:10.080 right in the fucking face. 0.97
00:09:11.120 Okay.
00:09:11.800 Was, um, and I didn't realize this until after I pulled my head out of my ass.
00:09:16.480 Okay.
00:09:17.160 So for the first instant lesson, no, no, it took me a year or so to figure it out.
00:09:21.960 I went through this massive depression.
00:09:24.400 Um, I had this, I had this, this amazing experience with this woman who truly, uh, changed my entire
00:09:32.640 perspective of life.
00:09:34.180 Um, and I, I, it's in my book.
00:09:36.560 I've talked about it before.
00:09:38.080 Um, and I'm not going to tell the whole story here, but the point is, is that I was in business
00:09:45.320 at the time.
00:09:45.860 Okay.
00:09:46.280 And up until that time, when we got, when I got stabbed in the face, no one cared who
00:09:51.020 we were like, it was very hard.
00:09:53.060 We would go to trade shows and we would, um, go, go try to meet people and make, you know,
00:09:57.920 do little things to try to get traction.
00:10:00.080 Right.
00:10:01.360 And it was very hard for us to get any traction because we didn't have anything.
00:10:04.820 Like we didn't have money.
00:10:05.860 We didn't have, uh, you know, we, there was nothing special about us.
00:10:10.860 Right.
00:10:11.480 We're just two dudes trying to run a business.
00:10:14.060 But when I got stabbed in the face, something happened.
00:10:16.800 Um, everybody remembered me everywhere I went.
00:10:20.480 Okay.
00:10:20.880 So now all these people, yes, because my, my face was fucked up. 0.89
00:10:25.540 All right.
00:10:26.440 And, and, and you might say, well, fuck, that's a heavy price to pay to be remembered.
00:10:31.140 And it was, and it is, but now dude, it's a part of me.
00:10:34.900 Like now, 20 years later, whatever it is, um, 19 years later, it's a fucking part of who
00:10:40.700 I am.
00:10:40.960 Could you imagine me if I didn't have them?
00:10:42.500 No.
00:10:42.900 You see what I'm saying?
00:10:43.540 No, like that's you.
00:10:44.460 Right.
00:10:44.920 So, and I've had, you know, at the time I couldn't afford to get those scars fixed.
00:10:49.220 And now I have some of my best friends in the world or best plastic surgeons there are.
00:10:53.420 And they're like, bro, I can take care of that.
00:10:54.660 I'm like, are you fucking crazy, bro?
00:10:56.120 You know what I'm saying?
00:10:56.960 Yeah.
00:10:57.140 So that thing that was actually like my biggest negative and self-criticism thing actually
00:11:03.220 ended up being a blessing because what it did was it allowed us to go to trade shows
00:11:07.800 or allow me to meet people in the grocery store, or it allowed me to, to do things, um, to where
00:11:14.040 people will remember me, you know, before it was, Hey, you know, Andy and Chris from supplement
00:11:17.840 super stores.
00:11:18.580 And people were like, nah, no.
00:11:21.040 And, and then, then it became, no, you, you know, them, the Andy, the dude with the fucking
00:11:26.260 scars and they'd be like, Oh yeah, dude, I know.
00:11:28.840 Right.
00:11:29.320 And I started to realize like, at first when I was down in that pity party, I get pissed
00:11:34.520 about that.
00:11:35.200 I was like, dude, fuck those people.
00:11:37.060 That's all they see.
00:11:37.980 And I would be all bitter and shit.
00:11:39.480 Right.
00:11:40.000 And then I'm like, then when that, when I met that woman in the grocery store who had been
00:11:44.020 burned in the airplane crash, um, and we had that conversation, a lot of you guys know
00:11:49.480 about, uh, it changed me, dude.
00:11:53.720 You know what I'm saying?
00:11:54.280 And I started to be able to see things for the advantages that they brought, not for
00:11:59.640 the hardships they brought.
00:12:00.860 Okay.
00:12:01.300 And almost every single hardship that you face and dude, I want to say this with some
00:12:06.840 real empathy, because there are some really horrible things that happen to people.
00:12:10.620 But if you look hard enough, there's something about it that can serve you.
00:12:14.420 There's something about it that can make you better.
00:12:16.380 There's something about it that can help others.
00:12:18.020 And that's what I would give this person, uh, my advice is like, look for the thing that
00:12:24.600 you learned and, and, and, and try to use that to either move yourself forward or move
00:12:29.740 others forward.
00:12:30.400 And only good things come from that.
00:12:31.980 You know what I mean?
00:12:33.180 So you really have to find the silver lining, uh, in these negative situations.
00:12:38.340 And I truly believe that the perspective you choose is the perspective you'll have.
00:12:43.700 And by the way, it is the perspective other people will have, right?
00:12:47.480 Like nobody walks up to me anymore and it's like, oh dude, you're fucking scars on your
00:12:51.360 face.
00:12:51.620 What the fuck happened?
00:12:52.400 Like everybody knows, everybody knows.
00:12:55.480 Right.
00:12:55.940 And that's a great thing because it, it, it, it, it preludes me and sets a precedent for
00:13:01.420 my presence when I walk into a room or when I meet someone or when I, you know what I'm
00:13:04.980 saying?
00:13:05.200 So there's all kinds of things like that.
00:13:07.400 Like your, your hardships, if you can learn to see through them can actually become some
00:13:13.580 of the most powerful things in your life that drive you forward.
00:13:16.320 And that's how I would encourage someone to think about that's fucking awesome.
00:13:19.120 It reminds me of like Derek Wider.
00:13:20.680 Yeah.
00:13:21.140 You don't say like, yeah, he makes dick jokes with his leg.
00:13:23.480 You know what I'm saying?
00:13:23.880 Like it's fucking awesome.
00:13:24.820 Bro, the thing.
00:13:25.760 Okay.
00:13:26.040 So Derek is a great example.
00:13:28.080 Derek's a guy who, uh, was shot through the leg, uh, in Iraq had, he chose to have his 0.86
00:13:33.780 leg amputated because it wasn't going to function right anymore.
00:13:37.080 And now dude, he's one of the best fucking athletes, adaptive athletes in the world.
00:13:41.400 He inspires literally fucking millions of people.
00:13:44.680 Okay.
00:13:45.160 We just had another young lady who was here with, uh, an adaptive with, uh, above the 1.00
00:13:50.180 knee amputation.
00:13:51.200 Who's now going to go into the adaptive, the CrossFit games.
00:13:54.560 Okay.
00:13:55.040 And this dude has inspired literally millions of people because of, of his journey.
00:14:00.380 Yeah.
00:14:01.040 Right.
00:14:01.360 And it's not been easy for him, but I've been friends with him for a long time, dude.
00:14:04.780 He's gone through all kinds of mental things and come out the other side of who he is now,
00:14:09.140 which is fucking an amazing motherfucker. 0.88
00:14:11.440 You know what I mean?
00:14:12.200 Yeah.
00:14:12.540 That inspires lots of people.
00:14:14.080 So dude, you know, how can you use it?
00:14:17.780 That's, that's what you got to ask.
00:14:19.220 How, what did you learn?
00:14:20.180 How can you use it?
00:14:20.760 And dude, that's a hard conversation to have with yourself.
00:14:24.020 Um, when bad things happen, because dude, everybody will remind you of how horrible
00:14:30.320 whatever it is that happened to you was.
00:14:33.220 Yeah.
00:14:33.760 Like, so you're constantly, you're constantly inundated with other people's sympathy, which
00:14:39.500 makes you feel bad about yourself.
00:14:41.380 Right.
00:14:41.880 And you, at some point you've got to sit to people.
00:14:43.980 Hey, like, dude, people say to me when it does come up and they find out like that
00:14:48.460 they don't happen to know what happened.
00:14:49.840 They're like, holy shit, bro.
00:14:51.140 I'm sorry it happened.
00:14:51.980 I'm like, this is the best fucking thing that ever happened to me, dude.
00:14:54.840 Right.
00:14:55.200 Look at my life.
00:14:56.120 Right.
00:14:56.520 Like, this is fucking awesome.
00:14:57.980 Yeah.
00:14:58.200 You see what I'm saying?
00:14:59.300 So, and dude, I could have easily went the other way and I could have easily went the
00:15:02.940 other way and said, cause dude, I was suicidal at that time.
00:15:05.740 Like I could have easily killed myself at that point in time.
00:15:08.880 And what would have been?
00:15:10.080 None of this would have been.
00:15:11.280 Right.
00:15:11.500 You see what I'm saying?
00:15:13.040 So like, dude, we have to take what happens to us in stride and we have to understand that there's
00:15:19.440 a reason it's happening to us.
00:15:21.860 And Ed Milet, my business partner, he says, uh, and one of the smartest dudes I fucking
00:15:26.060 know, he says all the time, it doesn't happen to us.
00:15:30.320 It happens for us.
00:15:31.780 And I, I'm a believer in that.
00:15:33.680 You know what I mean?
00:15:34.240 And like, dude, there is horrible things.
00:15:36.280 There's horrible fucking things that some of you guys have gone through losing a child,
00:15:41.040 right?
00:15:41.940 Like shit that is like, there's nothing good that you can say of it, but maybe you can be
00:15:48.000 of help to someone else who also is going through the same thing or, you know what I'm
00:15:52.060 saying?
00:15:52.300 Like there's all kinds of little things that won't necessarily remove the trauma that happens
00:15:58.160 from that, but we'll help you find some good in that.
00:16:02.420 Yeah.
00:16:02.540 I'm going to be in vain.
00:16:03.420 Right.
00:16:03.680 Exactly.
00:16:04.400 Exactly.
00:16:05.860 That's fucking awesome.
00:16:06.840 Yeah.
00:16:08.160 Uh, Andy, our third and final question for you, Andy, I am an introvert.
00:16:13.420 What are your recommendations for someone trying to climb out of this introvert cage when I'm
00:16:19.160 just not a social butterfly?
00:16:20.520 Yeah.
00:16:20.720 That takes practice because I'm an introvert as well.
00:16:23.240 You know, a lot of people think I'm an extrovert, you know, for sure I'm not, um, because you're
00:16:27.720 with me every day.
00:16:28.440 And when I tell people I am, they don't, they don't understand that I actually am.
00:16:31.900 Right.
00:16:32.260 Right.
00:16:32.520 Like for me to go to a public event, um, and speak or do it, this is why I don't really
00:16:37.540 do meet and greets hardly at all.
00:16:39.040 Because like, dude, the anxiety that comes with it is really hard for me to deal with.
00:16:43.460 Um, so I have to practice and the way what, what I came to realize, and this goes for any
00:16:51.260 of you guys, this, every single person who's listening to the show right now should follow
00:16:55.440 this advice because it will improve your life tremendously.
00:16:58.540 I realized, uh, a little over 10 years ago that I had to get better with people.
00:17:07.700 Like if I was going to be successful and we were going to fulfill our vision for first
00:17:11.620 form and for supplement super stores, um, and for all the other companies that we, that
00:17:15.940 we run, um, I was going to have to get better with people, dude, like more comfortable with
00:17:22.220 people.
00:17:22.480 Like, and, and, and when you throw technology on top of, of the introvert nature of people,
00:17:29.440 right?
00:17:29.800 Like if you're 20 years old right now and you're an introvert and you've grown up on technology
00:17:35.000 and you're naturally an introvert, you've got like a couple of things bearing you right
00:17:38.160 now because we didn't have that when I grew up.
00:17:40.000 So I still knew how to, how to shake a hand and it's, you know, look someone in the eye
00:17:44.120 and make small talk.
00:17:45.580 But most of these younger people right now really are at a disadvantage with that.
00:17:51.020 And you have people telling you, oh, it doesn't matter because it's all technology and you
00:17:55.840 know, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:17:56.740 No, it does fucking matter, bro.
00:17:58.020 And the people who are good with people are going to win way bigger than the people who are
00:18:01.220 good on a keyboard.
00:18:01.960 It's just reality.
00:18:03.180 Okay.
00:18:03.620 Right.
00:18:03.900 So how do we get better at that?
00:18:06.920 Well, we have to put ourselves in those situations intentionally.
00:18:11.400 All right.
00:18:11.940 So what I did was I developed a fucking little routine of mine.
00:18:15.580 Um, I lived over here in South County and I went to the South County Dearburgs.
00:18:21.360 Uh, and those are you in St. Louis, you know what I'm talking about right there, Tess on
00:18:24.200 Ferry and Kennerly.
00:18:25.140 And I would go in that Dearburgs and I would make myself talk to three people.
00:18:29.540 All right.
00:18:30.100 And so I would go there not to buy anything, but to walk through the store and try to introduce
00:18:35.160 myself or have a meaningful conversation of small conversation, not like fucking war and 0.91
00:18:40.580 peace, bro.
00:18:41.160 You know what I'm saying?
00:18:42.240 Like that's all child hunger right now, but also not, Hey, how you doing?
00:18:45.940 Right.
00:18:46.320 Okay.
00:18:46.560 And then for those of you guys who are just starting, Hey, how you doing might be this
00:18:50.080 might be where you start.
00:18:51.260 Yeah.
00:18:51.500 And that's okay.
00:18:52.540 But what I would do in the, I made up little rule.
00:18:55.200 The rule was I couldn't leave the store until I talked to three people.
00:18:58.220 So three people that I didn't talk to before.
00:19:00.540 All right.
00:19:01.020 And after a year or so doing that, you get to know a lot of people in your area.
00:19:04.220 Right.
00:19:04.520 I actually think from doing this, it actually helped make us get where we are today because
00:19:09.020 I ended up having so many conversations with people that were in my area of where our retail
00:19:14.180 stores were that it actually drummed up business unintentionally.
00:19:17.340 That's not the intention of what I did.
00:19:18.820 So the intention was for me to go in, uh, make small talk or have some sort of interaction
00:19:25.720 with people, uh, three.
00:19:27.640 And then before I could leave.
00:19:29.260 And sometimes that took me 10 minutes.
00:19:30.900 Sometimes it took me an hour.
00:19:32.100 Sometimes it took me two hours, but I did it for years, years and years and years.
00:19:36.480 And I did it consistently.
00:19:37.760 And what that did was that allowed me to break down all the weird, uh, social, socially awkward,
00:19:45.940 um, you know, actions that I know that you normally have from being an introvert.
00:19:53.400 Does that make sense?
00:19:54.420 And so, dude, it's, it's no different than anything else, bro.
00:19:57.060 If you want to get good at something, you have to practice it.
00:19:59.460 So I would recommend doing that.
00:20:02.480 Go to your Walmart.
00:20:03.860 Okay.
00:20:04.260 Or your, wherever, whatever your local grocery store is, go in and, and make yourself talk
00:20:09.740 to three people.
00:20:10.600 And no matter what it takes, if you do that for a fuck, if you do that for a fucking month, 0.56
00:20:14.920 if you do it for 30 fucking days, I promise you it will change your fucking life.
00:20:19.520 Okay.
00:20:20.400 So do that because that's, that's what I did.
00:20:23.560 And, and now like, dude, I could talk to anybody.
00:20:25.740 Like I, I don't, I'm not an extrovert person, but I can easily, I have the skills to be extroverted.
00:20:33.120 Right.
00:20:33.440 Does that make sense?
00:20:34.340 Right, right, right, right.
00:20:35.260 So, so naturally I'm an introvert.
00:20:37.100 Like I like my, I like my alone time.
00:20:39.460 You know, I spend a lot of time alone.
00:20:41.600 It allows me to think, it allows me to focus.
00:20:44.860 It allows me to come up with the ideas that I need that are, that are maybe creative or
00:20:50.120 innovative.
00:20:50.500 It allows me to do all that part of me.
00:20:52.400 But then I also have the skillset when I go in public and I know what needs to be done
00:20:56.320 there too.
00:20:57.080 And so we can't rely on the traits that we were born with.
00:20:59.940 This is what society likes to tell us, right?
00:21:03.200 It likes to tell us, oh, you know, well, you know, you're fat or you're an introvert or
00:21:10.060 you're stupid or you're this. 0.98
00:21:11.660 And dude, the truth is we just lack the skills.
00:21:13.960 We lack the skills.
00:21:15.140 We lack the skills of how to eat right.
00:21:17.300 We lack the skills of being an extrovert.
00:21:19.720 We lack the skills of discipline.
00:21:21.640 If you start to look at all these things as skills instead of traits, it becomes very
00:21:26.240 obvious how to improve them.
00:21:28.280 And how to improve them is to put yourself in those situations and tension.
00:21:32.220 That's fucking awesome.
00:21:33.740 That's awesome.
00:21:34.240 Well, Andy, that's three.
00:21:35.360 So guys, go pay the fee.
00:21:36.500 All right, guys, share the show, man.
00:21:39.620 We're out here trying to do some good stuff for y'all.
00:21:41.240 We appreciate it.
00:21:41.980 We love you guys.
00:21:42.540 We'll see you next time.
00:21:43.280 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:21:45.420 Now my jewelry box froze.
00:21:47.140 Fuck a bowl.
00:21:47.920 Fuck a stove. 0.96
00:21:48.780 Counted millions in the cold.
00:21:50.460 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:21:51.280 Booty swole. 1.00
00:21:52.120 Got her on bankroll.
00:21:53.760 Can't fold.
00:21:54.640 Doesn't know.
00:21:55.460 Headshot.
00:21:56.280 Case closed.
00:21:56.960 Close.