256. Q&AF： Transparency With Employees, Becoming A Man & Humility With Ambition
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In this episode of Q&A, I answer a question about how many urethras there are in the human body. Also, what level of transparency should a business owner have in order to make sure they are transparent with their employees?
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When you're starting out as a young business owner, okay, young entrepreneur, you have a
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couple of employees, five employees, let's say, okay?
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What level of transparency should a small business owner have with their employees about
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stuff going wrong or the numbers, et cetera, right?
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What information do you shield from them to make sure that they aren't distracted or confused
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Obviously, that depends on the level of company, right?
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First of all, you need to be as transparent as possible at every single phase of your company
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because when there is no transparency or there's lack of transparency, that creates questions
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and it can lead to mistrust just by simply not understanding what's actually going on.
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So when people are confused, when people don't know what's going on, when you're not
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letting them know what's going on, their natural reaction is to assume the worst.
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And all kinds of negativity and cancer and all these things start.
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A lot of the battles that you guys face with your employees start from lack of transparency.
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So like in the beginning, being transparent is extremely important because everybody knows
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And there's no reason to keep anything from anybody because we're trying to build this
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And a lot of owners hesitate to be transparent because they think that if the employees see
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that they're making X or not making X, they won't believe in the company, right?
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Like if you're making too much money, you're a greedy fuck.
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If you're not making enough money, holy shit, I'm working for a failing company.
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So there's a line to walk there that people think they need to walk.
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But the truth is, if you're honest with people and say, hey, we ain't shit and we got to do
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a whole bunch of work, you'll be surprised how many people want to get in the trenches
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That's the best policy because it creates a true trustworthy bond.
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Now, when you get bigger, there was a valid point in that question.
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When you get bigger, you don't need to unload all the information onto everybody because
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you have so many people that are doing critical jobs to make the machine work that if you unload
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things onto them that they don't need to handle, you're actually lessening your chances of success
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for not just them, but for the whole entire company, right?
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So there's definitely levels to transparency and in my inner circle, we are transparent.
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We talk about our ideas, et cetera, et cetera, et cetera.
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Now, when I leave that room, I don't go around and tell everybody everything, but if they were
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to come in and ask, we would talk about it, right?
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So there's levels to it, but one of the things that makes the companies that I've been a part
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of and that I have founded and run and all these things great, which all of them are,
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is just a fucking fact, is the fact that we have trust.
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And the reason we have trust is because we tell the truth and we share the challenges.
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We address bad news and we come up with a plan to overcome it together.
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And all of those things create buy-in for your team, right?
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Like if you solve a problem by yourself as a CEO and people never know that you solved
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But if you had five people that all put in to solve the problem, now you just took a problem
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and not only did you solve the problem, you created a bonding experience for your team
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that creates trust and good momentum, good faith moving forward.
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So there's nuances there on that question, but that's how I see it in general.
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Andy, what are some steps or things that young men, specifically ages 18 to 25, okay,
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And when did you first feel like, like I'm a man, right?
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He's doing the work, but he feels like something's missing.
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Look, man, there's no shortage of people out there trying to tell people how to be men.
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Like, kill the wild buffalo with your fucking bare hands and then skin it with your teeth.
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Like, dude, to me, what I think a young man should be worried about is putting in the
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time right now, understanding that they're playing the long game.
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I fucked around, but I always made myself do my work.
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And that was a big part of being successful in business.
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I think that's just part of getting your life together.
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So, so that would be the first thing I would recommend to anybody who's 20, whether it
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be a man or a woman, you know, you, you need to really understand that your 20s are super
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valuable, contradictory to what like other guru type dudes say, you know, oh, fuck your
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And then that's why they find themselves in the shitty position in their 30s, which you
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But I'm just saying, why not get the fuck ahead?
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So to me, when we talk about how to be a man, I think a lot of, a lot of that has to
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To be a man, you need to be fucking financially self-sustaining.
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You need to provide for, be able to provide for your future family.
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See, when I was 20 years old, 21 years old, 22, 25, 28, I didn't have a family and I had,
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you know, I had relationships, but you know, these were just like three, four year relationships.
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And they were important to me, but I didn't have a family, but I was always working for
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So I had it in my head that like, okay, dude, like when I, when I eventually want to have
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kids, I want to go, I want to go to their practices and I want to be the guy who can
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Now, as it turns out, I ended up having kids, which means I got a whole bunch of extra money
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But, um, but fuck dude, I raise a lot of other people's kids.
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But when it comes to being a man, you know, I think it comes down to things like, uh, developing
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the ability to be disciplined, uh, having integrity, standing by what you say you're going
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Um, you know, meaning what you say, I think those things developing those abilities and
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traits in yourself, uh, are far more important to becoming a man than making a dollar.
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And what we're missing in this world really is true, true masculine leadership.
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Um, you know, someone who will look you in the eye and say, Hey, I got this fucking handle
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Um, people that are willing to stand up for things that are wrong.
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Um, and to be honest, dude, I think that might be the biggest one.
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Stay willing to stand up for motherfucking shit that, you know, is wrong.
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Even if you're the only one standing up for it, that's, that's a man.
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And so, you know, being able to do that in a lot of people, you know, they don't think
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that being, uh, brave, like they don't understand that.
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Like when you see people out there who are standing up to, to all the stuff that's wrong
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It's that they're scared and they're choosing to do it anyway.
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That's what makes a fucking man like that kind of shit.
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Um, you know, and dude, like when it comes to women and shit, uh, you guys, you guys
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have been taught all the wrong shit, but you really have, you've been taught all the wrong
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You've been taught to be a supplicating, uh, for lack of a better term, supplicating little
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That's what the fuck you become where you go around begging for a slice of a slice of sugar
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And you ended up being in the friend zone because your mom taught you, uh, all this
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shit that she wishes that she had that actually doesn't really work in the real world, you
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So, um, don't be afraid to hold out and be a fucking man and not go around begging for
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Uh, like a little bitch because dude, first of all, the minute you stop that shit is the
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minute that girls find you interesting because you have to understand that ever since those
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girls were fucking 12 years old and they started to go through puberty, every single fucking
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boy, every single dude, every single man they know has been trying to get in their pants.
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You know, and you fucking begging for it is, is really honestly, it ain't, it's not getting
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It's getting you fucking a million miles further away.
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We could give a whole conference on all this shit, but at the end of the day, um, women
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Like there's this alpha shit tossed around by a bunch of motherfuckers that ain't alpha
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Um, it's, um, it's what I said, you know, it's the qualities of a man, it's a protector,
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it's a provider, it's a man of integrity, it's a man of values, it's a man with courage.
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It's a man that'll stand up and say, Hey, you know what?
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And then also put out a helping hand when people need help.
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I think those are the things, I think those are the things that make up a quality man.
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Um, and that's not to say you're going to be a perfect man.
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Um, and, and, and a man owns those things and, and, and works to be better.
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So, you know, I, I truly feel touching back on what boys are taught about girls.
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I truly feel like they're totally misinformed and totally taught the wrong shit their whole
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You know, and you're taught, uh, you know, if you align your chakras, what I, what I, what
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So mothers teach their boys, the things that they would like to have happen to them or
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have had happen to them in their ideal functional relationship.
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Could be, could be not, but you have a lot of, the way it happens to be is you have a
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And when they're telling them about how to attract women, they tell them all this shit,
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you know, uh, sugar and spice, treat them nice, pull out their chair, do all this shit,
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send them flowers, be a romantic and blah, blah, blah.
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But if she thinks you're a weak little bitch, you ain't, you're never, she's not going to
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Like all these dudes out there are taught that if they're nice to girls, that all of
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a sudden the girl's obligated to like, like them.
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You know, if you're a fat slob, you're going to get fat slob.
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You ain't going to get fucking what, you know, like if you, you're going to get what the
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And, and, you know, I observe a lot of young men being taught the wrong things by moms
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And then the men go out in the world, get the fucking heads kicked in by women stomped
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on, cheated on, treated like shit because they have, they're not equipped to properly
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Well, you all fucking told them that they were toxic.
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And now they smell like you and they dress like you and they look like you.
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And, and so, you know, I feel like this is like a whole show we should do, but at the
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end of the day, being a real man is all the things I mentioned.
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And then also standing on those things when it's hard to, you know, um, I, I, it's very
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hard for me to talk about the state of like interpersonal relations between men and women
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right now, because these men are fucking clowns.
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I mean, dude, they show up for abuse after abuse, after abuse, after abuse.
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And they don't understand that the minute you say, fuck you, stop abusing me is when
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If you don't have a fucking backbone, bro, good luck.
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Like there's too much weakness in men and it's so weak that women can't even find proper
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So maybe if some of you women would start telling men what they actually should be and
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and talk to them about what you would find attractive as opposed to making them supplicating
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little bitches, uh, maybe you'd have some more men.
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I think there's gonna be a lot of guys that are be intimidated at, you know what I'm saying?
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Like there's gonna be a quite a few of them that will be intimidated once they tell them
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Once the women tell the men what they really, really want, a lot of them still miss out.
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This is, I was wrong about what I said just there.
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Like it's not women's job to fucking fix the broken cycle of raising broken little
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So the truth of it is, is, uh, you, you boys out there listening, you don't have a fucking
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Um, get your fat ass in shape, get a fucking job that pays, stand up for your fucking word,
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be who you say you are, be authentic, have integrity, stand on your values, stand alone.
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If you have to have courage and you won't have a problem with the P that's a fucking
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Dude, I'm just saying, man, it's like, I feel for these dudes, you know, cause I was
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I was that dude who thought like, Oh, let me do all these sweet things and show.
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Oh, and by the way, all that shit I said about holding doors and that and that and that,
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Because it's a different, there's a big difference between a pussy little boy holding doors, hoping
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to get an exchange, some P versus a man that tell you to fuck off, but still decides
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Andy, I've heard you say a few times that there was a time and a place where you thought
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you were the shit, but you had to switch that mindset to almost like a humility standpoint
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and you had to realize that you still had work to do.
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That quote, like, you know, come to Jesus moment that you had.
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I think between every phase of life, when you're leveling up, if you're an ambitious human,
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When you set your first goal of life and you're trying to escalate and elevate to that
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You get to that level and you start feeling like, yeah, fuck it.
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Like when you bought your fucking house, you probably thought you were pretty awesome.
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And so then I go up to the goal and I fucking say, this is, this is me talking now.
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I got to set this new goal so that I can get everybody to make money.
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And I get to that next level and I'm like, all right, now everybody's making money except,
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you know, these guys or that guys or this or that, or, you know, there's this problem
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And every single time you, you expand your vision to be something greater than what it
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was, uh, comes a time of being real with yourself that you ain't that fucking good.
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And so what I try to do, man, and like, this is not recommended for anybody else.
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I compare myself to these enormous personalities, successes.
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I compare myself to these people legitimately in my brain.
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And people think that's because I think highly of myself.
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I think highly of myself so much so that I know I can achieve those things.
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So, so, but I also in the same right know that like those motherfuckers, Bezos could buy
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We're not sweating a drop of ball, not a drop of sweat off his nuts.
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So there, there's a, there's a process and you're going to come to a road many, many times
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where you have these situations where you need to, uh, expand your vision.
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And in order to expand your vision and create a new path or the next level up that requires
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Like there's a part of that conversation that happens.
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It says, Hey Andy, you really ain't done shit, bro.
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That conversation gets harder and harder to harder to have the, the, the more success
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I know that my age doing this shit, that's gotta be fucking tough.
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Well, I'm just saying like, no, I'm being literal.
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I got to compare to guys where I'm going to be in 20 years, where I'm going to be in 30
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So we always have to step, do not do that by the way, cause you will be miserable.
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If you're at the beginning and you compare yourself to Bezos, you're going to be fucking
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Well, at that point, like, is that what you have to be a wild ass fucking motherfucker
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to actually think like I think, like, it's just probably not healthy for most people to
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Um, but what I am saying is that, yeah, you're going to have those conversations over and
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over and over and over and over and over and over again, as you go through the progression.
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And when you stop having those conversations and those come to Jesus moments is when you
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are where the fuck you're going to be and you're not going anywhere past that.
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Like when you stop saying, fuck dude, I got a long way to go.
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Like I got, I got this and this and this to do.
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And you stop like dreaming bigger and you stop this or that.
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And a lot of people really screw themselves with this concept because what they do is
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They set out to, uh, build an amazing life and they get there, but they get there way earlier
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than what they thought they were going to get there.
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So like, let's just say you're 20 years old and you say, I want to be a multimillionaire.
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Uh, first of all, you better fucking stand up for freedom or you'll never fucking have
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Secondly, um, let's just say you work for the next decade.
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Let's say our freedom stays intact and you work for the next decade and you get to a
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point where you, you have a nice house, nice car, nice life, nice bank account.
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Oh, you're a fit, you're healthy, you're just blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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Now, if you say, Oh dude, I made it right there.
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By the time you're 40, you'll be fucking broke because you're either moving forward.
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You're either getting better or you're fucking going in reverse because the world, the world's
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momentum and everybody else's momentum is naturally escalating towards achievement.
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Now they're trying, they being the media and these elite fucking communists across the globe
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So it's not popular anymore to pursue success, but the nature of human beings is to improve
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The nature of human beings is to collectively work towards a goal that we can accomplish.
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And if you look back over the societies of history, this is, this is behavior that's
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consistent amongst humans since the beginning of time.
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We want to build this, this, this, this, this, this, this, that takes teamwork.
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You can't culturally remove that with propaganda from people.
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So, so if we get to, if you get to that point when you're 30 and you're where you think you
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want to be and you're not setting a bigger goal, you're, it's over for you.
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It might take seven years, but it's over for you.