244. Q&AF： Non-Believers Proof, Wants Vs. Needs & Toxic Skills
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In this episode, we talk about how to deal with non-believers in your business, family, and friends. How do you deal with them? What do you do with them when they don t believe in you? How can you handle them when you have the evidence to prove them wrong?
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakes, and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF. This is where I bring the Qs and you bring the, wait, hold
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on. This is where you bring the Qs. Who brought the Qs? The people. All right. The people bring
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the Qs and I give the AFs. How about that? Basically. All right. Let's do the show. What's
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the show? We got a fee. We do have a fee. The fee is very simple. If it made you think,
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if it made you laugh, if it gave you some info, it's going to help make you better. If
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it gave you a new perspective, if it taught you something, please share the show. That's
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what we're going for here. So yeah. What's up, dude? Yeah. You got your trophy there. I
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got my trophy. Yeah. Dude, that's going right on the mantle. I know it is when you get home.
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I mean, I think it looks good here. It does look good there. It does. I mean, it looks
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pretty good there. Yeah. I'd expect it to be bigger and blacker, but this works. Yeah.
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That was good. That was, it was mediocre. It was a mediocre joke. All right. All right.
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Yeah. So yeah, I got three good ones for you, bro. Yeah. So, so guys, if this is your first
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time listening, we go back and forth between content. We go with CTI, which is more current
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issues. What's going on? Uh, most of people that listen to that, uh, walk away some sort
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of pissed off because I tell the truth. Um, then we have Q and AF where I answer your
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entrepreneurship questions. Um, your business questions, your get better questions, personal
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development, life questions, your life, whatever, man. Um, and we go back and forth. So
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Hell yeah. Yeah. And guys, if you want to, uh, submit your questions, please email them in
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to ask Andy at Andy for seller.com. And with that being said, brother, let's knock these
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out. Question number one for you, Andy. Um, and if you talked about, uh, the work and the
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belief, right. And how the belief comes after the word, how do you handle the non-believers,
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uh, whether they're in your company or in your friend group, um, that still don't believe in
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you after the proof has already come. How do you handle those guys?
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I don't associate with those people. I don't, they're irrelevant. I don't care. Like I don't,
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they're not on my radar. I, they don't exist in my mind. Like when they speak, I don't hear them
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when, when they're in my sight, I don't see them. I they're invisible to me. Like it's that simple.
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People put too much pressure on that much interest on that. No, dude, I don't give a fuck what
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someone thinks of me, dude, bro. Why would you, well, I don't understand the obsession of this.
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Like I really don't, I really don't understand the fixation that people have on earning the
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approval of people that don't fucking matter. What I think this holds people back more than
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anything. Like you're trying to win the opinion of someone who isn't doing anything. They haven't
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done anything. Anybody who's done something like you're trying to do is going to look at what you've
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done and respect it. Even if they're your competitor. All right. So why are you worried about
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earning the approval of these people from your past, whether they're your family or your friends
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or however close they are when they haven't done anything? Like I, I don't care. I don't know
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how else to say that. Like, I really don't like, it's like when people argue with me on the internet,
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I have to value your opinion for me to exchange in some sort of dialogue with you. Like I'm not
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arguing with someone who lives in a fucking $450 apartment who is on, you know,
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or the basement. Yeah. Like I'm not, yeah, I'm not, I'm not fucking arguing. That person's not
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worth my fucking time to argue with. Like your life is your life. My life is my life. It speaks
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for itself. I don't care if you fucking like it. And if you don't like it, I don't, it doesn't
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matter. Yeah. It's just, it's irrelevant. And like I, it's wasted energy, dude. Why do you think
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people put, put so much interest on that then? Because I think that people don't truly believe in
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themselves and they don't truly believe that they're, they're good. Um, even when the evidence
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is there that they've done some good things, I think that they still sell themselves short.
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You know, I think a lot of times people are bullied growing up. They're told they're never
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going to be anything. They're told they're not good enough. You know, I was told all those fucking
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things too. And, um, it can be hard to overcome those things, you know? And I think that even when you
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do achieve big things, there's still people that you want to, you, you want to notice. Right. But
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like at the end of the day, it really doesn't matter. I think it's kind of like you go through
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a phase, like in the beginning, you're just kind of working. Then you get to a certain level and you
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expect this person or these people to like somehow approve of you. They're, what they're going to do
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is they're going to pretend like they don't see you winning, you know? So, so why are you,
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why do you care? You know, just pretend you don't see them back. It's going to bother them worse.
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You know, and that's just me, dude. Like I, I think it's wasted energy. I think people that
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overly concern themselves with the opinions of others limit their own success. I think that
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energy should be put into moving forward. I think that, uh, anybody I know that wins big does not
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put, I can't think of a conversation that I've ever had with like my, my entrepreneur, successful
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friends, any of them. I'm trying to think back where they've ever like talked about someone from
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the past at all. Like they just don't care. And, and, and you have to let it go, dude. Like
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anytime you step outside the normal of what life is supposed to be, what people are programmed to
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live like, which is very sad existence, right? Like get a job, go to work, barely pay your bills,
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drink some beers, fucking complain about shit and do it over and over and over again and then die.
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And, um, it's just not a way to live. So like, I don't respect that lifestyle. So I don't respect
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the opinions of people that live that lifestyle and you shouldn't either. Yeah. Yeah. That's
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fucking real. Yeah. That's real. Andy, question number two, Andy, you once said that if you saw,
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uh, if you, if you had a business that sold people what they wanted instead of what they needed,
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you would have been way more successful quicker. Can you elaborate on that?
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Yeah. People want ice cream. They don't want fucking protein shakes. People want alcohol.
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They don't want fucking, uh, healthy fucking brownies that people want fun and comfort and
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entertainment. They don't want to get better. It's not their nature to get better. So when you're
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constantly fighting against the human nature to get better, it's a harder sale, right? Everything I sell
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for the most part without, with the exception of being in the cannabis space or the alcohol space,
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um, all those other things that I'm in, which is most of my business is get people better.
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And that is something that requires a level of education with the consumer that is not there
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with these other things. So there's an extra step in the process when you're selling things
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to improve people's lives versus selling things to pacify their desires. All right. So that's what I
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mean when I say that. So if I were, you know, I'm not, I'm not complaining about where I'm at
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because I could sleep at night and I feel like I'm contributing to people and I know I'm making
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people better. It's a huge, it's a huge deal. It's a huge deal, but I think I could have been
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where I'm at now much faster had I been selling frozen custard or had I been selling fucking pizza
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or had I been selling, you know, you get what I'm saying? So like, you know, I'm not complaining
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about where we're at. I love what we do and it's fucking amazing. And it's turning into something
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really iconic and special. Um, but I, you know, when you go with what people want versus what they
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need, uh, it's an easier sale. It just is the, the difference is though, um, developing customer
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loyalty in that scenario is much more difficult because you're not running any sort of education
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process, right? You're not able to really teach them anything, right? Really no investment from
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the customer. Exactly. So, so your product has to be, you know, exceptionally, exceptionally,
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exceptionally better than everybody else's. And a lot of these things are commodities like frozen
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custard. It's a, it's a debate. Who's his best, right? Everybody's little town has their place and
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it's the best pizza is the same. You know, if you ask a dude from New York, you ask a person from St.
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Louis, you ask a person from California, what the best pizza is. They're all going to say different
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shit. Right. So, you know, when, when you're, when you're in a space of education and you can
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explain the superior nature of your products consistently and teach your customers to
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actually be better, there's loyalty that can be built there where it's harder to build there.
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So it's the exchange of, of, of different types of businesses. Sure. That makes sense. Yeah.
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You know what I'm saying? No, that makes perfect sense. So like, like, like, um, you know,
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if you're selling something that people want every day, right. Coffee. Right. Right. Right.
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People want coffee. Um, it's easier to find customers to buy coffee than it is to find
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customers that want to lose a hundred pounds. Because most people that want to lose a hundred
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pounds don't even want to lose a hundred pounds. They want to go eat pizza. Right. They need to
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lose a hundred pounds. And that's a different kind of conversation. Would you say the loyalty,
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because you look at a brand like Starbucks, right? Like that's, it has an extremely loyal base.
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Would you equip, like, is that loyalty the same as the loyalty that you have with your
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customers at one P? No, I don't think so. I think the, I think Starbucks just does a better job,
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uh, on a wide scale than most of the competitors that they have. You know, when you walk into a
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Starbucks, it has a feel, um, it has a very distinct smell as a very distinct, a very distinct
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everything. Like, you know, you're in a fucking Starbucks and it's an experience and, um, their
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experience. Now I don't drink coffee. So like, I'm, I don't want to piss anybody off who has coffee
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stores. Okay. Yeah. I'm sure there's much better coffee shops and I'm sure they're way better,
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but I'm saying on a mass scale, they do it the best. Right. So that's what that's about.
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Yeah. Love it. You know, I think, you know, um, there's other companies that are making,
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that are making a lot of headway, right? Like there's black rifle coffee who are starting to
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open stores and locations and they're a patriotic pro America brand. And I think the more that they
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open those stores, the more they're going to take a fucking bite out of Starbucks ass because people
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are tired of the woke shit and yell at Starbucks. I'm fucking, listen, bro. There's plenty of people
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that go to Starbucks every day that hate that they go to Starbucks every day because of their,
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their politics. Yeah. Yeah. Right. That's real. So yeah, that's awesome. Andy, our third and final
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question for you. Uh, this one might be a, uh, I'd be a little more, a little, a little deeper for
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you, but I'd like to see your, your, your answer on this, Andy, what is a skill? Okay. That you
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personally deem as toxic that other people see as good. I don't know. Like what? I got a skill
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or a skill or a trait. Like other people are like, Oh man, I fucking love Steve does this.
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And you're looking at like, uh, well, I don't know, dude. Like, you know, I think toxic is kind
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of a weak ass fucking word. I think it's overused. I think people that use it are weak. I think,
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I think it's, I think it's a buzz term that people use for shit. They don't like, you know what I'm
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saying? I just think it's like, I think it's bullshit. Like if you don't like something,
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move on. You know what I'm saying? Like it's that simple. And I feel like everything is
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now, you know, if you don't like it, it's toxic. If you fight with your boyfriend, they're
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toxic. If you fight with your girlfriend, you're toxic. Motherfucker fighting is a normal
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part of any relationship. Yeah. Stupid ass. Like I just, dude, honestly, no filter, real talk.
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People are pussies. That's it. And, and it's top to bottom. It's left to right. It's across
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the board. We've been fed shitty food. We've been given stupid entertainment. We've been
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in program with fucking mediocrity for the last 20 years. We've been told it's okay to
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be fat. We've been told it's okay to be lazy. It's okay to be whatever the fuck you are.
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And then people make up these things that they are, you know, it's, it's fucking bullshit.
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The whole, the whole social construct that they've been feeding us for 20 years now, 25 years.
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See, see, I'm old enough to know what it was like before that. That's the difference. A lot
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of these people listening, they don't, they, this is all they know. They don't know what
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it was like to grow up, you know, beating the shit out of each other, uh, all even into
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adulthood and then shaking hands and having a beer afterwards. Right. They don't understand
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that concept. And, and our, our society is now, you know, they're, they're, it's like
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we talked about with fucking, uh, Robin and Dakota. It's professional victimhood all the
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time, you know? And I've talked about this for years and years and years. People compete
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over how big a victim they can be. They use words like toxic. They, they, they, they
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fucking throw these buzzwords around when in reality, dude, not everybody's going to
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be for you. Not everything is going to be for you. How about you just identify what
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the fuck is and isn't for you and move the fuck on, you know, and stop making it about
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toxic trauma, this and that. Like, bro, people are just soft and that's it, you know? And
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that's coming from someone who's had real fucking trauma. Okay. No, you motherfuckers
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out there listening. I stabbed in the fucking face. Okay. Like you never had
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that. Right. Like, and most of the people that had that will fucking Buddha folded
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just, they would have, they would use their whole life. Oh yeah, it was going to be
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great until I got stabbed in the face. Right. The real trick is making the shit
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that fucking happens to you, uh, work in your favor. That's the trick. Yeah. You
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know, God gives us all these hardships to overcome, to be part of our fucking story
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so that we can inspire other people to win too. And, and when you, when you subscribe
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to the professional victimhood that everybody subscribes to these days, not only are you
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hurting yourself, you're hurting everybody around you. You're hurting your kids. You're
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hurting your, your potential, uh, your potential in life. You're hurting your family. You're
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hurting your friends. You're hurting your neighbors because what they see is just
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another example of someone who got dealt a bad hand that has decided to fucking fold.
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And that makes them think that it's okay. And it spreads. It's like fucking cancer.
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And, and until we in America stop being fucking soft ass little delicate pussies, um, we're,
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we're going to continue to fucking fail and that's it. So I don't really, I don't really
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know. Like, I don't look at other people and say, Oh, that skill is very toxic. I look at
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people who have asked questions like that and think you're a fucking pussy. So that's my
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answer. And whoever wrote it, ain't gonna like it. It's just the truth. Like, why are you
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worried about somebody's toxicity skill? Yeah. You know, like, bro, I get told my
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beard is toxic. I get told my voice is toxic. I get told I'm toxic. You know what?
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Fuck off with that. Go surround yourself with people who lose. I win consistently
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at fucking almost everything I do. In fact, the only reason I say almost is
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because I'm maybe forgetting something, but all I could think about in my life
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are fucking wins. That's all I think about. I think about fucking winning and doing
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better and making a better impact. And I don't care if someone's got quote unquote toxic traits.
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Like I just don't fuck with those people. Yeah. Like what the fuck are people even worried
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about? Like you guys don't even worry. Listen, here's the truth. Night. I always say 8% of
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people, entrepreneurs, 1% are successful. Um, I think over the next 20 years, that 1% is going
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to turn into one, 100th of that 1% because of what I see in the youth right now is a bunch
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of weak ass pussy shit. And I can tell you right now, you just don't have what the fuck
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it takes to make it. You better get tough. You better develop some grit. You better develop
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thick skin. You better be able to take a fucking insult. You better be able to handle people
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coming at you every motherfucking day, calling you names. You better be able to be able to
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handle whole Instagram pages with accounts of tens of thousands of followers that fucking
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hate you. I deal with that every day. Okay. You motherfuckers can't handle someone calling
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you're fucking toxic. So think about that. That's real. I know it's fucking real. That's
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real. Yeah. Well guys, Andy, that is three. So go pay the fee. Yeah. Do that.
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Yeah. Went from sleeping on the floor. Now my jewelry box froze. Fuck a pole. Fuck a stove.
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Counted millions in the cold. Bad bitch. Booty swole. Got her on bankroll. Can't fold.