314. Q&AF： Leading Different Personality Types, Couples Supporting Each Other & Competing Against Larger Companies
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Summary
Q&A with the Black Face of White Supremacy as co-host, Mr. Clean, and a special guest appearance by the Black face of white supremacy, Q & A. We talk about how to be a better version of yourself, how to become a better human being, and how to live an exceptional life.
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What is up guys, it's Andy Priscilla and this is the show for the realest, take a bite of
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the lies, the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality
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guys today. We have Q and AF, that's where you submit the Qs and I give you the AFs. That's
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one of four formats that you might happen to hear when you turn on this show. The other
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ones are CTI, which stands for Cruise the Internet. That's where we put headlines up on the screen,
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we talk about how full of shit they are and we bring the reality of the situation into
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focus. And then on Q and AF, which is what you're going to hear today, we talk about
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the potential solutions to make you better because the reality is whatever's going on
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in the world can only be solved by us individually and collectively raising our standards and
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becoming fucking better. All right. Understand that nobody's coming to save you. And I will
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remind you that until the day I fucking die. Now we also have real talk. That's where I
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get on. Uh, when I usually get super tired of people doing dumb shit, I get on and I yell
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for four to 20 minutes about how fucking stupid these people are. And then you usually pick
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up one or two good little gems that help you figure shit out too. Uh, then we have full
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length and full length is where I bring on my successful, uh, wealthy ass kicking friends.
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And we talk about how they got to be that way and how you could be that way too. So those
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are the four formats. And then we also have a bonus format, uh, 75 hard versus. And if
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you want to be on 75 hard versus episode, you finished 75 hard, you finished live hard, and
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you have a tremendous story that you'd like to share. You can also email that in. Where
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do they email that? 75 hard at Andy for seller.com. All right. So that's that. Now we do have
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a fee for the show. The fee is very simple. I don't run ads for the show. I don't run
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ads on the show for the downloads. I get on this show. I can make $30 million a year just
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so you understand that. All right. That's, that's a, that's a hard fact. Um, I don't
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do that. And the reason I don't do that is because I don't want you to question where my
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heart is. I don't want you to question my intent. I don't want to pollute the message.
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I want to speak the truth as I see it. I feel like I have a good grasp of things. I
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have a gift to be able to see what's going on and I'm not going to let a dollar amount
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get in that way. So in lieu of me getting fucking paid to do the show, I would appreciate that
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you share it instead. I think that's a fair trade. Okay. Very fair. All right. So with
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that being said today, we do have Q and AF and where can people submit the cues?
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Yeah guys, email those questions in to ask Andy at Andy for seller.com. And as a special
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bonus, not only do we have the black face of white supremacy as my co-host, we also
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have, uh, Mr. Clean. Mr. Clean. Yeah. Yeah. What's going on? I've been given strict instructions
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by your minions not to open the show talking about death. Oh, Oh, you got yelled at. Yeah.
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Yeah. Who, who yelled at it? I'm a dot. Did we do that yesterday? Is that the show where
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he said, are you going to get violently murdered? Yeah. Now if it happens, you're going to feel
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bad. A little bit. Yeah. I mean, I, it would be a little bit of a, you're going to have
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trouble getting people listening. It'd be a little bit of a blow. Yeah, that's true.
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Yeah. That's true. You better hope it doesn't happen. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. No, for all y'all
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fucking Hillary Clinton. Huh? That's what I do. Yeah. Yeah. Bro. These guys would kick
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your ass. I know. Be careful. Especially that guy. They would. I, you know, every time you do
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the, the intro to the show, I always, when you talk about real AF and you say, that's
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when I bring in my really successful ass kicking friends and to tell you how to, you
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know, be, live an exceptional life. I'm like, well, isn't that what happens every time I
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come home? No, not really. We're talking about the other ones. So anyway, I was watching
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a Q and A. Yeah. It's funny that you, that you're here because, uh, I actually did have
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been watching the Irishman. Yeah. Cause I've been bored. And then I started watching
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Yellowstone, like the new season. I know I'm behind, but like, I like to wait for them
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all to come out. That way I'm not like fucking having to link the story in my head after like
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weeks and weeks at a time. Um, pretty good. I didn't mind Yellowstone. I think I watched
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a couple episodes. It's pretty cool. Yeah. I'm pretty sure that dude, that, that, that
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ripped dude, they fucking based exactly off of me. Like fucking exactly. Well, we, we know
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where Sal definitely got a dress code from. Where? From Yellowstone. Oh yeah. Fuck
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country Sal. He bought all of it. Yeah. Hey man, it works dude. Hey, it's good, man. So
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we've got Q and A F. Vaughn's going to help out with the, uh, with the conversation today.
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Um, so let's get started, man. No, let's not get into these. Uh, any reason I brought
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up the Irishman is cause that's that episode that we did. You were on that episode, weren't
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you? Yeah. Where we talked about the dumb protocol. Yeah. Yeah. Remember that?
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Yeah, that's right. I do remember that. I did. Yeah, I did. Oh, you used it. I used
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it. I always, Hey, I apply every single thing. You used the dumb protocol? Uh, yeah. All
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right. Didn't I, I came up with the name dumb protocol, didn't I? No. No, I thought I did.
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Well, now I'm curious. You don't know the dumb protocol. Oh, you got to go back and listen.
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Yeah. It's probably the funniest story we ever told in the fucking show ever. Anyway, I'm invested
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now. So questions. Yeah. Questions. Do your job. Jesus. DJ. Fucking waiting on you guys.
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Man. All right. Question number one, Andy, what's the best way to communicate with your
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team? Uh, when you have a mixture of different personality types. Okay. I had to refer to
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like smacks right in the face. Yeah. That's solid. Certified legal letters, smacks in the face.
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Can confirm. Yeah. Yeah. Flattening their car tires. I mean, it sends a message.
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All right. Look, that's real. All right. Go ahead. But, uh, so the person says I have 12
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employees. Uh, some respond well to constructive criticism while others do not. My question is,
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do I communicate differently with these employees to bring the best out of them? Or do I try to
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develop them into individuals who respond well to my style? The answer is both. Okay. The answer is
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both. There isn't a, there is a collective leadership philosophy that you need to have, which comes from
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your core values and what you define your direction to be. Um, but you also have to get to know your
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people individually. Okay. Because at the end of the day, you're, you're, you're people, you have to
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understand this. They want to be a part of a team. This is the biggest thing leaders miss. They have
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this idea in their head that everybody on their team at work doesn't want to be at work. And that
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might be the case right now because you're not leading properly. But when you actually engage
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people on a personal level and you get them to understand that the collective good increases their
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own personal good. Now they, they, they can put that link together in their brain. Yeah. And what
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happens is they want to become somebody who contributes because dude, if you're, if you're
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on a, like you play football, right? Like, did you not want to fucking, you play the offensive line.
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Did you not want to get a bunch of roach blocks during the fucking game? Fuck yeah. Yeah. It didn't
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matter if you scored the touchdown. No, I still think you just wanted to, yeah, you just wanted
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to contribute and that's how your team is too. And we do ourselves a big, uh, our companies
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and ourselves and our people, a big injustice by not getting to know them individually to
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how they respond and what their personal goals are. Now there are limits to that. Like you don't
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want to create the situation where they're coming to you with every little fucking emotional
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problem. They might be having that day, but people want to, you do want to have them have
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a comfortable relationship where they can be heard. Right. And a lot of people like to
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only lead one way or the other way where like they have this construct of core values that
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they guide their company, um, with and they, they leave it at that. Okay. Or they get so personally
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involved with every single person that they actually can't direct the entire team. Right. So it's a
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balance of both. And, um, most leaders have a natural propensity to do one or the other,
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but to be a truly effective leader, you have to be able to do both. And so you have to understand
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the big picture guidance. Um, and you have to, uh, your team has to be made to understand that
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there is a certain level of compliance that needs to be, you know, we need to be rowing the same
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direction, right. Under these core values in this mission. And then individually, you're going to go
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around and help them tweak and improve and, and, and their little, you know, their little lessons
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or corrections they may need. Um, but at the end of the day, bro, what I've discovered is most people
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just want to be fucking heard. They want to be heard. They want their input to matter. Even if
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you don't follow it, they want to at least be heard and say, okay, well, Hey, you know, Andy,
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I think it should be like this and this and this. Okay. Well, all right. I can understand that,
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but here is why it's not like this and this and this. And, you know, you take the time to explain
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things and then it, it, it further galvanizes the team, which makes it easier to guide the team
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under the, the big mission, um, that, that you set for whatever company you're in on that though.
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Would you say, has that gotten easier or harder for you to do? Right? Like you're 23 years in
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business. You got a 20 year old coming to you. Hey, why, you know, why haven't you guys done this?
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You've heard that a thousand times. Yeah. But see, I don't do that. That's not my job anymore.
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That's not my job. My job is the 10 people in our executive team. Right? So like, I know those
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motherfuckers. I know everything about them. Right? I go in and talk to them. I get feedback
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from them. Their job is to handle that. Right. And I don't get in the way of that because then
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that dilutes the chain of command and then it gets it all fucked up. So now it's a, now it's a,
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he said, she said mom, dad situation. Right. So I don't, I don't. Mom said no. No. So like the
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entry level person in our company, it would be inappropriate for them to come to me. Right.
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With, with that thing. You know what I'm saying? But, uh, when did that, one of our, when did that
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come into place? Well, I mean, as you grow and naturally organically happens, if you want,
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look, bro, if you want to build a team of leaders, you have to let them lead. Like if I didn't
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fucking let our executive team lead, what, what purpose do they serve? You see what I'm saying?
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So like, I have to let them do that. And if I get in the way of that, that, that fucks up their
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shit. Right. That makes them less credible to the, so, so I don't want to, I don't want to, uh,
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undermine their ability to lead by getting in, in the middle of whatever's going on. Right.
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So you have to be disciplined about that because it matters. Yeah. I think that question is asking
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or putting a little bit too much emphasis on personality differences though, because like
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I started working with you about six or seven years ago and I, I have a different personality
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than Tyler did. I have a different personality than, you know, everybody that you worked with
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and what, what eventually ended up motivating me was that I knew that Andy genuinely cared,
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not just about the success of the company as a whole, but on my personal success. And so he could
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just be his authentic self and communicate the same way with almost every other person.
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And over time, I just realized this is a guy who really, really cares about the core values
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of the company, what the company is trying to, uh, to accomplish. And so I, I, I don't know,
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that question kind of, I feel like it's too bound up and, and, oh, well, everybody has a different
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personality and they're putting the, they're putting the emphasis on that rather than the authenticity.
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That's this bullshit culture that we have going on in the world.
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Like, Hey bro, I'm not here to be your fucking therapist. Right. Okay. Like I appreciate that
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you have a different personality than me, but when you're here, you talking to you. Yeah. When
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you're here, you're going to fucking do this. Right. And I'm going to do this. That's the bargain.
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And we're both going to benefit from it. Right. Right. So you're going to do your part. I'm going
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to do my part. We're going to win together. Absolutely. And that's that. Yeah. And, and, and that's
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the same for any of you guys in this room and any of these people out here, like I have my role,
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they have their role. If we all do our roles, we all win. Right. It's real simple. Right. And I,
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you know, whatever, however you feel, which, you know, you're a totally different dude than me,
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but, but also totally the same in a lot of, you know what I'm saying? So like, you know,
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I think the culture that we live in has gotten way too comfortable with like fucking vomiting their
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feelings everywhere they fucking go. Like, let's be fucking real, bro. Right. This is a fucking job.
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And like a leader has to customize his or her approach to every single employee.
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Like, yeah, I'm not doing that. Yeah. Like, like you're, you're, there's a range, right? Like
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there's an 80% range. If you're off way off on the left or the right and at 10%, like I'm not,
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it's beyond my ability to fucking wrangle in. Right. Right. So like, you know, you don't have to be
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exactly the way everybody else is, but like when you're here, you got to row the fucking boat. Right.
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And you got to row in, in, in, in, in sync with everybody else here.
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And that's how your company should be. That's how your team should be. That's how your organization
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should be. That's how your charity should be. That's how your movement should be. People that
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can't row at the same speed in the same direction just aren't going to have a seat on the boat.
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Right. Right. And there's nothing wrong with that. Right. There's people that, that
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there's people of all walks of life to fit in in all different places. That's not a personal thing,
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but it's an expectation to all businesses, all organizations, all, all movements, all or everything
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should have. I think, I think a very interesting thing. Cause I mean, you know, I've been like,
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dude, if you have a boat, right. And you have 10 people on one side and 10 people on the other side
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and the motherfuckers on the left are rowing at one pace and motherfuckers on the right are rowing
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at least at 10% less of a pace. Guess what happens? Circles. Circles. You go in fucking circles.
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You know what I think is the genius though, bro, is what you're, is the, the harder you row the boat
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and the better that you get at it, just, you know, taking commands, doing what you're told,
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showing up every day, putting in the best effort, the higher you start to ascend in the level of
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authority and responsibility you have. And the more you do get to tweak, then your particular
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approach to what you want to do. And that, then the, the, the guy up in the top says,
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actually you're valuable. So I am going to, to let you have a little bit more freedom and do things
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the way you want to do it. Correct. Yeah. Correct. I think that, and that's what I was going to say,
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like, that's the thing. It's like you, you strive, I know in all your companies, personal
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development is huge, right? Whether it's reading the 10 pages. I don't, I am not interested in even
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talking to a human that isn't into that. Right. Right. Like if you're not into it, not only will
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you not work here, I don't want to fucking talk to you. Right. And I think that's what fixes a lot
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of that. Like, I don't like some of these, like we talk about like these personality types. I think
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a lot of that is just people lacking, like employees lacking that, that drive or even the opportunity.
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You got to think about the young employees nowadays, bro. No offense to the young people,
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but guys, you guys got fucked by the education system. Like it's on you to learn and relearn
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how things really work. Right. A lot of these people have been told their whole lives by
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no fault of their own, that everything's going to be fair. Everything's taken care of. You're
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going to go out in the real world and you're going to kick ass, blah, blah, blah, just for
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showing up. And then what happens? You go out in the real world, get your fucking face stomped
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in. And then you're bitter, you're angry. You think the world hates, hates you. When
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in reality, you've just been prepared improperly. Right. So that's why it's important for you
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to understand that, dude, this is reality. You have to be good. If you're not good, you
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will get fucking crushed. If you don't work hard, you will get crushed. That is reality.
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There is no way around it. And there is no fucking government. There's no law. There's
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no movement. There's no fucking way of governing that will ever change that for you. Like if
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you are not willing to do certain things like work hard and learn how to get better and commit
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to you, you are going to get steamrolled in life forever, forever, ever, ever. It's not
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even up for debate. And, and dude, a lot of these people who are, you know, coming into the
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workforce now, they, they don't understand that. Right. And they come in instead of being
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someone that wants to row and sink, they fucking stick their paddle and anchored in the water
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and let it drag. So they get noticed. It's like, bro, fuck you. You're out. Like, dude,
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you can't be a contrarian. You can't be someone that doesn't go along with shit. If you're going
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to build a fucking quality team and you young guys that are coming out of this two decade
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long or fucking indoctrination bullshit in America of, you know, everybody 17th place gets
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a fucking trophy. I'm sorry, but you got fucked. Okay. So you have to relearn now how things
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really work and they work. If you're good, you get paid. If you're not, you don't, if
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you're fucking undeniably great, you'll get the likes, the shares, and the recognition.
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Too many people want the prize before the fucking work, dude. They want the equity. And like,
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listen, and not only do they want the prize before the work, they want like a 20 year prize
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for fucking one month's work. Like the disparity of what people expect now for what they invest
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is so far out of whack that it's not even funny. Right. So, you know, I don't know how to fix it
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on a mass scale, but I'm telling you as an individual, you have the choice to learn this
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shit and accept the way it is now. And I would, if I was 20 years old and I just came out of a
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fucking school system that told me all kinds of bullshit, I would understand this right now.
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I will never be anywhere unless I'm better than everybody else at what I do. And I would just
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accept that. And every day you get up, I would accept that it's going to be hard. I had a
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conversation with a friend yesterday and you know, ever since I decided to be something with my life,
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when I made the decision that I was going to do something with my life, every single motherfucking
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day since then has been difficult. Every single sick, every day, every single one. Okay. For a
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long time, I fought that I got up every day and I'm like, all right, cool. And then when the bad
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thing happened or the challenge happened or the business difficulty happened, I get super pissed
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off. Okay. And it ruined my day. I would get all met. Now I don't think of it like that. I've accepted
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that it's hard. It's going to be hard every day. It's going to be hard. So like, if I expect it to
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be hard and it's hard, then I have no reason to be mad. I have no reason to be frustrated. It just
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is what the fuck it is. And if you could accept at 20 years old, that you're going to be great in
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life. And every single day you wake up, and I'm talking about every motherfucking day is going to be
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difficult. You're at a huge advantage because most people expect it to be easy and they get their
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shit kicked in every fucking day. And then they're like, Oh, I'm depressed. When in reality, they're
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not depressed at all, bro. What they are is they have an unreasonable expectation. It's the same
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reason why people have a hard time making content or speaking the truth because they have this
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unreasonable and unrealistic expectation that every single human out there is going to like them.
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And that sets you up for disappointment. Not only are they not going to like you,
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certain people shouldn't like you. If you're living a morally good life, there's going to be
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people out there that do not fucking like you. If you're willing to stand on a line, stand up for
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what's right, there are going to be a lot of people just like there are to me that don't fucking like
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me. I do not fucking care. And if you get to that place now, if you like you're 20 years old and you
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can accept that now, bro, you're so far ahead of the game because like, dude, I I'm free. Oh,
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you don't like me. I don't care. Oh, you think I'm this cool. Oh, you think I'm that cool. I would
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challenge you to listen to more of my shit. But if you don't want to, I don't really care.
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Go fucking drink your fucking beer. Go play your video games. Like, dude, I don't care. Like,
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I don't care. I'm here for the people that want to be exceptional. And that's it. If you don't want to
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be exceptional, if you don't want to be successful, if you don't want to be free,
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if you don't want to know the facts, if you don't want to know reality, don't listen to my fucking
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shit. It's that simple. I love it. There's actually an old MFCO episode called Battleground
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Mentality. I don't, I don't happen to remember what the episode was, but you, you spend like 40
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minutes expounding on this whole concept of you have to change your, your expectation.
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Listen, Vaughn, when you're this good, you forget all the good shit you said.
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Biden has that same problem though. I said Biden has that same problem.
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Yeah, exactly. He doesn't, he doesn't say anything.
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I'll have Z-Shine back there in about three fucking seconds, bro.
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No, it's episode 141, but it's amazing how this applies to everything. Like literally everything.
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Success in business, success in relationship, even success in the spiritual life.
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We, the idea that life is a playground or that the whole universe is just designed for your comfort
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is probably the single greatest destructive thought in the history of the world.
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Listen, dude, the expectations they teach us in the idea of being kind are handicapped the shit out of us.
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Like when you're a fucking little kid and they kind of teach you like, oh, be this to everybody.
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Oh, so-and-so, you didn't get along and so-and-so said this.
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And, you know, they try to make it all be this like happy-go-lucky.
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And you will be told, like I said, you and I have talked about this a trillion times, so I don't know when I said this, but, you know, when you're young, you'll be told you could do anything.
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And the older you get, you'll be limited because more and more people become more and more limited the older they get because they have more and more interactions with people who have not been able to succeed because of whatever reason.
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Those people instill their limiting beliefs on your friends and your family and people around you as you get older.
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Now, every single one of those people who doubted me or said, you can't do this or that or this, they either fucking work here or they fucking wish they worked here.
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Or they're writing me some email, you know, after fucking laughing at me 15 years ago about how proud they are.
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In fact, I'm thankful that you laughed at me because that's 50% of the reason I'm fucking sitting where I am.
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No, I love what you said about the minute you decided to make something of your life, everything was hard because it seems like in the last year, I've talked to people who said, okay, they finally made a decision.
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They're going to start striving after important things.
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And in their minds, the minute they did that, everything started like falling apart.
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Like, all of a sudden, there was this chaos introduced into their life.
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And their immediate response was, I must be doing something wrong.
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And I'm like, no, you're doing something right because previously you were just this half-assed, like, lukewarm person who wasn't a threat to the powers that be.
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And both culturally and I would even say spiritually, all of a sudden you said, I'm going to do, I'm going to become the person that God wants me to become.
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And all of a sudden, there were forces aligned against you.
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When people decide that they're going to get serious about their life, that's when you're a threat.
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That's when you're going to make something of your life.
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And you're going to go through a long period of time feeling alone, bro.
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Like, at first, you're going to fucking, you know, you're going to make this decision.
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And all your current friends, they're going to see you take action.
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Or they're going to, you know, criticize you, make fun of you.
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And then you'll stop spending time with these people because you just can't, because it's zapping your energy.
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And then you'll go through a long period of time where you probably won't have a whole lot of people in your circle.
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And then what will happen is you'll start to become what it is you wanted to become.
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And then all the people who are also at that level will welcome you in.
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And now, all of a sudden, you have a whole network of super supportive people as opposed to people who are always trying to hold you back.
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And, you know, in my opinion, people are way too loyal to people that actually don't serve their interests and not loyal enough to themselves to actually go through that journey.
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And, you know, I call that time in the middle, no man's land.
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And you're going to spend a couple years there at a minimum.
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I didn't have a whole lot of fucking friends for 10 years.
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Something you say on social media a lot lately is that you just love seeing other people win.
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And I think what most people don't understand is that most people aren't like that.
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Most people don't like to see other people win.
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Anybody who's ever won likes to see people win.
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Anybody who's ever won likes to see people win.
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But my friends who my wealthiest friends are the most happy for people who win.
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But on the on the on the rank and file level, though, wouldn't you agree that that when somebody starts rising above the level of average?
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Most people, most everyday people look at that.
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But I think people need to adjust their expectations.
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But I'm just saying, like, that's the fucking facts.
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Now I just like I'm like, OK, dude, like, you know, pinkies up, motherfuckers.
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You got to let go of the expectation that everybody's going to be behind you.
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The work always comes before the belief in yourself and with others.
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OK, nobody's going to believe in you until you've asked until you've actually achieved what it is you set out to achieve.
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But you're not going to believe in yourself until you already invested.
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You have to invest a long time of work before you ever actually start believing that you're the guy that can do this or the girl that can do this.
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So the work always comes before the belief with yourself and with other people.
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I've given you every motherfucking tool in this podcast feed possible.
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But you are going to have to put your blinders on.
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You're going to have to put your head down and you're going to have to work through all the things that every successful person that wasn't born into success has to work through.
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And that's not only your own limiting beliefs, but everybody else's that you know as well.
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And eventually all those people that question you will be saying, oh, Andy, I'm so proud of you.
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And the reason the way I got to that level was by letting go of the expectation that everybody's going to like me.
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And letting go of the expectation that everybody's going to support me and letting go of the expectation that I have any fucking limits at all because I don't.
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So, guys, let's move on to question number two.
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Andy, in one of your recent podcasts, you briefly touched on the importance of having a stable partner in your life.
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What are some tips or advice you can give couples to better support each other when working towards their goals?
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You know, I think the biggest thing is don't sweat the small stuff.
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Most of the couples I know, you know, not that I know personally, but have experience with over life that I've observed.
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It seems like most people make huge deals out of stupid ass shit all the time.
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I think I think most couples drink too much.
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I think a lot of the problems that come with couples come from alcohol.
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You know, you have to understand certain things like the personality of the person that you're with is far more important than what you think of their fucking ass.
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I'm just saying you you you won't don't ever sell someone's personality out for their looks.
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And having someone that's actually going to have your back, that's actually going to pour into you, that's actually going to contribute to the goal of your life or the mission of your life is extremely rare.
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And so, you know, I find like with Instagram culture and hookup culture and things like that, you know, we have a lot of people who are who who really aren't quality people that are able to showcase whatever they have.
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Their their sexual bait and tackle, so to speak.
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And, you know, and then especially with guys, because guys, for the most part, live way below their means.
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You know, they're not they're typically not in shape.
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They're typically don't take care of themselves.
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They're fucking not even hygienic most of the time.
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And, you know, these dudes, by the way, you should wear some fucking deodorant.
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But, you know, these dudes, they meet a girl online who actually gives them some fucking pee and now all of a sudden they're hooked up for life.
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And it's like, bro, that's not how you're supposed to do this.
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You know, I think the ultimate I don't think anybody should get involved a serious relationship until they are truly close to the representation of their own potential, because that's what you'll attract.
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You'll attract your best potential when you're at your potential.
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And that means getting your fucking ass in shape.
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I don't care what they fucking say on people magazine.
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Like, I find that a lot of the problems come from a lot of men not being men and women getting with these men.
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And then the women constantly looking for something better.
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And the men can't do anything about it because they don't bring shit to the table.
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Like, if you're going to have leverage in your relationship, you've got to bring some shit to the table.
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And you can't expect to attract, this goes for men and women, you know, you can't expect to attract someone who's an amazing partner if you're not also amazing.
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And I don't know, like, you know, we all say, oh, look at that really attractive woman with that sloppy dude.
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But the point is, the dude is bringing some shit to the table.
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And by the way, how do you know that's not all she has?
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You know, you guys are looking at this, like, these people that walking by thinking they're fucking prime A, when in reality, bro, they just seared the outside, may look okay.
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And so, like, we have to start looking at, you know, this is a cultural issue at the heart of it.
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We have to start looking deeper than surface level into, into partnerships because, dude, you could, people put so much time.
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Like, how many questions do, did we get on MSCO project about business partners when people don't even put that much thought into their actual partner?
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Like, you know, how many dudes married, married their wife because she had some big titties and a fucking fat ass?
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That's not a foundation for a good relationship.
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And women, you know, a lot of women, they, you know, they, when they're young, I mean, this goes into the whole dynamic of men and women, but women typically attract men with their fucking looks.
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And men typically attract women with their careers and their success.
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And men don't really get attractive until like after 40 and women, you know, get attractive much earlier.
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So it's, you know, there's a, it's a, it's a, it's a different dynamic at different ages in your life.
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And, um, you know, at the end of the day, man, you have to understand that you have to be able to stand alone on your own shit to ever even have a quality partnership.
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A partner should, should bring more to the table.
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You see a lot of dudes who struggle with women in their twenties, um, and thirties end up, you know, doing very well later.
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And you see a lot of women who were the hottest thing going in their twenties and thirties with 15 cats when they're fucking 48.
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And, you know, that comes down, like that comes down to being a good person.
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You shouldn't, you should never treat someone poorly, like period, you know, I think superficially.
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And I think, um, you know, there's a, there's a thing in culture where it's like, you know, uh, I don't know.
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I just feel like there's a lot of stigmas in culture that just aren't healthy.
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You know, um, when it comes to relationships, you know, like the, the people like, oh, I don't want to, I don't want to have a relationship with someone I'm friends with because I don't want to ruin the friendship.
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Because like, I, I would, you know, I was friends with Emily for fucking four years before I ever, you know what I'm saying?
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But, um, you know, I don't, I don't fucking know, bro.
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I'm not a relationship expert, but I just think you should look at it like this.
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Like I could do a whole show on, on what I think is the problem with the dynamic between men and women, um, and dating.
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But I, but, but the truth is, is that, you know, I'm not an expert at it.
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And, and I, when I, if I was a young man or woman and I'm looking for a partner, I would look at what they bring to the table that helps, um, make your life better.
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And I would also equally ask yourself, what do I bring to the table to make their life better?
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And I think if everybody would spend at least half, because so many people spend the 80, 90% of the time saying what you did for me.
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Well, maybe if you did more for them, they'd do more for you or, you know, like, and then there's another thing, like, like the mentality of like the tit for tat mentality.
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Like I had one of my, uh, athletes message me, uh, and ask if it was normal that her boyfriend Venmoed her or asked her to Venmo him 50% of the laundry detergent when they moved in together.
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So like, she sent me to the store to get laundry detergent and he came back and he said, uh, he said, well, can you Venmo me the eight bucks for the $16?
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Like, and I'm like, no, I don't think that's, that's not normal.
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Like, you know, when you're living together and you're starting to build a life together, married or not, uh, it should be, you know, this is how I see it.
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And I think it works pretty good is we don't tit for tat every little fucking detail.
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And, uh, it's a selfless attitude that you have to have.
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And where things, you know, it's the same core values we have for the company.
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Like I, I don't know, man, I could go on and on and on, but at the end of the day, you need, you need someone you could bill with.
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You need someone that is going to contribute, not take away.
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You need someone that inspires you to contribute.
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I was just going to say, I think expectations are huge.
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I, I don't claim to be a perfect husband at all, but after almost 10 years of marriage, one of the things that I think my wife and I do really well is we just have realistic expectations of one another.
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And what's crazy is six, six years ago when we first started podcasting, I remember seeing women post things like, you know, I'm not going to settle for any man who is under six foot tall.
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Yeah, or who's under six foot tall or, or those are the ones who doesn't love me so much that I can roll out of bed wearing a gunny sack and he'll still regard me like I'm Aphrodite or something.
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Or I'm not going to settle for any man who, who, who doesn't connect with me on a deep emotional level every day.
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And I'm like, like the level of unrealistic expectations that people have about, about relationships, I think crushed relationships and destroy them.
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And like my wife and I, we get to the point where we're like, yeah, that's another thing, dude, like the fucking overly romantic shit.
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Like motherfuckers are like, oh yeah, I got date night every Monday, Wednesday, Friday, every week.
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And we like, they pretend on Instagram to have these awesome fucking, see, that's a dude, you're hitting on something here.
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But dude, you're right about that because the truth is, is that now we have people who are comparing their relationship, which is semi normal and pretty boring if we're being fucking honest.
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Don't you want most of your life to not be a volatile situation?
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Don't you want most of your life to be peaceful?
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Don't you want most of your life to be telling little jokes and having a good time?
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And the expectations that people show on the internet, like you have all these influencers who try to pretend like they've got like their relationship experts and they have this perfect marriage and every fucking like, bro, I know some of these motherfuckers and I can tell you for a fucking fact, they have fucking problems.
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Not only that, Andy, what happens eight months later?
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They break up and they're like, and then it's like, oh, and then they, you know, they were just charging for like this.
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And like, dude, it's just not to me, in my opinion, I don't think anybody should be presenting themselves as relationship experts because if they are, they're fucking lying because every relationship is different.
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And you're constantly, if you're doing it right, you're constantly evolving and learning.
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But the expectation that we're fighting against on the internet is so ridiculous that like it makes everybody feel like their fucking shit is fucked up.
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You know, I look at those people who do that shit and I know for a fact, I'm like, yeah, you motherfuckers ain't like that at all.
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I mean, there's obviously a place for romance and stuff, but I tell people all the time.
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I mean, to me, what's most attractive about my wife is day in and day out.
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She teaches them history, math, stuff like that.
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Not only that, bro, she's always supported you.
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And I just think people who think that marriage is going to be, or women, and this is the truth
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because most men aren't thinking this way, but most women who think that you're going
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to enter into this relationship and on a day-by-day basis, he's just going to be so emotionally
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connected to you that he's going to be so attracted to you that you could fart and it'll
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And the good news is what you were saying is the good news is that's not what makes marriage
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and life happy, and that's not what makes it so great.
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It's the daily just hanging out, laughing, enjoying stuff.
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If you're having a true romantic moment, it ain't on the fucking internet.
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Because you didn't stop to fucking take a picture of it.
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Remember that when you look at everybody's shit.
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By the way, get the fuck out of here with that fake-ass shit.
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And shit, you don't, there's not a single motherfucker out there that should be making
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And I believe that's why it all fucking comes back to bite him in the ass.
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Guys, let's move on to our third and final question.
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Our business is very young compared to other monster companies in the same sector.
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When you first started your business and had to compete with other larger companies,
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what actions did you have to take in order to scale up to the top?
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It's whoever the person in front of me, that's the most important person.
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And you have to understand how people buy to really make sense of that dynamic.
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Advertisements, for the most part, are not what make people buy.
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And they are to bring awareness to a conversation.
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And the conversation would be, let's just say DJ came in wearing a pair of fucking Jordans.
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I don't wear Jordans, but just for the sake of, I would say, hey, bro, those Jordans are fucking sweet.
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I've seen the ads on TV for, or let's say the new Reebok pumps, right?
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You're like, yeah, dude, it's the new pumps, blah, blah, blah.
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So if you understand that your personal interaction with the person in front of you is going to
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actually be the thing that makes people buy, because it's not the person in front of you
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You're talking to everybody they've ever met when they go on social media, which is an advantage
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that business people have never really had before.
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So you have a situation where this person in front of you has the ability to spread the
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message out to literally fucking, if it's me, it's millions of people.
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But for most people, it's at least thousands of people or hundreds of people.
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And when you pour into this person and solve their problem in such a way where they feel
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obligated to tell people about it because you went way, way, way over the top.
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If you do a good job, that's why this, that's why the whole idea is if you want to win a
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You have to do the right thing because when I'm concentrating on a hundred people at a
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time, which is the failure of most companies, most companies, they don't, they are not interested
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And I can tell you from owning many companies and building many companies that it just never
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It only works one person at a time because people don't buy from companies.
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So with the technology that we have, instead of it being advertising, then flowing to the
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customer and then buying, we're actually talking to the customer, solving their problem, and
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then letting them use the technology to, to tell people their story, which ultimately brings
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Let's just say if they have 500 people, three of them come to buy.
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Now you have three more chances to get with those people.
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And it's as simple as doing the right thing, taking care of their problems, making sure that
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you go above and beyond, uh, giving a fuck, right?
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Not trying to oversell, not trying to like make the money on the customer that's right
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in front of your face, but to actually never do such a good job that they never have a
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Like you guys want to make a couple million bucks and you want to fucking flaunt on the
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Don't listen to the thing I say, go on bullshit ads and change your widget every fucking week.
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But if you want to fucking build a life that is huge, that can change literally fucking
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You cannot compete with the big fucking players because they have so much more capital.
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But so the only way that you can defeat them is, you know, death by a thousand paper cuts,
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which is personal interaction over and over and over for decades, for fucking decades.
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It's still the same mentality I have today because it's the only thing that I ever did
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And the technology, the technology that we have today lends itself to that.
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But on the other side of that too, it could also be very, very detrimental by not doing
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the right thing and treating that fucking person shitty.
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This is why it's so important that you do the absolute best you can.
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But you will make enough deposits into the trust of the customer base that when you make
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a mistake, they will still work with you because they know that you try really fucking hard
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and you make it right when you do fuck up.
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Now, the flip to that coin is that if you are an unethical entrepreneur, if you are someone
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who fucking cheats people, if you are someone who scans people, that shit will spread like
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wildfire and you'll be out of business before you know it.
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So like, you can't survive long-term anymore doing things unethically.
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But to make it for decades in this sort of environment with this amount of connectivity
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and this amount of instant access, you have to be 99% fucking great.
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And when you fuck up on that 1% or let's even say 2%, you have to go above and beyond and
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And that's the only way you'll ever fucking win long-term with where we are in a business