251. Q&AF： Grateful But Ambitious, Value Of Spirituality & Employee To Leader
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Summary
In this episode of the Realist, DJ and Andy answer a bunch of your questions. DJ: What's the difference between being grateful for what you have and having an unquenchable thirst for more? Andy: How do you know when you re truly grateful?
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist, say goodbye to
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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This is where you bring the Qs and I bring the AFs.
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You can submit your questions, email them in to askandy at andyfasala.com.
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Also, before we start answering these Qs, there's a fee for the show.
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I'm not going to ask you to send me any fucking money.
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If you learn something, if it makes your life better, if it teaches you something, which
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The questions can be about pretty much anything.
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We got a little diversity going on in these questions today, so I'm excited.
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Just so if this is your first couple times listening, you guys have to understand, okay?
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My podcast, the MFCEO Project, is the number one entrepreneur podcast that was ever fucking
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I switched that show to talk about the real shit going on in the world and rename the
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show Real AF so I could talk more about society and current events because society and current
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events dictate how well we can be entrepreneurs, right?
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So, when you hear us talk about on the show, you're going to hear CTIs, which is cruise the
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You're going to hear Q&AS, which is more personal development based.
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We're going to have interviews with all kinds of people sometimes.
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Those people might be ultra successful business people.
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It might be people who served or won the Medal of Honor or killed Osama Bin Laden or who
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Or it might just be a real talk where I get on here and talk some real stuff for you guys.
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If you're a diehard, I'm only here for the entrepreneurship stuff, you're probably going
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to want to listen to all of the shows except CTI, okay?
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Or you could join Arote, which is Ed Milet and I's private group.
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We opened up enrollment a couple times a year and it's all entrepreneurship based.
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So, that's kind of how we're running things these days for a little catch up on what the
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Okay, can you explain the difference between being satisfied and grateful for what you have
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while still also having an unquenchable thirst for more, right?
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Because I feel like it would be almost impossible to do both.
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There's multiple different kinds of people on this planet, okay?
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What you're asking me to do is to provide an answer that suits all these kinds of people.
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There are going to be people, and this is okay, that are comfortable going to work.
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Let's just say they're cooking french fries, okay?
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And they're going to be cool with that job their whole life.
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Yeah, and dude, there's nothing wrong with that, okay?
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And by the way, we need those people to operate society.
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So, we should never shit on people that don't have the same drive or the same goals
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Now, as someone who listens to the show, I already know that you're a driven human.
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And see, what you're trying to do is you're trying to understand why not everybody is driven.
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People that listen to this show are in the top 1% of hungry, ambitious, success-driven people.
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And most of the people that listen to this show listen to this show because they feel very alone in real life.
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And I spent most of my life feeling like I was wrong, feeling like I was not normal, feeling like I was an outlier.
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All great people that change the world, that provide for other people, that create the jobs, that create the careers, that create change in the world in any way,
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whether it be in the environment, whether it be in business, whether it be this or that or this, these are driven, hungry people.
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So you have to realize that you've been given a gift.
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And your job is not to try to understand the other 99%.
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Your job is to execute the best that you can and to not go crazy doing it.
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And that's where balancing out being ambitious and being someone who's hungry, someone who wants to create, someone who wants more, someone who wants to maximize their own potential here on this planet and beyond, okay?
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And someone who's grateful for where they are and understands that, like, dude, even though things are really hard, it could be a lot worse.
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And when you can balance those two things, they allow you to navigate the ambitious process a lot better because you don't always feel like you're behind and you don't always feel like you're missing things and you don't always feel like you're losing, right?
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So you have to split your time between driving forward and also understanding how much you've accomplished and understanding that what you're accomplishing is important and you're grateful to have the opportunity.
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Most of you have all these things that other people, most of you live in America.
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Um, there's all these things to be grateful for.
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And sometimes when you're ambitious and hungry, you lose sight of these things and that creates a very miserable existence.
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But I wouldn't worry too much about trying to balance it out with, like, explain it to every average person because, dude, that's just wasted breath.
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The best thing you can do if you want people to be better because where that comes from is somebody who wants better for their friends and family.
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So, so the best way that you can provide better for your friends and family is to become so successful yourself that you can literally pull them along.
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But don't waste your time trying to rationalize or figure out things that just are.
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Like, we could sit here and analyze all day long why gravity is.
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Why, why, why when we, when we step off the edge of the building, do we go splat?
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We could sit here and talk about why and all it is, or we could just say, that's the way it is.
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And then move on to something where our energy and thoughts are productive.
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How, how important, or I should say, how, how much value, okay, do you hold, um, on spirituality or, or being religious?
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I believe the relationship between God and the individual is a relationship between God and the individual.
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And I know a lot of people that listen to the show are conservative beliefs and they go to church and they do all these things.
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And I, I, I do not, I think everybody's got their own thing that works for them.
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It's better than definitely not doing anything.
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And being an immoral puddle of shit, like our entire government is let's be real.
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I believe, uh, that there is a, there is a direct connection between you and God and the universe.
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And I truly believe that what you see for yourself and what you're willing to act upon and what you're willing to intentionally believe will be delivered to you.
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And, and, and I think that relationship, you know, of, you know, I, and I, I went to Catholic school for a long time.
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You know, I went and did, I just found that it was very empty.
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I found that I didn't really get anything out of it.
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Um, I found that I found myself as a, as a, you know, somewhat intelligent human looking at people who were preaching to me and thinking, well, you don't know what, how do you know about marriage?
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When you've never been married, how do you know about raising kids when you've never raised kids?
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How do you know about sexuality when you're abstinent?
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Um, I don't know if it's good or bad, but I have this thing where I, I, I always question if someone's a hypocrite or not.
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Like when they're trying to teach me shit and, um, I don't learn from people who are, who are like that.
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And, and besides I have so much evidence to support the way I believe, um, that you couldn't convince me otherwise.
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Um, I don't know anybody that's blessed more than me.
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So I feel really ungrateful when I don't do those things.
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Um, you know, I constantly try to do the right thing.
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I try to, I try to do, um, what I would think God would be proud of me for.
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And, and so I have a, I have a very honest personal relationship that I, I believe is,
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And I'm not here to judge the way anybody else operates.
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But I would say, even if you are a religious person, that it's important for you not to be
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one of these people who just goes to church every Sunday to try to wipe away all their
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wrongdoings and then goes right back to it the minute they leave church.
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And I find that a lot of people that go to church, see it that way.
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You know, they, they go to church and then on the way out of the church parking lot, they're
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Um, or they're driving somebody, they're driving past somebody who, who has a flat tire or you
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There's a lot of, there's a lot of hypocrisy in people that I see in organized, uh, service.
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And I, I think that, you know, everybody would be better.
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Our, our entire culture, our entire world would be better if everybody, instead of passing
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the buck off to like, I'm washing away my sins by going to, to this place once a week.
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Um, but instead understood directly that God is watching every fucking movie make and, and
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That's how I, I try to, that's how I try to live.
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And I, I try to fix those things and I try to be better.
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And I think that's part of being a human, right?
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I think part of being a human is being honest about your imperfections and then working
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I remember I was told a while ago, uh, just that you got to have a moral compass.
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Like whether you want to live that, you got to live it.
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Like if you want to pray to a fucking toaster, cool.
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If that toaster is making you a better person, cool.
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But I, I don't understand people who walk around with no moral compass.
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And like you said, I mean, it's evident who those people are right now.
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And that should, well, we got a president of the United States that goes to service on
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Ash Wednesday who does all kinds of immoral shit.
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I'm not with that kind of, that kind of hypocrisy.
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Like I think for a lot of people, it's theater.
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I'm this, just cause you go to church doesn't mean you're a good person, bro.
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Like it's about living it the best that you can.
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And what happens Monday through fucking Saturday.
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So Andy, our third and final question for you, uh, speaking on just making people better.
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When do you know it's the right time for an employee to step up to that leadership position?
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Like when, when does Andy give the blessing on that person and say, okay, you're right.
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That means, uh, there's going to be some instances that aren't consistent with other instances
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I used to wait until I truly believe this per the person who was stepping up into the
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And whenever I was like that, no one ever got promoted.
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And then what I found out is those people would get frustrated because what, what you have
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to understand is that most people on your team, they want, they want to be valuable.
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I mean, who doesn't want to score a touchdown pass or a touchdown in the Super Bowl?
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That doesn't mean you have to be the MVP, but they want to do some shit.
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And so it took me a long time to figure that out, made a lot of mistakes.
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Um, I think my biggest regret as a, as a business owner is like, I think back at some of the
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good leaders that I've had that have maybe moved on to other places, uh, because I was,
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I held them back, not understanding that they were ready for that.
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Like when I see someone who's like 50% ready to lead, I fucking throw them the fuck in there.
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And then I accept that the mistakes they make are going to be, uh, part of their education
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Um, and I feel like that works better because people surprise you.
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Um, people step up when they know that they're dependent on, um, they will go home and invest
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more and take their shit serious, more serious with more responsibility.
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Um, so I think, you know, it's an evolution and you as an entrepreneur are going to go
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You're going to go through this period where, when it's just you, and then it's you and
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maybe like another person, and then maybe it's you and like four other people.
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And you're probably going to be in that scenario for quite a while.
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And to get out of that scenario, you have to cross that bridge of trusting people to step
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And really what this is, is this is the squelching of your own ego, right?
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Like as the, the owner of the business or the CEO or whatever you want to call yourself,
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we tend to think we're the smartest motherfuckers because we're the ones that started the business,
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but it really doesn't take much to go file some paperwork, start a fucking business.
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But the goal as an effective CEO is to surround yourself with people that are better than
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you and smarter than you and more capable than you.
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And a lot of people can't do that because they're afraid that if, you know, you surround
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yourself with people who are much better than you, somehow that makes you worth less.
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And I'm going to tell you what it does is it makes you worth a whole fucking lot more.
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So what you want to do is you want to cross that bridge as soon as you can and start to
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understand that people, cause I think what holds people back besides ego too, is that
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And they may not care as much as you, but fuck dude, they got to feed their family.
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So give them an opportunity to win their asses on the line, just like you, you know, and
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And, and since I've adjusted that, um, and I've watched my brother go through this too.
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My brother, he just told this story on Monday, um, at the Monday meeting.
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You know, every leader goes through this where they go from thinking they, they're the only
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So then holding the team back because the other people have become capable and their ego is
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sort of in the way, or they're, uh, they're not understanding.
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And once you cross over that bridge, you kind of realize, oh shit, like I was kind of my
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And so what happens is other people step up and they become, um, even better than what
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they were because, and, and they become even more dedicated to, to the mission because they
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realized that you trusted them just like they trust you by even coming to work for you.
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And, and, you know, that's 23 years of me going through that process.
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Um, and I think I've got to figure it out to this point now.
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I would say you got, well, I mean, dude, you can only build so much with you in a small
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So you really don't have a choice if you've got big goals.
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Now, if you want to be a small business and this and that, that's a different thing.
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But I would warn you that if you're not growing, you're dying.
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And if your people aren't seeing you try to grow, they're going to quit on you.
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And you're going to constantly be recycling through skilled people over and over and over
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The best policy I've found is shoot for the fucking stars, bro.