REAL AF with Andy Frisella - April 21, 2022


280. Q&AF： Emotional Purchases, Prenuptial Agreements & Biggest Learning Lesson

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In this episode of Q&A, the guys answer a bunch of questions submitted by you, the listeners. This is the first episode of The Realists, the show for the realists, where you send in the questions and we give you the answers.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Danny Priscilla and this is the show for the realists, say goodbye 0.99
00:00:20.780 to the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking 0.99
00:00:24.840 reality. 0.97
00:00:25.240 Guys, today we have Q and AF, this is where you send in the Qs and I'm going to give you 0.96
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00:01:54.800 Fuck yeah. 1.00
00:01:56.360 So what's up, dude? 1.00
00:01:57.340 What's going on?
00:01:58.660 That was a little saucy intro, man.
00:02:01.120 I like it.
00:02:02.820 Oh, well.
00:02:05.100 You never know what you're going to get.
00:02:07.920 We both know you'll get what you order.
00:02:10.020 You get what you order.
00:02:10.600 You get what you order.
00:02:11.360 Yeah.
00:02:11.780 I got three good ones for you, brother.
00:02:13.020 Yeah.
00:02:13.500 And let these guys know, like where you guys submit your questions.
00:02:16.880 This is actually.
00:02:18.120 Yeah.
00:02:18.240 This is user generated.
00:02:19.280 Well, how would we do this where people could call in during the show?
00:02:22.860 That's a joke question.
00:02:23.840 That would be cool.
00:02:24.780 I would like to like actually have people call in and us answer the question.
00:02:29.260 Yeah.
00:02:29.520 Yeah.
00:02:29.760 That'd be cool.
00:02:30.660 So let's try to get to that.
00:02:32.300 That'd be dope. 0.98
00:02:32.920 Yeah.
00:02:33.460 We don't.
00:02:33.820 But yeah, guys, these are all your questions.
00:02:35.280 So even they can be about anything, they can be about life, business, whatever it is.
00:02:39.700 Email those questions into ask Andy at Andy for seller dot com.
00:02:43.860 And if they're good questions, they will be asked.
00:02:45.840 Yeah. 0.82
00:02:45.960 If they're shitty, we won't answer them. 0.96
00:02:47.300 We won't. 0.91
00:02:48.060 That they send those to the other people to answer questions.
00:02:50.260 They the ones who give you just the A's and not the AF. 1.00
00:02:52.740 They send those stupid questions to them. 1.00
00:02:54.280 To your life gurus. 1.00
00:02:55.660 Yeah.
00:02:57.700 Well, let's talk.
00:02:58.440 All right.
00:02:58.800 Let's get going.
00:02:59.620 Yeah.
00:02:59.760 I got I got some good ones for you.
00:03:01.240 Andy, question number one.
00:03:02.440 Andy, you have amassed a really nice car collection.
00:03:07.740 OK.
00:03:08.560 Over the 23 years in business it took you to get here.
00:03:12.560 Are those emotional purchases or like what are your thoughts?
00:03:16.100 What's your takes on emotional purchases?
00:03:18.520 Do you consider your car emotional purchases?
00:03:20.700 Yeah, absolutely.
00:03:22.960 Look, you're going to have two kinds of purchases in your life.
00:03:25.640 You're going to have necessities and things that make sense.
00:03:28.180 And then you're going to have emotional purchases.
00:03:30.100 And it's not that you should only have logical purchases that make sense.
00:03:34.500 It's that you should be aware whether or not the purchase you make are emotional or
00:03:40.660 financially beneficial slash logical decisions, investments.
00:03:44.940 Yeah.
00:03:45.220 Yeah.
00:03:46.560 This is a common thing that people get confused about.
00:03:49.840 It's actually a really good question.
00:03:52.340 And it's something that I think everybody needs to understand that it's OK to make emotional
00:03:57.200 purchases as long as you understand that emotions are involved.
00:04:02.600 You know, a lot of people, they buy their own their house.
00:04:05.120 Right.
00:04:05.720 And they think of it as an investment.
00:04:08.200 But the truth of it is, is that like unless you get really lucky or unless the market works
00:04:14.640 in your favor or unless, you know, you stay there for a really long time or unless you
00:04:20.820 pay cash, the truth of the matter is, is your own home that you live in really isn't
00:04:25.000 even an investment because you're paying interest.
00:04:28.480 And over the course of 30 years, the interest is going to equate, you know, to roughly the
00:04:32.280 the cost of the house.
00:04:35.340 You're going to live there, let's say, for five years.
00:04:38.100 And, you know, you have all these expenses that add up that cost you money.
00:04:41.900 The improvements you do that you put in the house are going to cost you money.
00:04:45.760 And so a lot of people are taught that, you know.
00:04:49.100 So your own home is your biggest investment and it can be, but it's just not always that
00:04:55.680 way.
00:04:56.280 And, you know, people say I hear auto commercials, your car is your second biggest investment. 1.00
00:05:00.500 Your car is not a fucking investment. 0.99
00:05:02.020 Yeah. 0.99
00:05:02.420 Your car is a cost of living.
00:05:04.080 Right.
00:05:04.380 OK, your house is usually also a cost of living.
00:05:07.180 All right.
00:05:08.600 So you get to decide how much emotion and how much logic you put into those decisions and
00:05:14.860 how this would come into play for your house would be like, what kind of quality of life
00:05:20.180 do I want?
00:05:20.820 Do I want neighbors?
00:05:21.840 Do I not want neighbors?
00:05:22.840 Do I want to drive a little further?
00:05:24.160 Do I want to drive a little shorter?
00:05:25.900 These are more emotional decisions once you get past the basic level of survival.
00:05:31.220 Right.
00:05:31.460 And that's OK.
00:05:32.580 You just have to be aware of it.
00:05:34.040 Yeah.
00:05:35.200 You get what I'm saying?
00:05:36.020 Yeah.
00:05:36.200 Yeah.
00:05:36.600 I mean, but like with my cars have turned into an investment.
00:05:39.400 Yeah.
00:05:39.620 Because I bought them, I mean, many years ago, and then the ones I have now, the market
00:05:46.240 has adjusted in a way where those cars are going for hundreds of thousands of dollars
00:05:51.280 over sticker.
00:05:52.140 And I've built the relationships to get those cars at sticker cost over the last decade or
00:05:57.220 so.
00:05:57.640 Right.
00:05:58.060 Now, that's a lucky thing for me.
00:06:00.140 But dude, I also understand that the market will adjust and it could go to where those cars
00:06:05.400 are worth nothing.
00:06:06.320 Right.
00:06:06.980 I still like them.
00:06:07.880 So for me, they're an emotional buy.
00:06:10.680 The fact that I happen to be up on my collection and millions and millions of dollars, that's
00:06:16.440 cool.
00:06:16.900 Yeah.
00:06:17.180 But that's not why I do it.
00:06:18.320 Right.
00:06:18.580 Right.
00:06:18.740 Right.
00:06:19.180 My house.
00:06:20.160 I don't have to live in a crazy house. 1.00
00:06:22.220 I live in a fucking estate. 1.00
00:06:23.660 I mean, legit. 1.00
00:06:24.880 It's like when you think of an estate and you put a picture in your face or in your head
00:06:29.100 about what an estate looks like, it's probably going to look like my state.
00:06:32.180 It's the truth. 1.00
00:06:33.080 Motherfucker got grounds. 1.00
00:06:34.120 Yeah. 1.00
00:06:34.380 It's grounds, dude.
00:06:35.340 It ain't, it ain't, uh, it's not just a big house, you know?
00:06:39.380 And that was a dream of mine.
00:06:41.980 In fact, that whole house, that exact house was a dream of mine for 20 years.
00:06:46.620 Yeah.
00:06:46.960 You know what I'm saying?
00:06:47.840 Um, it's emotional.
00:06:50.060 I don't have to live there, bro.
00:06:51.400 And to be completely honest, it doesn't make me any happier to live there than when I lived
00:06:56.280 in the very first house that I bought.
00:06:58.380 So it's, you know, once you're back, once you're past the basic point of survival, uh,
00:07:05.080 most things are emotional bias.
00:07:06.660 It's quality of life, right?
00:07:08.140 Like, do I want to roll up in a, um, you know, and a lot of guys think differently, you know,
00:07:14.180 they, they want, they don't care what they drive. 0.99
00:07:16.140 You know, they drive a fucking, you know, old beater with, you know, cracks in the windshield 0.99
00:07:20.740 and stuff like that. 1.00
00:07:21.500 And that's fine.
00:07:22.180 Everybody's different.
00:07:22.820 Yeah.
00:07:23.060 They're cool with that.
00:07:23.780 Yeah.
00:07:23.980 Yeah. 0.95
00:07:24.180 And people, and those, some of those guys roll up and they got fucking $20 million in 0.99
00:07:29.200 their fucking, you know, portfolio. 0.99
00:07:31.140 Right. 1.00
00:07:31.400 You know what I'm saying?
00:07:32.040 Like, you can't, you can't judge someone on their lifestyle, um, either way.
00:07:39.660 Like there's a lot of guys I know that live beyond their means.
00:07:42.280 Right.
00:07:42.780 Like what's the dangers of the emotional purchase?
00:07:45.340 Well, you just don't want to overextend, you know, your basic rules of personal finance.
00:07:50.900 Like I, I live, I live my life on a certain percentage of my income and I have lived my life
00:07:57.340 on a certain percentage of my income since I was making no money.
00:08:01.840 When you were forced to.
00:08:02.520 Yeah.
00:08:02.720 And I, I've disciplined myself out like that.
00:08:05.080 And so now my machines that I have, the businesses I own generate enough income where I'm able
00:08:11.400 to live this really nice life on that same percentage, which keeps it in check.
00:08:15.900 Right.
00:08:16.080 See what I'm saying?
00:08:16.760 Right.
00:08:17.160 So it's, it's okay to be emotional and buy things that you enjoy and buy things that you
00:08:22.380 like.
00:08:23.300 Um, but you have to be aware of it.
00:08:26.540 I think where people really get into, uh, problems is when they're, when they buy things
00:08:31.600 thinking that they're an actual investment.
00:08:33.560 Right.
00:08:34.280 And it's just an emotional purchase.
00:08:36.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:08:37.460 Like that's, that's where you get in trouble.
00:08:41.000 Yeah.
00:08:41.460 Um, you know, a lot of people don't understand the house thing.
00:08:43.800 You know, if you have a house that costs 200 grand and in five years you could sell it
00:08:48.740 for two 50, um, you didn't make any money, bro.
00:08:51.960 I hate to say it.
00:08:52.760 Right.
00:08:53.000 Because over that five years, you spent 50 grand, probably just maintaining the house
00:08:57.100 on improvements and this and that. 0.98
00:08:58.540 And people will sell the house for two 50 and be like, fuck, I made 50 grand. 1.00
00:09:02.160 You didn't make shit. 1.00
00:09:03.260 Like, and that financial, that financial ignorance is what gets people in trouble. 0.99
00:09:08.060 And you have to, you have to educate yourself financially independently of what society says,
00:09:13.840 because society will tell you that a house is an investment no matter what.
00:09:17.700 And that a car is your second biggest investment. 0.96
00:09:20.280 They don't, they want you to be ignorant. 0.98
00:09:22.240 Right. 0.97
00:09:22.800 Like, I hope everybody understands that they want you to be financially illiterate.
00:09:26.880 There isn't people say this all the time.
00:09:28.640 Why didn't they teach you in high school about this and this and this?
00:09:30.900 There's a reason because what do you do right after high school?
00:09:34.680 You go to college.
00:09:35.820 Yeah.
00:09:36.100 And what do you do when you go to college? 0.97
00:09:37.700 Getting fucking massive amounts of debt. 0.98
00:09:38.920 That's right. 0.99
00:09:39.360 You sign up for hundreds of thousands of dollars of debt, which they want you to fucking not understand 0.98
00:09:44.220 so that then you're chained to it for the rest of your life. 0.56
00:09:47.040 So if you're a young person listening to the show, that is not an anti-college statement.
00:09:51.880 That's an anti-financial ignorance statement.
00:09:54.520 Right.
00:09:54.980 Okay.
00:09:55.260 So like you parents and kids, you guys should be learning finances right now.
00:10:01.280 Like if they're 12 years old, you should be trying to, and if your parents, if you don't
00:10:05.540 know, you should learn so that you can educate your kids because the school system will not
00:10:10.440 do it.
00:10:10.900 Definitely not.
00:10:11.300 And society will not do it and they don't do it intentionally.
00:10:13.800 So, um, but dude, once you get past survival, which, you know, your goals, your goals should
00:10:21.880 be accumulating wealth, not saving your pennies.
00:10:25.660 Okay.
00:10:26.260 You should be focused more on creating the engines that bring the flow in than you are
00:10:32.740 on, uh, trying to save, you know, this and that and this, uh, out of your whatever.
00:10:40.920 Right.
00:10:41.620 Yeah.
00:10:42.060 Yeah.
00:10:42.380 Like you need to be aggressive with trying to pursue a higher income level because that
00:10:46.900 gives you more options.
00:10:48.200 Right.
00:10:48.980 That's real.
00:10:50.580 That's real.
00:10:51.660 Andy, question number two for you.
00:10:53.020 Uh, let's get on relationships a little bit.
00:10:54.980 So the, uh, this person says, Andy, um, I've been with my significant other for five years.
00:11:01.260 Um, I'm starting to see a decent amount of success in my business.
00:11:04.440 What are your thoughts on prenups?
00:11:07.060 I know he also, he says, I know that, um, you don't know our relationship like that,
00:11:12.260 but what's your overall thoughts on prenups?
00:11:15.000 I think it depends.
00:11:16.520 I think it depends on the, on where you are when you get into business.
00:11:20.380 You know, for me, I don't have one.
00:11:23.020 Um, I, I, I don't regret not having one, even if things were to go awry.
00:11:29.340 Um, I wouldn't be here without the support of Emily.
00:11:33.300 Right.
00:11:33.740 Right.
00:11:34.060 She's done so much, so much for me in my life, uh, supported me.
00:11:38.900 You know, she didn't build this company, but I definitely wouldn't be where I'm at without
00:11:43.820 that support in a many, in many different ways.
00:11:46.640 So for me, I think the attitude has always been, you know, if someone's around and supports
00:11:54.600 you and helps you and pushes you, even if they're not a part of the business, um,
00:11:59.340 you should recognize that as a contribution to your success because it is, and anybody
00:12:04.160 who's tried to build a business with a negative partner, which I have, you real, you start
00:12:08.740 to value people who are, who are even neutral in, in my case, supportive, uh, in a very strong
00:12:15.140 way.
00:12:15.700 Right.
00:12:16.700 Um, so I think the best attitude when it comes to that, um, is that, you know, and then you're,
00:12:25.520 if you're older, right.
00:12:26.680 And you built this huge company and you sold it and then you meet someone that then it's
00:12:31.640 probably a good idea.
00:12:32.720 Right.
00:12:33.140 Right. 1.00
00:12:33.460 Because that's real that you're protecting your own shit. 1.00
00:12:36.120 Well, gold diggers do exist. 1.00
00:12:37.300 A hundred percent.
00:12:38.220 And dude, most people will do a lot. 1.00
00:12:40.200 They'll do very dirty shit. 1.00
00:12:42.340 They'll lie. 1.00
00:12:42.880 They'll cheat.
00:12:43.780 They'll pretend to be who you want to be to get money.
00:12:45.980 Yeah.
00:12:46.280 And, um, you will never get money that way, by the way, you will never win that way. 0.98
00:12:50.700 You will always fucking pay for that. 0.93
00:12:52.780 Um, but you know, I don't personally have one. 0.98
00:12:58.640 I think if that person's made a financial contribute or not a financial, but a support
00:13:03.060 contribution to this business, you know, taking care of the home, uh, making life easy, not 0.71
00:13:07.820 nagging, not making it hard, uh, because a building a business is fucking hard, man. 0.82
00:13:12.100 And if you have someone that supports you and makes your home life stable and not, um,
00:13:18.020 you know, nagging or negative and emotionally draining, um, I think you should consider that
00:13:25.480 when you consider, you know, the wealth that you create, you know what I mean?
00:13:29.260 So, um, it really comes down to doing the right thing.
00:13:33.000 What's right.
00:13:33.740 And, and it sounds like I'm going to make some assumptions about that person.
00:13:38.020 Let's say five years, they've been with the person the whole time.
00:13:40.320 They built a successful company and they're starting to see some wealth.
00:13:43.360 I would say the person's probably contributed to that tremendously.
00:13:46.700 Now, if you're coming home every day and they're bringing drama to you or, or you're there, 0.92
00:13:50.860 they're texting you 400 times a day, or they're fucking making it hard for you succeed. 0.89
00:13:56.420 That's a conversation that, uh, needs to be had and corrected because dude, I would say 1.00
00:14:03.200 fuck a prenup. 0.99
00:14:03.840 Do we even need to get married? 1.00
00:14:04.860 That's what I'm saying.
00:14:05.900 That's what I'm saying.
00:14:06.720 You, you guys, you, you guys need to understand that having a partner in life is not about,
00:14:12.500 uh, you know, the sexual attraction or, or the way someone looks or this or that. 0.99
00:14:19.400 It's about having like a best friend that will fucking help you through all the hard shit 0.99
00:14:24.660 because you're going to fucking need it because life is fucking hard. 0.99
00:14:26.860 And I think if people put a little more thought into selecting, you know, cause dude, lots of 0.98
00:14:32.440 people are beautiful, right?
00:14:33.860 Until, until, uh, you get to the part where it actually counts and they ain't that beautiful.
00:14:38.060 Right.
00:14:38.600 You know what I'm saying?
00:14:39.120 And so you have to really be smart about selecting who you're going to be with, uh, when it comes
00:14:45.740 to those things.
00:14:46.500 And, and for those of you, like for those of you who want to attract someone who has their 0.99
00:14:51.840 shit going on, that's the kind of partner you need to work to become someone who supports 0.98
00:14:55.880 someone who contributes someone who takes, uh, the load and, and shares it. 0.99
00:15:00.860 Yeah.
00:15:01.120 You know, those are the things that, that really matter in a relationship.
00:15:04.360 Yeah. 0.98
00:15:04.960 That's fucking real, man. 0.99
00:15:05.860 Yeah. 0.99
00:15:07.100 But I think there's a place in, there's a time and a place for a prenup.
00:15:10.340 Yeah.
00:15:10.780 Um, you know, but that's just my take on it.
00:15:15.660 You know what I'm saying?
00:15:16.740 Yeah.
00:15:16.980 I think it's real.
00:15:17.740 Yeah.
00:15:19.620 Guys, our third and final question for you. 0.98
00:15:22.720 I mean, the truth is, bro, you should be with someone where if shit went bad, you can 0.84
00:15:27.480 sit down with them and have a real discussion and say, okay, here's what I think is fair. 0.97
00:15:31.480 This is the way I think it should go.
00:15:33.040 And you should be able to trust that person's going to be able to work it out with you.
00:15:37.420 Yeah. 0.90
00:15:37.620 And if you're not with someone like that and you're with someone who would even fucking 1.00
00:15:40.500 like try to fuck you, you're with the wrong person. 1.00
00:15:42.500 Right. 1.00
00:15:43.140 That's what we say.
00:15:43.560 You probably shouldn't. 1.00
00:15:44.200 I mean, fuck it. 1.00
00:15:44.660 Fuck it. 1.00
00:15:45.020 You're my prenups. 1.00
00:15:45.280 Do you understand what I'm saying?
00:15:46.180 Yeah.
00:15:46.340 Yeah.
00:15:46.520 Yeah.
00:15:46.820 Yeah.
00:15:46.960 Yeah.
00:15:47.000 Yeah.
00:15:47.040 Yeah.
00:15:47.080 Yeah.
00:15:47.160 Yeah.
00:15:47.600 Yeah.
00:15:47.640 Yeah.
00:15:51.200 Andy, question number three for you, uh, 23 years in business.
00:15:56.040 What was one mistake or a bad decision that you've made that you, that you believe you made
00:16:00.680 the biggest, you turned it into the biggest lesson?
00:16:02.620 You learned the most from, man, I don't know if there's a biggest one, like there's been
00:16:09.340 a lot of big ones, but it could have been a small, small mistake, but it gave you the
00:16:15.020 biggest lesson.
00:16:15.580 Listen, it's not important.
00:16:17.980 It's the important is not the specific episode.
00:16:21.120 The importance of the question is you should adopt the mentality of every time you get kicked
00:16:28.040 in the face, you learn a lesson.
00:16:30.540 You know what I'm saying?
00:16:31.480 Like this isn't, it doesn't matter what challenges I've gone through.
00:16:34.620 I could give you a thousand because I'm still making mistakes on a daily basis.
00:16:38.280 Yeah.
00:16:39.300 You know, but I've just adjusted my perspective to a point where I understand certain things.
00:16:45.760 Very few negative occurrences in your life are going to bury you.
00:16:49.980 In fact, I, I've never seen anyone buried by one single event or two single events, but
00:16:56.020 what I have seen them buried by is one or two single events that they continue to repeat
00:17:01.360 over and over and over and over again.
00:17:02.700 Right.
00:17:03.140 Right.
00:17:03.340 All right.
00:17:03.820 So, cause it's a choice.
00:17:05.300 Yes.
00:17:05.800 Yeah.
00:17:06.040 It's not the specific, my specifics of my story are, are irrelevant and I'm not dodging
00:17:12.040 the question.
00:17:12.620 I just couldn't tell you because I'm always learning and I'm always getting my face kicked
00:17:16.580 in on a daily basis.
00:17:18.900 So if you could just adopt the attitude to understand that bad things are going to happen, bad things
00:17:26.120 happen to everyone. 0.98
00:17:27.300 When those bad things happen, you have to, you have to get back up off the fucking ground and 0.97
00:17:32.200 you got to learn your lesson and keep moving forward. 0.98
00:17:34.700 Yeah.
00:17:34.860 And if you do that, you will win because most people get kicked in the face and they let
00:17:40.760 the self doubt creep in, or they let the negative talk creep in, or, you know, someone
00:17:45.760 tells them, you know, something that really pegs at their insecurities.
00:17:50.620 You know, no one fucking actually likes you when you really feel like no one actually likes 0.96
00:17:54.480 you. 0.99
00:17:54.760 Right. 1.00
00:17:55.520 Shit like that. 1.00
00:17:56.600 And, and so they go into their turtle shell and they don't ever try to do anything for 1.00
00:18:00.580 the rest of their lives. 0.96
00:18:01.280 They just say, man, I'm, I'm shitty because obviously people think I'm shitty. 0.98
00:18:06.240 Right. 0.99
00:18:06.620 And you know, it's not that bro, you know, people are fucking cruel. 1.00
00:18:09.900 People say mean shit. 1.00
00:18:11.020 People do mean shit. 1.00
00:18:12.400 And I think those things are, uh, you know, those, when those things happen, it's a test 1.00
00:18:18.140 of your character to forgive, stand up, you know, dust yourself off and keep moving forward.
00:18:24.680 Right.
00:18:24.940 You know, like I, I don't think anybody that's listening to this, uh, should consider themselves
00:18:31.900 at the mercy of other people's opinions because it's just not the reality.
00:18:36.180 Yeah.
00:18:36.680 It will only be that reality if you allow that reality to be creative for you.
00:18:40.300 So it's important for you to understand that, you know, yes, bad things are going to happen.
00:18:46.920 Yes. 1.00
00:18:47.140 People are going to say mean shit. 1.00
00:18:48.580 Yes. 1.00
00:18:49.620 All the shit that you probably are afraid of is probably going to happen. 1.00
00:18:52.940 And guess what's going to happen. 1.00
00:18:54.300 You're going to make it right.
00:18:55.700 You're going to survive. 0.97
00:18:56.540 So get the fuck up and take another step forward, man. 0.99
00:19:00.020 Like, dude, um, I have a guy here at the office who is 19 years old and he's in a wheelchair. 0.99
00:19:07.320 He had his leg amputated.
00:19:08.580 Okay.
00:19:09.420 Uh, he had a, he didn't know he had a diabetes.
00:19:12.000 He went into diabetic coma, woke up with no leg.
00:19:15.000 Yeah.
00:19:15.620 19 years old, bro.
00:19:17.600 You know, the kid's the most positive kid in this building. 1.00
00:19:20.840 He's fucking strong as fuck. 0.99
00:19:22.320 He understands. 1.00
00:19:23.040 Hey man, it is what it is. 0.98
00:19:24.040 I'm going to fucking keep moving. 0.99
00:19:24.960 And that's the attitude you got to have. 1.00
00:19:27.340 Cause if you don't have that attitude, dude, the world will stomp you out like a fucking 1.00
00:19:30.940 old cigarette. 1.00
00:19:32.020 Yeah.
00:19:32.300 It's just reality.
00:19:33.540 What gets me though, man, cause I mean, I know you see it and, but what really gets
00:19:38.360 me, man, is when people create their own, like they, it's like they kick themselves in 1.00
00:19:42.400 the fucking face. 1.00
00:19:43.180 That's because the victim culture, victim culture right now is popular, right? 1.00
00:19:47.600 The way you get like shares and comments online is by pretending that you're like struggling 0.99
00:19:52.820 through some shit. 0.97
00:19:53.600 And then everybody comes around and says, Oh, but that only works for a minute. 1.00
00:19:58.100 Right.
00:19:58.520 You know, once you do it 20 times, people start seeing, God, you're a negative person.
00:20:03.520 Right. 1.00
00:20:03.900 What the fuck's wrong with you? 0.99
00:20:04.940 And they start resenting you. 1.00
00:20:06.520 Right.
00:20:06.820 They might still click like on that photo, but they don't want to spend time with you 1.00
00:20:09.920 because you're negative as fuck. 1.00
00:20:11.300 Right. 1.00
00:20:11.540 So, you know, I wouldn't buy into that victim culture society perpetuates because it's a
00:20:18.560 trend.
00:20:19.160 It's not reality.
00:20:20.420 It's not human nature. 0.99
00:20:21.640 Human nature is being a motherfucking warrior. 0.98
00:20:24.340 Human nature is getting up. 0.99
00:20:25.900 Human nature is progressing.
00:20:27.500 Human nature is pushing past limits.
00:20:29.460 It's showing other humans what's actually possible. 0.99
00:20:32.760 Dude, when you think about all the shit that's created in this world and you look around at 0.99
00:20:36.460 the buildings and the businesses and the technology and all the amazing shit, people created that. 0.99
00:20:41.880 And behind every one of those stories is a whole bunch of people that said, dude, you're 1.00
00:20:45.340 fucking crazy. 1.00
00:20:46.540 What the fuck are you doing? 1.00
00:20:47.940 Why are you wasting your time on that project? 1.00
00:20:50.120 Oh, you think we could do this? 1.00
00:20:51.780 You're fucking insane. 1.00
00:20:53.200 That's the world until you do it. 1.00
00:20:56.140 And so you have to understand that that's just reality.
00:20:59.700 And if you're operating with an understanding that that's the real way that people are,
00:21:04.540 it doesn't really hurt you when they do that stuff because you just understand that's the
00:21:09.980 truth.
00:21:10.380 That's what it is.
00:21:11.220 Yeah.
00:21:11.760 So you're like, yeah, okay. 0.71
00:21:13.020 Like when people say shit to me, you know, when they, when they, I understand people very 0.99
00:21:17.780 well, that's what I do for a living. 0.99
00:21:19.360 So I know that when people attack me and they say, oh, he's got anger issues or he's too
00:21:24.420 intense or he's this or that, or he's this or that, or this, this, this, all they're 0.99
00:21:28.840 doing is pointing out the shit in me that they don't, that they know they lack. 0.99
00:21:33.360 That's why it triggers them. 0.99
00:21:35.520 Like when you, when you see someone that you don't like and it triggers you and they're
00:21:40.360 just doing their thing, what you're mad at is you're mad at yourself because you lack
00:21:45.060 that quality in them.
00:21:47.160 You see what I'm saying?
00:21:49.000 So when you should see it as, man, I wish I had that, that confidence, or I wish I had
00:21:55.320 that intensity, or I wish I had that focus, or I wish I had that drive and start to work
00:22:00.560 on those things.
00:22:01.220 And that's how you get healthier.
00:22:02.700 Right.
00:22:03.160 You know what I mean? 0.99
00:22:03.880 Andy, how the fuck did you develop that passion? 0.99
00:22:05.960 Right? 0.99
00:22:06.120 Like, like, I mean, you can flip it even that way, man.
00:22:08.480 Yeah.
00:22:09.100 Yeah, exactly.
00:22:09.780 You know what I'm saying?
00:22:10.340 Yeah.
00:22:10.560 Start asking questions, man, instead of getting angry about everything.
00:22:13.320 Yeah.
00:22:13.700 You know what I mean?
00:22:14.580 Yeah.
00:22:14.860 That's the only way to get better, bro.
00:22:16.300 Yeah.
00:22:16.700 So that's real, man.
00:22:18.040 I love it.
00:22:18.640 Yeah.
00:22:19.140 Yeah.
00:22:19.860 I have a follow-up question on what you said.
00:22:22.820 Let's say you're doing a project and keeping aside the data, you don't know anything data,
00:22:28.080 are you hopeful in a positive way?
00:22:30.220 Because you said bad things happen to everybody.
00:22:33.060 So let's say you're going to do, build a building, or you're going to start a company.
00:22:36.480 So you know, I'm going to spend this much money.
00:22:38.320 I have this much facts.
00:22:39.380 So I know this is going to work this way.
00:22:41.200 Like how always you are calculated that way.
00:22:43.420 Right?
00:22:43.980 But let's say you don't have the facts.
00:22:45.960 Are you hopeful towards a project?
00:22:47.840 Are you optimistic?
00:22:49.080 Because you said bad things happen to everybody.
00:22:51.120 Well, no, I go into projects knowing that things are going to happen.
00:22:55.440 So like, I don't allow that to surprise me.
00:22:58.400 I expect it.
00:22:59.560 Right?
00:23:00.180 And probably sometimes because I expect it, they actually happen.
00:23:04.520 But if I'm prepared for it and I expect it, I know I can handle it.
00:23:08.960 And I know that I'll learn a new lesson through that.
00:23:11.360 Does that make sense?
00:23:11.980 That's where I was heading.
00:23:13.020 Yeah.
00:23:13.240 Because you also believe in the law of attraction and putting energy out.
00:23:17.540 Yeah.
00:23:17.880 But at the same time, you're also expecting that bad things also happen all the time.
00:23:22.220 Yeah.
00:23:22.360 But see, I look at bad things as a good thing because I know that it improves my, whatever
00:23:26.700 tools I need to have.
00:23:27.840 So like, when I see, when I see a challenge that would be called a bad thing, right?
00:23:36.560 I see it as, okay, well, what did we learn?
00:23:39.160 This is a new one.
00:23:40.260 Okay.
00:23:40.560 Well, we learned this and this and this.
00:23:41.820 And I see it as an investment into my skill set and an opportunity to improve as opposed
00:23:48.380 to, you know, oh man, I'm doomed. 0.99
00:23:52.760 And all this shit always happens to me. 0.99
00:23:54.560 You could also be a self-esteem builder too. 1.00
00:23:56.100 Cause knowing that there's a lot of other motherfuckers that would just stop at that. 1.00
00:23:59.820 That's right. 0.99
00:24:00.300 It is.
00:24:00.900 It builds your confidence a hundred percent and it builds your belief in yourself.
00:24:04.800 Like dude, purposefully putting yourself in situations to test yourself or overcome
00:24:09.520 challenges is probably the most healthy thing you could ever do as a human being.
00:24:13.600 Because how are you going to know who you are or believe in who you are or trust in your
00:24:19.060 skill set if you never test that skill set?
00:24:21.200 Right.
00:24:21.980 Right.
00:24:23.000 You see what I'm saying?
00:24:23.640 Yeah.
00:24:23.820 So, you know, there's, there's a lot to that, but I think, you know, that's a great
00:24:27.840 question for sure.
00:24:29.960 Awesome.
00:24:30.780 Well guys, Andy, that is three.
00:24:32.640 Yeah.
00:24:33.020 Pay the fee.
00:24:33.560 Yeah.
00:24:33.800 Guys, if it made you think, if it taught you something, gave you a new perspective, I
00:24:37.260 appreciate you sharing the show.
00:24:38.660 Talk to you next time.
00:24:39.520 The.
00:24:40.020 Yeah.
00:24:40.440 We're sleeping on the floor.
00:24:42.260 Now my jewelry box froze. 1.00
00:24:43.940 Fuck a poll, fuck a stole. 1.00
00:24:45.600 Counted millions in the code. 1.00
00:24:47.260 Bad bitch. 1.00
00:24:48.080 Brutus woke. 1.00
00:24:48.940 Got a on bankroll.
00:24:50.580 Can't fold.
00:24:51.440 Doesn't know.
00:24:52.260 Headshot.
00:24:53.060 Case closed.
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