REAL AF with Andy Frisella - May 07, 2020


32. Real Talk： It's You

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Andy Frisella
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Andy Frisilla
31. America's Battle For Power 33. Taking Off The Blindfold Part 1

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Summary

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In this episode of The Realists, Andy Frisella dives deep into the topic of why you should stop complaining about everything in your life, relationships, and jobs, and focus on what s actually working for you.

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00:00:00.000 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living 1.00
00:00:04.680 spoke it till existence mold changed to 50 got mold cost than did it i only weigh 180 but my 0.99
00:00:11.520 watch cost 250 what's up guys it's andy frisella and this is the show for the realists say goodbye 0.98
00:00:17.240 to the lies the fakeness and delusions of modern society and welcome to motherfucking reality guys 0.82
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00:01:42.860 share it this is a fair deal very very fair deal if you saw what i was doing right now i'd be doing 0.94
00:01:49.020 some trump shit right there right but hey here's the deal guys all right today i woke up i felt great 0.79
00:01:57.840 i'm happy i'm heading into work i'm excited okay i look around and i see all these amazing people and 0.97
00:02:06.500 things i have in my life i've got an incredible historic mansion home i've got an amazing wife i've
00:02:13.400 got amazing dogs i've got a bunch of kick-ass cars every car i've ever dreamed of almost i own
00:02:19.360 i i have these amazing people at work that i get to see every day i've got this company that just
00:02:25.000 helps transform all these people's lives i've got this other company that helps train entrepreneurs
00:02:30.820 to be the best that they can be dude my life is winning it's winning i'm genuinely grateful god
00:02:38.500 favors me for some reason i have no idea why but i work every day to fulfill the obligation i have
00:02:45.640 back to him but when i look around this is not what i'm seeing from most other people instead i overhear
00:02:54.900 people complaining about nearly every aspect of their life i see people complaining about their
00:03:00.460 relationships about their jobs on facebook to literally anyone who will listen and that's what i want
00:03:07.280 to talk to you guys about today did you ever think for a second if i spend my whole day complaining
00:03:14.180 either vocally or in my head about everything in my life maybe it's just me take physical fitness for
00:03:22.800 example if you're on instagram and posting a picture with a caption that says another day still fat
00:03:28.960 well did you do anything to fix that i highly doubt you knocked out this 45 minutes of intense
00:03:36.560 cardio regimen right before you put that up online let's be honest guys you probably killing your fifth
00:03:42.760 slice of pizza and then felt a little twinge of regret okay fat doesn't melt away just because you
00:03:49.060 complained about it muscle doesn't show up miraculously because you felt bad for yourself
00:03:54.120 if you didn't put in any of the work what did you really expect i mean come on guys aren't we past
00:04:02.020 this kind of thinking how about our relationships instead of crying about your partner to anyone who
00:04:08.080 will listen did you ever stop and think maybe it's you causing the problems maybe you don't contribute
00:04:15.020 to the relationship maybe you don't work hard to cultivate the relationship maybe it's you that
00:04:20.840 does things that aren't conducive to a positive relationship at some point it may just be a
00:04:26.920 communication issue sometimes with yourself if you're the type of person who airs all their dirty
00:04:34.740 laundry around to everyone guys except your partner chances are the issue probably is with the person
00:04:42.720 you look at in the mirror every day the most common complaints i see are in regards to people's jobs
00:04:49.140 and careers and guys people just love to complain about their jobs to anyone and everyone but listen 0.92
00:04:57.940 let's be real if you're 30 fucking years old and you've had 10 to 15 employers up to this point 0.62
00:05:02.900 and every job is the absolute worst you've ever had chances are guys it's not the job all right you need 0.98
00:05:11.380 to learn to ask yourself these questions does my job provide me with enough to live a comfortable life
00:05:18.340 does my job allow me to cultivate skills for my future is my job a learning experience that pushes
00:05:25.320 me to be better in every area am i learning the things that i'll be able to use in my future
00:05:31.060 employment opportunities and after you've dwelled on those questions for a bit ask yourself this 0.99
00:05:35.800 is my job really that bad or am i just an asshole that doesn't want to do the work 0.95
00:05:43.220 you guys see what i'm getting at here the majority of people complaining about their jobs guys they're 0.99
00:05:48.000 just fucking lazy and that's the truth these problems don't go away when they find new employment 0.97
00:05:53.020 because the problem is them and their terrible outlook on everything about their life i mean it 0.99
00:05:58.780 should be obvious did you try to find a job doing something that you were interested in or did you just
00:06:04.700 accept the first available job that doesn't do anything for you and guess what sometimes you have
00:06:10.780 to do that to get by and that's reality but it doesn't have to suck forever your job is such a
00:06:16.400 huge part of your life that doing something that makes you absolutely miserable guess what it's
00:06:22.200 going to make your life miserable too you've got to find out what it is that excites you and what
00:06:26.020 interests you and figure out what is needed for you to find employment in those areas too many people
00:06:30.540 bounce from basic job to basic job waiting on their time to clock in and out okay and they're complaining
00:06:37.240 the whole time while doing literally nothing to improve their conditions and they can't figure 0.96
00:06:42.880 out why the fuck they're miserable this is common sense guys if you don't want to dedicate the time 0.99
00:06:47.980 and effort to actually finding something to interest you that's fine but shut the fuck up no one's excited 0.99
00:06:54.380 to hear you complain ever and i think you probably have all figured this out by now right like you all 0.99
00:06:59.880 know that people don't really like complainers you don't like complainers so why the fuck are you 0.98
00:07:03.640 complaining so if you're not going to do anything about your situation accept it know that it's on 0.99
00:07:09.360 you and shut the fuck up let's be real okay a lot of you guys ask me how i get through my days i mean 0.98
00:07:17.780 guys i'm doing a lot of stuff a lot of people i'm not gonna sit here and try to brag but get ready for a 1.00
00:07:22.880 little bit of fucking bragging okay i have a whole bunch of companies i own i've got thousands of people 0.98
00:07:29.320 i'm responsible for i've got a fucking top-ranked podcast thanks to you guys i've got fucking a 0.99
00:07:35.340 family to look after i've got all these crazy responsibilities way more so than the average 0.96
00:07:40.780 entrepreneur i'm responsible for thousands of other entrepreneurs and and their growth and their
00:07:45.580 learning i mean dude it just never ends for me but i don't feel like i'm working a single day because
00:07:51.100 i'm doing something that is fun for me to do every day i wake up i say to myself man this is going to
00:07:56.100 be a great day to be a fucking boss okay in fact dj when he gets to my house every day he texts me 0.98
00:08:02.640 he's like dude let's have a boss ass day that's our little thing right like i get to be a boss today 0.99
00:08:08.360 and you get to be a boss too if you decide to be i start working the minute i wake up and most days i 0.90
00:08:13.820 don't stop until midnight or one in the morning all right and here's what a lot of you guys are going
00:08:19.100 to inevitably try and call me out for andy isn't that a contradiction to the other things you said
00:08:24.400 i thought you said following your passion and putting in the work was hard and a constant
00:08:28.800 struggle look dude life is full of dichotomies and paradoxes if you haven't figured that out by now
00:08:35.180 then nothing i'm going to say is going to help you of course work is hard
00:08:39.960 i'm not always in the best of moods and things don't go right all the time they go wrong all the
00:08:46.900 time but i've come to recognize and appreciate the opportunities i have to test myself i've come to
00:08:53.160 love the test days so yeah in that minute it does suck but i'm not going to go around crying and
00:08:59.900 whining my entire career because of one day of setbacks i recognize in the long run that these
00:09:06.020 are my moments to test myself and really push myself for progress and grow this works in every
00:09:12.560 example i've talked about today do i love my wife yes i do do we have arguments from time to time
00:09:18.400 rarely but yes we do does it change the fact that i still love her no it doesn't see how easy that is
00:09:25.840 to understand that both of these things can exist at the same time what about in our physical lives
00:09:30.580 and fitness do i love cardio fuck no in fact i've got a saying that i use around here that if you ever 0.98
00:09:37.040 see me running you better fucking run too because something bad is coming okay i'll lift weights all day 0.99
00:09:43.360 long before i go on a run but i still understand that cardio for me is a necessary component to me 0.99
00:09:50.060 being fit and i'm still going to get it done because at the end of the day i am going to appreciate
00:09:56.140 my results from the work that i put in listen guys the key to this is realizing that most of your problems
00:10:04.980 are based on perspective if you're generally a miserable person then it shouldn't come as a surprise
00:10:11.220 when most aspects of your life are miserable notice the people who complain are always complaining
00:10:16.980 about everything the ones who just need a few bucks to get back on their feet doesn't it seem
00:10:21.960 like they always need a few bucks to get back on their feet and yet none of these people realize that
00:10:27.280 they're the problem do they they are the underlying cause for every negative thing in their life so next
00:10:32.620 time you find yourself complaining about an aspect of your life stop and think for a second
00:10:37.760 is this really their fault or is it my fault if your relationship is going south take a second to 0.96
00:10:44.280 figure out what maybe you might have done to cause it if your job sucks ask yourself is it my mentality 0.95
00:10:51.100 that's making this suck so bad if you hate your body have you done anything to change it once you start 0.98
00:10:57.680 to realize that you are the factor not a factor the factor in all of this it becomes a lot easier to 0.64
00:11:05.060 start to make the positive changes that you want in your life maybe you start to put a little more
00:11:10.540 into your relationship or maybe it's the opposite and you you know you part ways because you know
00:11:15.380 it was a detriment to your happiness and your partner's happiness maybe you throw out the chips and
00:11:20.540 the candy and the bullshit and you start working out or maybe you look into night classes to help 0.65
00:11:25.800 you find and move into a better fitting career for yourself start working on one of these aspects in
00:11:31.800 your life and you'll realize they're all connected when you find happiness in one it's going to be
00:11:37.120 much easier to see what's wrong in other parts of your life and you'll start to realize what you need
00:11:42.260 to do to fix it so instead of being the guy on the corner stool that everyone avoids because he just
00:11:47.500 brings you down all the time he's got a negative story about everything he hates his job he hates his wife
00:11:53.620 he hates his body it's everybody else's fault instead of being that guy how about this pause
00:12:02.440 for one minute before you start to complain and think about whether or not it's you because guys
00:12:09.480 I'm going to promise you 99% of the time you're going to find out that it's you and by complaining
00:12:15.940 and bitching and moaning and bringing other people down all you're doing is fulfilling a prophecy 0.99
00:12:21.080 of all the negative things that you don't want in your life and it's going to cycle over and over
00:12:26.840 and over again stop complaining start being real start addressing the issues in reality so you can
00:12:35.880 build your ideal situation this show is called real af you know why I called it real af it's not 0.96
00:12:44.700 because my initials are Andy Fursella or real as fuck it's because the truth is realists are 0.70
00:12:51.000 the people who change the world idealists paint the picture of what the world should look like 0.96
00:12:56.820 and then get mad when it's not that way realists address the world the way the world really is
00:13:03.600 and then work to change it into an ideal situation this is how you should be addressing your life 0.98
00:13:09.800 take honest inventory look at what you're doing see if it's you and if it is you fucking fix it 0.96
00:13:17.500 and you're going to be happier more productive more money better looking blah blah blah blah blah blah 0.97
00:13:23.280 blah blah all the way down the road it's not everyone else guys it's you 0.99
00:13:27.880 told my teacher dumb bitch i'm gonna get millions watch this in the project living down spoke it till existence 1.00
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