Q&A with the Black Face of White Supremacy as co-host, Mr. Clean, and a special guest appearance by the Black face of white supremacy, Q & A. We talk about how to be a better version of yourself, how to become a better human being, and how to live an exceptional life.
00:22:15.680And you will be told, like I said, you and I have talked about this a trillion times, so I don't know when I said this, but, you know, when you're young, you'll be told you could do anything.
00:22:26.520And the older you get, you'll be limited because more and more people become more and more limited the older they get because they have more and more interactions with people who have not been able to succeed because of whatever reason.
00:22:39.960Those people instill their limiting beliefs on your friends and your family and people around you as you get older.
00:22:45.100And then they try to instill them on you.
00:22:51.840Now, every single one of those people who doubted me or said, you can't do this or that or this, they either fucking work here or they fucking wish they worked here.
00:23:03.560Or they're writing me some email, you know, after fucking laughing at me 15 years ago about how proud they are.
00:23:10.660Like, I don't fucking remember you, bro.
00:23:25.480No, I love what you said about the minute you decided to make something of your life, everything was hard because it seems like in the last year, I've talked to people who said, okay, they finally made a decision.
00:23:35.020They're going to start striving after important things.
00:23:37.240And in their minds, the minute they did that, everything started like falling apart.
00:23:42.080Like, all of a sudden, there was this chaos introduced into their life.
00:23:45.020And their immediate response was, I must be doing something wrong.
00:23:48.720And I'm like, no, you're doing something right because previously you were just this half-assed, like, lukewarm person who wasn't a threat to the powers that be.
00:24:00.200And you decided you're going to be something.
00:24:01.940And both culturally and I would even say spiritually, all of a sudden you said, I'm going to do, I'm going to become the person that God wants me to become.
00:24:09.260And all of a sudden, there were forces aligned against you.
00:24:37.360Or they're going to, you know, criticize you, make fun of you.
00:24:42.880And then you'll stop spending time with these people because you just can't, because it's zapping your energy.
00:24:49.080And then you'll go through a long period of time where you probably won't have a whole lot of people in your circle.
00:24:53.940And then what will happen is you'll start to become what it is you wanted to become.
00:24:57.980And then all the people who are also at that level will welcome you in.
00:25:02.920And now, all of a sudden, you have a whole network of super supportive people as opposed to people who are always trying to hold you back.
00:25:10.520And, you know, in my opinion, people are way too loyal to people that actually don't serve their interests and not loyal enough to themselves to actually go through that journey.
00:25:20.960And, you know, I call that time in the middle, no man's land.
00:25:24.040And you're going to spend a couple years there at a minimum.
00:26:59.400You have to invest a long time of work before you ever actually start believing that you're the guy that can do this or the girl that can do this.
00:27:28.040But you are going to have to put your blinders on.
00:27:31.440You're going to have to put your head down and you're going to have to work through all the things that every successful person that wasn't born into success has to work through.
00:27:41.860And that's not only your own limiting beliefs, but everybody else's that you know as well.
00:27:46.500And that's a hard thing for people to do.
00:27:48.920So I'm just telling you, don't listen to them.
00:28:20.060And the reason the way I got to that level was by letting go of the expectation that everybody's going to like me.
00:28:25.640And letting go of the expectation that everybody's going to support me and letting go of the expectation that I have any fucking limits at all because I don't.
00:28:37.780So, guys, let's move on to question number two.
00:28:40.860Andy, in one of your recent podcasts, you briefly touched on the importance of having a stable partner in your life.
00:28:47.000What are some tips or advice you can give couples to better support each other when working towards their goals?
00:28:52.500You know, I think the biggest thing is don't sweat the small stuff.
00:28:55.800You know, I think people make huge like.
00:28:59.320Most of the couples I know, you know, not that I know personally, but have experience with over life that I've observed.
00:29:06.000It seems like most people make huge deals out of stupid ass shit all the time.
00:29:10.500I think I think most couples drink too much.
00:29:12.920I think a lot of the problems that come with couples come from alcohol.
00:29:17.740You know, you have to understand certain things like the personality of the person that you're with is far more important than what you think of their fucking ass.
00:29:42.880Because that shit is really a dime a dozen.
00:29:44.620And having someone that's actually going to have your back, that's actually going to pour into you, that's actually going to contribute to the goal of your life or the mission of your life is extremely rare.
00:29:54.400And so, you know, I find like with Instagram culture and hookup culture and things like that, you know, we have a lot of people who are who who really aren't quality people that are able to showcase whatever they have.
00:30:38.920But, you know, these dudes, they meet a girl online who actually gives them some fucking pee and now all of a sudden they're hooked up for life.
00:30:51.700And it's like, bro, that's not how you're supposed to do this.
00:30:58.760You know, I think the ultimate I don't think anybody should get involved a serious relationship until they are truly close to the representation of their own potential, because that's what you'll attract.
00:31:10.580You'll attract your best potential when you're at your potential.
00:31:13.940And that means getting your fucking ass in shape.
00:31:16.320I don't care what they fucking say on people magazine.
00:31:50.780And you can't expect to attract, this goes for men and women, you know, you can't expect to attract someone who's an amazing partner if you're not also amazing.
00:32:01.540Like, that's just fucking the way it is.
00:32:04.020And I don't know, like, you know, we all say, oh, look at that really attractive woman with that sloppy dude.
00:32:11.200Well, I bet that sloppy dude's got some shit.
00:32:24.380But the point is, the dude is bringing some shit to the table.
00:32:27.640And by the way, how do you know that's not all she has?
00:32:31.180How do you know that's not all she has?
00:32:33.480You know, you guys are looking at this, like, these people that walking by thinking they're fucking prime A, when in reality, bro, they just seared the outside, may look okay.
00:32:45.800And so, like, we have to start looking at, you know, this is a cultural issue at the heart of it.
00:32:51.200We have to start looking deeper than surface level into, into partnerships because, dude, you could, people put so much time.
00:32:58.440Like, how many questions do, did we get on MSCO project about business partners when people don't even put that much thought into their actual partner?
00:33:19.940And women, you know, a lot of women, they, you know, they, when they're young, I mean, this goes into the whole dynamic of men and women, but women typically attract men with their fucking looks.
00:33:32.720And men typically attract women with their careers and their success.
00:33:39.040And men don't really get attractive until like after 40 and women, you know, get attractive much earlier.
00:33:46.600So it's, you know, there's a, it's a, it's a, it's a different dynamic at different ages in your life.
00:33:51.840And, um, you know, at the end of the day, man, you have to understand that you have to be able to stand alone on your own shit to ever even have a quality partnership.
00:34:40.360And I think, um, you know, there's a, there's a thing in culture where it's like, you know, uh, I don't know.
00:34:50.020I just feel like there's a lot of stigmas in culture that just aren't healthy.
00:34:54.340You know, um, when it comes to relationships, you know, like the, the people like, oh, I don't want to, I don't want to have a relationship with someone I'm friends with because I don't want to ruin the friendship.
00:35:51.660And, and I, when I, if I was a young man or woman and I'm looking for a partner, I would look at what they bring to the table that helps, um, make your life better.
00:36:02.080And I would also equally ask yourself, what do I bring to the table to make their life better?
00:36:16.140Well, maybe if you did more for them, they'd do more for you or, you know, like, and then there's another thing, like, like the mentality of like the tit for tat mentality.
00:36:26.260Like I had one of my, uh, athletes message me, uh, and ask if it was normal that her boyfriend Venmoed her or asked her to Venmo him 50% of the laundry detergent when they moved in together.
00:36:41.120So like, she sent me to the store to get laundry detergent and he came back and he said, uh, he said, well, can you Venmo me the eight bucks for the $16?
00:36:49.520Like, and I'm like, no, I don't think that's, that's not normal.
00:36:54.760Like, you know, when you're living together and you're starting to build a life together, married or not, uh, it should be, you know, this is how I see it.
00:37:04.940And I think it works pretty good is we don't tit for tat every little fucking detail.
00:37:10.160We just both do the best we can for the house.
00:37:41.700I was just going to say, I think expectations are huge.
00:37:43.880I, I don't claim to be a perfect husband at all, but after almost 10 years of marriage, one of the things that I think my wife and I do really well is we just have realistic expectations of one another.
00:37:53.680And what's crazy is six, six years ago when we first started podcasting, I remember seeing women post things like, you know, I'm not going to settle for any man who is under six foot tall.
00:38:04.420Yeah, or who's under six foot tall or, or those are the ones who doesn't love me so much that I can roll out of bed wearing a gunny sack and he'll still regard me like I'm Aphrodite or something.
00:38:13.760Or I'm not going to settle for any man who, who, who doesn't connect with me on a deep emotional level every day.
00:38:21.140And I'm like, like the level of unrealistic expectations that people have about, about relationships, I think crushed relationships and destroy them.
00:38:31.060And like my wife and I, we get to the point where we're like, yeah, that's another thing, dude, like the fucking overly romantic shit.
00:38:37.820Like motherfuckers are like, oh yeah, I got date night every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, every week.
00:38:42.880And we like, they pretend on Instagram to have these awesome fucking, see, that's a dude, you're hitting on something here.
00:38:53.960But dude, you're right about that because the truth is, is that now we have people who are comparing their relationship, which is semi normal and pretty boring if we're being fucking honest.
00:39:23.160And the expectations that people show on the internet, like you have all these influencers who try to pretend like they've got like their relationship experts and they have this perfect marriage and every fucking like, bro, I know some of these motherfuckers and I can tell you for a fucking fact, they have fucking problems.
00:39:42.620Not only that, Andy, what happens eight months later?
00:39:47.180They break up and they're like, and then it's like, oh, and then they, you know, they were just charging for like this.
00:39:52.240And like, dude, it's just not to me, in my opinion, I don't think anybody should be presenting themselves as relationship experts because if they are, they're fucking lying because every relationship is different.
00:40:03.180And you're constantly, if you're doing it right, you're constantly evolving and learning.
00:40:07.960But the expectation that we're fighting against on the internet is so ridiculous that like it makes everybody feel like their fucking shit is fucked up.
00:40:17.580You know, I look at those people who do that shit and I know for a fact, I'm like, yeah, you motherfuckers ain't like that at all.