REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 02, 2022


286. Q&AF： Power Of Delaying Gratification, Biggest Risk-Taking Mistake & Emotionless Decision Making Process

Topics
aggressive patience emotional vs. non-emotional decision-making emotional car decisions having a dog
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Andy Frisella
Mentioned
Andy Priscilla Tony Robbins Ed Milet Jim Rohn Cruise Chris Oscar
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In this episode of The Realist, DJ Madat answers your questions and gives you the answers to some of your most pressing business, personal, social, and political questions. DJ also gives advice on how to wean yourself off of the instant gratification mentality and focus on your long term goals.

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00:00:00.000 What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realist say goodbye to 0.99
00:00:20.840 the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality. 0.94
00:00:25.140 Guys, today we have Q and AF, that's where you submit your questions and I give you the 0.97
00:00:30.400 AF as the answer, okay?
00:00:32.980 We also have, if this is your first time listening, we have multiple shows that we run on this
00:00:38.120 channel, okay?
00:00:38.740 We have CTI, which is Cruise the Internet, which is basically where DJ claims to find
00:00:44.720 things to put on the screen that we talk about, but really it's Madat that does it.
00:00:49.240 We clarified that yesterday. 0.80
00:00:50.620 Another white man taking all the credit for black people. 0.82
00:00:52.840 Oh man, it's real out here in the streets, isn't it? 0.99
00:00:55.260 It's real out here in the streets.
00:01:00.600 Oh, that tickled me, I'm sorry. 0.80
00:01:03.040 You're black?
00:01:07.180 And then we have Real Talk, okay? 0.99
00:01:08.900 Real Talk is where I basically do a little rant.
00:01:12.940 Sometimes I get pretty hyped up, but it's because I love you guys and I want you guys to win 0.99
00:01:18.500 and this fake ass shit that they've been teaching you for your whole life ain't going to get you 0.99
00:01:22.740 there. 1.00
00:01:23.360 So Real Talk is kind of where I like yell at you a little bit and it's going to hurt your 1.00
00:01:27.660 feelings and you're probably going to say, fuck that guy. 1.00
00:01:29.380 And then you're going to go home and say, man, he's right. 1.00
00:01:31.860 All right?
00:01:32.480 And then we have Full Length where I bring in some of my super successful, super interesting
00:01:39.460 friends and we chop it up and have a good time and talk about what's going on, talk about
00:01:43.360 how to win, talk about how to get better.
00:01:44.640 This show started out as an entrepreneur show.
00:01:48.180 It was called the MFCEO Project.
00:01:49.960 It was the number one entrepreneur podcast of all time and we switched it in 2019 to talk
00:01:54.820 about real issues.
00:01:55.660 But we also give the personal development side with the Q&A, which is what we're about
00:02:00.500 to do.
00:02:01.200 If you're interested in more personal development, Ed Milet and I run the Arte Syndicate.
00:02:06.020 You can join that.
00:02:06.680 It's a private group of all entrepreneurs.
00:02:10.100 It's the most powerful entrepreneur group on the planet.
00:02:12.880 And we go way, way, way, way in depth in that group about entrepreneurial knowledge.
00:02:18.740 So anyway, there's a fee for the show.
00:02:21.640 The fee is not monetary unless you want it to be.
00:02:24.860 But if you don't want it to be and you don't want to spend your money, all we ask is that
00:02:27.700 you share the show.
00:02:29.500 It's that simple.
00:02:30.780 Yeah.
00:02:31.400 So what's up, dude?
00:02:32.460 Not much, man.
00:02:33.560 Just ready to knock these out the park.
00:02:35.340 We got some good ones.
00:02:36.000 We got some good ones.
00:02:36.500 Where do people submit their questions?
00:02:38.040 Guys, as always, if you want to submit any of these questions for Q&A, email them directly
00:02:43.280 to askandy at andyfrusella.com.
00:02:46.020 And remember, they can be about anything.
00:02:47.400 You can talk about anything.
00:02:48.180 Life, personal development, business.
00:02:51.360 75 hard.
00:02:52.300 75 hard, whatever it is.
00:02:53.500 Yeah.
00:02:54.080 Social issue.
00:02:54.860 Whatever, man.
00:02:55.560 I'm cool with talking about ever.
00:02:56.780 Where do babies come from? 1.00
00:02:58.440 All that type of shit. 1.00
00:02:59.340 Well, I mean, I won't answer if I don't know. 0.99
00:03:03.180 All right.
00:03:04.580 But yeah.
00:03:05.420 So let's go ahead and get into it.
00:03:07.220 Let's knock these out, man.
00:03:08.100 Andy, question number one.
00:03:10.280 So we live in a society right now where there's all this instant gratification, right?
00:03:15.100 With all that instant gratification and the ultra convenience of the you can have it right
00:03:20.080 now mentality, how would you suggest weaning yourself off of that mentality and the importance
00:03:26.820 of it to do so?
00:03:28.600 Well, it's paramount to do so.
00:03:30.980 If you don't do that, you can never be successful because the ultimate key for anybody that wants
00:03:36.640 to be successful from not only what I've experienced in my life, but also what all my successful
00:03:42.860 friends that I consider truly successful will tell you is that it really comes down to your
00:03:47.140 ability to delay gratification, okay?
00:03:50.280 If you cannot understand that you are trading a day of suffering today for a day of prosperity
00:03:58.240 down the road, you will never get anywhere because that's the reality of what it is, okay?
00:04:02.780 What you're doing right now is you're investing with your effort, with what you put in your
00:04:08.260 body, with what you put in your brain, with the work that you do, with the things that
00:04:12.200 you create today, you are investing in a result that may be three, four, five, six months down
00:04:18.780 the road, or if it's in business, it could be three, four, five years down the road.
00:04:22.540 And so it's important to understand that and develop an awareness that there is a big
00:04:28.580 generational difference here, okay?
00:04:30.660 I'm 42 years old.
00:04:32.140 I grew up learning, yeah, I know, no, I grew up learning, well, the good thing is I'm like
00:04:40.480 19 in my brain, right, and in my body, if I'm being real.
00:04:44.460 So the difference is, is that, you know, I was raised with the understanding that if you 0.93
00:04:52.640 wanted to win, you had to fucking outwork everybody, okay? 0.96
00:04:55.140 I was taught that from when I was a little bitty kid. 0.98
00:04:57.140 I was lucky enough to have parents that taught me that, that showed me that, and that,
00:05:02.140 brought me and my brother to understand that as a non-negotiable truth of reality, and
00:05:09.500 it is.
00:05:10.600 And today, you know, we have all these modern technology conveniences that make things super
00:05:17.140 easy and super fast for us.
00:05:18.700 When Sal and I, and people my age, didn't grow up with those things, okay?
00:05:23.680 We didn't grow up with email.
00:05:24.860 We didn't grow up with cell phones.
00:05:26.300 We didn't grow up with the ability to connect with friends all over the world.
00:05:31.040 We didn't grow up, yeah, we didn't grow up with any of that.
00:05:34.220 You know, if we were to become someone significant, we had to create something significant that
00:05:40.580 demanded significant attention.
00:05:43.180 You know what I'm saying?
00:05:44.220 In real life.
00:05:45.260 Yeah.
00:05:45.460 And that's, that has not changed.
00:05:47.920 And that's the big illusion, right?
00:05:49.420 The big illusion is that you could be relevant by doing nothing and you could be successful
00:05:55.180 by kind of like skating your way through it and he could have it today.
00:05:58.920 And, and there's, there's, it's not young people's fault that they believe this because
00:06:04.380 when they look in every single area of life, everything that they brought up and been brought 0.99
00:06:09.220 up in is instant, man, instant text message, food in 30 minutes, uh, you know, fucking I 0.96
00:06:16.680 can order a product that's here tomorrow by clicking one button. 0.96
00:06:20.160 Yeah.
00:06:20.440 Like, dude, that was not the way it was when we were growing up.
00:06:23.520 So it's not their fault.
00:06:25.840 And if you're listening and you're under the age of 35 years old or 30 years old, especially
00:06:30.460 it's not your fault that you grew up in an age that taught you that patience wasn't important
00:06:38.340 because the technology was there to cover that gap.
00:06:41.720 But in reality and how things work, patience is still a huge deal.
00:06:47.280 And so we have a whole generation of people who want to be successful that don't understand
00:06:53.640 the concept of what, like what I call aggressive patience actually is, you know, people hear 0.98
00:06:59.040 people talk about patience and they think that means just waiting around for shit to happen. 0.51
00:07:03.320 That's not what it means. 0.99
00:07:04.580 It means you have to work your ass off every single fucking day and win every single day 0.97
00:07:09.200 and still be patient and understand that that's going to, that's going to have to go on for 0.99
00:07:13.540 years and for the result to materialize.
00:07:17.220 Okay.
00:07:17.660 And this is why I'm so big on, you know, the concept of winning the day.
00:07:21.640 You can go back and listen to that real AF episode 16, um, or you can get the power list
00:07:25.840 that's on my, on my, um, on my store.
00:07:28.980 But the reality is, is like, dude, if you break it down on a win by day, by day, by day, by
00:07:35.860 day, by day, you know, you cannot fail.
00:07:39.540 It's impossible to fail.
00:07:40.900 And so what people have to understand is that have grown up in this scenario of instant gratification
00:07:47.900 is that's not reality, even with the technology.
00:07:50.940 Okay.
00:07:52.100 And what happens is these people get frustrated after three, four, five, six months of doing
00:07:56.100 something.
00:07:56.760 And they think that that's, it's taken so long or it's taken too long.
00:07:59.780 It's not going to work, man.
00:08:01.480 It took me eight, eight months to have a day, a day in sales of $200.
00:08:06.020 You get what I'm saying?
00:08:06.900 It took me five years, five and a half years to get my second store open.
00:08:10.420 All right.
00:08:11.480 Um, my first three years in business, I made a zero.
00:08:15.120 My next seven years, I made $695 a month for a total of $58,000 over the course of
00:08:20.200 my first 10 years in business.
00:08:21.560 All right.
00:08:22.400 That's delaying gratification. 0.99
00:08:23.900 And people hear that and they're like, well, how the fuck did you do that? 0.98
00:08:26.860 Well, first of all, the, that's what I chose to pay myself. 0.98
00:08:30.640 When we were able to start paying ourselves, I chose and Chris chose to pay ourselves that 0.93
00:08:36.160 and to live way below our means to roll every single fucking penny that we had back into 0.88
00:08:42.160 our dream, back into our vision and clearly it's paid off, but that's how people have 0.93
00:08:47.920 to think about that.
00:08:48.880 You know, these younger people who, who didn't grow up in an, in an age where patients was
00:08:54.140 taught just from going through life day to day to day to day, you know, and they grew
00:08:58.820 up with all this crazy, awesome technology, um, that doesn't negate the actual laws of success.
00:09:05.340 And one of the laws of success is aggressive patients.
00:09:07.840 It's just reality.
00:09:09.080 Okay.
00:09:09.480 So, you know, you can look at it.
00:09:11.780 This is how I would look at it.
00:09:12.940 If I was a younger person and I'm wanting to be successful and I want to build something
00:09:16.260 significant, I would look at it a couple of different ways.
00:09:18.760 One, you're at a tremendous advantage because the people around you are not nearly as ambitious
00:09:23.680 as people were 20 years ago.
00:09:25.500 Okay.
00:09:26.100 Not everybody now is, is, is basically resided to a NPC life, like a non-playable character
00:09:32.440 life.
00:09:32.840 Like, oh, as long as I get enough food and I got my video games and I get my, you know,
00:09:38.160 Netflix going, I'm cool, dude.
00:09:39.860 Like I don't need any more.
00:09:40.800 And that is not, that's not the American way.
00:09:43.500 That's not the American spirit.
00:09:45.000 That's human nature.
00:09:46.060 That's not, it's not, it's been culturally designed this way intentionally to limit the
00:09:50.580 growth of our American culture here in this country.
00:09:53.120 It's part of the communist agenda.
00:09:55.540 That's been pushed down through our culture over the course of years.
00:09:58.940 And it sucks because we have far less ambition in this country, but it's great for someone
00:10:05.200 who's 20 years old or 25 years old or 30 years old.
00:10:07.960 It's just getting started and wanting to do something big because far less people are
00:10:12.200 trying.
00:10:12.800 Right.
00:10:13.220 All right.
00:10:13.940 The second thing that you need to be aware of that is in your favor, which is amazing
00:10:18.000 is that you do have this amazing technology and you have the ability to, you know, like
00:10:24.100 one of the most underrated parts of technology that people don't, that miss out on is the
00:10:29.260 ability to just connect and watch and observe other people who are doing things that you
00:10:33.940 want to do.
00:10:34.740 I w I didn't have that ability.
00:10:36.460 Like I couldn't look at other people who own nutrition companies and see what they did
00:10:42.100 because social media didn't exist.
00:10:43.880 Right.
00:10:44.100 Like I could read some Tony Robbins books.
00:10:45.860 I could read some Jim Rohn books, you know, but like, I wasn't able to, you know, to literally
00:10:51.380 watch, like you guys watch me and you watch other successful people.
00:10:55.460 I didn't have that.
00:10:56.920 Like it didn't exist.
00:10:58.260 So, uh, and then the third thing is you have this crazy ability to market now via online
00:11:04.920 and reach millions and millions and millions of people by just being creative with your
00:11:10.440 content, connecting and networking with people, um, and utilizing the tools that these social
00:11:16.260 media networks allow you to do where you geofence down into like literally, literally zip
00:11:20.520 codes and neighborhoods and shit.
00:11:22.180 And, you know, market to people, you know, I had to go, like, I literally had to go door 0.92
00:11:27.100 to door to door.
00:11:27.860 Right. 0.99
00:11:28.220 You know, that shit doesn't have to happen anymore like that. 0.97
00:11:30.440 Now I recommend that you do that because it teaches you a skillset that your, your friends 0.98
00:11:34.620 won't have.
00:11:35.760 Um, but the, the speed at which you can grow a company now with the proper decisions and
00:11:43.540 the proper mentality is much faster than what it was when I was coming around.
00:11:49.060 Right.
00:11:49.620 I didn't really discover social media until I was already 10 years into business.
00:11:53.280 It wasn't really a thing.
00:11:55.080 So, you know, I would consider all of that.
00:11:58.820 I know that's a lot to chew on, but at the end of the day, um, the number one differentiating
00:12:03.780 factor between people who win and people who don't, uh, is really two things.
00:12:09.100 It's self-discipline.
00:12:10.160 It's the ability to delay gratification.
00:12:12.060 Dude, it's so weird looking at society now. 1.00
00:12:15.280 Cause like, you know, I go to Starbucks and be in there and you got this fucking lady 1.00
00:12:18.960 who gets pissed off because it's taking, you know, an extra 30 seconds to get a fucking 1.00
00:12:23.420 latte. 0.99
00:12:23.940 You know, like there's just instant, dude, it annoys the fuck out of me.
00:12:27.360 So I intentionally, yeah.
00:12:29.120 Like I intentionally try to do the things the hard way, you know what I'm saying?
00:12:32.220 Or things that take extra amount of time, whatever it is, that's fine.
00:12:35.100 Yeah.
00:12:35.340 You know, because I find myself even getting into those moods. 0.98
00:12:37.460 Oh, it's been fucking five minutes. 0.96
00:12:38.560 I ain't got my coffee. 0.96
00:12:39.020 Well, dude, a great way to help down and a great way to, to, to learn patience is by
00:12:46.200 doing things that require patience and a great way to, to, to build discipline is by doing
00:12:51.100 things that require discipline.
00:12:52.880 Like one thing I do is when I get really fucking hungry, cause I fast, I'm a faster, um, I, 0.66
00:12:59.960 I, I make a mental note and I'm like, when I get really hungry and I want to fucking cheat 0.91
00:13:04.740 or I want to eat or I'm, you know, I'm not in my window where I can eat, bro.
00:13:08.480 I, I, I check out of that and I say, you know what, this is the opportunity for me.
00:13:12.760 This is my internal dialogue.
00:13:14.160 I stopped myself and I said, this is an opportunity for me to grow my discipline.
00:13:18.840 Right.
00:13:19.180 So I'm going to push through this hunger.
00:13:20.840 Right.
00:13:21.360 And it's going to make an investment into my discipline.
00:13:24.500 Yeah.
00:13:24.780 You see what I'm saying?
00:13:25.200 I think it just takes a whole new self-awareness level.
00:13:28.180 You know what I'm saying?
00:13:28.560 For sure.
00:13:28.960 That most people just are mindless.
00:13:30.060 I never thought about it like that until probably four years ago.
00:13:32.620 Yeah.
00:13:33.000 You know what I'm saying?
00:13:33.820 But hunger is one of the greatest ways to, to build discipline.
00:13:36.900 Yeah.
00:13:37.080 It just is.
00:13:37.580 Yeah.
00:13:37.940 Yeah.
00:13:38.480 That's awesome.
00:13:40.340 Well, let's get on to question number two for you, Andy.
00:13:43.260 Question number two.
00:13:45.160 Andy, what's the biggest mistake people tend to make when it comes to taking risks?
00:13:50.820 Not taking them.
00:13:52.200 A hundred percent.
00:13:53.960 This is an easy question to answer.
00:13:55.980 Instead of asking you yourself, oh man, what's going to happen if I do this and this could go
00:14:01.540 wrong and this could go wrong and this could go wrong and this, this, this, and this,
00:14:04.420 and this.
00:14:04.760 That's what they do. 1.00
00:14:05.380 They pile on the shit, right? 1.00
00:14:06.360 Yeah. 1.00
00:14:06.800 Yeah. 0.99
00:14:07.040 What you should be asking yourself is what's my life going to look like if I don't fucking 0.99
00:14:09.860 do this? 0.99
00:14:10.880 That's it.
00:14:12.360 And that'll change your perspective on risk instantly.
00:14:14.620 Yeah. 0.99
00:14:14.840 Like if you are comfortable where the fuck you are and you want to live there for the 0.99
00:14:18.480 rest of your life and you want to be just like you are today, the same amount of money, 1.00
00:14:21.960 the same friends, the same house, the same car, the same income, fucking everything, the 0.98
00:14:26.640 same mental space. 0.99
00:14:28.100 Don't take any risks and you get to stay there or it's maybe get a little worse.
00:14:34.020 You know what I'm saying?
00:14:34.940 Yeah.
00:14:35.340 Or you can realize that there's millions and millions and millions and millions of people
00:14:40.840 who are just like you, who have done amazing things, who have done the exact things that
00:14:45.220 you want to do.
00:14:46.280 And the main thing that they were able to do was they were able to answer the question,
00:14:50.540 what's my life going to look like if I don't do this? 0.99
00:14:54.160 And they didn't like that shit and they went and took the action. 0.99
00:14:57.540 So like when I'm struggling with risk, dude, like, which I don't really anymore because 0.99
00:15:02.660 I'm not afraid of it.
00:15:03.620 I look at risk also as a, as a, as an opportunity to learn a lesson.
00:15:07.960 Like if I take a risk and I fuck up, that's a good thing because now I learned how not
00:15:12.620 to fuck that up the next time. 0.94
00:15:13.860 Right. 0.98
00:15:14.200 All right.
00:15:14.560 So I owe, I value my losses as much as I value my wins because without the losses,
00:15:19.080 you can't even understand how good the wins are.
00:15:21.540 So, and, and without the losses, you can't develop the skills that you need to have
00:15:27.120 over the course of time to actually win long-term.
00:15:30.340 So what a lot of people do is they go through life hoping that they win, win, win, win, win,
00:15:35.320 win, win.
00:15:36.260 And what they're actually doing is setting themselves up because the more you win without
00:15:40.600 making a mistake, the bigger your mistakes going to make at a bigger level because you're
00:15:44.820 going to make them.
00:15:45.440 Yeah.
00:15:45.720 Right.
00:15:46.000 So you need to value your losses just as much as you value your wins because of the
00:15:50.620 skills that you get to pull and extrapolate from those losses.
00:15:54.660 Okay.
00:15:55.260 So, um, you know, not, not taking a risk is a bigger risk than taking the risk in almost
00:16:02.900 every single scenario.
00:16:04.180 Yeah.
00:16:04.860 Less like the risk is like, okay, you might die if you do this, you know, Sam.
00:16:08.220 Well, that's different.
00:16:09.740 Yeah.
00:16:09.880 It's a little different, you know, but, but it's still, you know, at the, at the end of
00:16:13.880 the day, uh, do you want to die someone who, who took risk or do you want to die
00:16:18.540 a coward?
00:16:20.640 Even if in that scenario, you know what I'm saying? 0.89
00:16:23.520 Yeah.
00:16:23.800 Like for me personally, and I know everybody's not like me and, and, and that's
00:16:27.460 cool, but like, I'm a man of my own principles and my own standards and, and, and I'm going 0.96
00:16:32.700 to live life my fucking way. 0.99
00:16:34.000 And if that means that I do something and it kills me, then that's what the fuck it 0.99
00:16:37.020 does, but I'm not bending or breaking it for anybody. 0.99
00:16:40.040 Man. 0.97
00:16:40.440 I fucking love it. 0.97
00:16:41.100 Yeah. 0.99
00:16:42.200 I love it.
00:16:42.820 Guys, our third and final question.
00:16:45.760 Um, this is a live heart question for you, Andy.
00:16:48.440 So, uh, this person writes, Andy, we should have three critical tasks for phase one, but
00:16:54.520 the app says eight and everything I see online says eight.
00:16:58.420 What am I missing?
00:16:59.620 Where do the other five come from?
00:17:01.300 The other five are the ones that you're already doing on 75 heart.
00:17:04.760 That's the show.
00:17:06.660 Like what are we missing here?
00:17:09.400 Go listen to the power list, episode number 16, understand what the power list is.
00:17:18.140 And then what you'll understand is that you've already been executing the five tasks.
00:17:22.000 Right.
00:17:22.220 By doing 75 hard.
00:17:23.840 And I'm asking you to do three additional tasks.
00:17:25.800 Right.
00:17:26.960 So you, this person who asked this question probably just is unfamiliar with, uh, episode
00:17:32.340 16.
00:17:33.000 Go listen to that.
00:17:34.320 And, um, I'm actually training you with the live heart program on how to execute in your
00:17:39.380 life for the rest of your life.
00:17:40.820 You're welcome.
00:17:41.480 Um, you know, that's sort of supposed to be the surprise.
00:17:46.660 So, um, so yeah, that's, that's it, man.
00:17:50.760 That's an easy explanation.
00:17:51.780 You got another question.
00:17:52.660 Cause like that was an easy answer.
00:17:53.900 We could throw some extra caramel on there.
00:17:55.760 Um, Andy, how do you separate your emotions from your decision-making process?
00:18:02.540 I don't always, it depends on if the decision that I'm making is appropriate to have emotion
00:18:10.060 in or not.
00:18:11.560 For example, if I'm deciding what house I want to buy, I have to spend a lot of time there.
00:18:17.040 I have to decide if that's where I want to live my life.
00:18:19.640 I have to decide if that's going to make me happy.
00:18:21.700 And, and what, what kind of place do I want to live?
00:18:25.040 What do I want my quality of life?
00:18:26.340 How do I want to, what neighborhood do I want to be in?
00:18:28.640 These are all emotional things.
00:18:30.060 If I looked at that as an unemotional thing and I said, I need shelter and running water 0.99
00:18:34.220 and shit and a place to shit and, you know, eat, um, I could live in a fucking 400 square 1.00
00:18:41.040 foot room. 1.00
00:18:41.680 Right.
00:18:42.060 Right.
00:18:42.480 Right.
00:18:42.660 So it's always an emotional decision there.
00:18:44.660 And you have to just acknowledge that there's emotion in that decision and that's okay.
00:18:49.280 Yeah.
00:18:49.600 Because you're going to spend a lot of time that's going to dictate your amount of happiness
00:18:53.980 with, because of that decision.
00:18:55.780 So you're saying most decisions are emotional.
00:18:57.260 No, I'm saying there's emotional and non-emotional.
00:19:00.060 So that's one example of an emotional decision.
00:19:02.820 Now, is there non-emotional decisions?
00:19:04.920 Absolutely.
00:19:05.920 Um, if I'm looking at, let's say, uh, my goal is to make a certain amount of money on a real
00:19:13.520 estate deal.
00:19:14.180 Okay.
00:19:14.840 And, um, I, I get an offer that meets my goal that I set out to, to, to make on that deal.
00:19:22.920 Right.
00:19:23.420 And I take it.
00:19:24.760 That's just me honoring the contract I made with myself ahead of time.
00:19:28.360 Now it's very important to separate emotions out of that deal because the way people get
00:19:31.660 killed in those deals is what they do is they get greedy and they say, oh, well, if I made
00:19:35.980 my mark, now I can make 10 X my mark.
00:19:37.980 Right. 0.98
00:19:38.360 And some shit like that. 0.98
00:19:39.360 And so like for trading or investing or things like that, it's very important that you are, 0.98
00:19:45.500 um, non-emotional when it comes time to, uh, to exiting those scenarios.
00:19:51.720 Because a lot of times when people get crushed, it's because they got emotional on the top 0.96
00:19:55.320 end and they said, oh, fuck dude, that was easier than what I thought it was going to 0.99
00:20:00.540 be. 0.99
00:20:00.680 I made my 300 K there, but I think I can make 600 if I just hang on a minute. 1.00
00:20:04.060 And then the next day the ship fucking tanks and you get fucked. 1.00
00:20:06.940 Right. 1.00
00:20:07.640 So that's just a, that's just an arbitrary general thing.
00:20:11.780 But my point of the, of the answer is it depends.
00:20:16.040 Like it's okay to make decisions with emotion, but the problem is most people make decisions
00:20:21.820 that are meant to be without emotion with emotion and they're not aware of it.
00:20:25.680 So really what we're talking about here is, is developing an awareness of how much of
00:20:30.780 your decision is emotion and how much of it is math or logic.
00:20:33.560 Right.
00:20:34.120 Yeah.
00:20:34.940 And you have, if you, as long as you're aware of that, it's totally cool.
00:20:37.520 Like people, people used to give me shit about my car collection and they're like, oh dude, 0.93
00:20:41.940 you're wasting so much money and you know, blah, blah, blah. 0.97
00:20:45.080 And at the time, you know, like cars weren't what they are now.
00:20:49.300 Right.
00:20:49.620 Like cars weren't up.
00:20:50.840 Like when you bought a car, it went down.
00:20:52.500 Right.
00:20:52.820 But I didn't care because it, it added to my quality of life so much and it made me feel
00:20:57.760 good and I enjoyed it that I knew it was emotional.
00:21:01.060 I'm okay with it.
00:21:01.780 Even though I was okay with like it costing me money.
00:21:04.680 Now it happens that the market has shifted and now I'm up millions and millions and millions
00:21:09.900 of dollars in my car collection.
00:21:11.400 And I look like I'm really smart, but at the end of the day, it wasn't ever about that
00:21:15.520 for me.
00:21:15.780 It's still not that for me.
00:21:16.720 It's my cars are an emotional decision that I choose to enjoy because I love it and I'm happy
00:21:24.640 with it and there's car, there's cars I have that I overpaid tremendously for.
00:21:29.800 Right.
00:21:30.460 Because my emotion said, dude, I got to have that exact car.
00:21:33.420 Right.
00:21:33.820 Right.
00:21:33.960 All right.
00:21:34.460 So I'm aware of it.
00:21:36.700 Like it doesn't make, it doesn't make financial sense, so to speak, but it makes emotional sense.
00:21:42.440 Do you think people that only make non-emotional decisions, like what do you think?
00:21:46.720 Like they miss out on everything in life.
00:21:48.380 Yeah.
00:21:49.400 They miss out on everything in life. 1.00
00:21:50.560 Like everything's a fucking business. 1.00
00:21:51.740 Yeah. 0.99
00:21:52.000 Like dude, like, like I'll give you the most basic example.
00:21:55.480 People, people, people that don't want a dog, people that say, I don't want a dog. 0.95
00:21:59.020 So I want to fucking take care of it. 1.00
00:22:00.700 Motherfucker. 1.00
00:22:01.160 You're an idiot. 1.00
00:22:02.340 That dog is the best fucking thing you'll have in your fucking life. 1.00
00:22:05.220 Yeah. 1.00
00:22:06.120 It love you no matter what you'll come home every day. 1.00
00:22:08.640 It might've shit in the house, but you won't care because it's funny as shit. 1.00
00:22:11.480 Right. 1.00
00:22:11.640 And they do good shit and they come and love you and they make you feel good. 1.00
00:22:14.380 And you'll get more joy and pleasure out of that fucking dog than you could ever possibly 1.00
00:22:19.400 imagine like, bro, if I could pay, I would, I would pay every fucking dollar I had to 1.00
00:22:25.100 have my fucking dog back. 1.00
00:22:26.260 Oscar, every fucking dollar, every fucking dollar I had. 1.00
00:22:29.600 I pay like if, if God walked in today and said, Hey dude, give up everything. 1.00
00:22:33.800 Yeah.
00:22:34.100 Everything I would, I would, that's how much I would give up to have it.
00:22:37.520 Yeah.
00:22:38.040 You see what I'm saying?
00:22:38.740 So that's a highly emotional decision that adds tremendous amount of joy to your life
00:22:44.220 that a lot of people won't make because it doesn't make logical sense for them because
00:22:47.960 they're thinking of the one time that they've got to leave, go to work, or they've got to,
00:22:52.480 they've got to leave for a weekend. 1.00
00:22:53.900 They don't know what, bro, you figure that shit out. 1.00
00:22:55.660 Right. 0.99
00:22:56.080 You know, a lot of people would say that to me about having kids, but that's a different
00:22:59.540 thing for me.
00:23:00.360 Okay.
00:23:00.960 So, uh, but that's an example of that.
00:23:04.460 You see what I'm saying?
00:23:05.360 Yeah.
00:23:06.140 I love it, man.
00:23:07.480 Guys, you had a little extra caramel sauce on there.
00:23:09.960 So that was four.
00:23:11.380 Yeah, that was four.
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