REAL AF with Andy Frisella - 27. Real Talk： Construction Of A Championship Caliber Mindset

00:00:00.000 What is up guys, this is Andy Frisella and you're listening to the show for the realists

00:00:17.940 say goodbye to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking

00:00:23.680 reality.

00:00:24.920 All right, listen, today I've got a real talk episode for you guys and it's very important

00:00:29.720 it's going to deal with how we handle negativity and how we literally allow and create a situation

00:00:37.460 tactically to where negativity works for us.

00:00:41.580 Very, very important concept because right now we are surrounded by a lot of negativity.

00:00:49.020 Let's just be honest.

00:00:50.540 There's a lot of uncertainty.

00:00:52.280 There's a lot of negativity.

00:00:53.600 There's a lot of fear.

00:00:55.260 There's a lot of frustration.

00:00:56.900 There's a lot of anxiety.

00:00:58.360 And it's hard to focus and move forward when we're literally inundated with those types

00:01:05.800 of emotions and feelings and actions everywhere we look.

00:01:09.300 And unfortunately right now, this is one of those times, you know, through the history

00:01:14.180 of earth, there has been tons and tons of global catastrophes.

00:01:20.640 And this is no different.

00:01:21.880 All right, except for it's not really a catastrophe if we're looking at it statistically, but the

00:01:29.360 reactions of the governments and the societies and the lockdowns and the people losing their

00:01:36.600 jobs and all these things that are going along with it are creating a lot of what we're talking

00:01:43.200 about.

00:01:43.580 And that's unfortunate.

00:01:44.400 All right.

00:01:45.260 I'm not discounting the fact that people are dying.

00:01:47.780 That's what happens in pandemics.

00:01:49.840 People fucking die.

00:01:50.960 It sucks.

00:01:52.380 But this is the first time we've literally shut the globe down and it's causing a lot

00:01:57.320 of shit for a lot of people.

00:01:58.940 So I'm going to get into how we could tactically address somewhat of a negative mindset when

00:02:05.920 we're feeling worn down and frustrated and tired of the energy that's in the world right

00:02:12.340 now.

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00:03:04.100 So that's that now back to what I was going to talk about perspective is everything, guys.

00:03:16.460 And the truth is, I could just stop the show right there and we'd have a whole show, right?

00:03:21.280 Perspective is everything.

00:03:22.240 It depends on how you look at things.

00:03:23.600 But instead, I want to get into some simple ways of how we could change our perspective

00:03:29.440 and our mindset to become better, especially when things don't seem to be going our way,

00:03:35.600 which seems to be the way for a lot of people right now.

00:03:38.160 A lot of people are hurting.

00:03:39.420 A lot of people are scared.

00:03:40.800 A lot of people are frustrated.

00:03:42.660 A lot of people are fearful for what the future is going to hold.

00:03:45.300 And I'm going to tell you, it's affecting everybody.

00:03:47.320 So this is an important skill to learn.

00:03:50.540 And that's what it is.

00:03:51.280 It's a skill.

00:03:51.880 OK, people aren't born with the ability to take negative things and turn them into positive

00:03:58.360 because that's not what they're taught.

00:04:00.220 Think about what you're taught when you grow up.

00:04:02.480 Your dad or your mom has a bad day.

00:04:04.680 They come home and they stew about it or they cause a big fuss about it or they yell and scream

00:04:09.480 at each other.

00:04:10.240 And we're not taught to take these situations and reframe them to a positive outcome for ourselves.

00:04:18.200 And that's what I want to talk about.

00:04:19.500 You know, I get to meet a lot, a lot of great people.

00:04:25.600 And the truth is, is just by talking to people and hearing what they have to say and listening to their word choice,

00:04:33.900 you know, I could get a real good sense of who they are.

00:04:37.240 You know, for example, if I talk to someone and they're saying continually terms like I can't or I tried that it's too hard.

00:04:48.140 You know, if it wasn't for X, I could have been this.

00:04:52.420 All right.

00:04:53.040 And X could be the 2008 recession.

00:04:57.100 X for a lot of people is going to be this coronavirus and COVID-19 situation down the road.

00:05:03.240 What I want to do is make it so it's not that for you.

00:05:05.620 OK, but I can listen to these people and hear by the words that they use and generally tell how successful they're going to be and how successful they have been.

00:05:17.980 And it's a very accurate predictor because the people who always say, I can't.

00:05:23.160 I tried that.

00:05:24.460 It's too hard.

00:05:25.740 If it wasn't for this, I could have been successful.

00:05:29.220 I could have been this.

00:05:30.080 I could have been that.

00:05:31.580 Those people always end up the same.

00:05:34.620 They always end up going from idea to idea to idea.

00:05:38.020 And then when it doesn't work out and it doesn't pan out, they insert whatever those excuses are and then they start over.

00:05:45.380 And what happens to these people is they spend their entire lives going from three year journey to three year journey to three year journey to three year journey.

00:05:55.840 Well, guys, it doesn't take a fucking genius to understand that if you every three years you're starting over, you never get anywhere.

00:06:02.800 And this is what most people do.

00:06:04.640 OK, but then there's the other people that I meet and you can listen to their language and their word choices and their phrase choices.

00:06:12.980 And you could tell that they're going to make it.

00:06:16.300 All right.

00:06:16.860 They say things like this when things go wrong.

00:06:19.460 Yeah, you know what?

00:06:20.140 That was a mistake.

00:06:20.900 But at least we know what not to do now.

00:06:22.900 Or, hey, you know what?

00:06:24.880 This sucks.

00:06:25.700 But what else can we try to make sure this gets done?

00:06:28.100 You just don't hear those negative phrases that I covered coming from successful, positive people.

00:06:35.640 You don't hear successful people or people who are finding success on their journey using the words consistently or really ever like can't or won't or don't or no.

00:06:49.660 OK, these words just aren't in their vocabulary.

00:06:52.140 That's just a fact of the matter.

00:06:54.320 And it's me talking to tens of thousands of people over the course of my life that have shown me that this is a stark, definitive indicator of how successful someone's going to be.

00:07:06.820 OK, and there's a few reasons for this.

00:07:09.120 I'm going to go through them.

00:07:10.260 Number one, these successful people don't see things in those perspectives.

00:07:15.500 They don't see the can'ts, the won'ts.

00:07:18.540 We can't do this.

00:07:19.500 It's too hard.

00:07:20.460 I tried that.

00:07:21.200 They don't see that shit.

00:07:22.180 That's not how we see things.

00:07:23.620 OK, number two, successful people have chosen to live a positive life in terms of overcoming obstacles.

00:07:32.380 They might get angry.

00:07:33.940 They might get intense.

00:07:35.340 They might say a few fucks. 0.78

00:07:37.060 OK, but they're determined to overcome to produce a better outcome regardless of what happens.

00:07:43.480 And the third thing is successful people have found a way to view negative words in a different light.

00:07:52.160 OK, and this is what I really want to talk to you about today.

00:07:55.080 The first two, right, they don't see those things in perspectives and they've chosen to go, you know, become an overcoming type person.

00:08:03.020 Those are obvious.

00:08:04.220 The third one probably threw you for a loop a little bit.

00:08:06.520 They found you a way to view negativity and negative words and negative phrases in a different light.

00:08:12.600 OK, so I call this auto-correcting and auto-correcting is a very, very, very important point when it comes to creating positive out of a negative.

00:08:25.320 OK, what you do, it's very simple.

00:08:27.840 You take a word that generally and this could be a word, it could be a phrase, it could be anything that generally has a negative connotation.

00:08:35.200 And you turn it into something positive that's going to provide the outcome you're looking for.

00:08:41.260 OK, and I'm going to give you a few examples so you know what I mean.

00:08:44.300 So the first example is a word I love and I use a lot.

00:08:48.880 And when I say it, people tend to like give me a weird look like they don't really know what it means.

00:08:54.380 And that word is test.

00:08:56.180 OK, it's one of the most hated words because let's think about it, man.

00:08:59.540 We hate this shit from an early age, right?

00:09:01.660 All right, class, we've got a pop test tomorrow or, you know, we've got a midterm test.

00:09:06.600 And what do we got to do?

00:09:07.660 If you're like me, you've got to read a whole motherfucking book the night before the test.

00:09:11.640 All right.

00:09:12.140 I think most of you are like that, too.

00:09:14.160 So let's just be real.

00:09:15.520 So we've been ingrained to look at the word test as a fearful, negative, scary word.

00:09:22.300 But that's not what it's become for me.

00:09:25.160 OK, instead of it being a negative word or something that I, you know, fear, I now look

00:09:31.120 at it as an amazing word.

00:09:32.880 I look at it as a challenge to overcome.

00:09:36.340 I look at it as a way to build my grit, my determination, my, you know, my perseverance,

00:09:43.980 my skills that I need to be successful in life all come from a test every single time.

00:09:51.360 OK, and I've been able to recognize that.

00:09:53.180 A term I use consistently is test days.

00:09:56.860 An entire day, it's a motherfucking test.

00:09:59.360 You know those days I'm talking about.

00:10:01.980 All right.

00:10:02.440 These are the days where everything seems to be going wrong.

00:10:05.760 Everything seems to be going against the way you want it to go.

00:10:09.520 Your workout sucks.

00:10:11.220 Your food sucks.

00:10:13.280 Everybody's pissing you off.

00:10:15.080 All the problems that could happen are happening on the same fucking day. 0.69

00:10:19.420 You ever had a day like that?

00:10:20.780 I know you have because we all do.

00:10:23.180 And what I do is I call those test days.

00:10:25.860 I look at those as a chance to show myself how strong I can be so that when littler challenges

00:10:34.560 and less intense challenges come, I'm able to overcome those very easily.

00:10:39.780 It's just like training with weights.

00:10:41.560 When you go in the first day, it's going to be real hard.

00:10:44.260 But after 10 years of training or even three months of training, you're going to be stronger.

00:10:49.720 OK, and this is how I look at test days.

00:10:52.220 So that's just one word that people have an issue with.

00:10:55.640 Right.

00:10:55.980 Here's another word.

00:10:58.200 Obstacle.

00:10:58.760 Most people hear obstacle as the definition of obstacle, which is blocking someone's path

00:11:05.340 or hindering progress.

00:11:06.580 But what you guys should learn to see obstacle as is a chance to grow, a chance to overcome,

00:11:13.900 a chance to find a way to get past it and add a new skill set into your tool belt so that

00:11:20.600 you can use it to get better the next time something happens.

00:11:24.660 All right.

00:11:25.680 And this creates milestones, right?

00:11:28.540 Milestones that we look back and we say, you know what?

00:11:30.920 That's when that happened.

00:11:32.160 That's when I learned to overcome this.

00:11:34.160 That's when I learned this skill when this happened.

00:11:36.780 OK, and during the coronavirus epidemic, that's when I learned how to truly pivot my business

00:11:42.680 and become effective regardless of what's going on in society.

00:11:45.840 You see how that works?

00:11:47.060 I look at that as a milestone.

00:11:48.440 That's when that clicked.

00:11:49.840 That's when that happened.

00:11:51.360 That's when that did this.

00:11:53.080 All right.

00:11:53.420 You guys have all heard the story of when I got stabbed.

00:11:56.540 You know, when I was 23 years old, I got stabbed in the face three times.

00:11:59.900 Once in the back, I had 160 stitches in my face.

00:12:02.460 I almost fucking died.

00:12:03.820 I went through severe depression for a couple of years.

00:12:07.560 And then something happened.

00:12:09.460 I met someone who changed my perspective instantly.

00:12:12.820 And you've all heard this story.

00:12:14.980 And if you haven't heard the story, it's a pretty good story.

00:12:18.900 OK, because it changed my life in literally five minutes.

00:12:22.120 And I'll just summarize it.

00:12:24.260 You know, I was walking down the aisle of a grocery store.

00:12:26.800 My face is completely fucked up.

00:12:29.140 It looks like someone was doing, you know, cutting bread on my motherfucking face.

00:12:36.080 All right.

00:12:36.820 If you ever met me, you know what I'm talking about.

00:12:39.220 My face swollen up the size of a grapefruit.

00:12:42.860 I'm 23 years old, dude.

00:12:44.200 I was, you know, no girls are looking at me anymore.

00:12:47.440 No, no.

00:12:48.180 Nobody really wants to be my friend.

00:12:50.100 People think I'm weird.

00:12:51.340 People think I'm a or something wrong with me because I'm the kind of guy that got stabbed

00:12:55.140 like I'm a criminal or something.

00:12:56.520 People are passing judgment.

00:12:57.620 You know, dude, it drove me into this dark depression.

00:13:00.240 You know, every single person that came up to me for a number of years came to me and

00:13:04.780 said they either fucking looked at the floor and didn't say anything or they looked at 0.94

00:13:08.200 me and they said, dude, what the fuck happened to your face? 0.81

00:13:10.920 OK, and when you meet a lot of people when you're in business, dude, that shit wears you

00:13:16.300 out, man.

00:13:16.820 It hurts.

00:13:19.000 That's just the way it is.

00:13:20.460 And, you know, I was in a deep, dark place, a suicidal place for real.

00:13:25.800 And I've talked about this a lot, guys, but I was in a grocery store and I was walking

00:13:30.280 down the aisle and I bumped into a cart.

00:13:32.860 I had my head down and.

00:13:35.980 You know, the lady that that. 1.00

00:13:38.000 Well, I didn't know it was a lady at the time, but the lady who bumped into my cart. 1.00

00:13:43.780 She she we bumped cars at the end of the aisle and I looked at her and she goes when I when

00:13:49.600 I looked at her, I couldn't see a face because her face had been melted off, like literally

00:13:53.340 melted off.

00:13:54.000 You've seen somebody who's been severely burned.

00:13:58.400 And, you know, they don't have little holes in their face where their nose used to be.

00:14:02.620 And, you know, you can't tell.

00:14:04.620 I couldn't tell if it was a woman or a man.

00:14:05.980 That's how bad it was.

00:14:07.020 And it was a woman and she had a little a little like a Paddington bear style bucket hat on. 1.00

00:14:13.280 And I'll never forget it.

00:14:14.360 I hit I hit her car and I looked at her.

00:14:16.580 I'm like, oh, I'm sorry.

00:14:17.120 And I looked up and she looked at me and she goes, dude, what the fuck happened to your 0.92

00:14:22.160 face?

00:14:23.380 And I just like immediately like she got it like she knew how people treated us and she

00:14:29.640 was letting me know like, hey, dude, I get it.

00:14:31.640 You know, and now, dude, that was like a pivotal moment in my life because I talked to her for

00:14:36.280 a few minutes, about 15 minutes, and she went on to tell me about how she had been in a plane

00:14:42.660 crash and her whole family had died.

00:14:44.640 She had one of her legs amputated and she was burned beyond beyond belief.

00:14:49.080 And it really put me into perspective that what had happened to me wasn't that bad.

00:14:55.720 And I left that store that day feeling better and honestly not feeling real depressed or

00:15:01.220 anything.

00:15:01.700 I still struggle with depression today.

00:15:04.020 And I think I probably always will.

00:15:07.040 But the point of this is, is that it changed my perspective on how I looked at things.

00:15:11.840 OK, and I started to think, well, this really isn't that bad.

00:15:16.180 Like I could have been way worse, you know, one of the scars that I have was literally not

00:15:21.440 even an eighth of an inch underneath my eye could have lost my eye.

00:15:24.100 The other scar was like right above my jugular vein.

00:15:26.740 I could have been dead.

00:15:27.620 I started thinking about it like that.

00:15:29.600 And then something crazy happened.

00:15:33.220 When I started to see it as a different thing, you know, Chris and I, this is in 2003 and Chris

00:15:38.900 and I, we only had one store and we were, we didn't have any money.

00:15:42.880 We didn't have any backing.

00:15:43.780 And so we were doing a lot of the groundwork to grow our business and we would go to these

00:15:48.900 trade shows and, you know, nobody would ever remember us.

00:15:52.300 We're just another couple of guys selling supplements.

00:15:54.400 There was nothing special about us.

00:15:56.280 And then all of a sudden something happened.

00:15:58.420 I started realizing that people remember me and like this, like, you know, hey, you know,

00:16:06.140 those guys, this is before I got stabbed.

00:16:07.820 Hey, you know, those guys from supplement superstore, Andy and Chris, be like, yeah, you know, I don't

00:16:11.460 know.

00:16:12.200 I don't know.

00:16:12.560 You know, those guys, no, I don't know.

00:16:14.400 And then it switched and started going like this.

00:16:16.680 Hey, you know, those guys at supplement superstores, Andy and Chris, and they'd be like, no, I don't

00:16:20.540 know.

00:16:20.700 Yeah.

00:16:20.880 You know, Andy, dude, the guy with the scars, the guy with the scars on his face.

00:16:23.960 And they'd be like, oh yeah, dude, I know those guys.

00:16:26.040 And I started to see that.

00:16:27.660 And I started to recognize it as we could be remembered.

00:16:30.960 And what happened was this actually turned out to a great thing for our business because

00:16:35.800 every time I went out and met people, they remembered me.

00:16:38.480 And that still is a huge advantage I have to this day.

00:16:41.960 When I meet anyone, they always remember me because of that.

00:16:46.040 And dude, this is what I'm talking about, taking things that would be horrible, tragic, life

00:16:53.260 ruining things, and then transforming them into positive things that have helped you along

00:16:59.220 whatever your goal is.

00:17:00.700 Okay.

00:17:00.940 So there's lots of things out there, guys, that are really bad.

00:17:05.640 Most of them can be turned into great things.

00:17:08.580 Even the worst of the worst of the worst things can be turned into great things.

00:17:13.920 A lot of people, you know, they, they try to throw things.

00:17:16.600 When I talk about this, they throw things at me that are really difficult, right?

00:17:19.840 They say, well, what about a five-year-old girl that gets cancer and never lives her life

00:17:24.000 and dies?

00:17:25.000 And that's fucking horrible.

00:17:26.420 Like that's hard to become positive out of that.

00:17:28.820 But what if that girl create, the parents of that girl create, uh, you know, a charity

00:17:36.540 that helps people like that and starts making a positive impact and then uses this person

00:17:42.740 as a, as something that can help people in a positive way.

00:17:46.320 Or what if, uh, this person, you know, has cancer and passes away and they're able to donate

00:17:54.220 organs or something like that.

00:17:55.880 Who knows?

00:17:56.500 I don't even know if they do that.

00:17:57.800 But the point is, is that you can find positives in literally the worst things that happen.

00:18:04.480 If you're willing to fucking open your eyes and look for it.

00:18:08.360 All right.

00:18:08.880 We've all had terrible things.

00:18:11.340 We've all had bad things happen.

00:18:15.220 My bad things are not to be in competition with your bad things.

00:18:19.660 Okay.

00:18:20.780 This is what people try to do.

00:18:22.440 They try to get into competition about who's got more bad things and who has the worst bad

00:18:27.380 things as their excuses.

00:18:29.260 Successful people don't do that.

00:18:30.840 They hear someone who has something bad happen to them and they say, Hey man, that really sucks.

00:18:37.160 And then they offer a positive viewpoint to see it as, you know, and this is what I'm talking

00:18:42.740 about.

00:18:43.020 The difference of, of, of adjusting and reframing and taking, uh, the negatives and auto correcting

00:18:50.520 them into positive, you know, another word would be failure.

00:18:53.400 That's another word for us.

00:18:54.920 You know, failure happens only guys, when you stop, it doesn't happen when you get hit in the

00:19:03.520 face and you keep going.

00:19:04.680 All right.

00:19:05.460 Failure is only when you stop and what you should be thinking of failure as, as an indication

00:19:11.660 to learn a lesson, not as the end of the road.

00:19:14.920 Okay.

00:19:15.580 Most of society is going to use failure as a moment to quit because dude, they're too embarrassed.

00:19:21.780 They don't want to go through the process again.

00:19:23.820 But the irony of that is, is that by quitting and living the quote unquote safe life that they

00:19:29.040 all want to live and avoiding risks because they failed at one time, that's how you become

00:19:34.960 the failure.

00:19:35.840 You, you choose to become the failure by not persevering.

00:19:39.240 It's a choice.

00:19:40.100 All right.

00:19:40.860 And these are all things that are clearly different between the people who don't succeed

00:19:46.800 and who always have a hard time and the people who seem to always win.

00:19:50.980 All right.

00:19:51.620 It's their ability to auto correct negative situations and negative words and negative

00:19:56.060 thinking into productive path that gets them where they want to go.

00:20:00.340 So I got one more word and this one is going to throw you off.

00:20:03.660 Okay.

00:20:03.940 You're going to hear this and you're going to think, man, I thought that was a, I thought

00:20:07.440 that was a great word, but it's a word that you'll rarely hear me use.

00:20:11.000 And, uh, I get criticism for it a lot, but that word is luck.

00:20:15.780 Okay.

00:20:16.280 But that's not a positive word to me.

00:20:18.200 A lot of people think, man, dude, you know, you got so lucky.

00:20:22.320 They think that's a positive thing.

00:20:23.820 I don't feel that that's positive.

00:20:25.760 All right.

00:20:26.380 I think there's better word choices and concepts to think about other than luck.

00:20:30.200 The reason I don't like luck, I'm not saying it doesn't exist.

00:20:33.700 Sure.

00:20:34.160 It exists.

00:20:35.380 Okay.

00:20:35.780 But what I don't like about it is that when you acknowledge that it exists or you say,

00:20:41.280 yeah, dude, uh, luck's a factor in this.

00:20:44.200 All of a sudden, everybody decides they want to quit because they think they're not lucky.

00:20:48.280 That's not true either.

00:20:49.840 That's just an excuse.

00:20:51.040 So I don't talk about it much because I don't want people to lean on that and to think that's

00:20:56.100 how all successful people win because it's very rare.

00:20:59.060 There's far more successful people that are just people who grind and persevere and push

00:21:04.600 through than there are that just got fucking lucky. 0.79

00:21:07.400 And I'm going to tell you another thing.

00:21:08.900 You don't want to be one of those people who are lucky because if you're lucky, that means

00:21:12.660 you don't possess the skills.

00:21:14.000 That means if you fall on your face from being lucky, you don't have the tools to rebuild

00:21:17.780 it.

00:21:18.520 Think about it like that.

00:21:20.200 Okay.

00:21:20.460 So I choose to use words like productive work, efficiency, perseverance, effort, efficiency.

00:21:27.360 And you know what?

00:21:28.540 How about this?

00:21:29.740 Fortunate.

00:21:30.420 A lot of people like to say, Oh, Andy, you're so fucking lucky, dude.

00:21:33.340 I take that as an insult because you weren't there though.

00:21:37.340 All those years, you weren't there for the first three years when we made $0 and we were

00:21:42.620 working two other jobs, at least a piece to keep our fucking store open. 0.89

00:21:47.200 You weren't there for the next seven years where we made no more than $695 a month and had

00:21:53.100 to work other jobs.

00:21:54.180 You weren't there for the next 10 years when we worked 18, 19 hours a day and deal with

00:22:00.020 constant bullshit nonstop.

00:22:01.820 You have no fucking idea what the price that has been paid and you saying that someone got

00:22:07.560 lucky.

00:22:08.480 Dude, that's ignorant, man.

00:22:10.020 And it's insulting.

00:22:11.180 It downplays effort.

00:22:12.780 It downplays their skills.

00:22:14.200 It downplays everything that they're proud of creating within themselves and discounts it

00:22:19.160 to fucking some bullshit luck.

00:22:21.640 So before you say, Oh dude, you're so lucky.

00:22:24.920 Think twice about that because I'm going to tell you every time someone tells me I'm lucky,

00:22:28.180 I get mad.

00:22:29.160 Like I get mad and I will correct you.

00:22:32.940 I don't care who you are.

00:22:34.160 I had a guy who's very wealthy the other day.

00:22:37.100 Tell me on a text.

00:22:38.140 He said, man, I hope you realize how lucky you are.

00:22:41.780 And I said, Jay, I said, if you see me for the last 20 years, you'd realize how ignorant

00:22:45.960 that statement really is.

00:22:47.260 And that's exactly how I feel about it.

00:22:49.060 It's the truth.

00:22:50.260 Okay.

00:22:50.920 None of the success that you see from Chris and I came from luck.

00:22:55.000 The only thing I was lucky about is I was lucky to be born to fucking parents who taught

00:22:59.600 me the right shit. 0.72

00:23:00.400 And if that's luck, then I got a lot of luck there.

00:23:03.700 That's the truth.

00:23:04.880 Okay.

00:23:05.300 But the rest of it, none of it came from luck.

00:23:08.160 It came from fucking pushing and fighting and clawing and learning how to persevere painful

00:23:14.600 lesson after painful lesson, after painful lesson, expensive lesson after expensive lesson.

00:23:20.480 Fuck dude, getting your soul ripped out 15 times a fucking month.

00:23:25.400 That's what it's taken.

00:23:27.080 Okay.

00:23:27.600 And so I want, that's just what I talked about in the last podcast.

00:23:30.500 That shit is normal.

00:23:31.740 You have any deal with this is normal.

00:23:33.980 And the concept of luck and what people think of luck is why you think it's not normal and

00:23:40.440 why you think it should be easy.

00:23:41.820 Okay.

00:23:42.160 I can go on and on about this, but you get the point.

00:23:44.600 It's basically the skillset we're talking about is putting a filter on yourself and realizing

00:23:50.660 that you're in a moment of learning.

00:23:53.480 Okay.

00:23:53.920 You have to stop and ask yourself, how can this help my progression?

00:23:59.140 And that's hard to do when you're in the moment and you're emotional and things aren't going

00:24:03.100 well, but you have to learn to catch yourself in these moments because the negativity that

00:24:07.980 you can instill into your own brain is a slippery slope.

00:24:11.140 Okay.

00:24:12.060 Tests, obstacles, failures.

00:24:14.460 None of these should be stopping points.

00:24:16.200 They should be chances to overcome.

00:24:18.800 They should be areas of intense growth.

00:24:20.860 Once you pass them, they're going to be the moments that you look back on the milestone and

00:24:24.620 say, that was when I learned this.

00:24:26.500 That was when I learned that.

00:24:28.000 That was when I became this.

00:24:30.020 Okay.

00:24:30.340 It's something to build on because believe it or not, it never stops.

00:24:34.740 You're going to face these challenges over and over and over again.

00:24:37.920 So you have to create yourself as someone who's built to overcome, who's built to win,

00:24:44.800 who's built to push through, who's built to persevere.

00:24:48.760 Those are the skills you need.

00:24:51.460 Okay.

00:24:51.900 Because the fucking punches are never going to stop guys.

00:24:55.320 All right, guys, look, dude.

00:24:56.860 So I could go on and on about this, but let's wrap this up because it's really a simple concept.

00:25:01.820 You might think right now that you are at the lowest of the lows.

00:25:06.520 Okay.

00:25:06.960 You might think that right now is the worst thing that ever happened to you, but I'm going

00:25:11.300 to tell you from experience, guys, this can go one of two ways.

00:25:15.120 Okay.

00:25:15.800 The first way it can go is you can think of it this way and you can learn nothing.

00:25:20.640 You could become nothing.

00:25:22.160 You could create nothing and you could be blindsided by the next challenge and destroyed

00:25:27.420 again and again and again through life and create this endless cycle of losing.

00:25:31.480 This is what most people do.

00:25:33.080 Or you can learn and create the tool of being able to change your perspective so that when

00:25:40.280 these challenges come and when these negative perceived events happen, you can see them as

00:25:47.120 the opportunity to get better, as the opportunity to grow, as the opportunity to learn a new skill.

00:25:52.880 Okay.

00:25:53.040 And what that does is that creates you a better prepared you for the next time.

00:25:59.640 Remember, if you're lucky all the way through life, you don't have the tools.

00:26:03.680 You don't have the skills.

00:26:05.040 You don't have the ability to rebuild.

00:26:07.120 But if you look at it as what can I learn?

00:26:09.820 How can I push through?

00:26:11.400 And how is this going to benefit me in the future?

00:26:13.380 Not only can you stay positive, but you become a higher skilled operator that allows you to overcome

00:26:18.980 things that other people just can't.

00:26:21.540 And that's ultimately what drives the success.

00:26:24.040 All right.

00:26:24.860 So guys, before you sit there and drive yourself into this dark hole because things aren't going

00:26:31.800 your way, remember the only reason that you end up in that dark hole is because you chose

00:26:36.680 to go in it.

00:26:37.320 Hey, I told my teacher, dumb bitch. 1.00

00:26:39.480 I'm going to get millions.

00:26:40.660 Watch this.

00:26:41.100 In the project, living down.

00:26:42.620 Spoke it till existed.

00:26:43.820 Voila.

00:26:44.280 I'm from where you came.

00:26:45.300 So.

00:26:45.420 I'm from where you came.

REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 01, 2020

27. Real Talk： Construction Of A Championship Caliber Mindset

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