234. Q&AF： Recognizing Your Bitch Voice, First Impressions Are Overrated & Signs Of Complacency
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Summary
In this episode of The Realest, DJ and Andy discuss the importance of TOUGHENING THE F.U.I.A. and how to distinguish between the bitch voice and the boss voice in your head, and when it's time to take a break.
Transcript
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, take a bite of
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the lies, the figness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, this is where you bring the Q's and I bring the AF's and as
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Is that, where does that fit in the hierarchy of nicknames?
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You know, I think it's just getting started, so we'll just see how it goes.
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Bro, White Lightning is like, that's going to be fucking on my fucking tombstone.
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Okay, we got three questions, and I'm going to answer those questions, and then if you
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are satisfied with the answers to these questions, or you thought they were good, or it taught
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you some things, you're going to share the show.
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We got three good ones for you guys, and always, guys, you can email these questions in
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And with that being said, question, Andy, you talk about the bitch voice and the boss
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How do you tell the difference between your bitch voice and your boss voice, and when
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you actually need a break or actually need rest?
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Most of the time, the vast majority of the time, it's your bitch voice.
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Most humans are so conditioned to be fucking weak and soft and rest and take a break that
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they've been doing that their whole entire fucking lives, okay?
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So first of all, very rarely do people run into this actual problem.
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More frequently, when you work reasonably hard, you are going to have a response that says
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this is hard, and you're going to have to understand that it's supposed to be hard.
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I am of the opinion that people cut themselves way too much slack and lean way too hard on
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taking it easy, give yourself a break, you don't have to go that hard, which is why their
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life fucking sucks, because you listen to everybody else whose lives fucking suck, okay?
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When you hear a voice in your head that deters you from doing what it is you know you're supposed
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When you've done what you're supposed to do, then it's time for a rest.
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People think they're working hard when they're not working hard.
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People think they're exerting themselves when they're not exerting themselves.
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People think they're at their fucking limits before they're even in the realm of their
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So worry less about when you need your actual rest and worry more if you've actually earned
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So I wouldn't concern yourself with, do you need an actual rest?
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You likely need to toughen the fuck up, which is the whole point of the program.
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I can't stand, honestly, when people get, when I get that question, if I'm being completely
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Most of you motherfuckers are weak as fuck, okay?
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I got asked, I got asked recently, you know, if a gallon of water was unreasonable or if you
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And I don't care if you like that word or not like that word or whatever, dude.
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Understand that anything worth achieving is going to be difficult.
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Understand that anything that you're going to be proud of at the end of your fucking life
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is going to come from you telling yourself to shut the fuck up and finish what you started.
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And if you don't have that capacity, you're not going to be very successful.
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Like, a lot of people that try to do 75 hard shouldn't even be doing it.
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They want to know when their next cheat meal is coming or when the rest is coming.
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Bro, if you're fucking out here trying to, you know, wait for your next period of rest,
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Like, dude, why don't you focus on what you're going to gain?
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Why don't you focus on what it is you're about to do with your life?
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Why don't you focus on all the skills and qualities that you're going to build within yourself
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that you've never fucking had so you don't realize how amazing your life will fucking
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Why don't you focus on that for once in your fucking life instead of worrying about when
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And what are some quote unquote networking tips that someone, that this person should
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Everybody says, oh, your first impression is going to make or break you.
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If you're dealing with someone who's a fucking moron.
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I can't tell you how many times I've met someone and the very first impression, I fucking hated
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them only to figure out that they were exactly like me and that's why I fucking hated them.
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So if you're dealing with someone who's closed minded, who's, who is aloof, who's arrogant,
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But at the end of the day, what's really going to speak is who you are over the consistent
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long-term, what skills you build, what kind of life you're building, what your work ethics
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like, how kind you are, how you treat other people.
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And those things matter much more than trying to manufacture a fucking first impression.
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So what I would concentrate on is becoming a person of character and values that stands
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on that with a fucking solid ass backbone that's confident, that believes in themselves because
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What you really should practice on is developing yourself into one of these people who literally
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permeates confidence, who literally permeates the attractiveness of knowing that I want
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to know that person because they don't seem to really need anything that I have.
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And it comes from really the qualities you gain in 75 hard, your confidence, your self-esteem,
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your self-image, your belief in yourself, your discipline, your fortitude, your grit.
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You know when you meet a motherfucker that has all those things, just like you know when
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So let's stop trying to manufacture this fake fucking thing for people to have a perception
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of us about, oh, first impressions, elevator speeches.
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Instead, become so fucking good, no one can fucking ignore you.
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Then you don't have to worry about first impressions.
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I don't give two fucks what someone thinks about me because I know when they dig in or
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if they observe me for a good amount of time, they'll figure it the fuck out.
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And if they aren't willing to invest that time to figure it out, I don't need them.
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So you guys are too concerned with manufacturing this.
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It comes from getting all your likes and shares.
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And, you know, a lot of you guys become slaves to the fucking program because you're just
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You're dancing for your fucking next little treat.
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And the treat is your fucking likes and your shares instead of being who the fuck you are
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or putting in the work to become undeniably great.
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Like, dude, this is, it's perception versus reality.
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So stop thinking about trying to manufacture a first impression and start thinking about
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becoming someone who's so fucking good they don't even need an introduction.
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Everybody knows who the fuck I am when I walk in the room.
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Andy, our third and final question for you, man.
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Andy, what are the signs of complacency and how do you handle it when you notice them?
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Honestly, I think it comes down to noticing when you start to compromise.
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Um, complacency comes from compromise and the compromise in the beginning is very small.
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It's doing 40 minutes instead of 45 minutes on your outdoor workout, or it's, um, eating
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three crackers that, you know, weren't on your program that you weren't supposed to.
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It starts at the first compromise, the compromise that you think nobody's going to notice.
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I'll know it's okay because I'm going to do extra 20 minutes tomorrow of cardio.
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It starts with one little compromise, which leads to a second compromise, which leads to
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a third compromise, which eventually leads to nothing mattering at all.
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And once you end up in your, your, and this happens gradually, it's like the frog in the
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It's like the tyranny going on in our country right now.
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The first little compromise that you give gives them more power.
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And then to the point where you don't have any left.
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This is the same thing with everything in life.
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So if you want to avoid complacency, stop compromising on the small shit.
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Hold your standards, hold your line, get to a point where you understand that you're executing
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against the things that you said you were going to execute against and do that.
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It's very fucking simple, but you know, getting to a place of comfort or getting to a place
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And that's why I talked to you guys about discipline being a perishable skill.
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It's something that you have to brush up on regularly throughout your life over and over
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That's why whenever people say, Oh, 75 hard is not sustainable.
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You're supposed to be a tune-up for your fucking brain.
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Just like you would go do a tune-up in the fucking gym.
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Anyway, bro, like to me, this is, I don't know.
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Well, you say you, like everybody has to, like everybody goes through that.
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So like what, what do you personally do when you notice yourself getting out of that?
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Like, dude, we're not able to have honest conversations with our own fucking self anymore.
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We tell ourselves all the shit that we know isn't even true so that we can feel good in
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And instead of getting what done, what's done, it's going to make you feel good a month from
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So like, bro, you have to have a finger on the pulse of your own bullshit all the time.
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You have to be able to identify and be honest with yourself.
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When you cut a fucking corner, you have, you cannot continue to like, say, oh, it's
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And clearly you're dissatisfied where the fuck you are.
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Every, everybody gets to a point where they feel complacent.
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Everybody gets to a point where they get comfortable.
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It creeps up on you like a motherfucking ninja.
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And I'm just telling you, it's your compromises that lead to that.
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It's the little compromises you make when no one's looking that lead to complacency, which
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lead to comfort, which lead to you losing all your shit, whatever it is that you have,
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whether it be your physical health, your relationship, your fucking business, your job or whatever.
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You know, and I don't understand how hard, it's not a hard concept to grasp.
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Stop compromising on the little shit and the big shit will take care of itself.
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You won't get to a point of complacency or you'll at least delay it.
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But I mean, being aware enough to look at yourself and say, you know what?
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They lack the ability to criticize themselves in a real way.
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They either overly criticize themselves and make themselves feel like dog shit or they build
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themselves up to be someone that they clearly aren't and they end up getting stomped.
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And the truth is usually right down the middle, right?
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So being able to honestly observe your actions and tell yourself the truth is a massive skill
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that people have to develop and it's called, it's being self-aware.
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You know, so what is the truth of your situation?
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Are you actually giving what you could be giving or are you coasting?
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Are you doing the little things or are you not doing the little things?
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So, so realize that you're competing against literally millions of other humans for a spot
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somewhere in the realm of where it is you decide you want to be in life.
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Someone else will get your spot because you're willing to compromise some of the time.
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So I, you know, people like to talk about all this bullshit, you know, that everybody
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I would, would it be cool if everybody got to win?
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But then again, I don't know that it would be because then what we're winning be.
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And the people who lose are people who cut corners and compromise and get to a place
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Can't have an honest conversation with themselves.