REAL AF with Andy Frisella - February 07, 2022


228. Q&AF： 14-Year-Old Entrepreneur, Getting People To Believe & Unrealized Potential In Others


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In this episode of the Realists, we have Q & Af join us to talk about how to become a success guru at a young age. Q is a 14 year old entrepreneur who has built a successful motivational tiktok account and is also running his own vending machine business.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the realists say goodbye the lies
00:00:21.200 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
00:00:25.800 we have q and af now q comes from you and the af comes from me so where do we submit these
00:00:34.580 q's guys as always you can email these questions and to ask andy at andy for seller.com email those
00:00:41.400 in all right now before we get into it we have a fee the fee is very simple help us grow the show
00:00:49.700 all right i don't run ads on the show i could literally make probably eight figures running
00:00:54.800 motherfucking ads on this show i'm probably stupid for not doing it honestly um but i hate it when i 0.96
00:01:01.560 listen to other things and they just pump me full of fucking ads i do very well in life i'm willing 0.96
00:01:07.100 to take that hit to be better at providing content for you so what i ask in return is that you please
00:01:14.420 share the show it's very simple talk to a friend share it on your instagram share it on your youtube
00:01:20.820 share it on your wherever you tube tube tube i don't give a fuck all right but help us grow 0.52
00:01:25.420 now what are the q's we got some good ones do we got some good ones man let's knock this out question
00:01:33.120 uh andy i am 14 years old okay and i'm in the middle of 75 hard i run a successful motivational
00:01:41.900 tiktok account i'm also starting my own vending machine business my question is how do i get people
00:01:48.640 to actually listen to me when i try to help them with their problems i have a good track record
00:01:53.180 i've read tons of self-help books self-help books and yet i'm still looked down because of my age all
00:01:59.260 right bro well guess what i'm still looked down because of my age all right this is a good problem
00:02:05.280 my whole entire life in business guys i have been way ahead of where i should have been for my age and
00:02:11.840 nobody wanted to take me seriously this is look first of all i want you to understand this is a
00:02:18.480 huge advantage okay because when people don't take you seriously they will not only give you plenty of
00:02:25.760 fuel to succeed right like that's where you have to become good like when people slight you or they
00:02:30.980 disrespect you or they uh talk down to you um you know you should bank that in your you know fuck you 0.94
00:02:39.400 fuel right and go do productive things to get better now with that being said how awesome is that 14
00:02:47.760 years old pretty fucking sweet that is awesome okay uh i probably shouldn't use the f word
00:02:53.460 probably obviously listens to the show so you know what the fuck it is so so here's the deal look 0.61
00:02:59.560 you're a motherfucker dude that's just that's dude that just gives me so much hope dude to hear that 0.90
00:03:06.000 like it's amazing um you will probably never be taken seriously bro until you are so wealthy and
00:03:15.020 kicking so much ass that people have to take you serious that's what happened to me okay second thing 0.88
00:03:21.060 you have to understand and this is just the truth okay that theory and experience and speaking from
00:03:28.480 those two places are valued completely differently a lot of people out there are trying to become a
00:03:33.480 success guru and you know and it sucks because there's some of these guys that are actually pretty
00:03:39.640 good speakers but they're never going to be taken seriously because they never built anything real
00:03:44.800 okay so my advice to you as a 14 year old uh is to build something real ignore what they say
00:03:53.600 you are per dude when i was 14 i can remember having a pretty good grip on what was going on in
00:03:58.520 the world now was i wrong about some shit yeah for sure but i was definitely an adult in my mind and 0.61
00:04:05.740 i knew i i knew who i wanted to be i knew who i i was aspiring to be um i didn't have as much courage
00:04:12.520 as this as this young person did in that i wasn't you know actually getting out there active putting
00:04:18.800 myself out there so that's super courageous but understand that respect will only come after it's
00:04:25.680 undeniable that you built something significant okay so i don't care how good of a speaker you you
00:04:31.200 become i don't care how great you become i don't care how much regurgitated info and by the way that
00:04:36.760 doesn't mean it's less valuable info what it means is people are going to understand that you're speaking
00:04:42.380 from a place of theory and not a place of experience okay and when you could speak from a place of
00:04:47.060 experience people value that much much more so my my encouragement to those guys and girls out there
00:04:54.380 that want to become an entrepreneur influencer okay don't don't become a guru like one of these people
00:05:01.460 who's just out there repeating shit that i said or someone else said that's actually built some shit 0.90
00:05:06.420 right become someone who not only can speak on this but can show that they put these principles
00:05:13.820 into place and built something significant and it sounds to me like this young person is well on their
00:05:19.180 way to that and uh that's an amazing thing so my advice to to him i think it's i think you said i don't
00:05:25.580 know if you said okay my advice to you um is to keep going all right keep keep reading keep consuming
00:05:33.340 keep learning keep paying attention try to learn from other people's mistakes become students of success
00:05:39.500 because that's something that i have always done and been very passionate about was watching other
00:05:44.860 people i i've learned a lot of my lessons my most valuable lessons sometimes from watching other people
00:05:51.220 make mistakes uh and then saying okay well that that obviously didn't work out very well for them so i'm not
00:05:56.440 going to do that right so you know pay attention what's going on continue to pump your brain full of uh of
00:06:03.200 amazing information it's going to help you be better don't waste time like your friends uh doing
00:06:08.640 bullshit all right continue to put in the work to develop discipline like you're doing because that 0.83
00:06:14.500 discipline and that control is what's going to get you to where you want to go in the shortest amount of
00:06:19.660 time right this dude whoever you are you've got you you've got it dude so just keep going be patient
00:06:28.860 understand it might be till you're 30 years old before people are saying man you're awesome but maybe
00:06:36.240 not maybe you become a multi-billionaire at 23 years old because you started so early and people
00:06:41.240 will respect that but like dude the point is is that you have to be undeniable for people to give
00:06:46.540 you respect that's just the reality people now at this point in my life can say anything they want
00:06:51.340 about me but i'm undeniable period that's it it's on my work is undeniable and every motherfucking 0.85
00:06:56.840 thing that i touch that's the truth okay and that took me a long time for a long long time guys
00:07:02.660 everybody told me the same shit they're telling you who the fuck do you think you are like dude i 0.91
00:07:07.940 remember posting a motivational uh quote back in like 2010 and i remember people in my family you
00:07:15.500 know message me being like who the fuck are you think you are tony robbins like make fun of me and 0.97
00:07:19.900 shit well now what motherfucker right you see what i'm saying right right so that's the attitude to have 0.86
00:07:25.760 keep keep putting on your game keep listening to people that are actually doing shit 0.88
00:07:30.500 keep building real shit and dude you will get where you want to go and by the way when you get 0.79
00:07:36.020 there invite me because that's fucking awesome that's fucking awesome yeah all right our question 0.83
00:07:40.780 number two and kind of moving on from that oh i love that no it's fucking awesome yeah yeah i love
00:07:46.140 hearing the younger the younger kids take an interest in this entrepreneur instead of fucking 0.89
00:07:51.160 nfts or crypto or get rich quick shit yeah like they're actually trying to build shit yeah dude that guys
00:07:57.900 that is where the opportunity is and where it will always be the reason people don't talk about
00:08:03.660 it is because it takes a lot of work but i'm telling you dude if you're willing to commit which
00:08:08.140 this person is actually willing to do at 14 years old dude just keep that energy bro just keep going
00:08:14.900 and keep going and keep going and you will get there like that might be my favorite question we've
00:08:19.920 had on the show so far just because of who it came from that's awesome yeah all right our question
00:08:25.920 number two andy so so kind of building off of that how can can you walk us through the process of it
00:08:32.360 now where you are now uh with the companies and employees that you have um getting people to
00:08:38.620 believe in those visions and the goals that you have for those companies and for those employees
00:08:43.220 can you talk a little bit about yeah yeah dude it's uh it's a difficult thing okay like i've always
00:08:48.740 said and and you know which is the the sound clip has gone mega viral you know nobody believes in
00:08:54.080 you until after you've done it right that's just reality okay so and that includes a lot of times
00:08:58.900 your own team a lot of times your own you have to remember dude a lot of people are not brought up
00:09:04.340 in an atmosphere of achievement they're not brought up in an atmosphere of you can do anything you want
00:09:09.060 they're brought up on a fucking video game with parents that care just enough about them to like 0.89
00:09:14.560 not let them die right you know what i'm saying and so you can't blame people for not believing big
00:09:20.560 because they don't believe big until they see big all right so how do you get people to believe big
00:09:25.820 that have never seen it it's a really hard thing see i was very very fortunate to grow up in a
00:09:31.700 business household both of my parents were entrepreneurs okay uh small small business
00:09:36.800 entrepreneurs that grew and had some success uh and then ultimately you know regressed from that
00:09:41.300 success and that's just reality uh i was able to witness that firsthand it was some of the most
00:09:46.080 valuable shit that i could ever witness and uh for that reason i was able to to understand that
00:09:52.580 big things can be accomplished right so i was shown it even though even though the success was fleeting
00:09:59.040 and temporary at that level for both both my parents you know you knew it existed yeah i knew it was
00:10:04.320 possible so i was able to see it and and and i was always i was fortunate enough to be around people
00:10:10.680 um who were who were wealthy right like my dad was always very good about showing us other people
00:10:18.820 who were much more successful than he was and saying hey that's what this guy does here's how he got
00:10:25.620 there this is what he did and if you want to do that this is what it's going to take i can remember a
00:10:30.420 thousand times my dad pointing at other people like and saying that and like dude you got to remember
00:10:35.560 that's my dad pointing at other men who were more successful than he was saying learn from them
00:10:41.260 that takes a lot of humility dude yeah that's pride you see what i'm saying yeah and so a lot of a lot
00:10:45.800 of people don't have that so a lot of kids never get that perspective it's the whole reason i started
00:10:49.980 my show in the first place like fifth like whatever it was seven eight years ago so most parents were
00:10:56.000 like oh that guy's just a rich asshole yes yes and instead what you should be saying is here's how he got
00:11:01.740 there here's what it took this is a story and if you want that you could do that same thing all right
00:11:07.560 and this is why i have so much problem with the crt thing and all this shit of telling people they 0.83
00:11:11.860 can't achieve because i know you can achieve you're just never exposed to it and you never see it so it
00:11:16.920 seems impossible and you have to remember that your team however your big your team is is made up of
00:11:22.460 mostly people that were raised like that okay so once you understand that perspective it becomes much
00:11:27.540 easier to get them to believe because you understand what's going to be required to get them to
00:11:31.620 believe okay and ultimately no matter how good engagement uh your team has and how much they
00:11:38.120 love your company and how much they love you they ultimately want to know where in your play do they
00:11:45.880 fit in all right so one of the biggest things that you can do when you are creating a scenario uh that
00:11:54.040 you're trying to sell your team on a vision right is to number one make the vision so big that all
00:12:01.480 of their dreams fit inside that vision okay number two um point to examples of other companies who
00:12:10.520 have done similar things as to what you're trying to do and then backtrack how they did it so you could
00:12:15.760 show them the game plan of how that was actually accomplished right um and then be third thing is be
00:12:22.500 real about it you know make sure you don't tell them and i made this mistake where i would tell people
00:12:27.400 you know hey this is happening right now when in reality it took three or four years right and and
00:12:34.260 that that wasn't done on purpose it was just me being overly ambitious and not understanding the
00:12:38.880 process and and what happened was in those scenarios is a lot of times people would get frustrated with
00:12:43.780 me because they would think that i was full of shit right when in reality i eventually got where i 0.63
00:12:47.860 said i was going to go it just took longer so you have to be real with people and i think setting a
00:12:52.380 realistic expectation hey bro this is going to take four or five years or six years to do or 20
00:12:58.660 years or whatever it's better than bullshit because then they don't get frustrated they understand it's 0.51
00:13:03.420 it's a it's a uh a gradual process that we got to come in and execute against every single day
00:13:08.920 so the biggest thing though is to make sure that they know that you give a fuck about their future
00:13:16.200 that is a fucking huge thing most guys that own businesses or girls that own businesses do not put 0.78
00:13:21.880 enough emphasis on the dreams and the wishes and the wants and the goals of the people that work
00:13:28.300 for them okay so you have to develop a plan where there is literally unlimited success within your
00:13:35.360 within your play all right now a lot of you are sitting there saying well i don't know i don't want
00:13:40.920 to be this big thing or i don't want to you know i just want to have my small little business and i want
00:13:45.800 to make my 500 grand a year and and and i want to have my employees to make 80 grand a year and
00:13:52.100 go to the lake every week yeah right and you know what motherfucker you're gonna fucking lose eventually 0.95
00:13:56.680 because you are either getting bigger and better and growing or you are losing to someone who is
00:14:02.240 taking that space so there is no middle gear of like neutral in in this game and you have to
00:14:09.260 understand that the minute you go into neutral your people start to realize that you're a neutral and
00:14:13.760 they fucking see it before you even realize that you're in it and what they do is they abandon you 0.89
00:14:18.300 right they say this guy doesn't want to fucking work for me anymore and listen what i just said 0.94
00:14:22.900 this guy doesn't want to work for me anymore as the employee right right motherfucker you work for them 0.99
00:14:27.800 they don't work for you that's what you got to understand like people say oh i don't work for
00:14:32.880 anybody well then you're a fucking shitty leader that's fucking dope you see what i'm saying that's 0.99
00:14:37.980 deep dude i get up here every month bro i don't have to come here i don't have to fucking come 0.99
00:14:42.280 here at all like i could not come here another day in my life and never fucking work again ever 0.96
00:14:47.240 ever ever ever ever that's where i'm at in life i come here every motherfucking day for you and him 0.85
00:14:53.120 and him and him and all these people out here in this office and that's how you have to be if you if
00:14:58.360 you want your team to fucking believe in what you're doing it's just reality that's fucking fire man yeah 0.93
00:15:03.740 that's fire andy our third and final question let's take that one little step further okay so how
00:15:09.440 you you've you've employed thousands of people okay how do you handle someone that you see has so
00:15:17.020 much potential that they just don't see it yet dude that's why you got to take an interest in people
00:15:22.720 you know you can't treat everybody the same you can't blanket statement your entire fucking squad 0.93
00:15:27.960 you know how i would do that is i would put my arm around that person and pull them in i explain to
00:15:32.900 them what i saw i'd say okay and here's where you need to go to exercise that that potential right
00:15:38.000 um and start to start to work with them now here's the thing you could only give them so much energy
00:15:44.920 because what happens is you have a number let's just say you run an organization of 10 people
00:15:51.020 okay and you have nine people who are coming in every day and they're working fucking hard and 0.93
00:15:56.580 they're they believe and they're this and they're that and that 10th guy you're like all right this guy's
00:16:01.480 good but he just doesn't know he's good right so what you have to do is you pull that guy in
00:16:05.760 i'm making this oversimplified all right so everybody understands that pull the dude in
00:16:10.600 hey dude i love you got great potential here's where you're fucking up here's what you need to 0.82
00:16:15.960 do to fix it okay and you have these conversations real conversations like hey dude like you can be
00:16:22.600 great but you are not being great right now and and this is what needs to change and it has to be
00:16:27.780 real it has to be a real conversation not some fucking email that you send them right okay and 0.96
00:16:32.800 and you and then they have to take the they have to meet you in the middle bro they have to do their
00:16:38.280 part because here's what's happened here's what happens a lot people try to bring someone along
00:16:44.300 that doesn't really want to be brought along even though they have the potential to do it themselves
00:16:49.480 and then those nine motherfuckers that are kicking ass they start to resent you because you're 1.00
00:16:53.480 spending all your fucking time with someone who's not putting in you see what i'm saying link link 0.96
00:16:57.800 almost that's right yeah and you don't want to be the boss or the ceo or the leader that spends all
00:17:02.640 the time with the person that caused you the most problems does that make sense that makes perfect
00:17:06.800 sense so you have to walk a fine line of helping them but also making them understand that it's on
00:17:12.920 them and if they don't step up and they don't come around and they don't catch up with the team
00:17:16.900 and start rowing at the same pace there's not going to be a place for you on the boat because look
00:17:21.820 dude if you got five guys on the left and five guys on the right and five guys on the left are
00:17:26.160 rowing at one pace and everybody on the right's rowing at one pace except one guy guess what
00:17:29.960 happens to the boat it don't go straight it goes in circles and that's what your business will do too
00:17:34.360 okay so you have to really be careful to not over invest into people who aren't willing to invest
00:17:41.600 in themselves so i would give that basically what i do is i give that sort of a three strike rule
00:17:47.660 in my mind like i don't have an official policy here where i have like okay i gave steve fucking 0.94
00:17:53.060 three talks you talked on two o'clock yeah what i do is i'll try to give them i'll try to i'll try to
00:17:59.160 have three decent conversations and then after that third conversation if shit don't change bro i'm 0.82
00:18:04.880 planning on making a change and that's just that's the the that's the ugly of being a leader would you
00:18:10.180 say those people usually wean themselves out yeah 100 percent you know 100 percent dude because and
00:18:14.100 here's the other thing too as it from a leader standpoint if you if your whole team if you're
00:18:20.140 nine guys on that team realize that that 10th guy is weak and you don't make a change guess what
00:18:25.320 happens they don't make the change for you no no no no no it undermines the whole question we just
00:18:30.820 asked that you asked in the second question which is the vision because they don't believe that you
00:18:34.820 have the fucking balls to make the changes necessary for them to win so when the team loses the faith in 0.79
00:18:39.700 the coach they don't play for him no more right and then what happens right you know fucking you're 0.99
00:18:45.140 fucked yeah okay so this is a very important question to understand and those of you i guarantee
00:18:51.040 you there's so many people shaking their head right now they're like fuck i spent so much time on steve 0.86
00:18:56.160 right right right fuck steve if he ain't gonna get it right and that's the unfortunate reality of life 0.82
00:19:01.120 and let me add one more thing onto that sometimes those people need someone to say hey fuck you steve 0.96
00:19:07.780 so that they learn their lesson and then they the next place they go they excel and then they come
00:19:13.560 back to you five six years later and say hey dude thank you for doing that thank you for changing my
00:19:18.160 life by being real with me okay this is this is a long term when you handle employees you should be
00:19:23.940 thinking just as much about their existence and their future and their life as they do all right and
00:19:29.560 sometimes keeping people from learning a valuable lesson like that is a disservice to their entire future
00:19:34.940 so that's fucking real man that's real that's real that's fucking awesome well guys that's three 0.97
00:19:42.980 that's three i know you're gonna say it so go pay the fee there you go guys i appreciate you guys i
00:19:48.900 love you guys please share the show okay we're trying to do good for you guys um and i just want to say
00:19:54.820 special thanks to all you guys who supported me throughout this shit for the last two years i'd much
00:19:59.540 rather come in here and talk about money all day long and success all day long like we just talked about
00:20:03.500 but there's important things going on in the world that don't get resolved we won't have that
00:20:06.860 opportunity so i appreciate you guys uh who may not be uh so much of the political mindset hearing
00:20:14.120 what i'm saying taking what i'm saying seriously and supporting what i believe is important so i love
00:20:18.880 you guys i appreciate you guys i'll talk to you soon
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