REAL AF with Andy Frisella - March 08, 2022


249. Q&AF： Recognizing Burnout, Rewarding Employees & 3 Great Habits


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Q and Af join me to talk about burnout and how to deal with it. Q and Af talk about what they do when they get burned out and how they deal with burnout in their real estate careers.

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00:00:00.000 what is up guys it's andy priscilla and this is the show for the real estate goodbye to the lies
00:00:21.560 the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys today
00:00:25.720 we have q and af that's where you bring the q's and i bring the af's where can they submit their
00:00:32.160 q's guys as always email your questions into ask andy at andy for salad.com all right now there's a
00:00:38.460 fee for the show the show is very simple um i do this shit for fucking free all right so if something 0.97
00:00:45.880 i talk about helps you if it makes you laugh if it's something that makes you uh better if it's a
00:00:53.540 skill that you don't have and that you now do have i would ask that you please share the show
00:00:58.560 all right i try to cover a lot of bases with this content uh i try to make you better i try to make
00:01:04.700 our country better i try to make our society better and i would appreciate if you share that message
00:01:10.520 that's it now i'm pretty pissed off today gotta gotta be honest with you
00:01:17.480 so the answers might be a little edgy i'm gonna let you know why i'm pissed off i'm pissed off
00:01:24.040 because i see a lot of people who didn't give two fucks about what was going on for the last two years 0.63
00:01:28.960 who didn't say one word about standing up for freedom who didn't fucking have the courage to 0.92
00:01:35.660 do anything other than just comply uh cry about gas prices and if you don't understand why that
00:01:42.940 irritates the fuck out of me then you shouldn't even listen to this show because you're too dumb
00:01:47.320 to connect the dots okay now on with the questions question number one for you andy um
00:01:54.300 andy what do you do when you recognize burnout i don't get burned out bro i know what it's like to
00:02:03.000 be poor i know what it's like to be broke i know what it's like to be fat i know what it's like to be
00:02:07.440 a piece of shit and i don't ever want to be that again so for that reason i don't get burned out 0.87
00:02:12.020 are there days i don't feel like doing it yeah pretty much every day but i also recognize that
00:02:17.940 me not doing it produces more of what i don't want it's a very adult decision it's called just
00:02:23.740 doing what the fuck you know you need to do so i don't i don't cry and whine about burnout i don't 0.95
00:02:29.760 fucking uh miss things i don't stay home from work i don't fucking i'm an adult and i'm determined 0.99
00:02:39.040 to be successful and i'm determined to be the best that i could possibly be and i am determined
00:02:43.360 to be someone that when i fucking die people miss so i don't do anything when i get burned out other 0.95
00:02:51.840 than keep moving forward and that's why i'm me and everybody else is not me and that's it so if you
00:02:57.780 want to be like me be like me if you don't want to be like me be like all the motherfuckers that cry 0.98
00:03:03.320 on the internet about dealing with burnout that's your answer yeah i know it's real it's the fucking 0.96
00:03:10.060 truth yeah burn down after every second fucking day you're not cut out for it bro go do something 0.98
00:03:19.180 else work at mcdonald's i don't give a fuck burned out you're burned out because your life is too 0.98
00:03:26.180 fucking easy i know see half of these people out now and i have 90 percent of the people out there 0.62
00:03:34.320 that are trying to become successful grew up in some sort of middle class situation where they're
00:03:39.000 fucking soft it's cush yeah they're cush they're soft as fuck you don't know what the fucking real 0.95
00:03:45.360 life is like what did i have shit you just don't i didn't grow up in the hardest of circumstances 0.73
00:03:53.820 but nobody helped me build this shit and i know what it's like to fucking struggle i mean i've seen 0.90
00:03:58.620 you on gravel road i mean any fucking what it what it is what it is i had good times i had bad times 0.98
00:04:04.760 i'm just as someone who makes excuses for my whole life because of fucking anything yeah so when i'm 0.93
00:04:11.660 burned out i realize that other people are burned out and i realize if other people are burned out
00:04:16.380 they're probably going to quit and that's my time to not quit because then i widen the gap between me
00:04:20.080 and them and it's worked pretty good so far i don't know many too many dude many dudes that are
00:04:25.020 42 years old they're even in the realm of where the fuck i am that haven't gotten massive help from
00:04:31.820 some sort of outside source whether they they got a huge investment whether they inherited a bunch of
00:04:37.220 money whether they come from a billionaire family it's blah blah blah blah blah blah i don't know anybody
00:04:42.820 that's my age that has accomplished what the fuck i've accomplished doesn't owe motherfuckers a whole 0.88
00:04:47.800 bunch of money i don't know people's shit all right so let's be fucking real i know a couple things 0.94
00:04:54.000 and one of them is i don't cry about being burned out i wake up i fucking make deposits into my 0.95
00:05:00.620 disciplined mindset i execute and shit works that's all i know just most of the time i feel like not 0.60
00:05:06.740 doing it yeah and i do it anyway and that's the secret but y'all don't want to hear that shit 0.93
00:05:13.520 because you want to be pussies and you still want to make it and those two things don't go together 0.92
00:05:17.580 andy question number two for you a question with a little backstory question is andy how do you
00:05:23.500 determine when and how to reward your employees uh he says i believe like most that you don't reward
00:05:30.240 for things that they are supposed to do but when they do go above and beyond what's necessary
00:05:34.640 what are some easy ways to reward them give them money yeah give them recognition
00:05:42.320 you know most people enjoy both uh i prefer to work around people that don't give a fuck about
00:05:49.480 recognition and only care about winning um i don't care about recognition i don't fucking care i don't 0.95
00:05:55.380 care i want to win that credit shit yeah yeah now certain people are wired to in fact most people are 0.70
00:06:03.300 wired to earn recognition okay um there's a saying the saying is this uh people will work for money
00:06:12.480 but they'll die for recognition right yeah okay so if that should tell you something if you don't have
00:06:18.640 some sort of internal recognition program you probably need to have one it doesn't have to be
00:06:24.300 crazy shit uh but like you want to run down the list of how i recognize people i don't know buy them 0.55
00:06:30.180 i buy i bought and i don't know probably a dozen fucking cars for employees uh i've paid off 0.95
00:06:35.360 employees mortgages um i've given them awards like that little award that you got for two dollars
00:06:40.980 yeah okay yeah thank you the size of the listen the size of the recognition is not the bigger you get
00:06:47.480 the more cool shit you can do to recognize people right right all right but in the beginning you don't
00:06:52.280 have to do these big things to recognize people you could just recognize them and say hey dj's
00:06:58.040 doing a really good job i'd like to take a minute to recognize them but i don't recognize people i
00:07:03.240 agree with whoever wrote that for just showing the fuck up and doing what they're supposed to do
00:07:06.980 at my standard see my standard and our standard is much higher than what most people are required to
00:07:15.440 do at any other job on the planet so some sometimes people come here and they want to get rewarded
00:07:21.720 for the basic shit and they're disappointed when they're not well our standards are much higher here 0.71
00:07:28.040 okay so that shit works at starbucks not here yeah right yeah that's it so go work at fucking 0.98
00:07:34.100 starbucks that's what you're worried about yeah i mean recognition helps a lot uh i'm not very good
00:07:41.340 at recognizing people so i have to develop systems to recognize people i have to put that in other
00:07:44.760 people's hands because i don't care about recognition personally this is why i don't speak at every event
00:07:50.480 this is why i don't go to fucking i don't when when i win awards i rarely post about them i don't give a fuck 0.99
00:07:58.040 i'm trying to be the best ever until i'm the best ever i ain't fucking shit that's that that's how if 0.98
00:08:03.760 everybody had that attitude you win a lot more but you want your fucking trophy it's whatever man 0.94
00:08:10.760 recognize your employees acknowledge their hard work acknowledge them when they go above and beyond
00:08:16.300 take care of those people invest in those people pay those people well you know a lot of people want
00:08:20.860 all these fucking great employees they don't want to pay them shit you're not going to have great
00:08:27.380 people if you pay people shit they might come for a while they're going to leave 0.95
00:08:31.500 it's it's really simple what are they worth to you what are they worth to you how many headaches
00:08:38.960 do they keep from you how much initiative do they take how much problems do they solve on their own
00:08:43.220 without getting you involved and what's that worth it's usually worth a lot more than what people
00:08:46.580 you know are willing to admit yeah and and a lot of people who are making decisions about employee pay
00:08:53.920 will expect all these great things about from their employees and they want to pay them like
00:08:59.000 starbucks pays their fucking people right well you ain't going to get fucking first form level 0.93
00:09:03.360 motherfuckers by paying them fucking starbucks people that's just not how it works yeah so you got 0.95
00:09:08.580 to do both and and by the way just paying people more won't get more out of them yeah it won't push
00:09:15.040 them into complacency it doesn't does one of two things paying people more neither makes people
00:09:19.300 hungry or it makes people complacent and most people it makes complacent most people when they
00:09:24.600 get just enough money to be complacent they're complacent true savage winners like me you give
00:09:30.840 me more money i just want fucking i'm gonna go harder and harder and harder harder harder it's just 0.99
00:09:35.200 what it is i'm a fucking shark bro sharks eat that's what the fuck they're built for it's true 0.99
00:09:42.000 yeah it's true so you guys you guys
00:09:46.260 if you guys ain't built that way you shouldn't be in the game it's just the truth if you're built to
00:09:53.240 be like what we're about to go through in this country is a complete fucking revolution of and 0.88
00:09:58.800 a resorting of who the fuck is who you're gonna find out who the fuck the sharks are you're gonna 0.98
00:10:03.600 find out who the fucking minnows are you're gonna find out who the fucking bacteria is 0.98
00:10:07.360 so i'm confident i'm confident where i'm gonna end up but a lot of people have been riding this
00:10:14.680 fake wave of good times they've been happening in america for a long time this fake wave i'm an
00:10:19.980 entrepreneur because i can make some e-com ads and fucking make a little side money and shit 0.97
00:10:24.560 you're gonna see we're gonna see somebody i know has been trying to warn you all about it too so
00:10:32.020 create internal recognition programs uh recognize people every chance you get do it
00:10:39.340 publicly in front of their peers um when you criticize people do it behind closed doors make
00:10:43.580 sure they're paid well make sure they feel recognized make sure they feel valued but most
00:10:47.480 importantly make sure that their voices and ideas are heard you want good culture you want good
00:10:52.200 employees do those things if you don't do those things you're gonna suck it's a prerequisite it's
00:10:58.580 not a fucking that's not the extra that you do that's the basics you do for your culture if you don't do 0.92
00:11:04.260 those things i guarantee your company sucks so start doing them because it matters because you can 0.84
00:11:09.840 accomplish you personally no matter how good you are can't accomplish fucking anything if you don't 0.98
00:11:15.320 have the ability to get other people to row the boat with you and that notice i didn't say for you
00:11:20.440 right right i said fucking with you right because you should be rowing too dude most of the people 0.95
00:11:25.140 i've met in business i'm gonna be real honest and people are not gonna like this a lot of people
00:11:29.860 really aren't i don't care i've been in personal development for over a decade i've met a ton of
00:11:35.540 business owners i can count on both hands the real fucking sharks that i've met literally less than 10 0.94
00:11:46.260 out of the thousands and thousands and thousands so really think about that
00:11:52.960 most people ain't in it most people like to brag about business most people are playing business
00:11:59.860 most people think having their name on the building or their fucking office door
00:12:03.420 is business most people think driving a bmw 7 series is fucking business most people think having a cool 0.85
00:12:09.820 business card is business i don't even have a motherfucking business card motherfucker 0.99
00:12:12.480 like if you're not getting recognized it's probably a reason you're not you're not exceeding
00:12:17.700 the standard that fucking is set in your place or maybe you work for someone who doesn't value 0.97
00:12:22.360 culture or recognition for a long time i did it and guess what people left to go other places
00:12:27.400 good people left to go other places where they recognize people and guess what i learned
00:12:31.960 i learned that some people operate in that language and just because i don't operate in that language
00:12:36.800 doesn't mean it's not valid so i had to create an adjustment inside my company to better recognize
00:12:43.260 people
00:12:43.680 yeah you know what i'm saying like that was a hard thing for me to learn i probably lost
00:12:50.760 i don't know a couple hundred people over the course of my career because i didn't recognize
00:12:55.120 them when they probably deserve to be recognized yeah so then what do i do i get better at recognizing
00:12:59.380 people i learned a lot from ed my lead on that he's very good at that i'm very bad at that
00:13:03.480 you know why i'm very bad at that because i don't care i don't need do i need someone to tell
00:13:08.840 me i'm doing a good job do i need somebody to tell me shit i'm proud of you no no no i'm being 0.81
00:13:13.700 literally you're with me more than anybody other human do i need anybody to tell me a motherfucking 0.93
00:13:17.920 thing no do i need people to say hi to me do i need people to say hey how's your day no i don't
00:13:23.620 need shit fully self-sufficient that's right so i don't care if people recognize me i know i'm 0.72
00:13:29.200 fucking great because i know what i do every single day and that's the point if you want to 0.61
00:13:34.860 be great it's not about what other people think of you it's about what the fuck you think of you 0.57
00:13:39.540 which goes into 75 hard which goes into live hard episode 208 go listen to it do it live it
00:13:45.860 it'll change your fucking life you won't need shit from anybody you won't need a fucking 1.00
00:13:50.640 bullshit award for fucking anything ever again because you'll know what the fuck you're worth 0.97
00:13:56.260 andy our third and final question for you i think i think this question right here and i think a lot
00:14:00.020 of people need to hear this answer from me okay andy right now what are the three best habits you
00:14:05.340 believe are the most important to have right now look man if you're not a disciplined human
00:14:10.380 you're a worthless human okay you're floating around like the plastic bag like you ever seen that
00:14:17.060 movie uh what's that movie american something america beauty yeah okay and the fucking weirdo neighbor 0.94
00:14:23.460 who's like who fucking videos the plastic bag for the whole entire movie that's you that's you if 0.99
00:14:30.320 you don't have discipline you float around in the fucking wind and where you end up is where you end 0.98
00:14:33.820 up and you see people that try to uh you see people that try to uh you know pretend like they don't need
00:14:40.600 discipline and i'm just a flower in the wind and where i end up i'm discovering myself and look at
00:14:44.840 their lives their lives suck their lives fucking suck they pretend online that their lives are awesome 0.97
00:14:50.560 oh i'm on this great adventure of life of discovering my own blah blah blah blah blah no
00:14:55.040 you're not doing anything you're getting your ass beat and you're proud you're you're eating shit 0.96
00:14:59.000 pretending it's fucking ice cream and everybody sees it you're not fooling anybody you're only fooling 0.94
00:15:04.100 other motherfuckers that aren't willing to develop discipline yeah so discipline's number one uh the 1.00
00:15:09.300 second thing i would say is gratitude things could be a lot fucking worse okay and the third thing i would 0.89
00:15:14.800 say is uh um not being a bitch about doing the work you know a good work ethic a strong work ethic 0.99
00:15:21.640 i mean there's a ton of them dude uh i would say another one that's important to the world
00:15:27.480 if we're gonna add a fourth one is speaking the fucking truth speaking we wouldn't be here if 0.94
00:15:33.360 people hadn't self-censored themselves in the name of being offended for the last 20 years that we
00:15:38.880 wouldn't even be in this situation a lot of people have trouble connecting that entire fucking timeline 0.91
00:15:44.600 because they lack the perspective or they're only 20 years old political correctness is a fucking 0.97
00:15:50.120 weapon it's a weapon to create self-censoring behavior so you don't speak the truth and if you
00:15:55.720 don't speak the truth there's less resistance to what the fuckery is that's going on so i would say
00:16:00.880 discipline uh great fucking work ethic gratitude for how things are and knowing that things could be 0.90
00:16:08.660 way worse that might change soon uh and then speaking the truth the truth the fucking truth 0.92
00:16:15.700 not the bullshit truth not the politically correct truth the fucking truth those habits will fucking 0.97
00:16:22.000 get you places yeah you know people have this idea that like if they're in an organization that somehow
00:16:27.720 you know they get one of two things in their mind they get if i don't if i don't speak if i say what
00:16:33.320 they want me to say i'll get where i want to go or you get these other people who think they're
00:16:37.260 contrarians and they think they're smarter than everybody disagree with everything and they fucking 1.00
00:16:41.020 disagree with every fucking thing that you say thinking that makes them valuable no that makes 0.94
00:16:44.860 you annoying and it makes you want to kick you the fuck out of my company or out of my life or 0.99
00:16:49.020 whatever yeah right oh i'm not only telling you this because no one else will tell you this no
00:16:54.240 you're not bro you're telling me this because you think that telling me that anti this shows some sort
00:16:59.400 of courage or character in you which doesn't do either of those it makes you seem like a fucking 0.95
00:17:04.320 uneducated unexperienced with people moron yeah basically basically that's gonna get you real far
00:17:15.180 tell tell every fucking point that the people that run your shit and control your whole fucking future 0.98
00:17:20.560 and help you disagree with everything they fucking say no matter what makes you valuable stupid fuck 0.99
00:17:26.380 i'm just saying no it's the truth i can't stand those guys no it's you got to be the you got to
00:17:32.480 tell the truth but the truth is not not your highly manipulated version of the truth to produce this
00:17:39.840 result that you're trying to get the truth i think those habits are valuable those are the habits i
00:17:46.580 respect those are the habits that have gotten me where the fuck i am discipline i've got it i didn't 0.88
00:17:54.660 always have it i fucking built it okay it's an on-demand skill for me i turn a motherfucker on 0.98
00:18:00.560 it's fucking on there's no there's no ifs ands or buts about it hard work i've made it a habit to work 0.97
00:18:07.660 hard every motherfucking day um gratitude i'm very i'm very thankful for where i'm at because i used to 0.79
00:18:15.620 be somewhere a lot worse and i ain't going back and if i do go back i'll be the king of that shit again 0.93
00:18:20.900 okay the fucking truth you you you people who are so scared to speak the truth and then you wonder 0.95
00:18:30.100 why you're not making any money or why you lack courage dude because it takes it takes courage to
00:18:35.300 speak the truth and courage is a skill just like fucking just like discipline okay if you don't 0.59
00:18:41.840 practice courage you won't have no courage so you have to fucking build your courage by doing small 0.91
00:18:48.620 things just like we do with 75 hard and live hard to invest in our discipline but only with courage
00:18:55.180 which means having hard conversations saying things that you know to be true that you're scared to say
00:19:00.220 embracing those opportunities yeah it's an opportunity to invest in the skill of courage when you have the
00:19:07.140 opportunity to speak truth and courage by the way for those of you listening for your money-making
00:19:12.900 ventures which uh is important um without courage you will make no money just so you know when i said
00:19:20.380 those 10 people that i know all 10 of them have courage all of them well andy guys that is three
00:19:27.800 let's go pay the fee yeah share show
00:19:30.800 yeah went from sleeping on the floor now my jewelry box froze fuck a pole fuck a stole counted millions 1.00
00:19:37.020 in the code bad bitch booted swole got her on bankroll can't fold that's a no headshot case closed 1.00
00:19:44.520 you