253. Q&AF： Mortal Enemies, Contributing To America & Bouncing Back
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Summary
In this episode of the Realists podcast, the guys talk Girl Scout Cookies and why they don t like them. Also, how do you treat your enemies? How do you deal with them? What do you do with people who screw up your life?
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla, this is the show for the realists, say goodbye
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to the lies, the fakes, and delusions of modern society, and welcome to motherfucking reality.
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Guys, today we have Q and AF, this is where you bring the Qs and I bring the AF.
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All right, there's a fee for the show, the fee is very simple.
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Anyway, where do they submit questions for these shows?
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Guys, as always, you can email your questions in to askandy at andyfriscilla.com.
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Yeah, and as always too, if you want straight entrepreneur content, you can always look
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I do it with Ed Milet, one of the best entrepreneurs out there that I've ever met.
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How can you think that you're stealing all the good Girl Scout cookies and you didn't even
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That is, that's the first question of the show.
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I catch this dude packing his, uh, his, his security bag.
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It's got four, four full boxes of fucking cookies in it.
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And then as I'm pulling the cookies out, the first thing was there was no fucking Samoas
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It was like all the worst cookies with the exception of Thin Mints.
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And then it was like, you know, I don't even know what the other ones are called because
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But then as I'm pulling the boxes out, he's saying, they're not for me.
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And then he says he wants to talk to his lawyer.
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I don't know if I'm, I have an explanation here, bro.
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Everybody knows that Samoas are the best Girl Scout.
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There's only two good, there's only two good ones.
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Maybe those people that say you just agree with me to agree with me are telling the truth.
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Look, dude, this is where people really screw up.
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Like, people really screw up when it comes to this.
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Like, first of all, every bit of energy that you spend thinking about this enemy of yours
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is a unit of energy that you're not spending on getting better.
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So, what I would recommend is instead of trying to emotionally expend energy on hating people
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that are competing with you or whatever it is, because it always comes to competition.
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I would adjust to this mindset as quickly as possible, because this is, I understand that.
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And I don't want any motherfuckers to, like, if I'm being real, I don't want them to have
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And it's not healthy to really focus on that all the time.
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And so, what I've found as a competitive individual, the way to work with these feelings and this
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competitive nature is to not turn it into hate for other people.
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Because I think that, and I talk about this a lot, right?
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That tells the universe that you don't like winning.
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You know, when you see your competitors win and you see people doing big things, that tells
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And that makes it harder for you to get to that point, to have those things delivered to
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Now, how I have adjusted when I was younger, that's how I thought, right?
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I would spend a lot of time analyzing everything that everybody else does.
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I still observe them, but I do it without emotion.
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And I do it to see, okay, is this going to work?
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And so I try to use my competitors as a whiteboard of learning different paths, if that makes
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I critique what they're doing as if it were my company.
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And then I try to learn the lessons from them and put them into my tool belt.
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And so what I do now is when I see someone do something really smart or really good or
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And when you could separate your emotion from looking at someone and hating them and switch
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it over to learning from them and being happy for them, knowing that their little win just
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showed you how to win a little bit better, you're in a much better place, right?
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And so if you're one of these people who's super high strung like I am and super competitive
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like I am, I'm to the point where I don't really compete in things unless I have no,
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and this is going to sound terrible, but it's just the truth.
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Like I hate losing so bad that I just choose not to compete in certain things because I
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And so what I do is instead of getting a, and that's, that's why I don't lose very much.
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Um, but what I try to do is take that emotion that all high strung, high competitive individuals
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have that naturally when you're undisciplined comes out as like hate and frustration and
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And when I start to feel those emotions, I immediately transition them into productive
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So like if I observe something and I start to feel a little the wrong way about it,
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That's, that's a sign for me to get up and attack one of the things on my list to do
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and do it very well, because the best way to, to be the only way to beat people who are
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competing with you is to be better and that's it.
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And so if you could learn to adjust the feelings of negativity that naturally come with being
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competitive into productive action, you have now gained a power that they will never have.
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Cause most people will stew, most people will watch, most people will be distracted and
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most people will lose because they spend too much time in that emotional state focused on
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their quote unquote enemy, as opposed to spending those same energy units, uh, executing their
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Now, now does, does that just a little bonus add on here?
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Does that, does that mean like, is there a time and place to fucking drop some nukes on
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Like, yeah, when people, well, yeah, I mean, dude, look, you, you have to understand
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Cause they do look, there's a difference between taking the high road on shit that doesn't
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Um, and if you do, I'll make it really fucking hard on you.
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Ask anybody who's tried and I'll never say a word to you.
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And I can, I can name a whole list of people who have fucked with me who don't even know
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that the reason that their shit is way much harder is because I'm fucking with them back
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So, and dude, you know who some of these guys are, right?
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And then all of a sudden their shit starts to go wrong.
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And so my advice there would be to stay in your fucking lane.
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Don't fuck with, don't fuck with people who have resources to, to, that are, that have
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relationships and resources and power and money in your same industry to make things extremely
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You know, like most of the manufacturers that I know are really good friends of mine.
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And if I make a phone call, you know, you go on my podcast and say some fucking fake review
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And then all of a sudden you lose your manufacturing capabilities.
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But here's, but my point is, is that that happens along, that happens along every industry.
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When you fuck with people who are way up on the ladder with you, they're not going to
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get into some verbal argument with you on Instagram.
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They're just going to go straight into the shit that really hurts bad.
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I stay in my lane, but when people get in my lane, they get run the fuck over.
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And that, so there, so there's a time and place.
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So, uh, but like getting on the internet and arguing back and forth with people or making passive aggressive
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You know, like if you're going to fuck with me, expect it to be fucked with back.
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Sometimes you have to make strategic decisions to make things hard on people who are trying to
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And people want to say, Oh, I'll just take the high road.
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That's that's well, then don't be in fucking business.
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Cause that's the kind of shit that happens in business.
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And you just have to learn that it's part of the game.
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And so if you're a young entrepreneur, no matter what industry you're in, no matter what,
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uh, segment you're in, don't fuck with the people that are out there setting the
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example that you want to be like, because usually what happens is, and this is a hundred
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They, they admire these people who've been in the game for a minute and they're like,
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And instead of like honoring that and like working to represent that, they automatically
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And bro, when you start tearing people down that have been in the game and have resources
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in any industry, they have, you got to understand every industry is very small.
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That's probably 10 people long that the people that tap all fucking half and they make a call.
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We talked about this when I was on the show, when I was on the show, uh, at my level, the
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We talked about this when you're at, when you get, when you get in that game, all those
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20 year guys, those people been in the game for 20 years, they all know each other.
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And so when you're a young fucking punk and you come in and you start fucking stirring
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up shit, thinking you're a, you got a big dick because you made a million bucks, you
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People call up and they say, Hey, don't work with this guy.
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And then they're like, fuck, I'm not working with that guy.
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And that, and so like, dude, if you're a young entrepreneur and you're new in somebody's
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industry, whether it be fucking cars, whether it be, um, you're writing books, no matter,
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And you see someone that, uh, because there's, there's quite a physical aspect to that too.
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When you start to tear down other people that you look up to, you're sending the universe
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So I'm going to try to fuck it up, which only makes things harder for you from a, from
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a quantum physical standpoint and a universe standpoint on top of that.
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That's without them lifting their fucking finger to make a phone call and say, Hey, um, other
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20 year guys who all control parts of the industry don't work with those guys.
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I mean, like, dude, you guys listening to this, you, you don't have the perspective to
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know that that's how it works because you're not in that room.
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There is a, there is people who are in that 20 year plus club.
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They all fucking, they might, they might not like each other, but they all work together
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and they make calls and they say, Hey, and blah, blah, blah.
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And that's, that's the quickest way to fucking get excommunicated from the network.
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And, and dude, and then, and then, and then now you've got to sell NFTs and shit or whatever.
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I mean, I'm just giving you the reality of business.
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The, the, the, the best possible thing you can do is to be inspired by people who set the
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pace for you work to be as good or better than them and do it with respect and don't fuck
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with them and they won't fuck with you and earn it the right way.
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Take the negative jealousy energy that you, that you feel because, and which is ridiculous
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Because the guys in the 20 year room, they fucking earned that place.
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You're in the two or three or five of your room.
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But nonetheless, those feelings of jealousy, those feelings of inadequacy, those feelings of insecurity,
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the frustration, the, the, the, the, the anger, I want to nuke this motherfucker, all killer
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What you have to do is you have to, you have to mold that back in.
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And instead of going out and trying to attack them, you pour into your skillset, read another
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book, uh, make it five more calls, uh, do something that'll move you forward with that
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energy at that point in time in a productive way for you.
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And, uh, and, and, and by the way, that sends the right message to the universe, right?
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And then the universe brings you those results.
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And you know, that, that's my best advice on the topic, man.
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I spent a long time hating a lot of my competitors and, uh, and being that young guy who fucking
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stirred the pot and, you know, and honestly, dude, if I didn't, if I hadn't done that, I
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would have got where I was probably 10 years fucking faster.
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So you can listen to it or you don't listen to it.
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But when you're, when you're, uh, when you're young and you're new and you're, you're alone
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and you have minimal relationships and, and then you have people who have much more horsepower,
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it's probably a good idea not to fucking get on those people's.
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Path or even, yeah, you probably don't even want to be in their fucking radar.
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I think it's a big thing that holds a lot of people back that they never realize.
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A lot of these people don't realize that, you know, the people at the top, they might
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not, you might not think they know who the fuck you are, but they fucking know.
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It's like that old saying, like the teacher would know your name for two, one or two reasons.
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You did something good or you did something bad.
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So it's a, it's a situation that, you know, people should really think about how they're
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behaving in all industries because those guys that set that pace, they have empathy
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You know, and, and those people can end up being your biggest fucking, uh, your, your
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biggest supporters and helpers to bring you along.
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And what you find is those people that are in that 20 year plus room, they're the most
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helpful group because they do have empathy for the journey that it takes to get there.
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But when you fuck with them, they'll step on your fucking dicks.
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Um, a lot of shit going on right now in the world, right?
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Um, we've talked about the younger crowd kind of being quiet and shutting up older crowd
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What can the older generation provide and contribute to the country right now with all the shit
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Well, I think they should recognize and verbalize to the people in their networks, however they
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Um, there's no difference between what the older people should be doing or what the younger
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Well, I mean, cause we've said multiple times, uh, guys, you know, we said multiple times
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that, you know, the younger crowd needs to just go in the corner, shut the fuck up and
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go to the crowd, let's put their time in, needs to go in their corner and go shut the
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And so I think this guy's just asking, like, I mean, what, what more can we do?
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Being older, a lot of the younger people don't want to listen to them.
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And we feel like right now there's like the, the age range, I would say from 30 to 50 maybe
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I mean, he didn't really put his age down, but I'm just like 60 plus.
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I mean, it's the same as what everybody else can do.
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Shit, stand up for yourself, have the difficult conversations.
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You, if you're that old, then you know, for you, you should have the best perspective of
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what has actually happened over the last 30 years, because you've been an adult for at
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Like a lot of these younger kids who are 20 years old, they don't have the perspective
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to understand what has even been diluted in this country over the last 20 years.
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Because when they were fucking 20 years ago, they were in a fucking ball sack somewhere.
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So, uh, these people have a perspective and they should share that perspective.
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Like, dude, you got to remember this, these 20 year olds right now, they have no fucking
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idea what it was like before all this shit started getting corrupt.
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They don't remember what it was like when the media actually told the news or when, um, you
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know, we didn't have constant fucking conflict and constant crisis and constant fear.
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They don't understand really what traditional American values look like.
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The whole reason that we are where we are is because people weren't setting the example.
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A lot of people will complain about what's going on in the country, but how many people
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I mean, out of every 10 people complain, how many of them have you seen?
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How many of them would you look at and say, okay, that dude's living or that, that woman's
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So, so if you're one of these people that recognizes it's wrong and you're just one of
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these people complaining, start being a part of the solution, you know, start taking care
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of yourself, start living to a higher standard, start talking to people about why you do some
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Like, dude, this whole, this whole situation that's, that's happened in this country is the
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result of individuals, individuals, not collectively individuals, buying into the idea of mediocrity
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and buying into the idea that they don't matter and buying into the idea that it's everybody
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else's problem to solve or buying into the idea that they're insignificant and, you know,
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they're old and nobody's going to listen to them.
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And in reality, dude, people listen to motherfuckers that, that, that walk the talk that they talk
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So I would take an inventory of what you believe America should look like and what it should
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be like and how it should appear to be and what it should sound like.
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And I would fucking live that just like everybody else.
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Andy, our third and final question for you, uh, with a little backstory, Andy question is,
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can you walk us through the process of pivoting?
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How exactly do I go about bouncing back from a negative situation?
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The company I work for most likely be laying us off all within a few months of each other.
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Well, first of all, I did a podcast on this called stop the slide.
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It's what's the episode on that while we're looking.
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Uh, secondly, um, there's a whole bunch more that you control than what you think.
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And if I were in your situation, um, and I had just got divorced and I was in danger
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of losing my job, I would look myself in the mirror and ask myself what the fuck I did
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That would be the first fucking step that I would do.
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Um, but at the end of the day, bro, um, we create the own, the realities that we live in.
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And like the person in this situation, they might hear me say that and be like, how could
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Let's go back in time and let's trace it back to how you even got that job in the first
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And is it your dream job or is it just a job that you have?
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Or what did you do, um, 20 years ago that got you in a position that you are now?
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And if you track back far enough, you'll see where the fuck you went wrong.
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But people don't like to do that because it's painful and it's frustrating, but it's also
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necessary because when you do that and you can recognize, first of all, that it's my fault.
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I'm the one that chose to be in this relationship.
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I'm the one that contributed to this relationship, not working out.
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So I was someone who was on the chopping block when decisions were made, right?
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Those are all things that you did and you have to identify what you did and you have
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to do some work to correct those fucking behaviors.
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You know, we can sit here and say, oh, it's the company's fault or it's the economy's fault
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or it's my, my mean ex-wife's fault or it's Putin's fault or it's fucking Biden's fault.
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So what decisions did you make to create this scenario?
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I'll make those adjustments and move the fuck forward.
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Take all that anger, take all that frustration, take all that jealousy, take all those, uh,
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you know, thoughts you're going to have about whatever it is your ex-wife is doing that
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makes you jealous and mad and maybe get your fucking fat ass in shape.
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Maybe become, maybe become a better option for her than what it was, uh, than other options
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she might have, because I'm probably sure you have the potential to do so.
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You just haven't done it because you've been complacent.
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You've allowed yourself to tell yourself that everything's good enough.
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And clearly the world is telling you something different, sir.
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The world's telling you that you were not undeniable at your job.
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The world's telling you that your wife probably has better options than you.
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And the reason people end up in those scenarios is because they're not willing to address those
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harsh realities before they become harsh realities.
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And that comes down to a concept I call selective urgency.
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People never worry about shit until it's already to the point where it's totally fucked.
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People coast, they coast, they coast, they coast.
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Well, the reason you got to that point is because you weren't urgent about anything
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You live without any kind of passion or fire or desire to be undeniable in every motherfucking
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So if you want to avoid that, you have to live every day with urgency.
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You have to live every day with fucking aggressive, uh, you know, an aggressive attitude towards
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You don't get to fucking win for being a fucking mediocre motherfucker.
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And I, and you know, whoever asks this, I'm sure they're a really nice person, but it
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It comes down to fucking pursuing your own true potential, taking ownership for the shit
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that you've done and the shit you created in a life that you have created.
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Not oppression has created, not fucking your race has created, not Biden has created, not
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your fucking teacher from high school or your old girlfriend that called you a loser or
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Dude, we, we live in this victimhood fucking bullshit life.
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And it's the reason it's pushed that way is because if we don't have to take accountability
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and everything is everybody's fault, that means there's nothing we can do about it.
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We get to continue to coast and be lazy and fucking eat like shit, look like shit.
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You know, most of the dudes my age, they look fucking 15 years older than me.
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And if they live like I live, they would fucking be like me, but they're not.
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So if you want to pivot, take all that fucking shit you're unsatisfied with, harness all
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that emotional energy and start moving in the right direction.
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Stop drinking beer with your loser fucking friends that you've had for the last fucking
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It's very, very uncomfortable, but it's always reality.
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You built and create all the good shit and all the fucking bullshit in your life.
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And so when you got more bullshit than good shit, guess whose fucking fault that is?
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You have fucking millions of miles of potential that you've never fucking tapped.
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You got a fresh start now to do fucking anything you want, to live your life a totally different
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way, to fucking find a totally different partner, to find a totally different career,
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and to actually do the work to become successful in that, in all those areas.
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Because if you think the shit just happens, and people like me are just lucky people, then
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And if you don't try, then you don't have to do any work.
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They let themselves off the hook by not admitting that it's them who has caused all of these things