REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 14, 2022


275. Q&AF： "All My Employees Quit," Bad Day Or Bad Moment？ & The Power Of Manifestation


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In this episode, we talk about how important it is to put your phone away for a couple days to recharge and re-energize your spirit. We also talk about our experience with a weekend where we didn t have a single cell phone in the house and it was awesome.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest say goodbye to
00:00:20.840 the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality.
00:00:25.120 Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where you ask the Q's and I give you the AF's and
00:00:32.420 if I wasn't as cool, it would just be the A's, but since I'm super cool, it's AF's and that's
00:00:36.960 pretty much how it works.
00:00:37.760 So this is the personal development version of our show now, okay?
00:00:41.820 We built the base of this show on entrepreneurship for a long time, I don't even know how many
00:00:47.540 years with the MFCEO project, it was the number one entrepreneur podcast of all time, it still
00:00:52.120 is.
00:00:52.400 And now we talk about the crazy shit going on in the world a little more.
00:00:57.580 So we rebranded, we're real AF and if you want personal development content, Q and AF is where
00:01:02.560 it's going to be, otherwise you can look at Arte Syndicate where we get into it every week
00:01:06.480 in depth.
00:01:08.100 So with that being said, what am I missing?
00:01:10.500 Oh, there's a fee.
00:01:11.300 There's a fee.
00:01:11.840 The fee is very simple.
00:01:13.640 You Venmo me, $100 per episode.
00:01:16.900 And you give DJ $2 for reparations.
00:01:19.020 So basically guys, the show is free, okay?
00:01:26.860 And all we ask is that you send some good words to your friends and family and like-minded
00:01:31.560 individuals about us.
00:01:32.640 That's all we want, right?
00:01:35.280 What else?
00:01:36.480 What else?
00:01:36.880 Now, if you want to submit your questions, email them in to askany.com.
00:01:40.180 Costello.com.
00:01:41.340 Cool.
00:01:41.960 So that's the deal, all right?
00:01:43.480 Now we're going to get into the Qs and the AFs.
00:01:47.840 But I mean, what's going on, dude?
00:01:49.720 Nothing much, man.
00:01:50.640 Yeah?
00:01:51.080 What did you do this weekend?
00:01:52.240 We had a great weekend.
00:01:53.260 Yeah.
00:01:53.440 We had an athlete weekend here at 1P and it was fucking awesome.
00:01:56.360 It was awesome, dude.
00:01:57.280 Yeah.
00:01:57.440 You know what was fucking awesome?
00:01:58.300 You know what made it so awesome?
00:01:59.280 We did this new thing now.
00:02:00.940 It was the first time we ever tried it, but we made it no cell phones.
00:02:04.100 Yeah.
00:02:04.400 Like, we had a casino night at my house.
00:02:06.600 It was fucking awesome, dude.
00:02:07.820 I ran up on that fucking blackjack. 0.98
00:02:09.240 Yeah, you were partnering up with Fred Warner.
00:02:11.200 Yeah, I was.
00:02:11.880 That was fucking awesome.
00:02:12.940 Yeah, that was fucking me and Fred ran the table on blackjack.
00:02:15.460 What a good dude.
00:02:16.480 Fucking awesome.
00:02:16.980 I love that dude.
00:02:19.840 I watched you guys over there.
00:02:20.860 We kept high-fiving, but it's like swallows.
00:02:21.800 You guys are over there getting excited.
00:02:23.320 This dude's got a fucking nine-figure contract.
00:02:26.240 And he's excited about fucking these fake-ass chips in the house.
00:02:30.080 Right, right, right.
00:02:30.640 But that's the thing.
00:02:31.220 There was no risk.
00:02:32.260 You know what I'm saying?
00:02:32.580 But it was cool, dude, because, like, dude, look, it made me real.
00:02:37.500 It sounds really weird, but it made me realize how much phones take away from these experiences
00:02:43.020 that we were supposed to have in life.
00:02:44.500 The personal connection.
00:02:45.220 Yeah, dude.
00:02:45.680 I had, Friday and Saturday, I had, in probably six, seven years, the two best times I've had
00:02:52.880 just because nobody was checking their phones, nobody was taking pictures, nobody was absorbed
00:03:00.520 in the going-ons of the world.
00:03:01.940 They were there and present.
00:03:03.380 It was really, really cool.
00:03:05.920 No, and dude, the thing is, like, technology, right?
00:03:08.360 Like, there are great fucking advancements.
00:03:10.460 There's great fucking places for technology to fucking help in.
00:03:13.700 It's done tremendous things, right?
00:03:16.280 But this personal connection of, like, just people, human beings connecting, this does not
00:03:22.700 help that.
00:03:23.000 No, bro.
00:03:24.220 After this past weekend, because it, like, totally re-energized my, I don't know, I want
00:03:29.420 to sound like a poofy, you know, but, like, it made my, like, spirit better.
00:03:33.560 Yeah.
00:03:33.780 Like, I'm in a better mood today.
00:03:35.160 Humans, we thrive on that.
00:03:36.420 Yeah.
00:03:36.580 Like, that's a net, like, that is a fundamental, like, necessity of all.
00:03:39.580 Bro, it's so noticeable.
00:03:41.100 Yeah.
00:03:41.220 Like, I was in a good mood today when I woke up.
00:03:43.480 I fucking felt better.
00:03:45.180 When we had our meeting this morning, I was excited to see everybody.
00:03:48.300 Yeah.
00:03:48.800 Like, dude, if you don't know what I'm talking about, bro, put your phone away for a fucking
00:03:53.500 couple days.
00:03:54.180 Like, for real, put it away for a couple days.
00:03:55.960 Yeah.
00:03:56.180 And fucking, you know, make your family put it away for a day a week or something like
00:04:00.820 that.
00:04:00.940 Right.
00:04:01.140 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:01.800 Like, it, it, I don't know.
00:04:04.300 It just opened my eyes.
00:04:05.560 You know, it's kind of like how you don't realize how things are getting when they happen
00:04:10.180 incrementally over time.
00:04:11.440 You know what I'm saying?
00:04:11.940 It's like the frog in the boiling water.
00:04:13.400 Yep.
00:04:13.820 And, like, what I realized is, holy shit, dude, this is how it's supposed to be.
00:04:18.080 Yeah.
00:04:18.280 You know?
00:04:19.100 And this technology that we have, as great as it is for some things, it's become overbearing
00:04:25.120 and, uh, you know, I really think people need to consider how much time they are pouring
00:04:32.080 themselves into this, this alternative reality of the internet.
00:04:35.820 You know what I mean?
00:04:36.140 You know what's funny, though?
00:04:36.860 Some people would be like, oh, I'm not, I don't spend that much time on my phone.
00:04:39.000 Oh, I'm not.
00:04:39.740 There's a real quick fucking easy test.
00:04:41.400 You can go to your settings and look at your fucking screen time.
00:04:43.780 On average, people are spending eight hours a day, eight hours a day.
00:04:47.380 Yeah.
00:04:47.680 And he's fucking.
00:04:48.320 Bro, I've, I've, uh, I've probably spent more of my life in, in the internet.
00:04:55.120 World, the last 10 years that I have in the real world.
00:04:59.560 And like, dude, I look back and I'm like a fuck.
00:05:01.640 I fucking regret that.
00:05:02.740 It was the best fucking years of my whole entire life.
00:05:05.100 Yeah.
00:05:05.500 I happened to fucking spend with this shit.
00:05:08.220 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:08.940 Like, I'm going to make a conscious effort to, I mean, it's still going to be there.
00:05:12.820 I'm not fucking say, Hey, fuck technology.
00:05:14.920 Still useful.
00:05:15.700 But, you know, I think developing a technology discipline is something that I think is worth
00:05:20.340 striving for.
00:05:21.140 Yeah.
00:05:21.460 I agree, man.
00:05:22.000 Really?
00:05:22.420 I agree.
00:05:22.820 Like the payoffs too good.
00:05:25.120 You know?
00:05:26.080 So anyway, those are my opening thoughts.
00:05:28.560 Yeah.
00:05:28.900 No, it's fucking awesome though, man.
00:05:30.060 It was a good weekend.
00:05:31.020 It was a good weekend.
00:05:31.940 Well, we got three good ones for you.
00:05:34.020 Um, so let's knock these out.
00:05:36.740 Andy, I have seven employees.
00:05:39.800 Okay.
00:05:40.480 I just had a meeting this past Monday and things got pretty heated and all of my employees,
00:05:46.940 but two left and quit.
00:05:49.400 I'm fucking lost.
00:05:50.540 Side note.
00:05:51.300 It took me three years to get to seven employees.
00:05:54.020 Um, and right now nobody else wants to work and I feel like I'm ready to throw in the
00:05:57.700 towel.
00:05:58.240 Does he say why?
00:06:00.240 No, he just says things got pretty heated.
00:06:01.840 Yeah.
00:06:02.080 Well, you know, unfortunately, um, especially when you're small, you know, those kinds of
00:06:10.140 things happen.
00:06:10.660 I think every business at some point in time has some sort of little revolt when they're
00:06:15.620 smaller because there's, you know, it's just you, you don't have, you're not really, these
00:06:19.680 people aren't getting paid.
00:06:21.280 Uh, you know, when you start a new business, bro, like people have to understand it takes
00:06:25.340 a long time to get to a place where, um, you're paying your employees, uh, in a proper
00:06:32.160 way.
00:06:32.520 And I would say overpaying them is proper in my opinion.
00:06:36.300 Um, you know, and that can be incredibly difficult when you're, when you're managing
00:06:42.840 a team where everybody's sort of bought into the mission or what we're trying to accomplish.
00:06:47.640 And, you know, you don't have real leverage for them to not walk away.
00:06:52.660 Right.
00:06:53.100 Right.
00:06:53.420 And so I've had this kind of thing happen to me a few different times where I've had,
00:06:57.620 yeah, where I've had whole stores of employees leave at one time.
00:07:01.520 Oh shit.
00:07:02.020 Um,
00:07:02.520 you know, and that's incredibly hard.
00:07:04.040 You know, one time I had, uh, one time I had a whole store of employees quit and I went
00:07:08.700 to the store and it was empty.
00:07:09.820 They didn't have any product in it.
00:07:11.400 Like we had, uh, $80,000 worth of product in that store.
00:07:14.980 This is like 15 years ago.
00:07:16.400 No shit.
00:07:16.980 And yeah.
00:07:17.220 And there was fucking $3,000 worth of product left.
00:07:19.760 You know, we have cameras.
00:07:21.060 We couldn't prove it.
00:07:22.220 Uh, we tried to get, yeah, dude.
00:07:24.060 I heard that.
00:07:24.740 That's fucked up.
00:07:25.620 Yeah, bro.
00:07:25.860 But the thing is, the reason you haven't heard that story is because you can go ask Jason about that
00:07:29.420 story.
00:07:29.800 Yeah.
00:07:30.000 But, um, the reason you don't hear is because it's happened so frequently, like things like
00:07:35.480 that happen, you know?
00:07:36.440 And all I can say is, you know, these, this is, should be a learning lesson for you.
00:07:41.960 Um, there's some responsibility on your shoulders and there's probably some on their shoulders.
00:07:46.840 Yeah.
00:07:47.380 And as you get more mature and bigger company, you know, you can, you can create positions
00:07:53.560 in your company, uh, that are harder to walk away from when things get hard, you know?
00:07:58.060 And that's the goal.
00:07:58.820 You want that because you want people to be invested into your company and not just walk
00:08:02.460 away when they get extremely frustrated.
00:08:03.980 Um, so that will get better as you get bigger and, and, and more profitable and you can
00:08:09.920 invest more into your employees.
00:08:11.160 But at, at the beginning stages, when you have, you know, less than, you know, 10, 20 employees,
00:08:16.520 it can be really fucking hard.
00:08:17.960 And, and I, I relate to that, man.
00:08:19.680 Like that's a, that's a very difficult situation.
00:08:22.760 I'm sure he feels very alone.
00:08:24.440 Yeah.
00:08:24.800 He feels like betrayed, um, or she, or whoever asked that.
00:08:28.480 Um, cause that's how I felt.
00:08:30.680 I remember I felt like, man, I'm fucking doing everything I fucking can.
00:08:33.800 And, and, you know, these people want more and more and more for me that I can't give.
00:08:38.340 Right.
00:08:38.900 And so from an employer standpoint of view, it's, it's incredibly difficult, um, because
00:08:44.800 you're trying to, you know, at that stage in the game, you know, it's one fire after
00:08:48.840 another fire, after another fire, after another fire.
00:08:51.400 And you don't really have the skills to organize your team properly.
00:08:54.740 Right.
00:08:55.200 Um, because you haven't learned them, right.
00:08:57.020 You're just in the beginning of it.
00:08:58.240 So my advice to this person would be like, Hey, understand that these kinds of things
00:09:02.460 will happen and probably won't be the last time something like that will happen.
00:09:05.920 Um, but if you stay, if you stay plugged in and you stay putting one foot down in front
00:09:10.900 of another, um, you know, you will get through this, uh, but it will only matter that you got
00:09:16.340 through it.
00:09:16.840 If you actually learn the lesson and were able to take responsibility for your part in creating
00:09:21.060 that scenario, make sure that it doesn't happen.
00:09:22.640 Exactly.
00:09:23.620 Exactly.
00:09:24.240 So what you should be looking at is what things could I have done differently leading
00:09:28.820 up to that situation, um, that could have helped avoid it.
00:09:35.040 Right.
00:09:35.440 And then, and then what you want to do is you want to start recognizing that sort of situation
00:09:40.060 way ahead of time next time.
00:09:41.560 Right.
00:09:41.860 Right.
00:09:42.160 Like you should be able to see a situation like that coming months ahead of time.
00:09:46.780 Right.
00:09:47.260 And then you have to work to solve the problem before it becomes this big inferno.
00:09:51.160 Right.
00:09:51.440 And that, that's, that's the truth is those employees didn't leave that day in that meeting.
00:09:55.140 No, that's right.
00:09:55.980 It was over time.
00:09:56.920 Right.
00:09:57.120 And so that's what you have to understand.
00:09:58.700 It's just like when a, when a significant other breaks up with you, like they don't
00:10:01.840 break up with you because of one thing, uh, they break up with you because of the previous
00:10:06.220 four years of things that you never fixed or never adjusted.
00:10:10.080 And then it feels like they just decided today, but the truth is they just decided slowly
00:10:15.740 over time.
00:10:16.540 And that's why when these things happen, you know, most of the time trying to like change
00:10:21.740 their minds is, is not going to work because there's been enough lead up to this scenario
00:10:28.020 to where they're going to just think you're full of shit.
00:10:30.520 And it's a hard pill to swallow, um, that you might be a little full of shit and maybe
00:10:35.240 you need to adjust your technique.
00:10:36.680 And maybe you need to, um, for this person, I would invest heavily in trying to become
00:10:42.100 a better leader, a better team organizer, um, a better, uh, manager, a better CEO in
00:10:48.040 terms of managing people, because I can tell you for sure.
00:10:51.080 And it doesn't matter if the entrepreneur that I'm talking to is a first year entrepreneur
00:10:55.480 or, uh, a 20 year entrepreneur or a 30 year entrepreneur worth billions of dollars.
00:11:00.820 They always say the same thing.
00:11:03.220 Managing people is the hardest possible thing you can do.
00:11:07.120 And it's even getting harder because the mentality used to be, we come to work to get a fucking
00:11:13.800 job done right now.
00:11:16.160 People have their social, I guess, thermostat has changed to a point where they feel like
00:11:22.860 it's almost to me, it comes across as severe entitlement, um, that they believe that I'm
00:11:28.100 responsible for their personal lives and their personal happiness.
00:11:31.660 I'm fucking not right.
00:11:33.680 Like they have the leverage.
00:11:34.920 Yeah.
00:11:35.460 And like, dude, that's something that's very frustrating as a CEO or as a manager of people
00:11:40.040 is when people can't handle their own fucking lives because they're undisciplined and they're 0.92
00:11:44.720 weak.
00:11:45.100 Right.
00:11:45.500 And then they bring that shit to you and then make it like it's part of your problem.
00:11:48.540 Oh, I'm really not happy and blah, blah, blah.
00:11:50.440 Well, what are you not happy with?
00:11:51.380 Well, you know, my wife or my husband or blah, blah, blah.
00:11:54.640 Well, that ain't me, bro.
00:11:55.560 That's a you problem.
00:11:56.680 You know what I'm saying?
00:11:57.560 And, and, and dude, that shit does not belong in the fucking business, place of business 0.89
00:12:01.140 at all.
00:12:01.860 Right.
00:12:02.180 So, you know, people need to really check themselves when they understand, like, like
00:12:06.900 when you, and dude, this is an important perspective to think from an employee as well right now.
00:12:11.260 There's not that many good fucking jobs right now.
00:12:13.420 Right.
00:12:14.160 People are starving for employees, but most of those jobs are running the play from like
00:12:19.260 19 fucking 80 where they pay their people the least amount and expect them to do the most. 0.93
00:12:24.580 And that just doesn't really work anymore because there's too many options for people to make
00:12:28.280 a living.
00:12:28.840 Right.
00:12:29.140 You know, other ways, you know, people could get on Etsy or eBay and fucking make enough
00:12:34.280 money to survive.
00:12:35.180 Or just sit on their fucking couch.
00:12:36.620 Yeah.
00:12:36.720 And take a check from the government.
00:12:37.940 Exactly.
00:12:38.440 Right.
00:12:38.480 So there's all kinds of other options that they didn't have.
00:12:41.100 And so if you want to, if you want to build a great company and an effective company, it's
00:12:46.780 almost as if you have to create the place that is so cool and so fun and so good to work
00:12:52.260 at that these people will come here for fucking free. 0.96
00:12:56.020 Right.
00:12:56.440 Right.
00:12:56.940 That's real.
00:12:57.540 Yeah.
00:12:57.840 Would you, would you tell them anything special for the two employees that did, that did
00:13:01.180 stay, that were loyal, that didn't.
00:13:03.260 I mean, those are definitely the people that you're going to want to build around.
00:13:06.680 You know what I'm saying?
00:13:07.720 But just remember that whatever mistakes you made leading up to leading up.
00:13:12.320 I actually think if you look at it like that, it's a blessing because now you know who you
00:13:16.200 can go with.
00:13:16.660 It's like thin the herd.
00:13:17.340 That's right.
00:13:17.840 Yeah.
00:13:18.200 So that, that's a rare, that's a very good plus that you pointed out in that scenario.
00:13:22.580 But also remember that all those things that led up to those people being disgruntled
00:13:27.360 and getting heated and walking off, those other people felt as well.
00:13:30.800 They may not be voicing it.
00:13:32.300 Maybe they need the job.
00:13:33.640 Maybe they have another reason.
00:13:34.660 So what I'm saying is you have to own your mistakes for this situation with those people
00:13:40.060 to build back that trust and that credibility, even though they're staying there right now.
00:13:44.820 See what I'm saying?
00:13:45.520 Right, right, right.
00:13:45.980 So like, it's not just like, oh, they're loyal.
00:13:47.780 Like they're probably pissed off too.
00:13:49.380 Right.
00:13:49.720 And you're going to have to figure out, you know, how to, how to get them back on a team.
00:13:53.920 And that comes from just being real dude.
00:13:56.040 And like saying, Hey, you know what?
00:13:57.840 Here's where I fucked up, but I don't agree with this and this and this, and I can't have
00:14:01.040 that here.
00:14:01.400 So we got to move forward with this and this is what will not happen again.
00:14:05.100 This is what we're going to do moving forward.
00:14:06.800 And this is how we, how we move.
00:14:09.140 Right.
00:14:09.800 So there's a lot to that, but at the end of the day, it's not the end of the world.
00:14:14.420 At the end of the day, I think if you talk to every small business owner, that's become
00:14:17.440 a medium size or large business owner, they've dealt with these kinds of scenarios.
00:14:20.480 You're not, you're not alone at all.
00:14:21.980 I could give you 10 different scenarios just like that.
00:14:24.820 And if I'm being completely honest, most of those were my fault because I didn't know
00:14:29.020 how to lead properly.
00:14:30.520 It's the truth.
00:14:31.460 Yeah.
00:14:31.840 You know what I mean?
00:14:32.620 Like I say a lot of times, like my biggest regret is that I have great people that I
00:14:39.300 had in the company previously that, that I pushed out because I didn't know what the
00:14:43.600 fuck I was doing.
00:14:44.320 And it's taking dude, being a great leader, being a great CEO is a lifetime commitment.
00:14:48.920 Like right now, I think I'm pretty good in 10 years.
00:14:51.700 I'm going to think I was shitty now.
00:14:53.300 Right.
00:14:53.720 You know what I'm saying?
00:14:54.600 Right.
00:14:54.960 So that's, that's just the way it goes, bro.
00:14:57.580 And you know, we have to, we have to deal with those things and move forward with it,
00:15:01.740 with a positive, with a positive, you know, mindset and a positive momentum with the team.
00:15:07.060 And that starts with owning what, what, what you did wrong, correcting the behavior.
00:15:10.620 Yeah.
00:15:11.160 So that's fucking real, man.
00:15:12.700 That's tough, man.
00:15:13.720 I mean, it's a tough day.
00:15:14.580 I mean, emotionally, that's tough because dude, when that happens, you really feel like,
00:15:18.920 you feel like you feel like a fucking failure and you feel alone and you feel like everybody 0.92
00:15:24.140 hates you.
00:15:25.180 And it's just, it's just a very lonely feeling.
00:15:29.820 So stick it out, man.
00:15:31.160 You know, you're not the only one that's ever had to go through that.
00:15:34.580 Yeah.
00:15:35.620 That's real, man.
00:15:37.660 Andy, question, question number two for you.
00:15:41.060 We've talked about test days in the, in the, in the past, right?
00:15:44.360 But what is your, what's your take on having bad days?
00:15:48.500 And a bad day for whatever reason, right?
00:15:50.240 Like I'm just in the mood.
00:15:51.520 How long should that bad day last for that person?
00:15:55.620 Well, I don't think most people have bad days.
00:15:57.360 I think most people have bad moments that ruin their day.
00:15:59.820 I think if most people were aware and self-aware and were able to move from one emotion to the
00:16:06.820 next quickly and you learn that that's a skill, by the way, like I can literally be in a meeting
00:16:13.000 with someone getting pretty heated and walk right out and do a call or do a podcast or
00:16:18.820 do something else.
00:16:19.440 And you will know, have never known that it happened.
00:16:21.240 And so I think when you say, Oh, I have bad days, I think most of the time it's because
00:16:28.600 you don't, you haven't acquired the skill of, of compartmentalizing, uh, you know, the
00:16:35.640 issue to the issue that makes sense.
00:16:37.740 So like a lot of people, you know, they wake up in the morning, they, they go to work.
00:16:42.240 Let's say they get, they, they get an offender bender, right? 1.00
00:16:44.900 Their fucking day is ruined.
00:16:46.420 Right.
00:16:46.680 Okay.
00:16:47.480 Right.
00:16:47.760 When in reality, the truth is your day is not ruined.
00:16:51.300 What happened is you got something that puts you in a bad mood and then you ruined your
00:16:54.860 fucking day by going through the whole day saying, I got an accident to work and my day 0.90
00:17:00.080 sucks and blah, blah, blah. 0.88
00:17:02.060 Fuck this.
00:17:02.700 And you know, sometimes those people end up throwing their whole life away because they
00:17:06.000 had one bad moment, you know?
00:17:08.120 And I think it's important to recognize that most of the time it's not a bad day.
00:17:11.960 It's bad moments.
00:17:13.160 Yeah.
00:17:13.420 And this is not something that's easy to learn.
00:17:15.200 It's not something that's been automatic to me.
00:17:18.200 I have, the only reason I know this is because I've been guilty of that for most of my life
00:17:22.600 where I could get halfway through the day and some bullshit happens and then I'm fucking 0.93
00:17:26.780 pissed off the rest of the day.
00:17:27.980 And guess what?
00:17:28.800 Sometimes it still happens.
00:17:30.700 Right.
00:17:31.500 But I have to, I am more aware at, you know, this point in my life than I was, you know,
00:17:36.800 10 years ago or two years ago or 15 years ago.
00:17:39.840 Right.
00:17:40.260 And now, regardless of what happens, I'm usually okay to be able to say, all right, look, it'll
00:17:46.480 be good.
00:17:47.600 This sucks.
00:17:48.460 Everything's fine.
00:17:49.160 Everything's fine.
00:17:49.900 Yeah.
00:17:50.200 You know, and I remind myself back to like, okay, that was a one, that was a, that was
00:17:54.780 one part of my day.
00:17:55.700 It's not the rest of the day.
00:17:56.720 Yeah.
00:17:56.940 And you move on.
00:17:57.660 And, and, uh, and it's, it's easier to say that than it is to do it because, you
00:18:02.060 know, when you're emotional, it's especially like these darker emotions, it's hard to pull
00:18:06.620 out of them.
00:18:07.000 Right.
00:18:07.280 Right.
00:18:07.580 But I think on top of that, another thing you can do is that you can use these days as
00:18:12.920 fuel, right?
00:18:14.200 Like when you feel like you're like, things aren't going your way.
00:18:17.800 Um, that's the time where you need to lock in and control what you can control.
00:18:22.040 And that's where, you know, you need to control the basics, like what you eat, what you put
00:18:26.620 in your brain, what you drink, uh, you know, who you interact with your exercise, like these
00:18:33.200 things are things that no matter how bad things are going, you are ultimately in control
00:18:37.760 of it.
00:18:38.060 And if you say you're not, you're lying.
00:18:40.280 Right.
00:18:40.880 Yeah.
00:18:41.160 So I think it's important to recognize that when things are rough in life, you know, we're
00:18:46.580 all going to go through times and sometimes it lasts, you know, a day, sometimes it lasts
00:18:50.640 a week, sometimes it lasts longer than that.
00:18:53.580 Sometimes it lasts months or years.
00:18:55.100 But at the end of the day, you're choosing to live in that misery, right?
00:18:58.780 You're choosing to stay in that place because you're choosing to dwell and to, to think and
00:19:03.960 to analyze and to beat something to death that quite honestly is irrelevant.
00:19:09.900 Right.
00:19:10.380 It's already happened.
00:19:11.500 Right.
00:19:11.940 You know, so you are in control of your own happiness and your own, your own, whether
00:19:17.480 or not you have a good or a bad day, you're in control of that just by changing your fucking 0.98
00:19:21.500 attitude from, you know, oh my God, this is the worst thing ever to, well, that sucked.
00:19:26.780 All right.
00:19:27.360 On with the day.
00:19:28.280 Right.
00:19:28.580 Right.
00:19:28.960 And like, that's how we, or, you know, hey, that sucked.
00:19:32.420 All right.
00:19:32.700 Well, all my life, I got to keep going.
00:19:35.460 Right.
00:19:35.700 You know, and those things, um, switching your mentality, dude, those things can ultimately
00:19:41.080 save your life.
00:19:42.040 Yeah.
00:19:42.440 Because I don't think people are like, that's an extremely powerful thing, right?
00:19:45.700 Like, I mean, you have fucking 60 seconds of a bad situation or a bad call and you're
00:19:50.480 gonna let that ruin the next fucking 15 hours of your day possibly. 0.96
00:19:53.240 Yeah.
00:19:53.720 Well, bro, you seen it.
00:19:54.660 I mean, even I'm, I'm not the best at this.
00:19:56.320 Like, I'm just saying it's true.
00:19:57.900 We're human.
00:19:58.460 Yeah.
00:19:58.720 Like there's times when people piss me the fuck off and I'm like fucking pissed.
00:20:03.080 Yeah.
00:20:03.500 Right.
00:20:04.200 And I stay pissed for a while, but usually what do I do when I do that?
00:20:07.780 What do we do when I get pissed off?
00:20:09.240 We either work out or do cardio.
00:20:11.540 That's usually almost always.
00:20:12.940 Okay, let's go.
00:20:13.800 Yep.
00:20:14.120 And we'll go fucking hit the weights or we'll go, we'll go fucking do outdoor cardio.
00:20:17.240 Yeah.
00:20:17.740 And, and we'll.
00:20:18.280 It's like redirecting that moment.
00:20:19.300 Yeah.
00:20:19.420 That's it.
00:20:20.100 Well, dude, what I'm doing is I'm taking time that would be spent being negative.
00:20:23.920 I'm actually substituting the time with productive action.
00:20:27.060 Right.
00:20:27.360 Right.
00:20:27.780 So when you, when you have the ability to take negativity and substitute it with something
00:20:32.920 productive, you get to move forward, even though you don't feel like you're moving forward
00:20:37.060 during the bad times.
00:20:37.980 I think this is a huge key to life.
00:20:39.700 Yeah.
00:20:40.060 Huge.
00:20:40.580 Yeah.
00:20:40.900 You know, it's a pivot point.
00:20:42.220 Hey, I'm fucking pissed.
00:20:43.360 All right.
00:20:43.520 I'll go work out.
00:20:44.280 Hey, this is fucking bullshit.
00:20:45.580 All right.
00:20:45.860 Well, I'm not going to fucking order pizza.
00:20:48.060 I'm going to stay on my plan.
00:20:49.100 Right.
00:20:49.140 You know what I'm saying?
00:20:49.660 Right.
00:20:50.040 And when you, when you, when you substitute all those negative times and you like, think about it,
00:20:54.760 think of all the bad shit that's happened to you.
00:20:56.220 And what if you use those as a trigger to go ahead and do one little step forward in
00:21:01.760 the right direction?
00:21:03.100 Think I'll differ in your life with them.
00:21:04.760 Yeah.
00:21:05.100 Right.
00:21:05.600 And still being able to count that day as a fucking win.
00:21:07.940 Yeah.
00:21:08.520 That's what I'm saying.
00:21:09.480 Like, that's a huge deal.
00:21:10.800 Like, if you can't get better when times are tough or when times are out of control or
00:21:15.320 when times are frustrating or you're angry, you're not going to do much in life.
00:21:21.420 Yeah.
00:21:21.780 It's just reality because those things are going to happen so often.
00:21:24.780 And this is where people become victims.
00:21:26.440 Right.
00:21:27.000 They're like, oh, dude, this bad shit.
00:21:28.560 It fucking only happens.
00:21:29.520 Motherfucker. 0.99
00:21:29.840 It happens to everybody.
00:21:31.420 It's just in a different way.
00:21:32.860 Right.
00:21:33.180 Like, we are having bad shit happen to us that we consider bad shit every day, all day.
00:21:39.160 That's for every fucking human on the planet.
00:21:41.280 Every fucking human.
00:21:43.100 So, what's the reasoning for some people consistently winning?
00:21:47.220 Well, they figured out how to keep moving when things are fucking not ideal, when conditions
00:21:51.340 aren't perfect.
00:21:52.220 Right.
00:21:52.440 And if you can't move forward when conditions aren't perfect, you're dead in the water when
00:21:56.780 it comes to life, dude.
00:21:57.880 It's the bottom line.
00:21:59.800 So, you know, try to take those times where you're having a bad day and still execute.
00:22:06.780 And then when you wake up the next morning, it won't have compounded.
00:22:10.540 Right.
00:22:10.900 Like, oh, I had a bad day.
00:22:11.960 Then I ate pizza.
00:22:12.700 Then I didn't work out.
00:22:13.500 I missed all my shit.
00:22:14.320 I blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:22:15.020 Woke up late.
00:22:16.180 Yeah.
00:22:16.420 Like, dude.
00:22:17.160 But instead, you wake up in the morning, you're like, fuck, that sucked yesterday.
00:22:20.260 But I still fucking won.
00:22:21.520 Right.
00:22:21.720 And I'm still going to win today.
00:22:23.020 Dude, that builds confidence.
00:22:24.340 That builds personal power inside yourself that you fucking, like most of you, to be
00:22:29.300 completely honest, have never experienced.
00:22:31.860 Yeah.
00:22:32.520 Because it's not the norm.
00:22:33.840 It's not the norm.
00:22:35.040 Think about what's pushed down through society.
00:22:36.920 What's pushed down through society is not, hey, be resilient.
00:22:40.360 Hey, push through.
00:22:41.520 Hey, this, that, and the other.
00:22:42.440 It's, hey, let's pass a law so that you don't have to deal with anything hard.
00:22:47.140 Like, that's, dude, it's fucking absurd.
00:22:49.940 Yeah.
00:22:50.400 Harsh shit's going to happen.
00:22:51.720 You know, I've said it since 2000 fucking 15, 14, 13, whatever.
00:22:56.260 And everybody copies it, but you're going to, it's going to be hard either way.
00:23:00.480 Okay.
00:23:00.940 Being broke is hard as fuck.
00:23:03.000 Being successful is hard as fuck.
00:23:05.080 All you get to do is choose which hard you're going to fucking be, and you don't get to 0.84
00:23:10.320 opt out of it being hard.
00:23:11.820 That's the fucking thing where people fuck up.
00:23:14.080 They think they can opt out of life being hard.
00:23:16.760 No.
00:23:17.080 Life is going to be hard.
00:23:18.220 Like, you get to choose the result that it's going to produce because of it.
00:23:22.700 Yeah.
00:23:23.140 Fuck.
00:23:23.320 So.
00:23:24.900 I love it, man.
00:23:25.960 Thanks.
00:23:26.280 I fucking love it.
00:23:26.880 That's true.
00:23:28.220 Andy, question number three, our final question for you guys.
00:23:31.920 Andy, I've been trying to explain to my friends the power of visualization.
00:23:36.500 And they always ask me, why do I write things off as manifestation if I'm still going to
00:23:43.200 do the work to get that done?
00:23:45.660 Can you help me explain this a little bit better?
00:23:48.400 So, his friends are just trying to say, it's not visualization.
00:23:50.800 It's not manifestation.
00:23:51.680 You're just working for what you want.
00:23:54.220 Well, I think the most, first of all, I think that's a very uneducated viewpoint on the scenario.
00:23:59.320 There's tons of science that shows that it's actually true.
00:24:01.960 If you get into quantum physics and you start really reading into it, or you start listening
00:24:06.380 and reading people like Dr. Joe Dispenza's work, you'll understand that it's real.
00:24:12.740 Okay?
00:24:13.000 There is a real energy out there that they do not want us to understand, and they don't
00:24:17.780 want us to have control of because it makes us powerful.
00:24:20.600 And that energy is from our fucking brain.
00:24:22.960 All right?
00:24:23.300 And we're able to produce ideas and attract events and attract things in our life with
00:24:29.860 the power of our brain alone.
00:24:31.020 It's fucking.
00:24:32.160 Now, do you have to do your part?
00:24:34.660 Absolutely.
00:24:35.100 Absolutely.
00:24:35.560 But without ever figuring out where you want to go, how the fuck are you going to get
00:24:38.860 there?
00:24:39.900 Okay?
00:24:40.460 So the reason most people fucking lose in life is because not only do they not dream
00:24:45.940 small, or not only do they not dream big, they don't dream at all.
00:24:50.300 Right?
00:24:50.940 They just, they don't think anything's possible.
00:24:53.660 So they never take the time to even paint an ideal life.
00:24:57.560 Or if they do, like you hear them all the time.
00:25:00.980 So, you know, I'd really like to do that.
00:25:03.960 But like, for me, that would look this much smaller.
00:25:06.620 Right.
00:25:06.960 Right?
00:25:07.320 Like, you hear people talk themselves out of their dreams all the time.
00:25:09.940 I do, at least.
00:25:10.760 Yeah.
00:25:11.040 You know, oh, dude, you know, I really love your garage, but like, and all this stuff.
00:25:14.700 But like, for me, dude, I would just want this one thing.
00:25:17.120 Right.
00:25:17.340 Like, and, and, and it, I could, you could see it in their face and not a, that's just
00:25:21.840 an example, right?
00:25:22.680 It's what you're going to substitute that for everybody.
00:25:24.700 Uh, but people have a habit of selling themselves short because they lack the belief in their
00:25:29.900 own abilities.
00:25:30.980 Uh, and they also lack the understanding of the quantum reality of being able to attract
00:25:34.880 things into your life.
00:25:35.900 Right.
00:25:36.200 And those things are scientifically proven.
00:25:38.040 There's tons of science behind it.
00:25:39.620 Uh, there's tons of, there's tons of classified science behind it.
00:25:43.920 Uh, fuck the CIA was using people to fucking, uh, auto locate and visualize the locations
00:25:51.840 of missing people.
00:25:52.540 Right.
00:25:52.940 And it has been successful and they've been doing that for fucking 50 years.
00:25:56.100 Okay.
00:25:56.580 So like, that's this, this is real shit.
00:25:59.420 Right.
00:25:59.940 All right.
00:26:00.260 And, and the reason people don't think it's real is because the government and people who
00:26:04.040 are in power and the elite people of this country in the world have for centuries suppressed
00:26:09.560 our own true abilities as humans, because they can't control us.
00:26:14.660 If we become independently strong and understand what is actually possible in life and in this
00:26:20.520 world.
00:26:20.880 Right.
00:26:21.340 And so, you know, that's why they do things like putting chemicals in the water or putting,
00:26:25.480 um, you know, chemicals in our foods and all these things.
00:26:28.980 These all have, this is all tied together with the suppression of the human potential.
00:26:32.840 All right.
00:26:33.600 So I don't expect people to understand it.
00:26:36.900 Uh, but if you were actually to practice it and you were actually to commit to it, you
00:26:43.120 will figure out that it's true.
00:26:44.380 And then what happens is you start to study and you can see why it's true.
00:26:47.660 But, um, yeah, I mean, like, look, dude, you know, none of my friends fucking thought
00:26:53.240 it was true either.
00:26:54.020 Here we fucking are.
00:26:55.020 Right.
00:26:55.340 Right.
00:26:55.620 Uh, when I said I was going to fucking build all this shit and build this building and build
00:26:59.460 this company and live the life that I live currently, everybody laughed at me.
00:27:03.600 Everybody, nobody fucking thought that it was, and I visualized it every day and I got up
00:27:08.900 and did what I could do, but I can tell you this, um, the amount of work I put in to get
00:27:13.160 this, uh, is, is equal to the amount of alignment that the, that, that the universe created for
00:27:21.540 me in terms of allowing me to achieve those things.
00:27:25.380 So what I'm saying is I, I, I honestly feel like because I visualized it aligned up and made
00:27:32.460 it way easier for me to get to with less work, if that makes sense.
00:27:35.540 Yeah.
00:27:35.920 So like I worked really hard, but like the amount of payoff that is shown because of where
00:27:41.200 I was seeing myself going, there's a lot of things I can't explain, dude.
00:27:45.080 Right.
00:27:45.380 You know, there's a lot of breaks I had that, that, that, that were part of the plan in
00:27:49.640 my mind, but didn't make any sense logically on paper, pen and paper.
00:27:53.460 Right.
00:27:53.740 Or, or, so like you have to understand there's things about this world, like your friends,
00:27:59.560 they probably think they got it all figured out, bro.
00:28:01.560 Well, how come the most successful wealthy people in the world who have billions of dollars
00:28:05.580 when I talk to them, they don't have it all figured out, but they, they believe enough
00:28:09.980 because they've seen enough to practice things.
00:28:12.460 Right.
00:28:12.980 It's like gravity, dude.
00:28:14.260 Like, like we can argue about it all day.
00:28:17.060 Like, but we go up on the roof here and you fucking, we're going to find out, you know what
00:28:21.620 I'm saying?
00:28:21.840 No, gravity ain't real, bro.
00:28:23.040 Yeah.
00:28:23.200 Right.
00:28:23.600 So like, it's the same thing with the law of attraction and quantum physics, quantum
00:28:27.240 realities and all of these things.
00:28:29.100 They don't want us to understand these things.
00:28:31.900 Okay.
00:28:32.300 You know, you think it's a coincidence that they say, oh, well, the average, the human
00:28:35.940 only uses like nine to 11% of their brain.
00:28:38.660 Oh, really?
00:28:39.540 Right.
00:28:39.780 No, that's the nine to 11% that you want us to think works.
00:28:43.840 Right.
00:28:44.240 That's the truth.
00:28:45.240 Right.
00:28:45.920 So, um, I believe a lot, a lot more of our brain that these people don't fucking understand
00:28:51.840 is responsible for us actually manipulating the reality in the universe by just thinking
00:28:56.480 about things and focusing on things a certain way.
00:28:58.940 So, you know, people can argue it and you don't have to believe it, but I can tell you
00:29:02.880 this.
00:29:03.580 When I started it, um, I had moved back in with my dad, uh, after seven years of living
00:29:09.460 alone, I was broke.
00:29:10.520 I was actually less than broke because I was fucking highly in debt.
00:29:13.260 Uh, and within four years of practicing that, I was driving a fucking Lamborghini and flying
00:29:18.200 private jets and I ain't ever looked back.
00:29:20.680 So.
00:29:22.540 Oh, yeah.
00:29:23.560 Like you're not going to, you could, people could argue this all day with me.
00:29:27.740 You could bring in every fucking human on the planet and I'm going to be like, yeah,
00:29:31.200 sorry, you're wrong.
00:29:32.460 Right.
00:29:32.740 And, and, and that's, you know, that might be anecdotal evidence for me because it's
00:29:37.840 my own experiences and what I've seen in the real world, but it's enough to prove it
00:29:40.800 to me.
00:29:41.140 And you guys can either decide to take my word for it or not, but considering where
00:29:45.940 the fuck I came from and what, what the fuck has happened so far in my life, I'm pretty
00:29:49.360 fucking young to achieve what we've achieved. 0.85
00:29:52.160 And a lot of that I credit to, uh, not just visualization on my own part, but collectively
00:29:57.500 getting everybody to see the same vision and us working together.
00:30:00.240 I think there's a lot of power in, in, um, in collective, uh, attraction, so to speak.
00:30:06.540 Yeah.
00:30:06.780 Right.
00:30:07.040 And you have to, you have to.
00:30:08.920 Because even that collective consciousness, yeah, it's collective consciousness, right?
00:30:12.680 Like, like, dude, it's like, it's like, if you could get a whole group of people to
00:30:17.140 see the exact same thing, how much more powerful is your vision?
00:30:20.220 It's, it's infinitely more powerful because all of these people are putting out energy into
00:30:24.200 the universe.
00:30:25.040 That's, that's attracting the same thing and it can attract it at a much greater speed.
00:30:29.080 Yeah.
00:30:29.560 See what I'm saying?
00:30:30.240 Yeah.
00:30:30.380 Fuck yeah.
00:30:30.880 So that's how fucking skyscrapers are built, bro.
00:30:32.920 It's how everything's built.
00:30:34.060 People just, it's what that person's dealing with a small minded, uneducated people.
00:30:38.560 And, and that's just sometimes, you know, it's better to not be around people like that
00:30:43.200 when you're trying to do great things.
00:30:44.420 I know it was for me.
00:30:45.500 Like I fucking eliminated contact with every single fucking person that, that doubted me,
00:30:50.660 which unfortunately, but fortunately was almost everybody for me.
00:30:55.820 You know what I mean?
00:30:56.580 Like I don't really talk to anybody from my past too much anymore unless they've been
00:31:01.880 around for the journey.
00:31:02.860 You know what I mean?
00:31:03.540 Because like, it would be impossible for them to understand.
00:31:05.860 And then if I'm telling them about it now, it's, it just sounds like I'm bragging when
00:31:10.000 in reality, I'm just telling them my life.
00:31:11.820 Right.
00:31:12.140 You know?
00:31:12.480 And so that's not fun to be around either.
00:31:14.520 Like when you're, when you're trying, you know, like imagine going to dinner with one
00:31:17.660 of your old friends.
00:31:18.280 Right.
00:31:18.560 And you're like, oh yeah, blah, blah, blah.
00:31:20.540 And they're telling you about their life.
00:31:22.000 And then you start talking about your life, but your life has become so fucking ridiculous 0.93
00:31:25.060 that they, they go home and they're like, yeah, fucking Priscilla's just bragging about 0.66
00:31:28.680 blah, blah, blah.
00:31:28.980 Fuck that guy.
00:31:29.580 No, dude.
00:31:30.200 Like that's just my life.
00:31:31.240 Right.
00:31:31.680 You know?
00:31:32.160 And, and, but people don't understand that.
00:31:33.840 So I think sometimes it's appropriate to really limit who you interact with, especially
00:31:38.220 in these early days.
00:31:39.700 Um, cause that's also a part of the, the, the universal shit, right?
00:31:43.160 Yeah.
00:31:43.360 Yeah.
00:31:43.480 Surround yourself with shit.
00:31:45.240 Yeah.
00:31:46.040 Listen, that's undeniable.
00:31:47.240 Listen, bro, they've been writing about this for hundreds of years.
00:31:50.560 I'm not the first fucking person to ever talk about this.
00:31:52.840 Like Napoleon Hill wrote fucking books about it.
00:31:55.780 Uh, you know, there's, there's, there's people from all the way from prehistory until
00:32:02.340 now that have spoken about this, right?
00:32:05.380 Sometimes they were burned at a fucking stake, but it's the truth.
00:32:09.720 Right.
00:32:10.200 And I've, I've become a believer.
00:32:12.060 Um, I've become a believer after this last two years that not only is, not only is that
00:32:20.400 shit real, but it's been intentionally kept from us.
00:32:23.380 Right.
00:32:24.080 It's been intentionally fucking made to seem like it was bullshit for, for, for other
00:32:29.360 people's gain and not yours.
00:32:30.780 Yeah.
00:32:31.360 Just like success.
00:32:32.360 Yeah.
00:32:32.600 Because like, dude, how do you control someone that literally is in control of their whole
00:32:36.040 reality through their fucking brain and then willing to work towards that too. 0.81
00:32:39.540 You really can't.
00:32:40.620 No, you can't.
00:32:42.060 So I would strive to become that because that's where you'd get true freedom.
00:32:46.300 Like right now when I go home and I think about like my life and I think about if I
00:32:51.580 want it to change or how I want it to grow or what I want it to become, I'm a hundred
00:32:55.160 percent confident that that can happen no matter what the fuck it is.
00:32:58.780 I could just, I'm like, okay, well, all right, I'm gonna start thinking about it this
00:33:02.080 way.
00:33:02.500 Right.
00:33:02.840 Right.
00:33:03.060 And then I'm going to do the little things during the day.
00:33:05.100 But I honestly think that the things I do during the day are 40%, maybe 30% of it
00:33:10.200 and the, and the visualization is 70%.
00:33:12.540 That that's, that's, that's my take on it.
00:33:15.260 Yeah.
00:33:15.780 You know?
00:33:16.300 Yeah.
00:33:16.500 So, you know, you could believe your friends or you can believe me.
00:33:21.400 That's fucking awesome.
00:33:22.300 I would listen to me if it were me.
00:33:23.740 Well, guys, Andy, that is three.
00:33:26.760 So go pay the fee.
00:33:27.740 Yeah, guys.
00:33:28.260 Appreciate you guys listening.
00:33:29.620 Please share the show and talk to you next time.
00:33:32.260 Yeah.
00:33:33.040 Went from sleeping on the floor.
00:33:34.720 Now my jewelry box froze.
00:33:36.420 Fuck a bowl.
00:33:37.200 Fuck a stove. 0.96
00:33:38.060 Counted millions in the cold.
00:33:39.740 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:33:40.580 Booted swole.
00:33:41.400 Got her on bankroll.
00:33:43.040 Can't fold.
00:33:43.920 Doesn't know.
00:33:44.720 Headshot.
00:33:45.560 Case closed.
00:33:46.240 Closed.
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